Speaker 1: Flex and rooms, flex and frooms, catch up, podcast and rooms.
Speaker 1: It's flex and it's rooms, and it's Thursday. I swear
Speaker 1: i'd something.
Speaker 2: Good to say, should I start talking? And then you
Speaker 2: interrupt if it comes to you, please?
Speaker 3: So you know.
Speaker 2: I've been learning Dutch right using my Michelle Thomas app.
Speaker 2: And it's really interesting because my approach to life is
Speaker 2: I only want to do things I'm good at. That's
Speaker 2: how I felt for the longest time Tomic not good
Speaker 2: at it, I don't want to do it because I'm
Speaker 2: usually good at a lot of things. But now I'm
Speaker 2: finally this hid and joy of trying really hard things
Speaker 2: I'm not good at, or things i'm not good at doing,
Speaker 2: and then seeing progress and then getting really excited. So
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm about two years away from revisiting
Speaker 2: a lot of the things I take a hard stance on,
Speaker 2: like not wanting to cook and stuff.
Speaker 4: Amazing because I could enjoy it. Who knows you'd be
Speaker 4: a great cook. I have.
Speaker 1: The one time I've tried to do this is with maths.
Speaker 2: Maths, maths, maths, mathematics, mathematics.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember, like my I got a tudor when
Speaker 1: I was like in year seven or something.
Speaker 4: Damn academic. So early on, I.
Speaker 1: Know what, I know, I know what what anyway, and
Speaker 1: I like go after the bus after school was so traumatic. No,
Speaker 1: it's coming back going to this crappy math space. And
Speaker 1: I literally fucking hate maths. It was so fucked huh.
Speaker 1: So anyway, I'm not there some things I'm not good
Speaker 1: at and I never want to revisit them.
Speaker 4: Mathematics is one of them. I'll be gymnastics.
Speaker 1: Gymnastics, remember I told you that.
Speaker 2: I don't know if I told you, but my teacher
Speaker 2: because I was that girl who'd always skip pye because
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm not athletic, I don't want to try.
Speaker 2: And then for one time, my teacher threatened me with
Speaker 2: detention if I didn't get on the balance beam, which
Speaker 2: is a big that's crazy, big call. And so I
Speaker 2: got on the balance beam and I was actually doing it.
Speaker 4: It was going well.
Speaker 2: And then I don't know if I made this happen
Speaker 2: or I lost my balance, but I fell and I
Speaker 2: turned around and I said, but currently to this day,
Speaker 2: I don't have great balance and I don't have great
Speaker 2: core strength. So I think that I might have I
Speaker 2: mustn't have been lying then, but who knows?
Speaker 1: Okay you on that beam girl? This is Flex and
Speaker 1: Rooms on Kita.
Speaker 2: Am I the asshole for ending my friendship over money?
Speaker 2: That is the question we're answering today on Flex and Rooms.
Speaker 2: This was not one source from Reddit or the greater Internet.
Speaker 2: This one landed straight in my DM from someone who said, Hey, Flex,
Speaker 2: I try to send this in a group chat with
Speaker 2: rooms too, but Instagram was not having a bar of it,
Speaker 2: so she chose me.
Speaker 4: Fair enough, they.
Speaker 1: Often choose me, so.
Speaker 4: So she chose me big fan of the party.
Speaker 2: Though. I was listening this morning and you were doing
Speaker 2: and am I the asshole? And I figured I would
Speaker 2: send this in. I put it in a SoundCloud file genius.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I want to ensure I had all
Speaker 2: the info in the recording. Essentially, I've been feeling guilty
Speaker 2: that I ended a friendship with one of my closest
Speaker 2: friends and want to know if I'm the asshole.
Speaker 4: Let's play the track please.
