Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboo
Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present
Speaker 1: and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and
Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,
Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer podcast. This is
Speaker 1: the podcast where which have mindset, self development and becoming
Speaker 1: your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs,
Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses
Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo
Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No
Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, we're here to
Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical
Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's
Speaker 1: seat of your own life and stop letting life pass
Speaker 1: you by, then you're in the right place.
Speaker 2: Hey everyone, Happy Friday and welcome back to the party.
Speaker 2: Today we have a fun hotline with Jamie.
Speaker 3: Hey Jamie, Hello, how are you good?
Speaker 2: I'm good and I didn't ask, So today we're answering
Speaker 2: three hotline questions because we're doing the most for you
Speaker 2: So our first question today was about clarity on your
Speaker 2: next level and how you can find it. Our second
Speaker 2: one was actually from our Facebook group where someone was
Speaker 2: unsure whether she should sell her house and go live
Speaker 2: in Dubai for two years or move back home for
Speaker 2: a little bit. And our last one was about how
Speaker 2: you can deal with guilt when you manifest things. So
Speaker 2: we'll get into those in a second, but we just
Speaker 2: wanted to give you all a little reminder that our
Speaker 2: sould out life happens for me. Manifestation journals are back
Speaker 2: in stock, and if you have been on the fence,
Speaker 2: it is a great time to get one.
Speaker 3: I was literally reading through all of my journal entries
Speaker 3: from the start of the year from when we first
Speaker 3: brought them out. I can't I literally have everything that
Speaker 3: I wrote down. It's crazy.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. I know.
Speaker 3: I was doing it because I did a big reflection
Speaker 3: on my birthday of like the last year, the lessons
Speaker 3: I've learned, and then set intentions for the new year.
Speaker 3: And I was going back over my journal from the
Speaker 3: year and like how far I've come and the lessons
Speaker 3: I've learned, and I was mind blown. I couldn't believe
Speaker 3: how like everything, It just well, I can believe it,
Speaker 3: but I still.
Speaker 4: Can't believe it.
Speaker 2: It's funny, though, because I feel like you forget how
Speaker 2: much you wanted to be where you are at sometimes,
Speaker 2: so journals are just such a great reminder of that
Speaker 2: to like go back and be like, wow, like I
Speaker 2: really really wanted this, and because it all like.
Speaker 3: Kind of gradually comes to fruition and then all of
Speaker 3: a sudden, you're like, holy shit, I'm living my dream.
Speaker 4: But so go the best.
Speaker 2: We actually shared a really fun manifesting story on our
Speaker 2: Instagram this week, so go check that out too. I
Speaker 2: might actually we had a voicely sent in from rachelso
Speaker 2: I'll pop that in here, but you can also have
Speaker 2: a look at her story on Instagram and then we'll
Speaker 2: get trained into the episode.
Speaker 5: Hi, R and C Potty, I wanted to share a
Speaker 5: manifesting story with you. I completed round five of the
Speaker 5: project after I had my baby. I was feeling really
Speaker 5: lost and unsure of my future. So I started manifesting
Speaker 5: in all areas of my life, but my purpose and
Speaker 5: my career ambitions felt quite blurry. I did feel called
Speaker 5: during the project to start a new Instagram account, specifically
Speaker 5: around motherhood and around self care. I wasn't sure where
Speaker 5: I was going to go with this, but I just
Speaker 5: started visualizing building a bit of a following, connecting with
Speaker 5: other moms, and working with some brands. I work for
Speaker 5: the company currently that owns Bras and Things, so I
Speaker 5: was really familiar with their operations and I used to
Speaker 5: use that as a bit of an expander to visualize.
Speaker 4: Doing you know, photoshoots.
Speaker 5: And fun things to help me sort of feel really
Speaker 5: expanded in that vision. So I imagine doing that with
Speaker 5: all my other favorite brands. Fast forward to the end
Speaker 5: of my maternity leave. Part of me wanted to stay
Speaker 5: home with my daughter, but I felt the nudge to
Speaker 5: return to my old job part time. This could be
Speaker 5: its own full story about how that's all just come
Speaker 5: together really perfectly. But shortly after returning, I got an
Speaker 5: opportunity in the business to apply for a casting call
Speaker 5: with Bras and Things to be in one of their campaigns.
Speaker 5: So I was tripping out because I'd been visualizing this
Speaker 5: without even really meaning to, and I just.
Speaker 4: Knew I had to apply.
Speaker 5: So, despite having my daughter a year ago and breastfeed
Speaker 5: and all of that, I'd be working on accepting my
Speaker 5: postpart and body, and I felt like this was such
Speaker 5: a good way to do it. And then G came
Speaker 5: out with the best and less campaign, and I couldn't
Speaker 5: believe what an even more perfect expander that was for me.
Speaker 5: So I applied for the casting call and I got it.
