Speaker 1: Flex and Rooms, The Flex and Frooms catch Up podcastle.
Speaker 2: And Rooms, Flex and Rooms on Cat. I've been holding
Speaker 2: my pee for so many hours because I'm scared to
Speaker 2: go to the bathroom just in case I've leaked through.
Speaker 3: Oh huh, you're not a period tip.
Speaker 2: It's the life of a girl boss realistically. But there's
Speaker 2: something about delaying, you know how there's delayed gratification. Yeah,
Speaker 2: what's the opposite delayed discomfort? Oh? I don't want to
Speaker 2: because you know, let's say, as soon as you know,
Speaker 2: I mean, I need to give another analogy because of
Speaker 2: your experiences. But you know, when you when you don't
Speaker 2: know if something bad has happened, but you have to
Speaker 2: confront it to.
Speaker 3: Know, Like what's my experience, for example, not bleeding.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Let's say like you don't know if you've
Speaker 2: left your straight num but you're like, oh, well, I
Speaker 2: guess I can't.
Speaker 3: Run home now and check.
Speaker 2: Or like you don't know if you've left your fridge
Speaker 2: slightly ajar, Now it's leaking. You're like, if I go
Speaker 2: and figure it OUT'M going to have to deal with
Speaker 2: the problem.
Speaker 3: Just then. I don't want to deal with it.
Speaker 1: It's like I did to shoot a parallel park. Yes,
Speaker 1: today outside my house, like probably half a mate away
Speaker 1: from the curve dam and I was like, so, I'm
Speaker 1: probably gonna hit my car of a night, but.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I can't be problem for tomorrow.
Speaker 1: I can't be fugged.
Speaker 3: Let's hit the party. Oh, Flex and Rooms on kator.
Speaker 2: Am I the arsehole for moving on to my comatose
Speaker 2: girlfriend's sister. That is the question that we are answering
Speaker 2: today on Flex and Rooms. Listen to this. My girlfriend
Speaker 2: was in a serious car accident six months ago that
Speaker 2: has left her in hospital in a coma. It's been
Speaker 2: a really difficult time, and we made a deal with
Speaker 2: her parents and younger sister that at least one of
Speaker 2: us will visit once per day so she has company
Speaker 2: a deal.
Speaker 3: I got a freezer like that.
Speaker 1: We're all going to shoulder this builden.
Speaker 2: My girlfriend's sister coincidentally is a nurse in the hospital
Speaker 2: and was often rosted on while I was visiting, and
Speaker 2: we pop by naturally, Oh my god, we ended up
Speaker 2: getting close and we shared a kiss.
Speaker 1: It's joking in front of the sister.
Speaker 2: Eventually, one thing led to another. You're sick, and we've
Speaker 2: decided that we want to a relationship.
Speaker 3: I mean we also lovely saying we.
Speaker 2: We also decided that if or when my girlfriend wakes
Speaker 2: up this is terrifying. I'm still happy to be her friend,
Speaker 2: especially while she recovers.
Speaker 3: This is so sick. I can I can keep reading this.
Speaker 3: This is not from cranium, is it?
Speaker 4: Oh? It is sick.
Speaker 2: She wants to be so happy with her work, she says,
Speaker 2: reacting this way. When her parents found out, they were
Speaker 2: so annoyed that they've told me I'm no longer welcome
Speaker 2: to visit her in the hospital, and they don't approve
Speaker 2: of our relationship. Not only have I moved on so
Speaker 2: quickly in their eyes, but to her sister. We feel
Speaker 2: guilty about the situation, but I feel like she's the
Speaker 2: love of my life, and I think the trauma has
Speaker 2: brought us close together and can even see myself having
Speaker 2: kids with her. So I want to know, be honest
Speaker 2: with me, flexen for him, for him? Am I the asshole?
Speaker 3: I don't want to talk to you. I don't want
Speaker 3: to talk to you.
