WEBVTT - #147 There's A Flaw In The System 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:04.800 I've been cursed. Go on. Last week, I gave a 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:08.080 lot of shit to some pet parents. Yeah, you go 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:10.440 hard on them, really got them good? What happened? I 0:00:10.520 --> 0:00:14.320 don't know what the record is for times in one 0:00:14.440 --> 0:00:17.520 day stepping in dog shit, but I think I've broken 0:00:17.560 --> 0:00:18.040 the record. 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:39.480 What was it? Welcome back to three darting Days. 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:43.080 I am Mattie J and I'm Ash and this is 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:45.040 a podcast with our parenting and it is the good. 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:47.319 It is the bad and the relatable. If you come 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:51.960 for advice, sorry, none, no, none, none, except maybe don't 0:00:51.960 --> 0:00:54.720 shop on pet parents because your dog were here and 0:00:55.280 --> 0:00:57.840 she was like, you neglected me? Was it your ship 0:00:57.960 --> 0:00:59.720 the dog shit, not my ship. I'm not shopping out 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:02.720 in the law on anymore. I was just doing some 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:09.319 stuff around the house and I was like, April shit, okay, anyway, 0:01:09.319 --> 0:01:14.280 So I was doing some stuff around, giving me a 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:15.360 taste of my own medicine. 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:15.760 I like it. 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:19.920 I like it. I was like doing stuff around the 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:22.080 house with slides on. You know how I do like 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:24.400 my slide. I do love slides. I had a pair 0:01:24.440 --> 0:01:28.319 of slides going stepped in dog shit at the front. Ironically, 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:31.000 I was scooping up dog shit and stepped in dog 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:33.959 shit and then I was like, oh fuck, wash the 0:01:33.959 --> 0:01:35.640 bottom of those shoes. Put him in the sun for 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.560 him to dry dog poop free. That's a tongue twister. 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:41.720 And then I put some other slides on, walked around 0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:44.199 the side of the house, boom straight into another poop. 0:01:44.240 --> 0:01:48.400 How many slides have you got? Six? Nice? Then I 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:51.240 put my Vans on because Oscar was like, hey, can 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:52.600 you kick the footye with me? I was like, yeah, 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:53.400 but don't go up that. 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:55.200 And the Vans are the worst because they've got such 0:01:55.280 --> 0:01:56.280 deep crevasses. 0:01:57.120 --> 0:02:00.880 Well said, thank you said they're perfect. Whoever at Vans 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:02.920 was like, let's put this on the bottom of the shoes. 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:04.640 So I was like why, They're like, because you can't 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:08.639 get dogshit out of there. Make them five centimeters deep. 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:13.280 You gotta get your out there. Anyway, this continued, the 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:18.360 three shoe rotation all day more well that was three, Well, 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:20.680 I keep going and then you're gonna tell me every 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:23.519 single one, no, I'm not. But it just rotated. So 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:25.040 I kept having to wash my shoes and put him 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:27.520 in the sun. The one sunny day, which was Saturday, 0:02:28.000 --> 0:02:29.720 and I figured the only time I would have been 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:32.440 go outside. I've stepped into dog poos six times. It 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:36.000 must be karmer. I'm sorry, I stand by it. The 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:40.400 no you just you're gonna get fucking shot on tomorrow 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:44.480 because of that worth it. Hey, before we go into 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:47.280 a normal episode, obviously, we want to make this a 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:50.360 space where we sit down, we have a laugh, and 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:53.480 we're very lighthearted before we go into a normal episode. 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:55.359 I do just want to give it to a nod 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:58.119 to some recent news that came out. I'm sure people 0:02:58.160 --> 0:03:00.720 would have seen it. There was two brothers, Adam and 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:04.760 Troy Selwood, sadly, both of whom have now passed away 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:08.000 as a result of suicide. I don't know if it's 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:10.520 just myself. I don't know if you're in a similar position, 0:03:11.160 --> 0:03:14.720 but it just feels like the last four months for me, 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:18.520 in addition to high profile individuals like Troy and Adam, 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:22.280 there's been a lot of suicides amongst men. Yeah, I 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:25.760 feel like we only really as a society, jump on 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:28.200 the back of it when someone in the spotlight happens 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:32.840 to But it happens so so regularly to everyone, like 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:37.520 in terms of friends, family, you know, day to day, 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:40.120 week to week. The statistics are crazy Yeah. 