Speaker 1: Laura and come on in. Hello ladies, Thursday afternoon. Greetings
Speaker 1: your Mitch. Did you cycle him here?
Speaker 2: I've never seen you wear so much micro and active
Speaker 2: in your entire life.
Speaker 1: I'm going for a walk after the show, and I
Speaker 1: don't want to have to get changed after.
Speaker 3: Do you think that wearing active wear is an appropriate
Speaker 3: attire for coming to work?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 5: Where are we at with the whole active wear as well?
Speaker 1: Expect I'm just in the black T shirt and I
Speaker 1: mean five inchin.
Speaker 3: It's not the black T shirt, Mitch, it's the very
Speaker 3: short short.
Speaker 1: Stand up Mitch.
Speaker 5: You don't need to stand up.
Speaker 1: We saw them very short.
Speaker 3: As your hot girl walks are getting more intense, your
Speaker 3: shorts are getting shorter.
Speaker 5: I've noticed there's a direct correlation between the two.
Speaker 1: Oh my legs growing. Perhaps it's okay you wear all time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, if I'm not at work doing this, and sometimes
Speaker 2: even doing this, I'm one hundred percent always in active.
Speaker 1: Where can I just say nothing worse than someone that
Speaker 1: wears active where to work with their like it's smelly
Speaker 1: active wear. Oh all right, that's enough.
Speaker 5: We have a brilliant I've had enough of this.
Speaker 2: No, we've got to ask on cut coming up. As
Speaker 2: you know, it's one of our favorites here on a Thursday.
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Speaker 2: A listener writes in or calls in with the deepest,
Speaker 2: darkest burning question and we do our best to get
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Speaker 2: We do this every week on our podcast Life on
Speaker 2: Podcast where you guys ride in your deepest, darkest burning
Speaker 2: questions and we do our best to answer them. And
Speaker 2: we have someone that's called in this week beck Hi,
Speaker 2: beck I.
Speaker 4: Beg hi, guys, I'm so exciting to be talking to you.
Speaker 5: Please me, I've got a.
Speaker 4: Call I had. Oh it's the worst, excuse my name voice,
Speaker 4: but I've got a question for you. So it's do
Speaker 4: I change my last name? Basically, my partner and I
Speaker 4: we've been together for or five years and we got
Speaker 4: engaged finally at the start of this year, and our
Speaker 4: wedding is not too fast around the corner. It's in February.
Speaker 4: I had told my partner that I would absolutely change
Speaker 4: my last name and take his. However, as we're getting
Speaker 4: closer to the wedding, I'm getting cold feet and I'm
Speaker 4: feeling really nervous about.
Speaker 5: It, about the wedding or the name.
Speaker 4: More the name change because femininely child, my dad, his
Speaker 4: sibling is. He only has a sister. So my situation
Speaker 4: is if I take his name, like yeah, yeah, basically
Speaker 4: it ends with me.
Speaker 3: So what have you spoken to your partner about not
Speaker 3: wanting to take his name or that you are feeling
Speaker 3: like you're having a bit of a change of heart.
Speaker 4: Well, no, not yet, because I think he'll be a
Speaker 4: bit upset because I always said I would, and I
Speaker 4: think he won't understand why I would change my name.
Speaker 4: I didn't make a joke the other day about hyphenating,
Speaker 4: and he was like, wait what, And I think no.
Speaker 2: I think a hyphen's a happy medium. Look, the whole
Speaker 2: taking the man's name is very archaic. It always has been.
Speaker 2: It's just it's just what society expects of us. No
Speaker 2: one even knows why we do it anymore. It's just
Speaker 2: what we've been told to do, so we do it.
Speaker 2: I think trying to approach the hyphen if nothing else,
Speaker 2: so you don't have to completely change.
Speaker 3: But what are you going to do in the instance
Speaker 3: if you guys have kids, so say you do keep
Speaker 3: your name and then you have children together, what last
Speaker 3: name would you give the kids?
Speaker 4: This is this is the other thing I don't I
Speaker 4: would assume they just have to take his name.
Speaker 1: Well, that's the thing. Why why do you have to assume? Also,
Speaker 1: this is what I hate about this whole situation. Why
Speaker 1: does this have to happen? I understand the patriarchy, We're
Speaker 1: not going to destroy it in the three pm pickup,
Speaker 1: but I just feel you should. What do you want
Speaker 1: to do, Beck, Do you want to keep your surname
Speaker 1: or not? If it ends with you, does that upset you?
