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Happy Tuesday, everyone, It's the Pickup 0:00:41.379 --> 0:00:42.819 with Britt Hockeley and Laura Burn. 0:00:43.659 --> 0:00:46.619 Laura, I, this might be embarrassing that I'm about to 0:00:46.619 --> 0:00:48.339 admit that I just learned something new. 0:00:48.579 --> 0:00:51.099 You know that everything's opped in when you are broadcasting 0:00:51.139 --> 0:00:51.739 lab on radio. 0:00:51.819 --> 0:00:55.139 Well, no, I accidentally discovered something on an app that 0:00:55.219 --> 0:00:57.419 we all use every single day, and I don't know 0:00:57.419 --> 0:01:01.579 if I'm late to the party. So on Instagram, when 0:01:01.619 --> 0:01:03.859 you are on a reel, like when you're watching a reel, 0:01:04.339 --> 0:01:07.578 did you guys know that you can play it at 0:01:07.619 --> 0:01:09.018 two three four speed? 0:01:10.139 --> 0:01:12.699 No? I didn't know that. Yes, I didn't know. It's fine. 0:01:12.738 --> 0:01:14.099 Do you know what else I learned recently? It was 0:01:14.139 --> 0:01:16.339 because of Sophie Monks. She posted a reel about this. 0:01:16.818 --> 0:01:19.619 If you're watching a reel and then you swipe to 0:01:19.658 --> 0:01:21.298 the left or to the right. I can't remember what 0:01:21.298 --> 0:01:23.338 way it is now, it's top my head. It takes 0:01:23.378 --> 0:01:25.339 you to the page of the reel that you're watching, 0:01:25.499 --> 0:01:28.378 so it's a shortcut. Well, Sophie Monk's mind was blown 0:01:28.419 --> 0:01:29.419 and I was right there with her. 0:01:29.578 --> 0:01:32.098 Listen to this, Laura, I'll watching a reel and you 0:01:32.259 --> 0:01:35.578 just hold your finger down on the edge either side, 0:01:35.619 --> 0:01:37.898 on the left or the right. It will play through 0:01:37.899 --> 0:01:39.859 the reel at like two three speed. 0:01:39.979 --> 0:01:43.379 Doesn't fast forward? Doesn't it just show how minimal our 0:01:43.419 --> 0:01:45.938 attention spans are that now we need to fush all 0:01:46.018 --> 0:01:49.059 the second Literally, reels don't go for longer than a 0:01:49.059 --> 0:01:51.339 minute usually, and we need to rush through them. 0:01:51.579 --> 0:01:52.939 I just wonder how you can. 0:01:52.819 --> 0:01:55.739 Be using something so often and not know anyway it's irrelevant, 0:01:55.779 --> 0:01:55.979 we're not. 0:01:56.619 --> 0:01:57.939 I have a question for you do when you listen 0:01:57.939 --> 0:02:00.459 to podcasts, because obviously we love a podcast here, you know, 0:02:00.539 --> 0:02:03.099 a pickup. Do you listen to them on normal speed 0:02:03.179 --> 0:02:04.619 or do you listen to them fast forwarded? 0:02:04.779 --> 0:02:08.819 Interesting? I have two answers. If it's a podcast that I. 0:02:08.539 --> 0:02:10.859 I annuinely like to listen to, like that I listen 0:02:10.899 --> 0:02:13.619 to weekly, I listen to it always at normal speed, 0:02:14.059 --> 0:02:17.219 but I always listen on to one point twenty five 0:02:17.299 --> 0:02:19.578 or one point five when I'm doing it for research 0:02:19.659 --> 0:02:22.179 on somebody so interesting. Yeah, I don't care about the 0:02:22.219 --> 0:02:25.458 tone or inflection. I'm getting information. But with my favorite people, 0:02:25.698 --> 0:02:28.178 I want to listen to the way that they interact. 0:02:28.339 --> 0:02:31.779 I listen to everything on minimum one point five, usually two, 0:02:32.138 --> 0:02:35.219 every single thing. Yeah, my brain is probably a chaoic 0:02:35.258 --> 0:02:35.819 place to be in. 0:02:37.339 --> 0:02:39.739 Well, Laura, it is that time of year again where 0:02:39.859 --> 0:02:43.219 Australia has the version of the oscars. It is Gold 0:02:43.418 --> 0:02:47.659 Loging nomination time. The nominations have come out and do 0:02:47.739 --> 0:02:50.858 you know what, the women are absolutely cleaning up. There's 0:02:50.859 --> 0:02:53.939 only one bloke. I think Hamish Blake is not surprising. 