WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Porn, poonamis and politicians 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:09.080 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.920 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.360 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:16.120 peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.599 This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:42.559 Hey guys, then, welcome back to another episode of Live Uncut. 0:00:42.920 --> 0:00:46.599 I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and this is our Thursday episode, 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:49.960 our down and dirty, sexy Little Lumber where we answer 0:00:50.080 --> 0:00:51.920 your deck, dark and burning questions. 0:00:51.960 --> 0:00:54.520 Now, if Laura sounds a little bit sexy. 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:56.120 I've still lost my voice. 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:58.760 My voice is still gone, but that's because we don't 0:00:58.760 --> 0:00:59.400 stop talking. 0:00:59.440 --> 0:01:01.480 No, it's because Britney's been working me into the ground 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:03.880 and won't let me take any records off. So that's why. 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:06.200 So eventually we're going to be doing records and I'm 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:08.600 going I'm gonna smell it has sound like I'm a 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:09.319 ten packa day. 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:12.080 Gal. Are you waving these two figures around? 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:16.400 We are turn you on, Britney. No smell my fingers. 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:18.240 I wish this was recorded her now. 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:20.520 Also, I just want to tell you. Speaking of smell 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:23.600 my fingers, let me tell you. Let me tell you 0:01:23.640 --> 0:01:26.199 how my day started. So I'm laying in bed this morning. 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:30.520 It's five thirty and Lola, Lola, my beautiful little melon 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:32.600 has she's really gotten to this new routine where she 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:35.280 wakes up so freaking early, but she lies in her 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:37.039 cot and then she talks to herself. So she's like 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:40.160 laying It's cute. It's annoying because it's early, but it's cute. 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:41.480 At least she's not in the hallway now. 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:44.400 She's not screaming like she just wakes up and she's 0:01:44.440 --> 0:01:47.160 like la la lah, like smack it like she's it's 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:50.480 like she's in jail where they go dig. She like 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:53.000 gets her dummy and runs it along the rails of her. 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:53.960 Cot waiting to be fed. 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:57.200 So this morning she's in her cot, it's five thirty. 0:01:57.440 --> 0:02:00.480 She's chatting to herself until six am. And at six a' 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:01.920 her I was like, okay, I'll get up, I'll go 0:02:01.960 --> 0:02:04.800 get her. So I get up. I opened the door. 0:02:05.640 --> 0:02:08.120 Let me tell you, had I had a match on me, 0:02:08.240 --> 0:02:09.960 I would have blown the fucking. 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:11.440 Rum up and diary explode. 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:15.240 She was like she had done it. This is a 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:16.840 lot for the being of the episode. I'm gonna tell you, 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:19.000 the mom's gonna enjoy this. She had done a pooh 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:21.840 in her nappy, but not just in her nappy. She 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:25.600 had somehow taken her nappy off inside her bond's onesie 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.360 and she was just ruminating in it. Imagine doing a 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:29.720 poo in a wet suit. It was like that. 0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:34.160 She was just rolling around in her No, I just 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:35.920 can't this is that's not for me. 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:37.560 You just have to put the whole baby in the bin. 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:39.079 You do, hey, you start it all out? 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:39.560 Go on? 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:42.799 How does she not scream and cry rolling around in poop? 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:45.600 Loved it? It was warm, Maybe it was soft, and 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:46.880 that's what she was talking about. 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:52.600 Maybe this sense of smell isn't what else Istlane. 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:54.359 Would assume that they're not repulsed by their own stand Yeah, 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:55.639 I would say that that's probably fine. 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:56.880 I was rolling around in my own ship. 0:02:57.080 --> 0:03:01.760 I could tell you it's actually lucky that we don't 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:03.480 have a bath where we I mean, not having a 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:05.280 bath is a bit annoying when you've got kids. But 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:07.239 we do have one of those showers now that have 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:09.680 got like the handheld hose so I just have to 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:11.600 get in there and hose it down like you would 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:13.800 a car or something like you would on a farm 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:16.399 or something. Yeah, like exactly, okay, would to a dog. 