WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - Britt's Going Into The Jungle!!

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<v Speaker 1>Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands

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<v Speaker 1>were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders

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<v Speaker 1>past and present.

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<v Speaker 2>Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was

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<v Speaker 2>recorded on Drug Wallamuta Land. Hi guys, and welcome back

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<v Speaker 2>to another episode of Life Uncut.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Laura and I'm in the jungle.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm celebrity. Get me out of here.

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<v Speaker 1>Well you're actually, I'm not jungle. I'm Brittany.

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<v Speaker 3>You're sitting in a studio with me right now.

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<v Speaker 1>What the hell happened?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you remember?

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<v Speaker 2>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>People might not people might not have heard.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm kidding that, just baiting them for a bit longer.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think the jungle thing made it, given it away.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you remember when we very first started this, we

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<v Speaker 2>were like six months deep and then you fucked off

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<v Speaker 2>to do the Bachelor Paradise?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because you made me I did. I didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to do it. You held something to my head and

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<v Speaker 1>were like get out, and then you ended up in

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship with Tim. Lol. Don't even know cut that out.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to talk about that. I'm so far

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<v Speaker 1>gone from that. We are not bringing that back into

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<v Speaker 1>this episode.

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<v Speaker 2>So funny. Oh bless, bless, look at you now, Babe

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<v Speaker 2>going into the jungle. I'm a celebrity. Get me out

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<v Speaker 2>of here. Yeah, Brittany Hockley, I feel so weird for you,

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<v Speaker 2>and I also I feel weird for me. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>so weird. I also am gonna be very sad. So

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<v Speaker 2>for anyone who doesn't know Britt is going into the jungle.

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<v Speaker 2>The show starts on Sunday, so out of here. But

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<v Speaker 2>it means that Britt will still be on the interview episodes.

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<v Speaker 2>But when it comes to our Tuesday and a Thursday episode,

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<v Speaker 2>it could be two weeks, it could be six weeks

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<v Speaker 2>that BRIT's gone.

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<v Speaker 3>It depends on know you exaggerator. It's only a month

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<v Speaker 3>if you win, is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? The whole jungle, it may.

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<v Speaker 3>Never come back unless we get eaten less. I could

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<v Speaker 3>like eaten by something. It's funny.

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<v Speaker 1>So straight away they said to me, what are you

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<v Speaker 1>most afraid of in the jungle? And I said a

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<v Speaker 1>hippopotamus And they're like what, And I was like, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm afraid of hippopotamuses or hippopotami.

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<v Speaker 3>Which one is it? Hippopotamy?

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's hippopotamuses with a plural. It sounds so dumb,

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<v Speaker 1>I am. Because they are outside of the mosquito. They

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<v Speaker 1>are the most dangerous animal in Africa. I yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>think that the hippopotamus is the closet danger The hippotomot

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<v Speaker 1>of my ass is the closet dangerous animal that people

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<v Speaker 1>don't realize.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you seen I'd petrified them? Also, what do they

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<v Speaker 2>run through the camp? A whole herd of them?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you seen their teeth?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they're like they need a brushed.

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<v Speaker 1>Their teeth are humongous and they just chomp and they'll

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<v Speaker 1>crush you in hard.

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<v Speaker 2>They need to go on a reality TV show and

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<v Speaker 2>get some free veniers after the fact, that's what they need.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, that was the worst joke I've ever heard.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the dad joker could for you after this new stint.

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<v Speaker 2>Look at my teeth. I don't need teeth.

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<v Speaker 3>Just so you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean to give you guys the way that this

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<v Speaker 2>is going to work over the next few weeks. Are

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<v Speaker 2>you Sakishi is gonna be filling in for brit Yo.

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<v Speaker 2>Delilah might make a few appearances.

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<v Speaker 3>Delilah may also be on MIC.

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<v Speaker 2>It'll be us, things will be exactly as normal, but

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<v Speaker 2>it would just be produced a Keisha and I doing

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<v Speaker 2>the episodes while britt You were gone.

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<v Speaker 3>But genuinely, how are you feeling? It hasn't sunk in

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<v Speaker 3>properly yet.

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<v Speaker 1>I always said if I was going to do any

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<v Speaker 1>other reality show, the only ones I'd do would be

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<v Speaker 1>Dancing with the Stars like you did or I'm a celeb,

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<v Speaker 1>because I just feel like they're in a different category.

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<v Speaker 1>They're wholesome, they're family, Like I'm done obviously done with

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<v Speaker 1>the love, but I'm done with drama, like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>and I hope to god there's no drama in the jungle.

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<v Speaker 1>But like, historically speaking, the show's not about that, Like

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<v Speaker 1>people going from all walks of life.

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<v Speaker 3>They're supposed to be friends.

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<v Speaker 1>They're supposed to be working together to try and earn

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<v Speaker 1>your dinner because you only get fed if you win

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<v Speaker 1>stars together. It just looks like a lot of fun

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm super excited to meet the other people in

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<v Speaker 1>the jungle, Like.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have any idea who's going, Like is there

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<v Speaker 2>any part of you that has an inkling or are

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<v Speaker 2>you just completely kept in the dark?

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<v Speaker 1>And on my heart, it is so secretive you do,

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<v Speaker 1>it's impossible to know there is nothing leaked, and I

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<v Speaker 1>have Google search the shit out of it.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, what's been leaked? Who's out?

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<v Speaker 1>There's nothing? The speculation of so many different people. We

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<v Speaker 1>know all the hints, like we know there's Olympians, AFL players, comedians, Hollywood.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know what's gonna happen? People are gonna get papped,

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<v Speaker 2>People are gonna get paped going in. That's what happens

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<v Speaker 2>every year. There's always some sort of leaks that happen

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<v Speaker 2>leading up to just before it starts because they have

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<v Speaker 2>to physically get them to Africa, and so that usually

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<v Speaker 2>is like, oh, we have to physically go I mean no,

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<v Speaker 2>not metaphorically going to Africa. Well, last time they just

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<v Speaker 2>chucked them in the center of Australia or something, didn't

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<v Speaker 2>they They just made a fake set and Byron that's

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<v Speaker 2>so it was COVID though they did what they could do.

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<v Speaker 3>That's true.

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<v Speaker 2>And also this year, so doctor Chris Brown, the VET,

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<v Speaker 2>he's not on it this year.

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<v Speaker 3>This is his first year. I was doing the job.

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<v Speaker 1>Why not?

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<v Speaker 2>And Robert is so cute like Steve as in everyone

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<v Speaker 2>and Steve urban Terrio AND's son brother Tabindi. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like there was ever a TV show that he was

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<v Speaker 2>perfectly made for.

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<v Speaker 3>It's this show. Don't get me wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>I like the show and I have watched it in

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<v Speaker 2>the past, but sometimes I don't enjoy how contrived parts

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<v Speaker 2>of it feel, like how contrived the dynamic between the

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<v Speaker 2>whose like, oh, it's what they lean into totally. But

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<v Speaker 2>I actually fucking love Julia Morris a funny and she

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<v Speaker 2>We've been so lucky in the past, like having really

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<v Speaker 2>intimate conversations with her outside of just being you know,

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<v Speaker 2>in the world of media, and she's always been really honest,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's such an oversharer and she's she's just real

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<v Speaker 2>salt of the earth, and so I think her partnered

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<v Speaker 2>with someone like Robert could be a really awesome dynamic.

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<v Speaker 1>A really cool thing is Robert has said, like you

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<v Speaker 1>can only eat on the show now, like farmed animals,

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<v Speaker 1>So you know how you have to always do those

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<v Speaker 1>gross eating challenges where you're eating like an eyeball or something.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I feel sick.

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<v Speaker 2>Things. Yeah, but also when they used to do the

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<v Speaker 2>whole like eating a zebra penis like no one again,

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<v Speaker 2>it's disgusting and like everyone's like, eh, the penis, but

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<v Speaker 2>like no one actually wants to see someone eat a

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<v Speaker 2>zebra panas no one wants to see that?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I think people do. I think who people love it,

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<v Speaker 1>but people love the animals as well. Yes, but people

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<v Speaker 1>want to see us in the jungle vomit.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to see you eat zebra shit instead. Honestly, Wow,

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<v Speaker 2>how okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me what you really think, Laura, No, that's my

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<v Speaker 1>This is what I'm dreading the most right on this show.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited to go. I'm so excited to meet people.

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<v Speaker 1>The challenges look so fun, Like the actual physical challenges

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care about. You know, when you get a

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<v Speaker 1>question wrong and you get all this sloppy shit dropped

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<v Speaker 1>all over you, like whatever, not going to be great.

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<v Speaker 1>But the one thing I don't want to do two things.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to skydive because I've got a heights problem.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm hoping I don't get any of the heights

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't want to do the eating challenge.

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<v Speaker 3>And now you're not going to be able to avoid

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<v Speaker 3>both well, which is the worst.

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<v Speaker 1>Hear mere. I can avoid the eating challenges if you

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<v Speaker 1>guys are voting for me on the right days, because

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<v Speaker 1>I think what they do is say, like, who do

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<v Speaker 1>you want to see in an eating challenge? And you

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<v Speaker 1>you have to vote, So.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't you fucking vote for me? Life, don't you vote

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<v Speaker 2>for me? Part of me is like do we I

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<v Speaker 2>won't see it.

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<v Speaker 3>For the content.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're like I don't want any drama and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want any challenges, I'm like, sorry, pal.

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<v Speaker 3>Because you eat that zebra poop?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, because no, because what it means, seriously, what it

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<v Speaker 2>means is that you're always in the lowest amount of

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<v Speaker 2>votes to go out each week as well.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's like, that's how it works. The whole show

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<v Speaker 1>is based purely on public vote. If you don't get

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<v Speaker 1>enough votes, you're the person that leaves that week, and

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<v Speaker 1>it just goes like that until the end. The person

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<v Speaker 1>with the most votes wins the entire thing. Now, obviously, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to sugarcoat it. I want to win.

