1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. 2 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:09,119 Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just 3 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:10,119 Speaker 2: once answers. 4 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: Now for today's podcast, we're diving into our lives and 5 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: sharing with you what's worked and what hasn't. It's called 6 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:17,279 Speaker 1: I'll Do Better Tomorrow. This is a bit where we 7 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 1: get a bit personal and you know what's working and 8 00:00:20,560 --> 00:00:22,880 Speaker 1: what's not, how you can make your family happier. Just 9 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,320 Speaker 1: before we do though, on Wednesday, we shared a little 10 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 1: bit of our history. We talked about how Kylie and 11 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: I met. We talked about how I proposed, how I 12 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:33,639 Speaker 1: wish I could do that again, and everything associated with 13 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:36,160 Speaker 1: what has led to well, we're about to hear twenty 14 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: six years of marriage in around about a month from now. 15 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:42,280 Speaker 1: While we were talking about that, I found some research 16 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: that I wanted to share. It's only just been published. 17 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:49,320 Speaker 1: The British Psychological Society in the UK have popped this 18 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:51,400 Speaker 1: into their email and it happened to come up just 19 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: in time for Valentine's Day, and I just thought, if 20 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 1: you're in a relationship with somebody that you care about 21 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: and you want to make that relationship even better, this 22 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: would be some great advice before we do older Better tomorrow, 23 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 1: I'm going to share some more. It's almost like a 24 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: doctor's desk, except on a Friday. Who I love your 25 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: sense of humor. In fact, that's what this is about. 26 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 1: A good sense of humor, according to the researchers, regularly 27 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:15,960 Speaker 1: scores highly on lists of most desired traits in a 28 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: romantic partner. I think that's why you're so crazy about me. 29 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 2: So crazy. 30 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: But well, there's a whole lot of research exploring why 31 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 1: we find funny people appealing and how humor might help 32 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: on a first date. There's hardly any research at all 33 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 1: into the role of humor in established relationships. So Kenneth 34 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 1: Tann at Singapore Management University and a bunch of colleagues 35 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:38,960 Speaker 1: put it in a recent paper in Psychological Science, which 36 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 1: is a really prestigious psychology journal, and they asked the question, 37 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: a couples who are funny more satisfied with each other, 38 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: or a satisfied couples more able to see the funny 39 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: side of their partners. And then they brought in one 40 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 1: hundred and eight couples for a diary study so that 41 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 1: they could find out the couples were all of the 42 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: Singapore Management University. They'd been in their relationship for an 43 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 1: average of eight months, so we're not talking about people 44 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:03,120 Speaker 1: who have been in relationships for as long as you 45 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: and I, Kylie. But every night for seven days, they 46 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: used a seven or eight point scale to rate during 47 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: that day how funny they had found their partner, how 48 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: humorous they had been, or how humorous they'd tried to 49 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: be with their partner, and how satisfied they felt with 50 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 1: their relationship, and how committed they felt to their partner, 51 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 1: and finally, how committed they felt that their partner was 52 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 1: to them. And what the researchers found was clear links 53 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 1: between humor production, humor perception, and perceptions of the strength 54 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: of the relationship. In other words, on days when one 55 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,799 Speaker 1: individual was particularly satisfied or committed or felt that their 56 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:38,799 Speaker 1: partner was highly committed to them, they also reported bringing 57 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 1: more humor inter interactions with their partner, as well as 58 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 1: finding them funnier. 59 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:43,920 Speaker 2: I love that. 60 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 1: What are you owing about? This is what I think 61 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: it really says is when you're comfortabard with people, you 62 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 1: can sort of let your head down a little bit, 63 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 1: you can relax, you can joke around. People like it. 64 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: When we're light and breezy and cool, and relaxed, which 65 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 1: again is why our marriage has lasted twenty six years. 