Speaker 1: Flex and Kada.
Speaker 2: Hello Dol, Welcome to the Flex and Frames podcast. We
Speaker 2: have a big, big, sweaty, scary pheromone, heavy art, freaking out,
Speaker 2: Cortisol levels absolutely extremely high. We are talking about my
Speaker 2: trip to Bali, the moment when I almost lost my
Speaker 2: life and the subsequent time lost a few brain steals
Speaker 2: and I couldn't breathe for a bit. I'm just gonna
Speaker 2: be telling a story, and it's a very traumatizing story.
Speaker 3: I feel like the average person has a few of those,
Speaker 3: but this one in particular is so recent and for
Speaker 3: adulthood especially spooky.
Speaker 2: Very embarrassing. But we learn valuable lessons and you lived.
Speaker 2: What about the alternative?
Speaker 3: I don't want to say it's fifty to fifty, but
Speaker 3: of all the ways to go drowning on a trip
Speaker 3: to Bali.
Speaker 2: It's one for the record books. Who would be able
Speaker 2: to tell you a story? Babe? Yeah? What would we
Speaker 2: do for work?
Speaker 3: I always think about that, right the day that I'm
Speaker 3: like I've lost my voice?
Speaker 1: What do we do?
Speaker 2: What's happening? You know what? I was actually thinking that
Speaker 2: I was just being terrible.
Speaker 3: As you're caught in the riot, be like, wait a second,
Speaker 3: how do I NA what to do.
Speaker 2: We'd make it work.
Speaker 3: It would be so sad if our replacement was just
Speaker 3: organized like that.
Speaker 2: That's what I think about as well, And it wasn't
Speaker 2: like a different show concept, just like sluck right in.
Speaker 3: This is what Freus would usually say, So just do
Speaker 3: it this way.
Speaker 2: I have to change the whole put photoshop someone's head
Speaker 2: on our little point. I cancel it. Drinking that cancel
Speaker 2: the whole show. Well, if you die on my show,
Speaker 2: you don't want to lose that salary.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I would change the concept. I wouldn't flex
Speaker 3: and just someone else's name.
Speaker 2: Maybe you're the one that wanted me to drown. Take
Speaker 2: my paypacket with you.
Speaker 3: For me, put me in her will. This is what
Speaker 3: she wanted. We've discussed it many a time. This is
Speaker 3: hot too, But anyway, we talk about a lot more
Speaker 3: than Frooms' almost untimely death rip gone too soon? Still
Speaker 3: here fortunately, fortunately, but you know if you stay you'll
Speaker 3: hear it.
Speaker 2: Here we go.
Speaker 1: This is Flex and Frooms on Cada.
Speaker 2: I have some really bad news. If you're listening to
Speaker 2: this in a car, I'm so jealous of you, because
Speaker 2: this morning I went to come into Cada open my
Speaker 2: car door to put my suitcase into the back, and
Speaker 2: what do I find? I find my front seat completely burnt.
Speaker 2: The headrest is no more, it's burnt, does not exist,
Speaker 2: it's melting, crispy crispy. The whole top of my car
Speaker 2: burnt black. It stinks. Devilish scene, devilish.
Speaker 3: It was. Honestly, what did you notice first? You've unlocked
Speaker 3: your car, You've gone to sit in the driver's seat.
Speaker 3: What was the first thing that came to mind?
Speaker 2: Well, I open up the back door to put the
Speaker 2: suitcase in the back. So I open it up, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: it kind of smells bad. I look to my left
Speaker 2: and the head rest is completely melted and gone. Did
Speaker 2: something you explode without me noticing? So I have this
Speaker 2: moment of thinking, oh, no, like I've burnt it down.
Speaker 2: Then I see the roof. I'm like, okay, this definitely
Speaker 2: wasn't This is like arson. And then I look on
Speaker 2: the floor and there's a packet of cigarettes. You don't smoke.
Speaker 2: I don't smoke, you don't. And my second thought was like,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna grab cigarettes that's expensive and sell them. But
Speaker 2: I'm not going to touch anything until the police come
Speaker 2: the police are going to come tonight, so stay tuned.
Speaker 2: Ooh a date with the ops? Yeah, love and op.