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.160 I just threw that out because it's a segue into 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:18.960 what I want to talk about. 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:21.040 Well, I was going to say, what do you want 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:21.440 to talk about? 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:23.720 I talk about a farm in a really loose way. 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:26.000 Bear with me, Laura, Laura. The look on Laura's face. 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:28.080 Well, I was going to go into met galla because 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:31.000 I was like, on one hand, I'm here ruminating in 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:34.200 my child's pooh, and on the other hand, the most expensive, 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:36.840 extravagant people in all of the US are going to 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:37.280 the met galla. 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:38.920 All right, Well we segued to the farm first. 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:41.520 Okay, farm me, let's go cowgirl. 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:43.200 You have to bear with me because I am just 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:47.520 so shook at what I have read and how with 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:50.240 everything that has ever happened in parliament around the world, 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:52.760 how in twenty twenty two this is happening now. The 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:55.720 reason you're probably thinking, how am I linking a farm, 0:03:55.840 --> 0:03:56.880 farmer and parliament? 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:58.960 Do my child in the court doing a poo? 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:01.400 Okay? Well, to talk about a British mp. 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:03.440 One would call this a punundrum. 0:04:03.680 --> 0:04:04.520 This is a pnundrum. 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:07.800 That was a good one, thank you. There's a British MP. 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:11.640 That's in Boris Johnson's party and is this the UK? Yeah, 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:14.280 in the UK, that's where British is. That's why I 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:17.000 say miss that. 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:20.680 I just heard you say, Boris Johnson. It's a British MP. 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:22.279 Oh my god? Is this in England? 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:24.560 Nothing gets past me? 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:28.880 You're on fire today. There's a British MP in Boris 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:32.080 Johnson's party and he's he's also a farmer, but he's 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:35.240 an MP. So that that's the correlation here. He has 0:04:35.400 --> 0:04:40.400 just been caught. He's resigned because not once but twice 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:44.200 in parliament he has been caught while they're waiting to 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:49.919 vote watching porn in parliament. So like surrounded by people, 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:52.640 the news would probably be there, like it's always, this 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:56.200 is always televised. And he's sitting there watching porn. And 0:04:56.279 --> 0:04:58.760 another female parliament member was next to him. She's looking 0:04:58.760 --> 0:05:00.760 at him, She's like, I'm literally and you watch porn, 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:01.680 Like what are you doing? 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:05.200 I might I understand once, I can, I can forgive once. 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:07.760 Maybe he accidentally got there from like a rogue link 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:09.760 or something. But how does it happen twice? 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:14.160 Okay, well, I can tell you the first time, mister Parrish, 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:16.560 a farmer, said the first time he had viewed the 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:20.720 explicit material, it was when he had accidentally stumbled across it. 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:23.360 All the time. I accidentally watched porn. 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:27.320 Too whilst looking for tractors on a website with a 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:29.800 similar name. And then he had watched it for a 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:34.080 bit when I shouldn't have done that. Okay, so honest mistake. 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:36.640 Pretend it was an honest mistake. You probably when you 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:39.200 are making decisions for your country, you probably shouldn't be 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:40.359 looking to buy a tractor. 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:43.040 He was looking for a big digger, not what else 0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:43.479 you found. 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:46.520 The second time, he just said, look I did on purpose. 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:48.240 I shouldn't have done it. I got sprung. At the 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:49.880 end of the day he's like, I did it deliberately. 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:51.799 I'm embarrassed, and he's had to resign. 0:05:52.240 --> 0:05:55.640 For somebody to watch porn in parliament, they must really 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:56.760 be watching it all the time. 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:58.359 Can I tell you about the funniest part of this. 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:02.159 He works for the conserv Party. 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:04.719 Were shot five. 