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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, this is do we want to get down

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Speaker 1: There's all sorts of stuff that you might find out

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Speaker 2: Like are the lies? Are the lie?

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Speaker 3: And I'll tell you what again, I won't be pregnant,

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Speaker 5: So I couldn't to tell.

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Speaker 2: At that moment, nothing I don't want to know. I

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Speaker 2: Christ that I could hear. Matey, thanks you respected, Mike.

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Speaker 1: You were Danny here th in one I six five

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Speaker 2: Danny, Hey boys, how are you today?

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Speaker 1: Great to hear Dan Now you're twelve weeks pregnant currently.

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Speaker 6: I'm actually a lot earlier than that. I'm that twelve

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Speaker 6: Yeah. So, I don't know, I don't know what's worse,

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Speaker 6: But I think come, I think there's something to telling

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Speaker 6: I think maybe use a little bit of therapy for

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Speaker 2: That's great this time?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well excellent And toes cross that you know you're

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Speaker 1: I appreciate the honesty, Danny, thanks for calling the show.

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Speaker 1: Good luck, Please, no worries, mate, have a wonderful Tuesday.

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Speaker 2: This is exciting. We've got an anonymous caller here. Anonymous, Hi, guys,

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Speaker 6: You very good?

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Speaker 2: We're good? What have you called for?

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Speaker 5: So we haven't told anyone, but we're currently eight weeks pregnant.

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Speaker 4: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Wow, you haven't told a soul yet.

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Speaker 5: You've decided to you guys?

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Speaker 3: Are you?

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Speaker 5: Guys are finding out? But there could be a possibility

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Speaker 5: of two in there, not one.

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Speaker 2: Wowly moly, So why are you telling it?

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Speaker 6: So?

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Speaker 2: Why are you telling us? Anonymous?

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Speaker 1: I mean the reason we're talking about this is, you know,

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Speaker 1: twelve weeks, because you know, things can go.

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Speaker 2: Wrong within that twelve week period. Why why are you

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Speaker 5: This is not my first rodeo, so I know the routine.

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Speaker 5: I am very very careful on what I'm doing. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: I'm not even back at work, so we run our

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Speaker 2: Working, so you really worry about it? All right?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 2: Good luck?

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Speaker 2: Do you want to have a bigger moment Anonymous? Sorry,

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Speaker 2: it feels like we just sort of suddenly did it.

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Speaker 2: Do you just want to scream at the top of

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Speaker 2: your lungs. Let just want to be a great moment

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Speaker 2: for you. I'm having a baby, and we'll play some

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Speaker 2: celebration music for you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's fine for Anonymous. We're so excited to be

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Speaker 5: eight weeks and we're having a baby.

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Speaker 2: Anonymously, Well, maybe not just pregnant, Yeah, just pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Iradulate, congratulate, congratulations mate, Thanks for telling us, and good luck.

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Speaker 2: No worries at all, Jane wish, Wow, wee at the moment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah what if I don't think we announced a pregnancy

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Speaker 2: to us. Yeah, that was huge part of it. Well

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Speaker 2: I'm part of the family. Yeah, great, you know, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you're going to be there. I'm going to be there

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Speaker 2: for the delivery. I'm going to be there. Okay, Curse

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Speaker 2: willing buddy,