WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - Sis, is this your man?

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<v Speaker 1>Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands

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<v Speaker 1>were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders

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<v Speaker 1>past and present.

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<v Speaker 2>Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was

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<v Speaker 2>recorded on Drug Wallamuta Land you do not deserve because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a professional. Hey guys, and welcome back to another

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<v Speaker 2>episode of Life on Cut. I'm Brittany and I'm produced

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<v Speaker 2>a Keishaw filling in for Laura. Yes, our one and

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<v Speaker 2>only beloved Laura Burne is still sashetting her way across

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<v Speaker 2>the dance floor on Dancing with the Stars. What's that

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<v Speaker 2>knee kick thing that we saw her do a lot

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<v Speaker 2>on Sunday? I don't know, but she did it about

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<v Speaker 2>a thousand times. She's done it. She's doing a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of kicking at the moment. Do you know that I

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<v Speaker 2>went to a bar class last night and I thought

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<v Speaker 2>of Laura. I was like, oh, that's nice, very romantic.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know bar like the mix between pilates and ballet?

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<v Speaker 2>And then I went to a bar last night. I

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<v Speaker 2>was drowning my sorrows and I was thinking about Laura.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't seen her in a while. I went to

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<v Speaker 2>one of those ballet ballads kind of glasses, and now

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<v Speaker 2>my butt is so sore. I feel like you could

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<v Speaker 2>bounce coins off of it. Okay, is this an age thing?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I also went to the gym and I cannot move?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it because we're getting older? I don't know what

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<v Speaker 2>it is. I thought I was. I always thought I

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<v Speaker 2>was like relatively feared or healthy. But every part of

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<v Speaker 2>my body is sore. I can't cough, I can't laugh.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was just one gym class. Well, this is

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<v Speaker 2>what Laura's been saying. I mean, she's been training for

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<v Speaker 2>a couple of weeks now, but she's like three months.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm so sorely, you know those it's the

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<v Speaker 2>little muscles that you don't use all the time. Like

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<v Speaker 2>for me, it's not the quds, it's the tiny ones

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<v Speaker 2>in rain, like one of the glutes. Joking anyway, very sore.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that you know we're channeling some Laurer energy.

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<v Speaker 2>Well I think mine was, And like I think I've

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<v Speaker 2>been downplaying it. I've been so horrifically ill for weeks

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<v Speaker 2>and I've managed to I think pretend I haven't been,

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<v Speaker 2>but I have been. I was so so unwell and

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<v Speaker 2>just as I thought I got better, I got sick again.

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<v Speaker 2>So two nights ago, so I on, and how are

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<v Speaker 2>you telling me this? Like as I know that you're

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<v Speaker 2>telling the podcast family that you've been very unwell, but

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<v Speaker 2>I am probably the most whip. Oh yeah, Kisha had

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<v Speaker 2>to come over and save me and bring me drugs

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<v Speaker 2>and take Delilah because I couldn't look after I was

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<v Speaker 2>just yeah, it was bad anyway, This made me think

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<v Speaker 2>of something funny. So two nights ago, I've been getting

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<v Speaker 2>this vertigo and getting really dizzy and unwell, which is

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<v Speaker 2>very unusual. This is not something that's ever happened, but

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<v Speaker 2>like waking up dizzy with the world spinning and then vomiting,

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<v Speaker 2>very very unusual. So I don't know if it's something

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<v Speaker 2>to do with virus I had, or hopefully it's not

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<v Speaker 2>something new that I've been getting happy with, something like

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<v Speaker 2>many airs or something. It's quite serious but not funny.

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<v Speaker 1>Part I was vomiting for twelve fifteen hours straight, couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>sit down, couldn't move my head, couldn't look left or

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<v Speaker 1>right or up.

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<v Speaker 2>If every time I moved, I'd vomit. It was really horrific.

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<v Speaker 2>So Keisha ended up bringing me over some anti nausea stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>and she saved the day for me, which was amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>When heroes where capes, my friend, oh no, they do

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<v Speaker 2>not summer producers of the podcast, and so she took

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<v Speaker 2>Delilah and just let me t t I and sleep

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<v Speaker 2>and vomiting. Peace anyway, I guess about fifteen to seventeen

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<v Speaker 2>hours went past of like vomiting and bean unwell, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I finally was like, okay, I think it's past.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt hungover, and I was like, I need to

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<v Speaker 2>eat something. I felt so unwell for so long.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't eaten, haven't got anything in my stomach, haven't

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<v Speaker 1>been able to drink, couldn't even keep water down.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was like, I need to get back on

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<v Speaker 2>tracks and roast feeling when you're like dehydrate it. But

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<v Speaker 2>actually being hungover is a really good comparison because you

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<v Speaker 2>haven't eaten for so long, you feel like a prune

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<v Speaker 2>or like a sultana. Yeah, but you know when you

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<v Speaker 2>know that food makes you feel better, something greasy, a

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<v Speaker 2>coke or like you know. So I was like, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm interjecting you. When I was texting you being like hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll come and get Delilah, but you know, I'll stop

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<v Speaker 2>in at the pharmacy and get you some stuff on

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<v Speaker 2>the way, Like what do you need. We were going

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<v Speaker 2>through it all, there were group chats, it was all happening,

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<v Speaker 2>and then she sends me your message. But you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>also if you could get some hot chips. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>it's nine o'clock in the morning. I don't even know

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<v Speaker 2>where I would get hot chips, and I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if you're being serious. Yeah, I was serious because I've

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<v Speaker 2>been vomiting for so long, and I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>just wanted some greasy hot chips anyway. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>you gotta get uber eats of those, mate, I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>going to the hot chip store at nine o'clock on

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<v Speaker 2>a Saturday morning. I don't think it's anything open at

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<v Speaker 2>nine o'clock. But Lucky didn't because I continued to vomit

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<v Speaker 2>all day. So it's good that I didn't get hot

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<v Speaker 2>chips at nine o'clock in the morning. So I'm like, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to order my food now, I'm gonna get

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<v Speaker 2>back on track. And I'm so hungry, I'm so greasy

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm still hungover, So I get on to Uber

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<v Speaker 2>Eats and I get very excited and I order chicken snitzel.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, great, But every time I order it, I

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<v Speaker 2>click into the picture and I'm like to look at

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<v Speaker 2>it because you know, you need to eventually start salivy.

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<v Speaker 2>So I clicked onto it and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting that snitzel. It's so big. Then I keeps growing.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, you know, I'm adding chips, so

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<v Speaker 2>I added hot chips. I was like, and I'm addening

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<v Speaker 2>those two hash browns. Hash Browns. Better get a coke

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<v Speaker 2>as well. Got a coke. Then I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>but I have to hydrate. Gonna get a poweraide out

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<v Speaker 2>of the power raiding. Then I was like, last minute, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>it looks a bit dry out of tubble gravy in yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so light order. It's just me last minute. I added

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<v Speaker 2>the gravy in okay, and I'm glad I did because

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<v Speaker 2>it's very dry chicken sizzle anyway. Also, you know you've

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<v Speaker 2>been vomiting for a while, so your throats are like

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<v Speaker 2>the gravy is a great addition.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm very excited at the prospect of this food coming.

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<v Speaker 1>And then within two minutes I get a notification on

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<v Speaker 1>uber e's your orders on the way. I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>my five stars is going to this uber ryha, five

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<v Speaker 1>stars is going to this restaurant. If you are getting this,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have done this in two minutes, bravo.

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<v Speaker 2>Four minutes later because it wasn't far. Your order is approaching.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, this is incredible. How did you

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<v Speaker 2>even cook the nissel in that time? And I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>this is when all my dreams come true. So I

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<v Speaker 2>opened the door. Get the bag, doesn't feel that heavy,

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<v Speaker 2>Walk inside, sit down, get everything out, like, get my

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<v Speaker 2>plates out, get everything ready.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited. I opened the bag, much to my disma.

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<v Speaker 1>All that's in there is a tub of gravy.

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<v Speaker 2>What did they suck it up? Was one of those

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<v Speaker 2>like we'll deliver the rest later. So I'm like this,

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<v Speaker 2>you fucked this up. You forgot my order. I'm beside

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<v Speaker 2>myself because I'm like, oh, I want my now. You

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<v Speaker 2>know when you're so sick, I'm like all I wanted

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<v Speaker 2>is my order, Like and I paid so much for

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<v Speaker 2>this order, and I'm really hungry and I'm really sick.

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<v Speaker 2>And I wrote a thing that was like you've forgotten

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<v Speaker 2>my order. Blah blah blah blah. Anyway, long story short,

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<v Speaker 2>I went back in to check my order and all

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<v Speaker 2>I had ordered was a tub of gravy. So all

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<v Speaker 2>I got. Fucking all I ordered was a tub of gravy.

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<v Speaker 2>That's it. That was my order. No wonder it took

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<v Speaker 2>two minutes. They're like, this freak just wanted a table gravy. Sure,

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<v Speaker 2>So that's why I was living. Hang on a second,

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<v Speaker 2>with the delivery fee and the service fee. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>take twenty eight dollars for my What I had done

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<v Speaker 2>is because I was so sick. I'd gone in and

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<v Speaker 2>I was just looking at the food pictures, but I

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<v Speaker 2>was shopped shopped. I didn't add anything to the card.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, Oh, that's a good sizzel, and then

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<v Speaker 2>I just clicked out of it and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm good chips. I didn't add anything. The only thing

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, was like, added the leader tubber gravy.

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<v Speaker 2>So that was my BI. I don't feel as bad

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<v Speaker 2>about not getting you hot chips anymore because get fierce. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>that's my story of the week. Did you have the

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<v Speaker 2>gravy on anything that did you just drank it from

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<v Speaker 2>the I ordered the meal I did, and the same

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<v Speaker 2>driver came. It was the same man, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>don't ask me. Also, just drop it at the doors.

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<v Speaker 2>When you just see me right now, I look like

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<v Speaker 2>golumn coming out of Okay, depends how The gravy wasn't enough,

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<v Speaker 2>so I did order the stizel. I have a friend

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<v Speaker 2>that drinks gravy by itself. That doesn't surprise me. Gravy

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<v Speaker 2>is delicious. It is good, Yeah, but I don't even

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<v Speaker 2>know what it is. What's a lot of stock and flower?

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<v Speaker 2>I also don't know what stock is, like it's salty,

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<v Speaker 2>no ground up chicken? Do we know what? Any I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. I know this is very off track, but

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<v Speaker 2>I just I constantly fire myself in these moments where

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, nearly thirty, don't know what a very common

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<v Speaker 2>ingredient is. Yeah, I don't know. Let's mythbust that next week?

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<v Speaker 2>What else? What have you got to bring to the table?

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<v Speaker 2>Should I a Kasha? I want to ask you about

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<v Speaker 2>a Facebook group that I don't even know how I

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<v Speaker 2>became a part of this Facebook group because I think

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<v Speaker 2>someone I know, actually I know exactly who I know.