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:06.560 The funniest part about the whole thing not that he's 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:09.040 looking for a tractor, not that he accidentally watched porn, 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:10.800 not that he deliberately watched porn, not that he did 0:06:10.800 --> 0:06:13.200 it next to a female parliament member, but that he 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:15.360 was in the Conservative Party doing all this? 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:19.000 Can I also say something I've always wondered. This is 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:20.440 a bit off track, but it does have to do 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:24.680 with porn. Whenever I've watched porn, I've always thought, why 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:26.840 the fuck is there a share button at the bottom? Like, 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:28.480 who am I going to share this? To share it 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:31.800 on Facebook? Who is sharing porn with their friends and 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:32.919 family on social media? 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:35.360 But it's probably not okay, I'm gonna go as far 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:37.719 as to say, it's probably not to share to your story. 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:40.080 Well, it's like copy link share, Yeah, copy share now 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:41.120 like you would a daily mail arted. 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:43.440 Yeah, but it could be like, long, this is relationship. 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:45.200 You both like masturbating and you want to watch the 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:47.719 same porn. Or you're like, hey, jump on and watch this, 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:49.000 so I watch it the same time. I mean, like, 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:50.560 I'm just trying to give everyone the benefit of doubt. 0:06:50.560 --> 0:06:52.480 I don't think people are putting it to their stories 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:53.080 and tweeting it. 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:54.800 Well, I have to say that every single time I 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:56.800 have watched porn, that is the thought that I have. 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:58.000 I'm like, who would I share this? 0:06:58.040 --> 0:06:59.080 He can share with me next time. 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:02.240 Have you ever sent me a fire nude? I think 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:04.479 you have sent me a nude. You've sent me a 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:06.800 nude and then asked me if it was a good 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:08.520 nude for you to then send it to a guy. 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:11.880 Actually, no, I remember one time. I wasn't sending it anywhere. 0:07:11.920 --> 0:07:13.640 I think I just took it because I thought I 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:15.200 looked hot. And then I was like, hey, I looked 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:17.000 I took a fie nude. Can I show you? And 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:18.200 you were like, yeah, you look good. 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:19.960 Hu, I don't know where to send it. 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:20.800 I remember I was like, I. 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:23.480 Wish I had someone to show. Are you even friends 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:25.680 if you can't send your best friend a nude? Okay? 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:27.240 The thing I wanted to talk to you guys about 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:29.080 before we get into answering all your deep, dark and 0:07:29.080 --> 0:07:31.840 burning questions, is certainly not pornography. What I wanted to 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:34.119 talk about is what everyone's talking about at the moment. 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:36.960 It is what has absolutely clogged up your Instagram feed 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:39.520 over the last couple of days, and that is the 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:42.560 Met Gala. Now, the reason why I wanted to talk 0:07:42.560 --> 0:07:44.800 about the Met Gala isn't because I wanted to talk 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:49.320 about the ridiculous clothes, but it's because I realized on Tuesday, 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:52.280 when I was looking at Instagram, I realized, I don't 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:54.320 know what the fuck the MET Gala actually is for. 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:55.560 I don't think you're alone. 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:57.640 I don't think anyone knows what it's for. I think 0:07:57.680 --> 0:08:01.640 everyone knows it's for a charity some sorts, but nobody 0:08:01.720 --> 0:08:04.360 can actually tell you what is the purpose of it, 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:07.520 apart from the fact that we all like, on one hand, 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:09.560 we like to watch the fashion and on the second hand, 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:11.040 we all like to get real dodgy and be like, 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:12.400 oh my god, did you see what she was wearing. 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:14.320 She looked ridiculous. So for anybody who doesn't know what 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:17.160 the MET Gala actually is, this is your little life lesson. 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:19.320 Here we go. The MET Gala is held at the 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:22.320 Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York, and the main 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:25.760 purpose of the MET Gala is to raise funds for 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:27.120 a charity however. 