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<v Speaker 2>No, But I think it's this is so interesting to

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<v Speaker 2>me because I always thought it was rigged, right, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I believed that I'm a celebrity is reached. So there's

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<v Speaker 2>two things that came as a surprise to me. I

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<v Speaker 2>thought it was rigged. It's absolutely not, because it has

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<v Speaker 2>to go through the same sort of like advisory board

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<v Speaker 2>that lotto goes through, So it is commos.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's money for charity.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, so in Australia because because once you have

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<v Speaker 2>a monetary amount that's attached to it, there's rules and

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<v Speaker 2>regulations around how you can conduct what's called like prize winnings,

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<v Speaker 2>and so it goes against everything I thought. But that

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<v Speaker 2>was like my thing that I learned and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, that's so interesting and britt your charity

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<v Speaker 2>is so beautiful. I'm so proud of you for choosing

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<v Speaker 2>who you chose. So that's what this whole premise is.

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<v Speaker 1>In case you've never watched, it is like you don't

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<v Speaker 1>as the celebrity, which I hate even using that term.

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<v Speaker 2>Even though every year people are like who and you

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<v Speaker 2>know what?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, this is the other thing. When I get announced,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean like when the people post more shit, people

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<v Speaker 1>are gonna be like who is that?

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<v Speaker 3>This is when I need you, guys. Your life is

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<v Speaker 3>to band together and be like, oh that's Brittany, she's

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<v Speaker 3>a podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>We love her.

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<v Speaker 3>I like the office like the most rogue comment wins.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, why are you both against me? Challenge this right,

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<v Speaker 1>the most who not for me? Can you fuck it?

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<v Speaker 3>Guys?

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<v Speaker 2>This is not just about you, britt, This is about

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<v Speaker 2>all of the No, this is about me. Okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>sharing this one. I challenge you, right, the most random

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<v Speaker 2>fact you know about Brittany. When people say the most

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<v Speaker 2>random who is she? You need to write the most

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<v Speaker 2>random fact that you can think of about britt and

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<v Speaker 2>put it underneath. I don't want people to be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>she's from life on cut podcast. I want people to

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<v Speaker 2>be like, well, I want people be like, oh, she's

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<v Speaker 2>the chicken's really into chicken nugget, dinosaur chicken nuggets, whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I want like, the most random thing you know.

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<v Speaker 1>About her after all my life achievements. That's what pops

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<v Speaker 1>to your head. Yeah, when you need to describe me,

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<v Speaker 1>it's my chicken dinosaur nuggets.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so sad also that you change your hairs so

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<v Speaker 2>often that I can't keep up.

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<v Speaker 3>But anyway, let's get back to the charity.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So that is a premise, right, Like, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>as the celebrity win money at the end. That's not

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<v Speaker 1>what it is. You don't win a dollar, but your

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<v Speaker 1>charity does. I think it's one hundred thousand dollars. You

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<v Speaker 1>guys know. Over the last four to five years on

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast, it has been very important for us to

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<v Speaker 1>highlight women and to speak about domestic violence. From tempted

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<v Speaker 1>murder from a partner. We've spoken to a woman whose

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<v Speaker 1>sister was murdered in her relationship. We've spoken to somebody

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<v Speaker 1>that survived on a killings. We've spoken to Jess Hill

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<v Speaker 1>who was heavily involved in making coersive control illegal. We

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<v Speaker 1>have tried to cover so many different aspects of domestic

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<v Speaker 1>violence because the fact is it is so prevalent in Australia,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is why I chose a charity called Rise Up,

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<v Speaker 1>which basically helps families as a whole. So it's not

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<v Speaker 1>just women, it's families and children, but it's predominantly women

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<v Speaker 1>because we know that that's who it affects. They help

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<v Speaker 1>them leave these situations and do whatever they can to

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<v Speaker 1>help them start fresh, and that's a range of different things.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of them will be set up in new accommodation,

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<v Speaker 1>some of them will be giving a cash advance, some

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<v Speaker 1>of them will be just given things that they need

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<v Speaker 1>like clothing and appliances, well, just.

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<v Speaker 2>The support network to be able to leave a poor

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<v Speaker 2>relationship rise up. That's what I'm going into the jungle

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<v Speaker 2>to be eating eyeballs and and stuff for. Hopefully I'm

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<v Speaker 2>there at the end and we can hand over a

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<v Speaker 2>huge amount of money. This is an area of which

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<v Speaker 2>we have spoken about so deeply on the podcast and

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<v Speaker 2>it also is just part of the fiber of what

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<v Speaker 2>is DNA. Both of us we have spoken about personal

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<v Speaker 2>reasons as to why we care about this space, but

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<v Speaker 2>also it is just something that is not going away

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<v Speaker 2>in the Australian landscape. It is something that you think

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<v Speaker 2>male violence against women, how is in today's world in

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<v Speaker 2>twenty twenty four. It's something that is as prevalent as

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<v Speaker 2>it is. But every week there is stories about this

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<v Speaker 2>and so this is an organization that helps women leave

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<v Speaker 2>some of the hardest situations to do so. And I

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<v Speaker 2>are like, if anything, if you don't want to vote

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<v Speaker 2>for Britt for the child, just vote for her because

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<v Speaker 2>she's doing good things for a charity that's amazing. Moving

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<v Speaker 2>on from the charity aspect of the show, which is

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<v Speaker 2>obviously one of the most important things. The reality is

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<v Speaker 2>that you're going into the jungle and you're going to

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<v Speaker 2>be doing all of the fucking wild stuff that you

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<v Speaker 2>have to do. In terms of the things that you

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<v Speaker 2>can take, like, I want to know about the logistics

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<v Speaker 2>of it and how it works, Like what do you

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<v Speaker 2>get to take with you inside? What do you get

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<v Speaker 2>to like, because you get given a list of the

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<v Speaker 2>stuff that is and isn't okay to take.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so you literally, I'm not exaggerating. The packing list

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<v Speaker 1>is hilarious because there's nothing on it. You don't take anything.

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<v Speaker 1>You get given your uniforms, like that you're wearing there,

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<v Speaker 1>those terrible cargo shorts and that shirt.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you're allowed to.

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<v Speaker 1>Take six pairs of undies and six like bralettes or

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you want to choose, Like a sports bor I

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<v Speaker 1>might try and smuggle in some extra undies and then

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<v Speaker 1>a few pairs of swimmers, two or three pairs of swimmers.

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<v Speaker 3>LL that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>But then that is literally it. They provide you with everything.

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<v Speaker 2>So then in terms of contrabands, every year people snick

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<v Speaker 2>stuff in and like you, what do you do?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you shove it up inside your side?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you shelving like lollies.

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<v Speaker 1>Guys, I feel bad if I.

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<v Speaker 2>Put this on here they can't seart you down, so

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<v Speaker 2>you've got to pack it onto your body.

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<v Speaker 3>But like, what do you want to take it?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 3>What would be your.

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<v Speaker 1>Espresso machine strapped to my stomach?

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<v Speaker 3>What were you trying to hate?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I've been thinking about that because I

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<v Speaker 1>need to go this afternoon to get it. I need

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<v Speaker 1>to get some masking.

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<v Speaker 3>Tape, super glue, chocolate.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thinking not coffee because that's silly because you can't

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<v Speaker 1>have it for the rest of the time in there anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>So maybe like a hot chocolate or something sweet, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>some like but you want a few, right because you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to go in and not have any for

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<v Speaker 1>anyone else.

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<v Speaker 3>You can't go in make friends the dealer. You gotta

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<v Speaker 3>be a dealer. Do you think anyone's gonna want to

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<v Speaker 3>have it?

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<v Speaker 2>Snakes alive after you've pulled it out of your vagina

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<v Speaker 2>and people would pay for that?

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<v Speaker 3>Giving yourself that's your top, donar.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you guys remember how Shade worn after he went

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<v Speaker 4>on he had the condition that he was allowed to

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<v Speaker 4>smoke in the jungle, and after that they were like

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<v Speaker 4>no more.

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<v Speaker 3>He was even special privileges because he's Shane warn.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, so Kerry and Kennelly was allowed to take her

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<v Speaker 1>home makeup bagging. I think the big dogs are allowed

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<v Speaker 1>to know I'm not big enough. I have got no

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<v Speaker 1>negotiation skills.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't try and negotiate anything I did. They said, no,

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<v Speaker 2>do you know what I tried to negotiate? This is

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<v Speaker 2>how sad it is. I was like, guys, I need

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<v Speaker 2>to take a hair brush. I was like, because I

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<v Speaker 2>have hair extensions, I can't go in without a hair

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<v Speaker 2>brush or my head will get not and you'll have

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<v Speaker 2>to shave my hand.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what. The fuckers said, shave it. Oh that'd

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<v Speaker 1>be great content.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, well, Britt, we will man the four

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<v Speaker 2>while you were gone. And also, I'm so excited for you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so fun doing these things that put you so

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<v Speaker 2>far outside your comfort zone, that make you kind of

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<v Speaker 2>like just like saying yes to stuff. It's where really

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<v Speaker 2>cool new things happen. And you know, and I say

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<v Speaker 2>this from going back to like Bachelor days, saying yes

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<v Speaker 2>to doing the Bachelor changed our lives forever, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Saying yes to quitting my job and starting Tony May

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<v Speaker 2>changed my life forever.

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<v Speaker 1>I also just really want to go to South Africa.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just really but it's also really cool.

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<v Speaker 2>I think sometimes, you know, you get big opportunities in life,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's so easy to say no to things because

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<v Speaker 2>there's other reasons and things that come up. But I

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<v Speaker 2>mean us even doing this podcast, like you saying yes

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<v Speaker 2>to this is something that is admirable.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so fucking excited for you. I can't wait to

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<v Speaker 3>laugh at you on TV.

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<v Speaker 2>And the thing that I think I'm the most excited

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<v Speaker 2>for is the fact that we get to see the

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<v Speaker 2>real version of bread like every day on this podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Will you get to see the version that you hear

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<v Speaker 1>on the podcast?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>And like, well you're a loser and it's great and

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<v Speaker 2>we know, but you're gonna be a winner.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I don't want to lose please Yeah maybe winner.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I mean by that is, like I said

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<v Speaker 2>this to you the other day, because sometimes I think

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<v Speaker 2>people look at your social media and they think that

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<v Speaker 2>you're you're perfect, they think that you're this perfect. This

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<v Speaker 2>is also an opportunity for the Australian public not to

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<v Speaker 2>sound like a winker, but to see the version of

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<v Speaker 2>you that we get to see every day and that's

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<v Speaker 2>really cool and I'm really excited for you. So just

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<v Speaker 2>be exactly the version of yourself that we get to

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<v Speaker 2>see because we love you.

