WEBVTT - How to be your badass self ⚡️ 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.640 So I guess I'm saying is if you're currently feeling 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:07.760 lost or not confident, just know when you get back 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:11.040 to your authentic self, when you find your confidence and 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:16.160 accept yourself just as you are your most authentic self, 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:20.360 that's where the good shit happens. That's where the magic happens. 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:43.279 That's when alignment happens. Hello and welcome back to the 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:48.760 Rise and Podcast. It is your host, Georgie Stephenson. As 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:53.480 some of you may know, I'm currently on maternity leave, 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:58.120 so Tim and I are soaking up the newborn bubble 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:02.480 and new parent life with our little baby girl. But 0:01:02.640 --> 0:01:04.920 I did not want to leave my rn C fan 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:09.760 with nothing, so we are bringing back the best bits 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:11.600 of the Rise and Conquer podcast. 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:14.240 We have nearly over two hundred. 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:16.240 Episodes, so I thought it would be a cool idea 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:21.280 to bring you snippets from the most listened to, the 0:01:21.319 --> 0:01:25.240 most talked about episodes and just give you the best 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:29.720 bits in a mini episode. So be prepared to get 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:34.360 straight into juicy topics, to feel inspired, to feel motivated, 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:39.679 empowered and of course informed. These episodes are shorter, but 0:01:39.800 --> 0:01:43.199 they're just full of the best bits. If you did 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:46.200 like this mini app make sure you go to the 0:01:46.200 --> 0:01:49.720 show notes where we have linked the full episode. And 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:52.400 I just want to say I really appreciate you guys 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:55.840 still supporting the show while I'm taking some time off 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:59.240 to enjoy Baby Girl, and I just can't wait to 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:01.360 be back in yours with fresh. 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:02.760 Episodes in the new year. 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:06.520 We have been planning the next season and there are 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:11.200 so many exciting guests and surprises coming up. So I 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:15.040 really hope you enjoy this mini episode. Let's get straight 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:19.280 into the show. Something I've said before and when I 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:24.720 define what confidence is for me, Confidence isn't you know, 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:28.000 walking into a room thinking you're better than someone or 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:31.519 prettier or more successful or you know, got your shit 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:35.480 together more than someone else. Confidence is walking into a 0:02:35.560 --> 0:02:40.000 room and being confident in who you are, like knowing 0:02:40.080 --> 0:02:44.600 your strengths and weaknesses and not comparing yourself to others. 0:02:45.400 --> 0:02:48.480 So to know, if you're kind of not as confident 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:51.919 as you could be, it would be staff like you 0:02:51.960 --> 0:02:56.400 put yourself down. You put others down for being different. 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:59.519 You think you need to you know, look a certain 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:02.600 way or be a certain way. That isn't your true 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:05.680 authentic self, so like almost like you know, fake it. 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:08.119 To you make it and show up a certain way 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:12.760 that actually doesn't align with you. It's like, even if 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:15.560 you think you need to just be some other way 0:03:15.639 --> 0:03:19.320 that's not yourself, or if you think others need to 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:22.920 be a certain way, I think a really bad kind 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:25.560 of like loop and mental sort of thing we can 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:30.240 get in is judging others because they are different to us, 0:03:30.880 --> 0:03:34.040 or you know, there's something about their life that you 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:38.680 don't agree with. You know, whether it's anything from how 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:42.200 they look or their job, or how they treat others 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:45.080 or anything like that. Like any time that you are 0:03:45.200 --> 0:03:52.040 judging someone