WEBVTT - AITA For Moving On From My Comatose Girlfriend 🏥 ❤️‍🩹

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Rooms, The Flex and Frooms catch Up podcastle.

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<v Speaker 2>And Rooms, Flex and Rooms on Cat. I've been holding

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<v Speaker 2>my pee for so many hours because I'm scared to

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<v Speaker 2>go to the bathroom just in case I've leaked through.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh huh, you're not a period tip.

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<v Speaker 2>It's the life of a girl boss realistically. But there's

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<v Speaker 2>something about delaying, you know how there's delayed gratification. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>what's the opposite delayed discomfort? Oh? I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>because you know, let's say, as soon as you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I need to give another analogy because of

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<v Speaker 2>your experiences. But you know, when you when you don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if something bad has happened, but you have to

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<v Speaker 2>confront it to.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, Like what's my experience, for example, not bleeding.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, Let's say like you don't know if you've

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<v Speaker 2>left your straight num but you're like, oh, well, I

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<v Speaker 2>guess I can't.

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<v Speaker 3>Run home now and check.

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<v Speaker 2>Or like you don't know if you've left your fridge

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<v Speaker 2>slightly ajar, Now it's leaking. You're like, if I go

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<v Speaker 2>and figure it OUT'M going to have to deal with

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<v Speaker 2>the problem.

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<v Speaker 3>Just then. I don't want to deal with it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like I did to shoot a parallel park. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>today outside my house, like probably half a mate away

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<v Speaker 1>from the curve dam and I was like, so, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>probably gonna hit my car of a night, but.

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<v Speaker 3>Honestly, I can't be problem for tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't be fugged.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's hit the party. Oh, Flex and Rooms on kator.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I the arsehole for moving on to my comatose

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<v Speaker 2>girlfriend's sister. That is the question that we are answering

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<v Speaker 2>today on Flex and Rooms. Listen to this. My girlfriend

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<v Speaker 2>was in a serious car accident six months ago that

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<v Speaker 2>has left her in hospital in a coma. It's been

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<v Speaker 2>a really difficult time, and we made a deal with

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<v Speaker 2>her parents and younger sister that at least one of

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<v Speaker 2>us will visit once per day so she has company

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<v Speaker 2>a deal.

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<v Speaker 3>I got a freezer like that.

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<v Speaker 1>We're all going to shoulder this builden.

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<v Speaker 2>My girlfriend's sister coincidentally is a nurse in the hospital

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<v Speaker 2>and was often rosted on while I was visiting, and

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<v Speaker 2>we pop by naturally, Oh my god, we ended up

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<v Speaker 2>getting close and we shared a kiss.

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<v Speaker 1>It's joking in front of the sister.

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<v Speaker 2>Eventually, one thing led to another. You're sick, and we've

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<v Speaker 2>decided that we want to a relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean we also lovely saying we.

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<v Speaker 2>We also decided that if or when my girlfriend wakes

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<v Speaker 2>up this is terrifying. I'm still happy to be her friend,

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<v Speaker 2>especially while she recovers.

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<v Speaker 3>This is so sick. I can I can keep reading this.

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<v Speaker 3>This is not from cranium, is it?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh? It is sick.

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<v Speaker 2>She wants to be so happy with her work, she says,

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<v Speaker 2>reacting this way. When her parents found out, they were

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<v Speaker 2>so annoyed that they've told me I'm no longer welcome

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<v Speaker 2>to visit her in the hospital, and they don't approve

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<v Speaker 2>of our relationship. Not only have I moved on so

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<v Speaker 2>quickly in their eyes, but to her sister. We feel

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<v Speaker 2>guilty about the situation, but I feel like she's the

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<v Speaker 2>love of my life, and I think the trauma has

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<v Speaker 2>brought us close together and can even see myself having

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<v Speaker 2>kids with her. So I want to know, be honest

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<v Speaker 2>with me, flexen for him, for him? Am I the asshole?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to talk to you. I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 1>This is so disturbing because I know that this kind

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<v Speaker 1>of stuff happens.

