1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,640 Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 2 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:06,199 Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb 3 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on 4 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: this land for thousands of years, and we show our 5 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: gratitude and respect for their contribution to our environment and culture. 6 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 2: Hello everyone, welcome back to the in Between. It is 7 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:30,320 Speaker 2: Jamie and Jotita back in your ear Holt. 8 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:32,319 Speaker 3: Back on the mics. Thank god, get us back. 9 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 4: Being a hot minute, hasn't it. Gee, it's been a 10 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 4: hot minute. The episodes we recorded prior to the ones 11 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 4: listening now, we did those earlier in the year, so 12 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 4: it's been a while since we're back. 13 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 3: In the season. 14 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:50,239 Speaker 2: But today we have a very important, exciting. 15 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 4: What's what's another word got that we feel like. 16 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 2: We are almost the CEO of because we have gone 17 00:00:57,120 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 2: on a journey. We are talking about overthinking and how 18 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:00,760 Speaker 2: to stop it. 19 00:01:00,880 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 3: How to stop it. 20 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 4: We've got six tips or ways that you can stop overthinking. 21 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 4: Jamie and I are both we've both got big heads, 22 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 4: big mind, big brains. We overthink, sheper smart. We overthink 23 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,040 Speaker 4: a lot of things. So we've been on a bit 24 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 4: of a journey for a while of trying to get 25 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 4: out of this funk of just overthinking everything. So we're 26 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:22,080 Speaker 4: sharing our top tips with you because we think they've 27 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 4: really really helped. 28 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 2: I feel like a completely different person, Like if you 29 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 2: had have shown me twenty seventeen Jamie who just would 30 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 2: always get in overthinking spirals versus me. 31 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 4: Now, big difference, mind blown and like overthinking. If you're 32 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:39,040 Speaker 4: viewing your life through that lens, it's just like panic, 33 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 4: franticness heightened, Like it's just not a nice way to 34 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:45,319 Speaker 4: live your life. And you can easily do a few 35 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 4: things to calm yourself and get out of it. So 36 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 4: I feel like this is really important, and everyone, especially women, 37 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 4: we all overthink. 38 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 3: So I feel like this is a really good Oh. 39 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 2: I feel like it's such a common topic that I 40 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:59,920 Speaker 2: speak about even with my clients, like so many people 41 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 2: they just get overthinking is such a natural thing that 42 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:05,720 Speaker 2: humans get stuck in. So learning how to overcome that 43 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:08,519 Speaker 2: and move through that, would you say it's like one 44 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:11,680 Speaker 2: of the one of the most powerful things you can do. Yeah, 45 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 2: because if you are overthinking things number one low frequency 46 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:18,800 Speaker 2: number two, you just like constantly wondering where you stand 47 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:20,959 Speaker 2: with everyone, and you're not really staying in your own lane. 48 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:22,799 Speaker 3: It's a fit like paranoia es. Yeah. 49 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, we actually had a running joke for about 50 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:29,079 Speaker 2: the first year of G working at RNC because member 51 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 2: we used to see how paranoid. 52 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 3: You I was. 53 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:34,360 Speaker 4: Also was in my human design, Remember, it was like 54 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:36,000 Speaker 4: one of my tendencies was like paranoia. 55 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 3: Paranoia. 56 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,359 Speaker 2: But I feel like you've come so far, except if 57 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 2: you're at a cafe and you haven't ordered a coffee yet, 58 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 2: we think the cafe I hate you. 59 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:47,680 Speaker 4: They like, come on quick, We've got to go there. 60 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 4: We'll go to a cafe and Jamie and I will 61 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:53,239 Speaker 4: sit there and she'll wait like thirty minutes before ordering anything. 62 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:55,080 Speaker 4: And we're sitting at like this the best table in 63 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 4: the house, taking up space with laptops and charges, and 64 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 4: we haven't ordered anything, and they're like, I'm you know, 65 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:05,760 Speaker 4: I will maybe come back for a round two. But 66 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:07,119 Speaker 4: should we get into our tit? 67 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:08,080 Speaker 3: Let's get into it. 68 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,960 Speaker 4: So tip number one, and this is something that I 69 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 4: feel like I'm well versed in. Overthinking comes from a 70 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 4: lack of self trust. That's basically what it is. You 71 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 4: don't trust yourself to make decisions, and so you're waiting 72 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 4: for the perfect plan you're waiting for external validation, and 73 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:29,080 Speaker 4: that's what causes the freak outs and considering every possible 74 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:33,640 Speaker 4: avenue because you don't have the blacks trust in yourself. 75 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 3: To make that decision. 76 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 4: And I feel like the more you rely on others 77 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 4: and that external validation, the further away you get from 78 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 4: your intuition. Because once you get in a cycle of 79 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 4: just being like, oh, I'll just ask my friends or 80 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 4: I'll just chat GPT or whatever it is, you're less 81 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 4: likely to like tap in, lean into yourself, your soul 82 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 4: what you actually want, So you just get further and 83 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 4: further away, which means you trust yourself less and less, 84 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 4: and then it just becomes this like toxic spiral. 85 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 2: I feel that also it's almost like a distraction because 86 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 2: if you're going around and asking everyone like what to 87 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 2: do or what should I wear, or like even what 88 00:04:09,440 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 2: to wear to like an event, and you're like polling everyone, 89 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 2: imagine if you just decided and then you could go 90 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 2: and do something else, and how much quicker you would 91 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 2: move through life, Like it almost just is a way 92 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:20,080 Speaker 2: to kind of. 93 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:21,479 Speaker 3: And also polling everyone. 94 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:24,720 Speaker 4: The outfit you choose is based off everyone else's opinion, 95 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:27,159 Speaker 4: Like you're not actually doing what's true to you and 96 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 4: what you want to wear. You're like, well, Sally Smith 97 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 4: over here thinks I look hot and pink. If she 98 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 4: thinks I look great, let's go with that. But actually, 99 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:36,679 Speaker 4: deep down you felt like you wanted to wear purple 100 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:38,559 Speaker 4: and that's your favorite color. But you're just like living 101 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 4: your life then for this external validation of others. 