WEBVTT - Call it Daddy issues - Attachment Theory 0:00:21.280 --> 0:00:24.920 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:28.200 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany. Hi, Brittany, how you going. 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:31.040 Brennie's very tired. She didn't get to bed until four 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:33.479 am last night, guys. And now it's Monday morning and 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:35.760 we're bringing you the episode. Now. I don't want you 0:00:35.800 --> 0:00:38.360 to think I was out going wild, because I totally 0:00:38.479 --> 0:00:41.320 was not her in her single life. Just can't get 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:44.800 home in a Sunday night. No. I started filming a 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:47.159 new film, just like a really small role in the 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:51.720 Speature film. But it literally ran so far over the clock. 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:53.680 It was supposed to finish at about eleven PM, and 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:55.280 it was four am and I was still doing scenes, 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:56.880 and I was like, I have to get up in 0:00:56.920 --> 0:00:58.840 four hours to record a podcast. I need to go 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:00.760 to bed. So Britte is so far beyond the point 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:03.240 of tie that she actually looks high right now. She's 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:06.440 great for everyone. We're gonna bring you some solid content today. 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:08.319 I felt. I promised. You know, when you wake up 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:10.440 tired and you feel hungover, I haven't had a drink 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:13.480 in in ages. I haven't had been drinking at all. 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:15.480 I know. Thank you, guys. I'm sure, you're really patting 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:19.520 me on the back right now, but I feel hung over, 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:22.920 and I'm sorry. Whilst you're running me off. I wish 0:01:22.920 --> 0:01:27.080 you guys could see the state or Laura. Okay, I 0:01:27.120 --> 0:01:29.000 have felt hungover for an entire fucking year because I 0:01:29.040 --> 0:01:31.920 have a one year old and right now I look 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:36.160 exactly the point in case. The point in case, yeah whatever, 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:38.520 I woke up at six. I woke up at six 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:41.360 this morning with Marley, and I haven't showered or brushed 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:43.959 my hair or done anything yet because I don't exist 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:45.840 as a person anymore and everything I do is to 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:48.960 keep one year old alive. So this is yeah, Oh 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:51.240 they took a dark, dark turn. Anyway, here we are. 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:52.840 How was your week. I haven't seen you in a 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:55.960 few days because you went on a vacation. I spent 0:01:56.040 --> 0:01:58.520 one night at a at a hotel, which definitely felt 0:01:58.560 --> 0:02:01.600 like I went on a vacation. I have had a 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:06.280 pretty uneventful week except for Saturday. I spent Saturday helping 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:09.440 Matt shoot some content where he spent the entire day 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:13.680 dressed in drag, So I was like, that's mommonian, Why 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:16.440 hang on? What do I feel like every second week? 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:19.120 Matt's dresses a woman. Well, I think it's a fetish, 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:21.120 to be honest, There's got to be something in that 0:02:21.240 --> 0:02:23.440 because he's always like, hey, babe, I have an idea 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:28.640 for a video. I'll dress as a woman. Yeah, guys, 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:31.440 if you follow my Instagram or Matt's Instagram, you would 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:34.240 know that this seems to be a running theme. I 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:37.200 was actually at work on Thursday, and often when Matt 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:39.639 calls me and I'm at the office, I put him 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:42.000 on the loudspeaker, and so it was just because then 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:43.440 I can have my hands free and I can do 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:45.880 work whilst he's talking. Anyway, I had him on my 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:48.359 outh speaker and two of my employees were in the 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:51.840 office sitting at their desks, and Matt goes, oh, babe, 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:54.320 I I need some of your clothes that I can 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:57.600 wear for Saturday. I was like, okay, well, I'll have 0:02:57.639 --> 0:02:59.480 to find something tonight because I don't want you stretching 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:01.400 my clothes. And he goes, well, what about that dress 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:06.640 of yours? I sometimes wear both my stuff, which is like, 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:10.000 what the fuck is going on? That makes it sound 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:12.040 like he just walks around the house for fundsies in 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:13.880 your clothes, which he does, doesn't He totally? And I 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:16.239 was like, this is a completely normal conversation that we 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:18.720 have often. But the funny thing is it is probably 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:20.519 normal to you. You're like, oh, I know that one. Yeah, 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:22.200 just cleaned it for your honey. Yeah. I was like, 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:24.280 it's a Grace Loves Lace six hundred dollars dress that 