1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:05,480 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. 2 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 2: It's the podcast for. 3 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:10,399 Speaker 1: The time poor parent who just wants answers Now. 4 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 3: Hello, it's doctor Justin Colson here for the Happy Families Podcast, 5 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 3: the podcast of the time poor parents who just wants 6 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 3: answers Now. I'm here with a slightly struggling missus Happy Families, 7 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 3: who has just come back from a week and a 8 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:25,279 Speaker 3: bit away with a girlfriend. I don't understand how you 9 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:28,440 Speaker 3: can go away have relaxing time doing your own thing, 10 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 3: no kids, and I do know if I can do 11 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:33,240 Speaker 3: the podcast today. I'm feeling a bit sick. 12 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 4: I'm not sure. 13 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: I don't know where you got the notion it was relaxing. 14 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: I was trying to make up for twenty five years 15 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: being stuck at home, so I don't remember the. 16 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:47,200 Speaker 4: Last time I experienced nightlife. 17 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:50,159 Speaker 3: Oh my goodness. Hey, we're going to talk about a 18 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:52,479 Speaker 3: couple of big take home messages from your trip away, 19 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 3: especially something that's very pertinent for all the parents who think, yeah, 20 00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 3: I could never do that. I could never leave the 21 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 3: kids and just go for a week. Plenty of dads 22 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 3: are fine with it. Mums don't tend to be quite 23 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 3: so fine with it. So that's coming up shortly. Today's 24 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 3: episode is called I'll Do Better Tomorrow. It's where we 25 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:09,400 Speaker 3: reflect on the week that was and try to find 26 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:11,120 Speaker 3: ways that we can be better parents or just be 27 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 3: a bit more intentional in our parenting. But before we 28 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 3: go there, we have launched a new movement. It's called 29 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 3: Unplugged Childhood. The website is unplugged childhood dot org and 30 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 3: we received this message via the very very easy to 31 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 3: use click and record system at Happy Families dot com 32 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,199 Speaker 3: dot au about that movement. 33 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:34,120 Speaker 2: Hi, doctor Justin and Kylie, thank you for your podcast 34 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 2: today about unplugging childhood. I actually got a bit teary 35 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 2: listening to it because I've been waiting for something like 36 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 2: this for such a long time, and I think it's 37 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 2: really brazen to do it at the moment because there's 38 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:50,760 Speaker 2: so much pushback. As far as I know, in my 39 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 2: son's ear level in grade one, there's only two parents 40 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 2: that limit their screen time and are trying to really 41 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 2: keep their children away from social media and inappropriate content, 42 00:02:03,840 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 2: which is really really challenging. Our schools always having seminars 43 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 2: on children being safe online, which I don't know why 44 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 2: children should be connected to the internet at most times, 45 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 2: So thank you. Thank you so much. I'm really just 46 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 2: trying to do it's best for the children. 47 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 3: So I can't believe two kids in an entire Grade 48 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 3: one class only two kids that have any kind of 49 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 3: screen time limits and Grade one kids on social media. 50 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 3: This is why we need to unplug childhood. Unplugged childhood 51 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 3: dot Org is the website. Please go and have a look, 52 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 3: sign the pledge, get involved, and collect the resources that 53 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 3: you need so that you can share them around with 54 00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 3: the family and friends that you have in your school, 55 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:42,799 Speaker 3: WhatsApp groups and Facebook groups. We really, really just want 56 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:44,919 Speaker 3: to help primary school kids to have an unplugged childhood. 57 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 3: Unplugged childhood dot org. Okay, Kylie, I'll do better tomorrow. 