WEBVTT - Is A Gift Card An Acceptable Present? 🎁 0:00:01.520 --> 0:00:04.440 Flex and Frooms Flex and Firms. This is the Flex 0:00:04.480 --> 0:00:05.960 and Frooms catch up podcast. 0:00:08.520 --> 0:00:13.360 Oh everybody, No, I'm scared. Who is Cleo nor Cleo? 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:14.800 Phoebe Tonkin? 0:00:15.320 --> 0:00:16.560 Oh from H two. 0:00:16.680 --> 0:00:18.919 Yeah, shout out Jamie Timini who was in the show 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:21.640 Friend of Mine Mossy listeners to music anyway? 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:23.320 Was that a tangent? 0:00:24.239 --> 0:00:24.840 Keep it tied? 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:25.640 Anyway? 0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:27.520 So what show was that? And my friend? 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:30.000 Sorry, sorry, we're gonna be talking about the end of 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:31.080 the world. I was just trying to like bring the 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:33.159 energy up because you're about to shoot it down out 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:33.880 of the skygirl. 0:00:35.280 --> 0:00:39.240 Here's the body he flex and Firms Flexen fromes. 0:00:39.000 --> 0:00:40.720 Cater Never miss a Beat. 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:40.920 I said. 0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:43.879 One of my twenty twenty three outs was respectability politics, 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:46.400 and that's you know, a lot of us find us 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:50.520 shackled by the idea that we have to say things 0:00:50.520 --> 0:00:53.080 in the right way to be heard or the polite way, 0:00:53.200 --> 0:00:54.040 and I'm just over it. 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:54.720 This year. 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:56.520 I'm getting really annoyed because I feel like we've spent 0:00:56.600 --> 0:00:59.960 the last five years learning how to critically critically think 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:04.160 like unpacked staff become smarter, and yet we keep asking 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:06.920 ourselves really silly questions or ones that don't need this 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:09.720 much thought at all. This Am I the asshole in particular? 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:12.440 No shade to the author, but I just feel like, 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:15.039 is this what we need to be thinking about on a. 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:16.640 Day to day and yet you're hooked? 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:21.520 You're here. I am the problem. I am what do 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:25.120 you call it a problem? 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:27.800 Am I the asshole for buying a gift card as 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:33.920 a birthday gift? Off the top woft? No, no, we'll see. 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:35.760 So am I the asshole for buying my mother in 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:37.600 law a gift card for her birthday? It was a 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:40.119 marvelous night, lots of fun until she opened my present 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:44.640 and everyone stared at me with effing, flaming daggers. Mother 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:47.360 in law had no issue at all, or she's a 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:51.360 very talented actress using her best smile. My significant other 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:56.760 significant other thinks I'm the asshole because I'm supposed to 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:59.400 give someone an actual gift on their birthday, which I 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:02.040 did a Nike gift card for seventy five dollars to 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:04.800 buy workout clothes from her favorite brand. I feel I'm 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:06.600 not the asshole for the simple fact that my gift 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:10.080 had thought and value. Meanwhile, there were some very heavy 0:02:10.160 --> 0:02:14.160 hitting gifts jewelry expensive shoes, Bloomingdale clothes, et cetera. And 0:02:14.240 --> 0:02:16.480 I can't even afford more than seventy five dollars without 0:02:16.480 --> 0:02:19.200 breaking Christmas budget or you know, paying my rent. Am 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:20.400 I the crazy one here? 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:21.160 Please? 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:24.680 I know I'm already conflicted about the situation. I felt 0:02:24.720 --> 0:02:26.240 bad enough that the rest of the night I hit 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:27.280 in the bathroom. 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:28.480 Because of the food. 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:32.120 It was not the food that is the real issue. 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:33.400 It was not the food. 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:34.160 You know. 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:37.359 That one is a little bit more complex because gifting culture, 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:40.720 much like tipping culture, a lot of unspoken rules and 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:44.480 not a lot of like middle ground at all. Do 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:46.960 not say too much, missus, and not. 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:51.280 This is just a horrible, horrible situation on behalf of 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:54.839 everybody but this woman first and foremost. Am I ever 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:56.960 going to be getting my mother in law's seventy five 0:02:57.000 --> 0:02:57.880 dollars gift card? 0:02:58.040 --> 0:02:58.120 No? 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:02.160 Sorry, gift full stop? Absolutely not, oh never. 