WEBVTT - Are Dating App Users Reporting Their Exes? 💔 0:00:01.480 --> 0:00:03.520 Flex and Frooms, Flex and Fromes. 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:06.360 This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast. 0:00:09.080 --> 0:00:10.880 Flex and Frooms on cater You know when you have 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:13.680 those moments in your home where if anyone caught me 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:15.960 doing this, I don't want to be seen like this. 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:17.720 I got home from the gym and I was like, 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:22.520 I want something sweet, So I was huddled at my freezer, 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:26.160 nibbling at what do you call those life savers? 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:29.600 No, my freezer, Sorry, but I was at the fridge, 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:29.840 you know. 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:33.120 Okay, wait, the life savers were in the freezer. Yeah, 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:34.919 that's the weirdest shit I've ever heard. 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:37.239 What are you talking about? Lifesaver ice blocks? I'm called 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:38.000 life savers? 0:00:38.159 --> 0:00:38.319 Oh? 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:40.320 I thought you meant the actual just the lolly version 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:41.320 in the freezer. 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:43.120 The ice block. 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:54.480 But it was too cold for me to like, Oh. 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:54.000 Who can do the highball thing? We unchoked? 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:59.240 I'm first aid qualified, babes. Of course you are feel 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:00.800 free to get injured, Brooks presence. 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:04.319 I was watching it. Sorry, Dinant, drop your stay. I 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:06.680 know I'm gonna say. I went to speaking duck the 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:09.360 other night and they're both on the decks and they 0:01:09.440 --> 0:01:11.080 like jump up and down on the decks and it 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:14.840 like my housemate is a lifesaver, okay. And she was like, 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:17.160 it looks like they're doing first aid and I couldn't 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:19.600 did it like it literally boom boom boom. 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:20.880 But on the decks do you document? 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:22.000 Yeah? 0:01:22.600 --> 0:01:23.479 Why do you say it like that? 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:23.920 Oh? 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:26.120 I did, but I didn't put it anywhere because I 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:29.199 already Yeah, I didn't really capture it quite well. 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:30.120 I was in the. 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:33.080 Special privileges. 0:01:33.240 --> 0:01:33.679 Why not. 0:01:35.360 --> 0:01:38.959 Maybe a bit of a late minute yeah, last minute invite. 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:41.400 But I'll take your voice, okay, for all I've done 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:47.320 for the community, here's the party. Frou meno boom mmmy 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:53.200 les mom, you're listening to flex and rooms on kata. 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:55.280 I think we can all be a bit more empathetic 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:58.720 and caring in this sick, sad world. Perhaps some of 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:00.640 us have forgotten that peace of people. 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:02.040 Yeah, that's a big one. 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:03.880 We need to be nice to each other. Let's heal 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:06.480 the world together. I came across this TikTok from a 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:10.160 music called Yes Garrett at Yes Garrett, and his TikTok 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:12.359 made me stop in my tracks and reconsider the way 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:15.480 that I deal with and treat spiders. Play it Brokee, 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:16.519 thanks for this question. 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:19.600 So by spiritual practice. I mean something that moves you 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:22.840 from wherever you are into greater compassion, piece and presence. 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:26.040 And this little movement of thought with the spider fits that, 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:32.440 because you're moving from indifference or more honestly, fear into compassion, 0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:35.519 and you're moving from the past or future into the present. 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:38.280 This fits with what in Buddhism is called meta meditation, 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:41.480 which is a practice of compassion where you start with 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:45.240 yourself and move outward and ever expanding layers like ripples. 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:49.320 So you hold yourself in compassion, then you hold in 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:54.919 compassion someone that you love than an acquaintance, than a stranger, 0:02:55.200 --> 0:02:59.200 than someone that you hate have resentment for, and then 0:02:59.400 --> 0:03:01.560 all humans, plants, and animals. 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:02.160 It goes on. 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:04.080 The last thing I want to mention that makes this 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:07.800 a practice is that it's not that the feelings of 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:10.880 compassion come first and then you act. It's that you 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:14.160 start to act and then the feelings of compassion come up. 