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:25.959 you like to put on. No problem, I'll pull it 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:27.400 out of the wardrobe for you. He's like, I just 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:30.040 love to feel a bit at my skin really really 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.800 defines his silhouette. Anyway, I'm all here for it. I'm like, 0:03:33.080 --> 0:03:34.920 if that's his cank and he wants to do it, 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:37.160 he can pretend it's for social media. We all know 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:38.880 the truth, and I'm here for it. I'm going to 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:41.000 support that man to the day and die. Does it 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:44.720 do anything for you seeing him dressed in Grace Loves Lace, Well, 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.280 considering the fact that our sex life has rapidly declined 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:49.800 in the last year, potentially not. I heard you almost 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:53.520 had sex on the weekend, So Matt told me. He's like, 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:56.320 it was really great to almost have sex. No, Matt 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:58.680 was like, Matt was like, please don't talk about me 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:00.680 dressed in drag on your podcast. Why don't you just 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:03.120 talk about the fact that we almost had sex? And 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:04.640 I was like, oh, I'll talk about that as well, 0:04:04.640 --> 0:04:07.680 then I'll do boats. So that was a big overshare. 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:15.160 We didn't it didn't quite happen. You don't have to 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:21.599 keep sharing like we're good the end. Anyway, how about 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:25.120 the Bachelor, no brand? How about your week? Tell me 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:26.960 what's been having to go in your life? I don't. 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:29.359 I could cry. I'm so tired. I actually don't have 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:33.560 anything to tell you. I have two I have two 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:37.160 mishaps in my you know how. Sometimes actually it's happened 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:40.800 quite a lot. I write an email and I do 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:42.160 it too quickly, and I don't look at what I'm 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:44.440 saying in auto creaks and I send it. Yeah, like 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:46.880 the time I sent an email to my entire department 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:50.920 saying kind retards Laura Burn. Yeah, so I did that twice, 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:55.080 two different people for the same day. Firstly, one was 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:59.000 supposed to say hey Jesse, and I wrote, Hey, Jesus, 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:05.440 I sent you the shining Light Jesse, you surely are 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:07.839 the savior that we all need. I actually don't know 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:10.279 which one's worse. You'll have to tell me. So I said, hey, Jesus. 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.480 And then later on that day, I went to say 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:15.800 hey lovely, because I often will do that if I 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:18.360 sort of know the person, Hey lovely, and I wrote, 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:22.839 hay lonely, she's probably dopally she hasn't gone through a 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:27.280 break up recently. I reckon that, hey lonely. If someone 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:28.960 wrote that to me, I'd probably just go and lock 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:30.920 myself in my room with a double of ice cream. 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:33.200 I'm imagining if somebody wrote that to you, you're like, oh, 0:05:33.279 --> 0:05:34.960 that was the icing on the cake that set me 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:37.560 into a stage four breakdown. It would be I'm ready, 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:39.080 you're like talking through what happened. I was like, well, 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:42.400 it started with an auto correction, and do we have 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:44.680 any dating stories for me this week? I'm just gonna 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:46.800 really pry into your personal life since we all know 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:50.200 too much about mine. Right, So I went on a 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:52.760 walking date. We're on a walking date with a guy, 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:54.600 like I didn't really think it through much. It was 0:05:54.640 --> 0:05:56.800 online and spoken to him really briefly. I don't like 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:58.680 to speak to people for a long time and drag 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:01.440 it out because I'm I am too old. No, But 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:03.080 I'm also for that as well. I think if you've 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:06.279 connected with someone online. You can end up becoming penpals 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:08.360 and like, that's not what we're here for. I mean, yes, 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:10.560 twenty twenty has been a bit different, and like obviously 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:13.880 people haven't been able to act on their online connections 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:16.520 as quickly and as easily. But I think if you've 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:20.120 contacted someone online, you guys vibe you have things in common. 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:22.919 It's like within a week you have to set a 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:25.040 date or a time or something to see each other. 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:27.000 You can't just penpal each other to death, for sure. 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:28.520 And it was alright for me when I was younger. 