Speaker 1: Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands
Speaker 1: were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders
Speaker 1: past and present.
Speaker 2: Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was
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Speaker 1: Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut.
Speaker 1: I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and today is Thursday Therapy, Thursday,
Speaker 1: Ask gun Cut, where you're write in you did the
Speaker 1: darkest questions, we answer them before that.
Speaker 3: It's not only Thursday, it's not only ask gun Cut,
Speaker 3: but it is.
Speaker 1: Our last record before we take a little teeny weenie Vaca.
Speaker 2: Yes, it very much is. We meant to tell you
Speaker 2: this on Tuesday's episode. We had planned and we were like, Okay,
Speaker 2: we're going to talk about the fact that we're going
Speaker 2: on a mini little holiday just two weeks off, and
Speaker 2: then we got excited and we forgot about it because
Speaker 2: engagements trump holidays.
Speaker 1: So I can't understand why that happened. And there's definitely
Speaker 1: a pecking order. It goes diarrhea, engagement holidays, engagement, NITS holiday.
Speaker 1: I think that that's the order. Nits, no awards, knits holiday.
Speaker 1: That's that's what it is. This engagement wasn't at the bottom. Also,
Speaker 1: I thoroughly enjoyed it.
Speaker 2: Somebody wrote in on our our YouTube channel, so if
Speaker 2: you guys haven't seen it and you've listened to tuesday's episode,
Speaker 2: you can also watch Tuesday's episode on the YouTube so
Speaker 2: life on cut podcast YouTube, and someone had written, actually,
Speaker 2: I'll read it to you because that really gave me
Speaker 2: a giggle this morning.
Speaker 3: When you just said the YouTube, it was so boomer.
Speaker 3: It was like, it's the same as people saying you.
Speaker 1: Can watch it on the Instagram, you can watch it
Speaker 1: on the YouTube, just on YouTube, just on YouTube.
Speaker 2: I am a millennial and I'm okay with that. I
Speaker 2: feel like I'm becoming more millennial as the days go on.
Speaker 2: I've been a lifer since twenty twenty, and it is
Speaker 2: so beautiful to see how much you have flourished together.
Speaker 2: Congrats on the award producer, Keisha, huge congratulations to you,
Speaker 2: Ben and to Britt and Laura. I am so sorry
Speaker 2: about your knits. It was like, thank you, condolences.
Speaker 3: That is the time of sympathy that I need rip
Speaker 3: to your scalp.
Speaker 2: Well, we are going on a two week break pretty
Speaker 2: much as of tomorrow.
Speaker 3: What is your plans exactly? You don't even know yet.
Speaker 1: No, we had to book really last minute because we
Speaker 1: never know what happens with Ben's football.
Speaker 3: Sometimes they want you to go back like his job.
Speaker 1: Sometimes they want you to go back early, or go
Speaker 1: somewhere else, to go to a training camp or whatever.
Speaker 1: So we always have to wait till the last minute
Speaker 1: to see if this time. So we just booked a
Speaker 1: couple of days ago. We're going back to see Sherry,
Speaker 1: my sister, Sherry and Jay. We've randomly book We just
Speaker 1: picked one place in Europe. So we're flying an all
Speaker 1: meeting in Malta.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, amazing that. You know that's what Matt's
Speaker 2: favorite place in Europe that he's been to.
Speaker 1: Well, I really yeah, I really wanted to try and
Speaker 1: go somewhere I haven't been because I did in my
Speaker 1: youth spend a lot of time in Europe. So I
Speaker 1: was like, I want to go somewhere new. Sherry hasn't
Speaker 1: been there other so we're going to Malta. So random,
Speaker 1: but I can't wait.
Speaker 3: But on the Blue Lagoon there is one of the
Speaker 3: most beautiful places in the world.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's so small so we're going to rent
Speaker 1: a car and you can get everywhere, but we've only
Speaker 1: got four or five it's very short four or five days.
Speaker 1: But on the way we're stopping in the mal Dives,
Speaker 1: just like a sneaky little bypass. You know.
Speaker 2: Most people have like their holiday destination that they frequent
Speaker 2: it's like Byron Bay or down the coast.
Speaker 3: And Brittany goes to the Maldives. She was like, we're
Speaker 3: just popping back in. Well, I this is Ben. Ben
Speaker 3: wanted to go there really badly.
Speaker 1: He loved it so much and he only gets one
Speaker 1: holiday a year, so he was like, can we stop
Speaker 1: in the Maldives? And I'm like, I mean, the worst
Speaker 1: place is to stop. The mountains is so hard to
Speaker 1: get to.
Speaker 3: It's not fourteen direct flight, is it?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Fourteen and a half hour, It's not.
Speaker 1: That hard to get going to the Bermuda Triangle. I
Speaker 1: think people think it's really far. No, I think people
Speaker 1: just think it's really expensive.
Speaker 3: It is.
Speaker 1: You can do it really expensive or you can do
Speaker 1: it pretty cheap too. It just depends on what you
Speaker 1: want to stay, what island and how lush like it's
Speaker 1: like anywhere you can go to Barley and do it cheap,
Speaker 1: waller expensive, like there's always options. But that's my holiday.
Speaker 1: What are you doing, Laura?
Speaker 2: So I am going to India on Sunday and my
Speaker 2: sister and I with Tony May. We manufacture at all
Speaker 2: different places, but in India that's where we get a
Speaker 2: lot of our stones from because that is like such
Speaker 2: a mineral hub before like all semi precious stones, so
Speaker 2: we have multiple supplies over there. We're going to Jaipur,
Speaker 2: then we're going to Mumbai. We're going to Delhi and
Speaker 2: then we fly from there to Bali. So I've got
Speaker 2: twelve days of NonStop work. It's kind of like how
Speaker 2: we run things, like when we're on holidays from here,
Speaker 2: I just go and do that job instead. But I'm
Speaker 2: going without the kids, and I'm going without Matt. So
Speaker 2: it's twelve days of blizz It's twelve days of uninterrupted sleep.