Speaker 3: Do you know what the spookiest part of this whole
Speaker 3: story is, because obviously opening up your car seeing it
Speaker 3: burnt to a crisp horrifying. But what is the most
Speaker 3: nightmarish aspect of that is the fact that your windows
Speaker 3: weren't bust open. It was a gentle lock picking. Someone
Speaker 3: sat in your car, had a few ciggies with some mates,
Speaker 3: and then what burnt? The inside burnt the evidence? What
Speaker 3: was if they just lock picked, had a ciggi and left,
Speaker 3: could have been fine. Why did the arson have to
Speaker 3: come into play and they didn't even steal anything?
Speaker 2: Why would you do? That doesn't make any sense, which
Speaker 2: is why it feels targeted. It feels very targeted. It
Speaker 2: feels very specific. I don't think I have any enemies,
Speaker 2: and I make a real I make a real effort
Speaker 2: not to ever show my car on Instagram. Yeah.
Speaker 3: But while you might not, while you may be making
Speaker 3: an effort not to be noticed as a public figure,
Speaker 3: you are seen. For all the people who recognize you.
Speaker 3: You're not aware of them, they're aware of you.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, So if you're listening to this and
Speaker 2: you burnt down my car, thank you, because I'm probably
Speaker 2: gonna get Toyota Corolla. That's what I'm seeing in my future.
Speaker 2: That's what you want. Well, I want something that's fuel
Speaker 2: efficient and good resale value. What you're gonna sell the car?
Speaker 2: Maybe if i'd level up daughter right here, I want
Speaker 2: to make a profit.
Speaker 1: This is flex and frooms.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you know this about me, and
Speaker 3: if you don't know, this makes for a perfect confession.
Speaker 3: One of my I'm gonna call it a hobby is
Speaker 3: to go onto business's websites and see if they've got
Speaker 3: any research and data.
Speaker 2: You look shocked. I'm just shocked by how you can
Speaker 2: be bothered doing anything that you do because you're doing
Speaker 2: things that I wonder couldn't pay me to do this
Speaker 2: as a hobby.
Speaker 3: Like these companies just have so much data about stuff
Speaker 3: and the best one to do something with that data.
Speaker 3: They package it up and they put in a little
Speaker 3: blog and you learn so much. Uber, for example, has
Speaker 3: this thing called the Annual Lost and Found Index. It's
Speaker 3: happened like seven years in a row, where they take
Speaker 3: all this data of what's been lost and found in
Speaker 3: ubers and they create this infograph and it's so cool.
Speaker 3: It's very American centric. They've not really done anything in Australia,
Speaker 3: but listen to this. The ten most commonly forgot items
Speaker 3: are like very regular. You could guess five of them
Speaker 3: off the.
Speaker 2: Back phone, yep, wallet, yep keys, yep, vape glasses. Who's
Speaker 2: calling back for their vape? Hi's me? I had at
Speaker 2: least ten more puffs.
Speaker 3: And then they've got data in the most forgetful cities Austin,
Speaker 3: Texas the second year in the row at number one,
Speaker 3: which is incredible data to have. And some of the
Speaker 3: most unique lost items five hundred grams of cavia, a
Speaker 3: press on nail, supreme underwear, expensive, a Billie Eilish ukulele,
Speaker 3: forty chicken nuggets, an earn with pet ashes, rip, a
Speaker 3: power washing machine, a diamond grill. And here's where it
Speaker 3: gets even better. They've got data on the most forgetful
Speaker 3: days and times like, are you telling me this is
Speaker 3: not fascinating? So obviously across the United States, people are
Speaker 3: most forgetful on Saturdays and Sundays.
Speaker 2: They're getting on it. That's to be expected.
Speaker 3: They're most forgetful in the early evening between forty six
Speaker 3: and I think that often happens when you're trying to multitask,
Speaker 3: you get enough work going to the next event, you're
Speaker 3: not thinking straight.
Speaker 2: It happens. People are most likely to forget their glasses,
Speaker 2: charges and cardholders on Monday.
Speaker 3: Yeah, people are most likely to forget cash and fanny packs.
Speaker 2: On a Friday.
Speaker 3: Fanny pack, I did say fanny pack. That's what they've
Speaker 3: written down here. What not all brands have this. I
Speaker 3: would say the best brands do. The best corporations putting
Speaker 3: their money in research and development, a bit of data analysts.
Speaker 3: What I think is also just to really I mean
Speaker 3: not sinister, but just the fact that every interaction you
Speaker 3: can have with the corporation is going to be cataloged somewhere.
Speaker 3: You can't just exist freely. That uber being like, put
Speaker 3: that down. Put that down for the annual index.
