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Speaker 1: We get a fresh way to drive home with Will

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Speaker 1: and Woody.

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Speaker 2: I was out with a few friends of mine on

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Speaker 2: the weekend, and I want to be very clear about

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Speaker 2: the fact that my girlfriend is a legend when it

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Speaker 2: comes to whether or not I come home, what time

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Speaker 2: I come home with. The only thing she requests is

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Speaker 2: she requests one of two things.

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Speaker 1: Just can you just tell me?

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Speaker 2: Are you going to come home at a reasonable hour? Absolutely?

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Speaker 3: Fine?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? What's a reasonable hour for you?

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Speaker 3: Though? Party boy?

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Speaker 1: Look are you gonna be like you're going to four?

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Speaker 3: Look?

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Speaker 1: I love a good time. I love a good time.

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Speaker 4: I really do.

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Speaker 1: I like having a.

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Speaker 3: Night out because I mean, there was only a couple

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Speaker 3: of years ago where it wasn't what time you're going

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Speaker 3: to be home? It was what day are you going

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Speaker 3: to be?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: But it's not like that anymore.

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Speaker 2: So. But look, I say to her, she says, to

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Speaker 2: be you're going to be having a reasonable hour, which da,

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Speaker 2: let's before let'say, it's before minna, it's for eleven o'clock, okay, sure's.

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Speaker 1: Or are you going to be home?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, something that time in the early hours of the morning,

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Speaker 2: three or four, that's yeah, yeah. Just And the point is,

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Speaker 2: and I was hanging out with two other guys and

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Speaker 2: we were having exactly the same discussion. They're in exactly

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Speaker 2: the same situation. You need to flag whether or not

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Speaker 2: it's going to be a reasonable night or whether it's

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Speaker 2: going to be a bit of a party.

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Speaker 3: And that's reasonable for someone to ask. Yes, for Sam,

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Speaker 3: your partner to ask.

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Speaker 1: That, that's a very reasonable question.

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Speaker 2: And I think most women who are in her situation

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Speaker 2: probably be exactly the same. Now, I'm stereotyping about saying women,

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Speaker 2: but that's a scenario I've been in lots of times. Sure,

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Speaker 2: I'm sure it happens the other way around. But here's

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Speaker 2: the thing. Woods we started talking about this a little

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Speaker 2: bit more, and the sad thing about that set up

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Speaker 2: the reasonable time versus the having a little bit of

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Speaker 2: a big night moment is that you lose the opportunity

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Speaker 2: to have an impromptu night.

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Speaker 3: And those are the best nights when you go into

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Speaker 3: a night and you go when you actually think to yourself,

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Speaker 3: I'm just going down to the pub for a few beers. Yes,

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Speaker 3: And then there's a bit of excitement around.

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Speaker 1: And you're having a good time, and then.

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Speaker 3: Someone goes, wow, it's got this text message there's a

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Speaker 3: party in a bush, so you know, as an example,

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Speaker 3: as an example of an example.

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Speaker 1: Like Gary's sounds like a good time, Garry, It's got

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Speaker 1: a party in a bush going, and.

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Speaker 3: You couldn't possibly have planned that, But that's what's so

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Speaker 3: exciting about it.

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Speaker 2: Because yeah, go with it. Yeah, so we were seeing

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Speaker 2: and we were on the same page, like the imprompty

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Speaker 2: knights are the best ones. In fact, if anything, the

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Speaker 2: nights when you go, hey, look, let's have a really

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Speaker 2: big night, o god, cont wait over a good time

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Speaker 2: like most of you just haven't got the stamina for

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Speaker 2: that these days, and you end up just cooking it

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Speaker 2: too early and then you go to bed.

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Speaker 1: It's forced exactly.

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Speaker 2: So my point is this, and I really would love

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Speaker 2: to hear the answer from both sides of the fence here,

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Speaker 2: no matter what side you're on.

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Speaker 1: Thirty one of six five is our phone number.

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Speaker 2: I'd love to hear from you. Does a relationship mean

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Speaker 2: that you can no longer have an impromptu a big

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Speaker 2: night or do you just do you just have to

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Speaker 2: accept the fact that given that I am in a relationship,

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Speaker 2: I can no longer just not tell my missus or

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Speaker 2: won't be home until six o'clock tomorrow. Need I need

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Speaker 2: to flag that. I mean, one of the guys I

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Speaker 2: was out with had a kid and he was like, mate,

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Speaker 2: if I don't do this, she's got grounds for divorce.

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Speaker 3: And fair enough, and that's reasonable. Yeah, well that's why

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Speaker 3: I'm single. Well that's why I'm singing. No, okay, it's

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Speaker 3: not okay.

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Speaker 2: You're in bed at ten o'clock on Saturday night and

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Speaker 2: that was your choice.

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Speaker 3: Don't tell people that podcasting now, does a relationship mean

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Speaker 3: the end of an impromptu big night?