102 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:44,479 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you get so much further away from who 103 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:46,240 Speaker 2: you are. And I think it's why so many people 104 00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:49,359 Speaker 2: are living so out of alignment, because they're just so 105 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 2: into what does this person think and what does this 106 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:55,360 Speaker 2: person think? And what does this person think? What does 107 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 2: this person think? Rather than being like, okay, well what 108 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 2: do I actually want and what feels for me in 109 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:02,799 Speaker 2: this moment? And how can I just make the decision 110 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:04,720 Speaker 2: and move forward? And I think that's why so many 111 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:07,120 Speaker 2: people get stuck in this like I don't know what 112 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:08,719 Speaker 2: to do. I don't know what the next step is 113 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 2: because they haven't actually built that foundation of self trust. 114 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:14,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, and how to build that self trust you kind 115 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 4: of know if it's broken on it, I feel like 116 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:17,160 Speaker 4: you have a feeling. 117 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:18,040 Speaker 3: If it's not there. 118 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 4: Self trust comes from small steps like keeping the promises 119 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 4: you make to yourself, even if it's something as small 120 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 4: as like, oh, I'm going to go for a walk 121 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:28,919 Speaker 4: this afternoon, and then you don't. Every time you don't 122 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 4: stick to your word, you break that self trust a 123 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 4: little bit. So reverse that and flip it and make 124 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,159 Speaker 4: sure that you're doing little steps and keeping your promise 125 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:40,799 Speaker 4: on things. And then also think about, like, what's something 126 00:05:40,839 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 4: that I can do that proves to myself I can 127 00:05:43,320 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 4: handle it or I can do it, like to give 128 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 4: you that feeling of like that you back yourself and 129 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 4: you trust yourself, even if it's something doesn't have to 130 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,359 Speaker 4: be super uncomfortable, but even if it's like going to 131 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:55,440 Speaker 4: a cafe by yourself or just ordering a coffee or 132 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:57,320 Speaker 4: something a little bit different than might be slightly out 133 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:00,200 Speaker 4: of the norm, doing something that feels a little bit 134 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:02,599 Speaker 4: on edge like that, and then doing it you have 135 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 4: that sense of like, oh I can do this, and 136 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,560 Speaker 4: like the pride and like that you've conquered something yep. 137 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 4: That just lights that little bit of a fire in 138 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 4: you every single time to be like I've got myself, 139 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 4: I can handle this. Yep. 140 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 3: Love that. 141 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:16,160 Speaker 4: So to finish on this self trust point, your little 142 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:18,800 Speaker 4: homework for this one is to think about where are 143 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 4: you outsourcing decisions to other people getting validation that you 144 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 4: could be making yourself. So for the next week, anything 145 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 4: that comes up, try and feel into yourself first, see 146 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:31,960 Speaker 4: what you really want to do, make decisions from yourself, 147 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:34,920 Speaker 4: your intuition, and your heart, and then also do little 148 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 4: things that kind of stretches yourself and proves to you 149 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 4: that you've got that self trust and you can do it. 150 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:42,479 Speaker 4: I think even like little things if you're say, out 151 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:44,039 Speaker 4: for dinner or something and you go to ask the 152 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 4: table like what are you guys having? Don't do those things, 153 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 4: like just make sure you're making an internal decision before 154 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 4: you start engaging that conversation so you can really build 155 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 4: that muscle, because I think it's such a habit, like 156 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 4: you kind of be like, oh, what are you having? 157 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:57,760 Speaker 4: Or what what are you going to do? Or what 158 00:06:57,839 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 4: are you going to get? 159 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:00,960 Speaker 2: Or and then it just it ruins that because then 160 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 2: you're all like cloudy and you're overthinking. 161 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,359 Speaker 4: And also how good do you feel, you know, and 162 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 4: you've made a decision like that, or you're just decided 163 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 4: and you're like, yep, this is what I'm doing. This 164 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 4: is what I'm having and this is what I'm doing 165 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 4: and you're just still really good and you're like, don't 166 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 4: need to question it or you know anything like that. 167 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 3: It does it makes you feel really good. You're like, oh, 168 00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:19,680 Speaker 3: I can do this. 169 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 4: I've got myself. 170 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:22,239 Speaker 3: I've got myself. 171 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 4: I've got myself. 172 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 2: And we even said since moving to the Gold Coast, 173 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 2: how amazing it has been to build so much like 174 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:32,200 Speaker 2: I've got myself, Like, no matter what happens, I've got me. 175 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 2: And how good that feeling is is backing yourself and 176 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 2: how it's just so important to have that or else 177 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 2: you're kind of like always making decisions based off for 178 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 2: what if I lose that or don't. 179 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 4: Have this, And that's where the overthinking comes. Yeah, right, 180 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 4: Like that's where then you have to have ten different 181 00:07:47,720 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 4: thoughts and spirals about all these things. Whereas if you've 182 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 4: got the confidence and the self trust, you make a decision, 183 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 4: you back yourself, you know you can do it, you 184 00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 4: can handle it. It eliminates all of the energy wasted 185 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 4: on thinking all these thoughts. Yeah, love all right. 186 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 2: Next one, Okay, next tip and also probably my favorite 187 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 2: tip of the six that resonates with me the most 188 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 2: is stop caring what other people think? Yeah, I think 189 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 2: this is probably the biggest one that people get so 190 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 2: in their head about, like even leaving social events and 191 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:15,800 Speaker 2: you're like. 192 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 4: Oh, should I have said that? Or should I do this? 193 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 2: Or starting ventures like starting businesses or starting to post online. 194 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 2: You're worried about what everyone else is going to think. 195 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 2: And I think it's so fair and valid because as 196 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:31,320 Speaker 2: humans we need a tribe around us in order to survive. 197 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 2: That's very like instinctual. But it's such a powerful thing 198 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:40,000 Speaker 2: to understand that other people's of opinions are actually none 199 00:08:40,040 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 2: of your business. 