WEBVTT - MOTIVATIONAL MOMENT: Prioritising time for yourself

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Sam Wood, and this is your motivational moment for

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<v Speaker 1>this week, and we are going to, funnily enough, take

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<v Speaker 1>some time for you to prioritize time for yourself. It

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<v Speaker 1>came to me while I was recently in Perth over

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<v Speaker 1>the school holidays. Now our mad family all went over there,

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<v Speaker 1>all six of us, so I wouldn't say it Sam

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<v Speaker 1>having a little solo holiday.

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<v Speaker 2>But what we did have.

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<v Speaker 1>Over there was Snazz's incredible, beautiful family. But what that

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<v Speaker 1>did was actually gave Snazz and I a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of time either together or even alone, where we could

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<v Speaker 1>hear ourselves think for perhaps the first time in a

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<v Speaker 1>long time. And it just made me, I guess, think

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<v Speaker 1>about the power and the value and the importance of

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<v Speaker 1>having that alone time. So I did a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of research into I guess what the benefits are in

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<v Speaker 1>having some alone time, because I do I do know

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<v Speaker 1>from speaking to my clients a lot of them are parents.

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<v Speaker 1>They often don't think that they have that time available

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<v Speaker 1>to them, or if they do provide it to themselves

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<v Speaker 1>or create it for themselves, there's often an element of

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<v Speaker 1>guilt there. So I did a little bit of digging

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<v Speaker 1>and there was one great article. I did find a few,

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<v Speaker 1>because there's one great article about the benefits of alone

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<v Speaker 1>time and how it actually improves drastically productivity.

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<v Speaker 2>It's exactly sort of as I thought.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, when I have my alone time, then when

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<v Speaker 1>I put the head down, I'm so much more productive

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<v Speaker 1>because I feel like I've organized my thoughts. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I almost feel like the walk I gave myself for

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<v Speaker 1>the little bit of reading time I gave myself for

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<v Speaker 1>the whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I sit in my sauna at home and just

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<v Speaker 1>do some breathing exercises, whatever it might be.

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<v Speaker 2>It's you know, it's fifteen minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking about it spending two hours by yourself

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<v Speaker 1>relaxing every single day. But when I do that, it's

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<v Speaker 1>almost like I metaphorically tidy my desk, and my desk

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<v Speaker 1>is my brain, if that's makes sense. And therefore, when

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<v Speaker 1>I do sit down to do some work, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>spend the first fifteen thirty forty five minutes fartassing around

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<v Speaker 1>to try and get stuff organized before I actually put

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<v Speaker 1>pen to paper or ideas down, because I've almost subconsciously

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<v Speaker 1>or inadvertently done that when I've had that.

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<v Speaker 2>Alone time earlier in the day, all the day before.

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<v Speaker 1>So the key message here is we often feel like

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<v Speaker 1>making time for ourselves. And I say making time rather

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<v Speaker 1>than finding time, because I do think you have to

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<v Speaker 1>make it, you have to actually be in charge of yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>So I do think that making time for ourselves is

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<v Speaker 1>often misconstrued as something that is going to reduce our productivity,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's time we could have spent doing something else

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<v Speaker 1>and we chose not to do it. We chose to

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<v Speaker 1>be alone or find a quiet space or whatever it

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<v Speaker 1>might be. And actually the research tells us it does

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<v Speaker 1>the opposite. So I think the first thing that I'd

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<v Speaker 1>love you to do or listening to me chat to

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<v Speaker 1>you now is really think about that and really importantly

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<v Speaker 1>accept that. You know, I speak to a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>mums about you can't pour from an empty cup. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>they're always trying to do things for other people, but

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<v Speaker 1>they never fill up their own cup, and therefore they're

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<v Speaker 1>always trying to pour from an empty cup, and as

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<v Speaker 1>soon as they're not doing that, they have this overwhelming

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<v Speaker 1>feeling of guilt that they should be doing something for

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<v Speaker 1>someone else. So giving yourself some time, some alone time,

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<v Speaker 1>some peace and quiet, some sanity, will actually help you

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<v Speaker 1>on the other end.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't detract, it adds.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that's the really important message that I

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<v Speaker 1>want you to accept my listener task for you. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you're realizing where I'm heading with this, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's really important. I want you, over the next four

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<v Speaker 1>weeks to map out when you're going to take some

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<v Speaker 1>time for yourself, and I want you to be specific,

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<v Speaker 1>what's the day, what's the time of day, and how

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<v Speaker 1>long it's going to be for and I want you

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<v Speaker 1>to program that in and I want you to stick

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<v Speaker 1>to it, and I want you to find at.

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<v Speaker 2>Least fifteen minutes five times a week.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, if you want to go for more, if you

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<v Speaker 1>want to go for thirty minutes seven days a week, great,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm trying to be as realistic as possible. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to make this as achievable for all of us

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<v Speaker 1>as possible.

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<v Speaker 2>And again, you can always lay you can always.

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<v Speaker 1>Add to these things later, but as a starting point,

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen minutes a day, at least five days a week,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're going to map that out over the next month,

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<v Speaker 1>over the next four weeks, and it's going to be

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<v Speaker 1>set in there in stone and I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>see this through. I'm going to check in with this

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<v Speaker 1>in four weeks time to see how you've gone