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:28.400 That we love that we love a charity. 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:30.560 When I thought it was a charity, I was like, Oh, cute, 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:33.800 they're helping the homeless or maybe like their contu World. 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:34.880 Famine, Yeah, world hunger. 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:37.360 But no, the money that is raised from the Met 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:41.240 Gala goes towards the museum's costume institution. 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:43.760 So basically, yes, you heard that right. 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:47.880 The museum has a huge collection of costumes, and the 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:51.080 money that's raised via the Met Gala goes towards acquiring 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:54.280 more costumes to go into the range. Which just so 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:56.360 you know how this kind of works. You can buy 0:08:56.400 --> 0:08:58.079 a ticket to go to the Metcala, or you can't. 0:08:58.320 --> 0:09:02.240 I can't, we can't, but very very wealthy people from 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:03.600 very expensive brands can. 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:06.840 Well, even Chloe and Courtney Karashian have never been invited 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:07.280 before this. 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:10.400 Year, so you have to be invited to come first, 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:12.680 and then you have to purchase the ticket. So the 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:15.920 tickets are around forty four thousand dollars, that's forty four 0:09:15.920 --> 0:09:19.599 thousand US dollars. And often what will happen is that 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:22.400 celebrities they don't actually have to buy the tickets at 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:25.320 all because brands, big brands, will buy the tickets on 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:27.880 their behalf and then they will dress them and that's 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:30.520 how it works. But basically, an a Winter who is 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:33.000 the editor in chief in Vogue. She is seventy two 0:09:33.080 --> 0:09:36.800 years old, and a Winter is basically queen costume. She 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:40.520 sits there and individually picks every single one of the 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:43.520 five hundred people who goes to the metgala. She goes 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:46.560 through and says, yes, this brand is allowed to dress 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:49.480 this celebrity, and yes this celebrity is allowed to attend, 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:51.520 and that is it. And it's raised over twenty million 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.679 dollars for co costumes for the best costume box in 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:55.079 the world. 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:56.960 I mean, that's all well and good. It's like and 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:59.040 a Winter. I just imagine her. She's like from the 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:01.400 Hunger Games, like you get to live, you get to live, 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:02.080 That's what it's like. 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:04.520 Or she's the Oprah of fashion. I feel like you 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:06.720 just merged Oprah and the Hunger Games together there and 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:08.600 it got real weird. I did you get a cut? 0:10:09.040 --> 0:10:11.040 You get a cut, you get to live, you get 0:10:11.080 --> 0:10:12.920 to come, you get to dress up in stress of 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:14.840 every and this is the thing, right. I think a 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:16.160 lot of people don't know that, Like I know, I 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:18.040 definitely didn't. I just used to always think, oh my god, 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:20.400 they're raising so much money for something, it must be good, 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:23.880 because there's no there's no way that we could fathom 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:27.840 that they could be raising this much money. When the 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:30.520 world is in a crisis right now. We have to 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:32.400 just think about what's happening in the Ukraine right now. 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.160 Hunger that has been happening. This is not a new 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:35.520 thing around the world. This has been happening for a 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:36.160 very long time. 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:37.520 Hunger is definitely not a new thing. 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:39.440 No, it's not like we have been working. The world 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:42.040 has been working towards trying to eradicate world hunger for 0:10:42.080 --> 0:10:44.920 a long time. But we're dropping off twenty million dollars 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:47.120 and that's us. Let's just say that's you know, twenty 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:48.120 five to thirty million dollars. 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:49.000 Thirty million, it's straight. 0:10:49.600 --> 0:10:51.400 That is ludicrous. On costumes, no one's ever going to 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:53.080 see them. The celebrities pretend to look at them. They 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:54.800 walk inside and they pretend to look at them quickly, 0:10:54.800 --> 0:10:56.200 but they're there for their photo op. 