0:02:54.099 --> 0:02:55.779 I know it's I mean, he's going to be in 0:02:55.779 --> 0:02:56.339 literally dying. 0:02:56.538 --> 0:02:58.418 There's going to be one male who makes it into 0:02:58.418 --> 0:03:00.819 the loading nomination who direct. It's going to be Hamish Blake. 0:03:00.978 --> 0:03:03.419 But there's so many incredible women that have been nominated. 0:03:03.538 --> 0:03:07.019 But one I'm very excited about TV Legend, TV veteran. 0:03:07.099 --> 0:03:08.138 I was in the jungle with her. 0:03:08.179 --> 0:03:10.379 She is hosted I'm a Celebrity, Get Me out of 0:03:10.379 --> 0:03:13.978 Here eleven times. She has been nominated for a Gold 0:03:14.179 --> 0:03:17.379 Logie four times and for some reason is yet to win. 0:03:17.619 --> 0:03:20.299 We're going to try and change that. Julia Morris, Welcome 0:03:20.339 --> 0:03:20.819 to the show. 0:03:21.219 --> 0:03:23.179 Well, I couldn't be more thrilled to be here with you. 0:03:23.258 --> 0:03:25.138 To glorious Humans, Julia. 0:03:25.219 --> 0:03:27.939 We are hard on the campaign trail for you this year. 0:03:28.019 --> 0:03:30.059 We are so behind you. I thought you were a 0:03:30.059 --> 0:03:33.379 shoeing last year. But this year, it is twenty twenty five. 0:03:33.499 --> 0:03:35.099 It is the year of Julia Morris. 0:03:35.179 --> 0:03:38.779 Surely it's the year of the old Miles got to 0:03:38.779 --> 0:03:39.458 get involved. 0:03:39.939 --> 0:03:40.458 Oh my god. 0:03:40.459 --> 0:03:42.979 Everyone's in saying, what's the campaigning going to be? Like? 0:03:43.179 --> 0:03:47.579 I'm like, no, I can barely like feed compass for 0:03:47.659 --> 0:03:49.579 the pick up and drop off. I do not know 0:03:49.699 --> 0:03:53.019 that I'm up the campaigning. You feel like a knucklehead campaigning. 0:03:53.019 --> 0:03:55.699 So I'm like, oh, a friend of mine and I 0:03:56.059 --> 0:03:59.219 just as a coincidentally, we're sort of winging about how 0:03:59.219 --> 0:04:01.339 come we don't you know? I was winging she's not 0:04:01.379 --> 0:04:03.779 in television. I was like, I com I keep sort 0:04:03.779 --> 0:04:05.499 of missing out on bits and pieces. I know I 0:04:05.539 --> 0:04:07.419 am hosting one of the biggest shows in the country, 0:04:07.459 --> 0:04:09.779 so it seems a bit dis in genuous, but I'm 0:04:09.779 --> 0:04:11.739 always you know, looking for like, what's the next thing. 0:04:11.659 --> 0:04:11.979 Going to be? 0:04:12.059 --> 0:04:14.099 How do I broaden out, you know, just to earn 0:04:14.139 --> 0:04:18.939 money to pay the organ We all know as a 0:04:18.939 --> 0:04:24.939 matter of time, everybody loves the sound of slapping. When 0:04:24.979 --> 0:04:29.499 I released the Double d's it sounds like you're at Octoberfest. 0:04:30.059 --> 0:04:34.379 And that's another story altogether. I have been like a 0:04:34.419 --> 0:04:36.659 complete maniac. So the thought of now going into some 0:04:36.699 --> 0:04:39.139 weird self promotion thing, my maid and I I said 0:04:39.139 --> 0:04:42.419 to her, right, let's make a chat show in the backyard. 0:04:42.059 --> 0:04:45.299 I said, My backyard's epic. Let's make a chat show. 0:04:45.619 --> 0:04:48.499 The first episode, it's literally it's mostly out of the 0:04:48.539 --> 0:04:51.379 back of our heads. Oh my god, it's so funny. 