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<v Speaker 2>It was one of my neighbors from when I was

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<v Speaker 2>this is like my childhood home. One of my next

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<v Speaker 2>one neighbors somehow added me to this Facebook group and

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<v Speaker 2>then I became a part of the group. And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't actually remember hitting ad but anyway, I'm a part

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<v Speaker 2>of this Facebook group now and I don't know how

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<v Speaker 2>I feel about it morally, And you're gonna tell us

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<v Speaker 2>what the group is. There's like there's two sides of

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<v Speaker 2>this coin, and I really don't know where I land.

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<v Speaker 2>So the Facebook group is called SIS. Is this your man?

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<v Speaker 2>Like sis? Sis? Yeah, like this is your man sisterhoods? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Help out? Yeah, sisters help me out? Yeah. Okay, So

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<v Speaker 2>basically the premise of the Facebook group, I'm assuming that

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<v Speaker 2>there's quite a lot of these, and they're based off

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<v Speaker 2>of like the low location, because I think this one

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<v Speaker 2>is I'm from Newcastle originally, and so I think this

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<v Speaker 2>one's like Newcastle and the Hunter because all of the

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<v Speaker 2>posts in there are from people like around that area.

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<v Speaker 2>And I could be a bit late to the party

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<v Speaker 2>on this, but I think the idea is that people

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<v Speaker 2>who are online dating like bumble, Tinder, Hinge, whatever, all

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<v Speaker 2>these other apps, they might start talking to someone and

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<v Speaker 2>before going on a date with them, or maybe they've

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<v Speaker 2>been dating them for a little while, they'll screenshot the

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<v Speaker 2>profile or put up a picture of these guys and

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<v Speaker 2>they'll be like, hey, I want a reference check on

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<v Speaker 2>this person. Oh okay, And so like the communal FBI,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like a car crash. I can't look away. I

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<v Speaker 2>can't look away because I'm like, you are late to

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<v Speaker 2>the party on this, I will say, am I Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I vaguely remember Laura and I talking about this maybe

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<v Speaker 1>last year. There was something that came up in the

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<v Speaker 1>Bondai area about it a local kind of reference I've

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<v Speaker 1>never been a part of these groups. I'm assuming it's

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<v Speaker 1>the same kind of a group where it's like people

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<v Speaker 1>putting their photos.

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<v Speaker 2>Up and they're oh, it might be similar. This group

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't asking for reference checks, but it was a group

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<v Speaker 2>where you'd put a photo up if someone had scorned you.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're like, yeah, it was like, PSI this guy cheated,

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<v Speaker 1>he's a dick.

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<v Speaker 2>He treated me badly, just so you know. And they

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<v Speaker 2>just brought post Facebook group inder I killed because I've

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<v Speaker 2>got a couple like of that. Well that's the idea.

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<v Speaker 1>And they were putting up these public service announcements of

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<v Speaker 1>guys that have done them wrong kind of thing. And

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I think you could put women up there

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<v Speaker 1>as well, but the group was predominantly women posting, So

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<v Speaker 1>this sounds very similar, except as people asking for the reference.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and this is why I don't know where a

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<v Speaker 2>land on it, because obviously there is the problematic side

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<v Speaker 2>of that of people could say very bad and possibly

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<v Speaker 2>defamatory things about people. I've seen both sides. I've seen

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<v Speaker 2>photos be posted and people be like, I've known that

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<v Speaker 2>guy for ten years. He's a really great bloke. He

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<v Speaker 2>you know, had an next partner. They've got two kids,

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<v Speaker 2>but they're on good terms and like he's a good dad.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've seen the positive side of it, and I've

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<v Speaker 2>seen the other side of it, where it's like I

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<v Speaker 2>dated this guy for three months and I found out

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<v Speaker 2>he was also dating six other people. He was a

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<v Speaker 2>really bad person. I started to see these red flags

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<v Speaker 2>of coercive control or like pretty full on things, and

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<v Speaker 2>so in a way, I'm like, Okay, well that person's

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<v Speaker 2>just saved their time. I've seen a lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>be like, wow, I'm so glad I posted this because

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<v Speaker 2>there is no way that I'm replying to this person now,

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<v Speaker 2>but they don't know whether it's a bit. See, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't like him, Murky. I don't like it. And the

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<v Speaker 2>reason I don't like it is I understand that, like

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<v Speaker 2>you do want this sort of sisterhood of helping people out.

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<v Speaker 2>And of course, there are plenty of shitty people in

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<v Speaker 2>the world, but there are plenty of good people in

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<v Speaker 2>the world. And there are still plenty of shitty people

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<v Speaker 2>in the world that were shitty, but I'm not shitty anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>And what I mean by that is, like, there are

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<v Speaker 2>plenty of people And Laura has said it before. She's

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<v Speaker 2>openly admitted that she has cheated in her very young

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<v Speaker 2>early days, you know, Like I'm talking like teenagers in

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<v Speaker 2>early twenties. But there are lots of people that have

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<v Speaker 2>done the wrong thing in a relationship when they're younger.

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<v Speaker 2>They're not that person anymore. And I do think at

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<v Speaker 2>that point a leopard can change its spots. And I

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<v Speaker 2>just worry that it's a place where people don't get

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<v Speaker 2>a chance to change and be something different. And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. I'm very optimistic and I love, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I love to give people the benefit of doubt and

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<v Speaker 2>twenty five thousand chances, Like, I'm really bad for that,

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<v Speaker 2>but I just don't like the idea of there being

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<v Speaker 2>a public space where people can go and post someone's

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<v Speaker 2>photo and talk shit about them. At the end of

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<v Speaker 2>the day, I think it's a form of bullying. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think if someone fucked up once in relationship, if

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<v Speaker 2>they ghosted you online, I don't think someone ghosting you

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<v Speaker 2>and dropping off the face of the planet is reason

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<v Speaker 2>to go and post them in a Facebook group so

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<v Speaker 2>that a bunch of people can hate on them. See,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, you're running this ring, aren't you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like, I forget how I got added to

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<v Speaker 1>the Facebook group, but it might be when I add

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<v Speaker 1>made it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, I'm not, but I don't know. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know whether for Like what I kind of put as

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<v Speaker 2>a question in my own mind is what happens if

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<v Speaker 2>someone that I've done who was a bad person or

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<v Speaker 2>in my mind, a bad person, and treated me badly?

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<v Speaker 2>What happens if a photo of one of them went

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<v Speaker 2>up there? Would I comment on it? Because I probably would.

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<v Speaker 2>There's been time somebody posted your ex so one of

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<v Speaker 2>Case's execheated on it if someone posted your ex in there, Yeah, right,

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<v Speaker 2>I would. I would comment and I'd be like, Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to save you the drama and the

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<v Speaker 2>trauma that I went through with this person. I hope

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<v Speaker 2>he's changed, but what if he has changed. That's up point.

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<v Speaker 2>Whether she wants to take the information that I've given

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<v Speaker 2>she is asked for it. It's different to just like

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<v Speaker 2>message that the message you directly you joined a group

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<v Speaker 2>trawling hoping that your ex gets posted in there so

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<v Speaker 2>that you can comment. No, I'm not saying you, but

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying in that situation that I happened, I think

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<v Speaker 2>I would. I think there's like a little bit of

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<v Speaker 2>camaraderie there. I think there's a little bit of like,

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<v Speaker 2>I want to have your back because I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>you to go through what I went through. But I

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<v Speaker 2>do see that this is what I mean. I really

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<v Speaker 2>am treading the line whether I'm for these or I'm not,

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<v Speaker 2>because I think that they can be very problematic, But

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<v Speaker 2>I also think that there's something to like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe these guys will stop acting like dickheads if they

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<v Speaker 2>keep on getting called out publicly. Nah, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna remember that once something's on the internet's on

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<v Speaker 2>there forever, Like it's literally on there forever. And I

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<v Speaker 2>think that, imagine if someone did that to you, no

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<v Speaker 2>one could do that to me because I haven't treated

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<v Speaker 2>someone badly.

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<v Speaker 1>It does, That's the whole thing. It doesn't matter. You

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<v Speaker 1>can say and make up any story you want. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I was just about to say, is like

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<v Speaker 1>it creates this space for revenge.

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<v Speaker 2>So just say there was a breakup that I just say,

0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:37.920
<v Speaker 2>a guy break up with a girl. Normally, she didn't

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<v Speaker 2>see it coming. They were in love. She thought she

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<v Speaker 2>was gonna marry him, but he decided didn't want to

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<v Speaker 2>be with us, didn't want a relationship, wants to be

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<v Speaker 2>on his own and find himself. But three weeks later,

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<v Speaker 2>he's met someone that he actually likes and he's dating.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're like, you lied to me, You told me,

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<v Speaker 2>you know that you didn't want a relationship, but now

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<v Speaker 2>you do.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, she can easily go on post him

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<v Speaker 1>and be like, this guy was cheating on me obviously

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<v Speaker 1>for three months, this guy was a dickhead.

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<v Speaker 2>This guy left me. Hang. You can say whatever you want.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't have to be true, and it can ruin

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<v Speaker 2>someone's life sounds like an Olivia Rodriguez song.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it doesn't ask to be true and ruin your love, money,

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<v Speaker 1>driving a fast car.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously we're going to have to pull it. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I know that we end up turning to the poles

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<v Speaker 2>a lot, but it's it's because we can't really agree here.

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<v Speaker 2>I know what you're about to fucking say. You're about

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<v Speaker 2>to say something about your photos. I put my hand up.

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<v Speaker 2>I put my hand up because can I miss can

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<v Speaker 2>I talk? Speaking of poles, we did a poll on

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<v Speaker 2>if you can put a photo of yourself and your

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<v Speaker 2>partner up in your house and guess what bitches you

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<v Speaker 2>can guess who's in the right met However, I can

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<v Speaker 2>do a follow up pole because we've got a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of messages from people saying does this include wedding pictures? Also?

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<v Speaker 2>Does it include a collage where there's like many photos

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<v Speaker 2>of other things as well? And I would just like

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<v Speaker 2>to point out that yours is neither of those things.

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<v Speaker 2>Yours A three. Are you just trying to rub in

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm not getting married? I know that I know

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not. Man, I'm just trying to point out that

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<v Speaker 2>it was an odd choice. Okay, so here we go.

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<v Speaker 2>My three photos that I have.

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<v Speaker 1>If you guys haven't listened to last week's episode, I've

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<v Speaker 1>put three photos of Ben and myself, my beautiful boyfriend

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<v Speaker 1>who doesn't live here, he lives in another country.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in love. We got a semi professional photo shoot

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<v Speaker 2>done at the Louver, so sue me. We didn't book it.

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<v Speaker 2>It was on the spot and the photos are beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a blank wall, so I got three photos

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<v Speaker 1>from our professional semi photoshoot from the Love that we

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<v Speaker 1>didn't book, and I.

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<v Speaker 2>Put them on my wall. That's what's all My throw

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<v Speaker 2>three three white a four frames next to each other,

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<v Speaker 2>one one one that's cract the same photos, so like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>the same shoot, semi professional photoshoot that we didn't book

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<v Speaker 2>from the loop. And I would also like to point

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<v Speaker 2>out that the other friend who commented more than I

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<v Speaker 2>did on this, I kind of more agreed with her.