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<v Speaker 1>And if there's every time I need you, guys, it's now,

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<v Speaker 1>let's make you the queen of the jungle.

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<v Speaker 3>We can do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I believe in our life is we can make you

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<v Speaker 2>queen of the I literally need to go, so let's get.

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<v Speaker 3>This episode going. All right, let's answer your questions.

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<v Speaker 2>But before we do that, we've got vibe and unsubscribed. Baby,

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<v Speaker 2>what's your vibe of the week?

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<v Speaker 1>Watch my vibe, guys, I'm sticking to it. My vibe

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<v Speaker 1>is watch I'm a celebrity, Get me out of here.

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<v Speaker 1>It's starting Sunday this Sunday, the twenty fourth. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's probably on at seven thirty, but like, that is

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<v Speaker 1>my vibe. Please watch the show. It is on channel ten.

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<v Speaker 1>In case you didn't know, and now you do.

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<v Speaker 3>Keisha, what is your vibe for the week.

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<v Speaker 4>My vibe for the week is potentially a little bit niche,

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<v Speaker 4>but it does cross over into two territories.

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<v Speaker 3>As I have learned.

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<v Speaker 4>If you're the type of person who wears teeth, retainers,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, those plastic ones in Visiline is the main company,

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<v Speaker 4>but there are a bunch of other ones. I have

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<v Speaker 4>them and I wear them to kind of keep my

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<v Speaker 4>teeth straight straight ye maintenance phase. They get scummy and

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<v Speaker 4>gross over time. So I ended up investing in this thing.

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<v Speaker 4>It's called a Zimmer dental Pod. It's Zima and.

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<v Speaker 3>It's ultrasonic cleaning.

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<v Speaker 4>And so look, they're not cheap. It's one hundred and

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<v Speaker 4>fifty bucks. They do not give discount codes. I tried

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<v Speaker 4>really hard to find one. But basically, you whack them in,

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<v Speaker 4>they're like aesthetically quite nice.

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<v Speaker 3>You put a bit of water in.

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<v Speaker 4>You can also put a dental pod tablet in and

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<v Speaker 4>you press the button and it essentially vibrates heaps and

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<v Speaker 4>it cleans your teeth plates.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you really really?

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<v Speaker 2>The worst thing about having those so I used to

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<v Speaker 2>have himisil Line and then I stopped using my maintenance

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<v Speaker 2>plate is how funky they smell.

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<v Speaker 3>There's nothing less sexy.

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<v Speaker 2>This is Matt every time we're about to get it on,

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<v Speaker 2>because he'll put his britainner and then he'll get into

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<v Speaker 2>bed and then we're like, I'll know that.

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<v Speaker 3>It it's sexy time.

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<v Speaker 2>If he's like, that's it, that's our foreplay, Matt ripping

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<v Speaker 2>those stinky retainers out of his rank.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's what you.

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<v Speaker 2>Do, right if you If you haven't, no, he does.

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<v Speaker 2>He puts him in that sterident stuff like that cleans dents.

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<v Speaker 2>But if he has cleans, he like, he's in bed

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<v Speaker 2>and we haven't thought, oh, tonight's the night and he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh fuck, you call me off guard and you're getting

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit hot and heavy, and then he has

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<v Speaker 2>to slop those things out of his mouth.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, anyway, if you don't want Matt to have any

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<v Speaker 4>gross ones, we'll get him as ibidential pod because I've

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<v Speaker 4>also learned they double.

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<v Speaker 3>As jewelry cleaners. Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, don't know if I would recommend that. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>ultrasny cleaning does. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so it's an ultrasunny little cleaner. So I've put

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<v Speaker 4>my Like you're like, I don't know, I recommend that, Laura.

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<v Speaker 3>This is me telling you.

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<v Speaker 4>I have put my twenty May rings in plenty of

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<v Speaker 4>times and they are going great.

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<v Speaker 2>Just don't put any products or chemicals in there with it,

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<v Speaker 2>and then that's okay, all right. I have a recommendation

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<v Speaker 2>today It is a documentary that I watched on the weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>It is not a new documentary though, so I just

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<v Speaker 2>want to make that known because it came out in

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<v Speaker 2>twenty nineteen, but I did not hear about it in

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<v Speaker 2>twenty nineteen, and Matt brought it up the other day

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<v Speaker 2>and was like, I'd be really interested in watching this.

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<v Speaker 2>And it is called One Child Nation. It's an American

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<v Speaker 2>horror documentary.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>I say that because it documents the one child policy

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<v Speaker 2>from China and the realities behind how that was mandated.

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<v Speaker 2>It is truly horrific. This is not light viewing for anybody,

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<v Speaker 2>especially if you are pregnant, or if you have been

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<v Speaker 2>through pregnancy loss.

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<v Speaker 1>Or even just for anyone. It's really hard.

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<v Speaker 3>It is not light viewing whatsoever.

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<v Speaker 2>But it is incredibly, incredibly interesting, and I also think

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<v Speaker 2>it really lifts the veil on a policy that I

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<v Speaker 2>think from the outset and from a Western culture, we

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<v Speaker 2>don't understand how it would have been easy to maintain.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, there was a lot of conversation around

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<v Speaker 2>there being finds that people would have been subjected to

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<v Speaker 2>if they were to have more than one child. But

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<v Speaker 2>this goes into the immense cover up and the propaganda

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<v Speaker 2>and also child in fanticide that occurred, forced abortion, forced

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<v Speaker 2>sterilization of women, and it is a very comprehensive documentary. Basically,

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<v Speaker 2>it is a Chinese woman who has left she's had

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<v Speaker 2>her child in China. She goes back and she's interviewing midwives,

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<v Speaker 2>she's interviewing her own family members some of the atrocities

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<v Speaker 2>that they did in order to maintain.

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<v Speaker 3>A one child policy.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't recommend this because I think it's something

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<v Speaker 2>that you're gonna watch and you're gonna be like, oh wow,

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<v Speaker 2>that was you know, it is truly horrific. But like

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<v Speaker 2>I said, the way that this documentary has done is

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<v Speaker 2>an incredible story to watch that will be news to

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<v Speaker 2>most people who view it. I don't think most people

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<v Speaker 2>understand what happened during that period, and it was so recent.

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<v Speaker 2>The one child policy was so incredibly recent, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>been lifted now and people are being recommended to have

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<v Speaker 2>two children because of the aging population. So the issue

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<v Speaker 2>that's happening in China now is that it is yeah

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<v Speaker 2>that the population is aging, and it is predominantly men.

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<v Speaker 2>Because at the time, nobody wanted to have a daughter

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<v Speaker 2>as their only child, which means that now there is

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<v Speaker 2>an overpopulation of men in China, there's not enough women,

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<v Speaker 2>and that population is getting older, so they're going to

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<v Speaker 2>be in for a situation where there's a complete reverse

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<v Speaker 2>in what was happening twenty years ago.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that is on Amazon Primes on Prime Video if

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<v Speaker 2>you do want to watch it, and it's called One

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<v Speaker 2>Child Nation.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's get into the questions question number one. Last month,

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<v Speaker 3>my family and I were at the beach.

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<v Speaker 2>This is such okay, well no, we said, there's no

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<v Speaker 2>dumb questions, but this one is a little bit dumb.

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<v Speaker 2>We set up our cool kabana and three beach chairs.

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<v Speaker 2>We were there for a few hours, but decided we

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to have lunch, packed up our beach towels, but

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<v Speaker 2>just left the cabana and the beach chairs underneath it.

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<v Speaker 2>A few hours later we returned and a whole family

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<v Speaker 2>was sitting under our cabana on our beach chairs. They

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<v Speaker 2>had their rash shirts all hung up over our cabana.

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<v Speaker 2>We said, what are you doing here and they said

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<v Speaker 2>they asked people nearby if anyone owned it, and when

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<v Speaker 2>they said that they hadn't seen anyone using it for

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<v Speaker 2>a while, they thought it.

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<v Speaker 3>Was okay for them to use.

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<v Speaker 2>When I asked them to leave, the mum rolled her

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<v Speaker 2>eyes at me, and only the young boy apologized. When

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<v Speaker 2>I told my friend about this, she said that they

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<v Speaker 2>had every right to use our cabana and the beach chairs.

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<v Speaker 2>This isn't correct beach etiquette, is it.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's not. No, it's not.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I disagree.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, You're at a beach and there is a very

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<v Speaker 1>expensive cool cabana and beach chairs and towels.

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<v Speaker 2>And someone says they took the towels with them, just

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<v Speaker 2>chairs and a cabana.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, set up, Okay, different story than Laura.

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<v Speaker 3>So there's a beach club, there's a cool cabana and.

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<v Speaker 1>His beach chairs, expensive at the beach, and somebody says,

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<v Speaker 1>excuse me, does anybody own this? No? No, it floated

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<v Speaker 1>down and sat there on its own. Yes, someone owns it.

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<v Speaker 1>They're probably swimming because they're at the beach. Oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't seen them in a while, because they're doing beach things.

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<v Speaker 1>They're playing with their kids, they're in the ocean, they're

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<v Speaker 1>getting an ice cream, they're having lunch. Whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you're incorrectly Brittany, I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you are?

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<v Speaker 3>You're incorrect.

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<v Speaker 2>The reason for this is that there's nothing else there

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<v Speaker 2>that indicated that people were around.

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<v Speaker 3>There was no bag, there's no towel.

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<v Speaker 1>Have to be it's their personal belonging. I know.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you're going to go away for three hours

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<v Speaker 2>and have lunch, she said, you've gone for hours hours

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<v Speaker 2>and just leave a couple of chairs and a cool cabana.

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<v Speaker 1>Let the family seek some shade.

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<v Speaker 3>You're not using it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just a chair and a cool cabana. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>would feel differently if it was a towel. I would

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<v Speaker 2>feel differently.

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<v Speaker 3>If these people dressed in your clothes, you wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>But if, like Nora, if you went to the beach

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<v Speaker 1>and you put your beach chairs, I would never.

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<v Speaker 3>Leave my cool cabana at a beach for three hours.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes you would unattended. Yes, you would go and play

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<v Speaker 1>with the girls in the pool all the time for hours.

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<v Speaker 1>You get ice creams, you walk your kids. Don't just

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<v Speaker 1>go and sit and kick back and relax under a

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<v Speaker 1>cool cabana.

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<v Speaker 3>I strong disagree.