Speaker 5: I shot the campaign I've literally never modeled before. It
Speaker 5: was with four other girls from the business. I just
Speaker 5: couldn't believe how it all came together. And it's not
Speaker 5: something I ever thought I would do, and I honestly
Speaker 5: didn't even really do it intentionally, but it just felt
Speaker 5: really aligned and all the steps that I took that
Speaker 5: sort of led me to that opportunity. It's been just
Speaker 5: the most amazing experience. I'm so proud of and I
Speaker 5: couldn't have done it without you, guys.
Speaker 2: Love you. Our first question for today is hoping you
Speaker 2: can help you out. I did the last round of
Speaker 2: the R and D project and I manifested my current
Speaker 2: job and life, which blows my mind by the way,
Speaker 2: like I actually did.
Speaker 4: It, crazy crazy.
Speaker 2: But my question is I now want more, but I
Speaker 2: feel so overwhelmed with wanting so much it's almost like
Speaker 2: I'm blocking myself. Does this make sense? It's like I'm
Speaker 2: overwhelmed and don't know where to start, and then procrastinate
Speaker 2: and then nothing happens. But I still feel this burning
Speaker 2: desire for more. I want to do the course again
Speaker 2: and manifest my new desires, but I feel this block
Speaker 2: of wanting so much and it all being too overwhelming.
Speaker 2: Hoping someone can relate and perhaps guide me in the
Speaker 2: right direction.
Speaker 4: I love this question.
Speaker 3: I feel like it's something a lot of people go
Speaker 3: through when it comes to manifesting.
Speaker 2: Agree Like as soon as you figure out it works,
Speaker 2: you're like, what next, Yeah, and then all these ideas
Speaker 2: in your head and it is paralyzing how overwhelming it
Speaker 2: can be. Sometimes.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I actually worked with my mentor on this, like
Speaker 3: I think the beginning of this year, because I moved
Speaker 3: to the Gold Coast obviously and have this job and
Speaker 3: had like pretty much everything that I had been working
Speaker 3: to for so many years, and then I got there
Speaker 3: and I was like, I don't even know what's next
Speaker 3: because I feel like I'm living my dream and we
Speaker 3: had to work so much on kind of I guess
Speaker 3: I had never had so much like gratitude and appreciation
Speaker 3: for where I was that I didn't even know what
Speaker 3: was next because I was so happy and we kind
Speaker 3: of had to work through that it could It was
Speaker 3: okay that there was like seasons where I was manifesting,
Speaker 3: and I of course always have that desire to like
Speaker 3: want more and go to the next level, but I
Speaker 3: don't have to have that figured out right now. And
Speaker 3: I think a lot of people get stuck in the
Speaker 3: like I just want more, I just want more that
Speaker 3: they forget to just like kind of relish in where
Speaker 3: they are right now and be grateful for where they are,
Speaker 3: and then it almost blocks them because they're just constantly
Speaker 3: looking forward and they're not using that like gratitude and
Speaker 3: momentum to get clear on what their next level is.
Speaker 2: I think I would say I agree with that, like
Speaker 2: gratitude is so important because it's also the highest vibration
Speaker 2: you can be in, so it makes it a lot
Speaker 2: easier to manifest things. I would say when it comes
Speaker 2: to feeling overwhelmed, maybe just start by writing the things
Speaker 2: down as they come to your mind, because I found
Speaker 2: when I would get really overwhelmed with what I wanted
Speaker 2: to manifest, it was because I kept a lot of
Speaker 2: it in my head and I didn't write any of
Speaker 2: it down. I was like, and I want financial abundance,
Speaker 2: and I want a happy family, and I want to
Speaker 2: be healthy, and I want this, and I want this,
Speaker 2: and I want this and I want this. But I
Speaker 2: never wrote any of it down, and I as soon
Speaker 2: as I started writing it down, I realized a lot
Speaker 2: of the things I wanted to manifest sort of fell
Speaker 2: into like a few buckets. I would say of overall
Speaker 2: things like, yes, i'd maybe want a business, but that's
Speaker 2: under the bucket of financial abundance. And do I actually
Speaker 2: feel like I need a business with that, or do
Speaker 2: I just want the financial abundance and I'm happy with
Speaker 2: wherever that comes from. So I would start by really
Speaker 2: writing it down, but also just just pair it right back,
Speaker 2: like start at the beginning. You don't need to go
Speaker 2: through the whole project process again. I think that's also
Speaker 2: a reason why g the Manifesting with Momentum masterclass was
Speaker 2: about for these moments when you are sort of manifesting
Speaker 2: a lot of things on the go, just embodying it
Speaker 2: rather than going through the physical process for like one
Speaker 2: hundred different things.