Speaker 1: This is so disturbing because I know that this kind
Speaker 1: of stuff happens.
Speaker 2: All the time.
Speaker 3: We've ever talked about it.
Speaker 1: Last year, the wife dies, take it back up with.
Speaker 2: It not even not even dies injured amnesia, brain injuryan
Speaker 2: to the be were already moving on?
Speaker 1: Is it in these desperate times, in desperate measures, that
Speaker 1: we just have to look to the next best thing,
Speaker 1: Like is it an upgrade or a down grade? That's
Speaker 1: the question. I think people date who they want, who
Speaker 1: they can not who they want. If you let's say
Speaker 1: you meet a guy and you person populate, okay, let's
Speaker 1: see you meet a person you copulate, then you meet
Speaker 1: their brother or whoever, and you actually fall in love
Speaker 1: with them.
Speaker 3: Damn, I didn't pick the right one.
Speaker 1: Could you date them even though you had slept with
Speaker 1: the other brother.
Speaker 3: I believe in homihopping, So yeah, whoa okay?
Speaker 1: Keeping the family, I say, you know, over her deathbed,
Speaker 1: that's got a hit different. Yeah, I don't like family
Speaker 1: fall out, so I'd personally be leaving that one alone
Speaker 1: and going back on Tinder or whatnot and finding someone else.
Speaker 1: Moving on with sisters absolutely crazy.
Speaker 2: This is what I think of when people say life
Speaker 2: is for living. You don't get another chance to do this.
Speaker 2: You need to test it out in this lifetime to
Speaker 2: be sure that it's the wrong thing to do. Then
Speaker 2: you test it out and you come back and let
Speaker 2: us know.
Speaker 4: Keters flex and froms flex and firms.
Speaker 3: Are you into self positive affirmation type stuff? Is that
Speaker 3: your jams that your bag.
Speaker 1: Never really done it? Oh? I did it a little
Speaker 1: bit like you do it a little bit in some
Speaker 1: sort of like treatments like DBT and stuff, But i'n't
Speaker 1: really done it for her extended periods of time. Only
Speaker 1: when I'm real in a bit of a rough patch.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, for you, Brickie say your thing.
Speaker 1: Ah a little bit, but it's normally just the one
Speaker 1: or two otherwise I find it a bit cringe.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I'm always surprised to find out which of the people
Speaker 2: that I know are really really into their affirmations and things,
Speaker 2: because I think when you like, I'm a spiritual person,
Speaker 2: so people kind of lant me in that category of like,
Speaker 2: she must be an affirmation girl, and I'm a manifesto,
Speaker 2: but in like a praying way, not a whatever way.
Speaker 2: So when I found this video of Harry Garside, Australian boxer,
Speaker 2: olympian and ballet dancer, on the Hello Sport podcast, he
Speaker 2: was talking about his twenty daily alarms that he's set
Speaker 2: to remind him to do various positive self affirmations, and
Speaker 2: we'll play the clip in a second. But when I
Speaker 2: first saw it, I could tell that it didn't seem
Speaker 2: like the hosts were taking him seriously until he actually
Speaker 2: did one of these affirmations, all these practices while doing
Speaker 2: the podcast, because he was so disciplined, and he's like,
Speaker 2: I can't not do it just because I'm here, I
Speaker 2: gotta take my time out. Let's play the clip.
Speaker 5: You're sorry, boys do these do these alarms throughout the day?
Speaker 3: What's the four?
Speaker 5: So I'll explain them first and then I'll do them.
Speaker 5: But so's there's probably four or five different themes, and
Speaker 5: each themes different and they probably each individual theme goes
Speaker 5: off maybe four times throughout the day. Okay, and then
Speaker 5: I have to stop. This one's described something he can see, so, yeah,
Speaker 5: it's being in the present moment this one. So it's
Speaker 5: just like a couple of hot boys, a couple couple
Speaker 5: of absolute stuff.
