Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.
Speaker 2: This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast, Sweetie Pies.
Speaker 2: You would not believe the situation that I found myself in.
Speaker 2: What are the odds that someone a listener would dm
Speaker 2: us on a Flex and Rooms page and then for
Speaker 2: me is doing the most squashing thing. She's been pulling
Speaker 2: hair out of her hair brush, placing it on the table.
Speaker 2: It's got hair balls in it, the whole thing, and
Speaker 2: then looks disgustedly at it and then me as if
Speaker 2: we did it together. I'm not an accomplice anyway. The
Speaker 2: beauty of this story is that I'm about to tell
Speaker 2: it in the party anyway. It's just a beautiful meeting
Speaker 2: of minds and a reminder to say present aware and
Speaker 2: to be be an actual community member. Yea interact with
Speaker 2: people around you like you're part of the same community.
Speaker 3: That's it, you know, Flex and Frooms, Let's go.
Speaker 1: You're listening to Flex and Frooms on Kaita.
Speaker 3: We are always wanting to know how to improve our lives,
Speaker 3: particularly when it comes to relationships. Ah h, not just
Speaker 3: romantic platonic two familial community professional belonging. A listener has
Speaker 3: sent me or sent us a dam yeah.
Speaker 2: Because I do see it's as high flex and rooms here.
Speaker 2: If you want to send us any dms you've got
Speaker 2: some queries, concerns, want advice or feedback, just dm o
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Speaker 3: High flex and frooms Love Hut. Long time listening here
Speaker 3: hoping for a bit of advice. I've recently moved cities
Speaker 3: to melp and I'm currently in the thick of it,
Speaker 3: thick of my haven't found my places or people phase
Speaker 3: of the move. We've all been there. I work remotely
Speaker 3: and recently went through a breakup of a long term relo.
Speaker 3: Oh my network in Melbourne is small and I want
Speaker 3: to find a way to connect with people I find.
Speaker 3: The go to suggestion is usually join a team sport
Speaker 3: or do a painting class. It's often hard to cultivate
Speaker 3: friendships in those settings without coming off as a bit
Speaker 3: desperate or putting too much pressure on the other people
Speaker 3: you've just met. I feel like you both have an
Speaker 3: elevated take. Thank you so much. Thank you on appreciating
Speaker 3: third spaces in a way that I'm inspired by. She
Speaker 3: knows a lingo. We need you to remind me what
Speaker 3: third spaces is Flex place.
Speaker 2: It isn't your home or your work, but like a
Speaker 2: third community building space. Some people it's like a cafe,
Speaker 2: a cool park. Everybody hangs out at a club night.
Speaker 2: Everybody goes to Hope Radio, Hope Street Radio. I know
Speaker 2: Flex recently moved to Melbourne. Do you have any advice
Speaker 2: on where slash how to orient to yourself in the city,
Speaker 2: battling loneliness and also making new connections and trying new
Speaker 2: things while also retaining your identity. Thanks in advance if
Speaker 2: this question makes it to your potty.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 3: Another one fantastically written response, Flex, see you take the floor.
Speaker 2: I would begin by saying, as someone who's also recently
Speaker 2: moved to Melbourne, I'm in a similar predicament to you,
Speaker 2: but I have a different different take when it comes
Speaker 2: to making friends. All my favorite closest friends are people
Speaker 2: that I have had for a long time. I'm not
Speaker 2: in the business of making a flippant friend, because it's
Speaker 2: really hard to break up with people, especially on a
Speaker 2: friends I just linger forever and ever and ever and
Speaker 2: ever an eer in error. What I will say, though,
Speaker 2: is I have one really close friend in Melbourne that
Speaker 2: I want to cultivate like an ongoing friendship with and
Speaker 2: then I have made a really good point of being
Speaker 2: a very available party friend. And so if you already
Speaker 2: don't have a network there, you can do one of
Speaker 2: two things, one of three things. Actually, when I went
Speaker 2: to Ghana by myself a couple of years ago, I
Speaker 2: was like, I want to make friends with cool people.
Speaker 2: I want to land and hang out with cool people.
Speaker 1: What did I do?
Speaker 2: Cold Dams, Cold Dams other influencers. No, it just like
Speaker 2: it depends. Like I let's say there was a club
Speaker 2: night and people tagged themselves there be like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: this is so strange, but I'm coming to this place
Speaker 2: in a couple of weeks time. Do you have any
Speaker 2: recommendations or so on and so forth, And people would
Speaker 2: be like, oh my god, this.