58 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:54,360 Speaker 3: As an extension of that, I've been really really vigilant, 59 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:57,799 Speaker 3: intentional about the way that I'm using my device. When 60 00:02:57,840 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 3: you were away, I discovered that I had less time 61 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 3: than I normally have, which is already not very much, 62 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:05,079 Speaker 3: and so I decided to do an experiment how to 63 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 3: chat with the kids. They remove smaps from their phones 64 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:12,239 Speaker 3: and I removed email from mine. So I already don't 65 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:17,079 Speaker 3: have Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or Reddit or TikTok 66 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,360 Speaker 3: or any I don't have any social media. I've only 67 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:23,079 Speaker 3: got WhatsApp so that i can message a couple of 68 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,200 Speaker 3: people about whether I'm going surfing or bike riding, that 69 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 3: kind of thing. But I decided that well, email, email 70 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:30,959 Speaker 3: is the big thing that I do on my phone, 71 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 3: and it's so convenient. It really sucked me in. So 72 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 3: I thought I'll do a one week experiment get rid 73 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 3: of email. It's now been two weeks. It is slightly 74 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 3: more inconvenient, I confess, and I do worry. I wonder 75 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 3: how many emails I'm going to have every time I 76 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 3: turn my computer on. But it is so freeing. It 77 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:53,560 Speaker 3: is so freeing. So as part of my older about 78 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 3: it tomorrow, just dropping email, dropping social media, I'm completely 79 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 3: away from it. But dropping email specifically has been a 80 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 3: game changer for me. 81 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 4: I wish I could do that. You can, no, No, 82 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 4: it's the problem. 83 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 1: When I didn't have email on my phone, it would 84 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 1: take like two weeks before. 85 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 4: I would open the laptop. 86 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: So at least this way I can kind of do 87 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:17,000 Speaker 1: like a brief skim and go, do I need to 88 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 1: give anyone attention right now? 89 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:20,480 Speaker 4: It's terrible. 90 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:22,159 Speaker 3: It's changed the game for me. 91 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:23,480 Speaker 4: I love that for you. 92 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:26,760 Speaker 3: It's been a really, really, really massive thing. So email's gone. 93 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:29,240 Speaker 3: I think Netflix is next, not just from the phone, 94 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 3: but from the family. Okay, I need to there's a 95 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:34,039 Speaker 3: bit of resistance with the kids. Need to work on 96 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:35,839 Speaker 3: this little bit more. But I think Netflix is next 97 00:04:36,440 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 3: now now old about it. Tomorrow I want to extend 98 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 3: it beyond that. There's a couple of other things that 99 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 3: I want to highlight. Number number three on top of 100 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 3: social media and dropping email, laundry. Two words, laundry, lawndry. 101 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 4: Tell me more. 102 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 3: My goodness, Kylie. 103 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:53,359 Speaker 1: So you're about to say, I don't know how you 104 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: do it. 105 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 3: There is so much laundry. Our children have this thing 106 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 3: where if they look at clothing, it is therefore dirty. 107 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 3: It's not even that they look at it. They brushed 108 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:05,040 Speaker 3: past in the captor need to throw that on the floor. 109 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:06,919 Speaker 3: It's been on the floor, now has to go in 110 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 3: the wash. I can't believe laundry. 111 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:13,279 Speaker 1: I remember having a conversation with our girls a number 112 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:15,800 Speaker 1: of years ago about how much laundry were going through 113 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 1: and the fact that what was it. 114 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:19,839 Speaker 3: Like when we had six girls at home, Because we've 115 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:23,119 Speaker 3: got three at home at the moment. Three The amount 116 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 3: of laundry. 117 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 4: Are you only just learning this? 118 00:05:25,640 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 3: Well, I mean I don't do a whole lot of 119 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:30,479 Speaker 3: that side of what goes on in the house, right 120 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 3: I've don't say I. 121 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 1: Needed to go away just so you could appreciate, believe 122 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 1: much time I spend in the laundry, Kylie. 