66 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 1: Because I'm so you're so funny, cool and relaxed. Just 67 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 1: wanted to share happy Valentine's Day. Hope you all enjoyed 68 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:11,920 Speaker 1: Valentine's Day on Wednesday. By the way, all right, Kylie, 69 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: So what we normally do on a Friday is we 70 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 1: dive into our lives and talk about what's worked and 71 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:19,440 Speaker 1: what hasn't, what people can learn from our pairing efforts, 72 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: mistakes or wins so their families can be happier. Why 73 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: don't you kicks off? Since I've just talked about how 74 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,359 Speaker 1: funny I am. 75 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 2: It's getting a little bit hard to talk about our 76 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 2: children anonymously now that we only have one kid at school. 77 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:35,200 Speaker 1: Okay, so today's the story about Annie. He's what you're saying. 78 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: We have one daughter who's at school grade eleven. There 79 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 1: you go, This is all about her. 80 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 2: And after our big weekend away, on the way home, 81 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:44,920 Speaker 2: she had asked whether or not she could have the 82 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 2: next day of school because it had been a big 83 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 2: weekend and she was tired, and she was a little 84 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 2: bit stressed about trying to catch up with schoolwork, and 85 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:54,160 Speaker 2: so she just kind of said, if I stay home, 86 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 2: then I'll catch up on everything that I'd missed and 87 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 2: I'll be ready to go to school the next day. 88 00:03:58,160 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 1: Terrible idea, but as. 89 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 2: Her we obviously acknowledged that was not going to happen, 90 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 2: that she'd had the privilege of having a couple of 91 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 2: days of school already, and that she would have to 92 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:08,240 Speaker 2: go to school the next day. Well, it just happened. 93 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 2: When she woke up the next morning, she was not 94 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 2: feeling well. And normally I would kind of be a 95 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 2: little bit more lenient with her, and I would say, yeah, okay, 96 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 2: have a rest, have a sleep, and get school work done. 97 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:24,279 Speaker 2: But I just had this sense that this might have 98 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 2: been self manifested as a result of the conversation we'd 99 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:28,599 Speaker 2: had the day before. 100 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 1: So she's feeling stress and anxious, and therefore now she's 101 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: not feeling well enough to. 102 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 2: Go to school. That's right, And so I decided that 103 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 2: I needed to push a little bit on this one. 104 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 2: And so I said, I want you to get ready, 105 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 2: have some breakfast, And I said, and once we've finished 106 00:04:40,600 --> 00:04:42,600 Speaker 2: at Bible study class, I said, we'll see how you're 107 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 2: feeling and we'll go from there. So She did all 108 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 2: of that happily, and once she had finished, I looked 109 00:04:48,680 --> 00:04:50,559 Speaker 2: at her and I said, you know what, I said, 110 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 2: I'm just struggling a little bit because yesterday you actually 111 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:54,480 Speaker 2: asked for a day off. And I said, and I'm 112 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 2: wondering how you are feeling now, whether or not that's 113 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:01,599 Speaker 2: a result of our conversation yesterday, and you're kind of 114 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 2: living into the factor that you don't want to be 115 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:05,719 Speaker 2: at school, and so you're now feeling a little bit unwell, 116 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:08,359 Speaker 2: or whether you genuinely are unwell, And I'm not suggesting 117 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 2: that you're not. I'm just trying to kind of work 118 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 2: out where we're at. And she looked at me and 119 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 2: she said, I don't really know. And I said, so 120 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:18,479 Speaker 2: here's the deal. I'm at home with the kids today, 121 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 2: home school, home schooling, and I'm really happy to come 122 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 2: and pick you up, but I think that I would 123 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 2: really like you to just give it a go and 124 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:29,840 Speaker 2: see how today goes well. I didn't get a phone call, 125 00:05:30,480 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 2: and by the time she came home she had a 126 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:35,040 Speaker 2: big smile on her face and we got through the day. 127 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:36,839 Speaker 2: When I asked her how a day went, she just said, 128 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 2: I'm just really tired. But there was an energy to 129 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 2: her that was not there in the morning. Sometimes it's 130 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:43,359 Speaker 2: really hard as a parent to know when to push 131 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 2: and when not to push. But I think that it's 132 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 2: really important for us to help our kids recognize and 133 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,279 Speaker 2: see that while we see them and we understand what 134 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 2: they're going through, that there are some things we just 135 00:05:55,200 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 2: kind of have to push through. And on this occasion, 136 00:05:57,839 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 2: I might have got it right and we did. 137 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: Okay, Lesson learned. The worst thing is when you do 138 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: that and then the kids like crumble and you're like, oh, no, 139 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 1: I've pushed too hard. I have gone too