Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.
Speaker 2: This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I wish I could just give you
Speaker 3: an insight into the nonsense that's happening behind the curtains,
Speaker 3: but unfortunately we don't get paid enough to share personal details.
Speaker 1: How about a tidbit here and there, maybe once away.
Speaker 3: The only way you can get in to this private
Speaker 3: dramas to become our podcast producer.
Speaker 2: That's one or to or to oh yeah, take yeah.
Speaker 1: Also, oh my god, we're the worst host ever. We
Speaker 1: didn't say happy birthday to Mickey yesterday on the podcast
Speaker 1: in Troy.
Speaker 3: Michayla's birthday though, don't play her like birthday week our
Speaker 3: favorite cancer.
Speaker 1: Barbie on Monday night. Yeah, we went together on Tuesday.
Speaker 1: We won't invited, but okay, do you want to pay
Speaker 1: up with my whole family?
Speaker 3: I mean again, we weren't invited, so it's a little
Speaker 3: late to usk, but thank you? And what do you
Speaker 3: want for your birthday? Aside from world piece?
Speaker 1: I actually wouldn't mind jewry MAJORI or like Pandora post design,
Speaker 1: little trunky bracelet. Here we go, Flex Andros Flex and
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Speaker 3: Someone who considers herself to be quite social in my
Speaker 3: own little way, I do have quite a few anti
Speaker 3: social habits. One of those things is if you catch
Speaker 3: me outside of the party, I'll be most definitely in
Speaker 3: the corner chatting to one person on rotation. That'll be
Speaker 3: subbed out bringing you person in. The Only time you'll
Speaker 3: catch me doing excess mingling is when I'm entering the room,
Speaker 3: when I'm leaving the room, and that's by design. It's
Speaker 3: to generate as much like strategic hellos at once, so
Speaker 3: i'd have to speak again hit them all up. Another
Speaker 3: thing that I do that people really hate and I
Speaker 3: will stand by is I irish exit. I do not
Speaker 3: like to say goodbye. I think it's a waste of time.
Speaker 3: I stand by it. Or if I do, I pick
Speaker 3: my nearest and dearest I say goodbye to them. They
Speaker 3: can pass on the message clever.
Speaker 2: Why. I just don't want to deal with the hubbub.
Speaker 3: Of why you're leaving and where you're going and we
Speaker 3: know that a catch up, say that you know where
Speaker 3: to find me. And now I feel vindicated and validated
Speaker 3: because the Beauty of New South Wales Time Management Institute
Speaker 3: has released to some information that says not saying goodbye
Speaker 3: when you leave a party can actually save you.
Speaker 2: Up to two days per year.
Speaker 3: Two days additional I'm getting from just leaving when I'm
Speaker 3: ready to go. They've also gone on to say that
Speaker 3: it might sound rude, but researchers have found that saying
Speaker 3: goodbye at a party generally can take up to forty
Speaker 3: five minutes. The average person goes to around twenty five
Speaker 3: parties per year. That's how we all got COVID.
Speaker 1: It's not a party to superspreederal ready, and a person.
Speaker 3: Might be spending on average eighteen hours and forty five
Speaker 3: minutes each year saying goodbye to others while leaving. Additionally,
Speaker 3: the report found that those who say goodbye are forced
Speaker 3: into repeating the same excuses multiple times for different people
Speaker 3: as to why they're leaving the party early. This costs
Speaker 3: them more time than someone who sneaks out with they're
Speaker 3: saying goodbye to everyone.
Speaker 2: If you want to live longer, just leave the party
Speaker 2: when you're ready, babe. That is a PSA.
Speaker 3: Anybody asks you, you can say U, and Sw's Time
Speaker 3: Management Institute.
Speaker 2: Advised me to do so.
Speaker 1: I'm simply following guidelines and legislations FLEX Let's say you're
Speaker 1: dating a guy and he is veritably the love of
Speaker 1: your life verified blue tick love of my life seven
Speaker 1: figure Babe, you are both adopted. In this hypothetical scenario,
Speaker 1: you decide one day to do a DNA test to
Speaker 1: find whereabouts you're from. You both do the test and
Speaker 1: it comes back one hundred percent related, meaning that you
Speaker 1: are brother and sister.
Speaker 2: Can they give you that information on it?
Speaker 1: This is a true story where okay, Reddit to TikTok
Speaker 1: a fantastic pipeline. Do you stay together? Little ASTERISKX? You
Speaker 1: don't want children, so there's nowhere you're going to pass on.