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<v Speaker 2>I have never been to the beach with children where

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<v Speaker 2>I have left my belongings for hours at the beach.

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<v Speaker 3>That doesn't and that doesn't happen. So we're underneath the cook.

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<v Speaker 1>There's not a time limit on your belongings. There's no

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<v Speaker 1>one policing that. You're like, they're two hour limits. Up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm taking I'm taking the.

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<v Speaker 3>Kab I'm saying you can't take it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying if they were like my cabana got stoll

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<v Speaker 2>and I'd be like, that's a bit rich.

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<v Speaker 1>They moved in, they hung up a washing line and

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<v Speaker 1>put their clothes on there. They were like drying. They're squatting.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they.

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<v Speaker 2>I would think, what's the time limitation on squorting someone's

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<v Speaker 2>gool cabana?

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<v Speaker 3>I think it is. I don't have a problem with it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think if there is a shade at the beach

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<v Speaker 2>and no one is using it at all, God, oh.

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<v Speaker 1>No, what is wrong with you? If you need to

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<v Speaker 1>seek shade, bring your own fucking cool cabana and your

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<v Speaker 1>own umbrella. You don't just get to go and say

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to take this shovel and I'll take this

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<v Speaker 1>bucket from this girl, I'll take this tower from me.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what happens.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't just go and collect people's belongings to make

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<v Speaker 1>your little house.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what happens at the beach, though.

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<v Speaker 2>If I go just listen, listen, O my god, let's

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<v Speaker 2>send Lenda listen.

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<v Speaker 1>Limmy's out there or offended.

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<v Speaker 2>If I go to the beach with my kids and

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<v Speaker 2>I take all of their shovels and spades and stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>by the end of the day, I have to fucking

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<v Speaker 2>walk up and down the beach trying to find all

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<v Speaker 2>their bits and pieces because every other fucking kid has

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<v Speaker 2>taken it.

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<v Speaker 1>I always complain about it. You are, ah, yes, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Do, true, But I also steal their stuff. Okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not saying it's normal. I'm not saying that you should

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<v Speaker 2>run out and do it. I'm just saying that if

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<v Speaker 2>I had left all my things at the beach, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not saying.

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<v Speaker 3>I would even do it.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I am saying is that if I left

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<v Speaker 2>my cool obana and three chairs and nothing else at

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<v Speaker 2>the beach for hours hours, and I came back and

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<v Speaker 2>a family was using it, I would say, oh, hey, sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>that's our stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>But I wouldn't be like, can you leave?

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<v Speaker 3>How dare you touched my cook obara? You know it's

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<v Speaker 3>just a shade cloth. Who fucking cares?

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<v Speaker 1>Nah? You're so far removed from what is normal. It's wild.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the fact that you think that anyone can come,

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<v Speaker 1>that your personal things belong to anyone on the beach

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<v Speaker 1>is not normal. People spend eight hours at the beach.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why they take a cool kabana because they want

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<v Speaker 1>to be there all day. It's why they take their

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<v Speaker 1>beach chairs. That's why people take eski's. It's why they've

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<v Speaker 1>got a piece of string to hang up some clothes.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that's the whole point. Who's hanging up their clothes?

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<v Speaker 1>It's not survivor. They did.

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<v Speaker 3>They just hung them over the back of the chair.

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<v Speaker 1>They said that they hung up their shit to dry,

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<v Speaker 1>like they'd they've settled in. They had their binoculars. They

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<v Speaker 1>waited till a family left their cool kbarana.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, okay, when she said the woman like I

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<v Speaker 2>rolled her when she asked her to leave. I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's probably because you asked her to leave with some tone.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll probably excuse me, this is my stuff, and you

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<v Speaker 2>get out of here.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, like the Three Little bears when they're leaving the bed,

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<v Speaker 1>get out of my bed. What you can't just move

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<v Speaker 1>into someone's shit and expect them not to be bit like, hey, sorry, like,

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<v Speaker 1>what are you doing in Michael Barna? If you if

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<v Speaker 1>you someone, if you came back to your little setup

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<v Speaker 1>and there was an entire family that had moved in,

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<v Speaker 1>you cannot tell me that you wouldn't be likery. Sorry, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>what are you doing?

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<v Speaker 3>Like I come back and say, hey, guys, this is

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<v Speaker 3>my chair in mac Obarna.

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<v Speaker 1>Which is probably what she did. That's probably what she did,

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<v Speaker 1>and she got the attitude and eye roll like this

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<v Speaker 1>family thinks there are squorters they can score anyway. They

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<v Speaker 1>probably just moved down to Cheryld's cool cabana down the beach, like,

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<v Speaker 1>get your own cool cabana. I get it. If it's

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<v Speaker 1>like I get.

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<v Speaker 3>It, Can we say Cookobata one more time?

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<v Speaker 1>It's not even sponsored.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, cook a, buta if you should sponsor this episode,

0:26:36.359 --> 0:26:39.080
<v Speaker 2>how dare you? They don't even need the sponsorship. Every

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<v Speaker 2>single motherfucker has one of those in the beach these days.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just to see a Cookabata. Let's stop saying the

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<v Speaker 2>name shake cloth. Okay, let's insert shade cloth into every Cookabana.

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<v Speaker 2>I genuinely this is what I would think, right if

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<v Speaker 2>I had a cook a Baranna and I came back

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<v Speaker 2>and there was a mom with a little baby under it,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, so, I'm so sorry. I was just seeking some shade.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, of course, of course, it's fine. That's not

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<v Speaker 1>the problem. Like, totally fine. Mike cool, Kbana my shade cloth.

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<v Speaker 2>He's always it's your shade cloth is going to be

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<v Speaker 2>a castle cloth, your cuss a cloth.

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<v Speaker 1>He shared your shade. Yeah, I think that that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing here is the the entitlement this family had

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<v Speaker 1>to think that it was a free for all, and

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<v Speaker 1>the audacity they had to roll their eyes when the

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<v Speaker 1>owner asked them to move. I just the question is,

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<v Speaker 1>do you think that this is correct beach etiquette.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I just genuinely don't. And I think this has going

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<v Speaker 1>up as a pole anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a question too.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that was hectic pole it okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Question number two.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a friendship of ten plus years who was

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<v Speaker 1>my best friend and had been through everything with me.

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<v Speaker 1>This friendship ended last year. The friendship in itself got

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<v Speaker 1>quite toxic towards the end, probably the last few years.

0:27:46.640 --> 0:27:48.760
<v Speaker 1>I'd say where I found that I wasn't happy in

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<v Speaker 1>the friendship. And I felt I was stepping on eggshells

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. So it's definitely a relief that we

0:27:54.200 --> 0:27:57.640
<v Speaker 1>are no longer friends. However, it's hard not to look

0:27:57.680 --> 0:27:59.439
<v Speaker 1>back on all the good memories and the good times

0:27:59.440 --> 0:28:01.399
<v Speaker 1>we had. I feel like I'm literally coming out of

0:28:01.440 --> 0:28:05.440
<v Speaker 1>a toxic romantic relationship. I know I'm better off without them,

0:28:05.480 --> 0:28:08.200
<v Speaker 1>but it's still really sad. Now that I'm coming out

0:28:08.200 --> 0:28:10.440
<v Speaker 1>of this friendship, I find myself looking around at other

0:28:10.480 --> 0:28:13.720
<v Speaker 1>female friendships and I feel sad. I have friends, but

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like it's all on that superficial level, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm never truly myself the way I was with her.

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<v Speaker 1>My question is, how do people make good, pure friendships

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<v Speaker 1>in their twenties.

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<v Speaker 2>I love this question because I think we give so

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<v Speaker 2>much airtime to romantic relationships. But big female friendship or

0:28:33.640 --> 0:28:36.640
<v Speaker 2>big friendships of any gender, are the same as going

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<v Speaker 2>through big romantic relationship breakdowns, right, and they feel the same.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes they feel worse because you don't have any of

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<v Speaker 2>the tools to figure out, Okay, well, what am I

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to do here or how am I supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>feel here?

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<v Speaker 3>The thing about when you lose.

0:28:48.960 --> 0:28:51.680
<v Speaker 2>A big friendship like that a friendship that's taken up

0:28:51.680 --> 0:28:54.120
<v Speaker 2>so much space in your life, someone who shared so

0:28:54.200 --> 0:28:56.400
<v Speaker 2>many memories, someone who's like connected with you on so

0:28:56.440 --> 0:29:00.200
<v Speaker 2>many things. What you can't do is you can't compare

0:29:00.520 --> 0:29:03.719
<v Speaker 2>your new friendships or your friendships that are quote unquote

0:29:03.840 --> 0:29:07.120
<v Speaker 2>more superficial to that friendship, because they never ever, ever

0:29:07.160 --> 0:29:07.800
<v Speaker 2>will stack up.

0:29:07.840 --> 0:29:09.760
<v Speaker 3>The intensity of the connection is never going to.

0:29:09.760 --> 0:29:12.560
<v Speaker 2>Stack up to the friendship that was a decade long,

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<v Speaker 2>because you spent a decade building that connection, You spent

0:29:15.760 --> 0:29:18.720
<v Speaker 2>a decade getting to that level of comfortability. It didn't

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<v Speaker 2>exist when you very very first met each other, and

0:29:21.000 --> 0:29:23.120
<v Speaker 2>it's not going to exist when you very first meet

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<v Speaker 2>someone new and start a friendship there either. And we

0:29:26.040 --> 0:29:28.440
<v Speaker 2>do this in romantic relationships too. We can get out

0:29:28.440 --> 0:29:30.640
<v Speaker 2>of long term relationships, especially if you're the one broken

0:29:30.720 --> 0:29:33.680
<v Speaker 2>up with you start dating, and you go nothing compares

0:29:33.720 --> 0:29:36.720
<v Speaker 2>to them, No one I've meant, nothing I have experienced,

0:29:36.720 --> 0:29:40.120
<v Speaker 2>compares to that person who you hold up on this pedestal.

0:29:40.160 --> 0:29:41.959
<v Speaker 2>And it's because, of course, no one's going to compare

0:29:42.280 --> 0:29:44.360
<v Speaker 2>to the many things that you have invested and shared

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<v Speaker 2>with them.

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<v Speaker 3>So I think, firstly knowing that this is.

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<v Speaker 2>Very normal and it's a normal part of a friendship

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<v Speaker 2>and relationship ratedown whatever that relationship is.

