WEBVTT - LIFE UNCUT RADIO - 3rd September 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:04.920 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:08.719 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:08.760 --> 0:00:11.559 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:15.000 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander 0:00:15.000 --> 0:00:15.760 people's today. 0:00:15.920 --> 0:00:18.880 This episode is recorded on Gadigal Land of the Aurora 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:21.080 Nation right around Australia. 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:23.120 It's the Life un Cut radio show with Brittany Hockley 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:25.360 and Laura Burn. It is Father's Day tomorrow, so we're 0:00:25.360 --> 0:00:27.560 celebrating all dads in their glory, good and bad. 0:00:27.600 --> 0:00:29.960 Also, I will say it's too bad. Yeah. 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:31.720 Why are we celebrating the bad ones? 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:32.479 Yeah? Good? 0:00:32.479 --> 0:00:32.680 Point? 0:00:33.040 --> 0:00:33.520 Oh good? 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:35.440 Oh good good good dad. Do you know who's having 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:37.839 a terrible Father's Day? Well, I mean I don't know 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:39.479 if it is the Father's Day in the States? 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:39.760 Is it? 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:39.960 No? 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:41.840 They do? It's like ye at the start of the year. 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:42.400 Okay. 0:00:42.400 --> 0:00:45.159 Well, Idris Elba I love him, I do. He's a 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:48.200 very handsome stun Ye. Well, he has embarrassed his daughter 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:50.559 by not allowing her her name is a son. She's 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:54.640 twenty years old and he purposefully did not cast her 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:58.080 in his new movie beast. Now, could you imagine being 0:00:58.120 --> 0:01:01.560 a young actress having and in being your dad. 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:03.040 That's not a foot in the door, that's a whole 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:04.440 arm and shoulder in the door. 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:07.840 And saying, hey, Dad, here's my resume, here's my audition tape. 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:09.400 I really want to have a go and a shot 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:11.760 at this movie, and him going no, just probably not 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:12.280 good enough. 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:14.240 Wait did she audition or did she not? Even she 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:15.120 didn't have the hide. 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:17.360 So she auditioned to play his daughter in the film. 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:23.240 But he thought that another girl had better chemistry than. 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:25.280 His own daughter, so he said no. 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:28.440 He said, no, you can't even like imagine being such 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:30.280 a bad actress that you can't even play yourself. 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:32.640 Yeah, somebody else can play you better. 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:34.840 Well, my dad, my dad didn't do a similar thing. 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:37.520 He's not a director, but my dad embarrassed me greatly 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:39.840 when I was in my formative years, like my fifteen 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:40.800 sixteen year old. 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:42.800 I mean, that's what dads do, though, Like I think 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:44.080 this stuff is character building. 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:46.480 Yeah, oh, I don't know matter. So I was a 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.160 costume party. It was a movie themed costume party, so 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:50.840 that yeah, there's a good time. And I was dressed 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:52.920 as a cockroach. I don't know what film I was 0:01:52.920 --> 0:01:55.400 meant to go as, but I had arms, like four 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:56.160 brown arms. 0:01:56.360 --> 0:01:58.960 You you could have dressed as anything to go to 0:01:59.040 --> 0:02:02.680 a movie film costume party and your character of choice 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:03.560 was a cockro I. 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:05.240 Was blue with the fly. I was a brown Yeah, 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:07.560 Loue the fly. I don't know what. Anyway, other girls 0:02:07.560 --> 0:02:07.840 loved it. 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:09.920 This was when I was straight, and I'm using air quotes, 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:12.560 that is when I was straight. And I kissed Sarah Hoggart, 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.400 gorgeous woman, Sarah Hoggard, and she was dressed as an avatar, 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:17.960 so she was bright blue, and I was in the 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:20.560 backyard and we were on like hacky sacks bean bags 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:22.320 in the backyard and it was like mid backing out 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:25.720 with Sarah Hoggar making out with the avatar, Sarah Hoggard. 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:27.639 Croaching avatar, cockroach and a blue avatar. 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:29.079 And this is like at the point in your life 0:02:29.080 --> 0:02:30.400 when your mum and dad need to pick you up 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:33.600 from parties, can't drive, and dad came to pick me up, 0:02:33.639 --> 0:02:35.280 and the parents must have said on mitches down the 0:02:35.280 --> 0:02:38.040 back and the bean bags with Sarah. So Dad walks down, 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:40.720 He's looking, where's Mitch, Mitch? Mitch and he sees me 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:43.360 macking on with Sarah hogguard and he comes up and 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:44.320 he goes, Mitch made him. 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:47.399 Oh god, sorry, buddy, didn't know. You can't keep going. 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:49.960 Don't don't let me interrupt you two. You put your 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:50.600 arm around the back. 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:52.920 It was giving me tips because I think he had 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:54.679 the inkling that I might have been gay. 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:56.400 Like he was thrilled that it was a female. 