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:17.360 Wow. My initial thoughts when watching this TikTok was yeah, 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:19.600 I actually get it. It's like how I started to 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.440 be more mindful about my recycling journey. I've got a 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:25.800 Fogo food and organic waste bin. I fill it up 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:27.280 every week, and then I go and put it into 0:03:27.280 --> 0:03:30.600 the communal How do I say, combos bin that I 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:32.520 seem to be the only person in the twelve part 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:35.000 apartment block that is using this bin. But that's fine. 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:37.640 That actually sounds like shade, doesn't it? When I really 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:39.800 do need to have compassion for the other residents. It 0:03:39.840 --> 0:03:42.480 actually is a bit of a slog creating this smelly 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:44.640 bin in your kitchen to then take out. But I 0:03:44.680 --> 0:03:47.920 will say since entering this journey of recycling, I have 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:50.960 become a little bit more compassionate generally, and it's made 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:54.119 me slow down and actually like sit and sift through 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:56.760 my bin. Sift through my recycling bin, go down, take 0:03:56.800 --> 0:03:58.360 it out, and it gives me a little sprite in 0:03:58.440 --> 0:04:01.120 my step knowing that I'm contributing in a positive way. 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:03.280 Will it make a difference? Yeah, to be seen, very 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:07.120 small percentage of recycling gets recycled apparently, But I'm just 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:10.600 happy to be making a positive difference in my mind. 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:11.920 Do you relate to this at all? 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:13.920 Yeah, I'm just happy to hear you speak. 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:15.800 Okay, Yeah, how else did. 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:17.279 That resonate with you? Only with recycling? 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:21.880 I get it with small animals, but it where's a 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:24.360 spider come in, Like, for example, if there's a spider 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:26.640 in my shower. I did Like the other day, I 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:28.960 was washing my face in the basin and there was 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:30.920 a little fly that had like obviously been a little 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:33.120 bit wet before, so it struggling to get out. And 0:04:33.160 --> 0:04:35.120 it was a real moment of like, I want to 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:36.840 wash my face and I want to get out of here. 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:39.279 I have a decision. Do I drown a little bug 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:41.240 or do I help it out? That's going to take 0:04:41.279 --> 0:04:43.120 maybe a middle or two and I'm going to get 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:45.400 like the bug juice on my hands. I don't know 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:46.400 what I did in that moment. 0:04:47.960 --> 0:04:51.039 I can't actually confirm nor deny, but I had the thought, 0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:53.880 and the thought is what counts, and usually there should 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:54.840 be a corresponding action. 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:56.080 Yeah, I like this. 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:58.920 I feel like if I'm going to implement this, it's 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:00.760 not going to be on the small thing, it's going 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:03.760 to be all the big things, such as like I 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:06.440 feel like where I can be really good at being 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:11.400 compassionate in ways people don't expect is that I am opinionated, 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:13.839 but I'm not that judging and I give people the 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:17.000 benefit of the doubt a lot until they cook it, 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:19.320 And I think what I struggle with is that rebuilding 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:20.919 after I've given some of the benefit of the doubt. 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:23.720 Like I really struggle with compassion there because I don't 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:27.159 think that people recognize and none of us do. 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:29.080 None of us know the lengths that people have to. 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:31.839 Go through to deal with us, right, Like, how accommodating 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:33.720 somebody else has to be to deal with us, How 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:36.200 agreeable they need to be, how open minded they need 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:38.920 to be, how comforting they need to be, how reassuring. 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:41.080 We just assume that we're just pleasant people to deal 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:43.839 with and everybody else is terrible. But I think in 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:46.919 a lot of instances where you build relationships with people, 0:05:46.960 --> 0:05:51.680 whether it's professional, familiar, or romantic whatever, and you're like, 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:54.919 this is really hard and I'm trying, and I'm trying, 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:56.279 and I'm trying, and I'm trying. 