0:29:53.680 --> 0:29:55.760
<v Speaker 3>But also you have to give it.

0:29:55.680 --> 0:29:58.360
<v Speaker 2>Time to invest in those In the relationships that you

0:29:58.400 --> 0:30:00.480
<v Speaker 2>say are superficial, or in the friendship that you say

0:30:00.480 --> 0:30:03.600
<v Speaker 2>aren't necessarily giving you what your past one did, you

0:30:03.720 --> 0:30:06.120
<v Speaker 2>have to give it time to allow for those friendships

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<v Speaker 2>to evolve into that too. And I do think it

0:30:08.600 --> 0:30:10.280
<v Speaker 2>is a kind of a bit of a balancing act

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<v Speaker 2>between finding the friends that you have the same or

0:30:12.960 --> 0:30:15.880
<v Speaker 2>similar chemistry with, but also giving it time and doing

0:30:15.960 --> 0:30:18.160
<v Speaker 2>things with them that will allow you to get to

0:30:18.200 --> 0:30:19.800
<v Speaker 2>that place where you feel as though they're your best

0:30:19.840 --> 0:30:21.280
<v Speaker 2>friend at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>I do think it is way harder to make those

0:30:23.520 --> 0:30:26.160
<v Speaker 1>deep friendships in your twenties and thirties as an adult.

0:30:26.720 --> 0:30:28.760
<v Speaker 1>It's harder to meet someone that's on your level, and

0:30:28.800 --> 0:30:30.840
<v Speaker 1>it's harder to find the time to make those connections.

0:30:30.920 --> 0:30:33.280
<v Speaker 1>It's harder to find the time because you're an adult

0:30:33.440 --> 0:30:36.320
<v Speaker 1>and adults come with responsibility. Adults come with families, and

0:30:36.360 --> 0:30:39.160
<v Speaker 1>they come with more of a workload and more pressure

0:30:39.240 --> 0:30:41.280
<v Speaker 1>and more. I hate to say this, but really serious

0:30:41.320 --> 0:30:43.640
<v Speaker 1>things happening in people's lives as adults, like you're older,

0:30:43.960 --> 0:30:46.760
<v Speaker 1>your family's older people are passing away, Like, and I

0:30:46.840 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 1>know that sounds really serious, but like it's just different

0:30:50.560 --> 0:30:53.000
<v Speaker 1>when you're in your teens and your early twenties. Life's

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<v Speaker 1>different to twenties, thirties, forties. So I have often found

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<v Speaker 1>that that's probably why I have a small friendship group

0:30:58.440 --> 0:31:01.560
<v Speaker 1>like Keisha and you, Laura some of my closest friends.

0:31:01.920 --> 0:31:05.240
<v Speaker 1>And that's because we work together, because we are forced

0:31:05.320 --> 0:31:07.200
<v Speaker 1>to spend those time together. But a boy, don't look

0:31:07.200 --> 0:31:08.680
<v Speaker 1>at me like that. I'm sure you wem your weigh in.

0:31:08.640 --> 0:31:09.520
<v Speaker 3>As well, haha.

0:31:11.920 --> 0:31:14.000
<v Speaker 2>But also when you say we're forced to work together,

0:31:14.120 --> 0:31:16.720
<v Speaker 2>like we came together as friends, you made that sound

0:31:16.840 --> 0:31:18.040
<v Speaker 2>so grim only friends of you.

0:31:18.080 --> 0:31:19.440
<v Speaker 3>Because we're forced to spend time together.

0:31:19.440 --> 0:31:22.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't mean forced, but like we get to eight

0:31:22.360 --> 0:31:25.320
<v Speaker 1>hours a day together because we work together, So there's

0:31:25.360 --> 0:31:28.760
<v Speaker 1>no other relationship in my life that I have eight

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<v Speaker 1>hours at a time to spend with a person to

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<v Speaker 1>develop the relationship totally.

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<v Speaker 2>And also, like our situation is very unique because the

0:31:36.160 --> 0:31:39.600
<v Speaker 2>lines are so blurred because what we share as friends

0:31:39.840 --> 0:31:42.520
<v Speaker 2>became our work. So we talk about all the life

0:31:42.520 --> 0:31:44.200
<v Speaker 2>stuff and then that also is.

0:31:44.360 --> 0:31:45.040
<v Speaker 3>Part of our job.

0:31:45.080 --> 0:31:47.840
<v Speaker 2>So it's a very unique situation that most people wouldn't

0:31:47.880 --> 0:31:50.480
<v Speaker 2>have in their workplaces. I agree with you, Britt, I

0:31:50.520 --> 0:31:52.520
<v Speaker 2>think it is harder to be able to reach that

0:31:52.600 --> 0:31:54.880
<v Speaker 2>depth of friendship when you are a little bit older.

0:31:55.080 --> 0:31:57.040
<v Speaker 3>But I definitely don't think that that's impossible.

0:31:57.280 --> 0:31:59.640
<v Speaker 2>There are loads of people who you know, make new

0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:02.280
<v Speaker 2>friends in their twenties and in their thirties, and those friendships,

0:32:02.480 --> 0:32:05.480
<v Speaker 2>you know, our sole connections where they feel this, you know,

0:32:05.720 --> 0:32:07.560
<v Speaker 2>very very deep friendship with that person.

0:32:07.640 --> 0:32:08.840
<v Speaker 3>But you have to make time for it.

0:32:09.080 --> 0:32:10.560
<v Speaker 2>You have to make space for it, and has to

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<v Speaker 2>be somebody else who also is in a similar time

0:32:13.000 --> 0:32:15.760
<v Speaker 2>of life who can make time and space for you also.

0:32:16.360 --> 0:32:19.080
<v Speaker 2>And I guess, knowing that this is your priority, I

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<v Speaker 2>just think be gentle with yourself in terms of.

0:32:23.200 --> 0:32:23.520
<v Speaker 3>Thinking.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I look back on this relationship and I

0:32:25.880 --> 0:32:28.640
<v Speaker 2>think about our friendship that we had, and you're always

0:32:28.720 --> 0:32:30.960
<v Speaker 2>going to have fondness for it. And I say this

0:32:31.080 --> 0:32:34.480
<v Speaker 2>because it's from my own experience. One of my closest

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<v Speaker 2>friends all through school, all through my twenties, we're you know,

0:32:38.400 --> 0:32:41.400
<v Speaker 2>literally inseparable best friends. And I would have compared our

0:32:41.680 --> 0:32:44.280
<v Speaker 2>friendship to a romantic relationship in terms of like the

0:32:44.320 --> 0:32:47.440
<v Speaker 2>intensity of friendship. We spoke all the time, every day,

0:32:47.440 --> 0:32:50.920
<v Speaker 2>did everything together. We had a big friendship breakdown and

0:32:50.960 --> 0:32:54.120
<v Speaker 2>it was just before her wedding, and it really ended

0:32:54.240 --> 0:32:57.840
<v Speaker 2>quite terribly. I'm not sad that she's not a part

0:32:57.880 --> 0:32:59.760
<v Speaker 2>of my life anymore, because I think that in some

0:32:59.840 --> 0:33:03.120
<v Speaker 2>way ways it's easier. But I absolutely still think of

0:33:03.160 --> 0:33:05.720
<v Speaker 2>her in the same way that sometimes I reminisce on,

0:33:05.840 --> 0:33:08.480
<v Speaker 2>like you know, the really great things of ex relationships

0:33:08.480 --> 0:33:10.120
<v Speaker 2>that you think about and you go, I can't believe

0:33:10.160 --> 0:33:11.880
<v Speaker 2>that person was so important to my life and now

0:33:11.880 --> 0:33:13.920
<v Speaker 2>I never ever get to speak to them. And you

0:33:14.000 --> 0:33:16.880
<v Speaker 2>never know, maybe in time this person will come back

0:33:16.920 --> 0:33:19.200
<v Speaker 2>into your life and you will get another opportunity to

0:33:19.240 --> 0:33:23.280
<v Speaker 2>redo your friendships. Sometimes friendships just need breathing space, especially

0:33:23.320 --> 0:33:24.320
<v Speaker 2>if they turn toxic.

0:33:24.400 --> 0:33:26.640
<v Speaker 1>But also what you've said is really normal, just to

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<v Speaker 1>reiterate that like friendships are like relationships, they come and go,

0:33:30.200 --> 0:33:33.440
<v Speaker 1>and that cliche, Laura, you would have posted it in

0:33:33.520 --> 0:33:37.240
<v Speaker 1>your quotes era. Friendships are for a season, not a

0:33:37.280 --> 0:33:38.040
<v Speaker 1>reason like this all.

0:33:38.200 --> 0:33:40.680
<v Speaker 3>No, it's a season, a reason or a lifetime whatever.

0:33:40.960 --> 0:33:41.560
<v Speaker 1>Laura would know.

0:33:41.680 --> 0:33:44.000
<v Speaker 3>Probably Apple never falls fas f. No, it really is

0:33:44.040 --> 0:33:45.800
<v Speaker 3>a season water.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, first in best dress. So what you said earlier,

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<v Speaker 1>Laura is very important that when you are seeking out friendships,

0:33:56.840 --> 0:33:58.880
<v Speaker 1>it's not imperative and it's not the end of the world,

0:33:59.240 --> 0:34:01.200
<v Speaker 1>but it goes along way to make sure that the

0:34:01.200 --> 0:34:03.080
<v Speaker 1>people that you're hanging out with are in your stage

0:34:03.080 --> 0:34:04.920
<v Speaker 1>of life. Even when you think of like when you're

0:34:04.960 --> 0:34:07.280
<v Speaker 1>going out in a group of friends, you're all single,

0:34:07.320 --> 0:34:09.759
<v Speaker 1>you're partying, you're having fun, you have so much time

0:34:09.840 --> 0:34:11.920
<v Speaker 1>to catch up with each other, and then one of

0:34:11.920 --> 0:34:14.160
<v Speaker 1>them gets in a relationship and you realize it's not

0:34:14.800 --> 0:34:17.120
<v Speaker 1>so much harder. They're still around, but not as often

0:34:17.160 --> 0:34:19.480
<v Speaker 1>because their priorities have shifted. They're in a different stage.

