WEBVTT - How gratitude will change your life 🌼

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<v Speaker 1>Because when you recall a positive experience, and that could

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<v Speaker 1>be something as small as like you know someone at

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<v Speaker 1>the coffee shop that you cut in in line, or

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<v Speaker 1>someone gave you a compliment when you know you weren't

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<v Speaker 1>feeling that great, whatever it might be, when you recall

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<v Speaker 1>that experience, you actually release the same happy hormones in

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<v Speaker 1>your body.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello and welcome back to the Riz and Conk Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It is your host, Georgie Stephenson. As some of you

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<v Speaker 2>may know, I'm currently on maternity leave, so Tim and

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<v Speaker 2>I are soaking up the newborn bubble and new parent

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<v Speaker 2>really hope you enjoy this mini episode. Let's get straight

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<v Speaker 2>into the show. What are some actionable steps that they

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<v Speaker 2>can put in place to become more grateful and feel

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<v Speaker 2>more grateful in their life.

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's like a couple of things that you

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<v Speaker 1>can do to get started. And the first one is

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<v Speaker 1>just exactly what you're doing, Georgie, which is just writing

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<v Speaker 1>things down every morning or every evening. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>figuring out what time of day you need at most.

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<v Speaker 1>So for some people, they wake up in the morning

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<v Speaker 1>with the feeling of dread and what they have to do,

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<v Speaker 1>and they feel overwhelmed with, oh my goodness, I've got

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<v Speaker 1>to get the kids ready, or I've got to get

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<v Speaker 1>ready for work, and I need to go to the

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<v Speaker 1>gym and I need to do this, and I need

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<v Speaker 1>to do that. If you're waking up with that kind

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<v Speaker 1>of feeling, it's definitely a good idea to start your

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<v Speaker 1>gratitude practice in the morning where you literally just think

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<v Speaker 1>of three things that you're grateful for. And my biggest

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<v Speaker 1>recommendation wouldn't be to say I'm grateful for my house,

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<v Speaker 1>my partner, and my cat. Think of actual events that

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<v Speaker 1>have happened, especially in the last twenty four hours, because

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<v Speaker 1>when you recall a positive experience, and that could be

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<v Speaker 1>something as small as like you know, someone at the

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<v Speaker 1>coffee shop that you cut in in line, or someone

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<v Speaker 1>gave you a compliment when you know you weren't feeling

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<v Speaker 1>that great, whatever it might be, when you recall that experience,

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<v Speaker 1>you actually release the same happy hormones in your body,

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<v Speaker 1>and in a way, you sort of get to physically

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<v Speaker 1>feel it again. So the more we can have your

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<v Speaker 1>body used to those happy hormones coming out, the easier

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<v Speaker 1>it is for them to release when the time's are right.

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<v Speaker 1>Whereas for some people, and this used to be me,

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<v Speaker 1>I used to go to bed thinking, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>there's you know, there's so much I didn't do, or

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<v Speaker 1>you know, oh I forgot to write back to that message,

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<v Speaker 1>or I made a real fool of myself, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I said something stupid, or maybe I fell over in

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<v Speaker 1>front of people at the shop, so I'm incredibly clumsy.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. I would be thinking about all the things

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<v Speaker 1>that I didn't do, all the things that were to come,

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<v Speaker 1>and it would make for a really restless night's sleep

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<v Speaker 1>because I was just constantly, you know, kind of in

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<v Speaker 1>that fight or flight mode of like ad and so

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<v Speaker 1>much to do. So for me, doing it at night

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<v Speaker 1>was really beneficial because it would take me into a

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<v Speaker 1>really calming state where I would go back over my

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<v Speaker 1>day and instead of thinking of the things I didn't do,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought of all the things that happened to me

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<v Speaker 1>that were amazing. And when you actually kind of just

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<v Speaker 1>walk yourself through that day, it's quite easy to find

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<v Speaker 1>good things if you're searching for them. You know, your brain,

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<v Speaker 1>if you allow yourself, your brain will find the things.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you kind of are like holding on really

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<v Speaker 1>tight to this story that your life is no good

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<v Speaker 1>and everything's hard and people don't like you and you're

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<v Speaker 1>not enough, it is going to be really hard. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think that just getting into the practice of finding

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<v Speaker 1>just little things in the beginning. It'll help you to

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<v Speaker 1>eventually start to see the really big things that you

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<v Speaker 1>can be grateful for. And then one other thing is

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<v Speaker 1>I love I sometimes talk about this on my Instagram,

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<v Speaker 1>So Thankful Thursdays, I would think back over the last

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<v Speaker 1>seven day what people had done for me, good or bad.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, sometimes it would be an experience that maybe

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<v Speaker 1>someone had been really shitty and said something really nasty

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<v Speaker 1>to me, but it had allowed me to reflect on

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<v Speaker 1>ways that I could be better. And what I would

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<v Speaker 1>do is for the people who said mean things, so

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't necessarily want to thank for it in real life.

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<v Speaker 1>I would write like a little sort of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a really quick letter of being like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much for being that person who allowed

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<v Speaker 1>me to look deeper into myself. But then I would spend,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like that ten to fifteen minutes sending out

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<v Speaker 1>messages of gratitude to my friends and family. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>if my mom had looked after my kids, I would

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<v Speaker 1>make sure I sent her a text just being like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you know how much I appreciate this. It

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<v Speaker 1>helps me to work and show up how I need to.