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:43.000 And for me at the moment, it's been about every 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:45.360 three weeks there's been someone else that I've known, not 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:48.600 super close, but you know, friends of friends, people who 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:51.440 are you know, in our community, have decided to end 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:54.400 their own life. All have been young men around their 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:58.600 mid to late thirties. I don't know what the fuck 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:01.720 is happening. It's really scary and one of the hardest things. 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:05.600 As well as one of my friends whose brother passed away, 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:10.120 and I was thinking to myself, it's been a while 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:11.800 since I've spoken to them, and I thought, I don't 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:14.840 want to reach out and say I'm sorry about the 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:17.560 news and then that be a reminder of the situation 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:18.320 they were facing. 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:21.480 Yeah, it's sort of one of those you don't want 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.240 to be like, hey, sorry, you lost this person. They're 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:25.880 like like a pylon. You don't want it to be 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:27.000 like a pylon of emotion. 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:30.760 Yeah, And if you you know, it's if you're having 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:32.480 a moment where it's not at the forefront of your 0:04:32.520 --> 0:04:35.080 mind and someone raises the topic and all of a 0:04:35.080 --> 0:04:36.839 sudden you're thinking about it again, and then you're thinking 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:38.200 about it if you're on that phone call. I don't 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:39.960 want to be the trigger for that. I ended up 0:04:40.000 --> 0:04:41.560 speaking to them over the phone and I said like, 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:44.360 I'm really sorry about the passing, and they were like, 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:46.680 it's really hard because when it's suicide, you don't want 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:48.320 to talk about it. People don't want to bring it up. 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:49.520 It's the elephant in the room. 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:50.200 You know. 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:52.280 If it was something like cancer or a car crash, 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:54.280 it would be much easier for others to bring up, 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:58.120 but they hold back, so it is really isolating for 0:04:58.200 --> 0:05:00.599 friends and family. The thing I really strug about is 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:03.240 when someone does decide to take their own lives, how 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:06.040 they're able to do that knowing that they're leaving behind 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:08.159 loved ones, especially the kids. 0:05:08.560 --> 0:05:11.159 Yeah, just because you're a parent and a husband, it 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:16.000 doesn't mean make you immune to life's problems, but it's yeah, 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:19.440 it's it makes it all that bit harder. I suppose 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:21.640 it's always going to be hard for whoever is involved 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:24.240 in his community and what, you know, but to leave 0:05:24.240 --> 0:05:28.840 two young kids and a wife behind is tragic, and 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:34.520 I think, like, what what could have been done to maybe, 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:39.039 you know, alleviate that happening to him of course, and 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:41.279 to his wife and his kids. It's just it's just 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:43.520 tragic and both of them as well, both had wives 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:47.400 and kids, and it's like it's devastating, it's hard to watch, 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:48.800 hard to can. 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:51.240 I can ask you, as someone who has had their 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:53.599 own struggles with mental health, in those moments where you 0:05:53.640 --> 0:05:56.960 were at your lowest, the thoughts of your children and 0:05:57.040 --> 0:05:58.680 your wife, are they enough to pull you out? 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:01.839 Yeah? I mean I've sort of struggled with my mental 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:04.880 health for a long time. Really, I think came prevalent 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:07.640 when I started to have kids. And at that time, 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:10.679 it was it was a different dark it was a 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:15.360 you know, a really it was a really tough time. 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:18.400 Is that a newborn. We weren't getting any sleep. I 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:21.760 couldn't see any positives in anything. And that was that 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:25.720 was you know, that time there, and I, thankfully I 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:29.640 started to realize what was happening, My wife started to 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:31.640 realize what was happening in lent an ear, and I 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:33.839 started to feel a little bit of relief of the pressure. 