Speaker 1: I'm Sam Wood, and this is your motivational moment for
Speaker 1: this week, and we are going to refine our inner
Speaker 1: circle for success. This motivational moment came from reading a
Speaker 1: quote you are the average of the five people you
Speaker 1: surround yourself with. So I've done a little bit of
Speaker 1: digging into this further, and I don't think any of
Speaker 1: us would deny that our inner circle has an enormous
Speaker 1: influence over our perspective and what we achieve in life.
Speaker 1: So it's crucial that this group of people. If you're
Speaker 1: trying to better yourself, or you're trying to get somewhere
Speaker 1: in work or wellness or whatever it might be, that
Speaker 1: you surround yourself with the right people. So the people
Speaker 1: that you want to be surrounding yourself with fall into
Speaker 1: these three categories. They're either a mentor so that could
Speaker 1: be a person that's doing what you want to achieve,
Speaker 1: but they're one or two steps ahead, they've maybe already
Speaker 1: mastered it, and there's someone that can teach you that
Speaker 1: you can learn from. They're a cheerleader, so there's someone
Speaker 1: there to support you and celebrate your wins, and I
Speaker 1: mean genuinely celebrate your wins, not sort of in that
Speaker 1: fake way where they're giving you different feedback to your
Speaker 1: face than perhaps they are behind your back. And the realist,
Speaker 1: the truth teller, the person you know will tell you
Speaker 1: how it is when you need to have a hard
Speaker 1: honest truth or a hard honest moment. So I've got mentors,
Speaker 1: cheerleaders and realists. Get those people in your group, the
Speaker 1: people that you don't necessarily want in your inner circle.
Speaker 1: And actually I'm going to go stronger, the people you
Speaker 1: don't want anywhere near your in a circle. We've got
Speaker 1: negative nancies. Sorry, Nancy. You know these people. They're the
Speaker 1: people that put a negative spin on everything. It might
Speaker 1: be their life, it might be your life. I find
Speaker 1: these people are often playing the blame. They're not inspiring,
Speaker 1: and the impact they have is you start to question
Speaker 1: your own abilities by hanging out with these people. And
Speaker 1: the next one is the one upper. No matter how
Speaker 1: much good stuff is happening in our life, they have
Speaker 1: to one up you. No matter what little life milestone
Speaker 1: you would like to celebrate, you would like to share
Speaker 1: because you're proud of yourself, they very quickly squash that
Speaker 1: down or chop that down by changing the conversation to
Speaker 1: be about them and making what you thought was a
Speaker 1: wonderful achievement feel very small because they have to one
Speaker 1: up you in every situation that occurs. And then we've
Speaker 1: got the saboteur. So you sort of have to keep
Speaker 1: a wide eye for these people because they're not always
Speaker 1: obvious that they're sneaking into your circle. But these people,
Speaker 1: they can do little or big things to sabotage your progress.
Speaker 1: So you're starting to make progress, you're starting to make change,
Speaker 1: starting to feel good, and they just find a way.
Speaker 1: They seem to have a way of bringing you down
Speaker 1: on purpose. They might even stand in the way of
Speaker 1: your success. And it's kind of natural that these people
Speaker 1: come out of the woodwork, because I've sort of said
Speaker 1: this before in this podcast. I think, but I often
Speaker 1: think people want you to do well until you do.
Speaker 1: I think, you know, often people stand behind you and
Speaker 1: they good on you for having a go, and you
Speaker 1: should be so proud of yourself. And then you reach
Speaker 1: a point of success and those people no longer have
Speaker 1: the same attitude. You know, resentment and jealousy and all
Speaker 1: these other sort of natural human emotions sort of creep in.
Speaker 1: But I see it all the time. I see it.
Speaker 1: With fitness, people often feel like it's easier to bring
Speaker 1: someone else down than to bring themselves up. Rather than
Speaker 1: me get myself off the couch and get myself moving,
Speaker 1: I'll try and take that person to the pub and
Speaker 1: sabotage their weight loss journey, you know, sort of put
Speaker 1: a spin on it. It's like, oh, you never catch
Speaker 1: up with this anymore, and you're not social anymore. But
Speaker 1: the reality is they're really just trying to bring you
Speaker 1: back down to their level rather than the alternative is
Speaker 1: they have to come up to your new level, which
Speaker 1: is much harder for them to do. So it's time
Speaker 1: to do a little bit of really honest reflecting on
Speaker 1: who our inner circle is and which of these six
Speaker 1: categories they fit in, and if they're fitting into the
Speaker 1: wrong three categories, you got to boot them out. That
Speaker 1: doesn't mean you remove them from your life altogether. But
Speaker 1: if you are really on a mission to go somewhere
Speaker 1: next year or whatever, it might be, what a perfect
Speaker 1: moment for you to identify who the helpers are and
Speaker 1: who the Hinduas are and surround yourself with the helpers
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty three and spend less time or less
Speaker 1: time in particular moments, particular places, particular environments, with those that,
Speaker 1: when you really think about it, don't necessarily want the
Speaker 1: best for you or won't necessarily contribute to the best
Speaker 1: for you. Happening in twenty twenty three. So as always
Speaker 1: now says homework. Your task for this week is this.
Speaker 1: I want you to reflect. Now I've said the five
Speaker 1: people you surround yourself with. So have a look at
Speaker 1: your inner circle. Write a little list down of who
Speaker 1: are your mentors, your cheerleaders, your realists. Surround yourself with
Speaker 1: those people and distance yourself from the negative nancies, the
Speaker 1: one uppers, and the saboteurs.