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Speaker 2: Bella on the line with a bit of a conundrum
Speaker 2: in her family.
Speaker 1: Hey Bella, Hey, what's your problem? Right?
Speaker 3: My favorite trio Bella.
Speaker 2: We don't want to pay these people to say.
Speaker 3: This, Okay. I've got had a bit of a rocky
Speaker 3: year relationship with my sister. Over the years, I'm starting
Speaker 3: to get really frustrated with her. She's really selfish and
Speaker 3: she's seemingly only contacting me when she wants something, so
Speaker 3: just for example, like when she wants to borrow money,
Speaker 3: or she wants me to look after her kids, or
Speaker 3: she wants to use something of mine. I have got
Speaker 3: another sister who I am, I'm close with, and she
Speaker 3: sort of feels like she's getting the same treatment that
Speaker 3: we're just keeping the peace for Mom's sake. She has
Speaker 3: gotten emotional about it in the past. I just don't
Speaker 3: know if I should say something to her or I
Speaker 3: should start saying no. What should I do?
Speaker 4: Is she you're younger or your older sister, my older sister,
Speaker 4: your oldest.
Speaker 2: I think it's I think this one comes down to
Speaker 2: the intent behind what she's asking you. Like if if
Speaker 2: a family member is asking for money because they're in
Speaker 2: a really tricky situation, I feel like it's pretty hard
Speaker 2: to say no too. But if you know she's really
Speaker 2: negligent with her money otherwise, like you know she's buying
Speaker 2: a handbag, or she's frivolously spending her money, she.
Speaker 3: Doesn't go without we'll put it that way.
Speaker 2: Right, So that's different, And that's where I think you
Speaker 2: can say no. I think you can be like, I'm
Speaker 2: I'm a bit strapped this week, But if you know
Speaker 2: she can't put food on the table for the kids,
Speaker 2: it's a different story. But if she's out there spending
Speaker 2: the money, I think you can be like, oh, I'm
Speaker 2: actually really tight this week.
Speaker 3: I can't.
Speaker 4: Yeah, But even that, I think it comes down to
Speaker 4: feeling a bit used and feeling like you're not valued
Speaker 4: or respect it. I think like a big part of
Speaker 4: this is it's not so much about the giving, it's
Speaker 4: the fact that the only time she's making an effort
Speaker 4: is when it's to be taking something. Is Is that correct?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Totally. I feel like it's just a bit of a
Speaker 3: one way street, Like it's never really like a check
Speaker 3: in to see how you're going. Like, as soon as
Speaker 3: I see her calling, I just know that she's going
Speaker 3: to ask for something.
Speaker 4: If you were to cut off your relationship with your sister,
Speaker 4: and that would also mean that you wouldn't have any
Speaker 4: relationship with your nephews or nieces, Is that something that
Speaker 4: you're prepared to sacrifice because you know that will affect
Speaker 4: everything I know?
Speaker 3: And I really do love her babies. So that's like
Speaker 3: the thing that is making it really tough.
Speaker 4: What happens when you tell your mom that you're wanting
Speaker 4: to like put some separation between your friendship and your
Speaker 4: relationship with your sister.
Speaker 3: Oh, she gets really upset about it. She has only
Speaker 3: got one sibling herself who she is no longer in
Speaker 3: touch with, So that's like, I'm just another thing that
Speaker 3: really upset her to get along.
Speaker 4: Has anyone sat I mean, has that ever been like
Speaker 4: an intervention? Have you ever sat her down and explained
Speaker 4: how you're feeling? Has your mum ever explained how anyone's feeling?
Speaker 4: Because it kind of seems like maybe a bit of
Speaker 4: a hard conversation needs to be happening.
Speaker 3: Yeah, not for a long time, but like maybe it's
Speaker 3: reaching that point again.
Speaker 2: That's too hard for me. I wouldn't sit my sibling
Speaker 2: down and say, I feel like you use me all
Speaker 2: the time, back off. I just I just ghost. No.
Speaker 4: I think the best thing to do now is before
Speaker 4: you do try and like put some separation in your relationship.
Speaker 4: I think, sit down, have a conversation, let her know
Speaker 4: how it makes you feel. It'll probably buy you another
Speaker 4: six months and she'll be on best behavior, and then
Speaker 4: it might go back to being the same thing.
Speaker 2: Like write a list so you're prepared of stuff that
Speaker 2: you know she owns that she could sell that she
Speaker 2: doesn't need, so when she asks you for money'd be like, hey,
Speaker 2: you know that Gucci handbag.
Speaker 4: That's worth.
Speaker 3: Sauna was so.
Speaker 2: Exactly there.
Speaker 4: Don't break up the friendship because you should be over
Speaker 4: her house using that in for it.
Speaker 1: So amen's the worst? All right, Bella, Well that was
Speaker 1: bog Bill. Just send us your medicare details, organize the rebate. Also, Bella,
Speaker 1: you are well.
Speaker 4: I mean, look, things might not be good in the
Speaker 4: family household at the moment, but we do have something
Speaker 4: that will cheer you up a little bit. We have
Speaker 4: two tickets to the Life Uncut Live show at whatever
Speaker 4: show is closest to you that you can take.
Speaker 2: But maybe you can take your sister, take your other sister.
Speaker 1: Not the problem.
Speaker 3: I will thank you so much. That's awesome.
Speaker 1: Welcome, no worries. We love you to bits. Enjoy the show,
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