Speaker 2: Not been back to India since before I met Matt,
Speaker 2: so I can't wait. But I also don't know how
Speaker 2: I'm gonna feel about it now, because when I went
Speaker 2: in my twenties, I loved the chaos, I loved the overstimulation.
Speaker 2: I loved that you kind of have to be okay
Speaker 2: with things not going the way that you want them
Speaker 2: to go because they don't follow the same order as
Speaker 2: what they do in Australia that we used to no rules, No,
Speaker 2: well there's rules, but it's kind of like Bali, but
Speaker 2: times a million in terms of just how chaotic it
Speaker 2: can be and how busy it is. But I don't
Speaker 2: know whether I'm going to enjoy that as much as
Speaker 2: what I did when I was also just traveling and
Speaker 2: didn't have any like time limitations around me. But now
Speaker 2: going there for work and having like very structured things
Speaker 2: that I need to get done whilst I'm there, if
Speaker 2: things don't go to plan, I'm going to find that
Speaker 2: very very frustrating. So I'm curious to see whether I
Speaker 2: actually enjoyed it as much as I did when I
Speaker 2: was just traveling around.
Speaker 1: It's so interesting because travel changes so much as you
Speaker 1: get older, totally. I just think of the things that
Speaker 1: I used to do when I was backpacking in my
Speaker 1: twenties with Sherry, and I look back at it now
Speaker 1: with like almost like a parental motherly lenses.
Speaker 3: And I'm not a parent or a mother, but I'm
Speaker 3: old enough to be.
Speaker 1: But I look back and I'm like, were you crazy
Speaker 1: putting yourself in those situations and like doing the things
Speaker 1: that you did now that I know are so dangerous.
Speaker 1: The places that we slept, like we were sharing single
Speaker 1: beds in hostels.
Speaker 3: Now I'm like, I'm just popping back.
Speaker 2: To the mouldip speaking of sounding boomer, you just joined
Speaker 2: me on that saying I feel parental.
Speaker 3: Back in the day, what in my time, I would
Speaker 3: have done some crazy.
Speaker 2: Okay, last time I was in India, I got this
Speaker 2: stupid tattoo.
Speaker 3: I was in ak with my best girlfriend Kaya.
Speaker 2: And we were like, yollow, let's get Tattoosine. I got
Speaker 2: a mandala, also terribly culturally inappropriate. I know that now,
Speaker 2: but I was like nineteen at the time I got
Speaker 2: a mandala, and I got off center because I was like,
Speaker 2: everything in life is off center. And then for my
Speaker 2: entire twenties, people would look at my wrists and be like, wow,
Speaker 2: you had a big weekend. So everyone thought that this
Speaker 2: stupid tattoo was a nightclub stamp.
Speaker 3: I cringe. My whole twenty is tiny bit.
Speaker 1: Every time you tell a story about how you got
Speaker 1: it off center, because life's off center.
Speaker 3: Life is off center.
Speaker 1: I'm going to take me to a tattoours is very stupid, Producercasia.
Speaker 3: Where are you going for holiday? I am going first week.
Speaker 3: I'm actually gonna go and meet my brand new niece.
Speaker 4: My brother and sister in law had their third baby
Speaker 4: last week and.
Speaker 3: So I'm gonna go meet her. And then I'm going
Speaker 3: to Bali for a week.
Speaker 4: And I'm so so excited to just like lay on
Speaker 4: a beach and not do anything.
Speaker 3: I don't know what I'm gonna do with myself though.
Speaker 4: The last time I went to Bali for me, Semnyak
Speaker 4: and Chungu were just a little bit too busy.
Speaker 3: For what I was after. So this time I'm going
Speaker 3: on a chill in Uluwashu. Don't get an off center tattoo.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna get in a dull.
Speaker 2: I promise I will not come back with any more tattoos. Also,
Speaker 2: and I know that this is not as big a
Speaker 2: deal to anybody else as what it is to me,
Speaker 2: But today is Marley's birthday and she is five years old,
Speaker 2: and it is crazy to me that when we started
Speaker 2: this podcast, she was.
Speaker 3: In my belly and on your tit a lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and so like when we started having the conversations
Speaker 2: around whether we were going to make a podcast or not.
Speaker 2: I was like midway through my pregnancy, and then when
Speaker 2: we recorded our first episode, I was very, very, very
Speaker 2: heavily pregnant, so like there's real significance around like Marley's birthdate.
Speaker 2: So yeah, I had a moment today this morning when
Speaker 2: I got her out of bed and we had like
Speaker 2: presents and stuff before coming to work. It was the
Speaker 2: first time where I felt like, I can't believe that
Speaker 2: she's that big. I can't believe that much time has
Speaker 2: passed and how quickly it's passing.
Speaker 1: It is actually wild when you think about it like that,
Speaker 1: and when you link the two, because I still look
Speaker 1: at her like she's like two years old. She's a baby,
Speaker 1: and that means I still look at life on cunt
Speaker 1: like that. But when you think back, I don't think
Speaker 1: if you asked me on that day that we started
Speaker 1: that podcast, literally almost five years to the day, we've
Speaker 1: just actually missed.
Speaker 3: The birthday by a week.
Speaker 2: No, we recorded early, so we actually started conversations like
Speaker 2: six months before this, But basically we recorded an episode
Speaker 2: and then we didn't release it into July July, so
Speaker 2: it's our birthday is coming out for life and cart
Speaker 2: we need.
Speaker 1: To not forget our birthday because we forget it every year.
Speaker 1: But if you ask me then five years ago, do
Speaker 1: you think this will be your full time job and
Speaker 1: that you'll be still doing it in five years? I
Speaker 1: would have said no way. Like I would have said,
Speaker 1: I would have hoped it. But I had no idea.
Speaker 1: I'm going to cry and what is wrong with me?
Speaker 3: I had no idea that the podcast, that.