Speaker 1: Is so old, Like hey, you are so old.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it was a time and place right. And
Speaker 2: the second thing you can do is what I've observed
Speaker 2: someone on TikTok Do is she made herself a challenge
Speaker 2: of making fifteen new friends. She put it out into
Speaker 2: the ether like on the internet said Hey, I'm new here,
Speaker 2: I don't have any friends. I want to make them.
Speaker 2: This is about me. I work in media, I do this.
Speaker 1: I do this.
Speaker 2: If anybody is keen on going to a dinner, DM
Speaker 2: me and we can go on a dinner. And it
Speaker 2: was bold and brave because she put herself out there.
Speaker 2: But what she got in a response is people who
Speaker 2: resonated with her, with her esthetic, with her approach, reaching
Speaker 2: out and saying, hey, I'm your person. And she's been
Speaker 2: going on these friend dates every week, every week, every week.
Speaker 2: I think that can be a bit daunting for the
Speaker 2: average person. But I think what people are saying when
Speaker 2: they're like, how do I make friends? You don't want
Speaker 2: flip at friends, you don't want like bottom of the barrel.
Speaker 2: You want some high quality people. And so I think
Speaker 2: you need to do a high quality thing and take
Speaker 2: a big risk and jump there. I've did a lot
Speaker 2: of that on my TikTok actually, people just being like, hey,
Speaker 2: I want to make friends. Who's down? And I think
Speaker 2: you can just start virtually. You don't need to be
Speaker 2: out doing dinner with strangers. And then the third thing,
Speaker 2: ask someone for a recommendation. The person that I made
Speaker 2: friends with in Melbourne is also from Sydney who we
Speaker 2: have mutual friends, and they are somebody who can I
Speaker 2: hang out with in Melbourne. Do you know anyone? They're like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, a flexious mood. Yes, you should DM her.
Speaker 2: So put it out to your actual network and say, hey,
Speaker 2: babies just moved to Melbourne. Who knows anyone? You know
Speaker 2: my vibe? Put me in contact. That is Rush your network.
Speaker 2: Let's go back to the analog days.
Speaker 3: Janie Yrsel, this is flex and rooms.
Speaker 1: I'm Kater.
Speaker 2: Got some really concerning news coming from the depths of
Speaker 2: the Internet. I didn't even need to go to Reddit
Speaker 2: for this one. Taylor Swift is a witch. I do
Speaker 2: understand deformation, so I will retract that and say fan
Speaker 2: to Taylor Swift had been experiencing amnesia after going to
Speaker 2: a concert. To me, I thought, is that just what
Speaker 2: happens when you're adrenaline is really high? I know between
Speaker 2: me and you, we're always telling stories and adding new
Speaker 2: elements every time.
Speaker 3: No, that's me, and you're calling me out for it.
Speaker 4: Tell them what really happened, embellishing as we go.
Speaker 2: So I started to do some research, and you could
Speaker 2: imagine I just got deeper and deeper into a conspiracy hole.
Speaker 2: So I had to like zoom out and go to
Speaker 2: just like regular trusted media. I found out that, like
Speaker 2: psychological distress after concerts, is pretty normal to experience gaps
Speaker 2: and laps in memory. I would have stopped there if
Speaker 2: I didn't see footage from Taylor Swiss concert. Why is
Speaker 2: she running around with ten other people in hooded cloaks,
Speaker 2: hooded cloaks doing swaying and chanting and hums and hymns.
Speaker 2: There's this quote that she sirens out. She says, wait
Speaker 2: for the signal and I'll meet you after. It's in
Speaker 2: her most recent concert, Tyler Swift is performing.
Speaker 3: If you know this is going to raise some controversy
Speaker 3: in the comments, but this just doesn't look great to me.
Speaker 2: If sis was all, if Sis was Lanadel right, we
Speaker 2: wouldn't think anything from it. What kind of There's no
Speaker 2: Tailor Swift song in that key. There's not one in
Speaker 2: that tempo. She's casting spells. People were like, oh, well,
Speaker 2: her concerts over three hours long. There's forty songs. These
Speaker 2: aren't casual Taylor's with fans going to the errors tour.
Speaker 2: These are super fans. They would remember what they did
Speaker 2: or did not experience. And that's counted with seeing a
Speaker 2: bunch of videos on TikTok and people can't remember. It's spooky.
Speaker 2: If something happens to me it was Taylor, but no defamation.
Speaker 2: What are the odds of this that just happened to us?
