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Speaker 1: Podcasting now if you miss it, I think it was yesterday.

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Speaker 1: Would you and I were talking about when a woman

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Speaker 1: says please leave, what does that actually mean? That's a

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Speaker 1: question we're asking. We had a woman called Sigourney who

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Speaker 1: called the show with this, you know, with the warning.

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Speaker 1: She says, that means I don't like where this is going.

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Speaker 1: You're not doing that for me. Tell me what I

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Speaker 1: want to hear, and then we'll be okay. When do

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Speaker 1: you leave?

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Speaker 2: You live when I get up and.

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Speaker 1: Walk away because I can't stand you anywhere? So you

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Speaker 1: are you in a relationship, Susan, I am. I'm getting married.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations Lucky man Sony. What we learned from Susan and

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Speaker 1: or Sigourney is that understanding the person you're with. And look,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna throw a stereotype out there, particularly for men,

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Speaker 1: trying to understand women is a very very tough thing.

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Speaker 1: And I think when you're in a relationship, you've been

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Speaker 1: out of relationship long time, you've been single for a while. Now,

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Speaker 1: would that's right? Going into a new relationship with Anne,

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Speaker 1: you're lacking a certain we'll call it relationship fitness for

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Speaker 1: your friend fitness, And that's what we're going to focus

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Speaker 1: on right now is a new girlfriend. Girl isn't very fit.

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Speaker 2: It's all these muscles that I haven't used for a

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Speaker 2: very long time.

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Speaker 1: Relationship fitness, man, it is. It is a thing. One

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Speaker 1: of the key ones you hit on before, which hilariously

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Speaker 1: you labeled a small part is listening, which is a

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Speaker 1: good indicator of the fact that you are very unfit.

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Speaker 2: You just forget to do it. You know, you remember

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Speaker 2: being at home by yourself around and then it just

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Speaker 2: comes to you like, oh my god, there's another human

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Speaker 2: here and they've been talking for a long time. They

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Speaker 2: look animated.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's keys. All we do is, look, I

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Speaker 1: don't have all the answers here, that's for sure. I'm

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Speaker 1: fumbling in the dark as much as you are.

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Speaker 2: Well you've been you know, he's been in a relationship

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Speaker 2: for four years.

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Speaker 3: Four years years of two weeks ago, four years. Look

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Speaker 3: at you, yeah, anniversary. Yeah you are fit. Look at you, fit,

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Speaker 3: fighting fit, But you're not. And I can help you

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Speaker 3: a little bit because obviously a lot of people listening

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Speaker 3: to us right now who are going to be much

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Speaker 3: more helpful. So, guys, if you if you know the

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Speaker 3: answer to this question, I would love to hear from

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Speaker 3: you on third one and six five to help what

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Speaker 3: he out with his relationship fitness.

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Speaker 1: Here's a question for your wards. When your partner starts

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Speaker 1: a sentence with the words do you want to? M hmm,

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Speaker 1: do you actually have a choice as to what you

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Speaker 1: want to do?

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Speaker 2: Afterwards? Of course she's asked you do you want to?

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 2: So if you do, you want to go to the movies?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I don't want to go.

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Speaker 1: Now that's it. That's incorrect.

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Speaker 2: What would they say do you want to?

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Speaker 1: Because they're saying do you want to? Because they want to?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but why ask me? Why wouldn't you just go

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Speaker 2: you're coming to the movies with me?

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Speaker 1: Because it doesn't work like that and they want to

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Speaker 1: feel that. I mean, it doesn't work because they want

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Speaker 1: to feel like you want to go to the movies

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Speaker 1: and I don't want to go.

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Speaker 2: To the movie.

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Speaker 1: Point, I don't know what the point. That's not the point, mate. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're dealing with it too rationally. You're dealing with it

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Speaker 1: far too rationally. What the fitness is all about? You

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Speaker 1: want to take everything you know and unlearned.

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Speaker 2: So hang on. If she says to me, yeah, if

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Speaker 2: my partner says to me, do you want to go

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Speaker 2: and get your nails done this Saturday?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's saying, I want you to come with me

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Speaker 1: and get when I was.

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Speaker 2: Like, you know it will am I getting my nails done?

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Speaker 1: No, I know, but you might go along. You don't

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Speaker 1: have a quiet coffee quite hy on the side, you know,

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Speaker 1: I just watch her have a chat. But at the

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Speaker 1: end of the day, the fact that she's saying do

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Speaker 1: you want to? Those four words do you want to

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Speaker 1: means that she's pretty much one hundred percent saying that

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Speaker 1: you should. It's just a nice way of saying it

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Speaker 1: so that you can affirm it for us, so she

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Speaker 1: feels better about herself because you actually are then really

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Speaker 2: I'm going to need to hear this from some women.

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Speaker 2: I think, Okay, I appreciate this advice from you, but

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Speaker 2: I think you're off you.

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Speaker 1: Think I'm I think do you want to? You don't

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Speaker 1: have a choice at the end of that, man, and

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Speaker 1: that means that's like you're coming with me or else.

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Speaker 1: That's it.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to need this confirmed to me because it

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Speaker 2: just doesn't make sense to me. What ask me if

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Speaker 2: I want to go. If I don't have a choice

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Speaker 1: Let me throw another one too. Before we got a calls,

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Speaker 1: your partner says, to your same words, do you want to?

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Speaker 1: Do you want to have a baby sometime soon? Do

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Speaker 1: you think you have a choice in that? Yes? No,

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Speaker 1: absolutely not? Yes, I do wrong again, No I do?

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Speaker 2: No? What am I going to say?

