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Speaker 1: Jersey and Amanda jam Nation Lay Chattery. The podcast I

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Speaker 1: do with my friend Anita McGregor is out. The latest

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Speaker 1: one it's dropped Baby. The latest one is looking at

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Speaker 1: kind of. We morphed into talking about parenting and Millie Starling,

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Speaker 1: who was our executive producer. She is now on maternity leave,

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Speaker 1: but she wrote this not expecting me to read it out,

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Speaker 1: but I asked her permission. She said, I actually think

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Speaker 1: that my generation, she said of mothers, will be studied

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Speaker 1: as we're the first generation to have the pressure on us,

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Speaker 1: all on us to have it all. They will conclude

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Speaker 1: we are ft and no wonder, we'll all end up

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Speaker 1: in the asylum. Everyone works, There's no such thing as

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Speaker 1: a stay at home mum anymore. But the pressure to

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Speaker 1: work has everyone resentful, as everyone wants to be a

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Speaker 1: present mother. We have too much information about parenting. No

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Speaker 1: one has money to have in househelp, child care is expensive,

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Speaker 1: more pressure on grandparents. Mothers are being told to get

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Speaker 1: back into the workforce and thrive, but we keep getting

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Speaker 1: fed so much on social media about how much time

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Speaker 1: we need to spend with our children that we aren't

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Speaker 1: giving them enough. It is exhausting. Anita gave a great

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Speaker 1: parenting tip that I thought was just wonderful that I'd

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Speaker 1: like to share. She said, never, if you can help it,

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Speaker 1: discipline your child when you're angry. She said, go and

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Speaker 1: scream into a pillow, whatever you need to do, but

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Speaker 1: try not to discipline them when you're angry. And what

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Speaker 1: she's to do with her children was if they were

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Speaker 1: losing it, and sometimes when she was losing it, she'd

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Speaker 1: grab them, pull them to her and say, my heart,

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Speaker 1: to your heart, and just diffuse it. And so, yes,

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Speaker 1: you have your time out moments, but also time in moments. Well,

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Speaker 1: let's sit together and get through this. I shared my

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Speaker 1: great parenting tip once when Jack was losing it when

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Speaker 1: he was younger and we're at the football. I thought,

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Speaker 1: we've got another hour before we can get out of here.

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Speaker 1: How can I get him to hold it together? And

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Speaker 1: I said, I said to him, when we get home,

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Speaker 1: you're allowed to say one swear word. And I could

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Speaker 1: see that he just thought about what. He was so

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Speaker 1: excited and it got him through until we got home

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Speaker 1: and said, okay, here we go. They said, ah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: bloody bust, that was his that was his swear, God

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Speaker 1: bless Yeah. So I think her parenting technique probably has

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Speaker 1: more to it than mine. But whatever gets you through

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Speaker 1: whatever you're doing, is going to be okay anyway. Double

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