Speaker 1: Little idea that we had would turn into something that
Speaker 1: changed our entire life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're so glad that you guys have all joined
Speaker 2: in and been along with it. But yeah, five years
Speaker 2: your birthday. Miley so much she's the freaking verse. I
Speaker 2: can't believe she's five years old. But anyway, guys, that's
Speaker 2: a little update, a life update from us.
Speaker 3: We have two weeks holiday then we're back. We're refreshed.
Speaker 2: Oh, we've got some great interviews which we've already banked
Speaker 2: when we come back. So yeah, we're going to be
Speaker 2: hitting it hard in two weeks time. But let's get
Speaker 2: into vibes and unsubscribes. Brit what is your vibe of
Speaker 2: the week.
Speaker 1: My vibe this week is a drink, and it is
Speaker 1: a drink that my fiance Ben has brought into my life.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 1: Ben doesn't drink a lot because they can't drink all year.
Speaker 1: He gets one time of the year he drinks, and
Speaker 1: because it's the only time he's allowed to drink on holiday. Now,
Speaker 1: he doesn't like alcohol, to be honest, so he drinks
Speaker 1: things that mainly don't taste a lot like alcohol. But
Speaker 1: this is a Spanish drink that he has told me
Speaker 1: about that they drink over there. The locals drink it
Speaker 1: like it's like a very very local sangria.
Speaker 3: It's literally and he's been ordering this at every restaurant
Speaker 3: we go to.
Speaker 1: It's just a red wine that's quite full bodied, and
Speaker 1: you just do half a glass of red wine loads
Speaker 1: of ice, and then it has to be the other
Speaker 1: half has to be orange fanta. So he mixes just
Speaker 1: wine and fantera. And when he told me about it,
Speaker 1: because I love red wine, I was like, I don't
Speaker 1: know if I want to butcher my red wine like that,
Speaker 1: And now I'm obsessed.
Speaker 2: It's so funny because we went out for dinner the
Speaker 2: other night and he ordered this and I looked at
Speaker 2: him like he was an absolute freak.
Speaker 3: But okay, I.
Speaker 2: Don't know whether my phone is listening to me or
Speaker 2: whether I'm going to put my tin ful hat on
Speaker 2: and be all conspiracy theory. I went home that night,
Speaker 2: went on TikTok and somebody had made a TikTok this
Speaker 2: is how to make a homemade sangria, and just did
Speaker 2: half served red wine and half serve fanta.
Speaker 3: It is now delicious. I've been served it twice, as
Speaker 3: in like I've not.
Speaker 2: Known physically brought it to you, but I've been served
Speaker 2: it on the internet twice.
Speaker 1: Well, maybe you should physically be served it and try it,
Speaker 1: but that is it. The key is make sure there's
Speaker 1: loads of ice in it. It has to be really really cold,
Speaker 1: but it is divine like, it's so weird.
Speaker 3: That's my recommendation.
Speaker 4: It's kind of like a mimosa but two point zero.
Speaker 4: But mimosas are also acceptable because everyone does it. If
Speaker 4: you go into a bar in Australia and ask for
Speaker 4: red wine and fantom, people still look at you like
Speaker 4: you just sit all the time.
Speaker 1: It's funny because Benny's this big six nearly six foot six,
Speaker 1: and everyone's ordering their drinks and he goes do you
Speaker 1: have fanta? Like? It's always just very funny every time
Speaker 1: I ask it, because he doesn't ask for red wine
Speaker 1: and fanta.
Speaker 4: He always checks if they've got the fanto first, and
Speaker 4: it just makes him sound like a child that's ordering
Speaker 4: out like a fire engine.
Speaker 3: Vibe for the week.
Speaker 2: My vibe for the week is it's an episode of
Speaker 2: The Daily OS. It's twelve minutes, so you can listen.
Speaker 2: It's very, very snappy. I'm recommending it because I was
Speaker 2: also recommended it by so many of you who listened
Speaker 2: to it yesterday or who saw it in socials and
Speaker 2: thought maybe I would be interested in it. And you
Speaker 2: will understand why in two seconds. Maybe I should be
Speaker 2: offended by this.
Speaker 3: I'm not sure. I can't imagine the Daily OL's doing
Speaker 3: a plant podcast.
Speaker 2: No, but you will understand this one. It is the
Speaker 2: rise in young women getting LaBier surgery.
Speaker 3: Oh yes, saw that. Now.
Speaker 2: It's all around the social pressures as to why there
Speaker 2: has been this increase in women wanting to get it done.
Speaker 3: And it's really interesting.
Speaker 2: It's like the most rapidly increasing plastic surgery that is
Speaker 2: happening at the moment, as in, like the most increase
Speaker 2: in requested plastic surgery, and it unpacks the reasons why
Speaker 2: that's happening in young people, like why women feeling insecure
Speaker 2: around their labiers, what are the reasons why women are
Speaker 2: asking for it now?
Speaker 3: And also what has.
Speaker 2: Been the impact from the porn industry in terms of
Speaker 2: how we view our bodies and the expectation for our
Speaker 2: bodies to look certain way. There seems to be a
Speaker 2: bit of a movement at the moment talking about labya plasty, and.
Speaker 3: We just want to say that Laura's labia got it first.
Speaker 2: I just want to say we've been talking about it
Speaker 2: for years, okay, But I think that there's two reasons
Speaker 2: why people discuss this. One is because maybe after childbirth,
Speaker 2: things or not even maybe things are just like gravity's
Speaker 2: taking a hole, guys, boomer, but maybe things are not
Speaker 2: what they used to be. And it's a functionally impacts
Speaker 2: your life, right, that's an actual thing. Some people have
Speaker 2: labiers that are uncomfortable because of length or size or whatever.
Speaker 1: But then for us it's also like it's a bit
Speaker 1: of an oh ands thing, like sometimes we trip over
Speaker 1: yours at work.
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally, so we do. Yeah, we need to like
Speaker 2: I've got a particulation of a tax deduction.
Speaker 1: Now I've got to use double sided sticky tape to
Speaker 1: sticking it back inside myself. Otherwise it's just like they're
Speaker 1: coming out the bottoms of my jeans.