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Speaker 1: You don't gaming podcasting Woods is in a brand new

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Speaker 1: relationship and he is very very very relationship unfit.

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Speaker 2: New girlfriend isn't very fit.

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Speaker 1: Relationship fitness Woods, As you said, it's a muscle you've

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Speaker 1: got to work and right now your biceps are the

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Speaker 1: size of peas.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that is very true. Although I think I'm actually

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Speaker 2: in the right here. So you're preaching this word to

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Speaker 2: me that Apparently when your partner says to you, do

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Speaker 2: you want to?

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Speaker 1: Yes, then starts any sentence with do you want to?

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Speaker 1: Any question with do you want to?

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Speaker 2: Apparently, then I'm asking you if you want to at all?

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Speaker 2: They're just saying you're coming with me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, Why why say do you want to? Again?

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Speaker 1: You're using reason here, and that's that's that's a useless tool.

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Speaker 2: But I've been told in previous relationship. Yeah, you're coming

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Speaker 1: There might just be a reflection on your previous part.

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Speaker 2: Let's get Stella, Stella, where do you sit on this? Stella?

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Speaker 2: If you say to your partner do you want to

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Speaker 2: and then you know, finish the sentence whoever you like

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Speaker 2: you are you actually asking them or you just wanted

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Speaker 2: to go with you? I mean, like you like it's asking.

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Speaker 2: You don't want to be controlling, but it's kind of

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Speaker 2: just saying I want you to come, and if you

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Speaker 2: don't come, I'll be so disappointed and I'll probably hold

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Speaker 2: a grudge about it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, thank you, Stella. But still, okay, sell Stella,

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Speaker 1: I like, it's not you don't want to be controlling,

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Speaker 2: Stella, So oh god, sorry, it's just frustrated. It's no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: I'm just you're holding back something. No, well, I was

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Speaker 2: holding back something that you said something I lost my

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Speaker 2: trial for pletely. Actually okay, what was I going to say?

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Speaker 2: Was this about your previous partners? No, potentially we'll move.

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Speaker 2: Let's go to Sarah. Okay, Sarah, if someone mini stro

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Speaker 2: it was weird fustrating me so much. I know you

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Speaker 2: said saying I lost my trail thought, Sarah, if you

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Speaker 2: say to your partner do you want to and then

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Speaker 2: finish the sentence, are you actually giving them the choice? No,

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Speaker 2: you well you do have a choice. You can say no,

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Speaker 2: but there will be repercussion.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah exactly, Oh yeah yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: But so Sarah, if I said to you though, if

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Speaker 2: you asked me, then I said, Okay, I really don't

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Speaker 2: want to go and do that, but I'll come if

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Speaker 2: you want me to.

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Speaker 1: What if I said that, well, then now I just

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Speaker 1: feel bad for forcing exactly. That's that's that's emotional blackmail

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Speaker 1: on your part there. Yeah, but Sarah mea me.

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Speaker 2: But then Sarah won if I go? So what if

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Speaker 2: I go? But I'm a bit like I'm not enjoying

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Speaker 2: myself obviously because I never wanted to go. And then

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Speaker 2: you'll like, oh God, cheer up.

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Speaker 1: And then I'm like, well, gudge you for it later. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she'll grudge you for it later. And that's the thing

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Speaker 1: that you have to That's the other thing you have

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Speaker 1: to realize here in section two, sub section three, clause C.

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Speaker 1: You always lose. That's the other thing I remember.

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Speaker 2: Then I just shouldn't go. Then if you always lose.

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Speaker 1: Why go, You're always going to lose, man, because then

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Speaker 1: if if you don't go, you're gonna lose again.

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Speaker 2: Even if I do go, I'm gonna lose. I may

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Speaker 2: as well not go, stay at home watch the footy.

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Speaker 1: But would you rather lose well, oh god, yeah with Sorry,

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to say that, lose with testicles attached

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Speaker 1: or without. I mean, that's the choice you've got in

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Speaker 1: the other like for example as well, It's like I'm

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Speaker 1: going through a renovation right now. My girlfriend Sam says

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Speaker 1: I've got a clear choice there. Yeah, sure, I've got

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Speaker 1: a choice. But I either go no, and then I

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Speaker 1: know I'm signed up for like three days of turmoil

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Speaker 1: say yes and I cop the entitles for twenty years

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Speaker 1: and at the end of the day, who cares? Who

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Speaker 1: cares about the tiles?

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Speaker 3: Man?

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Speaker 1: You know they you know, they just fades into nothingness.

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Speaker 1: After all.

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Speaker 2: You recently say though, that you've been saying yes to

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Speaker 2: everything with the renovations. And then she cracked it and

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Speaker 2: she was like, you just don't care, do you? You're

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Speaker 2: saying yes to everything, which.

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Speaker 1: Brings us back to the rule that I just brought

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Speaker 1: up Section two subsection three. Yeah you always lose lost

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Speaker 1: again there.

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Speaker 2: To start making notes.

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Speaker 1: I lost again there though, didn't I?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you do?

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Speaker 1: Because even if I agree with everything, then I get

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Speaker 1: pulled up for doing that.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, what's the point anymore.

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Speaker 1: Let's go to Beck Beck. We're talking about those four

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Speaker 1: words do you want to? When that starts a question,

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Speaker 1: do you actually have a choice. Look, if you really

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Speaker 1: don't want to go, of course you can say no.

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Speaker 1: But if you decide to say, Okay, I'll go to

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Speaker 1: please meet you better freaking enjoy it.

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Speaker 2: See what you're hearing.

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