0:02:56.440 --> 0:02:58.840 He was so happy. He's like, just churst and. 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:00.959 Then he's like, no, you do you keep at it, son, 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:01.800 good job. 0:03:01.800 --> 0:03:03.400 Wipes off some of the blue pants, like is that 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:03.720 a woman? 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:04.280 It is? 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:04.560 Yeah? 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:06.239 Yeah, keep going, son, I'll wait the car. 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:08.919 Do you know my dad anytime we would bring boys 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.760 home and my dad, my dad was an ex army major. 0:03:11.840 --> 0:03:13.880 He had guns in the house growing up, like it was, 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:15.720 you know, safely, Yeah, it's tucked away. 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:17.320 But he was a bit scary. 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:19.280 I think for young boys who we would bring home 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:21.440 and my dad, I'd introduce them and he'd. 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:24.399 Say, you break her heart and I'll shoot you dead pan, 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:25.079 dead pan. 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:28.600 He wouldn't just to really mess them up. Oh my god, 0:03:28.720 --> 0:03:30.680 yeah I didn't really get her long term boyfriend and tell. 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:33.639 Someone, how did your dad embarrass you? Thirteen, one of 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:36.240 sixty five calls Can you beat the cockroach in the gardens? 0:03:36.560 --> 0:03:39.520 Father's Day in twenty four hours. So we're celebrating dads. 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:42.160 And we were talking off the air before about embarrassing days. 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:43.560 Are we celebrating them? 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:45.480 We're really just I mean, we could have looked and 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:48.200 a nice little segment about how wonderful dads are, but 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:50.680 instead we thought how they embarrassed us over the years. 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:52.200 Yeah, and I had my dad walk in on me 0:03:52.440 --> 0:03:54.760 cooking up with my first girl at that term me gay. 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:56.480 What I didn't tell you was Laura. She asked me 0:03:56.520 --> 0:03:58.400 while we were kissing. She goes, are you gay? Like 0:03:58.480 --> 0:03:59.720 broke the kiss to ask me. 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:03.520 There's nothing more arousing, is there? That's really a sad mood. 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:04.880 You're like, maybe I am? 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:06.160 Now I went, you know what, Yeah, I am. 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:08.200 I think this is the defining moment. 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:09.920 Hi, Sharon, how did your dad embarrass you? 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:10.680 So? 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:13.800 When I was in grade eleven or twelve, I had 0:04:13.960 --> 0:04:16.719 dry socket and it was I was on some pretty 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:20.520 really heavy pain medications, but the problem was that it 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:24.160 made me super constipated and it was so bad that 0:04:24.440 --> 0:04:28.720 I ended up using an enema at home. I didn't yeah, 0:04:28.720 --> 0:04:30.960 and I didn't know what they were meant to do, 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:33.359 so I thought it was like instant relief, but it wasn't. 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:36.080 So I used more than one waiting. 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:40.720 As in you took laxatives or you put multiple enemies 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:41.440 up your back. 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:44.599 By Yeah, Yeah, that was I can't wait to see. 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:45.400 How Dad comes into this. 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:46.080 Yeah. 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:49.760 So I obviously couldn't go to school the next day 0:04:50.160 --> 0:04:52.800 and I had an assignment like a presentation do so 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:55.120 Dad had to call up and talk to my teacher. 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:55.599 Yeah. 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:59.279 The next time I was in class, my teacher was like, oh, 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:01.760 sous Shannon, how are you. I had a very interesting 0:05:01.839 --> 0:05:05.000 chat with your dad, and I just went bright red 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:06.640 and he just smiled. 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:07.080 At me and nodded. 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:13.599 Months or weeks later, the longer, I was at like 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:17.200 my boyfriend's house at the time, and I just randomly 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:19.520 brought it up and he's like, oh my god, you're 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:22.279 that student. He told our whole class this story. 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:26.880 Oh my gosh. 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:28.440 Not only did your dad embarrassing your teacher, did you dirty? 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:28.840 Yeah? 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:32.080 He told this complete other year twelve class that some 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.839 students Dad told him that his daughter was. 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:39.840 That was confidentiality. That's teacher's student breaking rules. 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:43.200 No, and also sometimes details are not important. 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:47.320 I agree. I agree, poor Shannon, it's a terrible daddy 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:49.200 visceral image. All right, Taylor, wrap it up for a 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:51.719 thirteen one I sixty five. What is your very detailed 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:53.039 story about your dad? Embarrassing? 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:53.599 Yes. 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:58.359 So I was probably about sixteen years old and my 0:05:58.600 --> 0:06:02.359 dad found my diary. They had all the details in 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:05.280 there about losing their virginity, the day, the time, all 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:05.960 the details. 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:07.839 But he picked it up and read it. 0:06:08.160 --> 0:06:10.520 Oh, he had a good old read of it, Yes. 