0:04:51.419 --> 0:04:55.379 It just accidentally turned into a little mini internet sitcom 0:04:55.939 --> 0:04:58.219 and it's just a couple of people who have no 0:04:58.539 --> 0:05:02.619 idea what they're doing, and it's beyond hilarious. We've never 0:05:02.779 --> 0:05:03.699 been doing parkour. 0:05:04.139 --> 0:05:05.219 Do you talk in my language? 0:05:05.219 --> 0:05:05.379 Now? 0:05:05.419 --> 0:05:06.659 I do sporadic park or to. 0:05:06.739 --> 0:05:08.419 Julia, sorry, do we think that this is gonna she 0:05:08.659 --> 0:05:10.259 the dial on the votes? Are you just having a 0:05:10.259 --> 0:05:12.939 good time in between? Like, well, we've got to get 0:05:12.979 --> 0:05:15.859 the votes as well, Dental, Well, the thing is I thought, well, 0:05:15.859 --> 0:05:18.579 what will end up happening is if my audience. 0:05:18.139 --> 0:05:19.979 That followed me on all my bits and pieces are 0:05:21.099 --> 0:05:24.579 chill with me, not ramming the loads down their throats. 0:05:24.939 --> 0:05:27.019 And so I'm hoping just the fact that I have 0:05:27.219 --> 0:05:31.259 put some effort into making something while a massive life 0:05:31.379 --> 0:05:33.979 is swirling around us all at all times. 0:05:34.299 --> 0:05:35.979 Do you reckon it's going to be the biggest competition 0:05:36.019 --> 0:05:37.459 this year? I mean, do you look at that and 0:05:37.459 --> 0:05:39.459 figure sit there going, oh, they did this and they 0:05:39.459 --> 0:05:39.699 did that? 0:05:39.899 --> 0:05:44.659 Yeah, absolutely, absolutely deep down because you're like, you know, 0:05:44.819 --> 0:05:46.619 you would love to take it. I would love to 0:05:46.659 --> 0:05:49.179 be in history as one of those names. It is 0:05:49.219 --> 0:05:52.179 a tremendous honor. I was talking to someone recently who 0:05:52.219 --> 0:05:54.179 was in House Husbands with me, one of the ladies, 0:05:54.819 --> 0:05:56.939 and we were saying, did you think we'd still be 0:05:57.059 --> 0:05:58.619 hustling at this age? 0:05:58.699 --> 0:05:59.179 It doesn't end. 0:05:59.459 --> 0:06:02.619 It's no seeing as of other industries have moved on 0:06:02.659 --> 0:06:05.459 to either be CEO or CSO or special you know whatever, 0:06:05.659 --> 0:06:08.699 FO and so. You know, but in the end came 0:06:08.779 --> 0:06:12.459 in industry everybody huzzling husy. 0:06:12.979 --> 0:06:15.059 You know what, I think. I think you've got a 0:06:15.219 --> 0:06:16.019 I think you've got a. 0:06:15.979 --> 0:06:19.659 Little secret weapon right at your disposal. We've seen Robert 0:06:19.659 --> 0:06:20.819 Irwin take his shirt off. 0:06:20.819 --> 0:06:21.339 We've seen him. 0:06:21.579 --> 0:06:23.939 Everyone loves him. He's your partner in crime. 0:06:23.979 --> 0:06:26.179 Get him amongst it, Like, I don't think it's we 0:06:26.379 --> 0:06:28.819 think ed, borrow and plead. And if that means stealing 0:06:28.859 --> 0:06:30.779 your shirt to get him on your campaign trail again, 0:06:30.779 --> 0:06:31.539 I think you've got to do it. 0:06:31.979 --> 0:06:33.819 I had to start processing at the beginning of his 0:06:33.939 --> 0:06:36.899 sentence because I was just like, oh, do I need 0:06:36.899 --> 0:06:40.139 to get out of the Andies? Hang on, get the snake. 0:06:40.899 --> 0:06:42.699 I thought I'd seen enough snake, so I've got no 0:06:42.779 --> 0:06:47.779 business with them. And yeah, maybe I'm in the Andes 0:06:47.819 --> 0:06:51.259 in the front yard on the astro tur you could. 0:06:51.099 --> 0:06:52.619 Do it together. We don't discriminate. 