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Speaker 2: It's the podcast for.

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Speaker 3: The time poor parent who just wants answers.

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Speaker 1: Now, making the traditions and making sure that the kids feel,

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Speaker 1: through those traditions that they really do belong to something

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Speaker 1: bigger than just them. That's what it's all about.

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Speaker 3: And now here's the stars of our show, my mum

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Speaker 1: If you're in Victoria today, you must be feeling a

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Speaker 1: little bit lighter, like it just must feel so good

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Speaker 1: that restrictions are becoming reduced and a little bit of

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Speaker 1: normality returning to life. We're so happy for you, Victoria.

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Speaker 1: We hope that it lasts. We hope that this is

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Speaker 1: this is real progress. Fingers crossed borders will start coming down.

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Speaker 1: Fingers crossed people will be allowed to be reunited with

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Speaker 1: their families soon. It has been a long, long, long journey. Hello,

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Speaker 1: this is doctor Justin Colson. I'm the founder of Happy

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Speaker 1: Families dot Com. To do you and Kylie?

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Speaker 3: Hello, You say that like you haven't seen me today.

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Speaker 1: I'm so happy to be with you doing this podcast,

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Speaker 1: though very very because I think.

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Speaker 3: You're more excited because you were actually leaving the kids

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Speaker 3: behind tonight and you and I are getting a night

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Speaker 3: to ourselves. Yeah, with curtains.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean with curtains, Well, we don't have.

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Speaker 3: Curtains in our room because we've just recently painted our

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Speaker 3: and I are waking out at the crack of time.

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Speaker 1: The Queensland doesn't have daylight savings, and so because there's

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Speaker 1: no dublit savings, the sun's up at four forty five

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Speaker 3: So are we?

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Speaker 1: So I might to actually being up. I'm up there

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Speaker 1: for a bike ride normally, but you're not. And and

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Speaker 1: let's face it, it's going to be nice to just

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Speaker 1: have a sleep in and not have kids clambering into

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Speaker 3: If you're listening, well thanks so much.

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Speaker 1: We can't wait. If you want to make your family happier,

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Speaker 1: we strongly recommend somehow getting a night away from the kids.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, every six weeks, every eight weeks, even

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Speaker 3: Look, even just having the kids go to Grandma's or

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Speaker 3: even have to cost you money. It's just totally an

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Speaker 3: opportunity to just breathe.

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Speaker 1: Breathe, Yeah, yeah, yeah, about our kids are our kids

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Speaker 1: feel relaxing now. Now, you kids want to talk to us,

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Speaker 1: and we love them, we want to spend time with them,

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Speaker 1: but now and then it's it's just nice if it's

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Speaker 1: you and I, right, sure is So we're not going

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Speaker 1: That sounds like a plan to me. I didn't have

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Speaker 1: just time away, time to breathe. Now. Don't get us wrong.

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Speaker 1: So for those of you who a knew to the podcast, Friday.

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Speaker 1: call our Friday podcast I'll Do Better Tomorrow. It's where

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Speaker 1: it's life skills. That's what I was doing Friday night

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Speaker 1: So we've been teasing this birth canal story. I think

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Speaker 1: So, in fairness, baby one in our family has a

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Speaker 3: Baby number two was textbook delivery perfect. It was absolutely perfect.

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Speaker 1: You just gave her a complete overview, a complete review

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Speaker 1: That's what it's all about. So we hope that these

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