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:36.760 You might be in that darkness of darks, but there 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:40.400 is a way out there if if you're willing to 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:42.599 open up to it, or someone's willing to give you 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:46.240 the opportunity to open up to it. It's not a 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:49.720 one and done situation, no way. It was a really long, 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:53.159 arduous battle. But when I sort of got to the 0:06:53.240 --> 0:06:56.680 end of that battle and looked back at how those 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:59.840 thoughts were, it were impacting my mind, but those thoughts 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:04.840 physically and impacting out towards the people I love what 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:07.640 that would have actually done. And then I've sort of 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:12.480 spent my whole parenthood sort of facing those demons here 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:16.400 and there, and there's always going to be ups and downs, 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:19.000 and there is, like I said, there are ways out 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:22.120 of it. And when I started to fall into that 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:26.960 darkness again when I'm going to say maybe twelve months ago, 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:29.280 around that time we were doing this podcast. Everything was 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:32.920 running really really great. I was successful, as you call it, 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:36.840 but mentally I wasn't and it was a different sort 0:07:36.840 --> 0:07:41.760 of it was a different sort of darkness. But to 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:44.600 get out of that, I found that I had two 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:48.640 young kids now and I remember when I remember very vividly, 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:50.520 and I'd spoken to it about this on another podcast 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:54.280 before that. When I started to have those really really 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:56.760 dark thoughts, theres one person that popped into my brain 0:07:56.840 --> 0:08:00.240 and I can't imagine an oscar without me, and that 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:02.680 saved my life. There was a time where I was 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:07.000 trying to escape him, and now I was using him 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:11.960 to give me motivation to seek help and talk to someone. 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:14.720 And it can be so. I remember the first time 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:20.120 I ever, ever sort of was vulnerable with April about 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:24.920 this stuff, back in twenty twenty or something. And I 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:27.880 know I was a novice at this, right the first 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:29.960 time you fall into this dark hole, you think you're 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:32.720 completely alone and you're there for the first time, and 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:34.600 then you're like, I don't know how to do it. 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:39.359 But I just remember. I just remember having a conversation 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:42.600 with April about it. I opened up just a little bit. 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:44.880 At that time, I was still really scared to talk 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:47.240 about how that I wanted to escape her and I 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:51.440 wanted to escape myself. I felt embarrassed, but she just 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:54.120 gave me the space to say it, and it was 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:56.320 like a pressure valve. And then it was like she 0:08:56.360 --> 0:09:00.000 didn't pressure me to continue, but she just gave me 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:03.079 the space when I needed it to tell how I'm feeling. 0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:08.440 And its slowly it's snowboard into the confidence to seek 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:11.040 a professional help. And I see a therapist now once 0:09:11.080 --> 0:09:15.720 a fortnight. Okay, I've maintained, you know, not that sort 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:19.319 of consistency. But I know this year where it was 0:09:19.360 --> 0:09:23.600 struggling with you know why my brain does certain things 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:26.240 and my neuropathways and all sorts of stuff. I found 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:30.640 myself having those thoughts again where it was the world 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:33.720 would be better without me, and it's not, you know 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:37.240 what I mean. And for guys like these two guys 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:41.320 who are athletes, they're ex athletes, they're sort of moving 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:44.560 into the second part of their life, which is not 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:49.240 an athlete ex athlete, and into fatherhood and parenthood and 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:53.760 navigating what's next, which must be really, really hard. But 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.800 my message to that person is that is going to 0:09:56.880 --> 0:09:59.960 be hard, but it's harder for your family to operate 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:05.480 without you. So have have a take a second and 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:09.240 and just talk to someone you know, like and if 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:13.079 you're the husband, the wife, or a friend, an uncle, anyone, 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:16.400 whoever it is, and you can see someone struggling. I 0:10:16.440 --> 0:10:17.960 used to walk around this house with a smile on 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:20.679 my face, but I wasn't happy and I would, you know, 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:22.520 and some people would be able to pick up on that. 0:10:22.600 --> 0:10:24.600 But if you're the closest person someone, you could pick 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:27.560 up something's not right. Just say talk to me and 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:28.400 just shut your mouth. 