WEBVTT - MINI! Should she cut off her sister?

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<v Speaker 2>Well Thursday means therapy. Thursday means ask uncut. Where you

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<v Speaker 2>guys riding or calling with your deepest, darkest burning questions.

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<v Speaker 2>We do our best to answer them. And we have

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<v Speaker 2>Bella on the line with a bit of a conundrum

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<v Speaker 2>in her family.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Bella, Hey, what's your problem? Right?

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<v Speaker 3>My favorite trio Bella.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't want to pay these people to say.

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<v Speaker 3>This, Okay. I've got had a bit of a rocky

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<v Speaker 3>year relationship with my sister. Over the years, I'm starting

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<v Speaker 3>to get really frustrated with her. She's really selfish and

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<v Speaker 3>she's seemingly only contacting me when she wants something, so

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<v Speaker 3>just for example, like when she wants to borrow money,

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<v Speaker 3>or she wants me to look after her kids, or

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<v Speaker 3>she wants to use something of mine. I have got

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<v Speaker 3>another sister who I am, I'm close with, and she

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<v Speaker 3>sort of feels like she's getting the same treatment that

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<v Speaker 3>we're just keeping the peace for Mom's sake. She has

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<v Speaker 3>gotten emotional about it in the past. I just don't

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<v Speaker 3>know if I should say something to her or I

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<v Speaker 3>should start saying no. What should I do?

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<v Speaker 4>Is she you're younger or your older sister, my older sister,

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<v Speaker 4>your oldest.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's I think this one comes down to

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<v Speaker 2>the intent behind what she's asking you. Like if if

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<v Speaker 2>a family member is asking for money because they're in

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<v Speaker 2>a really tricky situation, I feel like it's pretty hard

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<v Speaker 2>to say no too. But if you know she's really

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<v Speaker 2>negligent with her money otherwise, like you know she's buying

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<v Speaker 2>a handbag, or she's frivolously spending her money, she.

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<v Speaker 3>Doesn't go without we'll put it that way.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So that's different, And that's where I think you

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<v Speaker 2>can say no. I think you can be like, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a bit strapped this week, But if you know

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<v Speaker 2>she can't put food on the table for the kids,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a different story. But if she's out there spending

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<v Speaker 2>the money, I think you can be like, oh, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>actually really tight this week.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, But even that, I think it comes down to

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<v Speaker 4>feeling a bit used and feeling like you're not valued

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<v Speaker 4>or respect it. I think like a big part of

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<v Speaker 4>this is it's not so much about the giving, it's

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<v Speaker 4>the fact that the only time she's making an effort

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<v Speaker 4>is when it's to be taking something. Is Is that correct?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Totally. I feel like it's just a bit of a

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<v Speaker 3>one way street, Like it's never really like a check

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<v Speaker 3>in to see how you're going. Like, as soon as

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<v Speaker 3>I see her calling, I just know that she's going

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<v Speaker 3>to ask for something.

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<v Speaker 4>If you were to cut off your relationship with your sister,

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<v Speaker 4>and that would also mean that you wouldn't have any

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<v Speaker 4>relationship with your nephews or nieces, Is that something that

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<v Speaker 4>you're prepared to sacrifice because you know that will affect

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<v Speaker 4>everything I know?

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<v Speaker 3>And I really do love her babies. So that's like

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<v Speaker 3>the thing that is making it really tough.

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<v Speaker 4>What happens when you tell your mom that you're wanting

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<v Speaker 4>to like put some separation between your friendship and your

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<v Speaker 4>relationship with your sister.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, she gets really upset about it. She has only

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<v Speaker 3>got one sibling herself who she is no longer in

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<v Speaker 3>touch with, So that's like, I'm just another thing that

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<v Speaker 3>really upset her to get along.

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<v Speaker 4>Has anyone sat I mean, has that ever been like

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<v Speaker 4>an intervention? Have you ever sat her down and explained

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<v Speaker 4>how you're feeling? Has your mum ever explained how anyone's feeling?

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<v Speaker 4>Because it kind of seems like maybe a bit of

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<v Speaker 4>a hard conversation needs to be happening.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, not for a long time, but like maybe it's

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<v Speaker 3>reaching that point again.

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<v Speaker 2>That's too hard for me. I wouldn't sit my sibling

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<v Speaker 2>down and say, I feel like you use me all

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<v Speaker 2>the time, back off. I just I just ghost. No.

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<v Speaker 4>I think the best thing to do now is before

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<v Speaker 4>you do try and like put some separation in your relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>I think, sit down, have a conversation, let her know

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<v Speaker 4>how it makes you feel. It'll probably buy you another

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<v Speaker 4>six months and she'll be on best behavior, and then

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<v Speaker 4>it might go back to being the same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Like write a list so you're prepared of stuff that

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<v Speaker 2>you know she owns that she could sell that she

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't need, so when she asks you for money'd be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>you know that Gucci handbag.

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<v Speaker 4>That's worth.

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<v Speaker 3>Sauna was so.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly there.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't break up the friendship because you should be over

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<v Speaker 4>her house using that in for it.

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<v Speaker 1>So amen's the worst? All right, Bella, Well that was

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<v Speaker 1>bog Bill. Just send us your medicare details, organize the rebate. Also, Bella,

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<v Speaker 1>you are well.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, look, things might not be good in the

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<v Speaker 4>family household at the moment, but we do have something

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<v Speaker 4>that will cheer you up a little bit. We have

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<v Speaker 4>two tickets to the Life Uncut Live show at whatever

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<v Speaker 4>show is closest to you that you can take.

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<v Speaker 2>But maybe you can take your sister, take your other sister.

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<v Speaker 1>Not the problem.

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<v Speaker 3>I will thank you so much. That's awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome, no worries. We love you to bits. Enjoy the show,

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<v Speaker 1>all right. Next on the pick up, I'm single, my

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<v Speaker 1>single era. I'm going on dates, ladies, and I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>told you about my most recent date, and I'll tell

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<v Speaker 1>you next. But all I'm going to say is just

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<v Speaker 1>picture me in the middle of the rain, on my

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<v Speaker 1>hands and knees, crawling through the street.

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<v Speaker 4>No one wants to This is very notebook.

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<v Speaker 1>Ess case, it was very romantic. Something happened that I

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<v Speaker 1>need to get you across to you. Next on the pickup,