else is a huge kind of thing of you. Yeah, 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:54.400 like it's a huge Actually it's a huge sign of 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:59.600 like lack of confidence because you think other people need 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:02.400 to be a certain way, Which, if you think about it, 0:04:02.440 --> 0:04:06.480 like if we just stopped judging everyone and stopped thinking 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:09.000 we all needed to be the same because we are 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:13.440 all so different. Like it's so cliche, but we are 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:17.960 all perfectly imperfect. We are not meant to be the same, 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:20.000 we're not meant to look the same, we're not meant 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:23.200 to have the same personality. And I think if someone 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:27.080 is different or you know, polar opposite to you, we 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:31.559 think it's bad or we think, you know, someone polar 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:35.880 opposite to you is good and you're bad, and guys, 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:40.159 it's just not the case. Like, stop all that right now. 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:44.920 And I get it. Society has completely fucked us. And 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:47.080 you know, I do not usually swear on this podcast, 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:49.960 but this is I'm feeling fired up. I'm feeling ready 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:54.640 to chat about this. And yeah, like society, our parents like. 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:57.880 And that's when I say our parents, But it's like 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:00.920 the way we grew up our parents like, which they 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:04.120 always did in most cases the best they can with 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:06.839 what they had, and it's because of you know, their parents, 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:09.599 but the way we're brought up, the way that society 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:13.240 really imprints this thing of there is a certain way 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:16.200 to do things, there's a certain way to address there's. 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:18.880 A certain way to be. You should fit in this box. 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:22.040 And we're very you know, we're taught that from a 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:24.600 very young age, you know. 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:25.159 In school. 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:29.880 So I completely get it. If you are someone who 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:33.479 you're kind of nodding your head and realizing that maybe 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:35.920 you are a bit judgy or maybe you're not confident 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:38.120 in yourself, and it's like I just want to say 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:42.400 I feel for you. It is so normal. We are 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:46.360 almost conditioned to be that way with how the world is. 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:51.720 But also I'm telling you now you can change, you 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:52.480 can be different. 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:53.560 You have a. 0:05:53.520 --> 0:05:58.040 Responsibility now being aware of these limiting beliefs and these 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:02.720 things around my voice, correct around how you're thinking can 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:07.040 actually be different, and you have a responsibility, you know, 0:06:07.200 --> 0:06:11.039 if you want to change that. So me personally, like 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:13.320 right now at the moment, you guys can probably tell 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:18.560 and stuff like, I am so confident in who I am, 0:06:18.920 --> 0:06:22.359 how I show up my strengths, my weaknesses, what I 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:26.680 bring to the table. That I don't often get rocked. 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:29.599 I do, like sometimes one hundred percent. There's certain stuff 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:31.840 that will trigger me or make me feel you know, 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.760 in adequate and stuff, and I've got to do the 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:37.640 inner work around that. But I am kind of at 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:40.359 a place now where I have done a lot of 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:43.440 the inner work. I've done a lot of retraining my brain, 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:46.760 rewriting stories where I'm now at a point where I'm 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:52.400 kind of like and also really stepped into myself, into 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:56.039 my authentic self, and really accepted myself that I'm like, 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:58.800 