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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Flex and Frooms on Cada Life. Is really doing

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<v Speaker 2>something to me? Menstruating babes, I don't know. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know the sensation of every.

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<v Speaker 1>Time I see you're mensu writing.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what it feels like, right was. I'm always talking

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<v Speaker 2>about it because I can't anyway. On today's party, we're

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<v Speaker 2>chatting about email etiquette through me favorite abolished professionalism.

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<v Speaker 3>Huh, people putting at dark mophot. It was a while ago,

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<v Speaker 3>I know, but my friend had a very harrowing Someone

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<v Speaker 3>say harrowing. Someone say it's art experience. I say, a

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<v Speaker 3>human doing a stage, amongst other things.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, wide man's your on calls. Let's get to it.

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<v Speaker 3>This is the potty Flex and Frooms, Kita, Flex and.

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<v Speaker 1>Frooms, Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 3>The other day, our producer Mikayla It's a Story's Oldest

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<v Speaker 3>Time Itself sent me an article that New York Times

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<v Speaker 3>had done about decoding email sign offs. I wrote a

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<v Speaker 3>similar article, not for the New York Times, not quite

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<v Speaker 3>about what each email sign off says about. It was

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<v Speaker 3>more of a humor comedy piece, a humorists piece.

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<v Speaker 1>But I said what I said, and I'd.

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<v Speaker 3>Like to recite what I found it and what I said.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you ready please.

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<v Speaker 2>For how to sign off an email peace someone who

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't like professionalism.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm interested to see what we have to say.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm right across your email etiquette. It's very chaotic, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Of all caps, smiley faces xxes, Like someone sends me

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<v Speaker 2>a contract.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm obsessed with this, Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 3>It's refreshing in the Microsoft in box. If you say

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<v Speaker 3>kind regards, it means you're ten years old and you're

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<v Speaker 3>sending off an email for the first time. Whoa kind regards?

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<v Speaker 2>Or you're like sixty and you've been doing emails since

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<v Speaker 2>emails first invented, and so you've like retained traditional email norm.

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<v Speaker 3>True, okay, keeping traditional life. If you say cheers, pure

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<v Speaker 3>pure chaos, I like cheers cheers. Yeah, who came up

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<v Speaker 3>with that?

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<v Speaker 4>The oisies?

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<v Speaker 1>Cheers cheers.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that warm regards. That's for more of a

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<v Speaker 3>PR situation.

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<v Speaker 2>Genus PR is thanks exclamation mark, No way, absolutely, guess

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<v Speaker 2>what I do. I think you just let your email

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<v Speaker 2>signature talk for you.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I say thanks, Comma Lucinda, Yeah, what is happening?

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<v Speaker 4>You've got their haptic vibration.

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<v Speaker 3>She signs off with kind regards, so she just feels outed.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh really no, just my boyfriend signs off with warm

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<v Speaker 4>regards and you did it.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, I'm doxing people in the studio.

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<v Speaker 4>Sorry, Jordan, what do you sign off with? Mickey?

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<v Speaker 1>Kindest?

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<v Speaker 4>The kindest from you? In my life? Use sign off.

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<v Speaker 1>Kindest, kindest?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw someone else do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Truly, anything but thanks and thank you is just unhinged.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not need for all the extra.

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<v Speaker 2>Especially when because your whole message is not dry, when

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<v Speaker 2>you're putting in the exclamation, the emoji, the XX, how's

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<v Speaker 2>your weekend?

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<v Speaker 4>Did you get near it hour?

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<v Speaker 2>I also feel like because generally with emails, it's a

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<v Speaker 2>threat of conversation needs to keep happening. So why are

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<v Speaker 2>we got to do a clear sign off every time?

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe the first time if you're not sure you're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>get a reply, right, of course, then it's a good

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<v Speaker 3>starting ground.

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<v Speaker 1>But then, yeah, drop the replies.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we need to drop email etiquette. I think

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of us spend too much time. It's actually

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<v Speaker 2>so ineffective. And a burden to productivity to have to

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<v Speaker 2>consider any kind of etiquette with email. The thing just

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<v Speaker 2>needs to be sent.

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<v Speaker 4>The older I get, the more I appreciate the.

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<v Speaker 2>Really like black and white stern email from your boss

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<v Speaker 2>that just says got.

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<v Speaker 3>It, It says, Plus thinks, yeah, plus thinks.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm obsessed because it's all needs to be said more.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we need to work in finance.

