1 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:08,840 Speaker 1: Hello and welcome to a Happy Famili's podcast, Real Parenting Solutions, 2 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: every single day on Australia's most downloaded parenting podcast. Today, 3 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: we put ourselves under the microscope, as we do every Friday, 4 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: and share ways that we can be more intentional trying 5 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:21,799 Speaker 1: to get it right. My story the biggest fail I 6 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 1: have ever had in my efforts to make our family happier. 7 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 1: You're laughing because you know what's coming. Oh my goodness, 8 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: did I get this wrong? 9 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:29,720 Speaker 2: Oh? 10 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:32,879 Speaker 1: Like, it's so wrong. What's your one? I don't know 11 00:00:32,880 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: what you're going to talk about today. 12 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 2: I'm going to talk about real love. 13 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 1: Huh And you're saying with a smile on your face, 14 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 1: which makes me think that it's something else. 15 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 2: Oh. 16 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:41,879 Speaker 1: We've got a couple of big news items as well 17 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: coming up right after the break. Stay with us. Hello, 18 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,320 Speaker 1: Thanks so much for joining us on the Happy Families podcast, 19 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 1: Real Pairing Solutions every single day. It's Australia's most downloaded 20 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 1: parenting podcast. If you knew here, we really appreciate you 21 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: being with us. Every Friday, we put ourselves under the microscope. 22 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:01,279 Speaker 1: We have a close look at everything we've done ideally right, 23 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 1: but frankly quite often wrong and try to be better tomorrow. 24 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:10,119 Speaker 1: Hence the title of our Friday podcast, I'll do Better Tomorrow, Kylie, 25 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: before we crack on with our stories, yours and mine. 26 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,959 Speaker 1: New South Wales HSC exams they started today I think, 27 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:19,559 Speaker 1: or maybe it was yesterday, one of the two. Anyway, 28 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: New South Wales HSC exams Year twelve. It's on like 29 00:01:22,880 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 1: Donkey Kong, and next week and the week after other 30 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 1: states fall into line and start to put the year 31 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,679 Speaker 1: twelve students under the pub We did an awesome podcast 32 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:35,639 Speaker 1: on Monday morning about the year twelve exam season, What matters, 33 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:38,319 Speaker 1: what doesn't, how to survive it if you've got older 34 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 1: kids or kids that are maybe heading there next year. 35 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 1: This is definitely worth a listen right now though we 36 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: need to talk about Oh sorry, there's one more bit 37 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: of news. This is so exciting. The other week on 38 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 1: I'll Do Better Tomorrow, you were talking about how our 39 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: eldest daughter has started reading my books. She pick up 40 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: Relationship Rules, started reading it, decided that she needed to 41 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: put some more water in the role relationship bucket, not 42 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: that she has with her daughter, but that she has 43 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: with her husband. Just as good as far as I'm concerned. 44 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,400 Speaker 1: Then her whole friendship group started to get into the 45 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 1: whole relationship bucket thing and started talking about it. I 46 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:12,320 Speaker 1: didn't know this, but I found out just the other 47 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: night when Chanelle and Jared came over for dinner with Indy. 48 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:18,919 Speaker 1: That's our daughter and son in law and our granddaughter. 49 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 1: For those who are new to the pod, turns out 50 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 1: that Jared's gym buddy, bodybuilder Nathan, is a Happy Family's 51 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 1: podcast listener, and apparently last week you made him cry. 52 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: You literally got him weepy as you were telling that. 53 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 2: Sorry, Nathan. 54 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: So Nathan, I mean, this guy's like huge. You can 55 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:42,799 Speaker 1: imagine standing there doing bicep curls and trying you as 56 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:47,080 Speaker 1: he listens to your story in the gym. Nathan was 57 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:47,639 Speaker 1: so sorry. 58 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 2: That's terrible. 59 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:51,519 Speaker 1: And also, we've had some landscaping done in our yard 60 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: just recently, and it's. 61 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 2: Not very often I get stopped, but you got stopped. 