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Speaker 2: That's the question would because I think it's very reasonable

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Speaker 2: for the person who is at home to say, hey, look,

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Speaker 2: can you just tell me are you going to be

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Speaker 2: home before midnight? Or am I going to expect you

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Speaker 2: early tomorrow morning.

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Speaker 3: It's otherwise they worry. They worry.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: You don't hear me part of for three or four hours,

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Speaker 2: you start to worry, which is a totally reasonable RESPONSEIB

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Speaker 2: But what I'm saying is that's quite sad because it

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Speaker 2: means that you can't have those nights anymore where you

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Speaker 2: have a couple of beers in the afternoon. You know,

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Speaker 2: all of a sudden, you're sipping granola out of a

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Speaker 2: coconut in Timbuctoo and you're like, geez, how do we

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Speaker 2: get here?

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Speaker 3: Guys sip in a breakfast cereal a cup.

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Speaker 1: But sometimes that can happen. We've got Kirston on thirty

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Speaker 1: one or six, Kirsten talk to us. Is the relationship at.

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Speaker 2: The end of an impromptu a big night.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 2: I think it might limit it, but I definitely don't

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Speaker 2: think it cullsled out whatsoever.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's good. I like that attitude. So are you

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Speaker 1: even a relationship, Kristen.

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Speaker 4: Kirsten, Yeah, yeah, I've been a relationship for about six

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Speaker 4: years now.

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Speaker 3: All right, So Kirsten went, sorry, go on, Kirsten, No.

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Speaker 4: No, that's okay.

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Speaker 3: I was gonna say, so, when your partner goes out

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Speaker 3: on a Saturday night, do you say what time are

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Speaker 3: you going.

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Speaker 1: To be home?

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Speaker 4: I'm like, wody, I just like I would prefer like

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Speaker 4: a time frame like are you coming home past bedtime?

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Speaker 1: Or do I get that?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 1: Wait up? Yeah.

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Speaker 4: But otherwise, every now and then there's been an impromptu night,

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Speaker 2: How it just happens every now and then, and you're okay,

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Speaker 2: with that, Kirston, You're just like, all right, go for

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Speaker 2: a baby, go to the bush.

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Speaker 1: With Gary always always. I like that. I like that attitude.

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Speaker 2: I mean, one of one of my mates had a

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Speaker 2: kid the other night and he just told me, like,

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Speaker 2: you know, if I do the impromptu without telling, I

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Speaker 2: may as well not go home. Yeah, which I I

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Speaker 2: think he's totally fair. We've got Jenny on thirty one

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Speaker 2: and six five. Jenny talk to us the impromptu big night?

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Speaker 2: Is it dead if you're in a relationship?

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Speaker 4: Definitely not. I've been with my for nine years, yeah,

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Speaker 4: nine years, and it goes by first as well, Like

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Speaker 4: I like to go out and have a good time.

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Speaker 1: Nice Jenny, Yeah you do, Jenny. Oh yeah, good stuff.

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Speaker 1: I've read to hear.

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Speaker 2: Jen.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for your thoughts. Woods. Haven't asked you. You haven't asked.

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Speaker 2: I haven't asked you. Is the impromptu big night dead

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Speaker 2: when you're in relationship? When you're in a relationship, you

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Speaker 2: know what? How long going now?

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Speaker 1: Uh, it's been over a year. I was still still

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Speaker 1: in a relationship. Hanging in there by a thread.

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Speaker 3: Will I was like that cat in that motivational poster,

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Speaker 3: that wet cat hanging from the tree.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, we had reference. Well, the question is the approach

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Speaker 1: is the impromptu night over? What's the impromptu are night

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Speaker 1: over for you when you're in a relationship. Um, well,

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Speaker 1: I got in a lot of trouble.

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Speaker 3: If if if well, if I if I was, if

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Speaker 3: I that wet cat, if I did a whoop, season

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Speaker 3: was like, oh no, I mean the bush with Gary

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Speaker 3: and I didn't tell my partner that I was going

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Speaker 3: to be home after midnight.

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Speaker 1: I did sleep outside for at least a week. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I would.

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Speaker 3: Say, but relationship to relationship, potato to potato.

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Speaker 1: I've got Kelly here on thirteen.

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Speaker 3: I'm so great.

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Speaker 1: I asked you, Kelly, what are your God, that's amazing.

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Speaker 1: Kelly talked to us.

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Speaker 4: Hey, here you go.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, good mate.

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Speaker 2: What do you reckon?

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Speaker 1: Is it over the impromptuy?

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Speaker 2: Big night?

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Speaker 4: Oh look, I mean PROMPTU big night is the best.

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Speaker 4: But you'd definitely pay for it afterwards.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's sort of what I was touching on before.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, immediately like it's okay to do it. It's

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Speaker 1: always a price you have to pay.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely. I think there's two ways. That's what my husband

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Speaker 4: and speak to me again after any prompt to night out. Wow,

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Speaker 4: it was a great night.

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Speaker 1: Job Kill. What time do you end up? What time

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Speaker 1: did you end up? Kill, he's still I.

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Speaker 4: Got home about three thirty in the morning.

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