Speaker 1: What's it called incestuous genes? Would you stay together? This
Speaker 1: is your love, This is the love of your life.
Speaker 1: Perhaps you're a bit socially isolated. They're the only person
Speaker 1: you know. You went in love with them. They are
Speaker 1: your biological brother. Yet you didn't grow up together and
Speaker 1: you don't want kids.
Speaker 2: Do you stay with them?
Speaker 3: I think this is a good time to report that.
Speaker 3: I think it's important to have secrets. I don't know
Speaker 3: what authenticity marketing convinced you to do. Just keep it
Speaker 3: to yourself and going about your day. Are you telling
Speaker 3: me that you're going to go break up with the
Speaker 3: love of your life because some random it in turn
Speaker 3: with some fake algorithm, has confused your results and said
Speaker 3: you're related.
Speaker 2: No, that's your king. Are you gonna stick by him? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Leave me Troe.
Speaker 1: A couple of weeks ago, I saw some damning footage
Speaker 1: of Bebe Rexa getting hit in the face of an
Speaker 1: iPhone she was performing. I'm pretty sure it was like
Speaker 1: her first concert in ages. Prior to the concert, she
Speaker 1: was posting on Insta stories being super excited, and then
Speaker 1: there's footage of her getting hit directly in the eye
Speaker 1: with an iPhone that was flung at her on the stage.
Speaker 1: They did find the guy so that she.
Speaker 3: Would take a video from her perspective or like sing
Speaker 3: at it and then give it back.
Speaker 1: No, it was more of like a tart, like it
Speaker 1: was like a hard throat. It flung into her face.
Speaker 1: If you want to throw someone something and you want
Speaker 1: them to catch it, you throw it up in their bed.
Speaker 2: This is like saying common sense is common.
Speaker 1: True, I guess anyway, I found it absolutely disgusting. However,
Speaker 1: it got me thinking about the history of people throwing
Speaker 1: things on stages because I don't know about you. When
Speaker 1: I think of people throwing things, I imagine a flowers
Speaker 1: at the end of like a ballet's undies, tomatoes in
Speaker 1: the old days, or perhaps stones if we're going back. Okay,
Speaker 1: we're gonna go there. But essentially, according to the ABC
Speaker 1: an article that our producer Mickey found, it's a potent
Speaker 1: political tool. Oh ridicule. So I don't know if you're
Speaker 1: on ber egg boy, egg boy, Oh yes, phraser. I
Speaker 1: think his name was through smash an egg onto that
Speaker 1: politician's head. I don't know who it was. That created
Speaker 1: a lot of debate because some people were like, this
Speaker 1: is an active political violence or this is an active protest. Personally,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be hitting anyone or subjecting hand to anything
Speaker 1: when trying to protest, but I guess we do get
Speaker 1: carried away at times. But according to the ABC, people
Speaker 1: throwing things on stage is not supposed to be a
Speaker 1: violent attack. It's not supposed to injure the target. It's
Speaker 1: supposed to humiliate them or to make them feel uncomfortable
Speaker 1: in public. So we've seen, you know, anti transactivists recently
Speaker 1: get like thrown with cream and stuff like that. The
Speaker 1: idea is they shouldn't have the authority of being a politician.
Speaker 1: For example, we want to see you as a ridiculous
Speaker 1: figure that you really are. So it's like a redressing,
Speaker 1: he says. Target's usually someone who's quite divisive, quite controversial,
Speaker 1: and often on the right side of politics.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: I don't know where bear bear fits well.
Speaker 3: I think that, like obviously it's I feel like the
Speaker 3: pendulum has swung in some capacity, right, because when I
Speaker 3: observe the way that let's say people now in the
Speaker 3: last five years, when you're throwing things on stage, it's
Speaker 3: like a notice me thing, right, So it's like I
Speaker 3: threw my bra on stage and this rapper notice Therefore
Speaker 3: I am this person having this really unique one of
Speaker 3: one experience in this shared space. And I think the
Speaker 3: friction comes from the fact that a lot of fans
Speaker 3: or people on the audience don't recognize the disrespect by
Speaker 3: virtual of not being on the stage. But anybody on
Speaker 3: a stage knows that anything you're getting thrown always comes
Speaker 3: or feels like an assault. Doesn't matter if it's like
Speaker 3: a humorous thing or a light thing or a pretty thing,
Speaker 3: it always feels offensive.