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:30.640 I quite enjoyed talking to people and having the fun 0:06:30.680 --> 0:06:35.479 and just having something there. I am so short on time, energy, patient, 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:39.200 Like I've been fucking whittled down. Guys, I have been 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:43.480 burnt into the ground. They were literally like age, sex, location, cool, 0:06:43.520 --> 0:06:46.600 I'll be there. No, I'm like we just chat and 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:47.960 he's like, what are you up to today? And I'm like, 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:49.800 you know what, I've actually got our free if you're around, 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:51.880 let's get a coffee and go for a walk. And 0:06:51.920 --> 0:06:54.960 he was like, yeah, okay, so sorry you said craffee, 0:06:56.360 --> 0:06:58.960 didn't pick it up, Okay, just leave this. But I 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.120 went for a coffee not a c and so we 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:04.960 met straight away. Now this doesn't often happen to me, 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:06.920 but I do get a really good reading straight away 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:09.880 on somebody. He walked around the corner of the coffee shop, 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:12.040 and as soon as I saw him, I just the 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:14.360 energy wasn't right. And I know that sounds crazy, but 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:16.120 I was like, I just know that this isn't going 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:20.200 to be great. Within one minute, I was like, oh 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:22.640 my gosh, this is going to be really, really hard. 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:27.240 I just knew that it wasn't going anywhere. And he 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:29.800 was a great guy. Don't get me wrong, it was fun, 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:32.960 like it was just it was it was not easy, 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:35.720 and I think it should be easy. The conversation wasn't easy. 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:38.600 I don't know if he was nervous or something, but 0:07:38.640 --> 0:07:40.600 I had to really like, you know, mate, you guys 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:42.880 know I can talk under water. But it was hard. 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:45.440 What do you do in that situation? Like? Is it okay? 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:48.080 If you are instantly not vibing someone, you know it's 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:50.320 not going to go anywhere. Can you cut that date short? 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:52.080 Can you do like a twenty five minute and be like, hey, 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:53.960 nice to meet you, not for me? Like can you 0:07:54.000 --> 0:08:05.320 do that? You can? But I don't dating him. No, guys, 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:09.920 that wasn't even funny, No, because well I don't like 0:08:09.960 --> 0:08:12.600 to hurt someone's feelings to that point. And we were 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:13.960 going for a walk. It was a nice day. And 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:16.200 also like I couldn't walk halfway and get uber back. 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:19.120 I had to walk back, so like you know, fair, 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:21.600 and also like a walking date is pretty harmless, Like 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:23.800 you can spend an hour in someone's company who you 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:25.520 know you're not gonna end up dating, and just do 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:28.120 the niceties of having a chat. And it was a 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:30.559 nice day anyway, So it was and look, it was fine. 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:32.360 It was just all I'm saying. I'm not saying it 0:08:32.440 --> 0:08:34.439 was a bad date. I'm just saying I just knew 0:08:34.559 --> 0:08:37.360 straightaway that it was never gonna go anywhere. And I'm 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:41.480 really big on being honest now because I hate people ghosting. 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:43.959 This is my advice and anyone ever listens. I think 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:46.520 it's better to be the bigger person and be really honest. 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:48.760 I'm the same. If someone doesn't feel it with me, 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:50.840 I would hope they would write to me and be 0:08:50.960 --> 0:08:53.880 honest and say, great, had a great day, You're an 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.640 amazing person. Didn't feel anything like whatever, And I wouldn't 0:08:56.840 --> 0:08:59.880 like hands down, couldn't care less. If that was a 0:08:59.880 --> 0:09:02.440 first or second date, I'd be like cool, no worries. 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:05.520 So at the end of the day, he said, because 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:07.480 we matched online. And I think if you don't like 0:09:07.640 --> 0:09:09.520 not that you owe someone anything that early on in 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:11.439 a relationship. But it's not even a relationship, like you 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:13.880 don't owe someone anything. But there is a nice way 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:16.000 and a rude way to handle things. I think if 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:18.839 you've met someone, you've given them your time. Sending some 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:21.199 sort of like conclusion message is a nice way to 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:23.959 bundle things up. However, you don't need to go into 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:26.480 why you don't feel it with them, Like they don't 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:28.400 need to be criticized on what you think about them 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:31.679 based on their very limited experience with you. I think 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:33.559 with me, if he didn't say anything at the end, 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:35.280 if we both just left and said, hey, had a 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:36.800 great time, see you later, I have a great day, 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:39.760 I wouldn't. I wouldn't follow up and like tell him 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:41.480 that I just want to see him again, like it 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:44.600 just send me this message, Look, you seem great, but 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:47.080 I'm just look I can't commit to they need to 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:49.600 back that's not you as me, No, but the whole 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:51.760 thing was at the end we matched online. At the end, 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:54.040 he's like, hey, had a really great time. This is 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:56.400 like in person, and he went to play his phone. 