Speaker 3: Hey, Flex and Frooms, I'm coming to you with an
Speaker 3: am I the asshole? Now? This one's been sitting with
Speaker 3: me for a while because I can't help but think
Speaker 3: that I ruined my friendship with one of my closest friends,
Speaker 3: so it's am I the asshole for not paying what
Speaker 3: was requested of me. Now, to preface this, my friend
Speaker 3: was throwing a party to celebrate her one year anniversary
Speaker 3: of moving up to the Gold Coast and created a
Speaker 3: big group chat inviting everyone over to her sharehouse. I
Speaker 3: would say about seventy percent of the people in the
Speaker 3: group chat lived in the sharehouse, and she said, come along,
Speaker 3: bring ten dollars to chip in for food, and let's
Speaker 3: just let's have a big dinner, which is great. So
Speaker 3: the day of me and my partner had spent a
Speaker 3: lot of time at the hospital with family and we
Speaker 3: weren't initially going to go. However, a lot of people
Speaker 3: had dropped out at the last minute, so we thought
Speaker 3: it would be rude not to go because she was
Speaker 3: one of my closest friends. So when we rocked up
Speaker 3: at five point thirty, which was a time in the
Speaker 3: group chat, no one in the sharehouse had come out
Speaker 3: to help cook yet, and none of the food had
Speaker 3: been prepared. So me and my partner spent about an
Speaker 3: hour and a half preparing all the food. So we
Speaker 3: were having like it was a big salad and a
Speaker 3: vegetarian dull, so a lot of the food was like
Speaker 3: can tomatoes, lentils, and all the fresh produce my friend
Speaker 3: had gotten from her work at a discounted price, So overall,
Speaker 3: it wasn't a super expensive meal, and it was one
Speaker 3: of those meals that you could do on bulk and
Speaker 3: not be really expensive. So yeah, we spent about an
Speaker 3: hour and a half preparing all the food. Like my
Speaker 3: partner got together the entire salad, I made the entire
Speaker 3: doll and did the rice and everything, and then the
Speaker 3: night was actually really nice. It was beautiful having everyone together.
Speaker 3: But about a week later, might get a message in
Speaker 3: that group chat and my friends like, thank you allso
Speaker 3: much for coming, Can you all transfer me the fifteen
Speaker 3: dollars that for your chip in Now my problem was
Speaker 3: the fact that she'd initially requested ten dollars per person,
Speaker 3: not fifteen, And as a couple who live by themselves
Speaker 3: and have a mortgage, obviously paying thirty dollars for dinner,
Speaker 3: we could get like half a week's worth of groceries
Speaker 3: with that amount of money. But it's fine, Like I
Speaker 3: was happy to pay the ten dollars, but it's the
Speaker 3: fact that she bumped it up to fifteen, I think
Speaker 3: because some people couldn't come, which meant technically she was
Speaker 3: feeding less people, and that she ended up getting heaps
Speaker 3: of leftovers from it. Anyways, So I spent a week
Speaker 3: thinking about it, and I ended up just transferring her
Speaker 3: twenty dollars, which was just the two ten dollars. And
Speaker 3: I do feel really bad, but I can't help but
Speaker 3: think that you can't just up the price when it's
Speaker 3: convenient for you, and especially the fact that, like we
Speaker 3: cooked most of the meal and all the fresh produce,
Speaker 3: she would have gotten discounted from her work.
Speaker 4: Anyways.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so am I the asshole for not paying money
Speaker 3: that was requested of me.
Speaker 2: In the situation? Who's the asshole? First of all, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna have to stop myself to draw attention to the
Speaker 2: fact that through me is still drinking out of a
Speaker 2: mold infested bottle that she claimed to have cleaned.
Speaker 1: I just did.
Speaker 4: I just I cleaned it yesterday. One second, you said.
Speaker 1: What, I cleaned it yesterday and then I just went
Speaker 1: for a little room job. Look at this.
Speaker 4: Black soot mold.
Speaker 1: That stinks. Yeah, that absolutely stinks. That's discussing that. It's
Speaker 1: just foul. Look at that. That's terrible. It's a really
Speaker 1: bad day.
Speaker 4: That's all right, you will recover.