0:34:19.560 --> 0:34:21.520
<v Speaker 1>So that's the one thing that I want people to

0:34:21.560 --> 0:34:24.080
<v Speaker 1>keep in mind when you're searching for friendships, because it's

0:34:24.080 --> 0:34:26.040
<v Speaker 1>a question we get a lot we might want to

0:34:26.080 --> 0:34:28.560
<v Speaker 1>have friendships in their twenties and thirties and they don't

0:34:28.600 --> 0:34:29.279
<v Speaker 1>know how to do it.

0:34:29.360 --> 0:34:31.120
<v Speaker 3>But that is like a key part.

0:34:31.280 --> 0:34:35.520
<v Speaker 2>But I do think most people, and I don't want

0:34:35.520 --> 0:34:36.920
<v Speaker 2>to say most because I want anyone who has an

0:34:36.920 --> 0:34:38.719
<v Speaker 2>experience this to feel left out, but a lot of

0:34:38.760 --> 0:34:43.320
<v Speaker 2>people do have a friendship or friendship throughout their lives

0:34:43.760 --> 0:34:46.680
<v Speaker 2>that are a different level to most friendships. There is

0:34:46.680 --> 0:34:50.320
<v Speaker 2>that intense friendship which is almost like they are your soulmate.

0:34:50.880 --> 0:34:53.160
<v Speaker 2>You speak to them all the time. And that's the

0:34:53.200 --> 0:34:55.399
<v Speaker 2>comparison I made where I'm talking about they almost feel

0:34:55.440 --> 0:34:58.960
<v Speaker 2>like a romantic relationship, but without the romance. I don't

0:34:59.040 --> 0:35:02.439
<v Speaker 2>think that those friendships with that level of intensity where

0:35:02.440 --> 0:35:05.480
<v Speaker 2>you're completely entwined in each other's lives can stay at

0:35:05.520 --> 0:35:10.279
<v Speaker 2>that level forever. I think that that eventually either something implodes,

0:35:10.640 --> 0:35:13.960
<v Speaker 2>something turns toxic, or you both move into different stages

0:35:14.000 --> 0:35:16.799
<v Speaker 2>of life and the friendship mellows in a way that

0:35:16.920 --> 0:35:20.360
<v Speaker 2>is more manageable, because you simply cannot maintain a friendship

0:35:20.360 --> 0:35:24.279
<v Speaker 2>of that intensity for forever without anything ever changing. And

0:35:24.320 --> 0:35:27.200
<v Speaker 2>I think often more often than not, it changes in

0:35:27.200 --> 0:35:29.640
<v Speaker 2>a healthy way in terms that you aren't like, you know,

0:35:29.719 --> 0:35:31.640
<v Speaker 2>part of the same DNA. You start to kind of

0:35:32.080 --> 0:35:34.439
<v Speaker 2>just have other things that are priorities in life, whether

0:35:34.480 --> 0:35:37.120
<v Speaker 2>that's new relationships, whether that's kids, whether it's work, whatever

0:35:37.120 --> 0:35:39.560
<v Speaker 2>that looks like for you. But often what can happen

0:35:39.560 --> 0:35:42.040
<v Speaker 2>in those types of friendships is that for one one person,

0:35:42.400 --> 0:35:45.120
<v Speaker 2>a new priority has popped up, the other person feels

0:35:45.160 --> 0:35:47.560
<v Speaker 2>deeply jealous and left out, and that causes a lot

0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:50.480
<v Speaker 2>of the toxicity as well. So I think it's a

0:35:50.600 --> 0:35:53.680
<v Speaker 2>very big thing around, like managing friendships, and friendships is

0:35:53.680 --> 0:35:56.040
<v Speaker 2>such an important relationship that we have in our life,

0:35:56.400 --> 0:35:59.239
<v Speaker 2>but we don't have anywhere near as many tools to

0:35:59.280 --> 0:36:02.080
<v Speaker 2>manage them as what we do romantic relationships, and they

0:36:02.080 --> 0:36:05.200
<v Speaker 2>get so little airtime. The only other thing I want

0:36:05.239 --> 0:36:06.880
<v Speaker 2>to add to this is you asked how do you

0:36:06.920 --> 0:36:10.600
<v Speaker 2>make new friends as an adult? We've spoken about these loads.

0:36:10.640 --> 0:36:13.160
<v Speaker 2>We've spoken about, you know, do new things, trying new hobbies,

0:36:13.239 --> 0:36:17.239
<v Speaker 2>go do sport, like those types of obvious things that

0:36:17.280 --> 0:36:20.200
<v Speaker 2>you can do. Recently, we interviewed Ali Walker on an

0:36:20.200 --> 0:36:22.520
<v Speaker 2>episode on Loneliness and we spoke about this idea of

0:36:22.560 --> 0:36:24.759
<v Speaker 2>friendship and like how do people make friends in their

0:36:24.760 --> 0:36:28.440
<v Speaker 2>twenties and their thirties, And she even commented on often

0:36:28.480 --> 0:36:30.600
<v Speaker 2>the advice is things I do a new sport, open

0:36:30.680 --> 0:36:33.680
<v Speaker 2>up your circle in order to make new connections. But

0:36:33.760 --> 0:36:37.160
<v Speaker 2>one thing she mentioned, which I think often gets forgotten,

0:36:37.200 --> 0:36:39.600
<v Speaker 2>and it was such a great point, is the repetition

0:36:40.160 --> 0:36:42.760
<v Speaker 2>showing up at the same time doing the same things,

0:36:42.880 --> 0:36:44.960
<v Speaker 2>so that way you can build those networks. So say

0:36:44.960 --> 0:36:46.839
<v Speaker 2>it is that you're doing a sport, but you're doing

0:36:46.840 --> 0:36:48.759
<v Speaker 2>it with the same team, you're doing it on the

0:36:48.800 --> 0:36:51.480
<v Speaker 2>same day. Because often you might go, Okay, I'll join

0:36:51.520 --> 0:36:53.239
<v Speaker 2>a gym class, but then the people who are in

0:36:53.280 --> 0:36:56.000
<v Speaker 2>that gym class are transient. So it's making sure that

0:36:56.080 --> 0:36:58.719
<v Speaker 2>you are doing the same thing where you're being exposed

0:36:58.719 --> 0:37:02.120
<v Speaker 2>to the same people, and it's over time that gives

0:37:02.120 --> 0:37:04.680
<v Speaker 2>you the opportunity to build those deeper connections and to

0:37:04.840 --> 0:37:07.920
<v Speaker 2>really figure out who you have a connection with and

0:37:08.000 --> 0:37:08.600
<v Speaker 2>chemistry with.

0:37:09.040 --> 0:37:12.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, next question. This was a long one. I think

0:37:12.640 --> 0:37:14.440
<v Speaker 1>it's a good one, and I'm just gonna like summarize

0:37:14.440 --> 0:37:15.720
<v Speaker 1>it into a nice little package.

0:37:15.840 --> 0:37:19.319
<v Speaker 2>Very short, sharp, cute, sexy, surmise, surmize it.

0:37:19.480 --> 0:37:24.440
<v Speaker 1>Surmise somehow us So long story short, This girl and

0:37:24.480 --> 0:37:27.000
<v Speaker 1>this boy have men and woman have been together for

0:37:26.560 --> 0:37:31.520
<v Speaker 1>a little while. His sex drive has been declining. She

0:37:31.640 --> 0:37:35.960
<v Speaker 1>has noticed, and she's also noticed that on his explore

0:37:36.040 --> 0:37:38.960
<v Speaker 1>page on his Instagram it was just like shock, a

0:37:39.040 --> 0:37:45.000
<v Speaker 1>block of bikini's half nude, you know, g strings, very

0:37:45.200 --> 0:37:47.000
<v Speaker 1>sexy page and like just.

0:37:47.040 --> 0:37:49.439
<v Speaker 3>Use pornhub, why the fuck use instagrams?

0:37:49.440 --> 0:37:52.479
<v Speaker 1>Well, she has said, it's obviously the Explore page gives

0:37:52.480 --> 0:37:54.120
<v Speaker 1>you what you look at, right, So she's like, I've

0:37:54.120 --> 0:37:55.880
<v Speaker 1>seen a page of all this sexy shit. I know

0:37:55.960 --> 0:37:57.920
<v Speaker 1>that obviously that's what it's feeding him, because that's what

0:37:57.960 --> 0:38:01.040
<v Speaker 1>he's looking at. So she asked him straight up and

0:38:01.080 --> 0:38:05.560
<v Speaker 1>he admitted that he jacks off to Instagram models. I

0:38:05.560 --> 0:38:08.399
<v Speaker 1>guess sometimes it models chicks in bikinis on Instagram. That's

0:38:08.400 --> 0:38:09.800
<v Speaker 1>what he is jacking off to.

0:38:10.000 --> 0:38:10.720
<v Speaker 3>Oh yuck.

0:38:11.160 --> 0:38:13.360
<v Speaker 1>Now, she wants to know if this is a problem

0:38:13.440 --> 0:38:16.799
<v Speaker 1>or if she's overreacting. I have thoughts and feelings, but

0:38:16.920 --> 0:38:18.000
<v Speaker 1>you can hear me first, Laura.

0:38:18.239 --> 0:38:20.080
<v Speaker 2>I think if it's a problem to you, it's a problem.

0:38:20.160 --> 0:38:22.440
<v Speaker 2>If it's affecting your relationship, it's a problem. If it

0:38:22.440 --> 0:38:25.160
<v Speaker 2>makes you feel insecure, it's a problem. Like all of

0:38:25.200 --> 0:38:28.400
<v Speaker 2>those things. To me, feel like, yes, it's a problem.

0:38:28.719 --> 0:38:31.920
<v Speaker 2>My thing with Instagram and the reason why I have

0:38:32.120 --> 0:38:34.839
<v Speaker 2>way more of an issue with my partner jacking off

0:38:34.840 --> 0:38:37.879
<v Speaker 2>to chicks on Instagram than I do to them doing

0:38:37.920 --> 0:38:39.600
<v Speaker 2>it for porn for example.

0:38:39.920 --> 0:38:40.759
<v Speaker 3>And we've spoken about this.