62 00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:58,239 Speaker 2: I've been away and I came in. I drove in 63 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:00,800 Speaker 2: the driveway and one of the lands escapers came up 64 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 2: to me and he said, I just have to come 65 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 2: and thank you. And I'm looking at and going we 66 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 2: haven't even met. What have I done? 67 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 1: You're paying my wages for the week, and we've got 68 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:10,080 Speaker 1: a job landscaping things. 69 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:12,639 Speaker 2: So I'm looking at the gardens thinking what have I done? 70 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 2: And he said, he said, I've been listening to your 71 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:18,359 Speaker 2: podcast for a couple of years here now, and he said, 72 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 2: the work that you and Justin do has literally changed 73 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:23,080 Speaker 2: the relationships I had with my children and my wife. 74 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 1: How did he know it was you? Did he recognize 75 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:26,680 Speaker 1: you from the photo and the image on the podcast. 76 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 2: He read the name on the job sheet and he 77 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:31,960 Speaker 2: was like, no, way right. He was so excited to 78 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 2: come here. 79 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I gave him a couple of books and 80 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 1: one of the other guys as well, Ned, So Ned 81 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 1: and Will were working in our yard and Ned said 82 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: that Will has got him onto the podcast. So Ned 83 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 1: and we love what you did in our garden. Thank you. 84 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: We love it and we hope that you enjoy the books. Hey, 85 00:03:46,200 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: while we're on this as well, it was my fiftieth 86 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 1: birthday in the last week or so. I've lost count 87 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: of the days. It was like eight or nine days 88 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 1: ago or something like that. And you, with the help 89 00:03:57,560 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: of Mim Hammonds who looks after all of it, admin 90 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: and research and other support for the pod, got a 91 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:03,880 Speaker 1: hold of a whole bunch of Happy Families listeners and 92 00:04:03,880 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: Happy Families members and asked them to say nice things 93 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 1: about me, and they did. And it was so nice 94 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: to sit around the dining table as you read out 95 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: everybody's messages about how the podcast and how the work 96 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 1: that we do has made an impact in their lives. 97 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: What a treat. I mean, a life well lived has 98 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 1: nothing to do with where you live, or what kind 99 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 1: of car you drive, or even the holidays you take 100 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 1: or what your bank balance is. It comes down to 101 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 1: relationships and the people that you're able to influence an effect. 102 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 1: And I sat there and I felt a little bit 103 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:33,719 Speaker 1: funny hearing all of these people saying nice things about me, 104 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 1: But most of all, I just sat there and felt 105 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: so grateful. What a privilege, what a gift it is 106 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 1: to be able to do this podcast to make a 107 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 1: difference in people's lives. So to everyone who's listening, we 108 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: really appreciate that you give us your time each day 109 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 1: so that we can try to make your family happier. 110 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 1: It makes our life feel like it's a life well lived. 111 00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 1: Oh and I've got to quickly mention over the last 112 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: couple of weeks. I have done a lot of travel. 113 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 1: I've been home for the last few days, but my goodness, 114 00:04:56,960 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 1: I was in Kratha, i was in Perth for a 115 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:01,919 Speaker 1: couple of days. I was in regional New South Wales. 116 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:04,279 Speaker 1: I've kind of been all over the place and it's 117 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 1: just been so much I love going to the regions. 118 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 1: Like being in Karatha. There's all these people coming up 119 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 1: to me who are saying, nobody ever comes to a 120 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 1: place like Kartha. That's like Western Australia's equivalent of Townsville. 121 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:18,039 Speaker 1: It's just so far up north and it was thirty 122 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: nine degrees when I've got off the plane. But people 123 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 1: were so excited to come along and listen and participate. 