Speaker 2: It's a really odd scenario to begin with. First of all,
Speaker 2: a sharehouse fiesta where seventy percent of the attendees live
Speaker 2: in the sharehouse, but majority of them did not attend.
Speaker 2: I'm very confused by that to begin with. Second of all,
Speaker 2: I would assume that if you had cooked at that party,
Speaker 2: that you're now null and void for having to pay
Speaker 2: a ten dollars entry fee to attend. And then number three,
Speaker 2: the fact that your friend is a bit, the fact
Speaker 2: that your friend is charging the people who did attend
Speaker 2: more to cover the people who did not attend. Crazy
Speaker 2: for a casual, little house get together. Is psychotic behavior.
Speaker 1: And it's dull, it's dark. This is a tinned good love.
Speaker 2: And also you're gonna keep this. You can be eaten
Speaker 2: for nights after. You're not the asshole in this situation case,
Speaker 2: it's not clear at all. I just I really respect
Speaker 2: frugal people. I do, but in this instance, your friend
Speaker 2: is taking the piss trying to get a free meal
Speaker 2: and extra coins for not cooking and not hosting a party.
Speaker 1: I mean, it does suck when you invite people that
Speaker 1: don't come.
Speaker 4: So why are you punishing people who did a tend
Speaker 4: just to.
Speaker 1: Make sure that absolutely no one rocks up next time?
Speaker 1: Can you mess us again, sweet friend and let us
Speaker 1: know if you guys have rekindled the friendship. I hate
Speaker 1: that friendships can end over a five dollar tiff. However,
Speaker 1: obviously it was like the last straw at the vibe.
Speaker 2: But I also hate that, not that they can end
Speaker 2: of a five dollar tiff, but the generosity isn't there
Speaker 2: that if you're going to host a party, are you
Speaker 2: really now checking for cover fee?
Speaker 1: Realistically, people are built different.
Speaker 4: Truly, Keita flex and firms.
Speaker 1: Flex At times I don't want to bring to the radio,
Speaker 1: So I'm going to be completely transparent with the listeners.
Speaker 1: And that's when having a producer really comes in handy
Speaker 1: I produce a brook will go out onto the field
Speaker 1: and find stories for us to discuss.
Speaker 2: Because why am I looking at the table and all
Speaker 2: of Fremi's breaks are done? Brooks sourced all of Fumi's
Speaker 2: breaks for her, Yet me, I gotta do my sourcing
Speaker 2: on the go.
Speaker 4: Some people need more help than others.
Speaker 1: Game, I'm gonna pick and choose my battles.
Speaker 2: I need help to Brookie, she decides, she brings her
Speaker 2: own content and then goes, actually, I can't actually speak
Speaker 2: on this.
Speaker 4: I'm not quick and they might have to find her stuff.
Speaker 2: Social media, rooting democracy, a monologue by rooms.
Speaker 1: You know what some things are above my bake raide.
Speaker 4: Let's hear it, all right?
Speaker 1: So Briggie sends me a Sun article, which we always
Speaker 1: know is going to be a bit of mote, and
Speaker 1: this one is titled I didn't know my boyfriend's name
Speaker 1: for four months. I was too anxious to ask. So
Speaker 1: this is cheek Millennials. She dated her boy me for
Speaker 1: four months without knowing your name. She wasn't sure if
Speaker 1: he was called Patrick or Richard.
Speaker 4: She desperately searched for information, desperately just steal his wallet.
Speaker 1: And how did she find it? Take a guess, steal
Speaker 1: his wallet? She found the answers on her car document.
Speaker 1: Apparently this is before Internet or Facebook, So like, fair enough,
Speaker 1: how would you remember people's names?
Speaker 2: I would probably ask somewhere between I don't know the
Speaker 2: first and second time interacting with them.
Speaker 4: How do you get that far? And say I'm not
Speaker 4: really sure I've been in a Relationshipeah. I think she's
Speaker 4: one of me where she just calls everyone daddy.
Speaker 1: It must be Look, I get this all the time.
Speaker 1: I'm absolutely shocking with names.
