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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, I wish I could just give you

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<v Speaker 3>an insight into the nonsense that's happening behind the curtains,

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<v Speaker 3>but unfortunately we don't get paid enough to share personal details.

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<v Speaker 1>How about a tidbit here and there, maybe once away.

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<v Speaker 3>The only way you can get in to this private

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<v Speaker 3>dramas to become our podcast producer.

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<v Speaker 2>That's one or to or to oh yeah, take yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Also, oh my god, we're the worst host ever. We

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<v Speaker 1>didn't say happy birthday to Mickey yesterday on the podcast

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<v Speaker 1>in Troy.

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<v Speaker 3>Michayla's birthday though, don't play her like birthday week our

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<v Speaker 3>favorite cancer.

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<v Speaker 1>Barbie on Monday night. Yeah, we went together on Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 1>We won't invited, but okay, do you want to pay

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<v Speaker 1>up with my whole family?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean again, we weren't invited, so it's a little

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<v Speaker 3>late to usk, but thank you? And what do you

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<v Speaker 3>want for your birthday? Aside from world piece?

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<v Speaker 1>I actually wouldn't mind jewry MAJORI or like Pandora post design,

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<v Speaker 1>little trunky bracelet. Here we go, Flex Andros Flex and

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<v Speaker 1>Frooms For.

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<v Speaker 3>Someone who considers herself to be quite social in my

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<v Speaker 3>own little way, I do have quite a few anti

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<v Speaker 3>social habits. One of those things is if you catch

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<v Speaker 3>me outside of the party, I'll be most definitely in

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<v Speaker 3>the corner chatting to one person on rotation. That'll be

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<v Speaker 3>subbed out bringing you person in. The Only time you'll

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<v Speaker 3>catch me doing excess mingling is when I'm entering the room,

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<v Speaker 3>when I'm leaving the room, and that's by design. It's

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<v Speaker 3>to generate as much like strategic hellos at once, so

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<v Speaker 3>i'd have to speak again hit them all up. Another

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<v Speaker 3>thing that I do that people really hate and I

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<v Speaker 3>will stand by is I irish exit. I do not

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<v Speaker 3>like to say goodbye. I think it's a waste of time.

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<v Speaker 3>I stand by it. Or if I do, I pick

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<v Speaker 3>my nearest and dearest I say goodbye to them. They

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<v Speaker 3>can pass on the message clever.

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<v Speaker 2>Why. I just don't want to deal with the hubbub.

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<v Speaker 3>Of why you're leaving and where you're going and we

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<v Speaker 3>know that a catch up, say that you know where

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<v Speaker 3>to find me. And now I feel vindicated and validated

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<v Speaker 3>because the Beauty of New South Wales Time Management Institute

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<v Speaker 3>has released to some information that says not saying goodbye

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<v Speaker 3>when you leave a party can actually save you.

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<v Speaker 2>Up to two days per year.

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<v Speaker 3>Two days additional I'm getting from just leaving when I'm

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<v Speaker 3>ready to go. They've also gone on to say that

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<v Speaker 3>it might sound rude, but researchers have found that saying

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<v Speaker 3>goodbye at a party generally can take up to forty

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<v Speaker 3>five minutes. The average person goes to around twenty five

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<v Speaker 3>parties per year. That's how we all got COVID.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not a party to superspreederal ready, and a person.

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<v Speaker 3>Might be spending on average eighteen hours and forty five

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<v Speaker 3>minutes each year saying goodbye to others while leaving. Additionally,

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<v Speaker 3>the report found that those who say goodbye are forced

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<v Speaker 3>into repeating the same excuses multiple times for different people

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<v Speaker 3>as to why they're leaving the party early. This costs

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<v Speaker 3>them more time than someone who sneaks out with they're

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<v Speaker 3>saying goodbye to everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want to live longer, just leave the party

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<v Speaker 2>when you're ready, babe. That is a PSA.

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<v Speaker 3>Anybody asks you, you can say U, and Sw's Time

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<v Speaker 3>Management Institute.

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<v Speaker 2>Advised me to do so.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm simply following guidelines and legislations FLEX Let's say you're

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<v Speaker 1>dating a guy and he is veritably the love of

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<v Speaker 1>your life verified blue tick love of my life seven

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<v Speaker 1>figure Babe, you are both adopted. In this hypothetical scenario,

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<v Speaker 1>you decide one day to do a DNA test to

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<v Speaker 1>find whereabouts you're from. You both do the test and

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<v Speaker 1>it comes back one hundred percent related, meaning that you

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<v Speaker 1>are brother and sister.

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<v Speaker 2>Can they give you that information on it?