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<v Speaker 2>Literally, the finance brow inside of me. We've named him Gareth.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh gets it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's been a few weeks since Dark Mofo was the thing.

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<v Speaker 3>However I didn't go. I've only been to Hobart once

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<v Speaker 3>and I loved it.

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<v Speaker 1>I loved it.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll go back.

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<v Speaker 2>You must defoe go back, and when I'm there. Dark

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<v Speaker 2>Mofo is an art music culture festival in Hobart. And

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<v Speaker 2>also I was in Lornie this year. Maybe nah, I

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<v Speaker 2>think just.

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<v Speaker 3>Hobert, Lonnie lawn Sesstem. I always get it confused with

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<v Speaker 3>New Zealand for some reason. I always think lawn Sesson's

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<v Speaker 3>in New Zealand.

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<v Speaker 4>That makes sense, just across.

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<v Speaker 3>The ditch kind of vibes.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So my friend Michael went and he put on his

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<v Speaker 3>story that he witnessed something quite alarming, and I've asked

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<v Speaker 3>him to send us a voice note explaining what it is.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a content warning for Pooh Great and Crazy art.

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<v Speaker 5>So this is like a quick review of Divine comedy

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<v Speaker 5>that was at Dark Mofa this year. I didn't know

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<v Speaker 5>what to expect right doing balliony reviews. It was all

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<v Speaker 5>really vague though it was like, oh, prepare to be wowed.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm all like, oh, dark Arts, and you know, thirty

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<v Speaker 5>minutes I saw like several full grown women do a

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<v Speaker 5>squat five meters in front of me and do a big,

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<v Speaker 5>huge sit on the ground like for forty five seconds.

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<v Speaker 5>They're all like struggling audibly, and they all did big poos,

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<v Speaker 5>live big poos out of their human buttles onto a

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<v Speaker 5>like a painting palette that they were going to use

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<v Speaker 5>to like paint a tombstone. And then this woman had

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<v Speaker 5>blood taken out of her and then like sprayed everywhere.

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<v Speaker 5>And then this woman got a hatauchy wand and squirted

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<v Speaker 5>all over a hung I excel like there was a

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<v Speaker 5>woman live taxidermy in a rat, and at the end

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<v Speaker 5>this woman ate the rat. Everyone was naked from about

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<v Speaker 5>six minutes in like just it was blonkers, defund the

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<v Speaker 5>arts now.

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<v Speaker 4>The art now say it less.

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<v Speaker 1>I could not believe I didn't know that this stuff

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<v Speaker 1>was legal.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a bit confused because, yeah, explain. I'm always trying

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<v Speaker 2>to pitch for people to go to Dark Mofa or

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<v Speaker 2>to go to Hobart during Dark Mofo, because usually when

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<v Speaker 2>someone from the mainland except you know, the continental Australia

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<v Speaker 2>says to go to Hobart, they mean to go when

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<v Speaker 2>something is pumping and popping, so you get a feeling

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<v Speaker 2>of it.

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<v Speaker 4>The first time I went to Dark Mofo, I saw ah.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a performance of these five people simulating the

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<v Speaker 2>human centipede in like a body stocking, writhing around. There's silicon,

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<v Speaker 2>it's messy, the scoores like percussion, writhing, moaning, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>in this kind of converted heritage building and all you

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<v Speaker 2>can see is like the look of fear and shock

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<v Speaker 2>on everybody else's faces, and this kind of split between

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<v Speaker 2>the crowd. People taking it way too seriously, people thinking

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<v Speaker 2>it's a joke, so you don't know where to sit,

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<v Speaker 2>and if you meant to look at it with earnest

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<v Speaker 2>appreciations for the art, that's happening in front of you,

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<v Speaker 2>or if you can just say, what is happening right now?

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<v Speaker 2>As weeple stimulating birth out of a giant revolver, I

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<v Speaker 2>saw just the most beautiful Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay art art Marmylex art Mamy.

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<v Speaker 1>So you think not to defunder the.

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<v Speaker 4>Arts, Oh, definitely, don't defund the arts.

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<v Speaker 2>Apply more funding, apply define education, put it in the arts,

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<v Speaker 2>apply men.

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<v Speaker 1>And musal for all.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, it's one twenty am.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm in bed.