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:12.479 And didn't stop when he got he got towards some 0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:14.880 details he probably shouldn't and does not need to know. 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:17.279 He kept reading it, he did, but I did guess work. 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:19.640 He then thought it would be a good idea to 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:22.040 organize a bit of an intervention. So my parents were 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:24.200 separated and my mum rocked up at the house and 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:26.360 we were all sitting down at the table and dad 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:28.159 whipped out the diary on the table. 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:32.680 Oh, that's embarrassing, awful. 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:33.520 So embarrassed. 0:06:33.560 --> 0:06:35.440 What did he document? What part of your life? 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:35.640 Was it? 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:36.240 The virginity? 0:06:36.320 --> 0:06:39.200 I'm just imagining you with your diary and notes down 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:39.719 the side. 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:43.400 I'm picturing password journal and he has to go, Taylor, 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:44.719 you don't password journals. 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:48.240 Did you ever have? No, Taylor, you had a password journal? 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:49.320 I've seen them. 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:52.440 I didn't have one little locket. Yeah, you're very young. 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:54.080 Password general and you had to hold the book up 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:56.479 to your mouth. And my password used to be Mitch Launer. 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:59.120 Like Taylor Lautner, ninety percent of people who listened to 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:02.640 this radio show have no idea what you're talking and pens. 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:04.599 Oh god, that's terrible. 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:08.160 All right, thanks for your call, Taylor talking Father's Day next, 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:11.720 because our beloved Maddie Jay has We're celebrating. 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:13.040 Him because there's big news for him in the world 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:13.920 of father's. 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:15.920 He's a very good dad. I'm very lucky. 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.440 He's a great dad. And Australia agrees, but not too much. 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:20.120 He's not that good and it's not the best. It's 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:22.960 not the best, but he's very good. He makes it 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:26.640 on the list anyway. Well, unpacking that after a show favorite. 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:27.400 Ask. 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:32.200 So ask gun Cut is what we do on every 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:35.000 Thursday episode of the podcast. It is a show favorite 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:37.560 and it's where you, guys right in your deepest, your 0:07:37.640 --> 0:07:40.800 darkest and your burning questions and we do our best 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:41.360 to answer them. 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:43.280 Why are you laughing advice? 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:46.800 Yeah, but I mean, like, I mean, obviously it's solicited advice. 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:49.880 People ask for it, but doesn't mean it's particularly good advice. 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:49.840 Is it? 0:07:49.840 --> 0:07:53.520 We try, it's enthusiastic, all right. The question for today 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:56.720 is I'm in a tricky situation. I've been on four 0:07:56.800 --> 0:07:59.160 dates with a guy and it's been going so well. 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:01.480 He is so fun, he's so nice, and he is 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:03.560 really really sexy. 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:03.960 Ding ding ding. 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:08.240 However, he is a truly terrible kisser, and I don't 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:10.720 know how to look past it. My question is, what 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:13.760 do you do about a bad kisser? Can I help 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:17.000 fix this? Or do I have to cut my losses? No? 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:19.560 No, no, maybe this is my internal I love that 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:20.640 I've jumped straight in with. 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:21.760 I've got this is for you. 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:23.440 Ben's jury, what you do? 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:24.360 You can fix that one. 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:27.080 It's pretty offensive though, when someone says to you like, 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.040 oh God, can you use less tongue? Like it's just 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:31.440 you know, no one wants to be told that they're 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:32.120 a bad kisser. 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:34.280 Yeah, and I guess it depends on what level of bad, 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:37.160 because too much tongue can be fixed, but not enough 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:38.480 is a confidence issue. 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:40.960 You know. It says a lot, but about someone. 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:42.960 I'd never thought of it like that, because if you're using. 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:44.839 Too much, over confident, but if you're not using enough, 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:46.679 you don't know how, you don't know how to start. 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:48.800 And not enough, it's kind of like you're kissing your nan. 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:52.320 Oh nothing worse than a personally gosh. 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:55.040 Look, I think you have to start off. Here's here's 0:08:55.040 --> 0:09:00.959 my kissing advice. I think try and manually such them 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:03.320 into the type of kisser that you want them to be, 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:05.360 because I feel like sometimes you can be kissing someone 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:08.040 and you can kind of by what you're doing, show 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:10.600 them what you like if that makes sense, and if 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:13.400 that doesn't work, then you have to say, please stop 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:14.480 roaming that down my throat? 