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:06.600 I think there's either under fifty or if it's like 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:09.160 the first birthday with your partner or like your parents, 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:11.959 you do in the upper one hundreds. Okay, seventy five 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:14.480 is the weirdest amount, so. 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:15.880 It's the number amount that's really got it. 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:19.120 Yeah, it has seventy five dollars, Like, how did you 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:20.600 think about it? You may as well just have done 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:25.359 like sixty two or something. I will say it's very thoughtful. 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:28.880 Nike is her favorite brand, and sports where is something 0:03:28.919 --> 0:03:30.760 that's very particular. I don't want someone going out and 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:32.240 buying me a pair of short It's like a very 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:35.800 specific type. I personally have nothing against gift cards. 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:38.920 Who started anti gift card propaganda because I think a 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:42.800 few people have Number one, overestimated their importance to assume 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:44.840 that I have enough time, space and energy to go 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:47.640 out and find you a physical gift. When you can 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:50.320 do that in your own time, it's your gift. ME 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:52.680 providing the resources for you to get exactly what you 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:55.200 want feels like the most thoughtful thing to do. 0:03:56.040 --> 0:04:00.160 Now as an adult, I realize why people think that 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:03.520 it's rude to get gift cards, because I understand how 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:05.560 hard it is to make time to get gifts. If 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:07.920 that makes sense. Yes, I used to never think it was. 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:10.360 I didn't think there was anything difference between going out 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:13.040 and getting a gift card and buying something in terms 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:14.880 of like the labor, I will. 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:17.719 Say there is a difference, like if there's anyone in 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:20.760 my life who's important enough to me that warrants a 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:24.040 gift or expects a gift. I will do the due 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:26.760 diligence and go out and get them a gift, right, 0:04:27.240 --> 0:04:29.400 But a mother in law is a very specific niche 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:31.839 of gift giving, Like I don't really know you like 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:32.760 that I might know. 0:04:32.800 --> 0:04:35.200 Of you, so I feel like a gift. But to be. 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:38.320 Honest, I would go to like six No six, a 0:04:38.400 --> 0:04:40.160 dip teek candle and call it a day. 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:44.960 I'm gonna say the hand crem not the hand crem 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:48.839 pack from where just a body shop number. 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:50.560 Okay, we're not we're not doctor. 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:53.559 That's built different, different, and that's okay. 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:56.520 Mother in law is specifically with the awkwardest. Actually, a 0:04:56.560 --> 0:04:57.839 father in law might be awkward as well. 0:04:57.880 --> 0:04:59.120 Oh yeah, I'm not getting him a gift. 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:04.480 I got my ex's sister A we're doing siblings. It 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:06.080 was yeah, I was like meant to go up and 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:08.480 see it. We ended up like breaking up, but I 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:09.640 already got in the present. 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:10.760 But then we bring it up. 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:15.480 But I gotta like a Mason Balzac, like the carafe 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.560 and the class moment before it was very popular, mind you, okay, 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:21.800 just saying taste maker so yeah, but never met her 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:25.000 actually either, So just be. 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:27.120 Careful you were doing too much. I was doing a lot, 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:31.480 that's okay, that's okay. I went out in Style Flex 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:32.679 and Frooms, they're the best. 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:33.359 What a duo. 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:35.800 Flex is looking at me very alarm because I've just 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:38.280 tried to stuff a piece of paper back in my. 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:41.240 Fold, just that we are on borrow time right now, 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:44.080 like there's so much to do today, so little time, 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:47.000 and the one time for me decides to open our 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:50.480 clipboards that Brooks so lovingly creates for us with all 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:53.760 of our notes. She's like fussing about trying to like 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:56.200 stuff it in neatly. It's not the time, babe, It's 0:05:56.240 --> 0:05:58.360 not the time. It is the time, however, to talk 0:05:58.360 --> 0:05:59.280 about your transformation. 