0:06:52.699 --> 0:06:55.179 And actually, Sonya, Sonya's up for a LOGI as well. 0:06:55.219 --> 0:06:56.459 It's you're up against some crid. 0:06:56.539 --> 0:06:59.579 Absolutely. That was the other great pleasure about it yesterday. 0:06:59.739 --> 0:07:01.979 And when you're saying, like you do, do you eye 0:07:02.059 --> 0:07:05.579 up the competition, I mean we're all lapy. He was six, 0:07:05.619 --> 0:07:13.539 we've been nominated. One man takes it. Also, HAMI just like, 0:07:13.659 --> 0:07:19.139 please please nobody vote for me. And I was like, mate, 0:07:19.419 --> 0:07:21.779 you know, get your game on. None of us want 0:07:21.779 --> 0:07:23.219 to hand it to us. And let me tell you, 0:07:23.339 --> 0:07:27.139 every single person on that stage, if they talk it, 0:07:27.299 --> 0:07:29.099 you go worthy winner though. 0:07:29.299 --> 0:07:34.099 Ye yes, Julia, we are and so so have your 0:07:34.139 --> 0:07:35.819 back on this. We can't wait to see you up 0:07:35.819 --> 0:07:36.619 there on stage. 0:07:37.259 --> 0:07:39.779 Oh my goodness. Well, let me tell you the speech 0:07:39.819 --> 0:07:42.179 would be unbridled because I've got a feeling the vibebanks 0:07:42.219 --> 0:07:46.179 would have worn off like hours before, so I would 0:07:46.019 --> 0:07:47.859 be and so would the age. 0:07:48.899 --> 0:07:50.619 I get very scared of. 0:07:51.179 --> 0:07:54.219 You know, around that five to eleven at night, You're like, oh, 0:07:54.299 --> 0:07:57.619 that's mummy switching hour, that's. 0:07:58.979 --> 0:08:00.979 Adre is to vote just for that, to see it, 0:08:01.299 --> 0:08:01.739 I'll be like. 0:08:01.859 --> 0:08:05.499 Level, yeah, I've even told my haters. I'm like, from 0:08:05.499 --> 0:08:08.099 what I've observed with the Gold Logi, you sort of 0:08:08.139 --> 0:08:10.659 then done disappeared not long after that. So you're like, well, 0:08:10.939 --> 0:08:13.419 here's the thing. If you hate me, you can make 0:08:13.459 --> 0:08:15.659 me go away by giving me this goal logan. 0:08:17.579 --> 0:08:19.619 There's both sides. You can vote. Now, go and vote 0:08:19.659 --> 0:08:21.619 for Julia Morris to win the Gold Logi at the 0:08:21.619 --> 0:08:24.219 TV Week logos. Everyone, it's a tvweek loogis dot com 0:08:24.259 --> 0:08:29.019 dot a you. I was served something the other day, 0:08:29.019 --> 0:08:31.899 now and I say this because my Instagram social media 0:08:31.939 --> 0:08:35.939 algorithm is one hundred percent pregnancy and baby related. 0:08:35.939 --> 0:08:37.619 At the moment, I thought, you don't say serve something 0:08:37.619 --> 0:08:38.819 like you at a restaurant, like someone. 0:08:38.699 --> 0:08:42.139 Ser service divorce papers. Actually I did not get served 0:08:42.139 --> 0:08:44.619 tovorce papers. But it is what we're talking about. It's 0:08:44.659 --> 0:08:46.419 a new theory and there was an article around it, 0:08:46.459 --> 0:08:50.579 and it's called second child divorce syndrome. Now it's all 0:08:50.619 --> 0:08:53.899 around when as a couple you go from having one 0:08:53.979 --> 0:08:56.779 kids to two kids and the additional stress that that 0:08:56.859 --> 0:09:00.139 puts on your relationship with your partner. I mean, when 0:09:00.219 --> 0:09:03.459 I reflect back on when we brought Lola into the world, 0:09:03.579 --> 0:09:06.379 and yes it was COVID and she was like we 0:09:06.419 --> 0:09:10.699 had our kids really close together. I was so deeply 0:09:10.859 --> 0:09:13.859 unprepared for how much going from one to two that 0:09:13.859 --> 0:09:15.819 transition was going to be so so hard for me. 0:09:15.899 --> 0:09:18.139 And I think because Matt and I had already had 0:09:18.179 --> 0:09:21.579 one kid and having MALEI she was. 0:09:21.579 --> 0:09:22.539 She was an easy child. 