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<v Speaker 1>You know if someone had said something nice that had

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<v Speaker 1>really stuck with me, I would write them a message

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<v Speaker 1>and just let them know that it was still on

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<v Speaker 1>my mind, and it meant a lot to me. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that when you pass it on, when you're

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<v Speaker 1>not just thinking, Okay, what am I grateful for in

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<v Speaker 1>my life, but when you're actually letting people know that

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<v Speaker 1>they've made an impact in yours, it makes those people

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<v Speaker 1>feel really good. And I don't know about you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>anyone listening, but in my life, my one aim is

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<v Speaker 1>to make other people feel good because ultimately, if I

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<v Speaker 1>can make other people feel good, I feel really freaking good.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel really accomplished by helping others. So that's just

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<v Speaker 1>like a small thing you can do, and I have

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<v Speaker 1>it in my schedule on a Thursday. It's a reminder

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<v Speaker 1>that pops up and I just take that time to

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<v Speaker 1>do those messages.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you said, I personally think about what I'm grateful

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<v Speaker 2>for in my life, usually more sort of bigger things,

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<v Speaker 2>but you were saying think about it sort of little occasions,

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<v Speaker 2>so you can feel that feeling. So could you go

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit more into that. I was just a

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<v Speaker 2>bit confused, because that's the first time I've sort of

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<v Speaker 2>heard about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to try and explain it in the most

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<v Speaker 1>basic terms because I can get a little bit. I

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<v Speaker 1>get a little bit excited about neuroscience, which is so weird,

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<v Speaker 1>and not call them to you.

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<v Speaker 2>I love hashtag science, so don't want touch.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like I just I get really excited about But

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<v Speaker 1>I like for people to think of their brain. We

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<v Speaker 1>have these neuropathways, and every time we have an emotion

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<v Speaker 1>or a feeling, they fire off between each other, and

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to imagine, there's sort of tracks going

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<v Speaker 1>between you know, the neurons, and the pathways strengthen or

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<v Speaker 1>weaken depending on how often there is energy moving through them.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's probably the easiest way to think of it.

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<v Speaker 1>So every time you feel a good feeling, you're strengthening

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<v Speaker 1>that particular pathway, meaning that it becomes easier for you

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<v Speaker 1>to feel good things. It becomes easier for you to

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<v Speaker 1>feel gratitude, for you to feel joy, for you to

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<v Speaker 1>feel love, for you to feel the things that really

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<v Speaker 1>light you up. Whereas on the flip side, if you're

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<v Speaker 1>constantly thinking about the things that make you feel sad, depressed,

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<v Speaker 1>not good enough, not what you want to feel like

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<v Speaker 1>the bad feelings, you're actually going to strengthen those pathways.

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<v Speaker 1>So for me with my clients and then everything I do,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so important that people are consciously and staying super

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<v Speaker 1>aware to the fact that you need to strengthen the

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<v Speaker 1>pathways of the feel good feelings. So every time you

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<v Speaker 1>can remind yourself of a good feeling, it's actually making

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<v Speaker 1>it easier for you to be happy in the long run.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like a muscle, like I liken it to training.

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<v Speaker 1>If you strengthen the happy muscle, it's easier to pick

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<v Speaker 1>things up, it's easier to use it, it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>work more effectively. If you want to strengthen the negativity muscles,

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<v Speaker 1>they are going to be easier to use because and

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<v Speaker 1>in the same way energetically that like attracts like good

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<v Speaker 1>feelings attract more good feelings. So I think when you're

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<v Speaker 1>doing this, because some people, when they're naturally in a

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<v Speaker 1>state of you know, maybe self hatred or not having

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<v Speaker 1>faith in other people or in the world, they will

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<v Speaker 1>feel a lot of the negative emotions, and that's just

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<v Speaker 1>consistently strengthening them up. So if you can take that

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<v Speaker 1>time to feel the good stuff and really feel it,

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<v Speaker 1>not just you know, like for someone who's in a

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<v Speaker 1>negativity state when they're writing their gratitude journal, they might

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<v Speaker 1>not actually take the time to feel the emotions that

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<v Speaker 1>come with the thing that they're being grateful for. So

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<v Speaker 1>my biggest tip is to actually feel good when you're

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<v Speaker 1>doing it, because I see so many people and they're like,

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<v Speaker 1>I write my gratitude journal every night and I still

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<v Speaker 1>have a shit life. Sorry, Or I write my gratitude

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<v Speaker 1>of journal every night and nothing's changed. I still feel bad.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's because they're just writing the words. They're not

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<v Speaker 1>actually utilizing the emotions that can come with reliving good

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<v Speaker 1>experiences or actually feeling grateful for something. And in my

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<v Speaker 1>opinion and people will disagree with me here, you're not

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<v Speaker 1>completely feeling gratitude unless it brings you to tears. And

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't mean that every time you do your gratitudes

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<v Speaker 1>at night you have to like ball your eyes out

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<v Speaker 1>and be a help mess. That would just be so

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<v Speaker 1>INCONVENI But if you're able to really think about something

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<v Speaker 1>like if I think about my mom, I sound like

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<v Speaker 1>baby spice right now. But if I think about my

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<v Speaker 1>mom and like, how much she's done for me. If

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<v Speaker 1>I really get deep into that, it would bring me

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<v Speaker 1>to tears. The amount of gratitude I have what she

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<v Speaker 1>said with my life would actually bring me to tears,

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<v Speaker 1>Whereas if I'm kind of thinking about, like, oh, how

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<v Speaker 1>great is it to have a house, I'm like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not going to cry as that that's for giving me

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<v Speaker 1>emotions and the feels, do you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent. I love that. So it's

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<v Speaker 2>sort of an almost two step process with that and

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<v Speaker 2>really creating that feeling and exercising that muscle, like.

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<v Speaker 1>You said, totally one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, love that. Thank you so much for explaining that.

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