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<v Speaker 2>Kim is a stylist. Sorry, she was my stylist. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>she's recently no style. She knows what looks good and

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<v Speaker 2>she just merely pointed out it was an odd choice.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we need a photo of the wall so

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<v Speaker 2>that people can actually decide whether this is a go

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<v Speaker 2>or not, because she doesn't really matter anyway, It is

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<v Speaker 2>not odd. You just wait, missus newly in love? You've

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<v Speaker 2>been in love a week? You wait. You are putting

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<v Speaker 2>a photo up on a consent. You are doing a

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<v Speaker 2>collage wall. So are you trying to say, because so,

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<v Speaker 2>I've got these three photos right? Nothing else on the wall?

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<v Speaker 2>Very defensive? Are your extremely Are you trying to say

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<v Speaker 2>you and the audience? Are you trying to say that

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<v Speaker 2>if I had a few different photos surrounding it, it

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<v Speaker 2>would be okay? Yeah, whack some photos of Delilah up there.

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<v Speaker 2>I would personally Delilah. I had some photos a sherry,

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<v Speaker 2>mix it up a little. Why does that change the fact? Why?

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<v Speaker 2>It just makes it a little less weird? And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know why I don't I'm weird. I don't know

0:17:52.280 --> 0:17:56.480
<v Speaker 2>the psychology behind it. Okay, it's feeling within my body,

0:17:56.640 --> 0:18:00.400
<v Speaker 2>deep internalized trauma. Here, I'm thinking, in secure. Why don't

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<v Speaker 2>you have photos of me on your wall? I see

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<v Speaker 2>you more than anyone in my entire life. Exactly. That's

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<v Speaker 2>why I think I would make the wall. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>need you plaster on my wall because I see you

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<v Speaker 2>every day. If I'm not seeing you, I'm speaking to you.

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<v Speaker 1>If I'm not speaking, we're dming simultaneously at the same

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<v Speaker 1>time as we're dexting.

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<v Speaker 2>Ben. I see like a couple of times a year,

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<v Speaker 2>and he is my love. Look, I have a key

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<v Speaker 2>to your house. I think I'm just print some photos

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<v Speaker 2>of myself and your friends and put them on the wall,

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<v Speaker 2>just to eaven it out wall. Okay, Well, the poles

0:18:33.440 --> 0:18:35.240
<v Speaker 2>said that it was okay. More people had said that

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<v Speaker 2>it's fine. But I mean, if you want to update

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<v Speaker 2>the pole, Kisha and do sub poles until you've got

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<v Speaker 2>the result you want, which is that it's creepy you

0:18:42.640 --> 0:18:48.040
<v Speaker 2>do that like selective bias or something like that. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going until I get the results. I want confirmation bias.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually got a few dms personally, and they were

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<v Speaker 2>all positive. They're all like stuff everyone else. Brittany, you

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<v Speaker 2>do you you put a bigger picture up of your

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, yes, Queenn, that's fun because I know

0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:06.719
<v Speaker 2>they're really messaging me this because you also have photos

0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:08.520
<v Speaker 2>of you and your partner on your wall. It does

0:19:08.640 --> 0:19:14.680
<v Speaker 2>look a semi shriny, but it's candles and flowers underneath

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<v Speaker 2>you know what Ben's coming. Guys. He's coming in only

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks now. I'm very excited. But I will see

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<v Speaker 2>what he thinks when he gets here, and if he

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<v Speaker 2>thinks it's weird, I'll like a couple of photos. There's

0:19:23.760 --> 0:19:25.280
<v Speaker 2>something I need to tell you about this. And this

0:19:25.320 --> 0:19:28.359
<v Speaker 2>is a very internalized tangent, so I apologize. But it's

0:19:28.440 --> 0:19:31.399
<v Speaker 2>quite funny. The boy that I've started dating admitted to

0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:33.800
<v Speaker 2>me last week because we're talking about doing group things, right,

0:19:33.800 --> 0:19:37.200
<v Speaker 2>we're all gonna hang out, correct, he is really into

0:19:37.280 --> 0:19:41.440
<v Speaker 2>the European soccer or football? Is he crushing on Ben?

0:19:42.480 --> 0:19:43.679
<v Speaker 2>He turned to me and he's like, hey, I have

0:19:43.720 --> 0:19:45.480
<v Speaker 2>to tell you something a bit weird. I didn't know

0:19:45.520 --> 0:19:47.760
<v Speaker 2>who brit was before I knew you, but I did

0:19:47.880 --> 0:19:51.479
<v Speaker 2>know who Ben was. Oh, Ben's gonna love that, and

0:19:51.480 --> 0:19:54.000
<v Speaker 2>I have a little fan by dinner. Oh that's cute.

0:19:54.040 --> 0:19:56.040
<v Speaker 2>That's true. At least I'm gonna have something to talk

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<v Speaker 2>about totally. Thats mean to be a good vibe.

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<v Speaker 1>It means Ben's not gonna talk to anyone else if

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<v Speaker 1>he's some and they'll talk about soccer with hing.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, they can go off on their own anyway. I

0:20:04.000 --> 0:20:06.240
<v Speaker 2>think it's time we get into our vibe and unsubscribed.

0:20:06.400 --> 0:20:09.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I've got my vibe this week. My vibe

0:20:09.160 --> 0:20:11.280
<v Speaker 2>I think is very suited to this time of year.

0:20:11.480 --> 0:20:13.320
<v Speaker 1>And it is something that it took me a long

0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:16.080
<v Speaker 1>time to get on board with, but once I did

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<v Speaker 1>and I was absolutely sold. It's not overly esthetically pleasing,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's practical.

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<v Speaker 2>What I am talking about is an udie.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't get me started or not sponsored, but if they're listening,

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<v Speaker 1>would love a new one. And what he is like

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't know what it is, it's that big,

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<v Speaker 1>giant blanket, but it's a blanket that is.

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<v Speaker 2>Made into like a hood and a coat. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's where it comes from. Hoodie became UDI. But it's

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<v Speaker 2>got no arms and stuff. It does have arms, and

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<v Speaker 2>it also has a pocket. It's like, okay, what it

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<v Speaker 2>is is I'm trying to think of the name for it.

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<v Speaker 2>What is it called? Because poncho that's the word.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like a poncho, exactly like a poncho, except it

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<v Speaker 1>is a It's full of the thickest, most beautiful wool.

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<v Speaker 1>And I have a really cold house. I don't have heating.

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<v Speaker 1>If you guys remember last year. I talked about it

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<v Speaker 1>a lot, but I have to wear like every coat.

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a thermals to walk around at night.

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<v Speaker 2>It's something weird about your apartments because mine's exactly the same.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I swear to God, it's like five two ten

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<v Speaker 2>degrees colder inside my apartment that it is outside. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>reverse insulation. I always think the days are horrible.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, got so cold outside today, and then when

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<v Speaker 1>I finally emerge from my den, I'm like, it's actually

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<v Speaker 1>a beautiful sunny day, but my house retains the cold

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<v Speaker 1>instead of retaining heat. Anyway, an it is like a

0:21:31.920 --> 0:21:36.000
<v Speaker 1>beautiful cloud on your body. It's incredible. It doesn't look great.

0:21:36.000 --> 0:21:38.320
<v Speaker 1>You're never going to go out in it, but it's amazing.

0:21:38.359 --> 0:21:40.199
<v Speaker 1>It's a blanket that stuck to you at all times.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's I've recently gotten mine out of the cupboard.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why, because it's my house has taken a turn.

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<v Speaker 2>It is freezing. The reason I'm laughing is because I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like I had to get you to come around

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<v Speaker 2>to the udi. You initially told me that I look

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<v Speaker 2>stupid and that I should never wear it around anyone

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<v Speaker 2>that I want to have sex with. I was like, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, that is such a ridiculous thing because

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<v Speaker 2>I thought it didn't look comfortable because it's quite big,

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<v Speaker 2>this blanket that's stuck on your body, it's quite big,

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<v Speaker 2>and I thought it didn't look comfy and I couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>work it out. And when I finally was cold enough

0:22:07.080 --> 0:22:08.600
<v Speaker 2>to put it on one day, it never came off.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been wearing an aughty for twelve months straight. I

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<v Speaker 2>completely agree with this vibe. My vibe for the week

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<v Speaker 2>is a product. Okay, Now, there are multiple things that

0:22:17.520 --> 0:22:19.679
<v Speaker 2>I love about this product. If you caught a glimpse

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<v Speaker 2>of our Instagram stories the other day, as the colder

0:22:22.240 --> 0:22:26.160
<v Speaker 2>weather has hit Sydney, my skin is getting really dry.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I caught you saying, not a life story. I

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<v Speaker 1>was trying to do a story about the podcast episode

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<v Speaker 1>and Keisha's in the background.

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<v Speaker 2>Going, oh, my skit is sudrap. But I had no

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<v Speaker 2>idea that you were filming. I was just talking normally. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>This product, it's a lita. It's called the bioderma At,

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<v Speaker 2>a derm ultralourishing cleansing shower oil. Okay, now though that

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<v Speaker 2>ten times, I'm going to put a link in the

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<v Speaker 2>show notes so that you don't have to search that.

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<v Speaker 2>There are so many things that I love about this product.

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<v Speaker 2>Number One, I mistook this when I first bought it

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<v Speaker 2>six months ago, and I thought it was a facial cleanser.

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<v Speaker 2>So I have been using it as a facial cleanser

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<v Speaker 2>for six months, and I can tell you right now

0:23:01.000 --> 0:23:03.080
<v Speaker 2>you can use this as a facial cleans It gets

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<v Speaker 2>your makeup off so well because it's oil based, right,

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<v Speaker 2>which is where the dry skin thing comes into it.

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<v Speaker 2>As it gets colder. It's really good to like wash

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<v Speaker 2>yourself with oil products because it doesn't strip your body

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<v Speaker 2>of oils in the same way that like soaps and

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<v Speaker 2>that kind of thing do. Another thing, you can use

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<v Speaker 2>it in your private intimate areas because exactly like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I've been using it in there because I have I

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<v Speaker 2>have a bit of a sensitive one and I do

0:23:30.359 --> 0:23:34.280
<v Speaker 2>find that sometimes when the pH of soaps is too alkaline,

0:23:34.320 --> 0:23:36.800
<v Speaker 2>I can get thrush. Like that's why the whole that

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<v Speaker 2>you're starting to whisper as you say that, like the people, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>it's because it like strips your body of the natural things. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>This one for me hasn't been a problem. It's been

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<v Speaker 2>great it's only forty four dollars for the litera. That's

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<v Speaker 2>a bargain. And the additional thing that I love about

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<v Speaker 2>it is that you know, when you use antiperspirant deodorants,

0:23:58.600 --> 0:24:01.320
<v Speaker 2>do you get that deodorant up under your under arms?

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<v Speaker 2>Even if you use soap and stuff. I tend to

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<v Speaker 2>find that there's still this like film. I think it's

0:24:07.760 --> 0:24:10.679
<v Speaker 2>an anti persperant deodorant thing. Well, I found that the

0:24:10.680 --> 0:24:13.240
<v Speaker 2>oil cleanser is really really good for getting that off.