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:30.480 And let them talk, and like April did, do it 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:32.280 in a way where you listening with no judgment. 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:37.200 Yeah, I think it got to a point where, and 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:40.080 I've said this before, that she in that situation, she 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:43.440 also had some mental demons and she was getting better 0:10:43.480 --> 0:10:45.720 and I was getting worse, and she just pointed out 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:48.559 something really obvious and it really gave me an opportunity 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:55.040 to think about what what I could do or how 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:59.200 can make myself feel better. And for these guys that 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:01.240 are going into their fort is in their second part 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:04.000 of life and not knowing and losing their identity as 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:06.400 an athlete, I can imagine that it would be really 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:13.000 really hard. But be honest, be open. I mean, there's 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:14.160 the moment. 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:17.680 The moment you think that you're not doing okay, it's 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:19.199 so important to speak. 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:22.400 Up if you are struggling or you know you're not 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:25.320 you're not feeling your best, or you feel hopeless, or 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:27.400 you feel like the world will be better without you. 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:31.720 Just just please know that it gets better. At one 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:33.880 hundred percent gets better, and you look back at it 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.280 and you learn from it, and then next time you 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:39.280 start to feel bad, you'll have the tools because your 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:42.800 brain knows it's there. So don't don't neglect your mental 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:46.199 health for Fox's sake, Like don't it's it's not worth it. 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:49.160 Amen Well said, either open your mouth to someone, or 0:11:49.160 --> 0:11:52.240 if you see someone that's struggling, open your ears up. 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:54.720 Don't provide a solution, just provide an ear. 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:57.679 Anyone else out there who wants help and is struggling 0:11:57.720 --> 0:11:59.600 to find someone to reach out to, we will put 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:02.960 in the show notes. Some great organizations are a perfect 0:12:02.960 --> 0:12:04.400 place to start those conversations. 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:06.640 Yeah, I'm doing some work with Lifeline. Now we'll leave 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:10.319 that number in the show notes. So please use the 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:12.440 number if you're not feeling okay, or send me a 0:12:12.440 --> 0:12:15.600 message if you want, send me a message on Facebook, Instagram, 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:17.160 whatever you like. I'll be able to hear from you. 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:20.880 In the past, we spoke about Oscar having an oral 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:23.559 presentation on mainly seagulls at school. 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:28.400 Has he had another one? Has it a follow up? No? No, 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:31.040 they're doing At the moment they're doing this, a parent 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:33.120 comes in and reads with them all. So April did 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:36.720 it on Monday where she went down to the school 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:40.120 like late in the afternoon. She read to the class 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:43.320 with Oscar and two other boys. I don't want to 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:45.440 do that and over there, I think Parie turns into 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:48.000 an asshole when I'm around. But then you've got to 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:51.080 build their confidence, Matt. And that's that's what I think 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:51.840 it's there for. 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:54.840 Okay, So I had I had our second task. We 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:57.520 had the first oral presentation on an animal. I recall 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:59.640 it was Buster three legged dogs, shout out to Buster. 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:03.599 Like we did a follow up presentation. 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:09.679 The task was. The task was a place on location 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:13.880 that is special to you? Okay, what did you go with? Okay? 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:16.640 And it could be like anywhere, right, could be like 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:19.560 a destination and very obscure. 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:23.160 It was a low hanging fruit. Okay. 