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<v Speaker 6>It was just a sleep and I've been thinking about

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<v Speaker 6>the Divine Comedy Show again, and I think I understand

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<v Speaker 6>it now. Maybe it's because so much of comedy is crude,

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<v Speaker 6>and we see this kind of put like pooing and

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<v Speaker 6>stuff on movies, but never in real life. Like I'm

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<v Speaker 6>thinking about White Lotus season one when there is an

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<v Speaker 6>infamous pooh scene. Why do we never see in person?

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<v Speaker 6>And also it sounds like it was very memorable.

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<v Speaker 4>That is all.

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<v Speaker 1>This is flex and rooms.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Kater twenty twenty three, and unfortunately we are still

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<v Speaker 2>talking about the unfollowing app. I personally don't know how

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<v Speaker 2>anybody is still using it for the sake of your

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<v Speaker 2>own mental health, But there's a bit of contention on

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<v Speaker 2>the internet.

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<v Speaker 4>Is it toxic? Are you just decluttering? Listen to this

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<v Speaker 4>TikTok from Nicole dot mad.

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<v Speaker 7>It's so uncomfortable if someone's like unfollowed you from Instagram

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<v Speaker 7>and then I've of course immediately unfollowed them as well,

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<v Speaker 7>or because I'm a patty bitch, I'm gonna unfollow you back. Yes,

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<v Speaker 7>I'm twenty five and still have the unfollow app.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't care. Why were you nodding so aggressively listening?

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<v Speaker 3>I was listening, But I will say, if someone unfollows you,

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<v Speaker 3>like fight fire with fire, You think that I don't

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<v Speaker 3>now because I know that you can accidentally unfollow people. Well,

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<v Speaker 3>you're just that I don't have the app because my

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<v Speaker 3>self esteem can't handle it and I will hold it

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<v Speaker 3>against you.

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<v Speaker 1>Period. That's why I don't have the app.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I could never have the app for that exactly reasons.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember.

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<v Speaker 3>I used to like be a bit self I guess

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<v Speaker 3>you call this form of self harm, like when you

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<v Speaker 3>go masochistic go back on the x's profile every day,

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<v Speaker 3>every few hours, like obsessive, and then you do it

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<v Speaker 3>with that It's like when you want to scratch a

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<v Speaker 3>nitch when you want to binge, when you want to, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>do something destructive, you would go on app like that,

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<v Speaker 3>but yeah, it's kind of something I did as a teenager.

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<v Speaker 3>I just definitely had to let that go.

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<v Speaker 2>It's interesting because we talk about relationships being transactional, and

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if this is what people think I mean

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<v Speaker 2>when I say that. When I say relationships are transactional,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean that, regardless of what you think is happening,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a transaction. I talk because I'm expecting a conversation.

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<v Speaker 2>In return, I give a gift because I'm expecting it.

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<v Speaker 2>I give humor because I'm expecting human back. That's the

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<v Speaker 2>agreement that we're sharing. But in this instance, I like

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<v Speaker 2>feeling that how I treat you is based on like,

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<v Speaker 2>how I genuinely feel about you, as opposed to keeping

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<v Speaker 2>tabs on how you feel about me to dictate how

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<v Speaker 2>I should treat you. You know, it feels like the

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<v Speaker 2>same thing, but it's slightly different. So if you unfollow

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<v Speaker 2>me because for whatever reasons you don't like my content,

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<v Speaker 2>it was an accident, whatever it might be, As long

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<v Speaker 2>as I don't know, I'm still treating you with the

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<v Speaker 2>same like care or joy or whatever that I treated

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<v Speaker 2>you with beforehand, and it should stay.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if people would agree, but I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, I think that we need to look at things

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<v Speaker 2>like following and unfollowing as small small things, not like

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<v Speaker 2>the action in itself is so minor that it can't

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<v Speaker 2>mean so much. Yeah, Because then we're saying, well, if

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<v Speaker 2>someone doesn't have Instagram, how do we measure how they

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<v Speaker 2>feel about us?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Which is like, which is how you would do?

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<v Speaker 2>What you would do, You would interact with them, you

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<v Speaker 2>would sustain and maintain a real relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>It's too hard, Yeah, it's too hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Well froud for thought.

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<v Speaker 2>If you've listened to the show for more than three months,

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<v Speaker 2>you would know that up until the age of twenty

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<v Speaker 2>six twenty seven, I had exclusively nightmares every time I'd

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<v Speaker 2>go to sleep, so often that I would just call

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<v Speaker 2>them dreams and not distinguish between them being nightmares or not.