0:09:22.619 --> 0:09:24.379 Yeah. What I realized now is that we had like 0:09:24.379 --> 0:09:27.459 a unicorn baby. She slept well, she ate well, she 0:09:27.619 --> 0:09:30.059 was a relatively easy baby, and it made us feel 0:09:30.099 --> 0:09:32.699 so cocky and secure that we were like Oh my god, 0:09:33.019 --> 0:09:35.899 We've got this parenting thing down, Cake, Let's have a 0:09:35.899 --> 0:09:39.099 second one. And so we had Lola really shortly afterwards. 0:09:39.139 --> 0:09:43.179 They're only about nineteen twenty months apart. And going from 0:09:43.499 --> 0:09:47.139 one to two was by far the hardest transition that 0:09:47.219 --> 0:09:49.179 I've ever made in my adult life in any way 0:09:49.219 --> 0:09:51.619 and any capacity. I mean when I think about work 0:09:51.659 --> 0:09:55.098 transitions or starting new jobs, or starting new relationships or 0:09:55.139 --> 0:09:59.059 going through breakups, one to two kids absolutely knocked me sideways. 0:09:59.179 --> 0:10:02.059 And it was trying to juggle two babies at two 0:10:02.059 --> 0:10:05.139 different schedules. It was the sleep. It's also the pressure 0:10:05.179 --> 0:10:07.259 it puts in your relationship because you no longer have 0:10:07.379 --> 0:10:11.339 time for relationship in the same capacity that you did earlier. 0:10:11.579 --> 0:10:15.219 And on top of that, Lola wasn't necessarily the easiest baby. 0:10:15.299 --> 0:10:18.099 Yeah, she was a really tricky baby and didn't sleep well, 0:10:18.139 --> 0:10:20.579 and there was a lot of crying and I felt 0:10:20.619 --> 0:10:24.259 constantly touched out and exhausted because she would only sleep 0:10:24.299 --> 0:10:26.059 on me. So I had to have her in a carrier, 0:10:26.419 --> 0:10:28.459 sitting up in bed with two pillows prop behind me. 0:10:28.499 --> 0:10:30.459 And that's how I slept for six weeks, just sitting 0:10:30.539 --> 0:10:33.619 upright in my bed and whenever I have friends who 0:10:33.619 --> 0:10:36.539 are talking about having kids or they're in that sort 0:10:36.539 --> 0:10:40.379 of like the absolute trenches of the early years of parenting. 0:10:40.899 --> 0:10:44.739 I always say, don't make any decisions about your relationship 0:10:45.099 --> 0:10:49.699 when you're in those trenches, because something that feels completely permanent, 0:10:49.779 --> 0:10:52.299 like little being in that phase of little kids, when 0:10:52.339 --> 0:10:54.659 it's all consuming and how hard it can be on 0:10:54.699 --> 0:10:58.619 your relationship. Sometimes people make very permanent decisions around a 0:10:58.699 --> 0:11:00.819 time that is not permanent. And I say that because 0:11:00.819 --> 0:11:02.899 now that our kids are five years and four years, 0:11:03.299 --> 0:11:05.059 I kind of feel like I finally have a handle 0:11:05.099 --> 0:11:07.539 on it and it's so much easier, and Matt and 0:11:07.579 --> 0:11:09.419 I have so much more time for each other and. 0:11:09.459 --> 0:11:11.059 Where you decide to have a third one, I were 0:11:11.099 --> 0:11:11.659 in such. 0:11:11.459 --> 0:11:15.379 A better state. But I think because now I understand 0:11:15.579 --> 0:11:19.259 how short lived that time is, that absolute pressure cooker 0:11:19.299 --> 0:11:21.699 of having little kids, is that it makes me feel 0:11:21.699 --> 0:11:23.379 a little bit better about the fact that, like, we're 0:11:23.419 --> 0:11:25.339 all on the same page all right, eighteen months, it's 0:11:25.379 --> 0:11:27.219 going to be really, really hard, and then we're going 0:11:27.259 --> 0:11:29.339 to slowly come out and like come up for air again, 0:11:29.379 --> 0:11:31.299 and we're just kind of I think we're a little 0:11:31.339 --> 0:11:32.979 bit more prepared for the impact it's going to have 0:11:33.019 --> 0:11:35.699 this time, yeah, yeah, rather than taking it and thinking 0:11:36.019 --> 0:11:36.659 it's doomsday. 