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<v Speaker 2>So I am absolutely bloody vibing this product. And I

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<v Speaker 2>will put a link in the show notes because now

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<v Speaker 2>I'm okay, I've just purchased another one, so now I

0:24:21.880 --> 0:24:24.480
<v Speaker 2>don't mind if they sell out. I don't mind if

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<v Speaker 2>they sell out because I'm stocked up for like another

0:24:26.119 --> 0:24:30.040
<v Speaker 2>six months. So it's the Bioderma many many words alter

0:24:30.240 --> 0:24:36.399
<v Speaker 2>nourishing cleansing showers, and it's an oil. It's an oil shaller.

0:24:36.480 --> 0:24:39.040
<v Speaker 2>The peg and the brand is Biover. All right, let's

0:24:39.040 --> 0:24:39.960
<v Speaker 2>get into the questions.

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<v Speaker 1>Question number one, Hey ladies, short one, do you think

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<v Speaker 1>the guy should make a booking at a restaurant if

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<v Speaker 1>he asked you out? I had a first date on

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<v Speaker 1>Friday night and the restaurant was packed. There was a

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<v Speaker 1>one hour wait because my date didn't think ahead to

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<v Speaker 1>book when he'd picked the restaurant and asked me out.

0:24:59.040 --> 0:25:00.760
<v Speaker 1>I got the really bad that as we had to

0:25:00.800 --> 0:25:02.600
<v Speaker 1>walk around for like an hour and a half to

0:25:02.600 --> 0:25:04.840
<v Speaker 1>find an empty restaurant so we could eat.

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<v Speaker 2>I love this question. We have never had a question

0:25:09.040 --> 0:25:12.680
<v Speaker 2>like this, and it's so it's so simple. But I

0:25:12.800 --> 0:25:15.960
<v Speaker 2>understand why she's turned off. I do, but I think

0:25:16.000 --> 0:25:20.720
<v Speaker 2>the ink is an extreme response, reserved for probably things

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<v Speaker 2>of more extreme. I don't know. If it was cold

0:25:24.160 --> 0:25:26.080
<v Speaker 2>and raining, i'd be pretty off it too. But I

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<v Speaker 2>do think this is mostly a personality based one, because

0:25:30.560 --> 0:25:32.359
<v Speaker 2>it's something you and I have in common is that

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<v Speaker 2>we're not particularly good at planning things. We're more off

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<v Speaker 2>the cuff, spontaneous. Oh yeah, don't give him plan anything ever. No,

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm actually just thinking about the first date that

0:25:41.960 --> 0:25:45.359
<v Speaker 2>I went on most recently with the person I've started seeing,

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<v Speaker 2>and he really wanted to book ahead of time, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was to say it. I was like, let's just

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<v Speaker 2>see what we feel like. I don't want to lock

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<v Speaker 2>in any plans because we could get to it and

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<v Speaker 2>The thing that I have a problem with booking things

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<v Speaker 2>so far in advance is that you don't know a

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<v Speaker 2>week your head what cuisine you're gonna crave, and so

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<v Speaker 2>I feel locked into a decision. If you're booking somewhere,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it's best for you to be going to like

0:26:08.840 --> 0:26:10.480
<v Speaker 2>an or you can ear buffet so you can pick

0:26:10.520 --> 0:26:13.400
<v Speaker 2>your cuisine of the night just down at the RSL Grace.

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<v Speaker 2>Sort of Yeah, but I think it depends where you live, right.

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<v Speaker 1>If you live in a place where you know you

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<v Speaker 1>can walk around and there's many many restaurants that are

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<v Speaker 1>going to be available for you to walk into.

0:26:22.920 --> 0:26:25.199
<v Speaker 2>It's different. As an example, if I was going on

0:26:25.240 --> 0:26:27.840
<v Speaker 2>a date around Sydney, you sort of have to book

0:26:28.000 --> 0:26:30.400
<v Speaker 2>because things book out. You're not really in a place

0:26:30.400 --> 0:26:32.680
<v Speaker 2>to be like, let's just try our luck. You might

0:26:32.840 --> 0:26:34.840
<v Speaker 2>get lucky, but you also might not.

0:26:34.960 --> 0:26:36.840
<v Speaker 1>You might walk around if it's peak hour in summer,

0:26:36.880 --> 0:26:38.320
<v Speaker 1>you might walk around for a long time trying to

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<v Speaker 1>find a restaurant. I do think for a first date,

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<v Speaker 1>even if you're not a planner, I'm not a planner,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to see what cuisine I feel like in

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<v Speaker 1>ten minutes. I don't like to book a restaurant. I

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<v Speaker 1>tried to book dinner last night ten minutes before it Toddies,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, damn what they booked out ten

0:26:50.680 --> 0:26:53.240
<v Speaker 1>minutes in evance? I tried to book. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>for a first date you probably do need to make

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<v Speaker 1>a bit of an effort and lock something in the

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<v Speaker 1>ink is a bit extreme. I'd give this guy a

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<v Speaker 1>second crack if you enjoyed the night, give him second

0:27:01.840 --> 0:27:04.600
<v Speaker 1>crack for sure, but tell him be like, Okay, if

0:27:04.600 --> 0:27:06.920
<v Speaker 1>we do this again, I'm not walking around for another hour.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's lock something in. I think it's as simple as that. Yeah,

0:27:10.440 --> 0:27:15.200
<v Speaker 2>I tend to agree. I do think that talking directly,

0:27:15.480 --> 0:27:17.160
<v Speaker 2>I do think maybe you've been a little bit harsh

0:27:17.160 --> 0:27:19.359
<v Speaker 2>on them, to be fair. However, if you're like a

0:27:19.400 --> 0:27:21.760
<v Speaker 2>type a person who likes things organized and you like

0:27:21.800 --> 0:27:25.359
<v Speaker 2>things structured, then either you are going to communicate this

0:27:25.480 --> 0:27:28.600
<v Speaker 2>with him, or maybe he's just not your person, because

0:27:28.640 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 2>like maybe you need to align on those kinds of things.

0:27:31.119 --> 0:27:32.480
<v Speaker 2>You know, I don't think we're calling him not the

0:27:32.480 --> 0:27:34.919
<v Speaker 2>person because he just didn't book the first day. You know,

0:27:35.000 --> 0:27:37.040
<v Speaker 2>there is a part that's like cool, you can book

0:27:37.040 --> 0:27:39.000
<v Speaker 2>it if you won't, But there's it's the first day

0:27:39.000 --> 0:27:40.600
<v Speaker 2>in he house you at. You want to feel like

0:27:40.680 --> 0:27:43.800
<v Speaker 2>he's taking control and he's taking somewhere special and he's

0:27:43.800 --> 0:27:46.360
<v Speaker 2>putting in the effort. I just tell him, I'll just say, hey,

0:27:46.359 --> 0:27:47.679
<v Speaker 2>we're gonna do that again. You need to lock that

0:27:47.680 --> 0:27:50.880
<v Speaker 2>shit in because like, these heels ain't made for walking. Okay,

0:27:50.920 --> 0:27:53.040
<v Speaker 2>So yes or no? Do you think they should make

0:27:53.040 --> 0:27:58.280
<v Speaker 2>a booking at a restaurant if they ask you? Yes, Okay, Kisha,

0:27:58.320 --> 0:27:59.679
<v Speaker 2>you want to fight me on it? I don't want

0:27:59.720 --> 0:28:01.800
<v Speaker 2>to fight or because I can see that most people

0:28:01.800 --> 0:28:04.760
<v Speaker 2>would be like, yeah, that's reasonable and normal. So I

0:28:04.800 --> 0:28:08.960
<v Speaker 2>will say, okay, perhaps they should have booked, but also

0:28:09.160 --> 0:28:11.400
<v Speaker 2>try and be understanding if some people are not really

0:28:11.440 --> 0:28:13.960
<v Speaker 2>that way inclined. Yeah, it's not a reason to dump

0:28:13.960 --> 0:28:15.960
<v Speaker 2>the guy. Like, if that's the worst thing he's done,

0:28:16.000 --> 0:28:17.840
<v Speaker 2>he's be spontaneous with his food. You do it, okay.

0:28:18.160 --> 0:28:20.760
<v Speaker 2>Question number two? Do I have a right to be

0:28:20.920 --> 0:28:24.560
<v Speaker 2>upset if my best friend forgets my birthday? Some context?

0:28:24.640 --> 0:28:26.600
<v Speaker 2>I've been extremely close friends with them for over a

0:28:26.640 --> 0:28:29.480
<v Speaker 2>decade since high school. I always know their birthday by heart,

0:28:29.480 --> 0:28:32.000
<v Speaker 2>but without Facebook reminders of me making note of it

0:28:32.040 --> 0:28:35.080
<v Speaker 2>on my social media, my birthday will pass without any

0:28:35.160 --> 0:28:38.040
<v Speaker 2>thought on their part. I just recently seven ties with

0:28:38.080 --> 0:28:39.960
<v Speaker 2>one best friend, and this was one of the small

0:28:40.040 --> 0:28:44.400
<v Speaker 2>reasons behind that decision. It feels hurtful and I feel forgettable,

0:28:44.480 --> 0:28:46.640
<v Speaker 2>if that makes any sense. But I would like to

0:28:46.640 --> 0:28:49.120
<v Speaker 2>know your thoughts on the matter. Should best friends know

0:28:49.200 --> 0:28:54.320
<v Speaker 2>each other's birthdays without being reminded by social media? Oh?

0:28:54.640 --> 0:28:56.640
<v Speaker 1>This makes me sad that I hope it's not the

0:28:56.680 --> 0:28:59.120
<v Speaker 1>main reason you seven ties with your friend. I just

0:28:59.160 --> 0:29:01.400
<v Speaker 1>recently seven times with one of my best friends. This

0:29:01.600 --> 0:29:04.680
<v Speaker 1>was one of the small reasons behind that. That makes

0:29:04.720 --> 0:29:07.840
<v Speaker 1>me sad because I don't think a friendship is defined

0:29:07.840 --> 0:29:11.240
<v Speaker 1>by somebody remembering your birthday. You know I'm gonna say

0:29:11.240 --> 0:29:12.760
<v Speaker 1>that because I'll pull my hand up and say I

0:29:12.800 --> 0:29:16.000
<v Speaker 1>forget everyone's birthdays. There's a small group of people's birthdays

0:29:16.000 --> 0:29:19.360
<v Speaker 1>that I remember, which are my family, Kisha's because Keisha's

0:29:19.400 --> 0:29:21.760
<v Speaker 1>birthday is my birthday. We have the same birthday, which

0:29:21.760 --> 0:29:23.760
<v Speaker 1>is the twenty first of August, and you know the

0:29:23.760 --> 0:29:25.840
<v Speaker 1>person that I'm dating. I think in terms of a

0:29:25.880 --> 0:29:28.800
<v Speaker 1>friend group, I always remember around when it is I

0:29:28.840 --> 0:29:30.600
<v Speaker 1>remember the month, or if it's at the end of

0:29:30.640 --> 0:29:34.760
<v Speaker 1>that month, but I often don't remember until I'm reminded.