if you don't like me, cool, Like you're not my 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:01.760 human and that is fine. Like, I'm not going to 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:05.080 get worried. And I think sometimes you know, we try 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:06.719 and act a certain way, and we try and be 0:07:06.800 --> 0:07:10.240 this certain person to be accepted, to be liked, but 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:14.360 in that we are not being authentic to ourself, which 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:19.000 therefore we do not feel confident. So honestly, I feel 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:23.880 my most confident when I am being my most authentic, 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:27.720 when I am honoring my intuition, when I am stepping 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:31.000 into my power of Georgie. You know, I'm gonna say it. 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:34.120 I say it probably every episode, but no one is you. 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:39.880 That is your power. Confidence comes from within. Confidence comes 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:44.080 from accepting yourself. And it's why I keep saying accepting yourself. 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:49.440 Is There's this philosopher or like he was like a 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:52.160 psychologist back in the day, and his name is Carl 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:56.800 Young or Young actually let me just quickly live google 0:07:56.800 --> 0:07:58.920 this because I'm horrible names. 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:00.760 Yeah, so Carl Jung. 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:07.280 So he was a Swiss Swiss Swiss psychiatrists and psychologists 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:12.280 who founded so many of these like you know, principles 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:15.360 to do with our mindset and stuff. And yeah, he's 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:18.000 really cool. I definitely recommend looking into him. It's like 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:19.840 some of the stuff's like a little bit hard to 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:23.320 absorb because it's like kind of complex, but anyway, something 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:25.520 that I love from him, and I've probably spoken about 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:31.040 this before, but he said, the curious paradox of wanting 0:08:31.120 --> 0:08:34.040 to change, you know, wanting to get to that next level, 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:40.080 is you first must accept where you currently are, who 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:45.040 you are, and like, you know, accept yourself, and then 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:47.400 you can change. So I think a lot of people 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:49.080 they're like, oh, but I don't want to, you know, 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:49.840 like settle. 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:50.800 I don't want to. 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:53.000 Be happy with who I am or what I've got 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:56.360 or how I look because I want these other things. 0:08:56.440 --> 0:08:59.800 And I'm not saying that's That's actually not how it is, 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:04.600 one hundred percent. It is so okay to want different things. 0:09:04.640 --> 0:09:08.600 It's okay to you know, have these desires for things 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:12.400 to be different, like amazing. I have those desires too, 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:17.319 But if you cannot accept and meet yourself where you 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:21.240 currently are, you cannot get there. And I know that's 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:24.000 like I'm even saying it now. I'm like, does that even. 0:09:23.840 --> 0:09:26.199 Make sense, Georgia? But it does. 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When I was like, you know, 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:23.600 three and five, I knew what I wanted, I knew 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:26.800 how I wanted to dress. I was very loud and 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:31.520 proud and very kind of like outspoken. So I kind 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:35.920 of have memories of when I was younger, and I remember, 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:38.280 like my brothers used to call me a foghorn. 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:39.800 I remember, you. 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:42.960 Know, Mom and Dad used to say, I'm so loud, 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:47.160 I'm so you know, like outspoken, but they would kind 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:50.640 of say it in a negative way. So I remember, like, 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:52.920 you know, when I was younger too, I did drama, 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:54.920 like I loved, I loved. 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:56.360 Being you know those things. 