124 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: Podcast listeners there as well, So a huge thank you 125 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:29,600 Speaker 1: to everybody there. Kylie, we've done too much news. Let's 126 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:34,279 Speaker 1: hear your story. You're older, but it's tomorrow your true 127 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: love story. What's going on here? I have no idea 128 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 1: where we're going with this. So our kids have. 129 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:43,480 Speaker 2: Cousins from New South Wales and their holidays extended past 130 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 2: our holiday. 131 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, there's always that one week overlap and then one 132 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:46,520 Speaker 1: week we're there. 133 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:49,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, and your mum had come up to spend some 134 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 2: time with the cousins, and she invited Emily to come 135 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:56,839 Speaker 2: down to the theme parks. We've got annual passes and 136 00:05:56,880 --> 00:05:58,479 Speaker 2: it makes it so easy for them to all to 137 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:01,840 Speaker 2: get together and play and worth highlighting. 138 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: Though two hours, it's a solid two hour drive from 139 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:08,200 Speaker 1: the Sunshine Coast to the first available theme park. 140 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:11,719 Speaker 2: Well, when I told Emily what we were doing, she said, 141 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:13,279 Speaker 2: how long do I have to sit in the car? 142 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 2: And when I told her, she looked at me with 143 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:18,720 Speaker 2: kind of like pain in her face. She was like, 144 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:23,359 Speaker 2: this is such a hard choice. Just had two hours 145 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 2: snapped to sit in the cup of two hours, but 146 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 2: I want to see my cousins. Anyway, she braved it. 147 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:30,280 Speaker 2: We got in the car, we drove down and we 148 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:33,600 Speaker 2: managed to convince your mom, who has never gone on 149 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 2: a ride with the kids before. 150 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:37,839 Speaker 1: My mom is terrified. We went forward driving once with 151 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 1: my mum and I. 152 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 2: Think I still have the scars on my shoe. 153 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 1: She literally put her nails into your arms as she 154 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: held on to you and were just driving along the 155 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: sandy track. It's not like we were doing real full driving, 156 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 1: and she was like screaming ahead off So to get 157 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 1: my mum on a ride other than what the teacups, 158 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:58,159 Speaker 1: which is like you sit there and it's a little oh. 159 00:06:58,040 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 2: That spins around and makes you feel really great. 160 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:02,280 Speaker 1: That was too much for my mum. Yeah, I agree, Yep, 161 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: she won't. She won't do dodge and cars. She won't. 162 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 1: She won't do any kind of ride that has any 163 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 1: thrill at all. What do you call it? The carousel? 164 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: The carousel is as far as she'll go, where you 165 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 1: sit on the horse and you bob up and down 166 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:15,200 Speaker 1: as you slowly spin around in that circle and hear 167 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 1: the music. 168 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 2: Well knowing bad, she did amazing because one of the 169 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 2: first rides the kids decided to go on was the 170 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 2: log ride. And I'm not a big ride person, but 171 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 2: I love the log ride. And it was so hot. 172 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 2: It was eleven o'clock. It was really hot, and I 173 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 2: was like, I'm going to go on that log ride 174 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:33,239 Speaker 2: because I'm hoping I am going to get completely drenched. 175 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: H Queensland Spring, welcome to it. 176 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, and shemmed an Ard and the kids. As soon 177 00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 2: as I said I really think you should come on it. 178 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 2: You should have seen the kid's faces just like light up. 179 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 2: They then were you so excited? To think that she 180 00:07:47,720 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 2: would come, and when she finally agreed to it, they 181 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 2: were just they were speechless, like they really couldn't put 182 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:57,920 Speaker 2: into words how excited they were that she was going 183 00:07:57,960 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 2: to join us. 184 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 1: And this is five grandkids age between like what eight 185 00:08:02,160 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 1: and twelve, eight and thirteen something like that. Yeah, just 186 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:08,520 Speaker 1: jumping out of the skin. I wasn't there, but like, 187 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: I know how unusual it would be for my mum 188 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 1: to say that, So I can imagine. 