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<v Speaker 1>This is a true story where okay, Reddit to TikTok

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<v Speaker 1>a fantastic pipeline. Do you stay together? Little ASTERISKX? You

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<v Speaker 1>don't want children, so there's nowhere you're going to pass on.

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<v Speaker 1>What's it called incestuous genes? Would you stay together? This

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<v Speaker 1>is your love, This is the love of your life.

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<v Speaker 1>Perhaps you're a bit socially isolated. They're the only person

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<v Speaker 1>you know. You went in love with them. They are

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<v Speaker 1>your biological brother. Yet you didn't grow up together and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you stay with them?

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<v Speaker 3>I think this is a good time to report that.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's important to have secrets. I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>what authenticity marketing convinced you to do. Just keep it

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<v Speaker 3>to yourself and going about your day. Are you telling

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<v Speaker 3>me that you're going to go break up with the

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<v Speaker 3>love of your life because some random it in turn

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<v Speaker 3>with some fake algorithm, has confused your results and said

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<v Speaker 3>you're related.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's your king. Are you gonna stick by him? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Leave me Troe.

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<v Speaker 1>A couple of weeks ago, I saw some damning footage

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<v Speaker 1>of Bebe Rexa getting hit in the face of an

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<v Speaker 1>iPhone she was performing. I'm pretty sure it was like

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<v Speaker 1>her first concert in ages. Prior to the concert, she

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<v Speaker 1>was posting on Insta stories being super excited, and then

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<v Speaker 1>there's footage of her getting hit directly in the eye

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<v Speaker 1>with an iPhone that was flung at her on the stage.

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<v Speaker 1>They did find the guy so that she.

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<v Speaker 3>Would take a video from her perspective or like sing

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<v Speaker 3>at it and then give it back.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it was more of like a tart, like it

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<v Speaker 1>was like a hard throat. It flung into her face.

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<v Speaker 1>If you want to throw someone something and you want

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<v Speaker 1>them to catch it, you throw it up in their bed.

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<v Speaker 2>This is like saying common sense is common.

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<v Speaker 1>True, I guess anyway, I found it absolutely disgusting. However,

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<v Speaker 1>it got me thinking about the history of people throwing

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<v Speaker 1>things on stages because I don't know about you. When

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<v Speaker 1>I think of people throwing things, I imagine a flowers

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of like a ballet's undies, tomatoes in

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<v Speaker 1>the old days, or perhaps stones if we're going back. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna go there. But essentially, according to the ABC

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<v Speaker 1>an article that our producer Mickey found, it's a potent

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<v Speaker 1>political tool. Oh ridicule. So I don't know if you're

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<v Speaker 1>on ber egg boy, egg boy, Oh yes, phraser. I

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<v Speaker 1>think his name was through smash an egg onto that

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<v Speaker 1>politician's head. I don't know who it was. That created

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of debate because some people were like, this

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<v Speaker 1>is an active political violence or this is an active protest. Personally,

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't be hitting anyone or subjecting hand to anything

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<v Speaker 1>when trying to protest, but I guess we do get

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<v Speaker 1>carried away at times. But according to the ABC, people

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<v Speaker 1>throwing things on stage is not supposed to be a

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<v Speaker 1>violent attack. It's not supposed to injure the target. It's

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to humiliate them or to make them feel uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 1>in public. So we've seen, you know, anti transactivists recently

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<v Speaker 1>get like thrown with cream and stuff like that. The

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<v Speaker 1>idea is they shouldn't have the authority of being a politician.

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<v Speaker 1>For example, we want to see you as a ridiculous

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<v Speaker 1>figure that you really are. So it's like a redressing,

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<v Speaker 1>he says. Target's usually someone who's quite divisive, quite controversial,

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<v Speaker 1>and often on the right side of politics.

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<v Speaker 3>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know where bear bear fits well.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that, like obviously it's I feel like the

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<v Speaker 3>pendulum has swung in some capacity, right, because when I

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<v Speaker 3>observe the way that let's say people now in the

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<v Speaker 3>last five years, when you're throwing things on stage, it's

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<v Speaker 3>like a notice me thing, right, So it's like I

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<v Speaker 3>threw my bra on stage and this rapper notice Therefore

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<v Speaker 3>I am this person having this really unique one of

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<v Speaker 3>one experience in this shared space. And I think the

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<v Speaker 3>friction comes from the fact that a lot of fans

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<v Speaker 3>or people on the audience don't recognize the disrespect by

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<v Speaker 3>virtual of not being on the stage. But anybody on

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<v Speaker 3>a stage knows that anything you're getting thrown always comes

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<v Speaker 3>or feels like an assault. Doesn't matter if it's like

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<v Speaker 3>a humorous thing or a light thing or a pretty thing,

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<v Speaker 3>it always feels offensive.