0:05:56.320 --> 0:05:57.880 I want to try anymore, and now I'm bitter. 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:00.640 Yeah, That's where I'm like, oh, so much works for 0:06:00.680 --> 0:06:02.359 me to do that, and I can't be bothered. But 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:05.040 I would rather start working on that than saving a bug. Wow, 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:07.000 the bug gotta die. 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:11.120 The bug gotta die. So I'm not beefing eternally with people. 0:06:10.880 --> 0:06:13.480 I like the idea though, that compassion breeds compassion, and 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:15.240 that you don't have to feel compassion for the bug 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:18.080 to start the journey of becoming more compassionate. Full stop. 0:06:18.240 --> 0:06:20.760 Yeah, that's so true, flex and frooms. 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:23.599 That't a best What did you I have come across 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:25.800 an article on the internet which is peaked my interest 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:28.880 for multiple reasons. I want to speak it a lot 0:06:28.920 --> 0:06:31.760 today about dating. Seems to come up a bit on 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:35.120 the show. Obviously it's my brain by requests and demand. 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:37.680 Of course, of course there's no personal interest. And I 0:06:37.800 --> 0:06:40.479 read this article by the cut. The title is ghosted 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:43.440 by an app. Dating apps gave us new paths towards love, 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:46.520 but more and more band users think they've also given 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:50.920 us new channels for revenge user when you're deleted off 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:54.320 the app by the app, Yeah. 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:57.760 You're scaring an article for the first time, she read 0:06:57.800 --> 0:06:59.719 a headline. She read a by a line. 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:03.200 So apparently certain people are getting kicked off hinge and 0:07:03.240 --> 0:07:06.120 the like, and they're trying to contest why that is. 0:07:06.240 --> 0:07:08.159 And they believe that there've been the victims of a 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:09.360 revenge report. 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:12.840 Oh, a great phrase, revenge reports. I'm sure that exists. 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:15.800 And they're saying that you know, I've obviously dated multiple 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:18.600 people for the platform. I've broken up with them, I've 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:21.720 hurt their feelings, They've reported me. And it's a very 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:24.840 tricky gray area because obviously some people need to be 0:07:24.880 --> 0:07:27.920 taken off the app for behaviors, But what happens when 0:07:28.080 --> 0:07:31.080 you've just pissed off one too many people and they've 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:34.880 gathered together, they've banned together to dismantle your ability to 0:07:34.880 --> 0:07:35.679 go onto the app. 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:39.520 We need the AI jury, yeah, but also maybe we 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:43.200 need a function not like previously dated, because that would 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:45.200 be cooked. Imagine if you went on someone's profile there's 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:47.960 like a previously dated section of blurred out images and 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:50.440 you get like taps unlock, you pay thirty five dollars 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:53.760 one person, but something. 0:07:53.480 --> 0:07:54.280 Like you know on LinkedIn. 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:56.840 I don't use it often, but you can endorse people 0:07:56.920 --> 0:07:59.800 for things. Perhaps introducing that kind of function when you 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:01.680 can endorse someone and say like, yeah, that was a 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.840 good conversation, that was a good date, and then we 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:06.360 can balance the scalust a little bit. 0:08:06.480 --> 0:08:07.960 Or alternatively, if they got a. 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:11.040 Little strike, I reckon bring in a star system like Uber. 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:13.440 Oh that means you're not gonna like be mean to 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:14.280 people given them. 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:17.880 Maybe you might just be like, muddy, is the process right? 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:21.120 Because uber like before we found out what the stars 0:08:21.120 --> 0:08:22.320 actually met, people were flippant. 0:08:22.440 --> 0:08:22.520 Fu. 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:24.000 You know, you didn't like the way the car looked 0:08:24.040 --> 0:08:27.640 it was a one star. The car was silver one star. 0:08:28.240 --> 0:08:28.440 You know. 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:31.680 Look, our producer Brookie apparently has actually been banned. Can 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:32.720 you tell us a storybook? 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:35.200 So I was banned on Tinder and it was for 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:37.440 making a joint account with my best friend. 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:38.080 Called Dick and Daddy. 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:41.520 Oh so it's giving absolute nonsense. 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:43.280 Of course I's a fight for you. But do you 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:44.600 know what the interesting thing is? 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:46.600 Now that I'm single again and I've tried to make 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:48.600 an account, I put in my mobile number and it's 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:50.480 coming up that I'm still banned. So every time I 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:52.680 try to make a new account, I'm currently using one 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:53.679 of my friend's numbers. 