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:05.039 Yes, my shift, my metamorphosis. As you know, I'm a 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:06.840 blonde head girl. Maybe you don't know that if you're 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:08.640 just listening on the radio. But I've been blonde for 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:13.719 fifteen years, okay. My shift from a dark brunette into 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:17.600 a light peroxide blonde started when I was in year 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:20.960 six got my first highlights, or maybe year seven, one 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:24.440 of those years. It actually began. A friend of mine's 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:26.440 mum was a hairdresser and I went over there and 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:30.320 she died it red and like remember when we were 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.520 really younger, there was like you'd cut all the top 0:06:33.560 --> 0:06:34.600 of it so it was spiky. 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:37.120 Yes, yes, it was one of those numbers kind of 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:37.960 ahead of the curve. 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:38.600 It was. 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:41.640 It looked horrible on me, shocking, one of my worst 0:06:41.640 --> 0:06:42.040 looks ever. 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:43.080 Yeah, it's not big enough. 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:46.000 Yeah, it was a bit chicken vibes with that really 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:49.559 francy chicken. Anyway, I died at brown on a whim. 0:06:49.680 --> 0:06:50.240 The other day. 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:53.960 My hair had started breaking off ferociously from the bleach. 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:56.839 It finally said no more, and so I've gone back 0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:59.239 to my original color, which is dark brown. 0:07:00.040 --> 0:07:03.919 Initial thoughtslex phenomenal. I actually saw a soft launch. 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:05.800 I don't think you intended it to be released to 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:08.400 the public, you know, unbeknownst to you, without your consent. 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:12.400 But I did see a story on a mutual friend's page, 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:16.560 not hard launching the color change. But you were padding 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.320 a dog at a cafe and I said, hold on, 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:21.960 hold on, and then you did a hard launch on 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:23.400 the feet and I was saying, it makes you look 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.920 so luminous. But I don't know you as a brunette. 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:27.800 And so it's really bizarre. But the reason why I 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:30.480 asked if you're going to talk about it is because 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:35.040 about two years ago I discovered that there was law 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:38.720 and you know, a bit of controversy in the Caucasian 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:42.600 community about hair color. One would say, a social hierarchy. 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:45.000 I didn't think it was that deep, right. I think 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:48.360 I made an offhand remark about how you know, if 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:50.600 you were born blonde and then you get to the 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:54.640 age thirteen and your hair is brunette, then you are 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:57.000 a brunette, right, And everyone's like, no, no, no, no, no, no, 0:07:57.040 --> 0:07:59.360 you do have to specify that you were a blonde 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:02.120 now and I and there's all different types of blondes. 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:05.360 And I think my I didn't intend for it to 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:08.160 be flipping because I didn't understand the layers there were 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:11.720 to it. And so to go from a peroxide blonde 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:13.640 like the level that you were at, the blondest of 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:16.640 the blonde, to go straight dark on a whim, not 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:20.880 even ash blonde, honey, blonde, caramel dark, I said. 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:23.440 Is everything well? Is everything well? In your heart? 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:27.000 You know what it's that I was unwell? 0:08:27.160 --> 0:08:32.080 I was always a dark brown brunette girl. And me 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:35.760 becoming blond was because I wanted to jump up the hierarchy. 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:38.160 I'm a social climber. What can I say? And I 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.760 just one more time, and I'm a social climber. Okay, 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:41.440 I'm not going. 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:43.559 To be Can I just get that on video? If 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:46.000 we could just really quickly one more time? 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:50.400 No, I've been put on the spot. I'm not a 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:51.160 social climber. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:51.600 No I am. 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:56.000 I have social climbing tendencies, as does everybody in this society. 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:58.280 I think it's only fair to have social climbing tendency. 0:08:58.360 --> 0:09:00.120 He's a social boulderer. 