200 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:41,600 Speaker 3: But here's the thing. 201 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:43,560 Speaker 4: I feel like we hear this a lot on social 202 00:08:43,559 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 4: media and online right, and it's so easily said, just 203 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 4: like stop caring what other people think, of course, but 204 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 4: how do you actually do that because no one really 205 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:54,840 Speaker 4: talks about how to do that and commit to it 206 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 4: and actually feel it's just like a stop caring. Yeah, 207 00:08:57,679 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 4: it's nice to say that care, It's not easy. Well, 208 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 4: I think a few things because I've been on a 209 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 4: big journey with this. I think I really had to 210 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:05,560 Speaker 4: work with my coach on this. At the end of 211 00:09:05,600 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 4: last year, in the lead up to launching my business 212 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 4: because I knew that there was going to be opinions. 213 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 4: I was going to be putting myself out there, and 214 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 4: you know what there was There was people that had 215 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:16,920 Speaker 4: opinions on it. And that's actually fine because I really 216 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 4: had to teach myself that what people think of you 217 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:22,319 Speaker 4: is just a projection of what's going on in their 218 00:09:22,400 --> 00:09:25,000 Speaker 4: internal world. And every time I start to overthink, I 219 00:09:25,000 --> 00:09:27,560 Speaker 4: stop myself and go what's going on for them for 220 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:29,520 Speaker 4: them to have that opinion on me, because it's actually 221 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 4: nothing to do with me and everything to do with 222 00:09:31,559 --> 00:09:33,680 Speaker 4: them and what they're going through, and you know, they're 223 00:09:33,720 --> 00:09:37,320 Speaker 4: limiting beliefs. For example, if someone told me starting a 224 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:39,679 Speaker 4: business and they hadn't started the business that they want to, 225 00:09:39,760 --> 00:09:41,680 Speaker 4: they'd be like, oh, who is she to start a business? 226 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 4: Like she doesn't know what she's doing or blah blah blah. 227 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:46,320 Speaker 4: So then it comes back to what's going on for them. 228 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 4: And the second one is just like expanding your nervous 229 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 4: system to be okay with that. So when I first 230 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:54,800 Speaker 4: started posting, I would maybe overthink it and be like, oh, 231 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:56,959 Speaker 4: like what are people thinking? What are people saying? 232 00:09:57,320 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 2: And you just keep doing it and your body eventually 233 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 2: lo that it is safe to do that, and you 234 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 2: expand your capacity. 235 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:04,000 Speaker 4: And it becomes your normal. 236 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:07,840 Speaker 2: And I think so many people wait for the feeling 237 00:10:07,880 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 2: of being like, Okay, I'm ready, I don't care what 238 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 2: people think, but they haven't taken any action. So you're 239 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:15,400 Speaker 2: just expanding your capacity for that in order to be 240 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 2: like it's actually safe. And even when people I've heard 241 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:22,840 Speaker 2: of people saying things about me or whatever, it is, okay, 242 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 2: I survived, Like it's fine, I'm okay if they have 243 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 2: that opinion on me, and learning to be okay with 244 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 2: being misunderstood or that not everyone's going to support you 245 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 2: and not everyone's going to agree with you, because if 246 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:36,360 Speaker 2: you have that mentality, you will never do anything because 247 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 2: there's always going to be people who are going to 248 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 2: say something yeah. 249 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 4: And also, like, if you think about it, everyone is 250 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 4: so busy in their own lives, in their own minds. 251 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 4: No one is sitting there spending their whole day thinking 252 00:10:47,520 --> 00:10:50,720 Speaker 4: about you, like think about yourself. No, are you thinking 253 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 4: about Tom Smith's posts from last week? Absolutely not, Like 254 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:56,640 Speaker 4: you're so busy in your own mind that if someone 255 00:10:56,679 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 4: has a thought or you know, projected feeling towards you, 256 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 4: it might sit there for all of five seconds fleeting, 257 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:03,920 Speaker 4: and they'd be like, oh, Jamie did that, and then 258 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 4: see later they never think about it ever again because 259 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 4: everyone is in their own mind and they're too busy. 260 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:11,080 Speaker 4: So in a nice way, you're not that important. Like 261 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 4: no one's spending all of their day and all of 262 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 4: their energy thinking about you. If they are, someone's been 263 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 4: wrong there, and I wouldn't really care about what that person. 264 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 2: And it's people who are struggling with their own like 265 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 2: internal world and what's going on for them. Because also 266 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 2: I think that no one that's done the thing or 267 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:29,640 Speaker 2: is ahead of me, or is feeling really secure and 268 00:11:29,679 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 2: where they are is actually taking any notice of what 269 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 2: I'm doing. 270 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:34,560 Speaker 4: They're so like happy and. 271 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:36,720 Speaker 2: In their own world and feeling so good about themselves. 272 00:11:36,720 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 2: It's like coming from a lack or insecurity. Insecurity inquity 273 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:44,520 Speaker 2: coming from a lack or an insecurity. So I think 274 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 2: just reminding yourself of that when you get in that 275 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 2: mindset and when you start the overthinking, go Okay, well, 276 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 2: what's going on for them? 277 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 4: Why do they have that opinion or what? 278 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:54,600 Speaker 3: But you might not even know. 279 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 4: Man, you probably don't know because it's probably some child 280 00:11:57,040 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 4: with trauma from when they were seven years old that 281 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:00,960 Speaker 4: you're not going to know it's like deep down in Yeah. 282 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:03,720 Speaker 4: So also don't get too caught up and being like 283 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:05,839 Speaker 4: like thinking about them, just like it's not my problem. 284 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 2: No, And most of the time you won't actually know 285 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:11,200 Speaker 2: what other people's opinions of you are unless it's some 286 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:13,959 Speaker 2: random seven to sixty five on the internet. 287 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:15,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, but also who cares? 288 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:16,439 Speaker 3: Who cares? 289 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 4: And also think about imagine getting to the end of 290 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:22,520 Speaker 4: your life not doing what you wanted, not starting the business, 291 00:12:22,559 --> 00:12:25,320 Speaker 4: not putting yourself out there because of what other people 292 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 4: might have thought of you once in twenty twenty five, Like, 293 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 4: you can't live your life that way, otherwise you will 294 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:33,160 Speaker 4: get to the end and have never done anything that 295 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 4: you wanted. 