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:56.880 Babe, shout out to your friend. Same thing happened happened 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.800 with me with de Pop, I'm banned off dat. 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:03.079 She's a circular economy. 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:04.920 So yeah, be careful what you do on an app 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:06.400 and read the terms and conditions. 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:09.839 That sounds like a threat as well, you know, like 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:12.880 there's no criteria for banning or reporting someone. You could 0:09:12.920 --> 0:09:14.560 just see your ex you want to mess with their day, 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.440 and then report them and it's game over. 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:18.480 So I don't know what to heed, but just know 0:09:18.520 --> 0:09:19.800 it's a trend that's popping off. 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.240 Just be wary. This is flex and froomes. 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:28.560 Are we being punished for trying to improve our consumption habits? 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:31.439 It's the question we're answering today on flex and frooms. Now, 0:09:31.480 --> 0:09:34.640 we could talk in a thousand different ways about overconsumption 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:37.920 and it's effecting the environment, but realistically we're just here to. 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:40.640 Get to just the tip of these topics. Now. 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:43.120 I saw this TikTok by this creator called Sweet like 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:46.520 underscore Honey with three wires, who was talking about how 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:50.240 their account on Asos got banned out of nowhere. 0:09:50.280 --> 0:09:50.880 It's a bit of me. 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.680 When we find out the reason why their account actually 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:57.079 got banned, I think we're gonna be very confused. 0:09:57.320 --> 0:09:58.680 Or are we listen to this? 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:02.720 This is a message for a sauce. I literally woke 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:05.200 up this morning and tried to get into my asous 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:08.839 account and I couldn't. It had been blocked due to 0:10:08.960 --> 0:10:13.360 suspicious activity. So I actually thought someone's been on my 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:16.840 account and ordering stuff and basically I went on the 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:19.280 chat and everything like that, and they basically said that 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:22.440 they're going to escalate it. And I've just been found 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:25.760 out that my Asos account has been blocked, but absolutely 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:28.720 no reason at all, just no reason. They couldn't offer 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:32.240 me any information. Rang heead office. They told me to 0:10:32.240 --> 0:10:34.360 get back in touch on live chat with a manager. 0:10:34.840 --> 0:10:37.319 Got in touch with a manager and they basically told 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:41.920 me they'd blocked my account because I'd returned too many items. 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:46.360 So I return items in pristine condition, like I will 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:48.320 literally try it on and if it doesn't suit me, 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:51.600 I will send it back. And I don't do that 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:54.800 all the time. I literally do that as and when 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:58.360 like a normal person does. Anyway, there is no way 0:10:58.400 --> 0:11:02.360 to get in touch with any by phone or anything else. 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:06.640 The managers basically said, the specialist team has made the decision. 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.400 You can't speak to the specialist team. They're just going 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:12.400 around blocking accounts where they feel that people have made 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:15.840 too many returns. I pay for premier delivery and I've 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:18.120 been an Asos customer for years. 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:23.079 In summary, girl gets account blocked on Asos for having 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:26.600 returned too many items. Now I understand that when the 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:29.600 online shopping craze got to this maximum point of saturation. 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:31.600 A lot of us have to recommend this idea that 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:33.240 it's someone to have to buy someone for cheap and 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:35.520 then just donate it if it doesn't work out for us, 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:38.520 that there are there is a way to return it. 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:40.720 And do you know what happens when things get returned. 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:41.160 I don't know. 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:44.040 I don't Some companies burn them, some companies put them 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:46.880 in tkmax, TJ max. 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:49.640 Stuff like that. But here's the thing, right, I can 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:51.200 see both perspectives. 