123 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:39,839 Speaker 3: The pile of clothes. 124 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 1: I mean, that's why the laundry needs to be the 125 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:44,320 Speaker 1: best room in the house. Do you not understand this? 126 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 3: The number of hours that I spent on my knees 127 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 3: on the laundry floor sorting piles of darks and whites 128 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 3: and pinks, and then hanging out. And it's like the 129 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 3: children are allergic to clothes pegs. So I asked them 130 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 3: to go and hang some washing because I just couldn't 131 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:02,240 Speaker 3: do it all. And when I'm out there, they've just 132 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:05,920 Speaker 3: chucked literally just chucked washing over the line. It's still 133 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 3: bunched and crinkled, like, oh gosh. 134 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 1: Well, I started saying, I remember having a conversation with 135 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 1: our girls, and we had all six of them at 136 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 1: home and just saying, we need to change this. 137 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 4: The laundry pile. 138 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:17,839 Speaker 3: Is just annoy it's out of control. 139 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,040 Speaker 1: And only one of our children really took it on 140 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: board to the point where I would get to the 141 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: end of the week and I'd be like, haven't washed 142 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: any unders You haven't put any underwear? Are you serious 143 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: in the wash? Whereas we had another child who there 144 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:33,559 Speaker 1: was fourteen pairs every week. 145 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 3: No, my goodness, well, I mean I just said, mom. 146 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:40,359 Speaker 4: I listened to you said to be really careful about 147 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 4: how much was she? 148 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:44,159 Speaker 3: Do you know the great irony? Right? So Emily, Emily 149 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 3: is our ten year old. Cannot get this kid to 150 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 3: take a bath or have a shower, cannot get her 151 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:52,280 Speaker 3: to clean her body. But she probably goes through three 152 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:57,480 Speaker 3: different outfits a day, changes of clothes, like as often 153 00:06:57,480 --> 00:07:00,240 Speaker 3: as we have meals. But this kid will not have 154 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:03,040 Speaker 3: a bath. I just I don't. I cannot comprehend the 155 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 3: amount of laundry. So I just want to say, and 156 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 3: I've done my I shouldn't say my share. I've done 157 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 3: a fair bit of ironing and folding and washing over 158 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 3: the years. I'm not allergic to it. I'm happy to 159 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:13,679 Speaker 3: get in a gat man's dirty. 160 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:15,800 Speaker 4: I think I need a shandily to have the. 161 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 3: Full time a shandlier what for in my laundry, just 162 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:23,679 Speaker 3: to make it that special room the amount of laundry 163 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 3: that we do far out unbelievable. Anyway, I just want 164 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 3: to wrap up by saying, in terms of our older 165 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 3: a better. 166 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 1: Tomorrow, Love me, and you're so grateful that I take 167 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: care of all the laundry. 168 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 3: So much, so much. But also I think the kids 169 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 3: did fine. I think I did fine. We all did 170 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 3: a great job while you're gone. Everyone was fed, everybody 171 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 3: was except for Emily, bathed, everybody slept appropriately. We did 172 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:49,520 Speaker 3: a really good job. I'll tell you what, though, impossible 173 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 3: task working full time and looking after the kids, especially 174 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 3: when they're at home because we've got the homeschool situation 175 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 3: going on. The level of supervision required, the level of 176 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 3: input required just extraordinary. And I was thinking about how 177 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 3: on earth. I mean, I've talked about a lot, I've 178 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:09,720 Speaker 3: lived this life a few times, but the whole single 179 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:12,280 Speaker 3: parent thing, to do the marathon, to do ten or 180 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 3: fifteen or twenty years as a single parent and to 181 00:08:15,040 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 3: be working full time and try to do everything just extraordinary, 182 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:22,680 Speaker 3: impossible task. Heck goes off to anyone doing that. That's 183 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 3: my old about it. Tomorrow. Stay away from the social media, 184 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 3: delete the email from your phone, get rid of Netflix. 