0:29:34.800 --> 0:29:36.560
<v Speaker 2>And maybe I'm reminded because they're saying, Hey, it's my

0:29:36.600 --> 0:29:39.760
<v Speaker 2>birthday dinner next week. Maybe it's a Facebook post. But

0:29:39.920 --> 0:29:41.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't think that makes you a bad friend. I

0:29:41.960 --> 0:29:43.200
<v Speaker 2>would still be able to say I know I'm a

0:29:43.240 --> 0:29:45.320
<v Speaker 2>really good friend for that person because I'm I see

0:29:45.320 --> 0:29:46.840
<v Speaker 2>them all the time. I turn up for them, they

0:29:46.840 --> 0:29:48.640
<v Speaker 2>turn up for me. We love each other. I don't

0:29:48.640 --> 0:29:53.120
<v Speaker 2>think remembering a date means anything now, that's just me.

0:29:53.440 --> 0:29:57.160
<v Speaker 2>I understand why it might make you upset, especially because

0:29:57.240 --> 0:30:00.000
<v Speaker 2>you know that you go above and beyond for your friends,

0:30:00.160 --> 0:30:02.400
<v Speaker 2>and we always have as humans, we have this expectation

0:30:02.480 --> 0:30:06.440
<v Speaker 2>of like receiving what we give, which sometimes isn't the case.

0:30:07.200 --> 0:30:10.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm hoping, and I'm assuming your friends do give back

0:30:10.080 --> 0:30:12.560
<v Speaker 2>to you and fill your cupping other ways.

0:30:12.880 --> 0:30:15.160
<v Speaker 1>If the whole thing is that their shit friend and

0:30:15.200 --> 0:30:17.560
<v Speaker 1>they forget your birthday but they're just a dickhead as well.

0:30:17.520 --> 0:30:19.400
<v Speaker 2>That's different. But if they're showing up for you in

0:30:19.400 --> 0:30:21.320
<v Speaker 2>other ways and they just don't remember a date of

0:30:21.320 --> 0:30:24.480
<v Speaker 2>the year, I think that's okay. I think that you

0:30:24.640 --> 0:30:27.160
<v Speaker 2>probably shouldn't have seven times with your friend in that situation.

0:30:27.240 --> 0:30:29.200
<v Speaker 2>But that's me and birthdays don't mean a lot to me,

0:30:29.360 --> 0:30:32.440
<v Speaker 2>so it's very personal. I have two things to say

0:30:32.440 --> 0:30:35.120
<v Speaker 2>about this one. When I have done this in the past,

0:30:35.160 --> 0:30:37.880
<v Speaker 2>it's actually not the fact that I've forgotten my friend's birthday.

0:30:37.960 --> 0:30:39.520
<v Speaker 2>It's the fact that I'm not aware of what the

0:30:39.640 --> 0:30:42.760
<v Speaker 2>date actually is. And I've actually done this to my mum,

0:30:42.960 --> 0:30:45.400
<v Speaker 2>but her birthdays at the start of January, and you

0:30:45.440 --> 0:30:48.440
<v Speaker 2>know that time period over Christmas where you have no

0:30:48.560 --> 0:30:50.560
<v Speaker 2>idea what day it is, you have no idea what

0:30:50.640 --> 0:30:53.640
<v Speaker 2>date it is. I have literally forgotten her birthday before,

0:30:53.680 --> 0:30:57.000
<v Speaker 2>and I felt so bad about it. But that is

0:30:57.080 --> 0:30:59.920
<v Speaker 2>what happens more often for me with my friend's birthday.

0:31:00.160 --> 0:31:03.280
<v Speaker 2>If someone was to say, like randomly, what's blah blah

0:31:03.280 --> 0:31:05.680
<v Speaker 2>blah's birthday, and it was, you know, six months away,

0:31:05.720 --> 0:31:08.120
<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, oh, they're birthdays on this day. But

0:31:08.240 --> 0:31:10.440
<v Speaker 2>when it actually comes to it, sometimes I get the

0:31:10.440 --> 0:31:13.480
<v Speaker 2>Facebook notification thing being like it's these people's birthdays and

0:31:13.520 --> 0:31:15.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh shit, like I need to order some

0:31:15.160 --> 0:31:17.400
<v Speaker 2>flowers for them, or I need to order something to

0:31:17.600 --> 0:31:19.520
<v Speaker 2>be like here, you have a donut or a cupcake

0:31:19.560 --> 0:31:21.720
<v Speaker 2>delivered to your work because you want to my closest people.

0:31:21.720 --> 0:31:23.880
<v Speaker 2>I love you so much, but I just didn't know

0:31:23.920 --> 0:31:26.440
<v Speaker 2>what the date of that actual day was. I have

0:31:26.520 --> 0:31:29.680
<v Speaker 2>forgotten my own birthday before. If I forgot your birthday

0:31:29.760 --> 0:31:31.320
<v Speaker 2>means nothing. I have woken up before and been like,

0:31:31.360 --> 0:31:33.840
<v Speaker 2>oh my god, it's my birthday, like I didn't even know. Yeah,

0:31:33.840 --> 0:31:35.800
<v Speaker 2>that's because someone said, are you doing anything for your birthday?

0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:37.440
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, well, when's my birthday? Well, I

0:31:37.480 --> 0:31:40.160
<v Speaker 2>think that's the other part of this. It depends on

0:31:40.200 --> 0:31:43.080
<v Speaker 2>whether the friend who's forgetting your birthday is what I

0:31:43.080 --> 0:31:46.719
<v Speaker 2>would call a birthday person. So you know, we've all

0:31:46.720 --> 0:31:48.400
<v Speaker 2>got them in our lives. It's the people that have

0:31:48.520 --> 0:31:52.280
<v Speaker 2>birthday month and they do things. They do a dinner,

0:31:52.360 --> 0:31:54.360
<v Speaker 2>and they'll do a going out, and they'll do a

0:31:54.520 --> 0:31:56.959
<v Speaker 2>cruise and they'll do all these things to celebrate their

0:31:57.000 --> 0:31:59.600
<v Speaker 2>birthday because they are a birthday person and they love

0:31:59.680 --> 0:32:02.480
<v Speaker 2>celeb braiding it and they were just born, like you've

0:32:02.520 --> 0:32:04.400
<v Speaker 2>just been born. I mean, that's how we feel. You

0:32:04.440 --> 0:32:07.560
<v Speaker 2>didn't win an award, but everything not everyone feels that way.

0:32:07.600 --> 0:32:09.880
<v Speaker 2>And so I'm trying to not put those people down because,

0:32:09.880 --> 0:32:12.040
<v Speaker 2>like you know what, sometimes you need people like that

0:32:12.040 --> 0:32:13.640
<v Speaker 2>with the big energy in your life to get you

0:32:13.680 --> 0:32:15.480
<v Speaker 2>to go out and do different things. Yeah, And I

0:32:15.520 --> 0:32:17.840
<v Speaker 2>mean we live a busy life, and I under same way.

0:32:17.840 --> 0:32:20.200
<v Speaker 2>I mean humans, we live busy lives as adults, and

0:32:20.280 --> 0:32:22.000
<v Speaker 2>at the end of the day, it's nice to find

0:32:22.000 --> 0:32:24.040
<v Speaker 2>a reason and an excuse to go and celebrate. So

0:32:24.080 --> 0:32:25.680
<v Speaker 2>I think that's what people do. It's like my birthday month,

0:32:25.800 --> 0:32:28.640
<v Speaker 2>fucking party month. Yeah, run and drop your workbooks totally.

0:32:28.760 --> 0:32:30.720
<v Speaker 2>So I actually think that this is a bit more

0:32:30.800 --> 0:32:33.440
<v Speaker 2>like it depends on whether the person that you're upset

0:32:33.440 --> 0:32:37.240
<v Speaker 2>about forgetting your birthday is a birthday person. So obviously

0:32:37.360 --> 0:32:39.240
<v Speaker 2>you're the type of person who would really put a

0:32:39.240 --> 0:32:42.400
<v Speaker 2>lot of time and thought and effort into celebrating them.

0:32:42.920 --> 0:32:46.240
<v Speaker 2>So the question is like, do they show up for

0:32:46.320 --> 0:32:49.400
<v Speaker 2>you in other aspects of your life? Is this actually

0:32:49.400 --> 0:32:52.800
<v Speaker 2>that you're just feeling unappreciated by them in general? Are

0:32:52.840 --> 0:32:55.360
<v Speaker 2>you feeling as though you're never really in their thoughts?

0:32:55.400 --> 0:32:58.040
<v Speaker 2>Are you feeling as though they don't really check in

0:32:58.080 --> 0:32:59.720
<v Speaker 2>with you on how you're going in your life? And

0:32:59.760 --> 0:33:01.400
<v Speaker 2>this is it's just kind of like the cherry on

0:33:01.480 --> 0:33:04.160
<v Speaker 2>top that they also don't seem to give a shit

0:33:04.280 --> 0:33:07.000
<v Speaker 2>when you have your birthday come around.

0:33:07.160 --> 0:33:09.240
<v Speaker 1>Also, this is going to sound harsh, and I don't

0:33:09.280 --> 0:33:11.960
<v Speaker 1>mean it to be harsh, but if your friends, if

0:33:12.000 --> 0:33:15.040
<v Speaker 1>you are just say it's me right, I don't have kids.

0:33:15.200 --> 0:33:17.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm essentially single, you know, I live here on my own,

0:33:17.440 --> 0:33:19.800
<v Speaker 1>so I've got more time on my hands. If your

0:33:19.880 --> 0:33:23.160
<v Speaker 1>friends are a Laura who have multiple jobs and they

0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:25.000
<v Speaker 1>have kids and they have a husband, and they've got

0:33:25.000 --> 0:33:26.280
<v Speaker 1>a business and they're doing a TV.

0:33:26.120 --> 0:33:29.000
<v Speaker 2>Show like if whoever, you're very relatable. But no. But

0:33:29.040 --> 0:33:30.720
<v Speaker 2>if your friend is really busy and they have a

0:33:30.760 --> 0:33:34.760
<v Speaker 2>family and stuff, no offense, but your birthday is not

0:33:34.800 --> 0:33:37.320
<v Speaker 2>a priority. The priority is feeding the kids that night,

0:33:37.480 --> 0:33:39.920
<v Speaker 2>putting them to bed, getting them sorted for the next week. Like,

0:33:40.200 --> 0:33:43.560
<v Speaker 2>people's priorities turn and they're different and you remember different things,

0:33:43.600 --> 0:33:46.240
<v Speaker 2>and all of a sudden, trying to remember another friend's birthday.

0:33:46.280 --> 0:33:47.680
<v Speaker 2>It's just not on the top of the list. It

0:33:47.720 --> 0:33:49.920
<v Speaker 2>doesn't mean you mean any less to them. It just

0:33:49.960 --> 0:33:52.760
<v Speaker 2>means their brain is taking up more space on other

0:33:52.800 --> 0:33:54.840
<v Speaker 2>things at the moment. Yeah, but in that situation, I

0:33:54.920 --> 0:33:57.240
<v Speaker 2>actually think that it's the friends like that that should

0:33:57.240 --> 0:34:00.440
<v Speaker 2>probably be celebrated more because I think that you know true. Additionally,

0:34:00.480 --> 0:34:04.840
<v Speaker 2>we celebrate things like getting engaged, getting married, having kids.