189 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 2: So a log ride takes eight people, and there was 190 00:08:14,440 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 2: two girls behind us, your mum's in front of them, 191 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 2: and the entire they had an entire mouthful. The entire time, 192 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:24,760 Speaker 2: your mum was talking and screaming and squealing and saying, 193 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 2: you know, I can't believe you're making me do this. 194 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 2: This is the worst. And we were going through the 195 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 2: smooth bit at that point, but she had already seen 196 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 2: obviously the big crash that happens when you go down 197 00:08:34,679 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 2: the big slide coming out of the mountain, and we 198 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:41,080 Speaker 2: got to that point and oh my gosh, she just 199 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 2: screamed the log log all the way down the hill. 200 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 2: But the kids just loved it, and at the end 201 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 2: of it, she said, okay, it wasn't It wasn't as 202 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 2: bad as I remember it. And she did it again, right, 203 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:54,080 Speaker 2: she actually did it again. 204 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:57,920 Speaker 1: The problem was, I'm trying to work out how this 205 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:00,920 Speaker 1: ties in with your audio. But tomorrow your incredible loving 206 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: sacrifice other than that you stood in line at Warner 207 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: Brothers movie World. 208 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:07,239 Speaker 2: Well that was the sponsored That was the preface because because. 209 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:09,080 Speaker 1: I did that, like I think, I got three rides 210 00:09:09,120 --> 00:09:11,400 Speaker 1: in five hours when I did it last Holidays with them, I. 211 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 2: It was a really big deal for you, mum. But 212 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:16,920 Speaker 2: halfway through the day the kids, a few of the 213 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 2: kids decided they wanted to go on the Joker. 214 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:21,960 Speaker 1: The Joker is the best, the best ride. It is 215 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: so much fun. 216 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 2: So there's four kids, but only three want to go, 217 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 2: and nobody wants to ride next to a stranger. And 218 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 2: the kid who doesn't want to go rue he says, Annie, Kylie, 219 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 2: I think you should go on it. And I looked 220 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 2: at it and I said, oh, you have no idea. 221 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:40,319 Speaker 2: There is no way I'm going on that ride. And 222 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 2: he said, Nan went on the. 223 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: Log ride, the log Ride of the Joker. They're not 224 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:46,760 Speaker 1: even in the same universe. 225 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 2: They're not. But to him it was like Nan did it, 226 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:52,960 Speaker 2: so you have to. Okay, I said, I'll make you 227 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 2: a deal. If you go on the Joker, I'll go too, 228 00:09:57,120 --> 00:10:00,199 Speaker 2: and he went, no way, not doing it anyway. 229 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: So twelve years old, three twelve. 230 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, so we've still got three kids wanting to go 231 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 2: on a ride and one of them has to have 232 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 2: somebody else to go with them. And my mother in 233 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:12,680 Speaker 2: law looked at me and she just said, you better 234 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:15,800 Speaker 2: do it. So I stood in that line for probably 235 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 2: an hour, and the entire time I thought I was 236 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 2: going to vomit. I honestly, Oh my god. 237 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:26,720 Speaker 1: This is exactly like. This is literally it's the way 238 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: our psychology works. We tell ourselves these stories, we get 239 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:31,320 Speaker 1: ourselves worked up. It's all in your head. You rang me. 240 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:33,400 Speaker 2: The kids are laughing at me the whole time. They 241 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 2: can see like I have no color in my face. 242 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I rang you. I was asking what you're 243 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 1: up to, and you said I'm five minutes from dying. 244 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 1: You had like there were three more rides and it 245 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:45,720 Speaker 1: was going to be you on the Joker, and you 246 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: said I'm going to be dead soon. It's been nice 247 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 1: knowing you, or something like that. 248 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 2: No, I said, if I don't make it out alive. 249 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:54,360 Speaker 2: I just want you to know you were the best 250 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:55,720 Speaker 2: thing that ever happened to me. 251 00:10:56,360 --> 00:10:58,400 Speaker 1: I should have said that better, because that is a really, 252 00:10:58,400 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: really beautiful thing to say. 253 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 2: And you told me to ring you back after the. 254 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:05,160 Speaker 1: Back and tell me how much you enjoyed it. 255 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:05,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, you'd be. 256 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:07,319 Speaker 1: Great, Yeah, so amazing. 