296 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:37,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, I just I feel like it's just about 297 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 2: strengthening that muscle and just being okay with being misunderstood. 298 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 2: And also another point, my last point for this is 299 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:49,640 Speaker 2: I think something that I really started to notice because 300 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:51,880 Speaker 2: I promised myself about two months ago I was going 301 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 2: to start putting myself out there more and showing more 302 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 2: conviction online and being more authentically me because I knew 303 00:12:57,800 --> 00:12:59,560 Speaker 2: that there was so much power and magic in that, 304 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:01,880 Speaker 2: and the people that have been coming into my world 305 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 2: because of that, and the feedback and engagement and the 306 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 2: messages have been way more than when I wasn't showing 307 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:10,280 Speaker 2: up in that way. And I think the more you 308 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 2: you can be, the more closer you get to your people. 309 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:14,680 Speaker 2: But it also comes with the other flip side of 310 00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:16,199 Speaker 2: that is the further a way you get from the 311 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 2: people who aren't meant to be in your world. So 312 00:13:18,440 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 2: I think it's just understanding the duality of that and. 313 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:23,680 Speaker 4: Being okay with that balance because it's an energy you 314 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:25,720 Speaker 4: give off like you can feel it, like if you 315 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 4: were a little bit cheapish and awkward and won't giving 316 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:30,439 Speaker 4: your full self, people can feel that, whereas if you're 317 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 4: your true self, it's magnetic. The right people are drawn 318 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:36,520 Speaker 4: to you. But what is the homework for this? Is 319 00:13:36,559 --> 00:13:39,480 Speaker 4: it like a bit of an exposure therapy. What's the homework? 320 00:13:39,800 --> 00:13:41,320 Speaker 2: I'm going to give you a prompt for this, And 321 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 2: also I think exposure therapy. So if there is something 322 00:13:44,160 --> 00:13:47,800 Speaker 2: that you have been holding yourself back from, like posting online, 323 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 2: starting a business, starting a conversation, reaching out to someone 324 00:13:52,600 --> 00:13:55,199 Speaker 2: that you've been holding back in fear of someone's opinion, 325 00:13:55,640 --> 00:13:57,760 Speaker 2: Go and do it and show yourself that it is 326 00:13:57,800 --> 00:14:00,240 Speaker 2: safe to do it, because I promise you, the more 327 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:03,000 Speaker 2: that you expose yourself to that, the more comfortable and 328 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:06,160 Speaker 2: normal it becomes, and you'll just get out of this 329 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:09,160 Speaker 2: overthinking cycle. And the second thing is to go in 330 00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 2: journal or think about if no one else could have 331 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 2: an opinion, what would you. 332 00:14:15,240 --> 00:14:18,840 Speaker 4: Be doing differently. That's good and it can be baby steps, 333 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 4: Like it doesn't have to be like starting the Instagram 334 00:14:21,520 --> 00:14:24,320 Speaker 4: today and like those a video of you talking. It 335 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:27,560 Speaker 4: can be really small. It can just be like you're 336 00:14:27,560 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 4: looking into it, or like sitting and visualizing the feeling 337 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 4: of what it would be like to be seen online, 338 00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 4: or you know, even whatever. It is really small steps. 339 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 4: It can be baby steps. It doesn't have to be 340 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:46,720 Speaker 4: the whole damn thing with the kitchen sink. So the 341 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:50,560 Speaker 4: next tip is to do with getting out of victim 342 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:53,560 Speaker 4: mode and taking responsibility. Now, this is a bit of 343 00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:56,360 Speaker 4: a touchy one because it can be really hard. Number one, 344 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:59,520 Speaker 4: we can't always see when we're in victim mode. And 345 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 4: number two, who our ego is going to try and 346 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 4: keep us safe and protect us in that? So overthinking 347 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:08,840 Speaker 4: is the mind's way of protecting us. It's keeping us 348 00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 4: safe and distant from rejection, fear, responsibility. So to kind 349 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:16,280 Speaker 4: of go into that and do the opposite it can 350 00:15:16,320 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 4: feel a little bit scary and uneasy. So shift from 351 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:21,800 Speaker 4: like why is this happening to me? To what can 352 00:15:21,840 --> 00:15:24,880 Speaker 4: I do right now? Because often when we're overthinking and 353 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:28,120 Speaker 4: sitting in victim mode, we think are being productive because 354 00:15:28,120 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 4: we're distancing ourselves. We're like, no, we're just waiting or 355 00:15:30,560 --> 00:15:33,280 Speaker 4: like we're seeing or whatever it is. But it's actually 356 00:15:33,280 --> 00:15:36,800 Speaker 4: a false sense of control because it's not You're doing 357 00:15:36,840 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 4: it to prevent yourself from doing something because you're scared 358 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 4: or you're stuck. But then you end up just like 359 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 4: staying in limbo. So it's not productive. So take, like, 360 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:48,680 Speaker 4: you know, sit down, have a look at your life, 361 00:15:48,720 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 4: have a look at some patterns that are coming up, 362 00:15:50,280 --> 00:15:52,240 Speaker 4: or where you feel a bit like, oh, this is 363 00:15:52,280 --> 00:15:54,360 Speaker 4: happening to me, I'm stuck, this isn't going the way 364 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:57,040 Speaker 4: I want, And just try and zoom out and have 365 00:15:57,080 --> 00:15:59,400 Speaker 4: a bit of a bird's eye perspective and look at 366 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 4: it and be like, where can I take some responsibility? 367 00:16:02,840 --> 00:16:05,280 Speaker 4: What action could I be taking instead of waiting or 368 00:16:05,280 --> 00:16:09,040 Speaker 4: blaming other things. Because if you're sitting there being like, oh, 369 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:11,120 Speaker 4: but there's this, and like I can't actually do this 370 00:16:11,120 --> 00:16:15,120 Speaker 4: because there's this, you're scared, which is totally fine, like that, 371 00:16:15,160 --> 00:16:18,920 Speaker 4: we're all scared. That's normal, But let's unpack why are 372 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 4: you scared? What are you protecting yourself from? What's stopping you? 373 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 4: Because on the other side of that fear and the 374 00:16:25,640 --> 00:16:28,160 Speaker 4: false sense of control is probably everything that you want 375 00:16:28,200 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 4: and you're waiting for. 376 00:16:29,680 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 2: Well, I think overthinking is just a version of self sabotage. 377 00:16:33,080 --> 00:16:35,200 Speaker 2: It's just your ego's way of protecting you so you 378 00:16:35,240 --> 00:16:37,200 Speaker 2: don't actually have to step into the thing and you 379 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:40,040 Speaker 2: don't have to go into a new level and feel growth. 