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:16.000 Or either way, did. 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:19.000 You who leads when you kiss? Maddie, your partner both? 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:21.720 I guess there's not one person who's like the kissing boss, 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:23.520 like who leads when you kiss? 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:25.320 I don't know I can now, but you're right my 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:26.880 partner and I. It depends though. 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:29.800 I think sometimes only the kissing and my tongue will 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:31.679 be a bit more poky, and then his will be 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:32.840 a bit more poky the next time. 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:35.040 Okay, what about what side do you lean to? 0:09:35.160 --> 0:09:37.800 So there's this theory right that if you tilt your 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:40.880 head to the right, that you're really into the person, 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:43.040 that it's like a form of connection, that you're actually 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:45.600 very engaged with them and you're attracted to them. But 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:48.760 if you instinctively want to tilt your head to the left, 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:51.640 then you there's some sort of resistance there. You're not 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:53.599 as I mean, I mean, maybe that doesn't count for 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:54.959 people who are left and right, Like if you're a 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:57.320 lefty them, then maybe that's why. But no, if we 0:09:57.400 --> 0:10:00.600 have a natural side and normally it's to our right, 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:02.280 and that indicates a strong connection. 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:04.600 I'm always to the right now, I picture it. I'm 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:05.200 never on my left. 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:06.120 Imagine if you did. 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:08.240 Though, when you think about it going kissing on the 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:10.320 other side, it's like, oh, yeah, that's what you do 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:12.240 if you didn't really like someone, Like, oh. 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:13.080 Yes, make it stop faster. 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:14.680 That's what my uncle does, Uncle Phil. 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:16.720 When he kisses you on the right, No, he kisses me. 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:18.280 He wants me to kiss the back of his ear. 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:20.000 He's so awkward. You go, uncle Phil, you kiss him, 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:21.120 and he gives you the back of his ear. 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:24.160 That is weird, bitch Chewy. That just took a really 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:25.600 weirdly gathering. 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:27.440 It's like, oh hey, and then he gives you the 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:29.200 back of his neck like he's so awkward about it. 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:31.600 Yeah, that's straight, that's weird. Yeah, And I don't think 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:33.280 that you should have to tell your uncle how to kiss. 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:34.120 It's uncle Phil. 0:10:34.200 --> 0:10:37.280 Maybe this is uncle Phil writing I never kissed my nephew. 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:37.360 The right way. 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:40.080 Okay, But to wrap this one up, I don't think 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:41.840 it's necessarily a deal breaker. 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:43.480 I do think that you can fix it. 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:45.960 However, if you try and fix it, and it's an 0:10:46.080 --> 0:10:49.200 unfixable problem because some people just kiss differently, just like 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:52.160 you know, every sort of like physical thing that you 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:54.200 can do in a relationship, read between the lines. Some 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:56.400 people are compatible and some people aren't. And I think 0:10:56.720 --> 0:10:58.400 if it comes to a point when you're just not 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.080 meshing and vibing, and that's probably going to have some 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:01.880 long term impact. 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:02.520 Yeah, I'm with you. 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:04.320 And also just pop on a tutorial, maybe go to 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:06.520 YouTube trying to help them. Kissing the mirror, I used 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:07.800 to kiss the mirror, not as. 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:09.600 A twenty five year old or as a thirty two 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:12.040 like thirty six year old lawa just kissing herself in 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:14.320 the mirror is probably a bit problematic. 0:11:14.360 --> 0:11:14.800 Fourteen. 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:16.320 Fine, yeah, you're right, bad advice. 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:16.600 All right. 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:18.120 If you want to get in touch, hit us up 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:20.440 Life on Cut Podcast. They can send in the question right. 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:22.439 Yeah, you can slide into the dms at Life on 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:25.280 Cut Podcast on Instagram and maybe we will answer it 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:26.120 terribly next week. 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.839 Hit us up back after this very soon, Laura Burn, 0:11:28.920 --> 0:11:31.600 you will be doing the deed, not the deed. I'm 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:33.560 sure you will be consummating, but you will be getting 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:35.679 married to Maddy Jay later in the year. 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:38.839 We will be Do people actually consummate on their wedding night? 0:11:39.040 --> 0:11:39.599 I think you'd be. 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:41.440 I mean, if you haven't a good night, the last 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:43.360 thing you'd want after a few drinks and some cake 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:44.120 is to do it. 