Speaker 3: Guys.
Speaker 2: Fuck, So one day when I do get my labia plasty,
Speaker 2: you just know it's not because they want to look
Speaker 2: like a Barbie doll.
Speaker 3: It's just because I don't want to trip your stuff.
Speaker 3: I don't want my laby to hang in the toilet
Speaker 3: bot when I got to something, I don't want to
Speaker 3: go too far. I don't want the splash back.
Speaker 1: Well, you could pull it over like a wind catcher,
Speaker 1: like you're blown away like a kite surf.
Speaker 3: You could go klidesurfing like you're parachuting, and I can
Speaker 3: hold them out, sugar child.
Speaker 4: I will say though, that you guys had such a
Speaker 4: good conversation with Ellie from Comfortable in my Skin, who
Speaker 4: chose not to have a laby a plassy, And I
Speaker 4: think that if we're going to talk about, you know,
Speaker 4: the reasons people want them, we should also talk about
Speaker 4: the reasons that people shouldn't get them or have decided
Speaker 4: that they don't want them.
Speaker 2: So we'll also yeah, absolutely. That episode is amazing. That
Speaker 2: episode with Ellie was a couple of years ago now.
Speaker 2: But also I want to be very clear. I know
Speaker 2: we joke about it a lot, and there will probably
Speaker 2: come a time where I do get it done and
Speaker 2: I have that conversation with you all. But I also
Speaker 2: know that there are a lot of people who have
Speaker 2: had it and regretted it because they weren't specific enough
Speaker 2: around how much they wanted taken off or how they
Speaker 2: wanted it to be, and so therefore it became purely
Speaker 2: about aesthetics and not about function.
Speaker 3: And you need lair beers. They are important.
Speaker 4: I have a friend who falls into that category. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I don't want the less pleasure in sex now.
Speaker 3: I don't want it all gone. I just want to
Speaker 3: just want to nip and duck.
Speaker 1: Just want I just want half, just want half of
Speaker 1: aba on each side.
Speaker 3: Just did a little trim jim.
Speaker 1: Anyway, maybe if I have another third child, then I'll
Speaker 1: have it done.
Speaker 3: Don't think it done before, Yeah no, don't get it
Speaker 3: done before you're going to birth. God knows what's gonna happen.
Speaker 3: Slip and slide for the baby to come out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you could just straightens arms out.
Speaker 3: Clara La La Laura.
Speaker 1: Byozer and Hammock to bar just streaking up on one side.
Speaker 1: The kid sits in it hangs a close up pick. Akay,
Speaker 1: that's enough, Keisha. Do you have any other? I do?
Speaker 4: And it's gonna sound so serious and boring after that demonstration. Sorry, guys,
Speaker 4: I have a new podcast that I'm really starting to
Speaker 4: just turn through. It is called search Engine and it
Speaker 4: was named the best podcast of twenty twenty three by Vulture, Time,
Speaker 4: The Economist, and Vogue.
Speaker 3: So you know, it's life on card, isn't that?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Apparently not I no editor's mistake. They're only human.
Speaker 4: So this particular episode, it will probably only be interesting
Speaker 4: to statistically about seven percent of you.
Speaker 3: The episode that I started on.
Speaker 4: I was sent this by a friend who said that
Speaker 4: I'd be really interested in it, and it's part one.
Speaker 4: It's called why Do I Take Speed? For twenty Years?
Speaker 4: There is also a part two, and so what's quite
Speaker 4: interesting about it is that the host of the podcast
Speaker 4: has ADHD and was on prescription stimulants for twenty years.
Speaker 4: He is now not on those stimulants, and I think
Speaker 4: he kind of regrets being on medication for that long
Speaker 4: I mean, We've spoken a million times about the fact
Speaker 4: that I'm diagnosed and medicated on ADHD medications. Also, I
Speaker 4: have to be kind of careful of what I say
Speaker 4: because the TGA in Australia has really strict regulations on
Speaker 4: talking about prescription medications. You know, we're spoken about that
Speaker 4: more recently with Bota and with Litfeller, but it also
Speaker 4: applies to this. So this episode was all about the
Speaker 4: history of where stimulant medication came from. I think this
Speaker 4: would be interesting for anyone who is potentially either thinking
Speaker 4: about currently taking or maybe has a kid who is
Speaker 4: thinking about going on stimulant medication for ADHD. This is
Speaker 4: like a real critical analysis of the medications and their
Speaker 4: impacts on different things like diet, culture, on depression, currently
Speaker 4: what it's being used for for narcolepsy and ADHD.
Speaker 3: It was absolutely fascinating.
Speaker 4: And I think it's quite interesting that I am recommending
Speaker 4: this because part one of this podcast it's such a
Speaker 4: critical analysis of stimulant medication that it almost feels in
Speaker 4: opposition to my current beliefs. But I think when you're
Speaker 4: going through the process of being diagnosed and if you're
Speaker 4: thinking about taking a medication, like that. It's really good
Speaker 4: to have all of the tools. It's good to have
Speaker 4: all of the education so that you can make an
Speaker 4: informed decision for yourself. I'm still on the medication. I
Speaker 4: still will be. I don't mind if I take it
Speaker 4: for twenty years. Like this guy seemed to not have liked,
Speaker 4: but I really enjoyed educating myself more with like the
Speaker 4: history of it and the potential impacts that I might
Speaker 4: face in the future.
Speaker 2: And also I think it's good to like not be
Speaker 2: in an echo chamber of your own things like nice
Speaker 2: to hear what other people's experiences have been and then
Speaker 2: see how you feel and how you relate or don't relate.
Speaker 3: Absolutely.
Speaker 4: And part two is from someone else's perspective, a woman
Speaker 4: who found medication later in life, which is a story
Speaker 4: that we hear a lot.
Speaker 3: A lot of women are diagnosed later in life.
Speaker 4: Because of the way that ADHD was viewed back in
Speaker 4: the day, and her perspective aligns a lot more with mine.