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:54.240 From the corporations perspective, it might look like she's doing 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:57.800 the classic buy it where return it win win, you 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:00.120 get your outfit, picky, you save a bit of money, 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:04.120 everybody wins. And from her perspective, she's thinking, okay, I 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:07.120 do buy a lot, but because of how much I buy, 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:10.840 I'm now returning what I'm not wearing so it can 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:12.600 go on sale again. I don't know how it works, 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:14.960 or so it avoids ending up in land film in 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.080 this instance. Do you think it was the right approach 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:19.840 for me? Is she being punished for habits? Or is 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:21.880 this should there be a wake up call for her? 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:23.480 I wouldn't know what happens to the clothes when you 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:26.200 return them, because I have a feeling maybe they're burnt. 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:29.040 As you say, I get what it's like. It's annoying. 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:31.040 I must be annoying when someone returns something. It's a 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:33.120 lot of admin for said brand. 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:34.760 But it's an option that they provide exactly. 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:36.600 And that's why I would shop on aesos is because 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:39.000 I like to return things because often they don't fit properly. 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:40.800 And now you're at risk of having your account banned. 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:41.920 I would hate that. 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.840 Because you use the service they provided. 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:47.120 And like a sauce, you know you you know when 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:49.640 you're getting it, like it's got They've got good communications. 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:52.240 So I'm surprised by this all element. I'm banned off 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:54.760 deepop and I've escalated this because I accidentally bought something 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:56.720 off platform. I didn't know that was illegal, but of 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:57.560 course it is, because that's. 0:12:57.480 --> 0:13:00.160 Not the classic oh here, let me bank transfer you 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:01.120 literally criminal. 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:03.360 I didn't know that wasn't allowed. And yeah, I've reached 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:05.520 out to multiple sources. 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:08.000 But I have provided an email also no reply, no reply, 0:13:08.160 --> 0:13:10.720 and that's okay. What I will say is I think 0:13:10.800 --> 0:13:12.400 it would be nice to know if we can talk 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:15.400 to a few Australian retailers, a little iconic, a little 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:18.400 chowpo maybe a little bit beginning at boutique Princess Polly, 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:19.960 what do you do with the returns? 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:22.920 Yeah, please get in touch. You're listening to flex and 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:26.960 Rooms on kater as a do I Say follower told 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.320 me the other day after posting a video inside my 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:30.800 house I am living in Scholar. 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:35.000 The Sydney and also a comment from someone who likes you. 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:36.920 I know it just has to stop. 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:40.640 The boundaries are very unclear and yeah, as we know, 0:13:40.679 --> 0:13:43.920 there is a rental crisis. Am I letting it affects me? Yeah? Okay, 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:46.800 I'm a regular person. I do regular person things and 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:50.240 if that includes having a house without a balcony in 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:53.640 a high density suburb near the beach, I'm living in 0:13:53.679 --> 0:13:54.640 the heartends and suffer. 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:55.959 Okay, I'm just like you. 0:13:56.120 --> 0:14:00.840 Okay, So the other day I was posting about bins 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:02.760 on my story. I was talking about how I didn't 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:04.960 think my apartment had a compost bin. 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:05.760 I remember this. Yeah. 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:07.560 I then went into the backyard for the first time 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:09.440 ever and I saw there was a compost bin. Okay, 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:10.920 I've been living in the house for a few months. 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:14.200 I put the compost spin on my story, right. And 0:14:14.240 --> 0:14:16.920 then a chick messages me and says, I live in 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:17.800 that same apartment. 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:21.040 No, this is already too close to home. 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:24.240 I hate there, And I said, turns out we live 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:27.360 opposite each other across the hall. I haven't once seen her. 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:28.560 The apartment has about. 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:30.760 She follows you like she knows frooms loves in my 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:31.960 building exactly. 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.200 I think it dawned on her that I live in 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:36.280 the building because we hadn't seen each other. So she's like, 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:38.040 oh my god, she's in Squalor mansion. 