Speaker 2: I love it here. Something's working. Something is working, because
Speaker 2: I'm having a look. You ever lost anything in an
Speaker 2: over a wallet?
Speaker 3: But he brought it back, Oh god blae, which I
Speaker 3: hated that for him, like it just was not in
Speaker 3: the job description. Tipped him fifty for it. Because you
Speaker 3: have to you have to he probably lost money trying
Speaker 3: to return my wallet to me. All those calls like
Speaker 3: so I watch your address and where did you leave it?
Speaker 3: And how do I know it's your wallet and what's
Speaker 3: in it?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, painful, painful lim Yeah exactly. More people like him, Well,
Speaker 2: have you lost anything? Yeah, lost a fine months, got
Speaker 2: it back. No worries, but that feeling when you touch
Speaker 2: your back pocket you think, yeah, I've done it. You
Speaker 2: put things to your pocket. Yeah. Problem. Lost my parents'
Speaker 2: keys the other day around the ten. It's a couple
Speaker 2: hundred dollars down the drain. Make a thousand electric key
Speaker 2: gone gone, and you're.
Speaker 1: So annoying you're listening to flex and Frooms on Kada.
Speaker 2: I got back from Bali this week, my first overseas
Speaker 2: trip since COVID. I was gonna say first, my third
Speaker 2: time to Bali. Nice the veteran rule and it was
Speaker 2: so cool. It was pretty much like old times. Didn't
Speaker 2: have to do anything COVID like just wear a mask
Speaker 2: on the plane. Otherwise it was just as much of
Speaker 2: a punished as it always is getting through Bali Airport.
Speaker 2: You've ever been, yeah, man, the forms the lines ended
Speaker 2: up getting to my hotel around twelve. I was meeting
Speaker 2: my family because it's my sister's thirtieth birthday. Family trip,
Speaker 2: family trip, first overseas holiday since Malaysia in two thousand
Speaker 2: and four when we had a Saturay incident.
Speaker 3: For those of you who were not here for that story,
Speaker 3: Rooms went on a family t to Malaysia a couple
Speaker 3: of years ago.
Speaker 2: How old are you? It was eight fifteen eighteen? What
Speaker 2: I was like, eight? Okay? Great?
Speaker 3: And thy had some kind of agoraphobia so didn't leave
Speaker 3: the hotel room the whole trip. Thought she'd play a
Speaker 3: prank on her parents, as the little bush peak does.
Speaker 3: She wiped some sarte sawcescure onto her parents' bed where
Speaker 3: her dad's buttocks would be. Mum thought dad poop the bed.
Speaker 3: Started a huge fight. Rumor has it they're still fighting about.
Speaker 2: It to this day. Can confirm. So go to Bali.
Speaker 2: We are having an absolute rip snorter over time, probably
Speaker 2: like second day in My sister and I are by
Speaker 2: the pool, had a few drinks. Oh and I'm like,
Speaker 2: hell yeah, let's go into the ocean because our villa
Speaker 2: was overlooking the ocean. So we in the pool. Premium.
Speaker 2: I want to have a little bit of like a
Speaker 2: nature experience. I was like, let's go down to the beach,
Speaker 2: have a little dip. The waves look funance, So my
Speaker 2: sister and I get in. We are frolicking. Feels like
Speaker 2: I'm ageless. When you're in the water, you know, you
Speaker 2: see nothing but the wave coming towards you. Was it busy,
Speaker 2: like there was definitely people in the water. It wasn't
Speaker 2: busy really busy. It was a flop. But there's people
Speaker 2: on the beach, like people surf shacks and stuff like that,
Speaker 2: and it's like the whole resort pool is looking over it.
Speaker 2: So I thought it was really safe. We are fumbling
Speaker 2: around like in the sand, and my sister she kept
Speaker 2: telling this story like afterwards that makes me laugh. She
Speaker 2: was like like crouched in the sand and like her
Speaker 2: hands like this, and she's like it was like ups
Speaker 2: driving a car, like going in towards it. Anyway, nothing happens.
Speaker 2: We go back to the resort and we're like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, that was so much fun. How fun was that?
Speaker 2: So fun? So fun? Sand all in our gullets ill gussets.