0:11:36.739 --> 0:11:37.499 But what's the theory. 0:11:37.659 --> 0:11:40.019 Well, the theory is around how a lot of relationships 0:11:40.059 --> 0:11:41.979 break down in that period of going from one to 0:11:42.019 --> 0:11:44.899 two kids, and how it has like some people feel 0:11:44.899 --> 0:11:48.899 as though it has this irreparable effect on their relationship 0:11:48.939 --> 0:11:50.099 that they can't get over. 0:11:50.739 --> 0:11:52.499 To be fair, I mean, I remember talking to my 0:11:52.499 --> 0:11:53.059 parents about this. 0:11:53.139 --> 0:11:55.059 My mum and dad had been married nearly fifty years 0:11:55.099 --> 0:11:57.339 and they've had four kids and we're all really close. 0:11:57.899 --> 0:11:59.339 I remember them saying the same thing. 0:11:59.419 --> 0:12:02.459 It's like, you feel like you're never going to get 0:12:02.499 --> 0:12:04.419 out of it, and you feel like you're never going 0:12:04.459 --> 0:12:06.419 to be able to afford things again, You're never gonna 0:12:06.419 --> 0:12:08.659 have time for each other again, you never whatever, you're 0:12:08.739 --> 0:12:11.419 going to sleep properly again, And all of a sudden, 0:12:11.499 --> 0:12:13.779 the light lifts and then you're like, oh, Okay, the 0:12:13.779 --> 0:12:15.379 best years of my life were actually going to come 0:12:15.499 --> 0:12:18.779 after this because we stuck it through together and didn't 0:12:18.779 --> 0:12:21.459 make those decisions when you're in the depths of despair. 0:12:21.579 --> 0:12:22.939 Yeah, And I think that maybe there's a bit of 0:12:22.939 --> 0:12:26.459 a misconception, and I know everyone's parenting experience is different. 0:12:26.459 --> 0:12:27.659 But I do think that there's a bit of a 0:12:27.699 --> 0:12:31.219 misconception they're going from nothing to one is the hardest 0:12:31.219 --> 0:12:33.219 transition because you go from not knowing what it's like 0:12:33.299 --> 0:12:35.179 to having kids to having a baby that you've got 0:12:35.219 --> 0:12:37.099 to care for. But I think for a lot of 0:12:37.099 --> 0:12:39.739 people that's actually the going from one kid to two kids. 0:12:40.059 --> 0:12:43.059 That's the hardest transition because you think you're prepared, you 0:12:43.139 --> 0:12:45.779 think you have it down pat and actually it really 0:12:46.259 --> 0:12:47.779 I mean, at least for us, and if anyone else 0:12:47.779 --> 0:12:51.179 has experienced it, it completely knocked us sideways. And so 0:12:51.499 --> 0:12:53.739 I do feel as though I'm going into number three 0:12:54.419 --> 0:12:57.579 a little bit more realistic. So do you think about 0:12:57.579 --> 0:12:58.539 how hard it's going to be. 0:12:58.659 --> 0:13:01.019 Would you think number three is going to be easier 0:13:01.059 --> 0:13:02.739 because you like, do you think it's the opposite, like 0:13:02.859 --> 0:13:05.579 two's harder than trees easier because the kid's older, You've 0:13:05.579 --> 0:13:07.299 done it, you know it inside out. 0:13:07.539 --> 0:13:10.059 I am not going to allow myself to lull myself 0:13:10.059 --> 0:13:11.458 into the false like I'm. 0:13:11.259 --> 0:13:12.659 Not having any defenses, Laura. 