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:46.640 I mean, especially if you've already got kids and stuff 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:48.120 like we just want to go and have a sleep 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:48.439 and you. 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:50.360 Want to be celebrating with family and friends like No, 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:52.040 I think it's very traditional to do that. 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:53.600 Okay, So this was my question. 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:56.440 We're speaking of what's traditional and what's not traditional anymore. 0:11:56.920 --> 0:11:59.240 Now there have been more and more people coming out 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:00.880 of the woodwork recently. 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:01.719 The article that. 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:03.800 Got me thinking about this was Dua Lipa went to 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:06.840 a wedding recently wearing all white. 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:07.880 Oh that was this week. 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:10.480 It was, but also that was the dress code. The 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:13.640 dress code was all of the guests wearing white. 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:16.720 Yeah, well it was for a designer, Simone Porte Jacqua Mess. 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:18.280 Is that how you say the name? 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:19.840 You probably not know, but I wasn't involved. 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:21.720 You could say Jack Miss if you don't know a 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:23.040 lot about fashion, Jackmas. 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:25.360 I don't know what doubt it's Jackmas anyway, he makes 0:12:25.360 --> 0:12:26.400 the little designer bags. 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:28.000 He got married. It was a gay wedding and the 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:30.240 theme was white. But what's the problem. She looks hot. 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:33.880 She looks insanely hot. I would be quite upset. I 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:35.600 think if someone rocked up at my wedding wearing this. 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:38.320 It's also sheer, like you can see a belly button, 0:12:38.320 --> 0:12:39.120 you can see her undies. 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:41.240 But this is what makes me think that the rules 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:44.400 around weddings are changing, you know, like the old and okay, like. 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:47.599 The old saying what is it? Something new, something. 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:51.080 Something bold, something brown, something fold, something new. 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:52.840 No, it is what is it? 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:56.880 It's something borrowed, something blue, something old, and something new. Yes, 0:12:57.280 --> 0:13:00.000 So I looked this up recently because I was like, okay, 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:01.800 maybe I need to tick those things off. 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:03.319 And also, who do I get the borrowed and the 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:04.000 old thing from? 0:13:04.000 --> 0:13:05.439 I don't know something. I've got a blue pair of 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:07.679 reebox socks if you want to just stick them in. 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:10.160 My brass, because trust me, these poor old girls needs 0:13:10.200 --> 0:13:10.520 some help. 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:10.760 Now. 0:13:11.120 --> 0:13:13.959 No, but did you know that that saying actually changed 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:15.880 so back in the day, that saying used to be 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:20.760 something borrowed, something blue, and a sixpence in her shoe. Oh, 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:23.640 we changed it because we stopped making sixpences. 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:25.360 So we changed it to something else, high heels that 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:26.240 would slip right out. 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:28.280 So that makes me think, if we can change all 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:32.240 these traditional things about weddings, what is actually the rules now? 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:34.199 Well, I'm going to be marrying a man, so tradition's 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:36.120 out the window when it comes to my wedding. 0:13:36.200 --> 0:13:37.480 I'm not really worried about that. 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:38.920 What do you reckon you're gonna wear to my wedding? 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:40.520 I want to wear a skirt to your wedding. I 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:41.240 haven't told you yet. 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:42.880 I'm so here for it. 0:13:42.920 --> 0:13:43.800 Do I have your permission? 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:46.200 Absolutely? Just not a white one, okay, okay, I can 0:13:46.240 --> 0:13:47.240 do that, or a brown skirt. 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:47.480 Okay. 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:50.000 Here's something else that happened recently produce a key shak 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:54.439 So producer Keisha works across our podcast. She is wonderful, amazing. 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:56.760 I share so much about all the wedding stuff with her. 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.120 She had kind of forgotten that I had shown her 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:02.680 the dresses what our bridesmaids are wearing. Oh, and she 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:05.480 showed me the dress that she bought, and she accidentally 0:14:05.520 --> 0:14:08.920 bought the identical dress that my bridesmaids are wearing to 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.120 the wedding. And it made me think, like, am I 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.120 being too controlling? 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:13.840 Stiller? 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:15.720 Am I being too like, oh, you know, everything needs 0:14:15.720 --> 0:14:17.559 to be the way I want it? By telling her 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:18.760 that she can't wear that dress. 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:19.880 Did you ask her to change? 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:20.400 Yes? 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:22.960 Okay, then may no? I might see. 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:25.120 My gut is to say, maybe you are, but also 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:27.240