Speaker 2: Actually it gets to about three pm. Oh, and I
Speaker 2: said round two for the let's get in this point,
Speaker 2: I'm completely sober. I just want to have a bit
Speaker 2: of like fun and drama. So I'm like, come on, Olivia,
Speaker 2: let's get in the ocean. And this day it was
Speaker 2: like perfect, crisp waves, full barrels. I'm like, this looks
Speaker 2: really fun. I want to try body surfing. Never done
Speaker 2: it once an adventurous queen. Yeah, So my sister, I'm like,
Speaker 2: come on, Olivia, come on, Olivia, and she's like, no,
Speaker 2: you would think both of you eight the way I
Speaker 2: tell you the story. Come on, Olivia.
Speaker 3: Olivia's turned thirty. If she says no, I'm sure she
Speaker 3: means it.
Speaker 2: I'm like, come on, come on, come on. And she's like,
Speaker 2: oh okay. So we walk towards the beach and Mum
Speaker 2: gets this photo of us. Olivia's like looking back like
Speaker 2: this with her hand to her chest, ominous. We get
Speaker 2: in some foreshadow it's sand, and then it drops really suddenly.
Speaker 2: I'm like, hell, yeah, I want to go deep. So
Speaker 2: I start swimming out and out, like physically going out
Speaker 2: hitting waves because I want to get a big wave.
Speaker 2: Gets to a certain point, Olivia's like, look how far
Speaker 2: Mumm is okay? I think I'm going to go back
Speaker 2: in in where oh are out to sure, start swimming back.
Speaker 2: This is all things that I've heard after it. She
Speaker 2: starts swinging back. She's not moving, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: I'm going to turn around and go back. I turn
Speaker 2: around to go back, not moving, not able to swim in.
Speaker 2: At this point, are you freaking out? You're like this
Speaker 2: is odd. I have this moment of this is odd,
Speaker 2: but it doesn't click to me, even though the day
Speaker 2: before we had been talking about rips. We've been walking
Speaker 2: on the beach being like, look, this is what a
Speaker 2: rip looks like. I was like, look, Olivia, A rip
Speaker 2: is when the ocean comes in two ways and meets
Speaker 2: in the middle and then goes out in two ways.
Speaker 2: It creates a little tunnel for you to get swept out.
Speaker 2: So it's top of mind. And yet so I'm swimming back,
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I've done it. I'm in
Speaker 2: a rip. I can't get out, so I'm panicking. Now.
Speaker 2: I look to my right and probably like ten or
Speaker 2: twenty meters away, there's a guy giving a girl a
Speaker 2: surf lesson, like a Balinese guy. And I look at
Speaker 2: him and then I'm like, fuck it. Like I have
Speaker 2: to keep swimming. I keep swimming, and then he calls
Speaker 2: He's like, are you good? How embarrassing? I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna I don't want to die today. So
Speaker 2: I'm like, nah, I'm not good. What did you say?
Speaker 2: I said, no, I'm stark. How did you say it?
Speaker 2: I said no, I'm stark. You whispered. I said no,
Speaker 2: I'm stark as you were smiling. Yeah, I smiles like
Speaker 2: oh yeah, mixed signals. So he's like, swim that way,
Speaker 2: swim that way. So when you're stuck in a rip,
Speaker 2: piment to swim and this you knew. I knew, I
Speaker 2: knew you. You're trying exercise. I didn't want to be
Speaker 2: like I didn't know what to do. I start swimming to
Speaker 2: my left. I'm not getting anywhere, Like I'm still stuck.
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, now I've really fucked it. I call
Speaker 2: out to him again, like he's in the middle of
Speaker 2: a lesson. He's busy lady on board, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: you really really need to come and help me. So
Speaker 2: he swims over, thank.
Speaker 1: You, you need to come me.
Speaker 2: And this is the issue with tourists mus and he's
Speaker 2: like swimming and then going under the water and coming
Speaker 2: up again. So I'm like this, dad, keep swimming, keep swimming,
Speaker 2: and he kept looking at me, You're good, and I'm
Speaker 2: like yeah. Essentially, he keep heeps dragging me, not dragging me,
Speaker 2: but like just holding my arm so assisting me and
Speaker 2: where to go. And then he goes, now, put your
Speaker 2: feet down, and we were standing up. Yeah, and I
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, thank god the tide was
Speaker 2: still pulling me out. But then I just had to
Speaker 2: like struggle got to the beach. Mum's on the beach
Speaker 2: at this point.
Speaker 3: She didn't come in because she's like she was gonna
Speaker 3: lose a daughter that day and she was frying with that.