Speaker 3: So, like you said, Las, I don't want to end
Speaker 3: up in an echo chamber. I think that it was
Speaker 3: such a fascinating episode.
Speaker 4: It sounds as though it's going to be quite heavy
Speaker 4: and hard to get through, but the way it was.
Speaker 3: Produced it kind of reminded me a little bit of Cereal.
Speaker 4: Remember the podcast that everyone started on, how like it
Speaker 4: had this relatively heavy information, but they delivered it in
Speaker 4: such an engaging way. I absolutely churned through it. So yeah,
Speaker 4: it's called search Engine. They cover all different topics, really
Speaker 4: really interesting ones. This particular one is called why I
Speaker 4: take speed for twenty years and links for everything will
Speaker 4: be in the.
Speaker 3: Show notes except for red Wine fantas, except I really
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 1: All right, let's get into the questions.
Speaker 2: Question number one is it rude to leave a wedding
Speaker 2: before the bride and groom. I have always thought that
Speaker 2: you're not supposed to leave a wedding before the couple.
Speaker 2: But recently I went to a wedding and heaps of
Speaker 2: people were leaving early. And now I'm wondering, well, am
Speaker 2: I in the wrong for thinking this? Or is this
Speaker 2: just a very old notion or a wives tale? And
Speaker 2: you can kind of do whatever you want?
Speaker 3: Help?
Speaker 1: Oh, I think this one comes with some caveats, like
Speaker 1: I don't think this is a black and white answer.
Speaker 1: Generally speaking, I want to say, no, you shouldn't leave
Speaker 1: before the bride and the groom. However, that is based
Speaker 1: on the fact that in Australia most wedding venues most
Speaker 1: have like a timeframe of ten ten thirty, like it's
Speaker 1: quite early.
Speaker 3: It's early, it's really suck it up, stay until ten thirty.
Speaker 1: One hundred percent if you have gone to one of
Speaker 1: these very rare weddings where they've hired a property or
Speaker 1: a farm or something where you're allowed to party all
Speaker 1: night and they're still partying at five am, then one
Speaker 1: hundred percent go home whenever.
Speaker 3: But I would go so far as to.
Speaker 1: Say it is rude for you if it's a normal
Speaker 1: wedding that is ten ten thirty eleven max. It is
Speaker 1: rude for you to go before the bride and the
Speaker 1: groom because weddings are pretty jam packed, right.
Speaker 3: Chances are you've only probably.
Speaker 1: Just finished eating, just finished the speeches. You probably have
Speaker 1: an hour of dancing, and then you're going to go home.
Speaker 3: Is their day.
Speaker 1: Nothing's more important in the next half an hour, like
Speaker 1: you can lose half an hour sleep.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think I feel more passionate about this
Speaker 2: because I mean I had my wedding year and a
Speaker 2: half ago now, and you're right brit there is almost
Speaker 2: effing no venues in Australia. They'd let you go past
Speaker 2: ten thirty like that actually crazy. So our wedding ten thirty,
Speaker 2: The buses were there, it was wrapping up. I think
Speaker 2: it started at maybe three o'clock. Now I get it.
Speaker 2: That's a long day. There's a couple of exceptions. If
Speaker 2: you get so drunk that you can't stand, go home.
Speaker 2: I don't want you at my wedding. If you're pregnant
Speaker 2: and your feet hurt, go home. If you're elderly, you're.
Speaker 1: Going to hook up with someone on the dance floor
Speaker 1: and you can't possibly wait because the luss is there,
Speaker 1: go home.
Speaker 3: Don't give them a blow job in the toilets. No wedding,
Speaker 3: go home.
Speaker 2: It's like, there are a couple of exceptions, but I
Speaker 2: would say overwhelmingly the rule is if you're just a
Speaker 2: bit bored and you're a bit tired. I think that
Speaker 2: this is one of those This is one of those
Speaker 2: times in life where normally we would say have boundaries,
Speaker 2: but this is one very specific time where you're there
Speaker 2: to celebrate someone else.
Speaker 3: It actually isn't about you.
Speaker 2: So if there is an absolute reason why you can't
Speaker 2: make it to ten thirty, then I get it. But
Speaker 2: the vibe doesn't just come to you. The wedding just
Speaker 2: doesn't happen for you. You've got to also show up
Speaker 2: to the wedding and have a great time and like
Speaker 2: dance and do stuff that makes it fun for everyone.
Speaker 3: Think of it.
Speaker 1: If you were like doing a speech, like a Ted talk,
Speaker 1: and they were like three hundred people in the audience,
Speaker 1: and then in the middle of talking, you saw a
Speaker 1: couple of people stand up and walk out and sneak out,
Speaker 1: and you saw a few more people go, how would
Speaker 1: you feel.
Speaker 3: You'd be like, oh my god, that's mortifying. That sucks.
Speaker 3: I can't believe they're leaving had a bad wedding.
Speaker 1: Then you see all these holes in the audience. There's
Speaker 1: not that many people anymore. It's the same thing, like
Speaker 1: the bride in the groom are going to see you
Speaker 1: fucking leave. It's not a rave with twenty five thousand people.
Speaker 1: And I just think it sucks. I think suck it up.
Speaker 3: Yes, live your life. Don't really think you don't want
Speaker 3: to do except at your best friend's wedding. I agree.
Speaker 2: And also, all weddings are different, right, they're all cut
Speaker 2: from a different cloth. Some weddings are so fun. Some
Speaker 2: weddings the speeches go for way too long and they're
Speaker 2: a bit boring and they're not as fun.
Speaker 3: I totally understand that, and everyone does PowerPoint presentations for
Speaker 3: the speeches.
Speaker 2: Like me.
Speaker 3: Some people do, And some people's weddings are boring. And
Speaker 3: I've been to a boring wedding.
Speaker 2: But I think even if the speeches go for too long,
Speaker 2: and even if the wedding is boring, it's not about you.