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:02.920 Up against it. 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:06.200 But I say this all to say going off blonde, like, 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:08.920 to me, blonde was like my edge. I was like, 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:12.040 I'm Paula Yates, I'm Jessica Rowe, I'm all these things. 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.680 I'm different, and so to be brown to me is 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:17.160 to be basic and to be not looked at. But 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:20.280 I think for me, you're right, it's deeper for some people. 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:23.480 I think for a lot of people, hair generally is deep. 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:26.640 I don't care what anybody says. Hair is deep, but 0:09:26.679 --> 0:09:29.480 it's good to understand what your personal relationship towards your 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:30.040 hair is. 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:32.680 My relationship was like I'm either going to have a 0:09:32.720 --> 0:09:34.560 shaved head or I'm going to be blonde because I 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:36.800 wanted to be edgy and different. But now as I'm 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:39.120 getting older, I'm kind of like I want to get 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.800 used to not having to look a certain way. 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:44.800 And it's not in the defeatist capacity. 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:48.160 It's more like I want to be okay with not 0:09:48.240 --> 0:09:52.120 having my appearance define how cool I am. If that 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:54.600 makes sense, that's huge, and I think I only got 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:59.640 here through starting to like who I am. As crazy 0:09:59.640 --> 0:10:01.280 as that's but yeah, it's. 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:02.200 All very personal. 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:05.440 I'm very excited about my hair, actually feel good about it, 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:06.839 and I'm going to grow it out long. So I'm 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:10.839 going to be one hundred percent basic, the basic of 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:13.079 the basic, and I'm here for it. 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:16.760 No offense to brunettes have long hair, but. 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:22.319 Sorry Brooke, our producer, I'm going to be quickly looking 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:23.640 at the corner, like where do I go. 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:25.000 I'm gonna have no personality. 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:26.680 I'm not gonna shine anymore, but I'm gonna be happy 0:10:26.720 --> 0:10:30.240 with it like the rest of you. 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:32.440 Damn it'd be like that. Well that's me. 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.600 So if you're seeing the videos next week of us 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:37.679 on cater and you see brunette don't think the Friomi 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:40.400 is gone. I'm just in a new case cater. 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:42.000 Flex and fromes. 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:44.320 You're listening to flex and frooms. 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:45.760 What the frick flex you? 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:48.040 I've got to listen to Submission. It's from a woman 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:51.120 who will not be named. Thank you for protecting her 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:54.920 bad Hi Freemi, hope you will for the show. Can 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:57.560 we discuss the intricacies and complexities when it comes to 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:01.920 mother daughter relationships? Spicy, I feel like you're either extremely 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:04.240 close to your mum, talk every day, et cetera, or 0:11:04.280 --> 0:11:09.240 your relationship is incredibly strained and distant personally on the ladder, Babe, 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:12.080 my mum is still pierced off at me about not 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:15.160 making entire speech dedicated to her at my twenty first 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:18.160 Oh now I'm thirty and it's been years of us 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:20.080 going through stages, a semi connection. 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:20.840 And complete strangers. 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:22.360 Why are you love, babe? 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:28.679 So the twenty first year maggot love mom. 0:11:29.480 --> 0:11:31.560 I just want to thank you for pushing me through 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:32.640 your birds and yeah. 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:33.720 Birth pain. 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:38.280 Yeah, it's like, yeah, that doesn't happen, babes. 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:38.959 It really doesn't. 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:42.760 And I will say because we've been very much impacted 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:47.840 by the patriarchy, conversational daddy issues are very like, very commonplace. 0:11:47.960 --> 0:11:50.280 You say daddy issues, Everyone's like, yeah, we know exactly 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:53.760 what this means. The complexities of it for all genders 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:56.680 and non genders. We get it mummy issues, though people 0:11:56.720 --> 0:11:59.320 don't think they're as serious or they're not spoken of 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:03.560 as much. There's no sexiness, No, it's mixing sexiness. But 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:05.840 I also think it's complex in a way that people 0:12:05.880 --> 0:12:09.480 don't want to unpack because I don't think that it's 0:12:09.960 --> 0:12:13.199 I think it's just really easy to like frame dads 0:12:13.200 --> 0:12:15.520 as deadbeats and mom's as saints, and so when you 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:18.360 want to contradict that narrative, it gets really confusing for people. 