185 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:31,119 Speaker 3: Stay on top of the laundry, and mum go away 186 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 3: every now and again, everyone else will be fine. 187 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 1: So on socials, recently, the team has been talking about 188 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 1: the fact that I've gone away, Oh. 189 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 3: Really, and I don't look, I didn't know, I didn't know. 190 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 1: The overwhelming response is that I've never done that. It's 191 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:50,200 Speaker 1: not something I've ever done. Something you've seen people. 192 00:08:50,720 --> 00:08:53,960 Speaker 3: Mums are jumping on there and saying that, yeah, that's funny, 193 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 3: because dads don't think twice right. I'm sure that there's 194 00:08:57,040 --> 00:08:58,960 Speaker 3: plenty of dads who got a weekend with the boys. 195 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 3: I'm going to go on a surfing or a bike 196 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:03,360 Speaker 3: riding trip or a golfing getaway. I would imagine that 197 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:05,080 Speaker 3: happens a lot with dads. 198 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:07,440 Speaker 1: One hundred percent. And the conversations that I'm having face 199 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:11,319 Speaker 1: to face with friends and family are literally that husbands 200 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:13,840 Speaker 1: go away for sailing trips, you know, golfing trips, you 201 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: name it. They're having it. They're having lots of fun, 202 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 1: live in the life time away. But as women, we're 203 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:23,679 Speaker 1: really bad at asking for what we want and what 204 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: we need. In general, that's something that we're really really 205 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:30,559 Speaker 1: struggle to do with. But more so once we become 206 00:09:30,559 --> 00:09:33,440 Speaker 1: a parent, there's almost like, I don't even know if 207 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 1: it's a thing, but I'm going to call it the 208 00:09:34,920 --> 00:09:38,960 Speaker 1: martyrs syndrome of parenthood and motherhood in general, and just 209 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 1: that acknowledgment that once we become a parent, we couldn't 210 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:47,320 Speaker 1: possibly think about doing anything for ourselves without feeling the 211 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:49,679 Speaker 1: guilt of putting ourselves before our children. 212 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 3: Do you think this is like a mum guilt thing? 213 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 3: I said, you go, missus. Happy family is the hardcore 214 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 3: feminist is so exciting. I love that you do it. 215 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 3: But hearing you say that, I don't know too many 216 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:04,880 Speaker 3: of our friends where mums go away, it's always the dad's, 217 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:05,960 Speaker 3: always the dads. 218 00:10:06,640 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 1: And I think in so many cases we're our own 219 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:13,040 Speaker 1: worst enemy because we don't feel or don't trust that 220 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:15,120 Speaker 1: anybody can do our job the way we do it. 221 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:18,960 Speaker 1: But here's the thing, no one can. No one can 222 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:19,320 Speaker 1: be me. 223 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 3: You know what, I've done a pretty good job. 224 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 1: I'm just you have, but you haven't done it to 225 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: my standard. You've done it to your stand. 226 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 3: You saw the folding, didn't you, And I didn't do 227 00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 3: the ironing. I paid one of the kids to do 228 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 3: the ironing. 229 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 4: I know, and I had to hold my tongue, but 230 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 4: I'm sorry. 231 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:41,640 Speaker 1: But here's here's the thing. I get to have a 232 00:10:41,679 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: little bit of time out. I come home a better 233 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:44,200 Speaker 1: person for it. 234 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:46,360 Speaker 3: I was going to say, don't say refreshed. You haven't 235 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:47,359 Speaker 3: come home refreshed. 236 00:10:49,360 --> 00:10:53,200 Speaker 1: But each of us have had a different experience and 237 00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: have gained a greater appreciation for the way things are 238 00:10:57,480 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: when they are when we're all together. I'm watching the 239 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 1: kids and the experiences that they've had because I haven't 240 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:06,840 Speaker 1: been there to do it all for them has been amazing. 