0:09:56.440 --> 0:10:00.280 He's like, can I get your number? And what you 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:02.280 look at your phone? I'm like, what do you do? Yes? 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:06.800 So I said, oh, I'll take one to run away. 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:10.640 I follow lost my phone. I said, hey, I'll just 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:13.640 send it to you on hinge like pre find away, Relax, 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:16.200 I'll send it you a hinge. So we left and 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:18.800 he's like, oh, okay, cool. And I was actually going 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:22.160 to message him because that's what I'm honest, like that 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:25.120 before I got the chance, because I went straight back 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:26.560 to work before I got the chance. It was only 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:29.160 like an hour or so later he messaged and he's like, 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:30.720 this is my number. I had a great time. I'd 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:33.079 love to see you again. I wrote back a few 0:10:33.080 --> 0:10:36.400 hours later, Look, you're really great. I had a great 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:39.520 time too. But in complete transparency, I don't think I 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:41.640 felt anything romantic. They're happy to cash up as a 0:10:41.640 --> 0:10:44.120 friend sometime. I think that's a great message. Yeah, that's 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:47.400 totally fine, honest, that's nice, crazy polite, And he wrote back, 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:55.079 this is the funny bit. He wrote back, Oh, thank god, 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:57.560 hundred percent me too. And I was like, but what 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:00.440 you just asked me out? I was like, maybe he's 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:02.560 totally just wanted to have sex with you, which is fair. 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:04.920 I think it was a I think his message was 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:08.240 a panic message, like I think he felt bad that No, 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.360 I didn't want to make him feel bad. I disagree. 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:13.480 I think, you know, there's always some level not always, 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:15.280 but you know, a lot of people will feel some 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:17.559 level of ego bruising whether or not they were into 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:19.840 it or not themselves. But maybe he was into it 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:22.480 and then hearing that you didn't feel something when he did, 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:25.360 there's a defensive mechanism that comes into plate there, and 0:11:25.400 --> 0:11:28.080 he's like, oh, yeah, me either. I was just being paged. Yes, 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:30.600 that was just a defensive mechanism. But I just felt 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:32.520 a bit like I was like, just just own that 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:34.480 and just be like, no worries see you around. 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:36.800 Like yeah, but we can't control other people's reactions, Like no, 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:38.560 it's totally on him. And for any men out there 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:40.280 who listened to this podcast who were wanting a date 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:42.600 with Brittany, I just recommend rocking up wearing a red 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:43.080 flag as. 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:44.960 A T shirt and she'll be like, that's my man. 0:11:45.400 --> 0:11:47.600 I often asked to meet them. I'm like, the only 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:49.000 way I'm gonna know where you are is if you 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:51.200 stand outside the coffee shop with a red flag, Like, 0:11:52.160 --> 0:11:55.120 hold a flag. I can only recognize you in that way. 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:58.400 You know, that's probably as exciting as this week got. Guys. Well, 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:00.400 guys that this week has been an exciting week. There 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:02.840 has been so much happening, which actually it was last week, 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:04.920 not this week, because this week hasn't really happened yet. 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:07.640 Last week the Bachelor started, which we're going to get into. 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:11.040 We are also going to talk about some other things 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:14.840 we're actually going to touch on. I want to tell 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:18.520 you about the Bachelor in America, the Bachelourette. Something happened 0:12:18.600 --> 0:12:21.640 ooh the og? All right, okay, I'm down for that. 