Speaker 2: Throws you off.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sometimes people like throw cans of drink, which I
Speaker 1: find again, I.
Speaker 2: Don't like that, very disgusting full water bottles. Like I
Speaker 2: don't remember what gig it was.
Speaker 3: Maybe I was going to see the Internet or something
Speaker 3: at the n More Theater in Sydney, and the lead
Speaker 3: singer had said, you know when people do like the
Speaker 3: in between song bits, you know, when they're trying to
Speaker 3: connect with the crowd. And it was like, oh damn,
Speaker 3: like I'm really thirsty or something like can I get
Speaker 3: some water? Side of stage vibe? People just start throwing.
Speaker 2: Full bottles and I was like, please some tact it's
Speaker 2: so scary.
Speaker 1: So here are some of my favorites that have been
Speaker 1: thrown at people on stage. First, a little naz X
Speaker 1: sex toys. What kind it looks like? It was a
Speaker 1: pocket putty cat, he said, who throw their psy on stage.
Speaker 1: After the brief interruption, the Grammy winner appeared unfazed as
Speaker 1: he continued the concert That is Our King. Harry Styles
Speaker 1: is another singer who had their fair share of objects
Speaker 1: thrown at him. The Watermelon Sugar hit maker once at
Speaker 1: a Key We Loved Him on stage, seemingly in reference
Speaker 1: to his smash hit song named after the fruit Thank God,
Speaker 1: it wasn't a watermelon. My favorite and probably my favorite
Speaker 1: list is Na than Pink stylized with a exclamation mark
Speaker 1: in lieu of the eye, which we love.
Speaker 3: Timeless, super creative, timeless, super creative. Asap Rockie is shaking
Speaker 3: literally Yeah.
Speaker 1: Pink was recently left startled during her concert at London's
Speaker 1: bst Hired Park last month when a fan recent it
Speaker 1: was recent when she's been gigging since I was born,
Speaker 1: babes doing them acrobats like yeah. Last month, when a
Speaker 1: fan threw her mother's ashes on stage, the singer was
Speaker 1: left startled when she handed the pouch before turning to
Speaker 1: the fan to clarify that it contained her mother's remains.
Speaker 1: After the bizarre confirmation, was it received, Well, they're never
Speaker 1: gonna not dance again, hit maker confess, I don't know
Speaker 1: how I feel about that. That is why I've been
Speaker 1: in the business. She's known them acrobats for way too
Speaker 1: long to deal that anyway. So my personal advice again, unrequired.
Speaker 1: What is it I'm prompted, unpromoted, unprovoked?
Speaker 2: Is I'm solicited?
Speaker 1: Don't throw things on stage? Please?
Speaker 3: At my life show someone came up. Let's go back
Speaker 3: to the signs. If you want to be noticed signs,
Speaker 3: please do the practice. Please you want to show up lazy?
Speaker 2: What are you saying at your show?
Speaker 1: What? Someone came up at the end, someone I know, like,
Speaker 1: while we will bowing to give us gifts, and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh no, we're like later, okay, you know,
Speaker 1: what's a good time for a gift, Like once everyone's left,
Speaker 1: oh you know, coming right up just as we're bowing.
Speaker 1: It takes the attention away. It was really off putting
Speaker 1: because I'm like, oh my god, what are you You're
Speaker 1: running towards the stage.
Speaker 3: I guess they wanted to create like an extended moment
Speaker 3: for you. Like it's almost like the cheering is here
Speaker 3: at like a fifty percent. We could take it up
Speaker 3: further once you become the recipient of a gift.
Speaker 1: No, but yeah, anyway, it is what it is.
Speaker 2: Mummy. Can I listen to Flex and Rooms Flex and Fromes.
Speaker 3: We've been talking a lot on and off about different
Speaker 3: rules we have for life, not because life needs rules,
Speaker 3: but you know, you can't escape the confusion of the
Speaker 3: human condition. And when you can put some structure and
Speaker 3: some rules behind what you do or don't do, things
Speaker 3: kind of seem.
Speaker 2: Easier, at least easier.
Speaker 3: One of the rules that I have, or that I've
Speaker 3: had for a little while now, and I've like expressed
Speaker 3: it in varying different ways, but I always stand by
Speaker 3: it is that you have to stop waiting for people
Speaker 3: to save you. You have to learn how to become
Speaker 3: your own hero, your own warrior, your own like front
Speaker 3: of line drill sergeant. A lot of us subject to
Speaker 3: ourselves to really uncomfortable, unsafe, dangerous situations in hopes that
Speaker 3: somebody else will notice and say, hey, that's not good, or.