380 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 2: It's either overthinking or it's getting distracted, or it's procrastinating, 381 00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 2: like you're all everyone has a crutch, Everyone has a 382 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:50,520 Speaker 2: thing that they do when their ego is trying to 383 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:53,479 Speaker 2: protect them from moving. So I think it's just recognizing 384 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 2: that and being like, Okay, am I is this actually 385 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:57,480 Speaker 2: a problem? Or am I making a problem out of 386 00:16:57,480 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 2: nothing so that I don't have to move? 387 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:02,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, which can be confusing because it's you know, quote 388 00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:05,679 Speaker 4: unquote the bad things that's actually your ego protecting you. 389 00:17:05,880 --> 00:17:08,480 Speaker 4: It's trying to do a good job because it's like, oh, 390 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 4: rejection is scary. Let's not be rejected. Let's just keep 391 00:17:12,000 --> 00:17:14,640 Speaker 4: ourselves in this safe, little comfort zone where we're safe 392 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:16,680 Speaker 4: and warm. Let's not go and do the scary thing, 393 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 4: which you know, thank you ego for protecting me, because 394 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 4: that's so nice. That's a safety strategy, which we love, 395 00:17:22,880 --> 00:17:25,160 Speaker 4: but we don't need that anymore. We're ready to move 396 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:27,600 Speaker 4: into this next level. So you can thank it and 397 00:17:27,680 --> 00:17:30,439 Speaker 4: acknowledge it, but then kind of open yourself up to 398 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:33,199 Speaker 4: be like, ooh, already, where do I want to move here? 399 00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:35,000 Speaker 4: Where am I staying stuck? What are the patterns that 400 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 4: are keeping me here? And how can I move beyond that. 401 00:17:37,720 --> 00:17:40,439 Speaker 2: I normalize having the thoughts but doing the thing anyway, 402 00:17:40,480 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 2: because I think you're not really going to get to 403 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:46,159 Speaker 2: a point of your life where you're not thinking of 404 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 2: the what ifs or the worry. That is a very 405 00:17:48,040 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 2: natural thing, But it's about having those thoughts and just 406 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:51,720 Speaker 2: doing the thing anyway. 407 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:52,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. 408 00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:55,879 Speaker 4: Yeah, And like I really feel like taking responsibility, like 409 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:59,920 Speaker 4: radical responsibility, is so freeing. Like imagine if you're in 410 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:02,959 Speaker 4: like a little jail cell and you're like, I didn't 411 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 4: do the thing, like I'm stuck here. Why am I 412 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:07,760 Speaker 4: stuck here? And you're like banging on the cages being 413 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:09,920 Speaker 4: like let me out, guards, like I didn't do the thing. 414 00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 4: Verse Like if you sit there and you're like, yeah, 415 00:18:13,080 --> 00:18:16,239 Speaker 4: I did that, I I whatever, it is, like, this 416 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:17,720 Speaker 4: is my fault. I could have done this, this, and 417 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:20,600 Speaker 4: this differently. I own my shit, Like yeah, and I'm 418 00:18:20,640 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 4: going to do this differently next time. You're going to 419 00:18:22,800 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 4: go so much further and learn from everything in the 420 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:27,800 Speaker 4: long run. Then if you just stay there and be like, no, 421 00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:29,280 Speaker 4: that wasn't me. I had nothing to do with that. 422 00:18:29,359 --> 00:18:30,440 Speaker 4: It was everyone else's fault. 423 00:18:30,680 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 3: Yeah. 424 00:18:31,160 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 2: I remember Sitto saying that to me once. She's like, 425 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:37,240 Speaker 2: if there's anything you're ever like feeling you're worried, people 426 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:39,360 Speaker 2: will call you out on just call yourself out first, 427 00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:40,080 Speaker 2: and then they've got no. 428 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:40,639 Speaker 4: Power of you. 429 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:41,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, it takes it away. 430 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:44,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, well, you're only going to have those 431 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:47,560 Speaker 2: feelings if you allow those feelings to be real. But 432 00:18:47,560 --> 00:18:49,439 Speaker 2: if you're if you just own it and you just 433 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:53,080 Speaker 2: take responsibility and say the thing, well no one can 434 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:54,919 Speaker 2: say anything about it because you've already said it yourself. 435 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:58,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, shadow works really powerful. Also great book to read 436 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:01,600 Speaker 4: with this is Existential. I can't remember who it's by, 437 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:03,520 Speaker 4: but it's one of my favorite books of all the time. 438 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:05,359 Speaker 4: It's one of the books that's like really changed the 439 00:19:05,359 --> 00:19:08,280 Speaker 4: game for me. It's all about like viewing your shadows 440 00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 4: and incorporating them and like quote unquote getting a kink 441 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:13,639 Speaker 4: out of them, kind of being like, oh, yeah, like 442 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:15,800 Speaker 4: I do do that, yeah, and like making it a 443 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:17,880 Speaker 4: whole part of you, as opposed to distancing and being 444 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:18,920 Speaker 4: like that's a bad side of me. 445 00:19:19,040 --> 00:19:20,240 Speaker 3: I have to shun that side. 446 00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:22,800 Speaker 4: It's like integrating it and shining a light on it, 447 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:24,960 Speaker 4: and then you can move forward, which is really cool. 448 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:27,959 Speaker 4: Definitely check that book out. But your homework for this 449 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:29,639 Speaker 4: point is just to kind of sit down and have 450 00:19:29,680 --> 00:19:31,320 Speaker 4: a look at your patterns where you're feeling a bit 451 00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 4: stuck and just be like, where can I take responsibility here? 452 00:19:34,600 --> 00:19:36,960 Speaker 4: Where am I saying stuck and maybe blaming some other 453 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:39,439 Speaker 4: things in areas that I could be taking actually and 454 00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:40,000 Speaker 4: moving forward? 455 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:40,920 Speaker 3: Love. 456 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:44,800 Speaker 2: Tip number four is let go off the control of 457 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:47,320 Speaker 2: the outcome. This is huge because I think this is 458 00:19:48,160 --> 00:19:50,400 Speaker 2: such a big reason why people get stuck in overthinking 459 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 2: and perfectionism is because they're so stuck on the outcome 460 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:56,600 Speaker 2: of the situation. And I think one of the biggest 461 00:19:56,600 --> 00:20:00,320 Speaker 2: things to strengthen and learn is surrender and a most 462 00:20:00,359 --> 00:20:04,679 Speaker 2: trusting that however it unfolds, and whatever unfolds is perfect 463 00:20:04,760 --> 00:20:08,040 Speaker 2: for your evolution and is exactly either the lessons or 464 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 2: the direction that you needed to go, because I think 465 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:13,639 Speaker 2: you can never control an outcome, You can never know 466 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:16,400 Speaker 2: what is exactly going to happen. And if you get 467 00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:18,560 Speaker 2: stuck in the mode of I need to know how 468 00:20:18,600 --> 00:20:20,280 Speaker 2: it's going to go and I need to know what's 469 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:23,439 Speaker 2: going to happen, it's going to be paralyzing and you're 470 00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:26,200 Speaker 2: going to stay stuck in that forever. And I think 471 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:30,320 Speaker 2: one of the most freeing things or sentences that I 472 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:33,480 Speaker 2: say when I get stuck in these modes of getting 473 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 2: stuck in the outcome is Jamie, it's going to work 474 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 2: out exactly as it's meant to. 475 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:40,399 Speaker 4: And that's a part of your evolution that you can't see. 476 00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:42,880 Speaker 2: And I know that George always talks about that example 477 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 2: of Ivy with the lollies and not knowing that if 478 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:48,960 Speaker 2: she has that before bed she's not gonna be able 479 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:51,120 Speaker 2: to sleep, she's gonna be all like but she knows. 480 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:54,639 Speaker 2: And Georgie in this scenario is the universe and we 481 00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 2: are ivy. 482 00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:57,600 Speaker 4: We are so you don't know what's. 483 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,000 Speaker 2: The best thing for you and just trusting that whatever 484 00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:02,720 Speaker 2: happens and however it goes is perfect. 485 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:03,600 Speaker 3: Yeah. 486 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:06,080 Speaker 4: And this is something I really struggle with too, because 487 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:07,640 Speaker 4: I'm quite the perfectionist. 488 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:08,919 Speaker 3: I like control. 