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:58.839 That's the thing. The clothes, the costumes then go into 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.120 the museum, and then the general public pay money to 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:03.440 go and see the costumes. So I think that there 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:05.679 might be some money going into someone's pocket. That's just 0:11:05.679 --> 0:11:08.880 my speculation. No one see me. I'm just guessing. I 0:11:08.920 --> 0:11:11.960 really enjoyed this year's fashion because I'm a sucker for it, 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:14.800 and also, can we just take a moment. Blake Lively 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:17.360 and Ryan Reynolds are my favorite couple in the entire. 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:20.839 They're up on my screen now, she's by bar. She's 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:23.439 exquisite and I don't use that word loosely or lightly. 0:11:23.520 --> 0:11:26.840 She is an exquisite human being. Her dress is exquisite. 0:11:27.000 --> 0:11:28.840 He is even more exquisite. 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:30.160 I mean the men don't get a look in at 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:31.079 the Met Gala, let's be fair. 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:32.800 I mean, Ryan Reynolds always gets a look in. He's 0:11:32.840 --> 0:11:35.400 so beautiful. Though next to Blake Lively you don't get 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:35.800 a look in. 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:37.920 But anyway, guys, that is enough about the Met Gala. 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:40.000 We hope that you learned something, because I certainly did. 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:43.160 Let's get into the purpose of this episode, which is 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:46.720 answering all of your You're deep, you dark, your burning questions. 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:50.440 Question number one, Hey, girls, So I have a bit 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:53.000 of a long standing question. Do you guys think that 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:57.400 every sexual act with a partner should be reciprocated? For context, 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:00.240 I caught up with this guy over the weekend and 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:03.320 he got really mad that after he went down on me, 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:06.280 I didn't return the favor. I wasn't really into it, 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:09.440 and him going down on me was spontaneous. I didn't 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:11.880 ask him to do it. Now this has sparked a 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.200 bit of an ethical debate amongst my friendship group, and 0:12:14.240 --> 0:12:17.160 I love your take on it. Oh fuck you, mad boy, 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:20.959 go to anger management to go Oh, I mean my 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:22.440 joy is on the ground. 0:12:22.480 --> 0:12:26.960 No, there is absolutely zero expectation that you have to 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:29.720 do something ever, or that you have to do something 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:32.000 because someone did it for you. So there should be 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:33.400 no expectations here. 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:35.960 I mean like it give generously in a relationship, but 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:37.719 that doesn't mean that you have to give every It's 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:40.720 not like for life. It's not if you scratch my back, 0:12:40.800 --> 0:12:41.880 I'll scratch yours. 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:46.000 I actually that is such a big turn off for me. 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:49.040 So when somebody says to me, like if I say 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:51.200 to somebody if I'm dating them, if I was like, 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:53.800 oh do you mind like rubbing my shoulder or something, 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:55.960 got a really bad headache? Well, if you are, you gonna 0:12:55.960 --> 0:12:58.200 give me one back. If somebody says that to me, 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:01.880 I'm out. I'm done. I people saying that they'll only 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:04.000 do something if you do it in return. For me, 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:05.640 there's like no big eternal I think. 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:07.480 The next time that he says, well, if you're not 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:08.840 going to do it for me, then I won't do 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:12.439 it for you. Like the next time you have penetrative sex, 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:14.480 tell him, well, I now have to do it to you. 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:16.480 So here's my vibrator. Bendover and I'll stick this in 0:13:16.480 --> 0:13:20.400 your backside, Because if it's good for me and you're 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:22.000 gonna do it to me, then I'm gonna do it 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:22.240 to you. 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:24.480 I think that's a bit extreme, but I also love 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:28.000 that you the writer. I love that you've said it's 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:29.840 not like I asked for it. He did it on 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:31.560 his own accord, and that's absolutely true. 