WEBVTT - MINI: Libby Trickett chats about how important positive body language is around kids 🤍

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<v Speaker 1>Now you all would have known about Australian's sweetheart egg.

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<v Speaker 1>But she's an Olympian. But she's an ex swimmer. Libby Tricketts,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh incredible. She's won so many gold medals, she still

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<v Speaker 1>holds records. She's truly amazing. And now she is a

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<v Speaker 1>mum of four beautiful children and recently she wrote an

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<v Speaker 1>article for Mama Mia around something that her eight year

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<v Speaker 1>old experienced and it really I mean as a mum,

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<v Speaker 1>it really struck me, but also just as a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>It's something that I think everybody has been through at

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<v Speaker 1>some point in their life, and that is conversations around

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<v Speaker 1>your weight and especially as your body changes. Now, Libby's

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<v Speaker 1>little girl is eight years old and we have her

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone, not the little.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, we have Libby on the phone to talk about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi Libby, Hi Libby, Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you so much for having me on.

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<v Speaker 2>Question Libby, what has happened?

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<v Speaker 1>Because there's a lot of dialogue between something that's gone

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<v Speaker 1>down between some of your friends and something they said

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<v Speaker 1>to your daughter.

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<v Speaker 3>Basically, what happened was I was in the kitchen area

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<v Speaker 3>just around the corner from where my daughter was with

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<v Speaker 3>someone close to us, and they basically said to her, oh, Poppy,

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<v Speaker 3>you look like you've lost weight. You're looking fantastic. Your

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<v Speaker 3>daughter lost right, Yeah, to my eight year old, like

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<v Speaker 3>directly to her. And because I wasn't in the exact presence,

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<v Speaker 3>but you know, was overhearing the conversation, I was just

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<v Speaker 3>completely shocked to the point that I had no words.

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<v Speaker 3>I felt really annoyed at myself that I didn't kind

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<v Speaker 3>of call it out in the moment, but I actually

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<v Speaker 3>think it was for the best because then I could

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<v Speaker 3>pull Poppy aside later try not to make too big

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<v Speaker 3>a deal of it. And we just basically said, look,

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<v Speaker 3>this is not how we talk about bodies. That's not

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<v Speaker 3>what is valuable. What we care about as a family

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<v Speaker 3>is that you know, we're moving our bodies. We're healthy,

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<v Speaker 3>we're strong, and we're fueling it in the ways that

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<v Speaker 3>is what is needed. She's eight years old, right like,

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<v Speaker 3>this is just so far from her brain and I

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<v Speaker 3>shouldn't have.

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<v Speaker 2>To be living. That's the thing. It breaks my heart

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<v Speaker 2>to think that she would then she could then go

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<v Speaker 2>and look in the mirror and go, wait, am I bigger?

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<v Speaker 2>Do I look fat?

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<v Speaker 3>It is something that I think all of us have

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<v Speaker 3>experienced on some level. I know my sister is in

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<v Speaker 3>a larger body and has been most of her life

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<v Speaker 3>and has recently lost a significant amount of weight, and

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<v Speaker 3>she just is horrified by how much better she's treated now.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's horrific, Like we shouldn't as a society, we

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<v Speaker 3>shouldn't be doing that stuff. But it starts at eight

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<v Speaker 3>years old when someone says something that seemingly on the

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<v Speaker 3>surface is a compliment, right, it's something that is totally

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<v Speaker 3>but we're saying that she looks great, you know, but

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<v Speaker 3>that things that maybe she looks worse before, or you know,

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<v Speaker 3>from the person's perspective, she looked worse before, and that

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<v Speaker 3>can get internalized and there's insidious, little toxic comments becomes

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<v Speaker 3>something that this never should have been anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think it's generational though, because you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>think all of us are growing and we're raising our

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<v Speaker 1>children more of a conscious way because we think about

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<v Speaker 1>the things that we experienced as kids and whatnot. But

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<v Speaker 1>it is sometimes the older generation. I don't want to stereotype,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's where some of the negative comments can come from.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, And you know, this person is of an older

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<v Speaker 3>generation and we spoke to them right, and we had

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<v Speaker 3>the conversation directly with them. We said, this isn't how

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<v Speaker 3>we talk about bodies now. We don't talk about weight,

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<v Speaker 3>we don't talk about, you know, how we look. We

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<v Speaker 3>talk about being kind and funny and smart and hard working,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's what is valuable, not what we look like.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, as a society we still have a

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<v Speaker 3>huge issue with looks and that being the value of

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<v Speaker 3>someone's important.

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<v Speaker 1>Were they okay with it once you explain it to them,

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<v Speaker 1>like your friend, they understand the problem and where they

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<v Speaker 1>went wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they actually responded really well, and that washeartening, I think.

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<v Speaker 3>But I also know that that is conditioning for them,

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<v Speaker 3>because I then overheard them say something about someone else

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<v Speaker 3>in another conversation. Their conditioned right, that that's how they

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<v Speaker 3>were brought up, that's what was valuable to them. And

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<v Speaker 3>so I'm going to still be very conscious when these

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<v Speaker 3>people are around us, because you know, it's hard to

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<v Speaker 3>know that those behaviors will change immediately. I think over

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<v Speaker 3>the long term it will change, But it's being conscious,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, about what is happening in our house and

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<v Speaker 3>what my girls are exposed to, what Alfie, my son

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<v Speaker 3>is exposed to and be open to having those conversations

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<v Speaker 3>because I think the thing that we experienced is that

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<v Speaker 3>it was just all swept under the rug. We wouldn't

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<v Speaker 3>even approach it. We'll just kind of internalize it and

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<v Speaker 3>get sad and completely different times.

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<v Speaker 2>I went all the way ins with my mum when

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<v Speaker 2>she was on white watches as a kid. That's what

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<v Speaker 2>made me game. You were shocked when I came out.

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<v Speaker 2>It's because I was with all the women going did

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<v Speaker 2>you lose weight this week? Ways, all right, leave you Triggert.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you. If you want to read that article, it's

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<v Speaker 2>on mamama dot com. Go over read. Thank you for

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<v Speaker 2>coming on the tickut. We adore you.

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<v Speaker 3>My absolute pleasure. Guys,