Speaker 2: As soon as those speeches are done, as soon as
Speaker 2: that dance floor kicks off, just get up, even if
Speaker 2: you don't really want to dance, get up and give
Speaker 2: it a crack, because sometimes it finds you sometimes, like
Speaker 2: the spirit of like getting into it will find.
Speaker 3: You, and I finds you.
Speaker 2: And there's nothing worse than when it's your wedding. And
Speaker 2: I've been to a few of them where people just
Speaker 2: won't get up onto the dance floor and it's like,
Speaker 2: come on, guys, like you will have fun if you
Speaker 2: choose to have fun here, but people.
Speaker 3: Just some fun is a choice. Fun is a choice.
Speaker 3: Fun is not a band aid, but it is a choice. Yes,
Speaker 3: it's not your day. You're not your day.
Speaker 1: You are there to enjoy someone else's day and make
Speaker 1: it the best day of their life.
Speaker 3: So I agree to do that. I like that.
Speaker 2: We felt very passionately about that. Some people might disagree
Speaker 2: on that one.
Speaker 1: I'm putting security at my wedding so people can't leave
Speaker 1: that is trying to get out. She's like, I sit
Speaker 1: your ass down.
Speaker 2: Like staying there to the door. It's like red taped
Speaker 2: until ten thirty pm. The bus is not coming.
Speaker 1: You have in the middle of the field and people
Speaker 1: have to run across if they want to leave you.
Speaker 3: I've got like my nanna on a chain, change to
Speaker 3: the table. She can't. She's got like a four meter radius.
Speaker 2: That's our joke about So Matt's mum's back from her
Speaker 2: holiday at the moment as you guys, oh, I mean,
Speaker 2: if you've been listening for long enough, you know, like
Speaker 2: Matts mum moved in with us. We have this joke
Speaker 2: that we've got her tied up under the basement because
Speaker 2: we don't want it to ever leave.
Speaker 1: We're like, bring her out. We wanted to clean the house.
Speaker 1: She just let her out. Let anyone see you now
Speaker 1: that we need a babysitter and we needed to clean
Speaker 1: the house.
Speaker 3: Come on out, Come on out, Ellie houch. Come did
Speaker 3: you just grab a food? I sued under the door. No,
Speaker 3: we love her. We take care of Ellie's room in
Speaker 3: the house. Room question number three. A guy I was.
Speaker 2: Dating for him this is so funny for a month
Speaker 2: ghosted me two months ago, and I didn't bother to
Speaker 2: follow up because well, we both kind of knew that
Speaker 2: we didn't like each other enough. He was really hot, though,
Speaker 2: so I wouldn't have minded having something casual. Fast forward
Speaker 2: two months to now and he's decided to call me
Speaker 2: randomly out of the blue, And when I asked his
Speaker 2: reason for calling, he said that he's been reflecting and
Speaker 2: he felt really bad that he ghosted me, and he
Speaker 2: wanted to formally tell me that he didn't think we
Speaker 2: were compatible.
Speaker 3: He then went into the aha, all right, Trevor.
Speaker 2: He then went into the reasons why we wouldn't work out.
Speaker 3: I don't know what's worse.
Speaker 1: Being ghosted or having a ghost pop back up to
Speaker 1: tell you why he ghosted you.
Speaker 3: I had a little hope that he wanted to try
Speaker 3: dating again.
Speaker 1: That he literally just doubled down on why he thought
Speaker 1: we wouldn't work out any thoughts on what's worse the
Speaker 1: fucking hell.
Speaker 3: I actually don't know. There's part of me that at
Speaker 3: least you've got your closure.
Speaker 1: There's part of me that sort of respects it a
Speaker 1: little bit, like like we've all said, ghosting is so shitty,
Speaker 1: Like there's nothing worse. But it's a very clear message
Speaker 1: that I'm not interested because like I've wiped you from
Speaker 1: my mind, from my life, to my Instagram, the carrier pigeon.
Speaker 1: I'm not sending that anymore, Like you don't exist anymore.
Speaker 1: There's no clearer message than a ghost, right, which I
Speaker 1: think is so funny because most of the time people go,
Speaker 1: I just haven't had closure because I got ghosted.
Speaker 3: I'm like, that's as much closure as you ever need.
Speaker 1: The door doesn't close anymore, so much chat like this
Speaker 1: shit is closed. But then there's a part of me
Speaker 1: that's like, Okay, maybe this is a turning point for
Speaker 1: this man, and maybe you're prepping him to go out
Speaker 1: into the wor for other women.
Speaker 3: Maybe he's had a conversation with.
Speaker 1: A friend, maybe someone's ghosted him, maybe he's listened to
Speaker 1: Lifelin cut. I don't know, but he's had a realization
Speaker 1: for whatever reason, that what he did was shit.
Speaker 3: So is I think he's done the right thing? He's like,
Speaker 3: do you know what? She was actually great?
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna let her know why I did what
Speaker 1: I did and why it's not gonna work out.
Speaker 3: I understand.
Speaker 1: So I understand that you feel really shit, but in
Speaker 1: a way, in a way, you are leaving the world
Speaker 1: in a better place because you're making this man better
Speaker 1: for a woman moving forward. I mean, no one needs
Speaker 1: to double down, but no one wants to be the
Speaker 1: test dummy though, Like no one wants to be the
Speaker 1: one that like springboards someone to be a better man.
Speaker 1: I actually interpret this and like, maybe this will make
Speaker 1: you feel better about yourself. I think that this is
Speaker 1: the hallmark of someone who has an inflated sense of
Speaker 1: their own ego. Like I'm like, you think you are
Speaker 1: so important, you think that I have spent two months
Speaker 1: pining over the fact that you stopped talking to me.
Speaker 3: You even said to yourself too months. I didn't even
Speaker 3: hear this two months, he said.
Speaker 2: I didn't bother following up because we both kind of
Speaker 2: knew that we didn't like each other enough.
Speaker 3: Like you also don't like this guy. You know you
Speaker 3: don't like this guy. You dated him for half of
Speaker 3: the time.