0:12:56.880 --> 0:13:00.160 And then it's like a switch kind of flip, and 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:04.120 I was like, oh no, it's actually not good to be, 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:07.720 you know, outspoken and to be vocal about things. 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:09.920 Oh my god, guys, it was so vocal about things. 0:13:10.440 --> 0:13:13.400 And so you may be able to resonate where there 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:16.200 was something in childhood where you kind of, you know, 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:19.840 were a certain way and then like I said, like society, 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:23.199 your parents, family friends kind of told you that it 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:26.440 wasn't that's not like a positive thing, so you try 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:29.480 to change it. I remember thinking Oh, if I can 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:32.640 just be not as loud, if I can just kind 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:36.880 of you know, listen to people and not be as 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:40.040 you know out there and whatnot, Like, that's that's what 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:40.600 I need to be. 0:13:40.720 --> 0:13:41.679 That's going to be better. 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:46.840 And that's just like it makes me so sad to 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:50.880 think about that, because when I found that again, like 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:53.720 or not even like you know, four or five years ago, 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:57.560 like I said, that's when I fully stepped into myself. 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:01.880 And like, I think what you don't realize is being 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:08.400 authentically you is so magnetizing and you will attract the 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:12.560 right opportunities the right people. Like I'm sure there's people 0:14:12.600 --> 0:14:15.920 who listen to my podcasts, who watch my stories, watch 0:14:15.960 --> 0:14:18.920 my content who just don't like what I do, who 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:22.920 don't gel with me, And that is so fine because 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:25.040 we're not supposed to be liked by other one. If 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:26.440 we were liked by our own would be like the 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:31.400 most vanilla person ever. So don't be worried about, you know, 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:34.840 pushing people away or being different, because trust me when 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:36.960 I say, you find the right people, you find the 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:39.880 right opportunities for you that are perfect for you, and 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:43.920 anything else just falls away. So a little exercise you 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.720 can do with your confidence that I want to give 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:50.200 you guys. You know, I like some actionable things is 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:53.920 realizing Like I said, where in your childhood were you 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:57.400 really in your power? Were you really authentically you? And 0:14:57.480 --> 0:15:00.640 then somewhere along the way you would told that it 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:02.880 was negative. And then so what I want you to 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:05.720 do with that is I want you to rewrite the story. 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:10.040 I want you to really forgive you know, the person 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:13.960 or whatever that gave you that, and decide that you're 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:17.520 no longer going to hold that limiting belief. So this 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:19.840 is kind of called shadow work. I'm going through it 0:15:20.040 --> 0:15:22.200 very quick. We go through it so much more in 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:25.840 depth in the Rise and Conquer Project. We're actually currently 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:29.000 going it going through it a module too. So obviously 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:31.640 you know, like I'm not going to give you the 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:35.760 most extensive thing, because that would be quite rude for 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:38.040 all the people who you know, have paid for the 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:40.160 course material and who are doing the work. So this 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:44.040 is like really quick skimming the surface sort of exercise. 