0:34:04.880 --> 0:34:06.840
<v Speaker 2>Like if you're single and both of us are in

0:34:06.840 --> 0:34:10.239
<v Speaker 2>this situation, I feel like I'm always celebrating other things

0:34:10.239 --> 0:34:13.000
<v Speaker 2>with other people and getting them gifts, and you know,

0:34:13.160 --> 0:34:16.320
<v Speaker 2>all of the hoopla around it, and I don't really

0:34:16.360 --> 0:34:21.160
<v Speaker 2>have much that society tends to celebrate about me. So

0:34:21.239 --> 0:34:23.719
<v Speaker 2>I do understand if you're falling into that category. If

0:34:23.760 --> 0:34:26.120
<v Speaker 2>you're like, this is the one thing that I expect

0:34:26.120 --> 0:34:28.879
<v Speaker 2>you to care about because I've supported all of these

0:34:28.880 --> 0:34:31.600
<v Speaker 2>other things that you have had in your life totally,

0:34:31.640 --> 0:34:34.279
<v Speaker 2>But can you understand why. I'm sure they still want

0:34:34.280 --> 0:34:36.440
<v Speaker 2>to celebrate it, but you can understand why they might

0:34:36.440 --> 0:34:38.440
<v Speaker 2>have just forgotten it. Is my point. It doesn't mean

0:34:38.440 --> 0:34:40.839
<v Speaker 2>you mean less to them, but you're upset that they're

0:34:40.880 --> 0:34:43.600
<v Speaker 2>not remembering, Like this listener's upset that they're not You

0:34:43.680 --> 0:34:46.239
<v Speaker 2>literally have said, they don't remember my birthday off by heart.

0:34:46.520 --> 0:34:47.520
<v Speaker 2>They need a prompt.

0:34:48.239 --> 0:34:50.279
<v Speaker 1>I think ninety percent of the population don't remember their

0:34:50.280 --> 0:34:52.160
<v Speaker 1>friends and families birthdays off by heart. I think I

0:34:52.160 --> 0:34:54.520
<v Speaker 1>could ask my dad what us four kids birthdays are

0:34:54.520 --> 0:34:55.320
<v Speaker 1>and he wouldn't remember.

0:34:55.600 --> 0:34:58.120
<v Speaker 2>He loves us fiercely you were at the past word child,

0:34:58.200 --> 0:34:59.920
<v Speaker 2>were you none of his work. I don't know what

0:35:00.000 --> 0:35:01.560
<v Speaker 2>what his password is. It's probably a dog.

0:35:02.120 --> 0:35:04.399
<v Speaker 1>But like I know, my dad always he was like, hey,

0:35:04.400 --> 0:35:07.080
<v Speaker 1>I know your August. He knows all the month, but

0:35:07.160 --> 0:35:09.520
<v Speaker 1>like he loves us more than anything.

0:35:09.600 --> 0:35:12.200
<v Speaker 2>It's not a reflection of that. So I know it's

0:35:12.280 --> 0:35:14.560
<v Speaker 2>really tough to hear, but I think that maybe go

0:35:14.680 --> 0:35:16.719
<v Speaker 2>a little bit easier on your friends, and maybe it's

0:35:16.719 --> 0:35:18.600
<v Speaker 2>not the worst thing for you to prompt them, Hey,

0:35:18.680 --> 0:35:19.839
<v Speaker 2>you're going to be free in a couple of weeks.

0:35:19.840 --> 0:35:22.240
<v Speaker 2>It's my birthday. Give them a couple of week reminder.

0:35:22.400 --> 0:35:24.480
<v Speaker 2>I would appreciate that. When my friends do that, I'm like, oh,

0:35:24.480 --> 0:35:27.160
<v Speaker 2>thank god they let me know that. I actually think

0:35:27.200 --> 0:35:29.440
<v Speaker 2>that this says to me that you're probably feeling a

0:35:29.440 --> 0:35:32.680
<v Speaker 2>little bit underappreciated in most aspects of this friendship. Yeah,

0:35:32.719 --> 0:35:34.520
<v Speaker 2>I think so. I think there's probably there must be

0:35:34.600 --> 0:35:36.600
<v Speaker 2>more to this, especially if you've said you know, I've

0:35:36.640 --> 0:35:38.200
<v Speaker 2>said it up. But there are a few reasons there

0:35:38.280 --> 0:35:39.880
<v Speaker 2>must be more, and I hope there is if it

0:35:40.000 --> 0:35:41.799
<v Speaker 2>is just that, but just know that I'm sure it

0:35:41.840 --> 0:35:44.680
<v Speaker 2>is absolutely nothing personal. I'm going to put a poll up,

0:35:44.719 --> 0:35:47.040
<v Speaker 2>as we always do on a Thursday, we put our

0:35:47.040 --> 0:35:49.239
<v Speaker 2>poles to ask guncut questions up because I reckon this

0:35:49.239 --> 0:35:52.080
<v Speaker 2>one could be interesting. I feel as though often, Britt,

0:35:52.120 --> 0:35:54.880
<v Speaker 2>you and I feel very similarly about things like this

0:35:54.920 --> 0:35:57.319
<v Speaker 2>because neither of us are kind of birthday people. Maybe

0:35:57.320 --> 0:35:59.720
<v Speaker 2>that's a trait of people born on our day because

0:36:00.120 --> 0:36:02.200
<v Speaker 2>you do have the same birthday. Also, the odds of

0:36:02.239 --> 0:36:04.760
<v Speaker 2>that very rare. Like we're on like a three person

0:36:04.800 --> 0:36:08.200
<v Speaker 2>team and two of us have the one birthday. Yeah,

0:36:08.320 --> 0:36:10.280
<v Speaker 2>and we will find out kind of what the general

0:36:10.280 --> 0:36:12.879
<v Speaker 2>consensus is, because I feel as though most people may

0:36:12.960 --> 0:36:14.440
<v Speaker 2>care a little bit more than what you or I

0:36:14.680 --> 0:36:17.759
<v Speaker 2>really Yeah, yeah, because I have that's interesting to me.

0:36:17.800 --> 0:36:19.759
<v Speaker 2>There's not one percent of me that would care if

0:36:19.800 --> 0:36:21.880
<v Speaker 2>my friend for my birthday. I have friends in my

0:36:21.960 --> 0:36:24.839
<v Speaker 2>life that are very much birthday people, and I think

0:36:24.880 --> 0:36:28.200
<v Speaker 2>that they would be pretty offended if I didn't contact

0:36:28.280 --> 0:36:31.520
<v Speaker 2>them on the day. Luckily for me, they tend to

0:36:31.560 --> 0:36:34.480
<v Speaker 2>share like a thousand Instagram stories of people think like

0:36:34.719 --> 0:36:36.919
<v Speaker 2>how do you that day, queen, And I'm like, oh,

0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:41.439
<v Speaker 2>text give them a call exactly. You get a reminder, Yeah,

0:36:41.440 --> 0:36:43.760
<v Speaker 2>I get the reminder. I'm the person who needs the reminder?

0:36:43.840 --> 0:36:46.879
<v Speaker 2>All right, question number three, Hi, ladies, I need your help.

0:36:47.239 --> 0:36:49.440
<v Speaker 2>A bit of background. You've come to the wrong place. Sorry,

0:36:49.680 --> 0:36:53.320
<v Speaker 2>you've come absolutely to the right place. A bit of background.

0:36:53.320 --> 0:36:55.160
<v Speaker 2>My partner and I have been together for almost five

0:36:55.239 --> 0:36:58.280
<v Speaker 2>years and we are so in love. I am one

0:36:58.360 --> 0:37:00.399
<v Speaker 2>hundred percent sure he is a person and I want

0:37:00.400 --> 0:37:02.759
<v Speaker 2>to spend forever with He is my penguin. She didn't

0:37:02.760 --> 0:37:04.680
<v Speaker 2>write that. I added that in. But I know he's

0:37:04.719 --> 0:37:08.880
<v Speaker 2>about to propose because he told me I have a

0:37:08.920 --> 0:37:09.560
<v Speaker 2>good indication.

0:37:09.840 --> 0:37:12.440
<v Speaker 1>Dude, he's supposed to keep out a secret. Whenever he

0:37:12.520 --> 0:37:15.680
<v Speaker 1>brings it up, he says, I've planned the perfect moment.

0:37:16.080 --> 0:37:20.479
<v Speaker 1>But just warning, you don't have high expectations for the ring.

0:37:22.040 --> 0:37:24.480
<v Speaker 2>Now. Don't get me wrong. I think about our wedding

0:37:24.520 --> 0:37:26.640
<v Speaker 2>all the time and I cannot wait to get married.

0:37:26.719 --> 0:37:29.440
<v Speaker 2>But I just don't want him to propose unless he

0:37:29.440 --> 0:37:32.600
<v Speaker 2>can get my dream ring. Keep in mind, he knows

0:37:32.680 --> 0:37:36.160
<v Speaker 2>exactly the ring I want. Admittedly, the ring is about

0:37:36.200 --> 0:37:38.840
<v Speaker 2>ten thousand dollars, which I understand is a lot of money,

0:37:39.000 --> 0:37:41.600
<v Speaker 2>but he also has a pretty decent job and about

0:37:41.600 --> 0:37:44.680
<v Speaker 2>one hundred thousand dollars sitting in savings. But he's not

0:37:44.719 --> 0:37:45.200
<v Speaker 2>willing to.

0:37:45.160 --> 0:37:48.960
<v Speaker 1>Spend anywhere near ten thousand dollars because he quote doesn't

0:37:49.000 --> 0:37:51.239
<v Speaker 1>think it's about the ring. Now, I'm not a gold

0:37:51.280 --> 0:37:53.239
<v Speaker 1>digger or anything like that, but to me, it's such

0:37:53.239 --> 0:37:55.200
<v Speaker 1>a special and important.

0:37:54.600 --> 0:37:57.080
<v Speaker 2>Symbol of our union. It's something I want to keep forever.

0:37:57.239 --> 0:38:00.239
<v Speaker 1>And honestly, I feel horrible seeing this, but i'd that

0:38:00.360 --> 0:38:03.480
<v Speaker 1>he never proposed than proposed without the ring I love.

0:38:04.400 --> 0:38:07.280
<v Speaker 2>Oh. So I have two questions. One, am I Shelly

0:38:07.360 --> 0:38:09.040
<v Speaker 2>for caring about the ring this much? Because I feel

0:38:09.040 --> 0:38:12.319
<v Speaker 2>crazy too? What do I do about this one? Yes

0:38:12.360 --> 0:38:17.359
<v Speaker 2>you are, Yes you are. Oh look, I don't think

0:38:17.400 --> 0:38:20.400
<v Speaker 2>you're that crazy for having your heart set on something

0:38:20.440 --> 0:38:23.799
<v Speaker 2>that you really want, given that you do have the

0:38:23.960 --> 0:38:28.239
<v Speaker 2>means to obtain it. Okay, So I think the monetary

0:38:28.280 --> 0:38:30.799
<v Speaker 2>thing is what is a little bit maybe catching us

0:38:30.880 --> 0:38:33.560
<v Speaker 2>up because it does seem superficial to care about the

0:38:33.600 --> 0:38:37.320
<v Speaker 2>price of something. But I have recently learned about engagement

0:38:37.400 --> 0:38:40.399
<v Speaker 2>rings not because of my own? Is it because of mine?