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<v Speaker 2>They were always scary about being chased or the feeling

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<v Speaker 2>being chased.

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<v Speaker 4>Dark rooms, dark.

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<v Speaker 2>Houses, the apocalypse in Bondai Beach, tidal wave tsunamis buildings

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<v Speaker 2>like being in a building and having the water rush

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<v Speaker 2>up from the bottom and then having to at the

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<v Speaker 2>very top and jump tons of amazing things, and so,

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<v Speaker 2>long story short, I went to a therapist, as one does.

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<v Speaker 2>We were talking about anxiety, and I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think I feel anxiety in the way that you're

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<v Speaker 2>describing it, and he's like, that's impossible given you being a

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<v Speaker 2>person and the career filled you're in.

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<v Speaker 4>And then later on I was like, I have nightmares

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<v Speaker 4>every night. He's like, that is it. That's where the

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<v Speaker 4>anxiety went.

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<v Speaker 2>Your subconscious is trying to process what you're going through

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<v Speaker 2>that you won't acknowledge when you're awake and conscious.

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<v Speaker 4>Case closed.

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<v Speaker 2>We figured it out, and then I was having a

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<v Speaker 2>conversation with a friend right before we went on break

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<v Speaker 2>and we were speaking about them they also had a

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<v Speaker 2>similar experience, and he was like, oh, did your psychotherapist

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<v Speaker 2>tell you to take out chocolate and caffeine from your

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<v Speaker 2>diet before you go to bed?

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like no, he's at the brain and thinking.

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<v Speaker 2>And my friend was like, mmm, no, there's been heaps

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<v Speaker 2>of studies to prove that if you have chocolate or

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<v Speaker 2>sugar or any kind of caffeine in like the hour

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<v Speaker 2>before I don't know what rem cycle or whatever in

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<v Speaker 2>the hour before you go to sleep. It releases a

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<v Speaker 2>kind of compound that's known to have psychoactive effects on

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<v Speaker 2>the brain, thus inducing nightmares.

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<v Speaker 4>And as someone.

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<v Speaker 2>Who eats a lot of sugars and caffeine, not necessarily chocolate,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, that feels like a thing also that we

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<v Speaker 2>could have acknowledged human human Interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>I only heard this about cheese give me nightmares or

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<v Speaker 3>weird rad Yeah, cheese is like a classic. I haven't

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<v Speaker 3>heard it about chocolate. I have chocolate every night before

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<v Speaker 3>the ice cream.

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<v Speaker 4>And so I said, what, like, what do we do

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<v Speaker 4>that information?

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<v Speaker 2>They're just like, you don't need to cut out chocolate, caffeine, whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>but just don't have it right before you think you're

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<v Speaker 2>going to go to bed in the next couple of hours.

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<v Speaker 4>That's what I like, you know, the unwind, unwinding.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, I'll take the nightmares for a little marble curra milk.

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<v Speaker 4>I think so too.

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<v Speaker 2>The more nightmares you have, the easier you're able to

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<v Speaker 2>like self fregger like yeah, and.

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<v Speaker 4>Just live through them.

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<v Speaker 3>I hate them horrible.

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<v Speaker 4>You need to have them.

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<v Speaker 3>There always someone is getting into my door at my

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<v Speaker 3>house with a knife, ready to come and get me.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know what's really disorienting and mundangering when you

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<v Speaker 2>thought you've done your washing and you haven't done it

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<v Speaker 2>in real life? Those ones, I think are way more

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<v Speaker 2>disorienting a nightmare facts.

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<v Speaker 1>So, guys, I went and saw a band the other day.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you want to reveal who it was?

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<v Speaker 1>Nah?

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<v Speaker 4>Great?

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<v Speaker 3>I see bands probably once every two weeks.

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<v Speaker 4>Nice.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm always out at gigging, going to gigs, g gigging.

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<v Speaker 1>I pay for my tickets as well.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd love to fund the huge, love to fund the

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<v Speaker 3>arts apart.

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<v Speaker 1>When it's a stadium tour. I'm getting some freebies, babes.