0:38:40.800 --> 0:38:42.680
<v Speaker 2>I know some people are not comfortable with porn and

0:38:42.680 --> 0:38:44.200
<v Speaker 2>they don't want their partners to use it at all,

0:38:44.600 --> 0:38:47.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't mind. I feel differently about porn because I

0:38:47.400 --> 0:38:49.520
<v Speaker 2>feel like it's purpose built for that. The people who

0:38:49.560 --> 0:38:52.000
<v Speaker 2>are on there know that that's what people are doing

0:38:52.040 --> 0:38:55.239
<v Speaker 2>with that content. I also feel like the people like

0:38:55.320 --> 0:38:59.880
<v Speaker 2>it's exactly that it's purpose built. On Instagram, it's different

0:39:00.239 --> 0:39:02.680
<v Speaker 2>for a couple of reasons. One, it feels exploitive of

0:39:02.680 --> 0:39:04.919
<v Speaker 2>the women who are on Instagram, the fact that there's

0:39:05.120 --> 0:39:07.520
<v Speaker 2>some Dudeeney's bedroom jack and off, which that wasn't the

0:39:07.520 --> 0:39:08.640
<v Speaker 2>purpose of it being posted.

0:39:08.840 --> 0:39:10.319
<v Speaker 3>But the other part of this is, and.

0:39:10.280 --> 0:39:12.759
<v Speaker 2>The thing that I think is the bigger issue, is

0:39:12.760 --> 0:39:17.920
<v Speaker 2>that women on Instagram, especially like influencers, girls in bikinis, whatever,

0:39:18.480 --> 0:39:20.839
<v Speaker 2>they are also accessible people, do you know what I mean?

0:39:20.920 --> 0:39:22.880
<v Speaker 2>And actually maybe that's not the bigger issue, but it's

0:39:22.880 --> 0:39:24.400
<v Speaker 2>something that would make me feel insecure.

0:39:24.800 --> 0:39:26.440
<v Speaker 3>They're accessible people, you know.

0:39:26.600 --> 0:39:28.759
<v Speaker 2>And I remember a girlfriend of mine telling me that

0:39:28.880 --> 0:39:32.680
<v Speaker 2>her boyfriend was really like looking at this one girl's

0:39:32.680 --> 0:39:35.120
<v Speaker 2>Instagram a lot, and she was an influencer and she's like,

0:39:35.120 --> 0:39:36.480
<v Speaker 2>but the reason why I have an issue with this

0:39:36.520 --> 0:39:38.879
<v Speaker 2>is because she lives in the same suburb. Like we've

0:39:38.920 --> 0:39:42.560
<v Speaker 2>seen her at the beach. She's not this like unattainable.

0:39:42.640 --> 0:39:45.600
<v Speaker 2>You know, angela white person on YouTube or on porn

0:39:45.640 --> 0:39:49.080
<v Speaker 2>or whatever. She's like, this is someone who is accessible

0:39:49.120 --> 0:39:51.120
<v Speaker 2>to him. And so it feels weird to me that

0:39:51.120 --> 0:39:52.279
<v Speaker 2>that's where he shooting me.

0:39:52.280 --> 0:39:53.360
<v Speaker 3>Shot hah literally.

0:39:53.760 --> 0:39:56.480
<v Speaker 2>But also I think in general, and this goes beyond Instagram,

0:39:57.000 --> 0:40:00.000
<v Speaker 2>if someone is masturbating so much, that's causing an issue

0:40:00.080 --> 0:40:03.360
<v Speaker 2>you in your sex life, in your relationship, regardless of

0:40:03.360 --> 0:40:06.280
<v Speaker 2>what the content is. That is a reason to be upset.

0:40:06.400 --> 0:40:10.680
<v Speaker 2>It's impacting your relationship. And how did he respond when

0:40:10.719 --> 0:40:12.560
<v Speaker 2>you said that you were upset? You know, when you

0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:14.680
<v Speaker 2>said that this is something that hurts me, and you're like,

0:40:14.719 --> 0:40:17.080
<v Speaker 2>am I overreacting? He first lied about it, Okay, did

0:40:17.080 --> 0:40:18.640
<v Speaker 2>he make you feel like you were overreacting?

0:40:18.680 --> 0:40:19.600
<v Speaker 3>Did he gaslight you?

0:40:19.880 --> 0:40:22.759
<v Speaker 2>Here's response and the way that he deals with that

0:40:22.840 --> 0:40:25.480
<v Speaker 2>information and deals with your feelings of hurt says a

0:40:25.520 --> 0:40:27.759
<v Speaker 2>lot about him, more so than it says about your

0:40:27.760 --> 0:40:28.800
<v Speaker 2>reaction to the situation.

0:40:29.040 --> 0:40:31.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And so some extra information there. They're twenty five

0:40:31.560 --> 0:40:34.279
<v Speaker 1>and twenty seven. They both still live at their respective

0:40:34.520 --> 0:40:37.160
<v Speaker 1>family homes. They're going to move out next year, but

0:40:37.400 --> 0:40:40.799
<v Speaker 1>she said she only tries to initiate sex as it

0:40:41.040 --> 0:40:45.120
<v Speaker 1>is once a week, because that's just their situation, and

0:40:45.200 --> 0:40:48.680
<v Speaker 1>it's still a problem. So one hundred percent, the problem

0:40:48.800 --> 0:40:51.400
<v Speaker 1>isn't even just that it's Instagram women. The problem is

0:40:51.920 --> 0:40:56.959
<v Speaker 1>that he is preferring and prioritizing masturbation through the week

0:40:57.120 --> 0:41:00.480
<v Speaker 1>to things that are on a screen as a posed

0:41:00.560 --> 0:41:03.640
<v Speaker 1>to putting that effort and time and energy into relation

0:41:03.719 --> 0:41:08.640
<v Speaker 1>and come into your relationship, into you. Yeah, so that

0:41:08.840 --> 0:41:12.000
<v Speaker 1>is the issue here. I don't have a problem with

0:41:12.160 --> 0:41:15.239
<v Speaker 1>my partner masturbating at all. I mean, even if I

0:41:15.280 --> 0:41:16.960
<v Speaker 1>lived with him, right, Like, I know, I'm in a

0:41:17.000 --> 0:41:19.279
<v Speaker 1>long distance relationship, so it's different. I don't have a

0:41:19.320 --> 0:41:21.120
<v Speaker 1>problem with him doing that. He's going to need to

0:41:21.160 --> 0:41:23.600
<v Speaker 1>do that. But even if I lived with them, I

0:41:23.600 --> 0:41:25.400
<v Speaker 1>don't have a problem if they want to do that,

0:41:25.440 --> 0:41:28.440
<v Speaker 1>if it doesn't affect our relationship, Like I don't even

0:41:28.480 --> 0:41:30.160
<v Speaker 1>want to know about it, to be honest, I don't care.

0:41:30.360 --> 0:41:32.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, as long as I still feel like I'm

0:41:32.760 --> 0:41:37.200
<v Speaker 1>getting what I need and that intimacy and the chemistry and.

0:41:37.040 --> 0:41:40.160
<v Speaker 2>The excitement or whatever is still there.

0:41:40.200 --> 0:41:42.520
<v Speaker 1>But when you're not living together in your relationship and

0:41:42.520 --> 0:41:44.839
<v Speaker 1>you're only seeing each other once a week, if they

0:41:44.840 --> 0:41:47.560
<v Speaker 1>are still not wanting to have sex and you do

0:41:47.600 --> 0:41:50.480
<v Speaker 1>want to have sex, then that is the problem. He

0:41:50.600 --> 0:41:53.759
<v Speaker 1>is not meeting your needs and you need to figure

0:41:53.760 --> 0:41:56.239
<v Speaker 1>out why is he not meeting your needs because he's

0:41:56.280 --> 0:41:58.440
<v Speaker 1>masturbating too much, or is he not meeting your needs

0:41:58.480 --> 0:42:01.680
<v Speaker 1>for a different reason. You guys are not connecting on

0:42:01.760 --> 0:42:04.640
<v Speaker 1>some level. Has he got other things going on? Because

0:42:04.640 --> 0:42:07.200
<v Speaker 1>it might not be like men can masturbate and still

0:42:07.200 --> 0:42:09.879
<v Speaker 1>have sex. One doesn't have to cancel out the other.

0:42:10.560 --> 0:42:12.800
<v Speaker 1>So I would be trying to find out the exact

0:42:12.880 --> 0:42:15.440
<v Speaker 1>reason why he feels like he doesn't want to be

0:42:15.600 --> 0:42:16.520
<v Speaker 1>with you in that moment.

0:42:16.600 --> 0:42:18.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm so glad you said that, Britt, because there's

0:42:18.360 --> 0:42:20.319
<v Speaker 2>definitely a few ways to split this question. I think

0:42:20.360 --> 0:42:22.560
<v Speaker 2>the very obvious place to go to, and it's where

0:42:22.719 --> 0:42:26.279
<v Speaker 2>everyone kind of thinks originally, is like, oh, well, he's

0:42:26.320 --> 0:42:28.359
<v Speaker 2>looking at these girls on Instagram. He's a bad guy,

0:42:28.440 --> 0:42:30.680
<v Speaker 2>and therefore it's affecting your relationship and he's not having

0:42:30.719 --> 0:42:32.960
<v Speaker 2>sex with you, And it's just that he is the

0:42:32.960 --> 0:42:36.000
<v Speaker 2>problem and the Instagram's the problem. There may be other

0:42:36.000 --> 0:42:39.000
<v Speaker 2>bigger issues in your relationship, and yes, he is going

0:42:39.040 --> 0:42:41.719
<v Speaker 2>to Instagram and looking at models in order to pleasures

0:42:41.760 --> 0:42:44.040
<v Speaker 2>and does But no, everyone doesn't necessarily do that. But

0:42:44.040 --> 0:42:46.440
<v Speaker 2>what I mean is is that that might not be

0:42:46.520 --> 0:42:49.839
<v Speaker 2>what the bigger issue is in your relationship and the intimacy.