Speaker 4: It kind of does. And I feel like it's so
Speaker 4: nice that I have the same nickname as my dad
Speaker 4: because our surname's foodles. What's fun to be called goodie?
Speaker 1: Then keep it? Then My answer is keep it because
Speaker 1: if that's how you feel, keep it. And you have
Speaker 1: to have a conversation with your husband.
Speaker 3: It's so hard because what if you know, you have
Speaker 3: had these conversations all the way, you are obviously engaged now,
Speaker 3: and then you worry that when you do speak to
Speaker 3: him that he's going to react badly to it, like.
Speaker 1: Well, it's not the right partner, even totally.
Speaker 3: I mean that's very easy to say though, Like you know,
Speaker 3: and beck is actually living there. So if you do
Speaker 3: broach this conversation with him, do you feel that he
Speaker 3: will just be disappointed? Do you think he's going to
Speaker 3: want to call the wedding off? Like, what do you
Speaker 3: think will be his level of frustration?
Speaker 4: I think I don't think he would call the wedding off.
Speaker 4: I do think he would be really disappointed, and I
Speaker 4: think I get the feeling he would take it quite personally.
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know your fiance, but I would
Speaker 2: think if he's going to pull the pin on the
Speaker 2: wedding over you broaching this, then it's.
Speaker 1: Probably perfectly honest. He needs to, and I'm sure he's
Speaker 1: a lovely person back, but he needs to understand the
Speaker 1: nuance of why you why it's important to you. I'm
Speaker 1: going to end up marrying a man one day, We're
Speaker 1: going to keep our names. Means nothing to us, and
Speaker 1: that's only because we have the privilege of being two men.
Speaker 1: He just needs to understand what is actually at play here.
Speaker 1: And I think regardless of whether or not you choose
Speaker 1: to keep your name, he needs to understand why it's
Speaker 1: important if you want.
Speaker 3: To beck speaking from experience, am I got married to
Speaker 3: my husband last year. His last name's Johnson, and I've
Speaker 3: remained a burn and both of our little girls have
Speaker 3: the last name Johnson Matt. When we originally got together,
Speaker 3: he very much said that he wanted us to have
Speaker 3: the same name in the household. He wanted me to
Speaker 3: take his name, and I sat down and had an
Speaker 3: honest conversation with him about how I really felt attached
Speaker 3: to my name and I really wanted to keep it,
Speaker 3: and I was so surprised by how okay he was
Speaker 3: with it once he realized how important it was to
Speaker 3: me and he never pushed back, so.
Speaker 5: You may be pleasantly surprised.
Speaker 3: But I think if you're just doing it because you
Speaker 3: don't want to disappoint him, but it doesn't feel authentic
Speaker 3: for you, then I think it's a really important conversation
Speaker 3: that you should have.
Speaker 4: Oh thank you, but actually makes me feel so much better.
Speaker 4: I'm going to tell him, Laura.
Speaker 5: Said, Yeah, did you tell him, Laura Burn?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: But sorry in your situation, Laura, Matt, your husband didn't
Speaker 2: change his name to Burn, So if you want all
Speaker 2: the same name as a family, that's where it comes
Speaker 2: to the issue.
Speaker 4: I don't mind. It's like we have kids. We obviously
Speaker 4: want to have kids together, and he would want the
Speaker 4: kids to have his name. It's just more maybe my name.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and that was a sacrifice we made as well.
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh no, that's really good to know that. Don't
Speaker 4: so much better.
Speaker 1: If the relationship falls apart, just blame Laura Burn. Yes,
Speaker 1: you know she's the one who pushed you.
Speaker 3: In the end, Laura Johnson, she doesn't exist's saying so much.
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Speaker 5: Coming up.
Speaker 3: I want to tell you guys about a very look
Speaker 3: got a little bit heated a fight that I had
Speaker 3: with my lovely husband Maddie J. I may have doubled down.
Speaker 1: Oh good, coming up, All right, that's next on the pickup.
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Speaker 3: Do you, guys, ever have a fight with your partner
Speaker 3: and then you know that you're wrong, Like halfway through
Speaker 3: the fight, somewhere along the way, you're like, I've made
Speaker 3: a grave error here.
Speaker 5: But then you just double down because you're stubborn.
Speaker 1: It's the shame. You can't double down once you've picked
Speaker 1: a fight. You just have to. You got a hold on.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that was the only way to fight. That's what
Speaker 5: you do.