Speaker 2: Hey, were you okay with that? Or are you comfortable
Speaker 2: with that?
Speaker 3: And more often than not, we're all too in our
Speaker 3: own head number one, or too afraid of coming across
Speaker 3: in the wrong way, that we just let it go
Speaker 3: like perpetual bystanders. And so when you can, even if
Speaker 3: you don't feel like it's completely necessary. I personally feel
Speaker 3: like I will never regret backing myself or being the
Speaker 3: one who came to my own defense, as opposed to
Speaker 3: being sad that someone didn't check for me.
Speaker 1: Where do you think you learned that, life, babe, just life.
Speaker 3: I think it didn't become so specific about it until
Speaker 3: I saw it happen with other people, like a lot
Speaker 3: of avoidable pain because people were stuck in that hole.
Speaker 3: But she didn't and I wish she would have, and
Speaker 3: I wish he would have.
Speaker 2: And why didn't they?
Speaker 3: And it's like, okay, yeah, I've seen right now, but
Speaker 3: like you can't rely on them, and I don't want
Speaker 3: to turn it into it like you only have yourself rhetoric,
Speaker 3: you have other people, but you have yourself all the time.
Speaker 3: I came across as TikTok by this person called Kelly
Speaker 3: Grace may Mae, and I think it has some merit.
Speaker 4: Play the day, I could like ingrain in people's hands,
Speaker 4: just like one small thing. It would be this, Please,
Speaker 4: for the love of God, please never keep a nice
Speaker 4: thought to yourself. I have this slay for all. I
Speaker 4: never keep a nice thought to myself. Specifically other people,
Speaker 4: like my friends are embarrassed with me because when we're
Speaker 4: walking around, I'll be like, you've an amazing laugh to
Speaker 4: a stranger on the street.
Speaker 1: But I have a trained myself.
Speaker 4: Every time I have and I thought about someone, I
Speaker 4: literally just say it. The other day, I saw this
Speaker 4: girl journaling outside of a coffee shop and I went
Speaker 4: up to her and I was like, I'm so glad
Speaker 4: that I ran into journaling. I've really been needing to
Speaker 4: journal and this was such a perfect reminder. Thank you,
Speaker 4: and you should be proud of yourself.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 4: And she was like, this is my first time journaling
Speaker 4: in so long. So think about what happened during that exchange.
Speaker 3: Now. When I heard that, initially, I thought to myself,
Speaker 3: I don't think this is blanket information. I think that
Speaker 3: the information or the feedback of the advice that she's
Speaker 3: giving suits a person like her, a person who is
Speaker 3: interested or comfortable having fleeting interactions with strangers, a person
Speaker 3: who seems from that video quite charming and extraverted and sociable,
Speaker 3: and so for her and people like her, I think
Speaker 3: it'll read quite well. But as we spoke about, there
Speaker 3: are two types of people, those who interact with strangers
Speaker 3: on the off chance and assume it's gonna be overwhelmingly
Speaker 3: negative versus positive. And I know a lot of people
Speaker 3: who receive compliments and think that they're lies will begin
Speaker 3: to feel self conscious that they've been noticed when they
Speaker 3: thought they were just an NPC, you know, like some
Speaker 3: person sitting down journaling having a moment, maybe documenting or
Speaker 3: chronicling something traumatic and you're.
Speaker 2: Like, hey, bub, like, thank you for journal. That's so
Speaker 2: helpful for me. And I was like, leave me alone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sometimes it's a bit.
Speaker 2: I'm just a person and sometimes people aren't genuine.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people it's like altruism makes you feel better. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going to go around and make this person's day.
Speaker 2: And yeah, who was this for?
Speaker 1: You're being condescending.
Speaker 3: Like I said, I think it there is merit to
Speaker 3: it because there are a lot of situations where you know,
Speaker 3: like I'll be hanging out with you through me and
Speaker 3: I'll be like, I'm gonna you look so pretty today.
Speaker 2: I will say it about that in a little while.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you see, and out look may feelings some kind
Speaker 3: of way, but I always say And I'm like, my
Speaker 3: friend Sally is always texting me and saying, can you
Speaker 3: tell him to hell?
Speaker 2: Looks amazing? And I always pass that message. And I
Speaker 2: always passed the message. You've been listening to The Flex
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