0:42:49.880 --> 0:42:52.040
<v Speaker 2>It could be caused by him masturbating too much and

0:42:52.080 --> 0:42:53.960
<v Speaker 2>then not wanting to have sex with you, but there

0:42:54.000 --> 0:42:57.040
<v Speaker 2>also could be something else that's the reason why he's

0:42:57.080 --> 0:43:00.000
<v Speaker 2>not wanting to. So it's really having some very important

0:43:00.080 --> 0:43:03.239
<v Speaker 2>conversations around why is his sex strive so low when

0:43:03.280 --> 0:43:06.239
<v Speaker 2>it comes to being with you verse why does he

0:43:06.280 --> 0:43:09.799
<v Speaker 2>feel as though he wants to prioritize pleasuring himself rather

0:43:09.840 --> 0:43:12.759
<v Speaker 2>than prioritizing your relationship. There are big questions, and there

0:43:12.800 --> 0:43:15.840
<v Speaker 2>could be very different reasons to the ones that seem

0:43:15.880 --> 0:43:18.120
<v Speaker 2>so obvious to us at the moment. But just going

0:43:18.160 --> 0:43:20.760
<v Speaker 2>back to this idea of like dating a guy who

0:43:21.120 --> 0:43:24.759
<v Speaker 2>uses Instagram as a channel for following hot chicks. It's

0:43:24.840 --> 0:43:27.399
<v Speaker 2>pretty juvenile and it feels pretty gross, Like if that's

0:43:27.440 --> 0:43:28.480
<v Speaker 2>his only if that's his.

0:43:28.600 --> 0:43:31.400
<v Speaker 3>Entire explore page is chicks in bikinis.

0:43:31.400 --> 0:43:33.440
<v Speaker 1>I would want to yours, open yours right now.

0:43:33.440 --> 0:43:35.480
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, it's one hundred percent plants. It is

0:43:35.640 --> 0:43:39.959
<v Speaker 2>so many plants. But if that's his entire, entire Instagram feed.

0:43:40.120 --> 0:43:42.840
<v Speaker 2>Is that Instagram algorithm is saying, Oh, this guy just

0:43:42.880 --> 0:43:45.440
<v Speaker 2>wants to look at chicks in bikinis. I would feel

0:43:45.440 --> 0:43:48.440
<v Speaker 2>like that really sort of shows the quality of the person,

0:43:48.560 --> 0:43:51.120
<v Speaker 2>like that, that's what he is on his mind, that's

0:43:51.120 --> 0:43:53.560
<v Speaker 2>what his interests are, and it would make me question

0:43:53.760 --> 0:43:56.520
<v Speaker 2>him as you know, as a whole. So and I

0:43:56.520 --> 0:43:57.920
<v Speaker 2>don't want to go too deep because we know, at

0:43:57.920 --> 0:44:00.040
<v Speaker 2>the end of the day is just Instagram. But but

0:44:00.120 --> 0:44:02.719
<v Speaker 2>it is not normal for your partner's Instagram to be

0:44:03.080 --> 0:44:05.040
<v Speaker 2>ninety percent chicks in long bikinis.

0:44:05.160 --> 0:44:06.239
<v Speaker 3>It's just not I.

0:44:06.200 --> 0:44:08.200
<v Speaker 1>Don't have one. I just opened my Explore page. I

0:44:08.200 --> 0:44:11.040
<v Speaker 1>didn't have one male on my explore page. My exploor

0:44:11.080 --> 0:44:14.600
<v Speaker 1>page is Taylor Swift, Margot, Robbie Fashion, a bit of

0:44:14.640 --> 0:44:15.960
<v Speaker 1>tennis and that's it.

0:44:16.880 --> 0:44:20.600
<v Speaker 2>Well, I okay, my Explore page is brit I'm not joking.

0:44:20.719 --> 0:44:27.640
<v Speaker 2>Plant plant, plant, plant, jewelry, plants, paintings, plants, more jewelry,

0:44:27.760 --> 0:44:31.800
<v Speaker 2>says a lot about us. More jewelry, more jewelry, self help.

0:44:32.200 --> 0:44:36.400
<v Speaker 2>One chicken a bikini and she's a mum, hold and

0:44:36.440 --> 0:44:38.560
<v Speaker 2>a baby. But the other thing I want to say

0:44:38.560 --> 0:44:40.840
<v Speaker 2>on this is that some people might think that this

0:44:40.920 --> 0:44:42.919
<v Speaker 2>is normal because it's normal to them, Like they open

0:44:42.960 --> 0:44:45.360
<v Speaker 2>their boyfriend's phone and it's just chicks in bikinis, and

0:44:45.400 --> 0:44:47.279
<v Speaker 2>that's become normal, and you think, oh, that's what all

0:44:47.280 --> 0:44:50.319
<v Speaker 2>guys phones are. Like I guarantee you that I open

0:44:50.440 --> 0:44:52.640
<v Speaker 2>Matt's phone and I look at his explore page and

0:44:52.719 --> 0:44:54.520
<v Speaker 2>there is hardly any.

0:44:54.560 --> 0:44:55.799
<v Speaker 3>Chicks in bikini. Let's do that.

0:44:55.920 --> 0:44:58.160
<v Speaker 1>Let's go and make Ben and Matt show us export page.

0:44:58.160 --> 0:44:59.359
<v Speaker 1>Take screenshot and see what it is.

0:44:59.560 --> 0:45:03.479
<v Speaker 2>Everyone and as Yeah, go and get your partner's phone

0:45:03.480 --> 0:45:05.600
<v Speaker 2>and look at their explore page, because it does give

0:45:05.600 --> 0:45:06.800
<v Speaker 2>you an indication.

0:45:06.719 --> 0:45:09.160
<v Speaker 1>We're starting fights over nothing. Don't do that, go and

0:45:09.200 --> 0:45:11.440
<v Speaker 1>fight your husband. It's not healthy. Don't do it.

0:45:11.680 --> 0:45:13.160
<v Speaker 3>Okay, Yeah, that's in produced.

0:45:13.320 --> 0:45:14.200
<v Speaker 1>She's looking at hers now.

0:45:14.360 --> 0:45:17.560
<v Speaker 2>She It is true, he can look up whatever he wants,

0:45:17.080 --> 0:45:19.480
<v Speaker 2>but I don't know. It does make me question if

0:45:19.480 --> 0:45:22.560
<v Speaker 2>you're using Instagram for that sole purpose of perving on

0:45:22.640 --> 0:45:25.120
<v Speaker 2>other chicks. For most people, there is a line as

0:45:25.120 --> 0:45:27.520
<v Speaker 2>to how appropriate versus inappropriate that is.

0:45:28.200 --> 0:45:30.359
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, I'm definitely happy for Ben to look

0:45:30.360 --> 0:45:32.440
<v Speaker 1>at chicks I think is healthy, because I know it

0:45:32.440 --> 0:45:34.799
<v Speaker 1>doesn't affect our relationship. Yeah, I'm never going to say

0:45:34.800 --> 0:45:37.640
<v Speaker 1>it like I follow hot dudes reading on trains. That's hot.

0:45:38.840 --> 0:45:40.040
<v Speaker 1>It's like my favorite page.

0:45:40.040 --> 0:45:41.720
<v Speaker 3>It's just it's just as.

0:45:42.040 --> 0:45:45.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's just a plethora of that's what it's masturbating to.

0:45:46.000 --> 0:45:47.520
<v Speaker 1>Yes, anyway, well that.

0:45:47.560 --> 0:45:48.840
<v Speaker 3>Is it from us, guys.

0:45:48.960 --> 0:45:52.320
<v Speaker 2>We've answered your questions for the very last time we

0:45:52.680 --> 0:45:54.840
<v Speaker 2>have it. Yes, you guys will still be answering questions,

0:45:54.880 --> 0:45:56.759
<v Speaker 2>but I am out of here. I'm heading into the

0:45:56.800 --> 0:45:59.000
<v Speaker 2>South African jungle for I'm a celebrity giving out of

0:45:59.000 --> 0:46:01.759
<v Speaker 2>here either, I know, I actually am.

0:46:02.040 --> 0:46:03.920
<v Speaker 3>I refuse to. I'll see you here on Monday.

0:46:04.719 --> 0:46:07.399
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you will see me, but on the TV, which

0:46:07.440 --> 0:46:09.080
<v Speaker 1>is so it's gonna be so weird. It's like the

0:46:09.120 --> 0:46:11.880
<v Speaker 1>Truman Show, right, like you're locked in a little bubble

0:46:11.920 --> 0:46:13.080
<v Speaker 1>and everyone just gets to watch on.

0:46:13.200 --> 0:46:15.160
<v Speaker 3>I can't wait for them to get some video of you.

0:46:15.280 --> 0:46:16.000
<v Speaker 3>Just like picking your.

0:46:15.880 --> 0:46:18.239
<v Speaker 1>Nose really grow you gonna wedgy out?

0:46:18.680 --> 0:46:20.600
<v Speaker 3>That's fine. Wedgies are fine, but nose picking is a

0:46:20.640 --> 0:46:21.080
<v Speaker 3>bit gross.

0:46:21.080 --> 0:46:22.919
<v Speaker 1>On National team, I have seen a lot of past

0:46:22.920 --> 0:46:24.960
<v Speaker 1>contestants pick their noses because you just live day to

0:46:25.040 --> 0:46:26.279
<v Speaker 1>day and like you get stuff up there. You've got

0:46:26.320 --> 0:46:27.759
<v Speaker 1>to get them out. You've got no tissues. I would

0:46:27.760 --> 0:46:28.160
<v Speaker 1>We're gonna do.

0:46:28.200 --> 0:46:30.600
<v Speaker 2>It because I have particularly block sinuses, but I'm always

0:46:30.600 --> 0:46:35.880
<v Speaker 2>picking my nose sponsor anyway, guys, that is it from us.

0:46:36.120 --> 0:46:38.040
<v Speaker 2>We will be reminding you. Keisha and I will be

0:46:38.080 --> 0:46:39.920
<v Speaker 2>taking over. We will be holding down the Fort White

0:46:39.920 --> 0:46:42.800
<v Speaker 2>Brits away, and we'll be reminding you to please vote

0:46:42.920 --> 0:46:44.600
<v Speaker 2>for our beloved Queen Brittany.

0:46:44.640 --> 0:46:46.160
<v Speaker 3>And even if you suck and you do not win,

0:46:46.239 --> 0:46:47.240
<v Speaker 3>you're still a queen toss.

0:46:47.080 --> 0:46:48.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeap, You're gonna be hearing a lot of jungle content. Well,

0:46:48.840 --> 0:46:51.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm gone please watch love you guys. I'm gonna miss

0:46:51.040 --> 0:46:52.600
<v Speaker 1>you all. I'm genuinely gonna miss you all so much.

0:46:52.600 --> 0:46:55.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna miss doing the podcast, but I'm gonna be

0:46:55.560 --> 0:46:57.320
<v Speaker 1>busy eating ship probably.

0:46:57.880 --> 0:47:00.080
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