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:45.840 And if you do want to go deeper than this, 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:48.640 come and join the Rise and Conquer project, but just 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:51.760 really quickly something you know you can do, like I said, 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:56.440 pick up that sort of thing used to be, but 0:15:56.600 --> 0:15:59.240 you were told was negative. So for example, I'll do 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:01.680 me and it will make a lot more sense. So 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.160 when I was younger, I was very loud, outspoken, and 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:08.680 you know, confidently me along the way, I was told 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:11.360 that I was too loud. I was too you know, 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:14.920 a fog horn, and it wasn't a good thing. So 0:16:15.320 --> 0:16:18.360 I tried to keep myself smaller. I tried to be quieter. 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:22.240 So long away I pick up that that was negative. 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:23.080 So that was. 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:27.080 Really probably you know, from my family, my parents, And 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:29.480 don't get me wrong, my parents are the best, you know, 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:32.960 parents ever And honestly, I was like talking to someone 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:35.160 the other day, But if you are a parent, I 0:16:35.160 --> 0:16:39.320 think there's honestly no way you cannot give your child 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:43.080 a limiting belief or something like I guarantee. 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:45.000 What I'm saying now. If my you know, mom and. 0:16:45.080 --> 0:16:48.520 Dad were to listen to this podcast, which they do 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:50.400 listen to my podcast. So if you're listening to mom 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:52.360 and dad, I love you. We're the best parents. But 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:55.680 I'm sure they weren't even saying it in a bad way, 0:16:55.720 --> 0:16:57.400 like I'm sure they're just like, oh, Georgia, you're a 0:16:57.400 --> 0:17:00.840 fog horn. But when we're younger, we take things in 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:03.760 different ways. So this is my experience. It may not 0:17:03.840 --> 0:17:06.840 be you know, my parents' experience or you know whatnot. 0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:10.280 And I actually have this clear memory of my mom 0:17:10.359 --> 0:17:12.800 kind of saying it and being like Georgia, you know, 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:15.280 you're so loud, like you know, blah blah blah, and 0:17:15.440 --> 0:17:17.480 kind of saying in a negative tone. So whether or 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:20.399 not that's like actually correct in her memory, honestly doesn't 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:23.800 matter because it's what I've picked up. So to rewrite 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:27.720 that story, I would go, it is not you know, negative, 0:17:27.880 --> 0:17:33.200 to be loud, to be myself, to be upspoken, This 0:17:33.280 --> 0:17:34.080 is a positive. 0:17:34.480 --> 0:17:35.600 This is who I am. 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:39.439 This is one of my strengths, This is one of 0:17:39.480 --> 0:17:43.960 my powers. I forgive, you know, my parents or my 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:49.040 mom forgiving me this negative story for whatever reason. And honestly, 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:51.400 it's because my mom is the opposite to what I am. 0:17:51.520 --> 0:17:55.719 So she is quite reserved, quite quiet, you know, very 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:58.880 much thinks before she speaks, So in her mind it's 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:01.199 probably just because I was opposite to her, which is 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:04.399 not you know, not bad at all. But so I 0:18:04.480 --> 0:18:07.080 forgive my mom, you know, or my parents for giving 0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:10.199 me this negative story. But I do not have to 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:13.600 carry this anymore. I can be loud, I can be 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:18.560 you know, outspoken. That is authentically me, and this. 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:19.360 Is my new story. 0:18:19.840 --> 0:18:23.159 So you just do something simple like that, feel into it, 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:26.240 give yourself the new story. So that's just like a 0:18:26.320 --> 0:18:28.920 very simple exercise you can really do to like kind 0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:32.399 of step in your into your confidence. Also realize, like 0:18:32.920 --> 0:18:37.240 if there's someone else who triggers you. So let's just 0:18:37.280 --> 0:18:40.840 say a very good example. You know, let's say there's 0:18:40.920 --> 0:18:45.440 this girl and maybe she wears a red lip, maybe 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:50.040 you know, she wears revealing clothes, and you're like, who 0:18:50.080 --> 0:18:52.600 is she to you know, be so confidence, to be 0:18:52.760 --> 0:18:56.520 so sexual, to be you know, really in her power, 0:18:56.600 --> 0:19:00.879 because I'm guessing that's really authentic for her. If you 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:05.640 were triggered by something like that, it probably means you 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:09.600 wish you were more confident in that aspect of yourself. 