Speaker 4: You are? Who did you? Where were we last week?
Speaker 2: We were here at Kita and Thrumy said to someone
Speaker 2: like she looked at them and then said, oh, let's
Speaker 2: say this person name was Jack.
Speaker 4: She said, oh, Thomas, right, that was just last week? Sorry?
Speaker 4: Was it Chivers?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: It was the sound guy, Jason's Jake guy that's on
Speaker 1: this floor, the music director. I think this was Jake. Jake, Jake, Jake, Jake, Jake.
Speaker 1: It was Jake came in, Jason came in with some
Speaker 1: Sorry James, James came in, Jake Ja Jake came in
Speaker 1: with some panad.
Speaker 2: Rumy needed panadle, right, and so she's desperately seeking to panadole.
Speaker 2: And Frummy's really mastered the art of being a damsel.
Speaker 2: Because we will not continue until Frummy's gone and retreat
Speaker 2: from diet coke.
Speaker 4: Oh, I need to quickly do my makeup for ten minutes.
Speaker 4: I gotta go to the bathrooms anyway.
Speaker 2: She needs she needs some panadal So Brookie jump in,
Speaker 2: what happened. Next, I'm not letting Frims tell the story.
Speaker 1: Then we got our music director Jake to grab us
Speaker 1: some and then she's somehow every time she calls something.
Speaker 2: And then he walks into the room a night in
Speaker 2: shining armor, looking so handsome, just being a king, love,
Speaker 2: helpful men.
Speaker 4: Hand to me.
Speaker 2: The Panados are no stress, she says, thank you so much, James, James,
Speaker 2: James like the Boomers she is.
Speaker 4: We're like, no, it's Jake.
Speaker 2: And then she proceeds to tell a story about how
Speaker 2: Brook has made his character on the sim.
Speaker 1: Brook told or Brook told him that story, and I mean,
Speaker 1: that's crazy behavior anyway, that's.
Speaker 4: What you draw the line, Jason. So how'd you find
Speaker 4: ad Ian.
Speaker 3: Me?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: On a car document? This is before Facebook.
Speaker 4: But I swear not what a car document is.
Speaker 1: I don't know, like a Red Joe paper. To this day,
Speaker 1: just last weekend I can think of.
Speaker 4: I won't actually inplcate my snow please please. I just like, yeah,
Speaker 4: this guy I wasn't like.
Speaker 1: I kept calling him his name, and now that I'm
Speaker 1: looking back at the weekend, I don't know if that
Speaker 1: was really his name. I believe that, but he didn't
Speaker 1: look correct me and because I would preferred try to
Speaker 1: be polite and say someone's name, like Okay, last weekend
Speaker 1: I called a chick who was a photographer, Natasha. Her
Speaker 1: name is Natalie, and I thought I went out on
Speaker 1: the I went on on a whim and I said
Speaker 1: to I was, Okay, I'm going to finally use someone's name,
Speaker 1: because that's a respectful thing to do. What do I
Speaker 1: do When I try it? It comes out wrong. I
Speaker 1: call it Natalie.
Speaker 4: A lot of things come out wrong when you speak.
Speaker 4: That's a habit that's not right. It's just names and facts.
Speaker 1: It's social media runing toot and see. But everything that
Speaker 1: I say, when I mean it, I mean.
Speaker 2: This is why the fuzzy wrecking ball here, Because this
Speaker 2: is what the fuzzy wrecking ball TikTok was saying. People
Speaker 2: who cause harm, but their packaging is so sweet, so soft,
Speaker 2: so gentle, so kind.
Speaker 4: That you don't even know how to heal. Look as
Speaker 4: she's laughing. This is flex and frooms. It is time
Speaker 4: for a moral dilemma. You are listening to flex or Frooms.
Speaker 4: Topic of the day. To snitch or not to snitch?
Speaker 4: Off the jump, yes or no?
Speaker 1: No, reform snitcher, I'm always down.
Speaker 2: I'm not going down. I'm not dealt the same cards.