Speaker 3: What am I looking at? Sex person?
Speaker 5: And then yeah, other themes are like in thoughts, so
Speaker 5: it's like if I catch myself, your alarm goes off
Speaker 5: in a negative thought or there has been one that
Speaker 5: I was conscious of in the last hour. I have
Speaker 5: to reframe it to something I'm grateful for. You know that
Speaker 5: makes sense? Yeah, and then there's other ones that I
Speaker 5: have to like build myself up with positive affirmations and
Speaker 5: then visualize myself achieving the goal that I've got and
Speaker 5: then also myself in five ten years, like the life
Speaker 5: that I want. So is another another alarm?
Speaker 3: What's that one for?
Speaker 5: This is the build myself up? So okay, yeah, I'm
Speaker 5: actually going to do this real quickly. This one's a
Speaker 5: big one. That's right.
Speaker 3: Discipline that was cool. Discipline that was cool.
Speaker 2: So what you didn't hear in that clip was about
Speaker 2: the forty five seconds that Harry took to in his
Speaker 2: head recite this affirmation or to say something, but he
Speaker 2: didn't actually share it with the room, and you hear
Speaker 2: them say, you know, discipline, discipline, this scipline. But it
Speaker 2: was interesting because up until he had done it, I
Speaker 2: don't think they would have taken him as seriously someone
Speaker 2: who's gone out of the way to set twenty different
Speaker 2: alarms to remind themselves not only to be consistent with
Speaker 2: their self care, but to do it in environments where
Speaker 2: you might feel like it's not appropriate because you know,
Speaker 2: let me push this aside because right now I'm doing
Speaker 2: work or I'm having a conversation. It's interesting because someone
Speaker 2: like Harry Garslid, who's achieved things that the average person
Speaker 2: won't do in their lifetime. He's done over and over
Speaker 2: and over and over and over and over again, just
Speaker 2: an exceptional person. And it's like, this is probably why,
Speaker 2: because when we're saying, oh, we do a little affirmations
Speaker 2: every now and then, when like you know, we little
Speaker 2: pick me up, he's got the twenty alarms set daily,
Speaker 2: ready to go.
Speaker 3: It's so sick.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, if it works, if it works and
Speaker 1: it makes you better something that you love, then why
Speaker 1: not Oh yeah, interrupt that meeting, interrupt that hard surgery,
Speaker 1: and listen to your affirmations.
Speaker 2: King, This is flex and frooms in a potentially exciting, sexy,
Speaker 2: but possibly unsatisfactory turn of events. Netflix is no deformation
Speaker 2: manipulating us. While if we live in the same region
Speaker 2: we might have access to the same shows, I think
Speaker 2: I don't know how it works. We don't get the
Speaker 2: same with thumbnails, and that is by design.
Speaker 3: At first, I thought it was just.
Speaker 2: A little quirky thing, a little treat for Netflix's fase.
Speaker 2: Maybe the premium subscription you get two different thumbnails. It's
Speaker 2: not the case. They have this really advanced algorithm that
Speaker 2: develops different thumbnails. Not in real time, they make it beforehand,
Speaker 2: but based on your viewing habits, you get different thumbnails
Speaker 2: for the shows that are on Netflix. So the reason
Speaker 2: why I clocked onto this is because Netflix mine, in particular,
Speaker 2: that was a really crazy and aggressive yawn. Why did
Speaker 2: you scowl at me? And I really said, you could
Speaker 2: have just cu uncomfortably if you wanted so. On my
Speaker 2: Netflix in particular, it has a habit of making me
Speaker 2: think that every hit series and TV show, a movie
Speaker 2: has a black person as a lead, because it's.
Speaker 3: Going to be a black person on that thumbnail.
Speaker 2: Said my Netflix, everybody is black and every show is
Speaker 2: a sci fi fantasy thriller, every single one. You should
Speaker 2: see what my rivedale looks like.