0:13:12.699 --> 0:13:14.939 I will not have the security so I have I've 0:13:15.059 --> 0:13:17.539 if anything, I think I've over prepared myself for how 0:13:17.539 --> 0:13:20.339 hard it's going to be that. I'm hoping I'll be 0:13:20.339 --> 0:13:22.978 pleasantly surprised or at least it will meet my expectations. 0:13:23.059 --> 0:13:25.139 That's it have the bar so long on the ground. 0:13:25.179 --> 0:13:27.739 There's only one way, so we make it sound terrible. 0:13:27.939 --> 0:13:30.299 Being a mom is amazing, it really is. That's why 0:13:30.299 --> 0:13:31.339 we all go back and do it again. 0:13:33.299 --> 0:13:36.139 So, Laura, on the weekend, I tried to do what 0:13:36.259 --> 0:13:38.819 I think was a really good deed, well for myself 0:13:38.819 --> 0:13:41.419 and for my sister. But what I did was I 0:13:41.459 --> 0:13:44.218 went through all my cupboards and cleaned everything out. You 0:13:44.259 --> 0:13:46.059 know where you have this like, I just had too 0:13:46.139 --> 0:13:48.219 much stuff that I've accumulated for years. I could open 0:13:48.219 --> 0:13:51.219 my wardrobe and stuff from fifteen years ago would tumble 0:13:51.259 --> 0:13:52.739 out and almost suffocate me. 0:13:52.939 --> 0:13:56.419 I have seen your wardrobe, brit and one thing like, yes, 0:13:56.499 --> 0:13:58.139 you have a lot of clothes, But the thing is 0:13:58.139 --> 0:14:00.179 is you also don't throw anything away, so you keep 0:14:00.219 --> 0:14:03.099 all of your clothes, like you have multiple wardrobes. But 0:14:03.139 --> 0:14:04.819 I think because most of it's stuff that you'll keep 0:14:04.819 --> 0:14:05.859 on rotation, right. 0:14:05.779 --> 0:14:07.979 Yes I do. I'm a real sucker for I'm like 0:14:08.019 --> 0:14:10.539 a horde of clothes. Like some of my favorite pieces 0:14:10.539 --> 0:14:12.459 of clothing are from fifteen years ago, so I don't 0:14:12.459 --> 0:14:13.578 necessarily just keep them. 0:14:13.619 --> 0:14:14.859 I just love I don't. 0:14:14.659 --> 0:14:18.779 Fit anything from fifteen years ago where we are yellow. 0:14:18.819 --> 0:14:20.699 And I kind of have a rule now because my 0:14:20.899 --> 0:14:23.259 wardrobes one a time was very similar. But I have 0:14:23.299 --> 0:14:24.979 a rule that if I haven't worn it in a year, 0:14:25.339 --> 0:14:26.899 it goes. I give it away to someone, or I 0:14:26.979 --> 0:14:29.059 give it to Salvos. But I can't. I can't keep that. 0:14:28.979 --> 0:14:31.219 When he closes my house every like I don't know, 0:14:31.259 --> 0:14:33.499 six to eight months, I do clean out, and I 0:14:33.539 --> 0:14:35.459 send everything to the Salvos, or I give it to 0:14:35.499 --> 0:14:36.899 my sister or a friend to go through. 0:14:36.779 --> 0:14:39.419 If it's like good quality stuff. So I went through. 0:14:39.499 --> 0:14:41.739 I'd been going through it for probably the last four 0:14:41.779 --> 0:14:44.219 months and slowly putting things into bags because I knew 0:14:44.219 --> 0:14:46.059 my sister was going to move back from overseas. I 0:14:46.179 --> 0:14:47.779 always let her go through and pick stuff and then 0:14:47.779 --> 0:14:51.819 I take it to a charity store. And so I'd 0:14:51.819 --> 0:14:55.339 been accumulating these bags, and one was just bin like 0:14:55.379 --> 0:14:57.739 stuff that was just so far gone, moths of eaten 0:14:57.779 --> 0:14:58.299 it or whatever. 0:14:58.459 --> 0:15:00.819 Like I'm talking the dregs of my wardrobe. 0:15:00.979 --> 0:15:02.819 You're like, I would be embarrassed to give this to someone. 0:15:02.939 --> 0:15:03.139 Yeah. 0:15:03.139 --> 0:15:04.699 Then I had the stuff that my sister could go 0:15:04.739 --> 0:15:06.299 through that was like calling you I would fit out. 0:15:06.299 --> 0:15:08.099 Then I had the bag that was just going. 