Speaker 1: That he ghosted you, and then he had the audacity
Speaker 1: to call you two months later and be like, I'm
Speaker 1: so I know that you're soberreft. I know you haven't
Speaker 1: been able to move on, and I've thought about my
Speaker 1: actions and I just want to let you know that
Speaker 1: it's you and not me. I've also sent you some
Speaker 1: clean next to your house because you're probably crying.
Speaker 3: That is actually so funny, like two months of silence.
Speaker 1: Thought he could actually also be paper clipping you or
Speaker 1: bread crumbing you like paper clipping.
Speaker 3: I don't want brag. It's a new term. I just
Speaker 3: dropped in them. Wow, I never heard that, and I
Speaker 3: was really impressed. Thank you. Paper clipping it's.
Speaker 1: A dumb term anyway, but it just basically means that,
Speaker 1: like it's the same as every other term, but it's
Speaker 1: just you. It just pops back in to let you
Speaker 1: know he's a good guy and he's still there in
Speaker 1: case he changes his mind in another two months, Like
Speaker 1: the two months goes past and he wants to come
Speaker 1: back and be like, do you know what, Maybe I
Speaker 1: was wrong, Maybe we should pick it back up. You
Speaker 1: can't do that if you've ghosted. But if you've been
Speaker 1: respectable and you're like, hey, like you are great, it's
Speaker 1: just that, like, I'm just not convinced it's going to
Speaker 1: work out in two months. If he then comes back
Speaker 1: and he goes, do you know what I've been thinking? Like,
Speaker 1: maybe we can give it a go, you'd be like.
Speaker 3: Fuck, yeah, come on over.
Speaker 1: But if there wasn't that in between, and there was
Speaker 1: just a ghosting, I mean, this is what I would do.
Speaker 1: I would be more inclined. Prince calls someone, I'm really
Speaker 1: so sorry.
Speaker 3: I just wanted you to know that. Actually I've been
Speaker 3: thinking about it. I don't think we should date anymore.
Speaker 1: No. I mean, if I was the girl, if someone
Speaker 1: had ghosted me and came back months later, I'd been like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what, let's get another go.
Speaker 3: I'd be like, no, you're a dick, I haven't heard
Speaker 3: from you.
Speaker 1: But if they respectfully came back to say hey, I
Speaker 1: realized what I did wasn't right. If they then came
Speaker 1: back to meet up, I'd be like, yeah, because you
Speaker 1: were so good about it a couple of months ago.
Speaker 3: So I feel like he's covered his basis.
Speaker 2: But fuck that, Britt, you were such an amber flag
Speaker 2: just saying you're like, I know that what he's done
Speaker 2: is wrong.
Speaker 3: I know that he's wearing today. I've a giant pink flag.
Speaker 3: You're a giant pink flag.
Speaker 2: I genuinely I read this, and I think this guy
Speaker 2: has such a big ego. But I also think that
Speaker 2: you are letting ego get in the way as well,
Speaker 2: because you've literally said you didn't care because you knew
Speaker 2: you weren't right for each other. But then when he
Speaker 2: popped back up and he like you know, called you again,
Speaker 2: you said that you kind of had a little bit
Speaker 2: of hope that maybe he wanted to try dating again.
Speaker 2: You don't like this guy, You actually don't want to
Speaker 2: date him again, but you want him to want you.
Speaker 2: That's all that is. Like you want him to have
Speaker 2: not taken the decision away from you.
Speaker 3: And I get it. We all want to feel like
Speaker 3: we're the one who gets to make the pick.
Speaker 2: But in this instance, I would just say, like, Okay,
Speaker 2: thanks for the call, Please don't call me a game we.
Speaker 1: Call send a text, Like if you're just doubling down
Speaker 1: on why you don't want to date someone.
Speaker 3: It doesn't have to be a physical phone call.
Speaker 2: Right, Okay, so I agree with that, But the other
Speaker 2: thing I kind of want to like just move this
Speaker 2: question into another sort of camp. So apologies, right, I
Speaker 2: know that, Like, it's really great when people apologize for
Speaker 2: the things that they've done to hurt you. That is
Speaker 2: a really important and step in healing. However, sometimes apologies
Speaker 2: are actually not for the person who has been hurt.
Speaker 2: Sometimes apologies are for the person who did the hurting
Speaker 2: so that they are able to move forward. But sometimes
Speaker 2: I think even with this sort of this sort of situation,
Speaker 2: he's apologizing or he's like trying to make good with you,
Speaker 2: actually isn't for you at all.
Speaker 3: It's so that he can clear his conscience.
Speaker 2: And I would say, if that's the reason why you're
Speaker 2: apologizing to someone, if it's got nothing to do with
Speaker 2: them and that's one hundred percent about you, does it
Speaker 2: do damage by calling and giving that apology? Are you
Speaker 2: going to leave them in a worse place by bringing
Speaker 2: up something that they don't want to think about and
Speaker 2: they've moved on from.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And to be clear, he didn't apologize, He just
Speaker 1: want to tell them why it wasn't going to work.
Speaker 3: I know, all right.
Speaker 1: Last question does a question on everyone's lips their butt lips?
Speaker 3: That is I don't know how I feel about this question.
Speaker 3: My friend and I are having a serious.
Speaker 2: Debate that is debatable. The fact you think this is serious,
Speaker 2: It's definitely questionable.
Speaker 3: Very serious. I would put this into the series category one.
Speaker 3: I want to know how you do it.
Speaker 1: My friend and I having a serious debate about how
Speaker 1: to wipe your butt.
Speaker 3: We've settled that we're both toilet paper.
Speaker 1: Folders and not scrunches, but we wipe our poops very differently.
Speaker 3: Please help.
Speaker 1: Do you A sit on the toilet, reach underneath between
Speaker 1: your legs and wipe that way? Or do you B
Speaker 1: sit on the toilet, reach around the back and wipe
Speaker 1: from that angle?
Speaker 3: Or C do you stand up and wipe?