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:23.720 I don't follow the American Bachelorette, so this is going 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:25.360 to be news for me. I don't either, but just 0:12:25.360 --> 0:12:28.360 read end I thought it was interesting. So we also 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:29.720 want to tell you what we're going to be talking 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:31.880 about for today's podcasts, so that you don't have to 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:34.520 listen to thirty five minutes of us dribbling on without 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:36.760 actually having a clear idea of what the fuck you're 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:38.080 in for. I don't know. I think this is the 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:42.439 best content. So today's episode, if you guys remember a 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:44.360 few weeks back, we actually did an episode which was 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:47.040 all about love languages and that we had such a 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:49.800 great response to that episode, all about how you communicate 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:52.240 and how you show love and receive love. Today we're 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:53.880 doing a follow up to that episode, which is all 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:57.480 about attachment styles and how you relate and bond with 0:12:57.520 --> 0:13:00.400 your adult partner. Adult partner. That was weird, how you 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:03.400 relate or bond with your boyfriend or your girlfriend or whoever. 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:06.240 It is, the important relationships, Yeah, but also how you 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:09.120 bond and attach yourself to your friendship groups as well, 0:13:09.559 --> 0:13:12.760 and how that that's actually linked to your relationship with 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:15.120 your parents and your daddy issues. So we're gonna get 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:17.719 really into that later on. But before we do get 0:13:17.760 --> 0:13:19.839 into that, yeah, we have some other shit we want 0:13:19.840 --> 0:13:22.360 to cover first. Why can we jump straight in to 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:24.560 the Bachelor? What do you think? I think? We don't 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:26.000 go deep. I just want to know what your thoughts 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:29.840 are overall. I like, like, let's not go deep. It's 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:33.800 like it's the most like superficially fantastic. I love it. 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:36.920 But it's like hardly deep conversation the cocktail party night. No, 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:39.480 I mean, let's not go into detail. Oh, it's just 0:13:39.520 --> 0:13:42.280 like that zapp's my energy. Okay. So for anybody who 0:13:42.320 --> 0:13:44.440 was following along on the Facebook group, if you're not 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:47.120 part of the group, then here is my plug and 0:13:47.160 --> 0:13:48.920 a bit of a housekeeping as well. We have a 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:53.000 Facebook group It's Life Uncut podcast. We really recommend if 0:13:53.000 --> 0:13:54.920 you're a bit of a Batchel Diehard fan to jump 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:58.160 onto that Facebook group because as the episodes are happening 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:01.160 Bachelor episodes are happening, we have a running thread there 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:04.520 where everyone is kind of contributing their hilarious commentary on 0:14:04.559 --> 0:14:07.040 the whole thing. So there are a couple of questions 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:09.800 that got asked in that Facebook group feed which I 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.120 just wanted to touch on because I thought they're actually 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:14.400 really great questions. Some of them we have the answers. 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:16.719 For some of them, we have no idea what the 0:14:16.760 --> 0:14:19.120 fuck was going on, but from our experience, we thought 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:22.600 we could answer them, starting with the one very. 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:25.880 Important question, where the hell did aribas ham sand? Which 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:29.720 come from Printey, I always. 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:32.320 Find this so interesting that it is happening in my 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:33.840 season two. I don't know if it happened to yours. 0:14:34.480 --> 0:14:36.760 When someone's like, can I ask you some questions about Batchlan, 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:38.600 I'm like, of course, open book, ask what you want. 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:41.560 The first question is always about food and what we eat, 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:44.520 and I'm like, you guys could ask me anything. Everyone 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:46.880 always wants to know about the food. I think it's 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:49.680 because there's so much information out there about how production's 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:52.280 manipulative or how like the edit happens, and there's so 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:54.280 much conversation about that, but the actual like day to 0:14:54.320 --> 0:14:56.920 day running, like how do you exercise, how do you 0:14:56.920 --> 0:14:59.160 get food? What does your downtime look like? Those sorts 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.520 of questions are really answered, and that stuff's really interesting, 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:04.040 especially for people who want to enter or actually are 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:06.960 considering going on the show. But they're like, well, I 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:09.480 understand what the outcome is going to be, but I 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:11.120 don't know what the day to day looks like during 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:12.800 the filming. Yeah, like I want to know where I'm 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:15.080 going to get my ham sandwich from. It's very important. 