Speaker 3: It's like murder Mystery. Anyway, So I made this comment.
Speaker 2: I said on the internet, you know, Netflix makes me
Speaker 2: think that every show has black people in it, and
Speaker 2: someone says, well, no, everyone has different thumbnails.
Speaker 3: So I do my extra research and this is what
Speaker 3: I found out.
Speaker 1: She got the print out and everything.
Speaker 2: Netflix collects our data. I don't read your terms and
Speaker 2: conditions and serves us different thumbnails based on what it
Speaker 2: thinks we might want to see, because it knows we judge.
Speaker 3: Books by its cover.
Speaker 2: It's true because when I was saying that I'm a
Speaker 2: judge person aesthetically, you.
Speaker 3: Were like, that's so rude, that'sfect. We shouldn't like. I
Speaker 3: never said that rollotape brings back to spectation.
Speaker 1: I never said that.
Speaker 3: I was like, I said, everyone put your hand with
Speaker 3: you judge book by its cover. Put my hand up.
Speaker 1: You're like, no, I'm being subjugated to false information, and
Speaker 1: I do not condone it. I distinctly remember not saying that,
Speaker 1: and I will not be gas lit in the studio boom.
Speaker 2: They don't just target people. They target It's based on
Speaker 2: your viewing activity. So if you watch a certain type
Speaker 2: of show, or you're drawn to a certain type of
Speaker 2: theme or genre like romance or comedy, often your thumbnails.
Speaker 3: Will look like that.
Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking the other day. I wanted
Speaker 2: something light to watch in the background. I was looking
Speaker 2: for a background show to do work, and I couldn't
Speaker 2: pick anything because everything looked really serious and like I
Speaker 2: had to use my brain to watch it. But that's
Speaker 2: a hell of my own doing.
Speaker 1: Try living with someone and having their Netflix. It's giving
Speaker 1: real housewives. Nothing wrong with that bikini romance, rom com love. Yeah,
Speaker 1: very different yours my housemates. Yeah, it so mine because
Speaker 1: I don't pay my house.
Speaker 3: Oh there's upsides.
Speaker 2: This is why Netflix is cracking down. This is exactly
Speaker 2: why am I go to jail.
Speaker 3: This is Flex and Frooms. I'm Kater Key on the
Speaker 3: Flex and Froom Show.
Speaker 1: We are always learning and evolving. Might look different for
Speaker 1: different people, and yet here we are putting in the
Speaker 1: work every single day. Three to five pm. Found this
Speaker 1: TikTok and it's discussing whether or not you should lie
Speaker 1: in certain situations and deciding on what situations weren't lies.
Speaker 1: It's from a TikToker called Dana Eve. She's talking to
Speaker 1: the camera. Let's have a listen.
Speaker 2: One to lie too.
Speaker 4: You're in the elevator and the building you live in,
Speaker 4: and somebody that you don't recognize asks if you live here. No,
Speaker 4: just visiting some friends.
Speaker 2: I went to college with. No.
Speaker 4: Just dropping off a few things.
Speaker 3: For my brothers.
Speaker 4: An uber or lyft driver or a taxi driver drops
Speaker 4: you off at your home and asks if this is home? No,
Speaker 4: just visiting some family friends. No, on my way to
Speaker 4: a surprise party, or even I wish, But no, You're
Speaker 4: sitting having a drink and somebody says, what's a girl
Speaker 4: like you doing here alone?
Speaker 3: I'm just waiting for.
Speaker 4: My boyfriend, waiting on some friends. They should be here
Speaker 4: any minute, waiting at my husband. He's just parking. You
Speaker 4: recently moved to a new city and somebody asks if
Speaker 4: you're new here. No, I used to live right down
Speaker 4: the street. No, I used to go to school here.
