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Speaker 1: Jum mission with Jonesy and Amanda.

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Speaker 2: Little Miss Empty Nesta.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't felt it yet. I mean it hid

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Speaker 1: in different ways, won't it. As I said yesterday, a

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Speaker 1: friend of mine dropped his son at UNI and two

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Speaker 1: years later he decided that he was going to live

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Speaker 1: off campus. This is a newcastle and that's when that's

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Speaker 1: when she felt the empty nest. When he was at

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Speaker 1: university on campus, she felt that that was temporary somehow,

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Speaker 1: but she felt it so keenly. Then when he got

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Speaker 1: a proper accommodation, I'm still not sure how I feel.

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Speaker 1: I mean, Jack's touched our house so lightly and heavily

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Speaker 1: at the same time. Twel's on the floor, sushi everywhere,

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Speaker 1: were all stuff, stuff, staff and me struggling to get

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Speaker 1: him to fill out his forms to get to UNI, etc.

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Speaker 1: But on the other hand, he's lived such an independent

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Speaker 1: life that he's hardly been there. And that's since he's

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Speaker 1: finished his exams and pre UNI. He's out with his friends,

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Speaker 1: he's doing his own thing, goes to the gym, so

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Speaker 1: we haven't seen that much of him. But knowing that

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Speaker 1: we were the anchor mattered a lot to me. And

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Speaker 1: now he's living on campus at Sydney UNI, and I'm

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Speaker 1: still waiting to how it's going to detonate with me,

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Speaker 1: but a lot of people have and I've actually got

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Speaker 1: a text from a friend of mine this morning just saying,

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Speaker 1: remember our first day in Bathist She remembered. It brings

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Speaker 1: it all back of your own experience of leaving home

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Speaker 1: to go there, and when we look back at it,

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Speaker 1: we just see the thrill it was. But there were

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Speaker 1: nerves and all of that too, which I'm sure the

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Speaker 1: boys are all going through. I got a number of

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Speaker 1: beautiful emails from people saying that they're going through exactly

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Speaker 1: the same thing with their family. I'll just read one out.

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Speaker 1: This is from Matthew. Dear Amanda, yet again, you've had

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Speaker 1: me in tears this morning within a heartbeat. We are

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Speaker 1: the same age, and we have been living parallel lives,

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Speaker 1: it seems. On Sunday, the sixth of the second twenty two,

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Speaker 1: we too became empty nests when we dropped our daughter

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Speaker 1: number three at Uni College. It's the ultimate bittersweet irony.

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Speaker 1: We spend our lives hoping our children would be resilient,

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Speaker 1: outward looking, capable, generous, self motivated, and then they are

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Speaker 1: it's not emotion No.

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Speaker 2: It's just a have a little drippy of water. There

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Speaker 2: you go.

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Speaker 1: And as Matthew said, we wouldn't want it any other way,

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Speaker 1: excuse me. And of course when they are, when they

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Speaker 1: actually take off as they should, yeah, it's actually hard.

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Speaker 2: Do you want me to read that?

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Speaker 1: Let me read that, not emotional like she did.

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Speaker 2: Where are we up to again?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 2: No, I want to start again. Blah blah blah blah,

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Speaker 2: outward looking capable of generous, self motivated, and they are.

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Speaker 2: We wouldn't want it any other way, of course. But

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Speaker 2: when they actually take off as they should, it actually

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Speaker 2: actually genuinely, heartbreakingly and sadly a reminder of our own

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Speaker 2: undeniable aging.

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Speaker 1: Isn't that the thing? Because it pushes you into a

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Speaker 1: new stage of your life.

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Speaker 2: My lot has been made even more stark by my

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Speaker 2: military wife heading off on a two year deployment next week.

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Speaker 1: Imagine that.

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Speaker 2: So, if you want to commiserate with a truly fellow

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Speaker 2: empty nest over some bubbles, let me know old matt

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Speaker 2: his daughter's gone and.

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Speaker 1: Wife's gone, got the house to himself. You look at you,

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Speaker 1: you're envious. WHOA, But don't you have to confront your

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Speaker 1: own aging and your own who am I now? Who

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Speaker 1: are Harley and I now? What is? What is our future?

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Speaker 2: What happened?

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Speaker 1: And their lives are just getting bigger as ours, appropriately,

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Speaker 1: I guess get smaller. Well, you, your life stays still

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Speaker 1: while they have this giant adventure and that's as it

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Speaker 1: should be, but it does come with its emotion.

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Speaker 2: Maybe should take up water skiing or something, do something extreme?

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Speaker 1: Do you think do you think I should take up

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Speaker 1: you know, that crazy extreme powerlifting and become one of

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Speaker 1: those women.

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Speaker 2: That you see on the internet. Maybe I lifting up

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Speaker 2: an F one hundred.

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Speaker 1: All right, I could do that. Look at that old lady,

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Speaker 1: they'd say, and I'd be so proud. And Amanda's