257 00:11:07,480 --> 00:11:09,440 Speaker 2: I didn't ring you back, and you might have run 258 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:12,199 Speaker 2: me three times before I finally picked up. 259 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:15,200 Speaker 1: Yes, and you picked up and you made it sound 260 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 1: like an answering machine. 261 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:19,480 Speaker 2: And I may have said something along the lines of 262 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 2: This is a recording of Kylie Coulson. I died on 263 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:30,440 Speaker 2: the Joker. I'm done, I'm done, And you cracked up, 264 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:32,600 Speaker 2: you laughed, you made fun of me all afternoon. 265 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:33,720 Speaker 1: How much fun is the Joker? 266 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:37,120 Speaker 2: It was so bad? So I actually looked up because 267 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,520 Speaker 2: your mum went on the log ride and then she 268 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 2: did actually go on the Flight of the Wicked Witch. 269 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:46,040 Speaker 2: That ride goes at sixty seven kilometers an hour. 270 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:49,920 Speaker 1: The log ride would be like thirty five, Yeah, crazy. 271 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:55,120 Speaker 2: The Joker at maximum speed one hundred and fifteen kilometers 272 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:58,160 Speaker 2: per hour. That thing flies. And you know how like 273 00:11:58,200 --> 00:11:59,839 Speaker 2: on the old roller coasters you used to have the 274 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:02,720 Speaker 2: kind of like lulls in the ride. You'd have these 275 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 2: big corkscrews or you know, you do the loop, but 276 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 2: then there'd be a little bit of time where you 277 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:11,560 Speaker 2: kind of adjusted. No, yes, this thing just doesn't stop. 278 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 2: It was so fast. 279 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:16,199 Speaker 1: You know that you drive fast than that on the freeway. 280 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, don't turn upside down and. 281 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:23,040 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, and my bum kept lifting off the seats. 282 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:28,320 Speaker 3: I actually said to the lady as she locked me in, 283 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 3: I said, how many people die on this thing? 284 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 1: So what's your take on message? Missus? Happy families, because 285 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 1: this has been the longest story you've ever told. It 286 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:39,560 Speaker 1: was clearly it was clearly a big deal for you. 287 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 2: It was a really big deal for me. You know, 288 00:12:42,880 --> 00:12:46,600 Speaker 2: ultimately everything we do is about our kids, right, And 289 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:50,720 Speaker 2: I actually really really don't like going on rides. 290 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:53,520 Speaker 1: It makes me feel we got that. Yeah, we definitely 291 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:53,840 Speaker 1: got that. 292 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 2: But seeing those kids' faces light up, yeah because I 293 00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:01,720 Speaker 2: did something, and listening to them constantly giving me the 294 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:04,439 Speaker 2: pep talk. I believe in you, Artie, Kaylie, you can 295 00:13:04,480 --> 00:13:08,520 Speaker 2: do It was just such a beautiful bonding experience. I 296 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:12,240 Speaker 2: will never go on that thing ever again, but they'll 297 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:14,840 Speaker 2: have the memory that I did do it nice. 298 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:19,720 Speaker 1: After the break, the biggest disaster that I have ever 299 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:24,400 Speaker 1: been in charge of. Find out more ever, Yeah, stay 300 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:34,319 Speaker 1: with us, Okay, it's time for my I'll do better tomorrow. 301 00:13:34,400 --> 00:13:37,400 Speaker 1: I can actually do this one fairly quickly. I have 302 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 1: decided that because I'm traveling a little bit less for 303 00:13:40,040 --> 00:13:41,760 Speaker 1: the next few weeks, that I want to contribute a 304 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:43,600 Speaker 1: whole lot more around the house. I finished the manuscript 305 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:45,679 Speaker 1: for my book. That feels really good. So I've got 306 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:47,360 Speaker 1: a little bit of margin, not heaps, but I've got 307 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:49,199 Speaker 1: a little bit of margin where I can get involved 308 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:50,520 Speaker 1: in the kitchen and start doing a bit of the 309 00:13:50,559 --> 00:13:52,640 Speaker 1: stuff that really means a lot to me, like helping 310 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:54,840 Speaker 1: you with the stuff that you would normally do under 311 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:56,960 Speaker 1: our typical division of labor, and spending more time with 312 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:59,560 Speaker 1: the kids. So I can't remember what day it was 313 00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 1: or why, but I was cooking. Oh it was the 314 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:04,080 Speaker 1: day you're at theme parks, that's right, And I said, 315 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:05,920 Speaker 1: I've got dinner. Don't worry, I'm really looking forward to it. 316 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:07,320 Speaker 1: What time we be home. You're gonna be home at 317 