Speaker 4: And if you ever find yourself in a situation where
Speaker 4: somebody asks, does anybody know you're here, your answer one
Speaker 4: hundred percent of the time is yes, yes. My husband's
Speaker 4: on his way to meet me right now.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to say, who's believing some people have husbands.
Speaker 3: This isn't a blanket rule. She's not a blanket rule.
Speaker 3: They said, you.
Speaker 1: Quirky girl with her husband, and I just I've had
Speaker 1: to use this in practice out and when I've done that,
Speaker 1: I've gone, oh, no, like my boyfriend's on my way.
Speaker 3: Boyfriend doesn't exist. They go, well, he's not here now,
Speaker 3: is he?
Speaker 2: And then it's like, now what And I've definitely tried
Speaker 2: the husband thing in an uber and he said you're
Speaker 2: not wearing a ring, said we don't wear rings.
Speaker 3: And keep crying where progress was?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I agree, this is just personal safety
Speaker 1: one O one. It's good to be abreast of these
Speaker 1: kind of things. There's a chick the dm ME once
Speaker 1: she was getting near it and she got an UBER
Speaker 1: and she put in an address. It took her there,
Speaker 1: and it took her to a random parking lot. She's
Speaker 1: freaking out. She starts running away, lo and behold, she
Speaker 1: realizes she'd put the wrong addressing. Okay, so there's times
Speaker 1: for your personal safety is perhaps jeopardized by your very self.
Speaker 3: So definitely I would say be aware when.
Speaker 1: You're getting near it to look at where you've collected
Speaker 1: your uber. I would also say, like, it's not good
Speaker 1: to expect the worse of people. But also just like
Speaker 1: these are very easy little liars that don't affect anyone,
Speaker 1: so you may as well just like say it, say no,
Speaker 1: I don't live here, say da da da. The one
Speaker 1: in the lift like is a bit more crazy because
Speaker 1: if there's someone that lives there and you say, oh no,
Speaker 1: I'm just visiting my xyz and then the next time
Speaker 1: they see you're in the lift with no pants on,
Speaker 1: going and take your rubbish out. I don't know how
Speaker 1: you can explain that one.
Speaker 3: So I would say pick and shoes.
Speaker 2: As someone who spends a lot of time being honest
Speaker 2: and regretting it, I just feel like I'm introducing lying back.
Speaker 2: Or do you regret being honest? Well, I regret the
Speaker 2: fact that. No, I don't regret. It's not that I
Speaker 2: regret being honest. I just rarely prepare myself for an
Speaker 2: outcome that is not good. Like the outcome of this
Speaker 2: honesty should mean that I get what I expected from
Speaker 2: being honest, and that's just not how life works. And
Speaker 2: in some instances I think I would have been happy
Speaker 2: if I didn't have that hardcome versation or I didn't
Speaker 2: say what I felt. So perhaps not lying, but I
Speaker 2: will definitely practice keeping my mouth shut, yep, letting everybody suffer.
Speaker 2: I never help out, never help out. I do it
Speaker 2: too much, and not in the way people think as
Speaker 2: well that I'm like, I'm going to just lip sealed
Speaker 2: head down because people think you're being mean when I'm
Speaker 2: being honest.
Speaker 3: Yeah, is that.
Speaker 1: What you mean like people get their feelings hurt.
Speaker 2: No, I think people don't know what to do with
Speaker 2: honesty a lot of the time, Like often, you know,
Speaker 2: we talked about a couple of shows ago. People don't
Speaker 2: want advice. They'll ask you what you think, to not
Speaker 2: listen to what you say, to waste your time. Yeah,
Speaker 2: your people so similar to that, where I'm like, you know,
Speaker 2: when someone asks me for advice, I want to be
Speaker 2: really honest and earnest. But if you don't want to
Speaker 2: hear it and I don't want to waste my time,
Speaker 2: then I might just lie.
Speaker 3: So do whatever you want, babe, I trust you. I
Speaker 3: think I've heard that line. You've been listening to The
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