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<v Speaker 2>Throws you off.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, sometimes people like throw cans of drink, which I

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<v Speaker 1>find again, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't like that, very disgusting full water bottles. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't remember what gig it was.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I was going to see the Internet or something

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<v Speaker 3>at the n More Theater in Sydney, and the lead

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<v Speaker 3>singer had said, you know when people do like the

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<v Speaker 3>in between song bits, you know, when they're trying to

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<v Speaker 3>connect with the crowd. And it was like, oh damn,

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm really thirsty or something like can I get

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<v Speaker 3>some water? Side of stage vibe? People just start throwing.

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<v Speaker 2>Full bottles and I was like, please some tact it's

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<v Speaker 2>so scary.

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<v Speaker 1>So here are some of my favorites that have been

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<v Speaker 1>thrown at people on stage. First, a little naz X

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<v Speaker 1>sex toys. What kind it looks like? It was a

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<v Speaker 1>pocket putty cat, he said, who throw their psy on stage.

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<v Speaker 1>After the brief interruption, the Grammy winner appeared unfazed as

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<v Speaker 1>he continued the concert That is Our King. Harry Styles

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<v Speaker 1>is another singer who had their fair share of objects

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<v Speaker 1>thrown at him. The Watermelon Sugar hit maker once at

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<v Speaker 1>a Key We Loved Him on stage, seemingly in reference

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<v Speaker 1>to his smash hit song named after the fruit Thank God,

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't a watermelon. My favorite and probably my favorite

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<v Speaker 1>list is Na than Pink stylized with a exclamation mark

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<v Speaker 1>in lieu of the eye, which we love.

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<v Speaker 3>Timeless, super creative, timeless, super creative. Asap Rockie is shaking

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<v Speaker 3>literally Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Pink was recently left startled during her concert at London's

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<v Speaker 1>bst Hired Park last month when a fan recent it

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<v Speaker 1>was recent when she's been gigging since I was born,

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<v Speaker 1>babes doing them acrobats like yeah. Last month, when a

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<v Speaker 1>fan threw her mother's ashes on stage, the singer was

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<v Speaker 1>left startled when she handed the pouch before turning to

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<v Speaker 1>the fan to clarify that it contained her mother's remains.

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<v Speaker 1>After the bizarre confirmation, was it received, Well, they're never

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<v Speaker 1>gonna not dance again, hit maker confess, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>how I feel about that. That is why I've been

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<v Speaker 1>in the business. She's known them acrobats for way too

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<v Speaker 1>long to deal that anyway. So my personal advice again, unrequired.

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<v Speaker 1>What is it I'm prompted, unpromoted, unprovoked?

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<v Speaker 2>Is I'm solicited?

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<v Speaker 1>Don't throw things on stage? Please?

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<v Speaker 3>At my life show someone came up. Let's go back

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<v Speaker 3>to the signs. If you want to be noticed signs,

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<v Speaker 3>please do the practice. Please you want to show up lazy?

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<v Speaker 2>What are you saying at your show?

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<v Speaker 1>What? Someone came up at the end, someone I know, like,

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<v Speaker 1>while we will bowing to give us gifts, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh no, we're like later, okay, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>what's a good time for a gift, Like once everyone's left,

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<v Speaker 1>oh you know, coming right up just as we're bowing.

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<v Speaker 1>It takes the attention away. It was really off putting

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm like, oh my god, what are you You're

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<v Speaker 1>running towards the stage.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess they wanted to create like an extended moment

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<v Speaker 3>for you. Like it's almost like the cheering is here

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<v Speaker 3>at like a fifty percent. We could take it up

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<v Speaker 3>further once you become the recipient of a gift.

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<v Speaker 1>No, but yeah, anyway, it is what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Mummy. Can I listen to Flex and Rooms Flex and Fromes.

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<v Speaker 3>We've been talking a lot on and off about different

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<v Speaker 3>rules we have for life, not because life needs rules,

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<v Speaker 3>but you know, you can't escape the confusion of the

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<v Speaker 3>human condition. And when you can put some structure and

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<v Speaker 3>some rules behind what you do or don't do, things

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<v Speaker 3>kind of seem.

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<v Speaker 2>Easier, at least easier.

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<v Speaker 3>One of the rules that I have, or that I've

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<v Speaker 3>had for a little while now, and I've like expressed

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<v Speaker 3>it in varying different ways, but I always stand by

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<v Speaker 3>it is that you have to stop waiting for people

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<v Speaker 3>to save you. You have to learn how to become

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<v Speaker 3>your own hero, your own warrior, your own like front

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<v Speaker 3>of line drill sergeant. A lot of us subject to

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<v Speaker 3>ourselves to really uncomfortable, unsafe, dangerous situations in hopes that

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<v Speaker 3>somebody else will notice and say, hey, that's not good, or.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, were you okay with that? Or are you comfortable

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<v Speaker 2>with that?