0:14:38.120 --> 0:14:44.120 She's a resident of Squall Capital, paying one grubby growth. 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:45.560 If you turn right. 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:51.360 Now, I'm potentially putting our neighborly arrangement into disrepute. It 0:14:51.400 --> 0:14:54.040 is sorry, but unfortunately this is what happens when you 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:56.840 have a radio show. I get home the other night 0:14:56.880 --> 0:15:00.240 at eleven pm, I had been out with friends, opened 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:03.040 my apartment and not to dock myself, but the apartment 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:06.960 stairs are carpeted, right, it's giving nineteen seventies. The carpet 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:09.960 stings of cigarettes at the best ways I always always 0:15:10.040 --> 0:15:12.520 I walk in, I think, oh, that smells a little 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:17.200 a little more than usual, right, And I immediately pinned 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:18.800 it on one of the apartments below. 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:21.920 Immediately there's just immediately I found the culprit. 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:25.640 There's an apartment in my block that sometimes gives off 0:15:25.680 --> 0:15:27.840 a weird vibe, and I thought maybe they've been cooking 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:31.400 something strange. It then dawned on me perhaps somebody has died. 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:34.400 That is the level of logical conclusion, the level of 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:37.880 stench coming from this apartment block. Then I think, maybe 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:40.080 someone's died and they've chopped them up and put them 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:42.000 into a pot and they're boiling them, and that is 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:43.680 the scent. I continue up the stairs. 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:44.720 Oh, it's like hot. 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:49.040 It was a hot, rancid stench. And I thought of myself, 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:50.880 is this what human bodies smell like? Because I've heard 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:52.600 that there's a smell that here. Yeah, and it was 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:55.320 giving that. I then walk up to my level and 0:15:55.360 --> 0:15:56.760 I do a little cursory scam. 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:58.840 What do I see on the floor? A bin bag 0:15:58.880 --> 0:16:01.760 full of rubbish? Is a plastic bin bag? Is this 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:04.600 like a repurposed grocery store bin bag? Is it a 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:07.480 fifty two liter black one with the yellow tie straps? 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:08.120 What's going on? 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:10.600 This is a fifty two liter okay, but not black? 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:13.000 So I can see through it. It's a rancid mess. 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:15.680 This thing is full and it seems almost a bit wet. 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:21.440 It is outside their door at eleven PM on a Saturday. Okay, 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:25.880 I cannot actually properly describe the smell. It was so 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:27.840 bad that it was permeating down two levels. 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:29.800 Yeah, because they got it out of their apartment, and 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:31.440 then I can't go to the bin right now. 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:33.640 But I can't have the smell in my house. 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.520 And it was a hot day. It's really hot. I 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:42.760 walk into my apartment. Why can I still smell it? 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:46.240 And it's glued onto the walls. Then you can't wash 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:46.680 that off. 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:49.840 In that moment, the frustration that I felt was too 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:53.440 was like offset by the fact that I have a 0:16:53.480 --> 0:16:56.080 relationship with this one on the internet parasocially. Parasocially, I 0:16:56.120 --> 0:16:58.240 actually don't know. I couldn't tell you what she looks like. 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:00.680 But she's a follower, so she's a friend of mine. Okay, 0:17:01.040 --> 0:17:03.000 potentially I'm going to lose the follow with this story. 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:07.480 But literally, so I'm thinking, oh my god, like that 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:11.679 was crazy. Obviously maybe that no, okay, but I just 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:14.760 thought that's super scary. Anyway, Why do I get a 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:17.560 message from my housemate right now. It is a photo 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:20.720 of their rubbish yet again outside the door. 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:22.119 Well this is a bit better though. It looks like 0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:25.159 is this it's a box of like Hello Fresh, just 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:25.679 a box. 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:30.239 But my housemate says, so smelly, sad face smelly. So 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:33.320 there's something in the bin that they've put outside. What's 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:37.400 going on? Guys? Respectfully, we all living in an apartment. 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:40.000 Considered taking the bin out and just putting it on 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:42.240 the doorstep before you go out the next day. I've 0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:45.199