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<v Speaker 2>All the time.

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<v Speaker 3>We've ever talked about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Last year, the wife dies, take it back up with.

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<v Speaker 2>It not even not even dies injured amnesia, brain injuryan

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<v Speaker 2>to the be were already moving on?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it in these desperate times, in desperate measures, that

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<v Speaker 1>we just have to look to the next best thing,

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<v Speaker 1>Like is it an upgrade or a down grade? That's

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<v Speaker 1>the question. I think people date who they want, who

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<v Speaker 1>they can not who they want. If you let's say

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<v Speaker 1>you meet a guy and you person populate, okay, let's

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<v Speaker 1>see you meet a person you copulate, then you meet

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<v Speaker 1>their brother or whoever, and you actually fall in love

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<v Speaker 1>with them.

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<v Speaker 3>Damn, I didn't pick the right one.

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<v Speaker 1>Could you date them even though you had slept with

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<v Speaker 1>the other brother.

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<v Speaker 3>I believe in homihopping, So yeah, whoa okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Keeping the family, I say, you know, over her deathbed,

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<v Speaker 1>that's got a hit different. Yeah, I don't like family

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<v Speaker 1>fall out, so I'd personally be leaving that one alone

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<v Speaker 1>and going back on Tinder or whatnot and finding someone else.

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<v Speaker 1>Moving on with sisters absolutely crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>This is what I think of when people say life

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<v Speaker 2>is for living. You don't get another chance to do this.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to test it out in this lifetime to

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<v Speaker 2>be sure that it's the wrong thing to do. Then

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<v Speaker 2>you test it out and you come back and let

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<v Speaker 2>us know.

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<v Speaker 4>Keters flex and froms flex and firms.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you into self positive affirmation type stuff? Is that

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<v Speaker 3>your jams that your bag.

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<v Speaker 1>Never really done it? Oh? I did it a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit like you do it a little bit in some

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<v Speaker 1>sort of like treatments like DBT and stuff, But i'n't

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<v Speaker 1>really done it for her extended periods of time. Only

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm real in a bit of a rough patch.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, for you, Brickie say your thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Ah a little bit, but it's normally just the one

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<v Speaker 1>or two otherwise I find it a bit cringe.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm always surprised to find out which of the people

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<v Speaker 2>that I know are really really into their affirmations and things,

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<v Speaker 2>because I think when you like, I'm a spiritual person,

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<v Speaker 2>so people kind of lant me in that category of like,

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<v Speaker 2>she must be an affirmation girl, and I'm a manifesto,

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<v Speaker 2>but in like a praying way, not a whatever way.

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<v Speaker 2>So when I found this video of Harry Garside, Australian boxer,

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<v Speaker 2>olympian and ballet dancer, on the Hello Sport podcast, he

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<v Speaker 2>was talking about his twenty daily alarms that he's set

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<v Speaker 2>to remind him to do various positive self affirmations, and

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<v Speaker 2>we'll play the clip in a second. But when I

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<v Speaker 2>first saw it, I could tell that it didn't seem

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<v Speaker 2>like the hosts were taking him seriously until he actually

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<v Speaker 2>did one of these affirmations, all these practices while doing

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<v Speaker 2>the podcast, because he was so disciplined, and he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I can't not do it just because I'm here, I

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<v Speaker 2>gotta take my time out. Let's play the clip.

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<v Speaker 5>You're sorry, boys do these do these alarms throughout the day?

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<v Speaker 3>What's the four?

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<v Speaker 5>So I'll explain them first and then I'll do them.

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<v Speaker 5>But so's there's probably four or five different themes, and

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<v Speaker 5>each themes different and they probably each individual theme goes

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<v Speaker 5>off maybe four times throughout the day. Okay, and then

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<v Speaker 5>I have to stop. This one's described something he can see, so, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>it's being in the present moment this one. So it's

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<v Speaker 5>just like a couple of hot boys, a couple couple

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<v Speaker 5>of absolute stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>What am I looking at? Sex person?