489 00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 4: And I read this saying the other day that was like, 490 00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:13,919 Speaker 4: if you're waiting for all of these certain areas of 491 00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 4: your life to line up and be these certain outcomes 492 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:19,240 Speaker 4: in order for you to be peaceful, that's not peace. 493 00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:20,200 Speaker 3: It's control. 494 00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:23,879 Speaker 4: Peace is being calm amongst all the chaos and all 495 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:26,399 Speaker 4: the things happening. And I feel like that's so true, 496 00:21:26,440 --> 00:21:29,000 Speaker 4: because if you're overthinking and being like, well, this has 497 00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:30,560 Speaker 4: to be like this, and this has to be like this, 498 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:34,679 Speaker 4: that's not genuinely calm and flow and peace. 499 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:36,000 Speaker 3: It's control. 500 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:39,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, And I think it's just that vibration 501 00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:43,720 Speaker 2: and energetic shift of okay, but it's actually just almost 502 00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:46,240 Speaker 2: being a little bit delusional that it is actually working 503 00:21:46,280 --> 00:21:49,359 Speaker 2: out perfectly. Even every time I feel that like tenseness 504 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:51,479 Speaker 2: or I need a rash or need to do this 505 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 2: or need to do that. I'm like it's working up perfectly, 506 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:56,720 Speaker 2: and just the calmness that comes over you, and that's 507 00:21:56,760 --> 00:21:57,160 Speaker 2: the goal. 508 00:21:57,480 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 4: I think it's so hard and there's such a resistance 509 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:03,160 Speaker 4: to do that because you know, our whole life, we've 510 00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:06,439 Speaker 4: been built to be in control for our safety and 511 00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:07,640 Speaker 4: expect outcomes. 512 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:08,920 Speaker 3: So we're ready and we're prepared. 513 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:11,359 Speaker 4: And like, if you control things, then you know, like 514 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:13,399 Speaker 4: you can see all the things in the dark and 515 00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:16,480 Speaker 4: you feel safe. But if you release that and let go, 516 00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,159 Speaker 4: like you if you can't see things, it could be 517 00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,880 Speaker 4: something you're not expecting it. It could be scary. That's why 518 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:24,080 Speaker 4: it feels so resistant because as humans, I feel like 519 00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:27,920 Speaker 4: we're kind of wide and designed that way. But being 520 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:29,919 Speaker 4: in that kind of like I want to say, chill. 521 00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:32,560 Speaker 4: Being in that chill mode where you're just surrendered and 522 00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:37,280 Speaker 4: you trust life is just so much more enjoyable and 523 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 4: peaceful and you can be surprised and delighted in lots 524 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:43,040 Speaker 4: of different ways and just know that you can handle 525 00:22:43,080 --> 00:22:43,760 Speaker 4: whatever it is. 526 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:47,119 Speaker 2: And I think also the biggest thing for me is 527 00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:51,040 Speaker 2: imagine the life that you're blocking being stuck on one 528 00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:54,920 Speaker 2: outcome because you are only where you are right now, 529 00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:57,240 Speaker 2: and if you think about it, you have so many 530 00:22:57,240 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 2: evolutions to come. But your brain is thinking in that 531 00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,320 Speaker 2: you are right now. So if you're controlled on the outcome, 532 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:03,120 Speaker 2: it's probably. 533 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:03,560 Speaker 4: One step ahead. 534 00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:05,800 Speaker 2: But imagine if you could be one hundred steps ahead 535 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,200 Speaker 2: if you just surrendered and let go of the outcome, 536 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:10,920 Speaker 2: because there's so much more possible than you can even 537 00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:11,800 Speaker 2: fathom right now. 538 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:12,560 Speaker 3: That's the thing. 539 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:16,480 Speaker 4: Your brain can't actually conceptualize. There's six levels ahead of 540 00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:19,119 Speaker 4: you because think about you six years ago when you 541 00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 4: were living in Melbourne working in your corporate job or 542 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,199 Speaker 4: whatever it was, and you were like hating life. You 543 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:27,639 Speaker 4: couldn't have even fathomed being sitting here on the Gold 544 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,000 Speaker 4: Coast in this job doing what you do, just. 545 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:30,480 Speaker 3: Like right now. 546 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:34,320 Speaker 4: Your mind actually can't imagine or conceptualize all of the 547 00:23:34,359 --> 00:23:37,879 Speaker 4: steps ahead for good reason, because it's you're supposed to 548 00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:40,639 Speaker 4: be kind of guided in, surprised and delighted along the way. 549 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:44,199 Speaker 4: So it's like just let go and trust, which that 550 00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:45,920 Speaker 4: can be hard because you've got to believe that you're 551 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,480 Speaker 4: worthy of all of these good things coming. But just 552 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:50,520 Speaker 4: go for a little bit and see what happens. Like, 553 00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:51,800 Speaker 4: maybe that's why I work with this. 554 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,320 Speaker 2: I know, because even if I had a thought back then, 555 00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:57,240 Speaker 2: my dream life could have been just working from home 556 00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:58,840 Speaker 2: in that job rather than having to go in the 557 00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:00,879 Speaker 2: office every day. But now, if I look at my 558 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:04,560 Speaker 2: life now, it's I would have never thought that was possible. 559 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:06,359 Speaker 2: And if I didn't let go of the outcome, and 560 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:08,320 Speaker 2: I was so stuck on that outcome. 561 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:09,919 Speaker 4: Maybe you would have pushed and fought really hard to 562 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,280 Speaker 4: with your current job to like, please, can I have 563 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,560 Speaker 4: a work from home down whatever? And then you stayed 564 00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:16,240 Speaker 4: in that and didn't get here because you tried to 565 00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:20,000 Speaker 4: control the outcome. Yeah, whoa, So what's the time work? 566 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:24,879 Speaker 4: So the work is nothing? Just Jill, stop asking for 567 00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:26,240 Speaker 4: an outcome. Yeah okay. 568 00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:28,879 Speaker 2: So the prompt for this is can I be okay 569 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,360 Speaker 2: not knowing how and just trust that it's working out 570 00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:37,239 Speaker 2: for me and just start leaning into the energy of 571 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:40,159 Speaker 2: even I love I love playing around me. That the 572 00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:43,119 Speaker 2: idea of this sentence. When I'm feeling a bit constricted 573 00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:45,720 Speaker 2: or like wanting to rush or being really in my 574 00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:49,199 Speaker 2: logical brain, what like, imagine if it just worked out 575 00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:52,399 Speaker 2: perfectly right now and then just like that shift of 576 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:56,520 Speaker 2: energy has done so much for me, and just allowing 577 00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:59,440 Speaker 2: myself to step into that energy rather than being so 578 00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,560 Speaker 2: focused on the outcome in that moment, love that love. 579 00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:08,160 Speaker 4: Next tip, arguably one of the most important ones, oh, 580 00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:11,399 Speaker 4: is get out of your head and into your body. 581 00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:14,840 Speaker 4: About your thinking, Georgina, what I'm in my body? I 582 