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<v Speaker 3>And more often than not, we're all too in our

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<v Speaker 3>own head number one, or too afraid of coming across

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<v Speaker 3>in the wrong way, that we just let it go

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<v Speaker 3>like perpetual bystanders. And so when you can, even if

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<v Speaker 3>you don't feel like it's completely necessary. I personally feel

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<v Speaker 3>like I will never regret backing myself or being the

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<v Speaker 3>one who came to my own defense, as opposed to

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<v Speaker 3>being sad that someone didn't check for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Where do you think you learned that, life, babe, just life.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it didn't become so specific about it until

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<v Speaker 3>I saw it happen with other people, like a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of avoidable pain because people were stuck in that hole.

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<v Speaker 3>But she didn't and I wish she would have, and

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<v Speaker 3>I wish he would have.

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<v Speaker 2>And why didn't they?

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<v Speaker 3>And it's like, okay, yeah, I've seen right now, but

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<v Speaker 3>like you can't rely on them, and I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to turn it into it like you only have yourself rhetoric,

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<v Speaker 3>you have other people, but you have yourself all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>I came across as TikTok by this person called Kelly

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<v Speaker 3>Grace may Mae, and I think it has some merit.

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<v Speaker 4>Play the day, I could like ingrain in people's hands,

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<v Speaker 4>just like one small thing. It would be this, Please,

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<v Speaker 4>for the love of God, please never keep a nice

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<v Speaker 4>thought to yourself. I have this slay for all. I

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<v Speaker 4>never keep a nice thought to myself. Specifically other people,

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<v Speaker 4>like my friends are embarrassed with me because when we're

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<v Speaker 4>walking around, I'll be like, you've an amazing laugh to

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<v Speaker 4>a stranger on the street.

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<v Speaker 1>But I have a trained myself.

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<v Speaker 4>Every time I have and I thought about someone, I

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<v Speaker 4>literally just say it. The other day, I saw this

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<v Speaker 4>girl journaling outside of a coffee shop and I went

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<v Speaker 4>up to her and I was like, I'm so glad

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<v Speaker 4>that I ran into journaling. I've really been needing to

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<v Speaker 4>journal and this was such a perfect reminder. Thank you,

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<v Speaker 4>and you should be proud of yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 4>And she was like, this is my first time journaling

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<v Speaker 4>in so long. So think about what happened during that exchange.

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<v Speaker 3>Now. When I heard that, initially, I thought to myself,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think this is blanket information. I think that

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<v Speaker 3>the information or the feedback of the advice that she's

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<v Speaker 3>giving suits a person like her, a person who is

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<v Speaker 3>interested or comfortable having fleeting interactions with strangers, a person

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<v Speaker 3>who seems from that video quite charming and extraverted and sociable,

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<v Speaker 3>and so for her and people like her, I think

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<v Speaker 3>it'll read quite well. But as we spoke about, there

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<v Speaker 3>are two types of people, those who interact with strangers

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<v Speaker 3>on the off chance and assume it's gonna be overwhelmingly

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<v Speaker 3>negative versus positive. And I know a lot of people

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<v Speaker 3>who receive compliments and think that they're lies will begin

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<v Speaker 3>to feel self conscious that they've been noticed when they

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<v Speaker 3>thought they were just an NPC, you know, like some

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<v Speaker 3>person sitting down journaling having a moment, maybe documenting or

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<v Speaker 3>chronicling something traumatic and you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, hey, bub, like, thank you for journal. That's so

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<v Speaker 2>helpful for me. And I was like, leave me alone.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, sometimes it's a bit.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just a person and sometimes people aren't genuine.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes people it's like altruism makes you feel better. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to go around and make this person's day.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, who was this for?

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<v Speaker 1>You're being condescending.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I said, I think it there is merit to

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<v Speaker 3>it because there are a lot of situations where you know,

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<v Speaker 3>like I'll be hanging out with you through me and

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<v Speaker 3>I'll be like, I'm gonna you look so pretty today.

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<v Speaker 2>I will say it about that in a little while.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you see, and out look may feelings some kind

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<v Speaker 3>of way, but I always say And I'm like, my

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<v Speaker 3>friend Sally is always texting me and saying, can you

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<v Speaker 3>tell him to hell?

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<v Speaker 2>Looks amazing? And I always pass that message. And I

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<v Speaker 2>always passed the message. You've been listening to The Flex

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