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:12.880 And I'm honestly saying this from personal experience. I grew 0:19:12.960 --> 0:19:16.040 up at Jehovah's Witness where it was like no sex 0:19:16.119 --> 0:19:18.920 before marriage. So I actually had to do a lot 0:19:18.960 --> 0:19:23.560 of like trauma work and inner work around being okay 0:19:23.760 --> 0:19:27.440 with being a sexual person because I literally was told 0:19:27.520 --> 0:19:31.520 growing up that you don't have sex before marriage and 0:19:31.680 --> 0:19:34.560 wasn't allowed of boyfriends, so you know when and I 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:37.919 to be very honest with you, like I had my 0:19:37.960 --> 0:19:40.639 first boyfriend when I was like fourteen. You know, we 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:44.600 did have sex and whatnot, bit it was almost this like, oh, 0:19:44.640 --> 0:19:47.600 this is being sinful and I shouldn't be you know, 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:49.440 having sex and all these sorts of things. 0:19:49.440 --> 0:19:51.600 So I actually had that a lot of like weird. 0:19:51.359 --> 0:19:53.560 Sort of things around that that I had to do 0:19:53.640 --> 0:19:57.119 work on. And if someone was so like open about 0:19:57.320 --> 0:20:00.360 being sexual and you know, being into that, that would 0:20:00.400 --> 0:20:03.000 trigger me. And you know, I could go the whole 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:05.879 route of like oh she's such a slot or this 0:20:06.000 --> 0:20:09.240 and that, but please do not do that. Guys, when 0:20:09.320 --> 0:20:13.600 you get triggered by someone, it is honestly because you 0:20:14.040 --> 0:20:18.320 have not accepted that side of yourself or you wish 0:20:18.400 --> 0:20:20.879 you could be more confident in that side of yourself. 0:20:21.920 --> 0:20:25.680 And so anytime that happens, like stop, can we all 0:20:25.760 --> 0:20:30.680 just stop being so fucking judgy? Stop being judgy, be observant. 0:20:31.080 --> 0:20:33.440 That's even Like, you know, when people get triggered when 0:20:33.480 --> 0:20:36.800 I talk about money or property or anything like that, 0:20:37.560 --> 0:20:41.840 I guarantee you it's because they have issues or work 0:20:41.880 --> 0:20:45.240 they need to do around their money story. So when 0:20:45.280 --> 0:20:47.800 they see me saying stuff like money just comes to me, 0:20:48.960 --> 0:20:51.560 like I've done so much work around my money story 0:20:51.560 --> 0:20:55.320 that honestly, like money literally just fucking flows to me. 0:20:55.440 --> 0:20:56.480 The way it comes up in. 0:20:56.400 --> 0:20:59.439 My life is ridiculous. And because I have no blocks 0:20:59.480 --> 0:21:02.720 around money and no issues there where I previously did. 0:21:03.080 --> 0:21:05.399 So if that triggers you, it means you need to 0:21:05.440 --> 0:21:09.040 work on that. And that's exactly with confidence, but just 0:21:09.119 --> 0:21:11.520 no guys like and this isn't even I was even 0:21:11.560 --> 0:21:15.160 going to talk about like body confidence and whatnot, but honestly, 0:21:15.600 --> 0:21:18.639 it's the same. And like I said, you can still 0:21:18.800 --> 0:21:23.400 desire to be different but accept yourself and be happy 0:21:23.440 --> 0:21:27.520 with how you are simultaneously like at the same time. 0:21:27.920 --> 0:21:30.800 That is honestly, you know what I used to do 0:21:31.040 --> 0:21:33.840 in regards to when I had certain like fitness goals 0:21:33.880 --> 0:21:36.919 and whatnot. And I think it's just so important. Stop 0:21:36.960 --> 0:21:41.320 putting yourself down, stop belitting yourself, stop keeping yourself small. 0:21:41.880 --> 0:21:46.120 You need to accept yourself, your authentic self, and that 0:21:46.200 --> 0:21:50.199 will honestly like put you in alignment when we're like 0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:51.520 really stepping into. 0:21:51.400 --> 0:21:54.520 Our power, as you know, our authentic. 0:21:54.080 --> 0:21:58.879 Self and we accept ourselves and we therefore feel more confident. 0:21:59.560 --> 0:22:02.359 That's where the magic happens. That's when you know, the 0:22:02.480 --> 0:22:05.919 right people get attracted, that's when the right opportunities and 0:22:06.359 --> 0:22:08.400 all that sort of thing. And like I said, it's 0:22:08.440 --> 0:22:11.720 about stepping into that room and being like, no one 0:22:11.760 --> 0:22:13.879 can shake me because I know who I am, I 0:22:13.920 --> 0:22:15.960 know what I bring to the table, I know you 0:22:16.000 --> 0:22:19.440 know my strengths, I know my weaknesses, and I'm okay 0:22:19.480 --> 0:22:22.600 with it. So you know, that's even like I've noticed 0:22:22.600 --> 0:22:25.679 a huge trend currently in the group, which is so 0:22:25.760 --> 0:22:28.800 normal for week two where people are like, oh, you know, 0:22:29.280 --> 0:22:31.960 but I'm worried about what other people say about my 0:22:32.080 --> 0:22:34.960 desires or the business I want to create, or you know, 0:22:35.400 --> 0:22:38.119 posting on social media and this and that. And my 0:22:38.359 --> 0:22:42.520 thing is always like, who fucking cares what other people think? 0:22:43.400 --> 0:22:45.800 And I know that's like so much easier to say, 0:22:46.880 --> 0:22:50.800 but that honestly comes from when you're confident in yourself 0:22:50.880 --> 0:22:54.320 and everything you're doing. You don't care what other people say. 0:22:54.359 --> 0:22:56.880 You don't you know, you're not worried about that sort 0:22:56.920 --> 0:22:58.640 of thing because you're staying in your own land. You're 0:22:58.680 --> 0:22:59.639 focusing on. 0:22:59.560 --> 0:23:00.560 Your health. 0:23:01.920 --> 0:23:04.880 And also being confident is like, if there is someone 0:23:05.000 --> 0:23:07.800 who you know is maybe where you want to be, 0:23:08.040 --> 0:23:12.040 or they're more successful quote unquote, or you know anything 0:23:12.240 --> 0:23:16.840