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:19.800 We also watched. 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:21.640 Everything Everywhere All at Once, and that was a really 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:25.120 good movie about the complexities of not only mummy issues 0:12:25.160 --> 0:12:30.560 but cross continental cultural mother daughter relationship issues. What I 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:33.600 will say is that I really do imply to people 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:36.040 who don't have good relationships with their mum. I haven't 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:38.840 always had a great relationship with mine because it wasn't 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:41.920 modeled to me. I just remember observing shout out to 0:12:41.960 --> 0:12:45.120 my ex boyfriend had such a good relationship with his mom, 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:47.320 and I was like, I like my mom this much, 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:50.000 and I don't call her multiple times a week, I. 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:52.000 Don't check in, I don't text her. 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:54.600 And so I remember confessing this to my mom and 0:12:54.640 --> 0:12:57.600 her are really like, it would make my life if 0:12:57.600 --> 0:13:00.240 you just sent me a text, It would make my 0:13:00.520 --> 0:13:02.520 existence if you just told me. 0:13:02.440 --> 0:13:03.120 What you were doing. 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:06.000 And I was like, what, that's it, and she's like, 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:07.840 that's all I want, and I do, and let me 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:08.480 tell you. 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:12.000 It's like the best thing ever. I'm obsessed. 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:15.839 What I will say though, is that like it's really 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:18.320 it's a big task, as like a young person or 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:20.160 as a child, as an adult to try and like 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:22.640 heal your parents. And like, if your mom's pissed off 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:25.400 at you for not acknowledging her at your twenty first 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:28.360 and it's been nine years, that is a problem bigger 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:29.440 than you can fix on your own. 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:34.120 It's just also like, so my relationship with my mum, 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:36.520 or my experience growing up was that mum is a saint. 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:39.040 She does no wrong. She's never once done something to 0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:40.480 hurt me. That's big. 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:46.840 That's like, how do you say that's unachievable? Like, I 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:48.679 don't know if I could do that for my daughter, 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:51.480 because I have to put myself first. Sometimes I'm not 0:13:51.480 --> 0:13:54.600 criticizing what she did, but there was like entirely selfless. 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:57.280 But I understand as a person and my relationship with 0:13:57.320 --> 0:13:59.520 other people, sometimes you are mad at people. There'd be 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:02.200 times when I'm piecing my mum off, you know, so 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:03.480 I can. 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:06.400 See why the mum's upset. Because everybody has these. 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:07.520 Like nice figures. 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:09.360 I don't know some people whole grudges. 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:11.920 Yeah, Look, it's tricky what I will say. 0:14:11.920 --> 0:14:14.480 It's not Karen to I just think what's happening now 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:16.440 is you're matching each other's energy, and if you want 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:18.520 different results, you have to try different things. 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:20.120 It's very hard though. 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.360 It's very hard dealing with someone who is emotional, who 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:25.600 is convinced that you did something to really hurt them. 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:27.280 This is a case where you have to just swallow 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:28.840 your pride if. 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:29.760 You want the relationship. 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:32.400 I think so because something that you learn, something that 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:34.800 I've learned with like repairing my relationship with my sister, 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:37.360 for example, nothing in life. 0:14:37.560 --> 0:14:41.280 Is better than not beefing with somebody. Nothing. I never 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:42.720 thought it. I never thought it bothered me. 