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:24.959 So we The issue we have was right from the 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:26.760 get go, because she was like, I want it to 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:29.440 be the house and I was like, well, how are 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:30.400 you going to make that interesting? 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:31.080 You mean home? 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:35.640 And and I was like, because you have to, what's 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:38.440 a funny story of something that's happened at this location? 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:42.160 And I was like, nothing funny ever happens around here? Right, 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:44.079 I was like, what are we going to fucking pick? Like, 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:44.560 what do we got? 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.440 Okay, Marley, think about something. Because you can't write down 0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:49.200 these speeches, they have to memorize it. 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:52.160 Oh wow, do they know she's like six but it's 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:55.280 three points, okay, three points. You need a hook. 0:13:57.080 --> 0:13:59.400 Think of it as a social video. You might not 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:02.000 know this, okay, but I live in Bondai. That was 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:04.560 a hook okay. And I was like, that's very good. 0:14:05.120 --> 0:14:07.400 But also I'm hooked. 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:09.679 Everyone lives in bond goes to the school because it's 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.520 in the catchment. But anyway, think about that. But I 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:14.560 was like, okay, Maley, so remember that you might not 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:16.120 know I live bon Dye. Take it away. 0:14:16.120 --> 0:14:21.640 And she'd be like you really should maybe no, And 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:25.040 we we practiced and practiced and practice. I couldn't get 0:14:25.040 --> 0:14:26.520 the hook. And I was like, that's fine, leave the hook. 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:29.160 Funny story. What do you want to make up? And 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:32.440 she's like, funny story, the cat sleeps in my bed. 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:37.640 And I was like bol bingo, fantastic and h and 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:39.480 what what do you love about the house and she's 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:41.080 like I love that Nana. 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:44.120 Lives in the house. That's lovely. I was like great, great, 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:52.360 So I said, let's practice, let's practice this speech. She 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:54.200 was just I didn't want to film it because I didn't. 0:14:54.520 --> 0:14:56.960 I was like sitting down and I was like, okay, 0:14:57.040 --> 0:15:00.520 t take it away, go and she's like some times 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:05.400 when there's a there's a cat and Raspberry is in 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:09.280 the house, and when I'm at the house, there's also 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:13.720 my nanna. And I was like good, trying to be encouraged, but. 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:16.000 I was panicking. I was like, this is this is ship. 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:19.800 I was like Simon cal on the couch, being like, 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:23.720 you can do better, and I was starting to get 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:24.280 a bit worried. 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:26.800 And also I did leave it kind of last minute, 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:28.160 was like the night before. They've had it for a 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:30.760 week standard, but I was like I went to my 0:15:30.840 --> 0:15:34.080 mom and I was like, is this all kids? 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:37.880 This bad? And she was like absolutely, oh yeah yeah. 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:41.120 If you try and get oscar to get like repeat anything, 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:45.120 oh oh my god. Man Like but then he'll be 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:49.400 like we'll drive past something and what did he say 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:53.440 the other day? Just like the memory and it's unbelievable 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:58.760 what they will remember and what they won't remember. It's like, 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:03.640 don't forget to grab shoes, okay, completely forget to get shoes. 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:06.600 I'm like, okay, okay, Manly verse Sharks last year round fourteen. 0:16:06.640 --> 0:16:11.880 He's like eighteen, Yeah, like what and he was like, 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:16.520 who's called? Who's it's like, okay, all right, did Marley 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:19.000 listen to a song once and she knows all the words? 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:22.960 I'm like, where the fuck is your jumper? 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:27.440 And she's like, I don't know. She's like she's lost 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:28.160 another jumper. 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:29.040 Oh my goodness. 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:31.440 At least it's good. It's reassuring. Tonight, I was like, 0:16:31.520 --> 0:16:33.560 oh my god, she's this oral presentation is. 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:36.760 Awful and she's got no jumper on. What the hell's 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:40.800 going on? Yeah? Look, I'm waiting for the next oral 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:45.040 presentation to be presented to Oscar. He is an SRC 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:47.440 member right. The other day he was like, we had 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:49.120 an SRC today. I was like, oh, yeah, how'd you go? 