Speaker 2: We got a DM a couple of days ago of
Speaker 2: someone correcting the way that I said hutzpa on our
Speaker 2: show a couple of weeks ago. What are the odds
Speaker 2: that I would get on a plane from Sydney to
Speaker 2: Melbourne and that same girl who DMed us was sitting
Speaker 2: next to me on the plane. That plane ended up
Speaker 2: being delayed and we talked for three hours. She taught
Speaker 2: me Yiddish, she showed me her world, We talked about
Speaker 2: the show, We talked about each other. She showed me
Speaker 2: this archive memory on her Instagram story of her in
Speaker 2: a UNI lecturer and she was speaking to her class
Speaker 2: about this podcast that she was listening to. And then
Speaker 2: someone privately DMed her and said, was that Bobo and
Speaker 2: Flex my last podcast? And she was like, yes, of course,
Speaker 2: this is just like these things don't happen so anyway,
Speaker 2: leading with the DM that we got right before I
Speaker 2: met this woman on a plane, she said. Longtime listener
Speaker 2: also saw rooms at Bestie's Form's comedic show, which was
Speaker 2: a sold out success. Mind you sold up three or
Speaker 2: four times.
Speaker 4: She said it was top notch, incredible, hot and sexy.
Speaker 4: Thank you Dahlia, absolutely so. She said, I'm loving that
Speaker 4: you use a lot of Yiddish words. I didn't even
Speaker 4: know we did that, but you know, maybe maybe without
Speaker 4: even realizing, Schleppers said a lot on the potty and
Speaker 4: flex us hutzpa in the Jonahill Epp. I'd love to
Speaker 4: give you some more words and phrases in Yiddish to
Speaker 4: add to the repertoire, because it's the sassiest language. You
Speaker 4: just can't translate these sassy and incredibly useful words into English.
Speaker 4: And that was a big part of our conversation. Listen
Speaker 4: to this voice note.
Speaker 1: So most common ones are schlep and schmuck. I'd say
Speaker 1: it was like something that is an effort or far away.
Speaker 1: So I might say to my mates, I always schlep
Speaker 1: to the northern parts of melb you know, can we
Speaker 1: become south east south of the Ara just out there.
Speaker 1: I'm always slepping to you guys like schmark is a
Speaker 1: silly person. So maybe someone who forgot their keys or
Speaker 1: their phone, or like at a restaurant or something like, ah,
Speaker 1: what a schmark. We have to go back. It's a
Speaker 1: great word. Kodspa is an awesome word. Love it. Flex
Speaker 1: used it the other day. It's pronounced with the sound,
Speaker 1: which is hard so needs practice. Kotspar is someone with
Speaker 1: extreme self confidence or audacity. And if you want to
Speaker 1: use it like someone who's hoodsp Dick has a bit
Speaker 1: of guts, like someone like a bit of cheek. So wow,
Speaker 1: that's really hoods but Dick. That they did that, Oh my.
Speaker 2: God, just incredible. You can only imagine just the sheer
Speaker 2: like intensity of this conversation where like barreling ideas and
Speaker 2: words and this and that and how would I use it?
Speaker 2: And it was just super fantastic. But the reason why
Speaker 2: this experience was so instrumental is because I've been talking
Speaker 2: a lot about this epiphany I had post watching a TikTok.
Speaker 2: It happened to the best tis Yeah, And it was
Speaker 2: talking about how we spend a lot of time trying
Speaker 2: to act in ways that make us really proud of
Speaker 2: who are becoming. But the person needs to be mindful
Speaker 2: of is who we are When there's no incentive to
Speaker 2: be anyone good, Who are you? When you walk into
Speaker 2: a lift and you see a random stranger? Do you
Speaker 2: acknowledge them? Who are you? When you're walking down a
Speaker 2: random street and you see a person, do you smile
Speaker 2: at them? Do you acknowledge it you're both human in
Speaker 2: a shared space.
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 2: No, And so in this instance, the only reason why
Speaker 2: I even interacted with Timna in the first place is
Speaker 2: because when she got into the plane, she was holding
Speaker 2: all of these things and there wasn't a place to
Speaker 2: put her bag in the overhead carriage, so she was
Speaker 2: like holding grapes and bottle And I said, do you
Speaker 2: mind if I grabbed this for you and put it
Speaker 2: on the chair so you have arms to put your
Speaker 2: stuff up, And she was.
Speaker 1: Like, it's you.
Speaker 3: So you're a good Samaradan.
Speaker 2: I'm a good Smaradan. But it was so chill because
Speaker 2: I could imagine a different time I would have seen
Speaker 2: her struggle and be like, that's her business, Like I
Speaker 2: don't know how I'm not gonna come out of my
Speaker 2: own bubble to go help this stranger. Sheer big girl,
Speaker 2: she got it, But I was like, no, Like I
Speaker 2: see her struggling, I can just ask that she needs
Speaker 2: tolf and she says no or good, but then it
Speaker 2: was this whole thing.
Speaker 3: Man, that's so crazy that she had literally DMed this
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