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:17.600 So I think what's happened is so we don't get 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:20.120 food at the cocktail parties. Guys, it's not an actual 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:22.800 cocktail party, but you're you're obviously fed, so you have 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:25.440 a break for dinner, and there's there's food that's catered, 0:15:25.440 --> 0:15:27.640 so there's food all in the kitchen. You actually have 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:29.600 a proper break, You sit down, you eat your food, 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:33.200 but it's food, like it's not sandwiches. Usually it's usually 0:15:33.280 --> 0:15:38.400 rolls and curries and like rice. But I'm wondering if 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:40.560 I mean, it's easy. They could have had sandwiches that night. 0:15:40.640 --> 0:15:42.720 She could have made a sandwich, a ham sandwich because 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:45.800 she's hungry, because you can do that. I'm wondering if 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:48.760 she was actually on a break and they weren't properly 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:51.560 filming when that went down, and the cameraman just decided 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:53.200 to grab it because it was content, So I think 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:55.440 she was probably just sitting there and eating. Yeah. I 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:56.640 was really surprised by it. 0:15:56.680 --> 0:15:58.160 And when everyone was asking where did she get the 0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:00.520 ham sandwich from, I was like, I have no idea, 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:03.800 because you never are allowed to eat, especially production food 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:06.680 in like a plastic container on on set, Like it 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:09.600 just doesn't happen. So I'm thinking it's the same thing. 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:12.480 Usually there's a catering truck that comes and they cater 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:16.400 so mid break they do a like a food break. 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:18.400 And then they do a big break at the end 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:20.400 after the row ceremony, so you do have like these 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:24.400 two separate times to eat. But we were absolutely not allowed. 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:26.360 To bring any of the catering food on set, So 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:28.360 when I saw her there with her dirty ham sandwich, 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:32.920 I was like, you're a queen because that was my sandwich. Also, guys, 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:35.320 the first lines filmed over two days, so they're really 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:38.360 really big days, so she's probably just famished. She probably 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:41.680 scurried off to quickly like get some sustenance in her. 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:46.400 She was attacked stage left, and I reckon the cameramen 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:49.000 are just like poink bingo turn their cameras because the 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:51.240 cameras never shut down. They're always there. Even if the 0:16:51.280 --> 0:16:54.080 cameramen are like lulling around on the break, they're always 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:56.800 ready for action. Yeah, I think it was a bit opportunistic, 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:58.880 But you kind of just answered a second question that 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:01.280 came up on that group chat, which was because I 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:04.240 had mentioned, oh, like, guys, let's keep some perspective about 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:08.840 how wild Zoe's behaving because the cocktail party is filmed 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:11.120 over two days, and that kind of blew some people's mind. 0:17:11.240 --> 0:17:14.119 So the cocktail, the very first cocktail party. No other 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:16.160 cocktail parties are done in this way, but the very 0:17:16.160 --> 0:17:19.680 first cocktail party is filmed over two separate days. Basically, 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:21.239 you get up and you get on a bus at 0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:24.760 about eight am, seven am, it's quite early, and then 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:27.520 you start doing hair and makeup in groups. So there's 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:28.600 so many girls to get through. 0:17:28.600 --> 0:17:30.880 There's only a limited amount of makeup and hair artists, 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:33.840 and they do a group at a time, so usually 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:35.760 they split into three different groups. There's a group in 0:17:35.800 --> 0:17:37.280 the morning, a group in the middle, and a group 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:40.960 in the afternoon. So then just before sunset you get 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:44.680 taken to location and then right when dusk happens, that's 0:17:44.720 --> 0:17:47.400 when the first that's when the first like walk down 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:50.360 the walkway, meet their bachelor, blah blah blah, that all happens. 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:53.320 The first night takes so long because it's all the 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:57.040 introductions that by the time they get to the end 0:17:57.080 --> 0:17:59.080 of the cocktail party, the cocktail party has really only 0:17:59.119 --> 0:18:01.040 gone on for a couple of and so the last 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:03.399 girl who arrives has only had like one or two 0:18:03.440 --> 0:18:06.560 hours at the cocktail party. It's about three am, four am, 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:08.679 and they wrap up, put everyone back on the bus, 0:18:09.000 --> 0:18:11.960 take you all home. Then at about seven am six am. 0:18:12.000 --> 0:18:13.760 The next day, you get back up, so you've had 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:16.160 three hours sleep, You get your hair and makeup done 0:18:16.200 --> 0:18:18.240 exactly the same, You get put back into the exact 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:21.320 same clothes, you do the whole thing again, and then 0:18:21.320 --> 0:18:24.560