Speaker 3: Look to put it into perspective, my beautiful husband Matt
Speaker 3: and I we don't fight very often, but we bicker.
Speaker 3: We bicker like an old married couple, and I think
Speaker 3: it's what keeps the spark alive.
Speaker 1: You know, you are as a young married couple.
Speaker 5: I know, but you know we had kids before we
Speaker 5: got married.
Speaker 3: So like, we're well in the trenches, right, that's what
Speaker 3: you do when you're in the trenches.
Speaker 1: You're bicker. You're bicker, you're bicker.
Speaker 3: Anyway, recently, our youngest Lola, she's two years old. She's
Speaker 3: had a horrendous ear infection, and we're both running on
Speaker 3: very little sleep. We are both tiged, and we are
Speaker 3: spread way too thin. Anyway, one night, her ear drum perforated. So,
Speaker 3: like I think some parents will know this. It's like
Speaker 3: when it's like they peek in pain, they're screaming, and
Speaker 3: then you walk in in the morning and all this
Speaker 3: gunk is just oozing out of their ears. Right, yuck,
Speaker 3: it's so yuck, But it also is just this moment
Speaker 3: of relief for them as well. So Lola, her ear
Speaker 3: drum are perforated, except I didn't know that that's what
Speaker 3: it was, or this gunk could come out of her ear.
Speaker 3: And I was like, well, she had swimming lessons in
Speaker 3: the morning, right, which, if your kids got an ear infection,
Speaker 3: you probably shouldn't send them to swimming lessons.
Speaker 1: No, definitely not if anyone as an ear infection, don't get.
Speaker 3: But also swimming lessons are expensive and her older sister
Speaker 3: was going, and so we were like, look, just go.
Speaker 3: She can kind of just get a legs wet.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 3: No, I was like, just just she can just play,
Speaker 3: like get her body wet, but don't like let her
Speaker 3: put her head under, you know, like don't let her
Speaker 3: get anything above the sort of the shoulders wet. But
Speaker 3: she's got a swim instructor. She could have just floated along.
Speaker 3: Her swim instructor could have bobbed her up and down
Speaker 3: a few times. Anyway, So that's what I said to Matt.
Speaker 3: I was like, she can go, but don't let her
Speaker 3: get her ear wet.
Speaker 5: And so she'd been assimming lessons for half an hour.
Speaker 3: I gave him a call and I was like, how's
Speaker 3: it all going, and he was like, oh, yeah, put
Speaker 3: a cap on, YadA YadA, yah, she's fine. I was like,
Speaker 3: what do you mean she's fine? And he was like, oh,
Speaker 3: she's she's okay, like you know, she's got a cap on.
Speaker 3: And now I felt like he wasn't taking the ear
Speaker 3: infection seriously enough, and I said she could go deaf
Speaker 3: was very dramatic, and then he got angry at me. Anyway,
Speaker 3: back and forth for a little bit The bickering escalated,
Speaker 3: and then he said, what's something he should never say
Speaker 3: on a call?
Speaker 5: He said, cheers pow? Oh them fight and were kids hard?
Speaker 5: Doesn't it cheese?
Speaker 3: It's as like, all right, ledge cheers poal. So of
Speaker 3: course I got angry and it escalated and I said.
Speaker 5: How dare you call me pal? I am not your pal? Anyway.
Speaker 3: It went on for a while and maybe I overreacted,
Speaker 3: and halfway through the overreacting, he said, are you sure
Speaker 3: you don't have your period?
Speaker 1: Hey, pal?
Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, oh, he doesn't want to
Speaker 3: have a bigger he wants a fire.
Speaker 1: Ready.
Speaker 3: So I was like, how dare and anyone knows, don't
Speaker 3: say this to someone. Don't ever say it to war
Speaker 3: who's angry? I was like, how dare you minimize my feelings?
Speaker 3: I was like, this is not because I am emotional.
Speaker 3: I was like, I, you are wrong. Anyway, this it escalated.
Speaker 3: I was yelling maybe I overreacted, and he was like
Speaker 3: I don't know about this, and I was like, I reckon,
Speaker 3: and he doubled down and he once again said, I reckon,
Speaker 3: you've got your period, so.
Speaker 5: Rude, rude.
Speaker 1: I'm not dating dating women? And I know that you
Speaker 1: don't say that to women.