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:45.080 And now that we're friends, I'm like, my life is 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:47.720 exponentially better. But I would have never thought of it 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:49.560 because I just didn't think a relationship was on the 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:52.520 cards for me and my sister. So if you could 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:54.800 just put your pride to the side and just go 0:14:54.880 --> 0:14:57.480 full steam ahead trying to repair it with your mum 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.520 and take your ego out of it, take your feelings 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:02.280 out of it for the short term, then I think 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:04.840 you will see results that will make it so you 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:06.760 don't feel the need to message us. 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:07.520 I'm the opposite. 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:09.760 I think some things are too hard for you to 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:11.920 deal with on your own, and she's not meeting you halfway, 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.160 then like, act accordingly. 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:17.440 Damn well, can let us know how you go? Girl? 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:21.320 Flex and frims flex and frimes cater never miss a beat. 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:23.560 I want to be honest, I want to be candid. 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:25.920 I want to start twenty twenty three strong. 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:29.560 Sorry interrupting. Are you ever not honest and candid? 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:29.920 No? 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:31.640 But I'm setting a point, you know how, Sometimes you 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:33.640 just have to like let people know what you're doing, 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:35.520 put context behind your behavior. 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:36.240 So they don't get upset. 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:38.320 Yeah, and also, I told you I have this thing 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:40.600 where because of the tone of my voice, people think 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:43.360 I'm being sarcastic and I'm being quite serious. This is 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:45.560 one of those moments. We are closer to the end 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:48.280 of the world than you think. Not a bit, not 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:50.560 a joke, although it sounds like I'm smiling. I know 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:51.640 I think I am smiling. 0:15:51.680 --> 0:15:54.040 Oh no, no, no, no, no no no. 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:56.440 This is your PSA. 0:15:56.680 --> 0:16:01.800 Go commit that crime, send that text, fall in love, 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:05.160 quit your job, maybe don't do any of these things. 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:08.560 But yeah, the world is ending. An elits group of 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:11.760 scientists who monitor the world for the possibility of an 0:16:11.840 --> 0:16:16.000 arm again and caused by humans, have released their annual report. 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:18.160 So they've made. 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:19.560 This really cute and helpful clock. 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:24.920 It's called the doomsday clock and essentially yeah, something like goods. Yeah, 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:31.080 And essentially, when this clock strikes to midnight visually, because 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:34.080 you know, we're visual learners, when this clock visually strikes 0:16:34.080 --> 0:16:37.080 midnight's we know it's game over and the world has ended. 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:41.120 So in twenty twenty, when COVID happened, we were one 0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:45.000 hundred seconds to midnight. That's very close to the end 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:46.040 of all things. 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:46.400 Right. 0:16:47.040 --> 0:16:50.360 As of twenty twenty three, in January, the scientists have 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:53.920 updated the clock. We are now ninety seconds to midnight. 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:57.680 It's getting worse rapidly now, you might be wondering, how 0:16:57.680 --> 0:16:59.920 do they measure, like how close we are to the 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:02.280 end of the world. It's a combination of like social 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:06.840 based catastrophic events, the war in Ukraine, and also climate 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:09.240 based catastrophic events, and there's been a lot of those 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:13.119 happening in very quick succession, and so you might be wondering, well, 0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:15.200 what do we do with this information? I'm not sure, 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:18.200 and I don't think the scientists know either, because, as 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:21.520 you know, they've been chaining themselves to landmarks and trying 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:22.640 to get our attention. 0:17:22.320 --> 0:17:25.040 Stopping on the Sydney hrbor Bridge slate Queen, doing all. 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:26.760 They can to let us know that we are, you know, 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:30.320 we're hitting the brink right Like it was breaking point 0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:32.159 twenty years ago when they were like, don't water your 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:34.000 grass anymore and we were like, oh what, the. 0:17:33.920 --> 0:17:35.040 Grass needs to be green. 0:17:35.560 --> 0:17:37.600 And now we're hitting that point and like, if you 0:17:37.640 --> 0:17:40.560 don't laugh, you'll cry, And I'm trying to cry more, but. 0:17:40.560 --> 0:17:41.200 Not at work. 0:17:42.000 --> 0:17:45.240 Here is a quote though this scientist says humanity continues 0:17:45.280 --> 0:17:50.159