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:52.520 And he goes, I didn't. I was like what He's like, No, 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:57.520 I'd lunch into dead. I was like the spirit politics 0:16:57.520 --> 0:17:02.480 and its finners, Matthew. Yes. I had been traveling a 0:17:02.520 --> 0:17:04.719 little bit, as you know, the last couple of weeks, 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:08.000 just with bits and bobs, bits and jobs and so busy, 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:13.840 busy boy. I recently took some advice from you about 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:16.520 farting on an aeroplane. Hey, you just let them rip 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:18.960 do it. But I only do that internationally. I've got 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:23.600 a line. I've drawn the line, like like I who 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:31.800 was it? La fla. What a surprise, pleasant surprise, Hello, darling, 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:36.320 what on earth? Yeah, it's a bit late. I'm terribly 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:38.800 sorry everyone. You know, I just got to get on 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:44.640 the mic. I'm terribly sorry. Pull up a chair, get 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:47.600 out of my arm, take your hands, I'll get out 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:51.959 of my love you. What a pleasant surprise. Anyway, So 0:17:52.119 --> 0:17:57.000 I draw the line where on domestic flights I hold 0:17:57.440 --> 0:18:05.120 for what reason? It's only an hour usually? Why is that? 0:18:05.800 --> 0:18:09.000 I don't know if anything I thought like domestic would 0:18:09.520 --> 0:18:11.000 allow you to like fin. 0:18:10.960 --> 0:18:15.800 There, I show some common courtesy. I was like, okay, okay, 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:19.080 I was up in Burley, I had a night out before. 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:22.600 I was pretty gassy. I'm gonna be honest. Sorry, Jess. 0:18:22.680 --> 0:18:24.000 First of all, I want to say sorry Jess. And 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:26.840 I listens about this story, but I was embarrassed. Anyway, 0:18:26.840 --> 0:18:30.919 So I get on this plane. I'm I'm holding in 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:38.760 my fart, and you know how much that hurtserps? Okay, okay, 0:18:44.320 --> 0:18:47.640 I think we should stop the podcast, I think. And 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:50.159 so I was holding it in. I was holding it in, 0:18:50.200 --> 0:18:54.359 holding it in, and every every ten minutes that went past, 0:18:54.400 --> 0:18:57.879 it was getting more and more painful. And I was like, okay, 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:02.280 went to get my I landed. I've made it, okay, 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:04.720 and you're not fighting on the plane. No oh, I've 0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:07.359 held that in for an hour and twenty minute. I 0:19:07.480 --> 0:19:10.439 made up time in the air and I was like, 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:14.040 I park think you're gonna I'm gonna taste my own 0:19:14.080 --> 0:19:15.640 medicine here. I parked in the valet. 0:19:16.119 --> 0:19:21.080 Sorry, sorry, I can't misheard that, so I said again. 0:19:21.760 --> 0:19:30.200 I'm parked in the valet. I must really that must 0:19:30.280 --> 0:19:33.000 do really good. It's like that's better than sex, right, 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:38.840 and I O, wow, that's the It's adjoining at the 0:19:38.840 --> 0:19:42.400 Sydney Airport is an adjoining to the to the departures terminal, 0:19:42.440 --> 0:19:44.480 so you don't have to leave the building. So I'm 0:19:44.680 --> 0:19:47.560 loaded up exactly. That's why do you want to fight? 0:19:47.640 --> 0:19:49.920 Because I was like, I'm high society. Now I'm better 0:19:50.000 --> 0:19:53.159 not far anyway, So I'm walking through the terminal and 0:19:53.200 --> 0:19:56.280 I'm still holding my fart because it's a busy terminal. 0:19:56.760 --> 0:19:59.560 And then I get to checking only or you carry on, 0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:03.159 just check, so carry on carry so don't confuse me 0:20:03.240 --> 0:20:07.040 like that. Anyway, I went, I went, gave him the 0:20:07.080 --> 0:20:08.920 ticket and I'm like, come on, come on, come, on, 0:20:09.320 --> 0:20:12.359 bring his car, bring his car around, Bring for a walk, 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:15.399 and by comes standing there they're talking to me. I'm like, 0:20:15.400 --> 0:20:17.640 like trying to I was in pain. I was like 0:20:19.560 --> 0:20:21.760 get into the car and I was like, okay, I'm 0:20:21.920 --> 0:20:25.960 safe space. I start to drive and like car parts 0:20:25.960 --> 0:20:30.240 are the best. It was like like a proper yeah 0:20:30.600 --> 0:20:35.120 who moment where I felt like, oh, like a rainbow 0:20:35.160 --> 0:20:39.280 was coming out of my asshole. It was fucking delightful. Okay, 0:20:39.359 --> 0:20:43.640 it's still in the seat. I reckon, I'm sorry. Anyway, 0:20:43.840 --> 0:20:47.000 I pull up to the boomgate and I put the 0:20:47.040 --> 0:20:50.640 window down and I put the ticket in and nothing happens. 0:20:51.359 --> 0:20:55.439 And before I could do anything, the attendants come around 0:20:55.440 --> 0:21:00.720 to my open window. My god, and I could help 0:21:00.760 --> 0:21:07.280 you with anything. Bam and she she she noticeably went 0:21:12.400 --> 0:21:19.399 ship man exactly exactly, and then she was like but 0:21:19.560 --> 0:21:24.040 she was like my eyes. And then the boomgate went 0:21:24.119 --> 0:21:29.760 up and I was like, sheepish the whole time. I 0:21:29.760 --> 0:21:33.080 didn't look at it, but no contact. Straight to the 0:21:33.080 --> 0:21:35.600 other reason I sawry go because of the review mirror. 0:21:35.760 --> 0:21:40.040 Sorry was the last time Ash ever went Valet ever again. 0:21:40.160 --> 0:21:41.480 I will never When. 0:21:41.280 --> 0:21:42.600 You rock up, they're like you take it I'm not 0:21:42.600 --> 0:21:43.080 taking that guy. 0:21:43.240 --> 0:21:45.280 You take it. You're that guy. 0:21:46.720 --> 0:21:48.880 Do you want to feel better? So where I used 0:21:48.920 --> 0:21:50.800