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<v Speaker 4>And this is why I get you don't get dor

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<v Speaker 4>spot pape. This is way to get me. You say

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<v Speaker 4>things like that.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I'll pay, I'll pay for my like comers locals, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>for sure, for sure. And this band did an on

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<v Speaker 3>care and I couldn't life of me understand what is

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<v Speaker 3>the deal with encores? The biggest bands do it Tame

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<v Speaker 3>and Parlor did an OnCore for that. I was grateful, obviously,

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<v Speaker 3>but still there is something inherently awkward about the encore.

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<v Speaker 3>They go off in a bang, then everyone's like ole, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Guess yeah, because I thought about it before if you

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<v Speaker 2>don't do an encore, do you know that idea that

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<v Speaker 2>if you have an interaction with someone, they usually remember

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<v Speaker 2>like the start and the end of it, how it started,

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<v Speaker 2>how it ended, if there was like an awkward hug

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<v Speaker 2>at the beginning, or like an awkward hug at the end.

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<v Speaker 2>And so if you want people to feel that they

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<v Speaker 2>had a good time, they need to end on a

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<v Speaker 2>high note. So if a band does a whole set

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<v Speaker 2>and ends when it's supposed to, like with the biggest song,

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<v Speaker 2>people come down really really quickly. I heard the best

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<v Speaker 2>song in my life, and now I'm like it's over.

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<v Speaker 2>And so with the encore you simulate them back into

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<v Speaker 2>this feeling of like euphoria, but at least they know

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<v Speaker 2>it's done, so they carry that euphoria with them.

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<v Speaker 4>I think that's.

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<v Speaker 1>A really nice layered approach.

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<v Speaker 3>However, there are some reasons why.

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<v Speaker 1>Number one, it's a tradition.

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<v Speaker 3>So what on care means in French is again, so

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<v Speaker 3>back when music wasn't recorded and the only time to

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<v Speaker 3>hear music was live, Oh, people would want to hear

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<v Speaker 3>it again.

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<v Speaker 2>Time before Spotify, imagine a time before streaming.

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<v Speaker 3>I just that is absolutely insane music hit different back

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<v Speaker 3>then though, I was.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but we want to hear it again now because

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<v Speaker 2>we're not going to hear it again until the next

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<v Speaker 2>time we're here, and who knows when that is.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine Britney is toxic. You only hear it once in

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<v Speaker 3>your life.

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<v Speaker 1>Horrible stuff, horrible stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>It also gives the artists a chance to take a

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<v Speaker 3>break and get some water. It also gives value for money.

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<v Speaker 3>People are coming out and want to see one was wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>It also gives the artists if they don't have a

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<v Speaker 3>massive discography, because obviously artists bring out an album once

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<v Speaker 3>every two years. If we're lucky for many, many years,

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<v Speaker 3>they might not have enough material, enough new material. Have

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<v Speaker 3>you ever heard the expression Elvis has left the building?

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<v Speaker 1>No, he's serious.

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<v Speaker 3>No, you've never heard the expression Elvis has left the building?

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<v Speaker 4>No, babe, why are we all laughing at me?

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<v Speaker 1>That's like primary schools.

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<v Speaker 3>You thought I was doing a bit. You guys have

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<v Speaker 3>all heard it. Yeah, Elvis has left the building. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>So it's like a thing that.

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<v Speaker 4>The eagle is landed.

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<v Speaker 3>Similar vibe, same era vibes. So people say Elvis has

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<v Speaker 3>left the building. I say, Flex has left the building.

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<v Speaker 3>It's because back when Elvis used to perform, his manager said,

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<v Speaker 3>you don't do encores because you want to leave people

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<v Speaker 3>wanting more so in order for people to not think,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, because people are going, oh, core OnCore, and

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<v Speaker 3>they'll get disappointed. The PA system would say, Elvis has

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<v Speaker 3>left the building.

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<v Speaker 4>I like that you don't do on course thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I understand what it's meant to make you feel, but

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<v Speaker 2>anytime I don't like the what do you call it?

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<v Speaker 2>Like like it's like a dysphoria where you're like, like,

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<v Speaker 2>are you coming back and you're not coming back. You're

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<v Speaker 2>looking around up the lights coming on, they're not coming on.

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<v Speaker 4>Are we staying? Are we going? Should we keep our spot?

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<v Speaker 4>Do we move with the crowd.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a bit scary, but congrats to all our friends

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<v Speaker 3>out there making music.

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<v Speaker 4>You've been listening to The Flex and Froom's daily podcast.

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