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:34.679 But in all seriousness, even if you did ask for it, 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:36.880 even if you did say, hey, go down on me 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:38.520 whilst you're in the middle of a like a hot 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:41.920 sexy makeout session and he does it, that is still 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:44.440 not you consenting to saying yes. It means I'm going 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:46.120 to do it back like you can. You can do 0:13:46.160 --> 0:13:48.760 whatever the fuck you want to. And also the part 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:50.560 of this that makes me quite annoyed, And when I 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:51.920 read this it was the reason why I wanted to 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:56.040 do this question. Nobody should ever get mad at you 0:13:56.480 --> 0:13:59.240 for not doing something when it comes to sex, and. 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:01.040 If they do, just doing Finicia. 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.840 It just reinforces that they are an absolute child in 0:14:04.880 --> 0:14:07.840 their views around sex, that the fact that he feels 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:11.000 entitled to anything is problematic. And if this is a 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:12.480 guy that you've just had a one night stand with, 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:15.320 if this is a casual relationship, I would really be 0:14:15.559 --> 0:14:18.120 considering as to whether you would want to go and 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:19.240 do anything with him again. 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:21.840 Do you know what I remember? This has just sparked 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:23.040 this memory right now. 0:14:23.280 --> 0:14:25.360 Oh glad, glad to bring up from the past. 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:27.840 You bury your trauma and then this brings it up. 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:30.000 He's Brittany going to the cupboard, taking that box of 0:14:30.040 --> 0:14:31.640 memories down, were filing through. 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:34.240 It was a few years ago, like obviously, well before 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:35.760 I was dating Jordan, when I was just on the 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:37.680 dating scene, and I remember I had been seeing this 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:40.440 guy and I hadn't slept with him, and he took 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:42.720 me to dinner one night and we've been seeing each 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:44.520 other for a little bit. But I you know, sometimes 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:46.480 I don't want to sleep with people's that's what it is. 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:47.880 I can date you, I. 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:49.800 Mean it's rare, but every so often I don't want 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:50.040 to do it. 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.520 I can't date you for six months if I don't 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:53.920 want to sleep with you. I'm not going to sleep 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:57.040 with you good And I remember we'd been seeing each 0:14:57.040 --> 0:14:59.160 other for a couple of weeks, hadn't slept together, and 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.360 then he took me to a nice dinner. He asked 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:04.160 me to dinner. He paid because he asked me. I 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:06.800 did my standard like oh, you know, like let's go 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:09.480 hums and he's like, no, no, I'll get it. Fine, ticktoll 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:12.040 the boxes. And then we went going home to watch 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:13.360 a movie. He was like, do you want to watch 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:15.120 a movie? And I was like, not really a butt, Fine, whatever, 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:15.600 watch movie. 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:18.920 He tried to will Netflix, but there's gonna be zero chill, buddy. 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:21.080 He tried to sleep with me and I said no, 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:23.440 I said no, I don't want that. Like when he'd 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:25.400 watch a movie, put my feet up on the ottoman, 0:15:25.480 --> 0:15:27.480 I'm like, don't touch me, like, let's just watch the movie. 0:15:27.840 --> 0:15:29.320 So he was like, oh, I thought that was cute. 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:31.120 You know, He's like oh, he must have been like, oh, 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.080 she's playing hard to get, but I was like fuck off. 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:35.200 So he did. He stopped, and then he tried to 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:38.520 sleep with me again, and I said, I already said 0:15:38.600 --> 0:15:40.360 I'm not going to sleep with you. This is a 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:45.280 hard no, and he said you owe me. That was 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:48.800 his words, I quote you owe me? And I said, 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:52.240 excuse me. I said what exactly do I owe you? 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:54.560 And owe you for? And he said, we've been seeing 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:56.080 each other for weeks and I just took you to 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:56.880 a really nice dinner. 0:15:56.920 --> 0:15:57.240 You owe me. 0:15:57.320 --> 0:15:59.240 And I said, get the fuck out of my house. 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:02.440 I'm not a fuck sex worker, which okay, no is 0:16:02.560 --> 0:16:05.440 zero judgment towards sex workers. But that's like a transactional 0:16:05.760 --> 0:16:06.960 that's a transactional relationship. 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:08.760 He was trying to make it transactional. Yeah, and my. 0:16:09.000 --> 0:16:11.320 Jaw is on the fucking floor. Did you ever see 0:16:11.360 --> 0:16:11.800 him again? 0:16:11.960 --> 0:16:13.840 It was a guy from years ago, Meet Raffle the 0:16:13.920 --> 0:16:16.360 og life as will know Meet Raffle. No one knows 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:17.760