0:38:40.440 --> 0:38:42.759
<v Speaker 2>Is a secret squirrel? Because of mine? Twenty to know

0:38:42.920 --> 0:38:45.560
<v Speaker 2>something to get my nails out there. I'm learning about

0:38:46.160 --> 0:38:50.120
<v Speaker 2>the difference in things like lab grown versus I don't

0:38:50.120 --> 0:38:52.240
<v Speaker 2>know what the actual term is. But in the wild

0:38:52.440 --> 0:38:55.120
<v Speaker 2>diamonds yeah, like naturally mine versus lab grown. So I'm

0:38:55.120 --> 0:38:57.759
<v Speaker 2>pro lab grown. Yes, me too. As it turns out,

0:38:57.760 --> 0:38:59.960
<v Speaker 2>it's a lot more environmentally friendly and it avoids a

0:39:00.080 --> 0:39:02.920
<v Speaker 2>lot of trade that is unethical. Lab grown diamonds have

0:39:03.160 --> 0:39:05.640
<v Speaker 2>identical I want to say, like genetic makeup. That is

0:39:05.680 --> 0:39:08.759
<v Speaker 2>not the actual term, but the makeup of it is identical, identical,

0:39:08.840 --> 0:39:11.759
<v Speaker 2>but it's ethical. Yeah. However, they don't have as good

0:39:11.800 --> 0:39:14.280
<v Speaker 2>resale value. I did find out hopefully you don't resell

0:39:14.320 --> 0:39:16.799
<v Speaker 2>your wing ring guys. That is a good point. So

0:39:16.880 --> 0:39:20.840
<v Speaker 2>I think the monetary value is the thing that maybe

0:39:20.880 --> 0:39:23.720
<v Speaker 2>is making this situation a little bit on the nose,

0:39:23.800 --> 0:39:26.839
<v Speaker 2>you know. Is it the style of ring that you want,

0:39:27.040 --> 0:39:29.600
<v Speaker 2>Is it the quality of the diamond involved, Is it

0:39:29.680 --> 0:39:31.759
<v Speaker 2>the size of the diamond? I think it's kind of

0:39:31.800 --> 0:39:34.239
<v Speaker 2>one of these things where it's like, it's okay to

0:39:34.360 --> 0:39:37.319
<v Speaker 2>really want what you want, particularly for something that you're

0:39:37.320 --> 0:39:40.080
<v Speaker 2>planning on wearing for the rest of your life. But

0:39:40.160 --> 0:39:43.040
<v Speaker 2>if he's not willing to spend that much on it,

0:39:43.360 --> 0:39:45.959
<v Speaker 2>I think maybe you're gonna have to end up saying, hey,

0:39:46.520 --> 0:39:48.480
<v Speaker 2>this is actually what I want. So you tell me

0:39:48.520 --> 0:39:50.680
<v Speaker 2>how much you're willing to put into it, and I'll

0:39:50.680 --> 0:39:53.120
<v Speaker 2>actually put in the rest because this is exactly what

0:39:53.160 --> 0:39:55.440
<v Speaker 2>I want. I know, our own engagement ring. I know

0:39:55.520 --> 0:39:58.560
<v Speaker 2>it's not as in romantic, but like, this is what

0:39:58.680 --> 0:40:00.840
<v Speaker 2>you want, and he's kind have made it clear that

0:40:00.880 --> 0:40:02.840
<v Speaker 2>he's not willing to spend that much. I mean, I

0:40:02.880 --> 0:40:05.280
<v Speaker 2>also don't know whether he's just a bit tight around

0:40:05.280 --> 0:40:08.719
<v Speaker 2>the purse in other ways. But I don't think you're

0:40:08.800 --> 0:40:12.600
<v Speaker 2>crazy for caring about it. I think that maybe if

0:40:12.640 --> 0:40:16.600
<v Speaker 2>you would rather him never propose, maybe you're gonna have

0:40:16.640 --> 0:40:18.319
<v Speaker 2>to think about ways to get the ring that you

0:40:18.400 --> 0:40:20.960
<v Speaker 2>really really want them. Oh, okay, there's a few things

0:40:21.000 --> 0:40:26.000
<v Speaker 2>for this, a few layers. Let's start unpeeling this ungin. Yes,

0:40:26.040 --> 0:40:28.839
<v Speaker 2>it's okay to want the ring you want ten thousand dollars. Absolutely,

0:40:28.960 --> 0:40:29.680
<v Speaker 2>that is fine.

0:40:30.040 --> 0:40:33.319
<v Speaker 1>I understand that you have your heart set on this ring. Now,

0:40:33.360 --> 0:40:35.040
<v Speaker 1>One thing Keisha said is that you could look at

0:40:35.160 --> 0:40:37.759
<v Speaker 1>Have you actually looked at alternatives of having a ring

0:40:37.800 --> 0:40:40.480
<v Speaker 1>that looks identical but doesn't cost the same price. What

0:40:40.480 --> 0:40:42.880
<v Speaker 1>we mean by that is is lab growing diamonds, is

0:40:43.560 --> 0:40:44.600
<v Speaker 1>sourcing it elsewhere?

0:40:44.640 --> 0:40:46.480
<v Speaker 2>I say elsewhere because I'm pretty sure. You can get

0:40:46.480 --> 0:40:48.839
<v Speaker 2>a lot of bargains in places like Dubai. A lot

0:40:48.840 --> 0:40:51.359
<v Speaker 2>of things are cheaper there. Yeah, look into that. Don't

0:40:51.440 --> 0:40:54.759
<v Speaker 2>quite me. Like Bai not known for being a cheap places.

0:40:54.760 --> 0:40:56.400
<v Speaker 2>A lot of people go and get their diamonds from

0:40:56.480 --> 0:40:58.640
<v Speaker 2>Dubai and then they get the ring made. That makes

0:40:58.640 --> 0:41:00.719
<v Speaker 2>me question why they're cheaper, and I feel like I

0:41:00.719 --> 0:41:03.520
<v Speaker 2>don't want to the fact that there is one hundred

0:41:03.560 --> 0:41:07.560
<v Speaker 2>thousand dollars in his savings makes you probably question it

0:41:07.600 --> 0:41:09.920
<v Speaker 2>more so. When you first said, like, he won't buy

0:41:09.920 --> 0:41:11.640
<v Speaker 2>my dreaming, I don't want to marry him, I was like,

0:41:11.800 --> 0:41:13.919
<v Speaker 2>that's not right. I don't like that. But then when

0:41:13.920 --> 0:41:16.520
<v Speaker 2>you say he does have the money, it does make

0:41:16.560 --> 0:41:18.920
<v Speaker 2>you wonder, Okay, well, why isn't he willing to spend it?

0:41:19.440 --> 0:41:21.399
<v Speaker 2>Why isn't he willing to spend it? I ask him

0:41:21.400 --> 0:41:22.560
<v Speaker 2>that is it because.

0:41:22.360 --> 0:41:24.319
<v Speaker 1>He's really saving for a house for you guys? Is

0:41:24.360 --> 0:41:26.040
<v Speaker 1>he putting the money to something better for the both

0:41:26.080 --> 0:41:28.759
<v Speaker 1>of you. It's very different story if you, guys, have

0:41:28.760 --> 0:41:30.360
<v Speaker 1>been saving for a long time for a deposit and

0:41:30.400 --> 0:41:32.480
<v Speaker 1>he really wants to put it towards that, or if

0:41:32.480 --> 0:41:36.160
<v Speaker 1>he's going out partying every week and dropping money on drinking,

0:41:36.360 --> 0:41:39.080
<v Speaker 1>frivolous going away. If he's spending money on that but

0:41:39.280 --> 0:41:41.000
<v Speaker 1>says that you're not important enough to put it for

0:41:41.040 --> 0:41:42.800
<v Speaker 1>the ring, then that's also different.

0:41:42.960 --> 0:41:45.680
<v Speaker 2>But some people can be very practical people and they

0:41:45.719 --> 0:41:48.799
<v Speaker 2>can see that a piece of jewelry, it's not a

0:41:49.040 --> 0:41:50.799
<v Speaker 2>thing that they're wanting to spend a lot of money

0:41:50.840 --> 0:41:52.000
<v Speaker 2>on it. I mean, we see this all the time,

0:41:52.040 --> 0:41:55.120
<v Speaker 2>particularly in hetero relationships, where guys will be like, what

0:41:55.160 --> 0:41:56.879
<v Speaker 2>do you mean you want to buy a designer bag.

0:41:56.920 --> 0:41:59.440
<v Speaker 2>It's a handbag. You can get a handbag for two

0:41:59.560 --> 0:42:01.360
<v Speaker 2>hundred dollar. This one's five grand.

0:42:01.680 --> 0:42:04.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And that's because something means more to you than them,

0:42:04.320 --> 0:42:06.839
<v Speaker 1>and you'd have different priorities. You have said you'd rather

0:42:07.120 --> 0:42:09.640
<v Speaker 1>not get married, you'd rather him not propose unless it's

0:42:09.680 --> 0:42:13.360
<v Speaker 1>with your dream ring. So you've literally said your love

0:42:13.719 --> 0:42:16.879
<v Speaker 1>and the union tying and not is dependent on the ring.

0:42:17.000 --> 0:42:18.719
<v Speaker 1>And I don't think that is it though? Or is

0:42:18.719 --> 0:42:20.480
<v Speaker 1>it dependent on the fact he hasn't listened to her?

0:42:20.680 --> 0:42:22.319
<v Speaker 2>Well? No, she literally just said don't want my dream

0:42:22.360 --> 0:42:23.640
<v Speaker 2>ring or I don't want to get married. But what

0:42:23.680 --> 0:42:26.360
<v Speaker 2>I mean by that is like, is it because simply

0:42:26.400 --> 0:42:27.960
<v Speaker 2>of the ring. Or is it the fact that he

0:42:28.160 --> 0:42:30.920
<v Speaker 2>is not willing to recognize that this is something very

0:42:30.920 --> 0:42:33.200
<v Speaker 2>important to her and therefore he should care about it

0:42:33.320 --> 0:42:35.640
<v Speaker 2>simply because she cares about it. Is it like a

0:42:35.640 --> 0:42:36.960
<v Speaker 2>deeper meaning, do you know what I mean?

0:42:37.200 --> 0:42:39.040
<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean maybe, but she I mean at the

0:42:39.120 --> 0:42:41.239
<v Speaker 1>end of the day, she said, I feel horrible saying this.

0:42:41.280 --> 0:42:43.839
<v Speaker 1>I'd rather he never propose than propose without a ring.

0:42:43.880 --> 0:42:45.759
<v Speaker 1>I love, I get the ring.

0:42:45.800 --> 0:42:47.959
<v Speaker 2>I love part. You want to love what's on your hand.