241 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:10,120 Speaker 1: And Emily, who I was more worried about because she 242 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:14,200 Speaker 1: is the youngest and she really depends on consistency in 243 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 1: her routine and structure, she thrived. I actually feel like 244 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: she thrived. And I've come home and she is even 245 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:27,320 Speaker 1: more excited to see me than she was before. But 246 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:31,120 Speaker 1: she hasn't been scarred by the experience, as I had 247 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:33,599 Speaker 1: kind of conjured up in my mind that this was 248 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:35,959 Speaker 1: going to be the worst thing ever for her. It's 249 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:38,920 Speaker 1: actually been a growth experience for everyone involved. 250 00:11:38,960 --> 00:11:40,520 Speaker 3: A hard question to ask, do you think that a 251 00:11:40,559 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 3: lot of mums won't do it because they just don't 252 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:44,559 Speaker 3: trust that everything will be Okay, they don't. 253 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 1: One hundred percent. One hundred percent in some cases, look 254 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 1: it's in all honesty. 255 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:49,959 Speaker 4: There would be. 256 00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 1: Support issues as in their partners just number one wouldn't 257 00:11:54,080 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 1: do it or wouldn't see the benefit and therefore be 258 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:04,440 Speaker 1: supportive of a decision for their wife or partner to 259 00:12:04,760 --> 00:12:07,600 Speaker 1: have what would be deemed a frivolous experience. 260 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:10,839 Speaker 3: I just I'm so glad that you did it. I'm 261 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 3: so glad that we got to have the experience. I'm 262 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 3: also it doesn't hurt as much financially, Like when you 263 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:18,560 Speaker 3: go away with the kids, it's really expensive. Even as 264 00:12:18,559 --> 00:12:20,360 Speaker 3: a couple, it's kind of pricey. But when you go 265 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:22,280 Speaker 3: away on your own, it's amazing how much you can 266 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:24,560 Speaker 3: get away with doing at such a cheap price, just 267 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 3: one person. It's so affordable. Gave you the refreshment that 268 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:31,120 Speaker 3: you needed. We all got by. I reckon. I reckon. 269 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 3: Women actually have to trust the other adults in their lives, 270 00:12:34,520 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 3: whether it's their husband or their partner, whoever it is, 271 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:40,040 Speaker 3: to step up. Like guys, if you listen to this 272 00:12:40,120 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 3: step up, make the suggestion tell your wife or your 273 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 3: partner to go away for a weekend or for maybe 274 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 3: even a week if you can afford it. And I 275 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:50,720 Speaker 3: know that there's other factors sometimes that mitigate this, but 276 00:12:51,600 --> 00:12:56,160 Speaker 3: just do it. It's really really valuable for everybody. I'm 277 00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:58,199 Speaker 3: a huge fan of it. I'm so glad that you've 278 00:12:58,200 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 3: done it, or. 279 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:01,280 Speaker 1: Maybe the right time to tell you that Beck and 280 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: I already planning our next one. 281 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:04,200 Speaker 3: I'm hoping that it's for twenty twenty seven. 282 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 4: It is. 283 00:13:07,040 --> 00:13:09,920 Speaker 3: So our older about tomorrow. Take home message, Look, get 284 00:13:10,040 --> 00:13:11,520 Speaker 3: to social media or an email from your phone as 285 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 3: much as you can. I don't know what we can 286 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 3: do about laundry, but more. 287 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:21,320 Speaker 4: Just stop wearing clothes it. I know Emily would be 288 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:22,160 Speaker 4: very happy with that. 289 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:27,079 Speaker 3: And get Mum on a solo break, a girl's weekend 290 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:31,200 Speaker 3: away something like that where it's refreshment, rejuvenation. Come home 291 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:34,079 Speaker 3: and just appreciate each other so much more. Great story. 292 00:13:34,640 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 1: I can't tell you how much I appreciate that you 293 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 1: have been so supportive of me having the time away 294 00:13:42,400 --> 00:13:44,600 Speaker 1: and the fact that you've been able to carry the family. 295 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:47,680 Speaker 1: It doesn't go unnoticed, but it's so good to be home. 296 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:49,960 Speaker 3: Okay, we need to wrap it up there. The Happy 297 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:53,760 Speaker 3: Families podcast has been produced by Justin Ruhland from Bridge 298 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:57,439 Speaker 3: Media and Craig Bruce is our executive producer. For those 299 00:13:57,440 --> 00:14:01,479 Speaker 3: of you in Queensland and the Antique school holidays starts today, 300 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:05,080 Speaker 3: one more week for Victoria and WA, two more weeks 301 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 3: for New South Wales and Tazzy and Sound Australia Gin. 302 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 3: They've really spread school holidays out like crazy this year. 303 00:14:11,440 --> 00:14:13,959 Speaker 3: Really bizarre. Hey have a great weekend and we'll see 304 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:16,840 Speaker 3: again on Monday with more from the Happy Families podcast.