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<v Speaker 5>And then yeah, other themes are like in thoughts, so

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<v Speaker 5>it's like if I catch myself, your alarm goes off

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<v Speaker 5>in a negative thought or there has been one that

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<v Speaker 5>I was conscious of in the last hour. I have

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<v Speaker 5>to reframe it to something I'm grateful for. You know that

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<v Speaker 5>makes sense? Yeah, and then there's other ones that I

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<v Speaker 5>have to like build myself up with positive affirmations and

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<v Speaker 5>then visualize myself achieving the goal that I've got and

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<v Speaker 5>then also myself in five ten years, like the life

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<v Speaker 5>that I want. So is another another alarm?

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<v Speaker 3>What's that one for?

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<v Speaker 5>This is the build myself up? So okay, yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>actually going to do this real quickly. This one's a

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<v Speaker 5>big one. That's right.

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<v Speaker 3>Discipline that was cool. Discipline that was cool.

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<v Speaker 2>So what you didn't hear in that clip was about

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<v Speaker 2>the forty five seconds that Harry took to in his

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<v Speaker 2>head recite this affirmation or to say something, but he

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<v Speaker 2>didn't actually share it with the room, and you hear

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<v Speaker 2>them say, you know, discipline, discipline, this scipline. But it

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<v Speaker 2>was interesting because up until he had done it, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think they would have taken him as seriously someone

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<v Speaker 2>who's gone out of the way to set twenty different

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<v Speaker 2>alarms to remind themselves not only to be consistent with

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<v Speaker 2>their self care, but to do it in environments where

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<v Speaker 2>you might feel like it's not appropriate because you know,

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<v Speaker 2>let me push this aside because right now I'm doing

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<v Speaker 2>work or I'm having a conversation. It's interesting because someone

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<v Speaker 2>like Harry Garslid, who's achieved things that the average person

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<v Speaker 2>won't do in their lifetime. He's done over and over

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<v Speaker 2>and over and over and over and over again, just

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<v Speaker 2>an exceptional person. And it's like, this is probably why,

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<v Speaker 2>because when we're saying, oh, we do a little affirmations

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<v Speaker 2>every now and then, when like you know, we little

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<v Speaker 2>pick me up, he's got the twenty alarms set daily,

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<v Speaker 2>ready to go.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so sick.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, if it works, if it works and

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<v Speaker 1>it makes you better something that you love, then why

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<v Speaker 1>not Oh yeah, interrupt that meeting, interrupt that hard surgery,

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<v Speaker 1>and listen to your affirmations.

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<v Speaker 2>King, This is flex and frooms in a potentially exciting, sexy,

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<v Speaker 2>but possibly unsatisfactory turn of events. Netflix is no deformation

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<v Speaker 2>manipulating us. While if we live in the same region

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<v Speaker 2>we might have access to the same shows, I think

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know how it works. We don't get the

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<v Speaker 2>same with thumbnails, and that is by design.

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<v Speaker 3>At first, I thought it was just.

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<v Speaker 2>A little quirky thing, a little treat for Netflix's fase.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe the premium subscription you get two different thumbnails. It's

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<v Speaker 2>not the case. They have this really advanced algorithm that

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<v Speaker 2>develops different thumbnails. Not in real time, they make it beforehand,

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<v Speaker 2>but based on your viewing habits, you get different thumbnails

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<v Speaker 2>for the shows that are on Netflix. So the reason

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<v Speaker 2>why I clocked onto this is because Netflix mine, in particular,

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<v Speaker 2>that was a really crazy and aggressive yawn. Why did

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<v Speaker 2>you scowl at me? And I really said, you could

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<v Speaker 2>have just cu uncomfortably if you wanted so. On my

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<v Speaker 2>Netflix in particular, it has a habit of making me

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<v Speaker 2>think that every hit series and TV show, a movie

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<v Speaker 2>has a black person as a lead, because it's.

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<v Speaker 3>Going to be a black person on that thumbnail.

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<v Speaker 2>Said my Netflix, everybody is black and every show is

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<v Speaker 2>a sci fi fantasy thriller, every single one. You should

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<v Speaker 2>see what my rivedale looks like.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like murder Mystery. Anyway, So I made this comment.