Speaker 3: I don't say that, even if you think that might
Speaker 3: be the case, you don't say that. And so of
Speaker 3: course I told him he was completely wrong and what
Speaker 3: he'd done had made me so upset. I even sent
Speaker 3: him a text message afterwards, and I said to him
Speaker 3: that I feel like he's been less loving lately and
Speaker 3: he needs to really think about his behavior and he
Speaker 3: should call me and apologize.
Speaker 1: At this point, I'm just wondering where they are.
Speaker 3: Who knows where she has a head under the water.
Speaker 3: The entire assuming lesson. I was upset, and I'd send
Speaker 3: a few back and forth messages. Then I stood up
Speaker 3: and I was like, Ah, there it is.
Speaker 5: I think I just got my period.
Speaker 2: You didn't tell him that though you take that to
Speaker 2: the grave, you never admit.
Speaker 1: Don't tell him. You can't tell him. He'll win that
Speaker 1: argument forever.
Speaker 3: No, it's day four now, and I have to just
Speaker 3: tell him I've got a headache for seven days.
Speaker 1: That's so funny.
Speaker 3: I hate that he was right, and I really overreacted.
Speaker 3: And honey, if you're listening to this, I'm sorry that
Speaker 3: I'm such a walking cliche.
Speaker 1: Got to give him the credit it's like a basset hand.
Speaker 1: He knew like clockwork.
Speaker 5: Sniff it out me. Oh that's not it's just the
Speaker 5: once every month. I'm a peper.
Speaker 3: I'm a bit crazy and he knows it. And look, yeah,
Speaker 3: I really do hate that.
Speaker 5: I'm a walking cloichee Oh god.
Speaker 1: The Laura Johnson Byrne.
Speaker 3: Family Hunt can't wait to tell you what the arguments
Speaker 3: we have next week.
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Speaker 5: You're always very bubbling, Mitch. And I think I've just
Speaker 5: realized why it is.
Speaker 1: I'm a nice, loving person with a great life and
Speaker 1: good friends and a radio show that I love and
Speaker 1: a door.
Speaker 2: You have zero stressing your life because you don't adult.
Speaker 2: You don't know how to adult, and you know how
Speaker 2: I know this.
Speaker 1: Hold on, where are you in on this intervention?
Speaker 5: I have done No, I am taking a back seat
Speaker 5: right here.
Speaker 2: Oh it's not an intervention, it's an accusation. I mean,
Speaker 2: you know, we're just getting coffee Laura before the show,
Speaker 2: and his mom called and he was on speaker. You know,
Speaker 2: he always puts Michelle on speaker.
Speaker 1: And Muma loves you guys, so careful what you say.
Speaker 5: We love your mum. I'm so nice to you.
Speaker 2: I'm Tim Michelle. This is why I'm bringing this up.
Speaker 2: And she asked Mitch what he wants for dinner, and
Speaker 2: I was like, Oh, that's cute. They're getting ready there
Speaker 2: go to order any breach.
Speaker 1: And for context, I've just moved back in with my
Speaker 1: parents at twenty seven.
Speaker 2: Yes, Mitch's twenty seven newly single Bad Breakup moved back
Speaker 2: with the fan.
Speaker 3: Bad?
Speaker 5: Wasn't that the summary? That was a summary? And so
Speaker 5: Michelle's like, what do you want for dinner?
Speaker 4: Mitch?
Speaker 2: I thought they were going to or eats and like
Speaker 2: have a movie night, and Mitch started to rattle off
Speaker 2: this really long list. He wanted his mom to go
Speaker 2: and get from the grocery store. Then he rattled off
Speaker 2: a breakfast list salmon, multi grain, low carb bread and
Speaker 2: poached eggs.
Speaker 5: Then he said, if they have any of like this
Speaker 5: caviari and everything he likes that.
Speaker 3: No, it's not Wait, brit So was this just a
Speaker 3: shopping order. Or is your mom doing the cooking?
Speaker 1: Bitch?
Speaker 2: No, like she cooks every meal, Laura, every meal? Which, Turia,
Speaker 2: do you even know how to adult?
Speaker 1: Listen here they have said, we want to help you
Speaker 1: get back on your feet. So how we will help
Speaker 1: is we would just cook your meals for you. No,
Speaker 1: so my mum and my dad cooked my dinners and
Speaker 1: some of my breakfast and maybe a lunch if they're free.
Speaker 3: Okay, who is doing and snacks? Who is doing? Like
Speaker 3: you're washing and you're tidying of your person.