00:14:07,320 --> 00:14:10,120 Speaker 1: seven o'clock. Fantastic, It'll be ready at seven. I spent 318 00:14:10,160 --> 00:14:12,400 Speaker 1: two to two and a half hours cooking this red 319 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 1: tie curry. There's the recipe in the book. I was 320 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:17,160 Speaker 1: so busy in the office that I got our twenty 321 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:20,920 Speaker 1: one year old daughter Ella to read out the recipe, 322 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:22,680 Speaker 1: go through the cupboard and the fridge, make sure we 323 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:24,840 Speaker 1: had everything, and just give me a shopping list of 324 00:14:24,880 --> 00:14:27,920 Speaker 1: what we didn't have. I raced out of the shops, 325 00:14:28,200 --> 00:14:30,920 Speaker 1: I grabbed what I needed. There was one item on 326 00:14:30,960 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 1: the list that wasn't properly written. She wrote two cans 327 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 1: of unsweetened and then she didn't write what needed to 328 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: be unsweetened, two cans of unsweetened something. And I had 329 00:14:42,640 --> 00:14:45,120 Speaker 1: no idea what it was. And so I gave her 330 00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 1: a quick call and I said, what, what do I need? 331 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 1: Two cans of unsweetened what? And she said, hang on 332 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:51,760 Speaker 1: a second check. And she came back to me like 333 00:14:51,800 --> 00:14:55,920 Speaker 1: four seconds later and said condensed milk. And I was like, okay. 334 00:14:57,120 --> 00:14:59,000 Speaker 1: I went into the condensed milk aisle and I'm looking 335 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:01,520 Speaker 1: for unsweetened condensed milk. I'm thinking that doesn't make sense. 336 00:15:01,560 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: Condensed milk is sweet anyway. I pick up two cans 337 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:05,760 Speaker 1: of sweet and condensed milk because there was no one 338 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:09,840 Speaker 1: sweetened condensed milk. I came home totally on autopilot and 339 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: just started cooking this mealk. Lots and lots of preparation. 340 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 1: This takes a long time to prepare this curry. And 341 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 1: I remember as I was tipping the condensed milk into 342 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:21,320 Speaker 1: the curry, I was just so much on an autopole. 343 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:23,640 Speaker 1: I was annoyed that it wasn't coming out fast enough. 344 00:15:23,680 --> 00:15:25,320 Speaker 1: So I got the spatchelor and spooned all the condensed 345 00:15:25,320 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 1: milk into the curry. I've got all the vegetables cooking, 346 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 1: I've got just the stock, the whole thing. It was perfect. 347 00:15:32,320 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 1: And then just before you walked in the door, like 348 00:15:35,160 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 1: whenever you put any milk into something that you cook 349 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 1: on the stove, if it boils, you get this curd 350 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 1: all effect and it's really horrible. And unfortunately, because I 351 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 1: was trying to do too many things, I curdled the 352 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 1: milk and I was just so so upset and it 353 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:51,080 Speaker 1: looked horrendous. But while I'm washing my hands and getting 354 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:53,720 Speaker 1: ready to come in for dinner, you are having a 355 00:15:53,720 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 1: little chat with the kids. 356 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 2: I've looked at this thing. I have never seen like 357 00:15:58,960 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 2: curdled like it was. This. This looked like when you 358 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 2: have baking. 359 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 1: It looks like somebody had vomited. That's what it looked 360 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 1: like when you've got. 361 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:10,040 Speaker 2: Baking soda and you add it to your butter mix 362 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 2: and it blows up and gets all puffy and then 363 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:18,600 Speaker 2: just kind of settles. It was like really foamy. And 364 00:16:18,680 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 2: I've looked at it and I've said to the girls, 365 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 2: dad's tried really hard on dinner. It looks disgusting. He's 366 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:27,960 Speaker 2: absolutely destroyed it, and we are going to eat it 367 00:16:27,960 --> 00:16:30,800 Speaker 2: with a smile on our face. And they looked at 368 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 2: me and they were like, okay, mom, yep, we've got this. 369 00:16:34,920 --> 00:16:37,640 Speaker 2: I said, it looks terrible, but it will taste fine. 370 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:40,760 Speaker 1: It literally looked it looked like vomit. It was horrendous. 371 00:16:40,800 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 2: But so I've put it into the bowls and we've 372 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 2: sat down, We've said a prayer, and I've taken my 373 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:53,680 Speaker 2: first bites and it tasted like chicken dessert. It was 374 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:57,880 Speaker 2: carrot and so sweet. I thought I was going to 375 00:16:57,920 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 2: be sick, like it was so. 376 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:02,240 Speaker 1: Sweet cans of Condon's milk, and what do you think you? 377 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 2: And I looked at it. I was trying so hard 378 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:07,240 Speaker 2: because I wanted to pump you up and I looked 379 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:10,399 Speaker 2: at you, and I said, how much sugar did you 380 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 2: put in this? 381 00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:12,359 Speaker 1: And I said, and you. 382 00:17:12,359 --> 00:17:14,679 Speaker 2: Said, I didn't put any sugar in it. I just 383 00:17:14,720 --> 00:17:18,200 Speaker 2: put two cans of condensed milk. I just about spat 384 00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 2: my food out onto the plate, and I've got up 385 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:26,479 Speaker 2: just khacking. I mean, honestly, I've walked over to the 386 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 2: recipe to think, how on earth milk from coconut milk? 387 00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:37,560 Speaker 2: And I couldn't read condensed anywhere. There was no condensed nothing. 