Speaker 2: I can't handle the penal system like my fellow whites,
Speaker 2: So I don't care I'm snitching.
Speaker 4: But listen to this.
Speaker 2: You're an eyewitness to a crime where a man rubbed
Speaker 2: a bank. Instead of keeping the money for himself, he
Speaker 2: donates it to a poor orphanage.
Speaker 4: Who came up with this?
Speaker 2: That can now sut on your brain so you can
Speaker 2: tell it's Brookie's brain. My cranium would never instead of
Speaker 2: keeping the money for himself, he donates it to a
Speaker 2: poor orphanage, as opposed to a rich one that can
Speaker 2: now afford to feed, clothes and care for the children.
Speaker 2: If you snitch, it is guaranteed that he will do time.
Speaker 4: What do you do?
Speaker 2: Here's the thing, I don't ever want to be an eyewitness.
Speaker 2: In some instances, it's only me and I will say
Speaker 2: something if I truly feel certain that I saw what
Speaker 2: I saw, Because even if daily life we're sitting and
Speaker 2: having the same conversation, I'm like, wait, did I hear
Speaker 2: what I thought I heard?
Speaker 4: Wait? What did you say? You're putting where to my mouth?
Speaker 2: Says you miss we are going to talk about if
Speaker 2: social media scruting democracy. So I don't trust that I
Speaker 2: am able to recall details enough enoughs that I won't
Speaker 2: be now considered to be like an unreliable narrator. Whatever
Speaker 2: it might be. Leave me out of it. I didn't
Speaker 2: see anything. I'm not doing anything, especially where the cops
Speaker 2: are involved. Get me out. I don't care where the
Speaker 2: money is going. Rob your banking, go off to whatever
Speaker 2: you need to do.
Speaker 4: It reminds me of.
Speaker 1: Hold on you pretending to think I am because it
Speaker 1: was with me and now it's gone.
Speaker 4: Can I help?
Speaker 1: No, Okay, I forget what I was gonna say.
Speaker 4: So how you can come with? And you thought, if
Speaker 4: you want to, you.
Speaker 1: Know what, you know who you know. I've been snitched
Speaker 1: on in the past when I was when I was seven,
Speaker 1: when I was literally seven, I got into a car
Speaker 1: with a stranger and I was walking to school with
Speaker 1: my sister me and this guy kept being like, come on,
Speaker 1: it's raining, it's rainy, like get in the car, in
Speaker 1: the car, and he wouldn't stop. So I got in
Speaker 1: the car obviously. Then my sister rounds the corner and
Speaker 1: sees me to come through me and she gets into the.
Speaker 4: Car with me, and now the filthiest look.
Speaker 1: She's like, I can't believe you've done that. Anyway, the
Speaker 1: guy rode us to school, right, so it all ended
Speaker 1: up okay, But the whole time, like I know that
Speaker 1: I've done the wrong thing, like, oh my god, get
Speaker 1: to school, I tell someone, someone tells I'm gets back
Speaker 1: to my family right, amazing, And this guy that we
Speaker 1: knew who this other this other parent came over and
Speaker 1: fully yelled at me, and like then he was like,
Speaker 1: my dad's like, you went as red as a beat troop.
Speaker 1: And I'll just never forget being so embarrassed. So don't
Speaker 1: get in cars with strangers. But also don't chastise children
Speaker 1: for making a mistake when an adult made me get
Speaker 1: into a car. Okay, so yeah, watch out, don't snitch,
Speaker 1: and don't get into cars with strange men.
Speaker 2: And if you are a childless or someone who doesn't
Speaker 2: understand basic common sense or discipline, what we were doing
Speaker 2: strange danger in preschool, Babe, we don't know those people,
Speaker 2: and to this day I don't know those people.
Speaker 1: He forced me, yet we now get into a car
Speaker 1: with strangers with uber literally Okay, I was a forefront
Speaker 1: hours of earlier.
Speaker 2: Someone run her chat, Okay, run frooms her money.
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