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:17,159 Speaker 4: live in my body. I know you do, but this 583 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,520 Speaker 4: is like where your presence is, where your thinking is 584 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:22,399 Speaker 4: a lot of us are in our stuck in our heads, 585 00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:27,560 Speaker 4: which means that we're in you know, anxiety, overwhelm, overthinking, 586 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,960 Speaker 4: we're future tripping. But you can't think your way out 587 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,439 Speaker 4: of anxiety, or you can't think your way out of 588 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:35,800 Speaker 4: a problem. Like in your mind is where all of 589 00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:38,200 Speaker 4: your limiting beliefs are, the fears, all of those things 590 00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:41,480 Speaker 4: that kind of like get in and freak you out. 591 00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:44,479 Speaker 4: Whereas if you just drop into your body and have 592 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:48,480 Speaker 4: like your innate wisdom and power, that's where all the 593 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:51,719 Speaker 4: truth is. And the way that you drop into your 594 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:55,600 Speaker 4: body and get out of your head is by meditating, journaling, 595 00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 4: being our nature, grounding yourself. Like do you ever notice 596 00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,400 Speaker 4: if you're feeling a bit panicked, if you just go outside, 597 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,119 Speaker 4: look into the sun, like, take some deep breaths. You 598 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:07,440 Speaker 4: automatically just feel a bit less frantic. That's because you're 599 00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:10,000 Speaker 4: in your head versus your body. And then you know, 600 00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:12,560 Speaker 4: if you go and get a massage or you spend 601 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:14,440 Speaker 4: the day on a nature walk, you finish. 602 00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:16,440 Speaker 3: And you're like, oh, it's actually like not so bad. 603 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:20,040 Speaker 4: I'm feeling okay because you're connected and you're in your body. 604 00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:23,920 Speaker 4: That is why, obviously we have our app Rise, which 605 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:27,720 Speaker 4: has got all different meditations and audio frequencies designed to 606 00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:31,040 Speaker 4: help you do just that. So often, if I'm like 607 00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,879 Speaker 4: I can feel myself being really in my mind and 608 00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:36,480 Speaker 4: overthinking things, I'll just go for a little walk and 609 00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:39,240 Speaker 4: play one of those meditations, might put my hand on 610 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:43,240 Speaker 4: my heart and just breathe and I'm like, oh, it's okay, 611 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:45,960 Speaker 4: I'm gonna be okay. I'm gonna be okay, and just 612 00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:47,119 Speaker 4: pulls you back into the present. 613 00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:51,480 Speaker 2: Well, we actually have one of my favorite regulation practices 614 00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,240 Speaker 2: to bring me back to the present. We recorded a 615 00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:56,120 Speaker 2: meditation the other day. 616 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:57,320 Speaker 4: It should be life. 617 00:26:57,080 --> 00:27:00,760 Speaker 2: By the time this episode comes out, but depending on 618 00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:04,560 Speaker 2: the timing of all of that, it's coming. And it's 619 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,679 Speaker 2: called like the Five Census meditation, and it's basically just 620 00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:09,600 Speaker 2: what can you hear, what can you see? 621 00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:11,480 Speaker 4: What can you taste, what can you smell? What can 622 00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:11,960 Speaker 4: you touch? 623 00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:14,879 Speaker 2: And it just allows you to you're not stuck in 624 00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:17,560 Speaker 2: overthinking as you're thinking about what can I experience right 625 00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:18,600 Speaker 2: now in the present moment. 626 00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:20,960 Speaker 4: And that's been one of my favorite practices. 627 00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:22,920 Speaker 2: So I thought, let's bring it into the Rise app 628 00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,560 Speaker 2: and make it a meditation where you can just really 629 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,359 Speaker 2: drop in. And it's only five minutes, so you can 630 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:29,760 Speaker 2: do it at any point in the day. If you're 631 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:33,080 Speaker 2: feeling frantic at work, if you're feeling rushed in the morning, 632 00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:38,840 Speaker 2: if you're whatever it is, kids are having a moment's crazy, 633 00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:41,399 Speaker 2: drop in, do the five minutes, and come back to 634 00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,480 Speaker 2: the present, and then you can move forward in such 635 00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:44,719 Speaker 2: a clear way. 636 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:45,800 Speaker 3: I love that. 637 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,840 Speaker 4: So there's this quote or saying that I wanted to 638 00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:50,679 Speaker 4: pass on because I like this has been really helpful 639 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:53,080 Speaker 4: for me. Whenever you're having a bit of a moment, 640 00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:56,080 Speaker 4: a bit of a you know, spiral, say to yourself 641 00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,960 Speaker 4: when I start to spiral, I remind myself, I am 642 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:03,800 Speaker 4: not my thoughts, I'm just my body having an experience. 643 00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:07,840 Speaker 4: So I move breathe or ground until I feel present again, 644 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:10,480 Speaker 4: and just kind of having that thought in the back 645 00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:13,240 Speaker 4: of your mind as a reminder to be Like, every 646 00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:16,080 Speaker 4: time I'm in my head i'm feeling frantic and frustrated 647 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:19,719 Speaker 4: or overwhelmed, I come back to myself. I, you know, 648 00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 4: get in touch with my senses nature. I breathe and 649 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:26,000 Speaker 4: I just feel good again. I feel calm and grounded, 650 00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:27,520 Speaker 4: and then you can be a bit more in touch 651 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:30,640 Speaker 4: with your intuition, make the right decisions, not be caught 652 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:33,919 Speaker 4: up in the little unimportant details. Being in your body 653 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,119 Speaker 4: is so important. I love that. 654 00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:38,440 Speaker 2: My dad used to always teach me that growing up 655 00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:41,400 Speaker 2: for contact. My dad's bit of a life coach onto 656 00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:44,560 Speaker 2: logical coach so very a wisdom as man, and he 657 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,720 Speaker 2: used to always teach me that my emotions are not me, 658 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,520 Speaker 2: They're just explaining what I'm experiencing in the moment. And 659 00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:52,520 Speaker 2: if you can detach from that, it's the same with. 660 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 4: Your thoughts and come back to yourself. 661 00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:56,800 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm thinking this, what's going on for me in 662 00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 2: this moment, and what is that feedback loop that I'm 663 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:00,600 Speaker 2: currently experiencing. 