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Speaker 3: Hey, everybody, it's time for Chauncey and Amanda's cutting room

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Speaker 3: for day. Yeah yeah, Chahnsey and Amanda's cutting room for.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah.

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Speaker 3: Cutting room floor? Hey, Hey, hey, you ready for more?

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Speaker 3: Get ready? Everybody? Here is some more of Chauncey and

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Speaker 3: Amanda's cutting room floor.

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Speaker 2: On the cutting room floor today. Do you like latest

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Speaker 2: gen z dating terms?

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Speaker 1: Is this the shrekking? We spoke about shrekking shreds where

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Speaker 1: women apparently are dating someone who is below their normal standards,

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Speaker 1: like a Shrek yep, not just in looks, but maybe financially,

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Speaker 1: job prospects, et cetera, because they feel that that gives

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Speaker 1: them the upper hand and it widens the dating pool.

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Speaker 1: Is that what this is?

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Speaker 2: No, this is called cushioning. Cushioning is ghostings, evil cousin?

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Speaker 1: How does it work?

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Speaker 2: What happens is you keep someone on the back burner there,

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Speaker 2: little miss back burner, in case you don't find anyone else.

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Speaker 1: But then, why isn't that called back burning? Why is

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Speaker 1: it cushioning?

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Speaker 2: There should be back burnings, be back plating, you know

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Speaker 2: the hot plate.

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Speaker 1: It when you look at you your stove and you've

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Speaker 1: got your favorite one and that's okay.

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Speaker 2: So what there's always one burner that you go, I

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Speaker 2: don't like that one. It doesn't get hot enough, or

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Speaker 2: it's too small, yeah, or it blows out of the

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Speaker 2: if it's gas, and if it's electric, there's some sort

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Speaker 2: of dodginess with it.

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Speaker 1: So cushioning is that because they're a safe cushion to

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Speaker 1: land on if you don't get something more interesting.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's being someone's cushion usually means you're just being

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Speaker 2: strung along. You are planed B. You're not a priority.

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Speaker 1: So this is one of those things where you might

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Speaker 1: say to somebody, or maybe you only say it in

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Speaker 1: your head, if I've ever met someone else in ten years,

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Speaker 1: we'll do it. We'll do it.

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Speaker 2: It'll happen, and that happens to most people in life.

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Speaker 2: When when you look at it, if.

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Speaker 1: You do, you think people a lot of people end

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Speaker 1: up marrying their plan B.

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Speaker 2: That's a good question. I think when you're younger, you're

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Speaker 2: less discerning. As you get older, you become more discerning,

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Speaker 2: and that's the problem. You know, and if you're in

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Speaker 2: a relationship, as we have been for a long long time,

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Speaker 2: you and me, Well, you want to see other people?

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Speaker 2: Do you to other time calls?

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Speaker 1: I can smell someone else's time calls on your breath.

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Speaker 2: You you want to do the weather with someone else?

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Speaker 2: I see what's happened here.

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Speaker 1: Oh so all you think I do on this show

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Speaker 1: is the weather. I'm breaking up with you.

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Speaker 2: I was hoping we could bring in another you know,

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Speaker 2: another girl, perhaps.

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Speaker 1: Oh it's always a girl. No, why don't we bring

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Speaker 1: in another guy and see how you go? Well, that's

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Speaker 1: the big guy's fair to size about threesomes. Let's get

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Speaker 1: another guy in.

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Speaker 2: I can sit in the car and just watch you

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Speaker 2: two talk.

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Speaker 1: You've been in the cup chair over the side. All

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Speaker 1: this modern lingo I only learned last week.

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Speaker 2: But it it's curious with that. As you get older,

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Speaker 2: you become more discerning. And that's why a lot of

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Speaker 2: people have to long term marriages and stuff find it

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Speaker 2: hard to find another partner.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, And I think when you're younger, also a lot

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Speaker 1: of couple kind of drift along because you might be flatmates,

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Speaker 1: then you might end up being partners and you don't

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Speaker 1: make necessarily the big decision to be together. You just

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Speaker 1: drift along, whereas if you've been in a relationship that's

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Speaker 1: ended and you're single, it'd be very hard to leap

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Speaker 1: into something. Yeah, because true drifting along in one thing

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Speaker 1: is one thing, leaping into somethings another.

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Speaker 2: So cushioning can join all the other dating.

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Speaker 1: Terms, like what we heard about shreking shrekking benching? What's that?

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Speaker 2: Which is similar to cushioning and benches involves are keeping

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Speaker 2: someone as a backup while you explore other potential partners,

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Speaker 2: And that's kind of friends with benefits really well.

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Speaker 1: Only if you both know that that's what it is.

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Speaker 1: If one of you thinks it's a proper relationship and

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Speaker 1: you have aspirations and the other ones is going, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Helen did with you when you got together.

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Speaker 2: I think we're still friends with benefits, but there's no

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Speaker 2: benefits and not always friends.

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Speaker 1: That's it.

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Speaker 3: They come back tomorrow. Flare of Johncey and a van desk,

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Speaker 3: caute floor