Speaker 1: You are in on this intervention. My mom does all
Speaker 1: my washing.
Speaker 5: No, she doesn't know I live at home. She does
Speaker 5: in taxes to.
Speaker 2: She does, Mitch, you're never gonna get into a relationship
Speaker 2: because you live like a charge.
Speaker 1: She just itemized some of the receipts that I printed,
Speaker 1: and she scanned them and put them in a word doc. Listen. No, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: because it's actually easier for my mum to do mine.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you why. Because no, it is because
Speaker 1: it'd be so confusing if if I said, I also
Speaker 1: need the washing machine. So I just put it in
Speaker 1: the basket with everyone, and she does it all in
Speaker 1: one go Mitch.
Speaker 3: This is literally weaponized in confidence to try and turn
Speaker 3: around and say, oh, it's easier for mom to do
Speaker 3: it because she's already doing it.
Speaker 1: It's not easier, it's more work. She enjoys it.
Speaker 5: This is no one I'm always washing My mom.
Speaker 1: Works two days a week, and God bless it, she
Speaker 1: loves looking after the family. That she's the best mum
Speaker 1: in the whole world, and she has offered to do this.
Speaker 1: I lived alone for years. I can adult. I may
Speaker 1: have forgotten certain key aspects, but I'm getting to help mom.
Speaker 2: She gets up before she goes to work, and you
Speaker 2: don't start work until two o'clock because we do the afternoon.
Speaker 1: Huh.
Speaker 2: And you make her cook you breakfast before she goes
Speaker 2: to work, a hot breakfast, mind you, I heard what
Speaker 2: you said. You don't have to be at workd o.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 1: She meal preps on a Sunday night and she freezes.
Speaker 5: I wonder how many people are living like you.
Speaker 1: Well, the laundry is the worst part, I think, because
Speaker 1: that's like I'll go through. I've been through a lot
Speaker 1: of clothes in my hot Go walk Era. I'm sweating too.
Speaker 1: Oh God, you've set this whole thing up. Rihanna's here
Speaker 1: on six five. What's what was your mum doing for you? Rihanna?
Speaker 4: My mom is ironing for me.
Speaker 5: How old are you?
Speaker 4: Rand And I'm thirty and I've got two small kids
Speaker 4: at home too.
Speaker 1: That's so funny for you.
Speaker 3: Is it just because the volume of ironing is too high?
Speaker 3: Or is it because you don't ever want to iron?
Speaker 3: So your mom's like, fine, give it to me.
Speaker 4: Come on, that's her and she loves it, so I
Speaker 4: can't deny her. I'll take it my washingye, And and.
Speaker 1: Thank you God.
Speaker 5: Don there an intervention for you.
Speaker 3: There is no mother on the planet who enjoys ironing.
Speaker 4: Stop.
Speaker 1: My mom puts on a podcast too, and she loves
Speaker 1: life podcast she does, Thanks, Rihanna, And I love you, babe, Hianna.
Speaker 1: I'm thirteen, one of sixty five. We should all start
Speaker 1: like a walking group. I love these girls. And what
Speaker 1: does your mum do for you?
Speaker 4: My mum folds my washing every Friday?
Speaker 2: Oh, you guys are making me sick.
Speaker 5: And how old are you? Anna? Forty five?
Speaker 4: Mid thirty?
Speaker 5: Married?
Speaker 2: You're a married mother and you take your washing.
Speaker 1: So now I'm twenty seven, I've still got baby teeth,
Speaker 1: it's okay for me to do this.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 5: Do you know what I've realized.
Speaker 3: I think the intervention needs to be with my mom
Speaker 3: because she doesn't do enough. I agree, that's where we
Speaker 3: need to turn this around to give Kimbo a call next.
Speaker 2: I would pile it up, yeah, and then go over
Speaker 2: on a Friday.
Speaker 1: Or we just get Michelle. She can start making a buck.
Speaker 1: You know, she worked tw days a week. She could
Speaker 1: make some money.
Speaker 5: I don't give it a number.
Speaker 1: Out should be a business propositions, right. But back after this,
Speaker 1: I've got I've got to reheat it for retarda that's
Speaker 1: in the freezer at the office building. He's going to go, Yeah,
Speaker 1: the Kiss Studios, and it's going to love you Michelle.
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Speaker 1: what are you standing by tomorrow?
Speaker 5: Bybee