Speaker 1: This is flex and Frooms on Kada.
Speaker 2: We are telling the story of a woman whose boyfriend
Speaker 2: smokes a lot. We don't really want to talk about
Speaker 2: it too much on the radio because they don't want
Speaker 2: to give you any naughty ideas. We personally don't condonate
Speaker 2: this woman's boyfriend that've been together three year. He loves
Speaker 2: to smoke. He smokes twenty four to seven. Did it
Speaker 2: a lot during lockdown, which I think a lot of
Speaker 2: people's bad habits kind of like came to the forefront
Speaker 2: during that time. Not an excuse anyway. She is fed
Speaker 2: up with this behavior. She thought maybe it was a
Speaker 2: lockdown thing. It has persisted. This man won't stop smoking.
Speaker 2: She doesn't smoke, so they're not smoking together, and she's
Speaker 2: over it. She says to us flex and frooms, what
Speaker 2: do I do. I'm going to start off by saying,
Speaker 2: you got yourself into this mess, Hey, I get yourself
Speaker 2: out of it.
Speaker 3: The habit you build around it, like the repetitive behavior
Speaker 3: that can be addictive, creating the tradition.
Speaker 2: I think the operative term in this is him saying
Speaker 2: that it's not addictive but yet not stopping. Maybe it's
Speaker 2: somebody loves to do. But if I were her, wouldn't
Speaker 2: throw the baby out with the bath waded right away.
Speaker 2: He never would love that baby. But I would maybe say, Okay,
Speaker 2: let's have a little detox for a week. See how
Speaker 2: he goes without it, because there's going to be times
Speaker 2: in your life if you stay together. We don't want
Speaker 2: your man smoking.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I think that's the issue. Her man does smoke.
Speaker 3: This is your person. I think that when we find
Speaker 3: ourselves uncomfortable with someone else's behavior before before we start
Speaker 3: policing what they should do. You have to self regulate. So,
Speaker 3: like you knew him as a smoker, now he's even
Speaker 3: bigger smoker.
Speaker 2: What are you going to like? What are you going
Speaker 2: to do about it?
Speaker 3: For you, you can adjust how you feel around it.
Speaker 3: Are you going to manage your own expectations? Or will
Speaker 3: you dictate that he now changes behavior so you're more comfortable.
Speaker 3: I know for me, like I am no smoker, but
Speaker 3: let's change it out. If someone said I don't like
Speaker 3: how much use TikTok, well I've been using it. I've
Speaker 3: been on the app, like it's what I do. So
Speaker 3: now I got to adjust my behavior because you're uncomfortable,
Speaker 3: Might you adjust your mentality? And I do think it's
Speaker 3: a slippery slope as someone who's been a past tyrant
Speaker 3: in relationships, like you've got to really take people as
Speaker 3: they are, not as you'd prefer them to be. And
Speaker 3: in this situation, whether or not he feels it's addictive,
Speaker 3: addictive or not, his behavior says otherwise. So imagine a
Speaker 3: future where he never stop smoking?
Speaker 2: What are you gonna do? Yeah? Because that's what let's
Speaker 2: looking like.
Speaker 3: Not just freaking out, but also yeah, figure it out
Speaker 3: for yourself.
Speaker 2: Again, Flex is not happy if you send in your
Speaker 2: relationship dilemma.
Speaker 3: She'd rather you just I love hearing about it because
Speaker 3: I just think of all the things that are so
Speaker 3: scary about being alive. We always get stuck on these
Speaker 3: really arbitrary, silly things in the realm of relationship dilemmas,
Speaker 3: Like what is really being discussed here is not whether
Speaker 3: this is addictive or not addictive or whatever. But clearly
Speaker 3: there's a situation here that requires both of your compromise.
Speaker 3: But I don't necessarily think either party are going at
Speaker 3: it the right way. I think for her perspective, like,
Speaker 3: just because you have a personal dislike for something, it's
Speaker 3: not really up to your partner to adjust to accommodate
Speaker 3: for that.
Speaker 2: A good partner would.
Speaker 3: But I think what she might be afraid of is
Speaker 3: that if she can't deal with the smoking and he
Speaker 3: doesn't want to quit, well he's made his choice.
Speaker 2: Baby, it's not you. Oh yeah, that's sad. It's sad. Well,
Speaker 2: be happy, you're so hot. Just be happy, you'll be sad.
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