WEBVTT - How To Deal With Passive Aggressive People 👿

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast. It's f F. You're on

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<v Speaker 1>cater and we have another installment of the Life of Karen.

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<v Speaker 1>As I said, I myself confessed to Karen. Is it true? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it's true. In some respects, I am trying to eradicate

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<v Speaker 1>some of the Karen behaviors, but also I need to

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<v Speaker 1>be true to who I am and what's in.

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<v Speaker 2>The stris and effect. The more attention you draw to it,

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<v Speaker 2>the bigger it gets. Like maybe before you were like

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<v Speaker 2>a dormant Karen, but now you are a capital k Aaren.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what.

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<v Speaker 1>I just feel like people equate Karens to people who

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<v Speaker 1>listen to Pink and I equate that to people who

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<v Speaker 1>are mums, and I'm sick of it. It's a gender inclusion.

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<v Speaker 1>I want more inclusion for Karens. It's a broad it's

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<v Speaker 1>a broad broad way of life for a lot of people. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so leave them out of it. Throwing a passive aggressive

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<v Speaker 1>social cue my way. I always ignore it. Only respond

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<v Speaker 1>to the words that passive aggressive people say. So if

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<v Speaker 1>someone says I'm fine, I'm fine, it's whatever. Okay, they're fine.

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<v Speaker 1>It's whatever, respond only to the words that they say

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<v Speaker 1>now the tone they see them in. I go on

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<v Speaker 1>TikTok and I find this video thinking, wow, flax, it's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna find this really really insightful. So when someone says

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<v Speaker 1>to you.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I got it, I definitely got it.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you do you see the value in that?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to think of, Like when I'm interacting with

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<v Speaker 2>passive aggressive people and I don't think I do it

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<v Speaker 2>that often, or I feel like I'm more likely to

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<v Speaker 2>just call somebody out to vary degrees of success. Like

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<v Speaker 2>if i feel like someone's being passive aggressive, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>what's with the attitude, right, which is not helpful because

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<v Speaker 2>they're gonna double down and be like I have attitude.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be like, well you are. You just rolled your

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<v Speaker 2>eyes and I'd be like, no, no, I didn't, and

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<v Speaker 2>then you're just now angry, which is more productive than

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<v Speaker 2>the passive aggression because now it's been acknowledged and now

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<v Speaker 2>you get to adjust your attitude because you know I

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<v Speaker 2>clocked it right. I like this in theory, but I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like the solution to more passive aggression isn't more

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<v Speaker 2>passive aggression, because because do.

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<v Speaker 1>You think that's passive aggressive.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because I'm trying to imagine situations where somebody would

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<v Speaker 2>be passive aggressive and if I'm giving them the fit,

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<v Speaker 2>the doubt and like you don't feel safe or comfortable

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<v Speaker 2>to express how you feel, so like shouldn't I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like what would be what would make more sense is

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<v Speaker 2>to recognize the invitation to inquire gently, not to just

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<v Speaker 2>like dismiss. I don't really know if that would work

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<v Speaker 2>for the party, because you know they're lying and now

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<v Speaker 2>they're kind of like, I don't know if it's effective

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<v Speaker 2>in the real world. This was like an internet like

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<v Speaker 2>an internet take that like lives in like a fake scenario.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what she had us listening?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I think it's great to start the conversation. But

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<v Speaker 2>for example, for me, if you if this morning you

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<v Speaker 2>were like, hell are you babe? And I was like, ugh, fine,

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<v Speaker 2>obviously I'd.

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<v Speaker 1>Be like, what have I done?

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<v Speaker 2>You're like okay? Would you be like okay cool? No,

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<v Speaker 2>you'd be like, clearly she's not in a good mood.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to like dismiss that because she won't

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<v Speaker 2>acknowledge it. I don't know what is the best case scenario.

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<v Speaker 1>But like I guess maybe it's when someone is like

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<v Speaker 1>being passive aggressive to you in a way that they

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<v Speaker 1>are doing it on purpose and they've got no real

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<v Speaker 1>reason to, like they're just trying to be manipulative. If

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to play into the games, like maybe

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<v Speaker 1>they're a bit of a bully or they're trying to

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<v Speaker 1>toy with your emotions.

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<v Speaker 2>Then like you're not taking the bait.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, it's essentially not taking the bait. And because

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes I think when you're not taking the bait, it

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<v Speaker 1>can come across like you're taking the bait double down.

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<v Speaker 1>Whereas if you just respond and try and keep it

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<v Speaker 1>cool and you just mimic their tone like a bird,

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<v Speaker 1>use your listening, like what do you call it?

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<v Speaker 2>Like a minor?

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<v Speaker 1>Like a minor.

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<v Speaker 2>So, yeah, I think we can workshop that one a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit. I'm happy to try it. I just don't

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<v Speaker 2>where are the passive versts of people. They do not

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<v Speaker 2>talk around me. I'm not I just don't feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the right audience for passive agress. They're a bit

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<v Speaker 2>too scared. Yeah, just ignore me because you don't want

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<v Speaker 2>the smoke, and I don't want the smoke either, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>simple as that give it.

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