664 00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:02,560 Speaker 4: Game change, because then you're not just. 665 00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:06,160 Speaker 2: Living off reactivity or being intentional with what's actually going 666 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:09,160 Speaker 2: on and what that emotional thought is telling you. 667 00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:11,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, and especially when we live such busy lives, like 668 00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:14,720 Speaker 4: we're always rushing around in the car doing things, ticking 669 00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,920 Speaker 4: off our to do list. Just taking five minutes a 670 00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:20,520 Speaker 4: day to be with yourself, be present, connect back with 671 00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:23,200 Speaker 4: your body. It can change the energy of the whole 672 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:25,480 Speaker 4: day and the whole week and the decisions that you make. 673 00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:27,720 Speaker 3: Per So that's an important one. 674 00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:30,120 Speaker 4: So it's that the homework for the week coming back 675 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,800 Speaker 4: to the quote, the homework come back to the quote, 676 00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:34,400 Speaker 4: and just kind of you know, whether you set a 677 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,959 Speaker 4: little moment in your calendar or a reminder or something, 678 00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:39,959 Speaker 4: just take five minutes a day to reconnect, even if 679 00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:42,320 Speaker 4: it's just going for a walk with no music or 680 00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:46,320 Speaker 4: no audio and just kind of like looking around, you know, breathing, 681 00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:49,200 Speaker 4: taking some time in silence. That can be really powerful 682 00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:53,800 Speaker 4: to to to You'll notice how much more grounded and 683 00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:56,840 Speaker 4: present you feel, and it will really help with the overthinking. 684 00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,920 Speaker 4: Love it, Love it next Tipperuni. 685 00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:04,080 Speaker 2: Okay number six and I kind of touched on this earlier, 686 00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:08,840 Speaker 2: but take imperfect action, Stop waiting for the right moment, 687 00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 2: to not have any fear to have all of the 688 00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:15,800 Speaker 2: knowledge and everything and just take action. I feel like 689 00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:18,640 Speaker 2: if you can become someone who focuses on the step 690 00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:21,240 Speaker 2: ahead rather than the ten steps ahead, because the ten 691 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:23,239 Speaker 2: steps ahead is where you get in overthinking because you 692 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:26,200 Speaker 2: haven't even taken one step, so then you're thinking, well, 693 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,240 Speaker 2: how does this look? And then that and then the 694 00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:30,240 Speaker 2: next thing. And then if you can just focus on 695 00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:32,640 Speaker 2: the one step ahead of you and take that and 696 00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:35,160 Speaker 2: then okay, I've made that step, what can I do next, 697 00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:38,040 Speaker 2: and just slowly start to become someone who just moves 698 00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 2: rather than thinks about the whole plan and the whole everything. 699 00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:45,320 Speaker 3: What do I call it? It's like paralysis something paralysis. 700 00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:46,240 Speaker 3: There's a term for. 701 00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:49,960 Speaker 2: It, decision decision paralysis. That's when there's so many different 702 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:50,960 Speaker 2: decisions and you don't know. 703 00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 3: Maybe. 704 00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:53,600 Speaker 4: I'm just like, if you have so many things, you 705 00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:54,920 Speaker 4: don't know what's the priority, and then you just don't 706 00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 4: do anything. 707 00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:57,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred percent. And if you get caught in 708 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:01,120 Speaker 2: like thinking about the whole plan. I think that's something 709 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 2: that I really focus on when I'm trying to get 710 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:06,040 Speaker 2: a big project done or anything like that. If you 711 00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,640 Speaker 2: try and think of the project as a whole, you 712 00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:11,600 Speaker 2: end up just procrastinating because it feels so overwhelming. But 713 00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:13,480 Speaker 2: if you think of, Okay, today, I'm going to get 714 00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:17,520 Speaker 2: this done. And this is why every day, for either 715 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:21,600 Speaker 2: RNC or my business, I've got three to five master 716 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,000 Speaker 2: tasks or main task that I need to get done 717 00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:24,680 Speaker 2: for the day. 718 00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:26,200 Speaker 4: Because if you've got a list. 719 00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:29,400 Speaker 2: Of one hundred things every single day, you're going to 720 00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:33,000 Speaker 2: constantly spend probably fifty percent of your time just figuring 721 00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:34,760 Speaker 2: out what you're going to do. So if you lay 722 00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:36,720 Speaker 2: it out to just have three to five things every 723 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,520 Speaker 2: single day that you can tick off and get done 724 00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:40,600 Speaker 2: and focus on. 725 00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 3: And tell us what that builds self trust. 726 00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:46,320 Speaker 4: It builds self trust, and it all comes together out. 727 00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:47,920 Speaker 3: Then you do a meditation when you're done, then you 728 00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:48,880 Speaker 3: feel good in your body. 729 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:52,040 Speaker 4: Overthinking who honestly, what's that song? 730 00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:52,680 Speaker 3: I was just thinking? 731 00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:57,640 Speaker 4: But baby steps that that's like a moto right now. 732 00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:00,280 Speaker 4: I don't know it, but I don't know it with 733 00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:04,000 Speaker 4: you anyway, really relevant, But that's the motto right now? 734 00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:06,280 Speaker 4: Play that every day, like just little steps, little things 735 00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:06,640 Speaker 4: every day. 736 00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:10,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, Because I think overthinking comes when you overwhelm yourself 737 00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:12,440 Speaker 2: as well with so many different things that you need 738 00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:14,920 Speaker 2: to do or one hundred steps ahead, and I think 739 00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:18,040 Speaker 2: even thinking, Okay, what's my five year plan? I want 740 00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:20,239 Speaker 2: to be here, and then all that you're not going 741 00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,000 Speaker 2: to make a decision because you're so caught up trying 742 00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,520 Speaker 2: to figure out what the hell to do. Just like 743 00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:28,600 Speaker 2: to just take action and also just be present and 744 00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:29,920 Speaker 2: be like, you know, what, what do I feel like 745 00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:30,440 Speaker 2: right now? 746 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:33,719 Speaker 3: What's enjoyable? What can and can't I control? 747 00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:36,120 Speaker 4: If I can't control those things, worry about it, Like 748 00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:41,120 Speaker 4: I honestly think, yeah, all these tips have been really helpful. 749 00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:43,400 Speaker 4: You and I both know that we've used them. But 750 00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:45,200 Speaker 4: once you kind of like give it a go and 751 00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:48,760 Speaker 4: commit and feel the difference, you will understand how much 752 00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:51,480 Speaker 4: overthinking holds you back and stops you from doing things, 753 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,480 Speaker 4: and just like releasing that just feels so good. 754 00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:58,000 Speaker 2: I know. And if I had had these tips six, seven, 755 00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:01,320 Speaker 2: eight years ago, my god, I would have done exactly. 756 00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,280 Speaker 4: But we're doing it now. So that's that's that all 757 00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:06,520 Speaker 4: that counts because birthday bitsteps. 758 00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:10,440 Speaker 2: Well, thank you guys so much for tuning in. As always, 759 00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 2: if you love this episode, please leave us a review 760 00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:16,080 Speaker 2: jump in the DM so we love hearing your feedback 761 00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:17,960 Speaker 2: and we'll be back in your ears soon. 762 00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:19,200 Speaker 3: We'll catch you in the next one. 763 00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:20,440 Speaker 4: Bye bye,