0:42:48.120 --> 0:42:51.040
<v Speaker 2>Like I would be shattered if I got given a ring,

0:42:51.040 --> 0:42:53.680
<v Speaker 2>an engagement ring, and I didn't like it esthetically, Like

0:42:53.719 --> 0:42:55.560
<v Speaker 2>if I didn't like it and I thought, oh my god,

0:42:55.560 --> 0:42:57.560
<v Speaker 2>I got to wear that forever. But I ring that

0:42:57.640 --> 0:42:59.440
<v Speaker 2>Sam and Snay's on the batch that the cheese will

0:42:59.480 --> 0:43:02.880
<v Speaker 2>ring to it. But I would still say yes because

0:43:02.880 --> 0:43:05.000
<v Speaker 2>I love them, And then I would sort it out after.

0:43:05.160 --> 0:43:07.080
<v Speaker 2>That's the part for me, melt it down and you

0:43:07.120 --> 0:43:10.520
<v Speaker 2>get it restructed. Absolutely, you would pour that off and

0:43:10.600 --> 0:43:12.680
<v Speaker 2>get something else. No, but I think that that's the

0:43:12.760 --> 0:43:14.759
<v Speaker 2>main thing. At the end of the day. I know

0:43:14.800 --> 0:43:16.839
<v Speaker 2>it's upsetting that you're not going to get your dream ring,

0:43:16.880 --> 0:43:19.080
<v Speaker 2>But is there not another ring? That you absolutely love

0:43:19.160 --> 0:43:21.120
<v Speaker 2>as much, but maybe cost less. Is there a way

0:43:21.120 --> 0:43:24.359
<v Speaker 2>that you can meet halfway? Maybe reconsider that you would

0:43:24.440 --> 0:43:27.480
<v Speaker 2>rather not get married at all if it's not the ring,

0:43:27.480 --> 0:43:30.640
<v Speaker 2>because if he's your person and your penguin, you'll definitely

0:43:30.719 --> 0:43:33.400
<v Speaker 2>work that out. Of course, wa Keisha said absolutely. If

0:43:33.400 --> 0:43:34.799
<v Speaker 2>you want to add some money to your own ring,

0:43:35.320 --> 0:43:38.279
<v Speaker 2>go for it. Maybe you can propose, and you've said

0:43:38.280 --> 0:43:40.400
<v Speaker 2>you want to get married, Maybe you can, you know,

0:43:40.480 --> 0:43:42.960
<v Speaker 2>settle on a ring, now propose, and then work it

0:43:42.960 --> 0:43:44.880
<v Speaker 2>out later. Maybe in six months or a year you

0:43:44.880 --> 0:43:47.120
<v Speaker 2>can upgrade it to something that you love more.

0:43:47.560 --> 0:43:49.960
<v Speaker 1>There are options. But I wouldn't not marry the poor

0:43:49.960 --> 0:43:53.640
<v Speaker 1>guy because you don't have your absolute, very specific, ten

0:43:53.680 --> 0:43:54.600
<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars dreamering.

0:43:54.680 --> 0:43:56.360
<v Speaker 2>And that's just me, I guess at the end of

0:43:56.400 --> 0:43:58.080
<v Speaker 2>the day. And maybe that's because I've been single and

0:43:58.400 --> 0:44:00.520
<v Speaker 2>lonely and desperate for so long that I propose me,

0:44:00.560 --> 0:44:02.279
<v Speaker 2>I'd fucking jump out it. I'd be like, yeah, I

0:44:02.400 --> 0:44:04.520
<v Speaker 2>dag it is that a burger ring us. I will

0:44:04.560 --> 0:44:06.680
<v Speaker 2>take the onion ring. I am alagic onions, but I

0:44:06.760 --> 0:44:08.920
<v Speaker 2>will take it. And these are not tears of happiness.

0:44:08.920 --> 0:44:11.600
<v Speaker 2>They're tears because my ring is they're normal though, Like

0:44:11.680 --> 0:44:13.040
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I guess I feel a little bit out

0:44:13.040 --> 0:44:14.480
<v Speaker 2>of the loop on this. Is it normal for people

0:44:14.480 --> 0:44:17.000
<v Speaker 2>to contribute financially to their own engagement ring? I actually

0:44:17.040 --> 0:44:19.160
<v Speaker 2>have no idea. I reckon there'd be people that would have.

0:44:19.400 --> 0:44:21.319
<v Speaker 1>I'd reckon they be people that have saved as a

0:44:21.360 --> 0:44:23.640
<v Speaker 1>couple for a long time for it. Because the thing is,

0:44:23.880 --> 0:44:26.200
<v Speaker 1>there's also no normal price for a ring anymore. I

0:44:26.239 --> 0:44:28.280
<v Speaker 1>couldn't even tell you if ten thousand dollars was expensive

0:44:28.360 --> 0:44:29.759
<v Speaker 1>or not for a ring. I have friends that have

0:44:29.920 --> 0:44:33.280
<v Speaker 1>had two thousand dollars on their engagement ring, five, ten, twenty.

0:44:33.760 --> 0:44:35.799
<v Speaker 2>I know people have got those is it mos? Andite?

0:44:35.800 --> 0:44:37.920
<v Speaker 2>Am I saying that, yeah, wasn't it? Because they're just

0:44:37.960 --> 0:44:39.920
<v Speaker 2>like I don't really care about diamonds and this was

0:44:40.040 --> 0:44:43.600
<v Speaker 2>literally a couple hundred bucks. Totally, it's a personal preference thing.

0:44:43.640 --> 0:44:45.840
<v Speaker 2>But I actually think the more I've thought about this,

0:44:46.000 --> 0:44:48.560
<v Speaker 2>as we've been speaking about it, I actually think that

0:44:48.680 --> 0:44:52.960
<v Speaker 2>your deep underlying problem here is the fact that you've

0:44:52.960 --> 0:44:55.719
<v Speaker 2>said something's really important to you and your partner, the

0:44:55.719 --> 0:44:58.000
<v Speaker 2>person that you love the most in the world, is

0:44:58.080 --> 0:45:01.360
<v Speaker 2>not really I don't know, I for respect that desire

0:45:01.440 --> 0:45:03.520
<v Speaker 2>of yours is the phrase I'd want to use, but

0:45:03.560 --> 0:45:05.200
<v Speaker 2>it's along those lines. It's one of the fact that

0:45:05.200 --> 0:45:07.480
<v Speaker 2>he's being a little bit dismissive of something that's really

0:45:07.520 --> 0:45:09.640
<v Speaker 2>important to you. Well, I feel like in a way,

0:45:09.719 --> 0:45:12.480
<v Speaker 2>you're thinking that he's saying, I don't think you're worth it.

0:45:12.840 --> 0:45:14.560
<v Speaker 2>At the end of the day. It's like you're saying,

0:45:14.560 --> 0:45:16.520
<v Speaker 2>I love this ring. It's ten grand though, and he's like,

0:45:16.560 --> 0:45:18.719
<v Speaker 2>no way. There's a part of that that's like, oh,

0:45:18.760 --> 0:45:20.279
<v Speaker 2>you don't think I'm worth that. You don't think our

0:45:20.280 --> 0:45:22.960
<v Speaker 2>love's worth that. I totally understand that. I understand the

0:45:22.960 --> 0:45:24.799
<v Speaker 2>reasoning why you're upset about it, for sure, and you're

0:45:24.800 --> 0:45:27.359
<v Speaker 2>allowed to be upset about it. I just don't think

0:45:27.400 --> 0:45:29.640
<v Speaker 2>it's worth not marrying the guy is my thing. I

0:45:29.680 --> 0:45:31.400
<v Speaker 2>think there's always a way you can work around it,

0:45:31.440 --> 0:45:33.120
<v Speaker 2>for sure. I would really love a follow up of

0:45:33.160 --> 0:45:35.760
<v Speaker 2>this one, and we haven't done an askun cut aftermath

0:45:35.840 --> 0:45:36.640
<v Speaker 2>for ages.

0:45:36.920 --> 0:45:38.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I would love to hear this as well. And

0:45:38.560 --> 0:45:41.960
<v Speaker 1>I do really hope you get married, because there's really

0:45:42.120 --> 0:45:43.040
<v Speaker 1>rare all love.

0:45:43.360 --> 0:45:46.640
<v Speaker 2>It is exactly that. It is rare, as rare as

0:45:46.640 --> 0:45:49.960
<v Speaker 2>a diamond. It is rare as it might cost diamond

0:45:49.960 --> 0:45:50.480
<v Speaker 2>from Divio.

0:45:53.280 --> 0:45:55.799
<v Speaker 1>Also, in case Ben listens to this, whilst I said

0:45:55.960 --> 0:45:59.359
<v Speaker 1>I don't care, whilst I said I don't care, like

0:46:00.400 --> 0:46:03.359
<v Speaker 1>obviously would still love something nice and pictures of what

0:46:03.400 --> 0:46:03.759
<v Speaker 1>you like.

0:46:05.400 --> 0:46:07.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm joking not you don't want. Coming off the back

0:46:07.239 --> 0:46:09.439
<v Speaker 2>of that, I would actually love for you and Laura

0:46:09.480 --> 0:46:12.040
<v Speaker 2>to do an asked Cut aftermath. So we haven't done

0:46:12.040 --> 0:46:14.240
<v Speaker 2>one for Cosh. It must have been at least six months.

0:46:14.440 --> 0:46:16.760
<v Speaker 2>The way that works is that if we've ever answered,

0:46:17.360 --> 0:46:19.400
<v Speaker 2>and I say we've if Laura and Britt I've never

0:46:19.560 --> 0:46:22.920
<v Speaker 2>answered one of your ask gun Cut questions, we often

0:46:22.960 --> 0:46:25.320
<v Speaker 2>want to know what happens after you know their opinions

0:46:25.400 --> 0:46:27.719
<v Speaker 2>or their advice is being given. We always want to know.

0:46:27.880 --> 0:46:29.960
<v Speaker 2>I totally sleep over some of these. Yeah, send it

0:46:30.000 --> 0:46:32.640
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0:46:32.640 --> 0:46:35.640
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0:46:35.680 --> 0:46:37.439
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0:46:37.480 --> 0:46:39.480
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0:46:45.600 --> 0:46:48.240
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0:46:48.239 --> 0:46:49.919
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0:46:49.920 --> 0:46:53.880
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0:46:56.400 --> 0:46:58.239
<v Speaker 2>will do an episode soon. And on that note, that

0:46:58.360 --> 0:47:01.319
<v Speaker 2>is us gone. I think Keisha, you might be feeling

0:47:01.400 --> 0:47:03.280
<v Speaker 2>on next week's episode two. And then I think Laura's

0:47:03.280 --> 0:47:06.520
<v Speaker 2>back in action. Yeah, we're not really sure of Laura's

0:47:06.520 --> 0:47:08.200
<v Speaker 2>schedule at the we we haven't seen her in a while.

0:47:09.080 --> 0:47:11.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure it's been a year. What's that a Titanic,

0:47:11.239 --> 0:47:12.960
<v Speaker 2>it's been eighty four years. I think I need to

0:47:12.960 --> 0:47:15.600
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0:47:15.719 --> 0:47:18.080
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