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<v Speaker 2>I said on the internet, you know, Netflix makes me

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<v Speaker 2>think that every show has black people in it, and

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<v Speaker 2>someone says, well, no, everyone has different thumbnails.

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<v Speaker 3>So I do my extra research and this is what

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<v Speaker 3>I found out.

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<v Speaker 1>She got the print out and everything.

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<v Speaker 2>Netflix collects our data. I don't read your terms and

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<v Speaker 2>conditions and serves us different thumbnails based on what it

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<v Speaker 2>thinks we might want to see, because it knows we judge.

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<v Speaker 3>Books by its cover.

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<v Speaker 2>It's true because when I was saying that I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>judge person aesthetically, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Were like, that's so rude, that'sfect. We shouldn't like. I

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<v Speaker 3>never said that rollotape brings back to spectation.

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<v Speaker 1>I never said that.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I said, everyone put your hand with

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<v Speaker 3>you judge book by its cover. Put my hand up.

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<v Speaker 1>You're like, no, I'm being subjugated to false information, and

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<v Speaker 1>I do not condone it. I distinctly remember not saying that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I will not be gas lit in the studio boom.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't just target people. They target It's based on

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<v Speaker 2>your viewing activity. So if you watch a certain type

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<v Speaker 2>of show, or you're drawn to a certain type of

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<v Speaker 2>theme or genre like romance or comedy, often your thumbnails.

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<v Speaker 3>Will look like that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I was thinking the other day. I wanted

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<v Speaker 2>something light to watch in the background. I was looking

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<v Speaker 2>for a background show to do work, and I couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>pick anything because everything looked really serious and like I

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<v Speaker 2>had to use my brain to watch it. But that's

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<v Speaker 2>a hell of my own doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Try living with someone and having their Netflix. It's giving

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<v Speaker 1>real housewives. Nothing wrong with that bikini romance, rom com love. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>very different yours my housemates. Yeah, it so mine because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't pay my house.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh there's upsides.

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<v Speaker 2>This is why Netflix is cracking down. This is exactly

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<v Speaker 2>why am I go to jail.

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<v Speaker 3>This is Flex and Frooms. I'm Kater Key on the

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<v Speaker 3>Flex and Froom Show.

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<v Speaker 1>We are always learning and evolving. Might look different for

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<v Speaker 1>different people, and yet here we are putting in the

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<v Speaker 1>work every single day. Three to five pm. Found this

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<v Speaker 1>TikTok and it's discussing whether or not you should lie

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<v Speaker 1>in certain situations and deciding on what situations weren't lies.

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<v Speaker 1>It's from a TikToker called Dana Eve. She's talking to

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<v Speaker 1>the camera. Let's have a listen.

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<v Speaker 2>One to lie too.

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<v Speaker 4>You're in the elevator and the building you live in,

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<v Speaker 4>and somebody that you don't recognize asks if you live here. No,

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<v Speaker 4>just visiting some friends.

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<v Speaker 2>I went to college with. No.

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<v Speaker 4>Just dropping off a few things.

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<v Speaker 3>For my brothers.

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<v Speaker 4>An uber or lyft driver or a taxi driver drops

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<v Speaker 4>you off at your home and asks if this is home? No,

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<v Speaker 4>just visiting some family friends. No, on my way to

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<v Speaker 4>a surprise party, or even I wish, But no, You're

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<v Speaker 4>sitting having a drink and somebody says, what's a girl

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<v Speaker 4>like you doing here alone?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just waiting for.

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<v Speaker 4>My boyfriend, waiting on some friends. They should be here

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<v Speaker 4>any minute, waiting at my husband. He's just parking. You

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<v Speaker 4>recently moved to a new city and somebody asks if

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<v Speaker 4>you're new here. No, I used to live right down

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<v Speaker 4>the street. No, I used to go to school here.