far. 140 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:08,800 Speaker 2: But I gave her an out as well. There was 141 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:11,000 Speaker 2: an acknowledgement I was really happy to come and get her, 142 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:15,160 Speaker 2: and I would if things deteriorated throughout the day. It 143 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 2: wasn't an arbitrary you have to go and that's it. 144 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 2: I'm not, you know, tough love. But it was an 145 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 2: acknowledgment that right now, I'm just not sure where you're sitting, 146 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 2: and so I want to see how you're going to go. 147 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:28,159 Speaker 1: Let's give it a go. There reminds me a recently 148 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 1: deceased friend of ours, Kelly Megan. He's an American guy, 149 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: and he had this phrase that he used to use. 150 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 1: If you're walkable, you're workable. In other words, if you 151 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 1: can get out of bed and walk around, you can 152 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: go and get on with your work day. If you 153 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 1: collapse at work, then obviously you need to go back 154 00:06:44,960 --> 00:06:46,840 Speaker 1: to bed. But if you can get up, go and 155 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:49,840 Speaker 1: have a go and boss, well yeah, kind of. But 156 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: at the same time, I think there's something in that. 157 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:57,440 Speaker 1: And as you experienced with Annie, we saw her manage 158 00:06:57,480 --> 00:06:59,119 Speaker 1: to pick he self up and go pretty well throughout 159 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 1: the day. Just before I share my old a better tomorrow, 160 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 1: can you give us like a thirty second update. We're 161 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks in. Now, how's homeschooling going? 162 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 2: Well, it's going. That's a typical line. 163 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 1: Biggest surprise that there's probably a. 164 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 2: Lot more prep work on my end than I anticipated. 165 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:19,520 Speaker 1: You can't just let the kids go and do homeschool. 166 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 2: No, definitely not. And I guess the number two thing 167 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 2: would be that I'm actually really impressed with how well 168 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 2: Emily has coped at school up until this point, because 169 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:37,160 Speaker 2: she needs absolute one on one, uninterrupted time with me. 170 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 2: As soon as I pick up my phone, somebody walks 171 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 2: into the room, she's away with the fairies, and it's 172 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 2: really really hard to keep her posted. So I can't 173 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:48,920 Speaker 2: imagine being in that position and being in a class 174 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 2: with thirty other students that are, you know, kind of 175 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 2: all moving in different directions and teachers, you know, talking 176 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 2: to other students, like there is so much distraction in 177 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 2: our kids'. 178 00:07:57,760 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: Classrooms, so tough in your diverse kids, and. 179 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 2: To be able to sit with her and have to 180 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 2: work through that one on one, it's really time consuming. 181 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 2: But she's she's doing great. She's actually doing great. She's 182 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:12,040 Speaker 2: really motivated to learn that. We've just got to we've 183 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 2: got to really hone in on those distractions that. 184 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 1: Six hours a day doesn't exist for you anymore. 185 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 2: That's really does saying yeah, what's your story for I'll 186 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:24,720 Speaker 2: do better tomorrow. 187 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:26,559 Speaker 1: So I'm not going to share a personal on this time. 188 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 1: I want to share an email that came through podcasts 189 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 1: at Happyfamilies dot com dot au. This one came from 190 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 1: mel Mel's in Wa and I just appreciated the email 191 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 1: so very much. It is a heavy topic, return to 192 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 1: something from last year, but it was so beautifully put 193 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:45,920 Speaker 1: together and I think it's so resonant for so many 194 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 1: Families that I just have to read it. So Mel 195 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: said high Happy Families team. I just wanted to send 196 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: on behalf of my son a poem that he wrote 197 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 1: at the end of last year, she says, I've been 198 00:08:56,120 --> 00:08:58,360 Speaker 1: a longtime follower of Happy Families, and as an ot 199 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,120 Speaker 1: and mum of three sons, I participated in a Happy 200 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:03,679 Speaker 1: Family his course about two years ago. It was fantastic, 201 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 1: all about raising good men, she says. At the end 202 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:08,800 Speaker 1: of last year, I read about the tragic story of 203 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: Justin and Kylie's nephew Logan, and one evening we were 204 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,920 Speaker 1: discussing it as a family. I showed my oldest son, Henry, 205 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:18,200 Speaker 1: who's twelve, a photo of him surfing, and we had 206 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:20,720 Speaker 1: a big discussion about mental health and what had happened 207 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 1: in this instance. Henry's a really keen surfer and lover 208 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 1: of the ocean. I think that the image was very 209 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: powerful for him. It really impacted Henry, and the conversation 210 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:32,320 Speaker 1: we had was really challenging and honest. Not long after this, 211 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:35,360 Speaker 1: Henry's English assignment was to write a poem on an 212 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: issue impacting young people today. I don't know if I'm 213 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 1: going to quite get through this email mel says he 214 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 1: chose men's mental health. He called his poem The Boy 215 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: and wrote it with Logan in mind. Henry performed it 216 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:50,079 Speaker 1: in front of his tutorial and was then asked to 217 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 1: present to the whole Year seven cohort, roughly one hundred 218 00:09:52,360 --> 00:09:55,000 Speaker 1: and eighty boys. I just wanted to share this poem 219 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:58,560 Speaker 1: with you as the story behind Logan's passing has generated 220 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:01,000 Speaker 1: a huge amount of conversation, has had a massive impact 221 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: on a young man on the other side of the country, 222 00:10:03,160 --> 00:10:05,640 Speaker 1: and has then been discussed more widely in his year group, 223 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:08,960 Speaker 1: encouraging the message of opening up, feeling emotions, not having 224 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:11,960 Speaker 1: to be tough, talking to your friends, and finding help 225 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:14,440 Speaker 1: when you need it. Written by a then twelve year 226 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 1: old boy, I find it really moving and just wanted 227 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,960 Speaker 1: justin Kylie and the team to know what an impact 228 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:24,800 Speaker 1: they've made in sharing the story of Logan. So Henry 229 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 1: wrote this as a Year seven boy. It's called the Boy. 230 00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 1: On the outside, you can see the confidence and smarts, 231 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: when really the inside is filled with fractured parts. Everyone 232 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 1: sees him as secure and fun when all he wants 233 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 1: to do is run. His only escape is to the beach, 234 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: where he relaxes and feels that happiness is within his reach, 235 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 1: but like the islands that he serves, he feels isolated 236 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 1: on this earth. Slotted in the perfect wave, he feels 237 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:52,079 Speaker 1: moments of peace. However, it offers only a temporary release. 238 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: The future and expectations too much to handle. His hope 239 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:58,320 Speaker 1: and belief are blown out like a candle. Too many 240 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 1: young lives being lost to think that should be avoided 241 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:03,440 Speaker 1: at all costs. To families and friends. It's like a 242 00:11:03,520 --> 00:11:05,320 Speaker 1: dart to the heart, losing someone you've loved from the 243 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 1: very start and a feelings become immense until it becomes 244 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: too intense. Our ability to express our feelings and talk 245 00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: helps us come together to support and forward walk Like 246 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,320 Speaker 1: the reef coral spawn. There is an opportunity we can 247 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:18,880 Speaker 1: regenerate each dawn. Check in with your mates to take 248 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:21,400 Speaker 1: care of each other. It always helps if you open 249 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:23,640 Speaker 1: up and talk to your brother's, sister, father, or mother. 250 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:27,440 Speaker 1: So Mel, thank you so much for sending that through 251 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 1: to podcasts at Happy Families dot com dot au. We're 252 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:33,120 Speaker 1: so grateful that in us sharing something hard in our life, 253 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:35,000 Speaker 1: that it's moved you and your family and had an 254 00:11:35,040 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 1: impact in the lives of others. I actually had a 255 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:38,680 Speaker 1: chat with my mum the other day, Kylie, and she 256 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 1: said that she heard from a friend of a friend, like, 257 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 1: you know how people have sort of related in bizarre 258 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 1: and unexpected ways. Everyone's within seven connections of somebody else. 259 00:11:49,880 --> 00:11:52,440 Speaker 1: And this person had said after the death of Logan, 260 00:11:53,000 --> 00:11:56,079 Speaker 1: they had been sitting in an alcoholics anonymous meeting and 261 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 1: somebody walked in and said, I'm here for the first time, 262 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:01,040 Speaker 1: and I'm here because I've just lost the friend and 263 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:05,120 Speaker 1: mentioned that in losing Logan it had made them think 264 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 1: just completely re evaluate their lives and they were there 265 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:09,959 Speaker 1: because they needed to make changes. And as it happened, 266 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:12,160 Speaker 1: everybody's connected. And it got back to my mum that 267 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 1: what people are changing And it feels so sad that 268 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 1: we don't have in but it feels so good that 269 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 1: people are reevaluating and trying to do things well. So Mel, 270 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 1: we appreciate you, and we appreciate your son sharing that 271 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:27,760 Speaker 1: just such a wonderful thing that you've done. We really 272 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 1: hope that the things that we've shared in today's podcast 273 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:33,680 Speaker 1: will inspire you this weekend to have better relationships with 274 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:35,800 Speaker 1: the kids. 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