0:15:07.979 --> 0:15:11.899 Straight to the chain win anyway, So I handed off 0:15:11.899 --> 0:15:13.419 to my sister and she went back to the Gold 0:15:13.419 --> 0:15:16.459 Coast because she doesn't live near me and I don't 0:15:16.459 --> 0:15:19.019 hear from about it, and I was like really excited 0:15:19.019 --> 0:15:21.259 because I was giving her really quality stuff. Anyway, So 0:15:21.339 --> 0:15:23.379 I bring it up and I said to her, did 0:15:23.419 --> 0:15:27.819 you go through the bag? And she's like, yeah, I did. 0:15:28.139 --> 0:15:30.939 I was like, okay, did you keep anything? Like did 0:15:30.979 --> 0:15:33.739 you like it or like you're welcome? She's like no, 0:15:33.899 --> 0:15:34.979 I think you would be nice. 0:15:35.019 --> 0:15:37.259 She's like no, Brittany, it was disgusting. When I threw 0:15:37.299 --> 0:15:38.699 it out. I was like, I was like, you didn't 0:15:38.779 --> 0:15:43.299 keep one thing nothing. She's like, no, nothing, Why would I? 0:15:43.339 --> 0:15:44.499 And I was so confused. 0:15:44.499 --> 0:15:46.859 I was like, there's some of my best pieces and 0:15:46.979 --> 0:15:47.819 she was like what. 0:15:48.939 --> 0:15:51.059 It turns out I gave her a bag of like 0:15:51.339 --> 0:15:52.659 the oldest. 0:15:52.379 --> 0:15:55.059 Undies that you've ever seen, like undies. 0:15:54.699 --> 0:15:56.379 That I've worn that have holes in them, that have 0:15:56.539 --> 0:15:58.259 like these are undies that have been through it. 0:15:58.339 --> 0:16:00.019 I gave her stuff with moth holes in it. 0:16:00.099 --> 0:16:01.899 I gave her the bag that was supposed to go 0:16:01.899 --> 0:16:03.539 straight to the bin, not even a bag that could 0:16:03.579 --> 0:16:04.979 go to a charity, not nothing. 0:16:05.059 --> 0:16:07.059 This is like you'd burn this bag. 0:16:06.859 --> 0:16:08.819 And that's what she thought I gifted her. It's the 0:16:08.859 --> 0:16:11.539 bag of pos where you know they've lived alive, they 0:16:11.579 --> 0:16:13.379 have lived a century of life. 0:16:13.379 --> 0:16:15.899 I've seen some stuff and I was mortified. 0:16:16.299 --> 0:16:17.939 So what happened to the bag that she was meant 0:16:17.979 --> 0:16:19.539 to get? Did you actually take that one to the 0:16:19.539 --> 0:16:22.179 salvosn that's so annoying. 0:16:22.299 --> 0:16:24.419 Yeah, but that's great. There's really great subber videos. 0:16:24.419 --> 0:16:26.179 But I was mortified to think that I gave my 0:16:26.179 --> 0:16:29.259 sister a bag of like dirty undies. I don't want 0:16:29.259 --> 0:16:30.739 to say it on radio, but I was like, old 0:16:30.859 --> 0:16:33.179 use undies because I keep bundies for like I. 0:16:33.059 --> 0:16:34.899 Know you do too, Laura, Oh yeah. 0:16:34.659 --> 0:16:38.139 Twenty years. I keep underwear until it no longer has 0:16:38.179 --> 0:16:40.259 an elastic, which is coming really handy because I now 0:16:40.299 --> 0:16:41.939 my butt's about twice the size it used to be 0:16:41.979 --> 0:16:43.419 and all those undies hit me again? 0:16:44.059 --> 0:16:45.659 Do you like how I'm trying to whisper it like 0:16:45.939 --> 0:16:46.979 Australia can't hear it? 0:16:46.979 --> 0:16:47.539 If I whisper it. 0:16:47.579 --> 0:16:49.179 I was like, I gave her a bag of dirty undies, 0:16:49.179 --> 0:16:49.819 like you're still see it. 0:16:50.739 --> 0:16:52.339 I feel like this is a lesson for everyone, though. 0:16:52.339 --> 0:16:53.579 If you're going to do a clean out, you got 0:16:53.619 --> 0:16:55.499 to label stuff. It's sem like if you're moving house. 0:16:55.939 --> 0:16:59.259