388 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:40,200 Speaker 1: And then I saw coconut milk, and I went, oh, 389 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 1: we're having pizza tonight. 390 00:17:45,080 --> 00:17:48,200 Speaker 2: But you know what was so great about this story? Honestly, 391 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:50,800 Speaker 2: I don't think our family has laughed as much as 392 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:53,359 Speaker 2: we did that night. It could have been a disaster. 393 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 2: You could have been up in arms and all frustrated 394 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:59,160 Speaker 2: and angry, and it could have just been an absolute nightmare. 395 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 2: It was just hilarious. And I grew up in a 396 00:18:03,560 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 2: home where that wouldn't have happened, Like we wouldn't have 397 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 2: laughed about that. And I was just at the end 398 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:11,080 Speaker 2: of the night, after having the massive day that I 399 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:14,800 Speaker 2: had where I almost died, and coming home to your 400 00:18:14,920 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 2: experience of destroying dinner I just thought, how awesome, how 401 00:18:21,040 --> 00:18:23,680 Speaker 2: awesome that, in spite of it all, we can sit 402 00:18:23,720 --> 00:18:25,240 Speaker 2: down and we can just have a really good laugh 403 00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:27,840 Speaker 2: about how terrible that was. You know, that was one 404 00:18:27,880 --> 00:18:30,359 Speaker 2: of our favorite dinners until you cooked it. 405 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:34,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, yep. But because this episode's called I'd be better tomorrow. 406 00:18:35,359 --> 00:18:37,720 Speaker 1: On the next night, I cooked it again, and this 407 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:40,320 Speaker 1: time I did coconut milk, and everyone ede it and 408 00:18:40,320 --> 00:18:42,679 Speaker 1: no one complained and I didn't even hurdle it. I 409 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:46,240 Speaker 1: got it right, which my take on message means is 410 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:48,560 Speaker 1: that if we keep on trying, we can eventually get 411 00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 1: it right. We've gone way over time on this podcast, 412 00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:52,120 Speaker 1: but we're so glad that you listen, and we hope 413 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:53,720 Speaker 1: that it gave you some entertainment. We hope that it 414 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 1: gave you some inspiration for just connecting better with your 415 00:18:57,640 --> 00:19:02,600 Speaker 1: kids and with your partner and wife loved ones. Family 416 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:06,199 Speaker 1: life is so messy. Family life is so hard, and 417 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:09,920 Speaker 1: family life requires so many sacrifices, and yet if you 418 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:12,000 Speaker 1: want to have a happy family, I've actually worked out 419 00:19:12,160 --> 00:19:13,720 Speaker 1: that it's taken me this many years. But if you 420 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:15,120 Speaker 1: want to have a happy family, you've got to laugh. 421 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:19,280 Speaker 1: Laughter makes family life happy. If you're not laughing, then 422 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:22,040 Speaker 1: it's just not nearly as happy. So when you do 423 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:23,800 Speaker 1: ruin dinner tonight or tomorrow night, or when one of 424 00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:25,440 Speaker 1: the kids does do something stupid, when you have to 425 00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 1: make a sacrifice that you find really uncomfortable, if you 426 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:29,560 Speaker 1: can find a way to laugh about it and then 427 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:32,480 Speaker 1: you can do better tomorrow, it's amazing, Like it just 428 00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 1: becomes so enriching, so soul stretching and soul enlarging, and gosh, 429 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,159 Speaker 1: I just feel like I could wax lyrical about it, 430 00:19:40,280 --> 00:19:41,879 Speaker 1: the meaning of life and the purpose of life and 431 00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:44,800 Speaker 1: joy in life, but that's really it. The Happy Families 432 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 1: podcast is produced by Justin Rulan from Bridge Media. Mimhammonds 433 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:52,800 Speaker 1: provides additional admin and research and other support. If you'd 434 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:55,680 Speaker 1: like more information about making your family happier, visit happy 435 00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: families dot com dot au and we will be back 436 00:19:59,480 --> 00:20:04,159 Speaker 1: on Monday talking about what you should do when the 437 00:20:04,240 --> 00:20:09,080 Speaker 1: kids break something but they didn't mean it. How do 438 00:20:09,119 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: you keep them accountable? What's there when it's not their fault. 439 00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:17,800 Speaker 1: That's coming up Monday on the Happy Families Podcast.