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<v Speaker 4>And if you ever find yourself in a situation where

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<v Speaker 4>somebody asks, does anybody know you're here, your answer one

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<v Speaker 4>hundred percent of the time is yes, yes. My husband's

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<v Speaker 4>on his way to meet me right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to say, who's believing some people have husbands.

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<v Speaker 3>This isn't a blanket rule. She's not a blanket rule.

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<v Speaker 3>They said, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Quirky girl with her husband, and I just I've had

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<v Speaker 1>to use this in practice out and when I've done that,

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<v Speaker 1>I've gone, oh, no, like my boyfriend's on my way.

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<v Speaker 3>Boyfriend doesn't exist. They go, well, he's not here now,

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<v Speaker 3>is he?

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<v Speaker 2>And then it's like, now what And I've definitely tried

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<v Speaker 2>the husband thing in an uber and he said you're

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<v Speaker 2>not wearing a ring, said we don't wear rings.

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<v Speaker 3>And keep crying where progress was?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, I agree, this is just personal safety

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<v Speaker 1>one O one. It's good to be abreast of these

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<v Speaker 1>kind of things. There's a chick the dm ME once

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<v Speaker 1>she was getting near it and she got an UBER

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<v Speaker 1>and she put in an address. It took her there,

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<v Speaker 1>and it took her to a random parking lot. She's

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<v Speaker 1>freaking out. She starts running away, lo and behold, she

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<v Speaker 1>realizes she'd put the wrong addressing. Okay, so there's times

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<v Speaker 1>for your personal safety is perhaps jeopardized by your very self.

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<v Speaker 3>So definitely I would say be aware when.

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<v Speaker 1>You're getting near it to look at where you've collected

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<v Speaker 1>your uber. I would also say, like, it's not good

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<v Speaker 1>to expect the worse of people. But also just like

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<v Speaker 1>these are very easy little liars that don't affect anyone,

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<v Speaker 1>so you may as well just like say it, say no,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't live here, say da da da. The one

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<v Speaker 1>in the lift like is a bit more crazy because

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<v Speaker 1>if there's someone that lives there and you say, oh no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just visiting my xyz and then the next time

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<v Speaker 1>they see you're in the lift with no pants on,

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<v Speaker 1>going and take your rubbish out. I don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>you can explain that one.

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<v Speaker 3>So I would say pick and shoes.

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<v Speaker 2>As someone who spends a lot of time being honest

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<v Speaker 2>and regretting it, I just feel like I'm introducing lying back.

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<v Speaker 2>Or do you regret being honest? Well, I regret the

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<v Speaker 2>fact that. No, I don't regret. It's not that I

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<v Speaker 2>regret being honest. I just rarely prepare myself for an

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<v Speaker 2>outcome that is not good. Like the outcome of this

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<v Speaker 2>honesty should mean that I get what I expected from

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<v Speaker 2>being honest, and that's just not how life works. And

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<v Speaker 2>in some instances I think I would have been happy

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<v Speaker 2>if I didn't have that hardcome versation or I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>say what I felt. So perhaps not lying, but I

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<v Speaker 2>will definitely practice keeping my mouth shut, yep, letting everybody suffer.

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<v Speaker 2>I never help out, never help out. I do it

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<v Speaker 2>too much, and not in the way people think as

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<v Speaker 2>well that I'm like, I'm going to just lip sealed

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<v Speaker 2>head down because people think you're being mean when I'm

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<v Speaker 2>being honest.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, is that.

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<v Speaker 1>What you mean like people get their feelings hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I think people don't know what to do with

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<v Speaker 2>honesty a lot of the time, Like often, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we talked about a couple of shows ago. People don't

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<v Speaker 2>want advice. They'll ask you what you think, to not

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<v Speaker 2>listen to what you say, to waste your time. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>your people so similar to that, where I'm like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when someone asks me for advice, I want to be

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<v Speaker 2>really honest and earnest. But if you don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>hear it and I don't want to waste my time,

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<v Speaker 2>then I might just lie.

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<v Speaker 3>So do whatever you want, babe, I trust you. I

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<v Speaker 3>think I've heard that line. You've been listening to The

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