Speaker 1: She says that she's option B, the other girl is
Speaker 1: Option A, and they both think they are absolutely crazy.
Speaker 3: This is irrelevant, she says. Occasionally I go for option
Speaker 3: see where she stands, but that's fucked.
Speaker 1: I'll never forget the day that I realized my ex
Speaker 1: boyfriend was a standard and it really changed everything for me.
Speaker 3: Why do you think why men's stand men's stand your
Speaker 3: feelings about this, because you were like, you don't know
Speaker 3: how you feel.
Speaker 2: I'm a scruncher firstly, straight out scrunch and I'm a
Speaker 2: which is okay, And I know what people are to
Speaker 2: say because people like you have to whip from front
Speaker 2: to back because or you do have to wipe from
Speaker 2: front back obviously, but you can do it. You don't
Speaker 2: have to do it from the back. You can do
Speaker 2: it front from back. But from the between, God.
Speaker 1: Do you between the Do you wipe from the front
Speaker 1: from the front, do you come for a poo anteriorly?
Speaker 3: Do you not tell my vagina? No, but you enter
Speaker 3: the front? Yeah? And then do you wipe from the
Speaker 3: front to back?
Speaker 1: Or do you wipe from the back to front and
Speaker 1: from the front of back just shy of the vagina
Speaker 1: from front to back?
Speaker 3: I never, nothing's going I et nothing going in that
Speaker 3: the front and go like this back. That is a
Speaker 3: you cooked woman? What do you do? Not that? Where
Speaker 3: do you go? I do it?
Speaker 1: How everyone is supposed to wipe their butt from behind?
Speaker 1: It's not and you always this is actually imperative. This
Speaker 1: is like medically backed science. You have to wipe from
Speaker 1: the front.
Speaker 3: To the back. Yeah, I do wipe from the front
Speaker 3: of the back. Of course.
Speaker 1: Now I'm telling this girl, the girl that thinks it's
Speaker 1: okay to wipe from the back to the.
Speaker 3: Frontwise you're gonna wipe. No, you get infections poop into
Speaker 3: your front parts. Yeah, but that's not just like, oh
Speaker 3: my god, funny.
Speaker 1: I think can actually get very unwell and get infections
Speaker 1: from it.
Speaker 3: One hundred.
Speaker 2: But I think some people wipe from the back to
Speaker 2: the front and stop shy.
Speaker 3: I think some people do that as well. Yeah, you
Speaker 3: shouldn't do that.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you the medically backed device here at Life
Speaker 1: on Card.
Speaker 3: Don't tell me. We don't give you our due diligence.
Speaker 3: You have to.
Speaker 1: Wipe from front to back, front to back. You learn
Speaker 1: that in primary school?
Speaker 3: Well then where did you like? I'm still from front
Speaker 3: to back.
Speaker 1: It's not even natural, my but gets I find that
Speaker 1: that's so annoyed.
Speaker 3: Now showing the front one, I'm sitting on a closed seat.
Speaker 3: I can't get in. There is no there's a hole.
Speaker 3: Show me what you do? Just go from front to back.
Speaker 2: You push it and then I got it around and
Speaker 2: just go one wipe at the back. Anyways, but then
Speaker 2: you go around the back any just for the last,
Speaker 2: just for the very last wipe.
Speaker 3: So then why don't you commit to the bat because
Speaker 3: I think you gotta.
Speaker 1: You gotta make sure that you're getting it from both sides,
Speaker 1: no all angles.
Speaker 3: Oh actually, am Sukar.
Speaker 2: Look, guys, don't feel shamed about how you wipe your
Speaker 2: ass shamed?
Speaker 1: Yes, no, Laura, We're not playing to everyone here. There
Speaker 1: are ways to do things in life, and I'm sorry
Speaker 1: I'm shaming you.
Speaker 3: If you wipe from the back to the front, I'm
Speaker 3: going to say no, you're wrong, You're wrong. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: you are risking your life.
Speaker 2: You're not risking your life, You're just risking your bit
Speaker 2: of Yeah downstairs hygiene.
Speaker 3: No proper infection. They can travel up your urotus to
Speaker 3: your kidneys. Drama. Drama, drama. That's it from Oscar.
Speaker 1: If you have a question for ask gun cart or
Speaker 1: if you do wipe your ass in an unusual way,
Speaker 1: just right on in to at Life on cut podcasts
Speaker 1: on Instagram.
Speaker 3: You can Why are we going to pull the butting?
Speaker 3: People are too shamed.
Speaker 2: People who do it the wrong way are too scared
Speaker 2: to admit that they do it the wrong People don't
Speaker 2: even want to admit that they stand, but I didn't
Speaker 2: get to finish what I was saying. The reason why
Speaker 2: guys stand is because they've got their balls in the way,
Speaker 2: so they can't go through the front, so they have
Speaker 2: to stand.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter as much for men. It also scientifical, scientifical,
Speaker 1: also science, it's in a medical journal. It actually doesn't
Speaker 1: matter as much for the men because they don't have
Speaker 1: such sensitive openings and orifices that literally are a train
Speaker 1: track up into your internal organs. That's what a woman has.
Speaker 1: The man has the urethra at the end of their penis,
Speaker 1: which is so far away from the bushole.
Speaker 2: I think it's a location, not the sensitivity of the opening.
Speaker 3: But I all right, look, let's just you can't compare
Speaker 3: a penis willie to a vagina. Okay, we should have
Speaker 3: got that is a technical term, a penis really.
Speaker 1: I like that you're okay with saying vagina, but you
Speaker 1: have to call it a penis really, well, male urethra.
Speaker 1: Thank you happy, Yes, you cannot compare the uretra of
Speaker 1: a male.
Speaker 3: I like it. I like it when you use more
Speaker 3: scientific terms. Okay.
Speaker 2: Also, we will be back in two weeks time. Refreshed
Speaker 2: and raring and ready to go. I'll fly on in
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Speaker 1: No, I don't want to fuck my holiday. Sorry, I'll
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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, Bye,