Speaker 3: And also like focus more on the feeling because a
Speaker 3: lot of the time all of those different desires come
Speaker 3: back to one feeling, So if you can just focus
Speaker 3: on the feeling, it kind of takes that like overwhelm
Speaker 3: out because you're not worried about all of the details,
Speaker 3: and it helps you to kind of just focus on
Speaker 3: the one thing, like you know, financial freedom, happiness, all
Speaker 3: that sort of stuff. It all kind of correlates back
Speaker 3: to the same kind of peace and happiness within your
Speaker 3: own life. So I think if you can just like
Speaker 3: focus on the feeling and also don't just I think,
Speaker 3: especially at the moment with social media and everything, there's
Speaker 3: so many people out there talking about manifesting and their
Speaker 3: dream life and all that sort of stuff, and then
Speaker 3: it kind of overwhelms people because they get confused whether
Speaker 3: that's actually their desire or it's someone else's, and they're
Speaker 3: like looking online, they're like I want this, I want this,
Speaker 3: I want this. But it's like and if you're feeling
Speaker 3: overwhelmed and unclear, it might be because you're not actually
Speaker 3: making decisions from an aligned place and what you actually want.
Speaker 3: You're just like caught up in this whole manifesting thing
Speaker 3: and all of the things that you could have because
Speaker 3: all these people are like saying what they want online
Speaker 3: that you're not actually focusing on what you want. So
Speaker 3: I think, like, give yourself the space to also focus
Speaker 3: on like what it is you truly want, and maybe
Speaker 3: are you getting overwhelmed because you're just wanting all these
Speaker 3: things that make sense because other people have said that
Speaker 3: they want them, so true.
Speaker 2: It's like when you watch those tiktoks and someone's like
Speaker 2: I invest this much and I do crypto this way
Speaker 2: blah blah blah, and you're like, I want to invest
Speaker 2: in new crypto and then five minutes later.
Speaker 4: You're like, I don't want to actually do that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's actually such a good point. I haven't thought
Speaker 2: of that now. I've been doing that myself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think it's like so many people just
Speaker 3: have these like boxes that they think they should be ticking,
Speaker 3: and then it makes them feel so overwhelmed and unclear
Speaker 3: because they're like, well, actually, is this something that I
Speaker 3: want off? I just picked it up from someone else
Speaker 3: saying it a friend or online or whatever it is.
Speaker 3: So maybe give yourself some space and time to actually
Speaker 3: get clear on like what it is that you want,
Speaker 3: and then use you know, you getting this job that
Speaker 3: you have as motivation and fuel to remind yourself that
Speaker 3: whatever you want is possible, but don't just want it
Speaker 3: because someone else wants it.
Speaker 2: Yes, I love that, and if you do need some
Speaker 2: help and clarity, I highly recommend it for your future self. Course.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we actually have a seven day course, yeah, to
Speaker 3: help you with exactly this and work out your desires
Speaker 3: from a solo line place. So definitely do that. That
Speaker 3: helped me so much to kind of break down even
Speaker 3: like I felt like I was so overwhelmed by the
Speaker 3: next level that I was manifesting because it felt almost
Speaker 3: like far away from where I was. And then I
Speaker 3: kind of do it for your future self, help me
Speaker 3: break that down and look at even like the steps
Speaker 3: that I was taking in my every day life, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, I actually am working towards all of these things.
Speaker 3: I don't have to get so overwhelmed by like wanting
Speaker 3: them right now. But I know that, you know, what
Speaker 3: I'm doing in my every day is actually getting me
Speaker 3: closer to that more than I even realize. So I
Speaker 3: think that also helped me too a lot to like
Speaker 3: not feel so overwhelmed by my next level.
Speaker 2: I love that perspective because I'm the same like I
Speaker 2: feel like my desires right now, I'm just so big
Speaker 2: and so far away, and some of them are obviously
Speaker 2: time reliant, and those time aliant factors are like five
Speaker 2: ten years away, so it's like, what could I do
Speaker 2: possibly today that's gonna help you, like gonna make that
Speaker 2: ready for me in ten years time. But it is
Speaker 2: true that every single day counts, and I think Cooper
Speaker 2: gave me this advice and he said it on the
Speaker 2: podcast as well, of pique your desire and just do
Speaker 2: one thing every single day to get to it. It
Speaker 2: doesn't matter how big or how small. The one thing
Speaker 2: is if you miss a day, don't beat yourself up
Speaker 2: about it. Just do something the next day. And the
Speaker 2: more consistent you are, the closer that desire is going
Speaker 2: to come to you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely, Yeah, amazing.
Speaker 2: Okay a next question. So myself and my boyfriend bought
Speaker 2: an apartment eighteen months ago as at the time we were
Speaker 2: doing long distance and wanted to close the gap and
Speaker 2: be together. Fast forward to now, we are super happy
Speaker 2: in our relationship and looking forward to the future. However,
Speaker 2: is this the universe calling us? I'm really not that
Speaker 2: happy in the actual area we are in and want
Speaker 2: to move back to the beach. Our mortgage rate has
Speaker 2: just doubled after our term ending, and my brain is
Speaker 2: just telling me that this is happening to redirect us.
Speaker 2: We have two options. We can either work in Dubai
Speaker 2: for two years and live at rent free and tax free.
Speaker 2: My boyfriend is a teacher, so he gets offered free
Speaker 2: accommodation and I'm a freelancer. Or we move back to
Speaker 2: our hometown and unfortunately not be homeowners for a few
Speaker 2: years due to the price, but rent a property that
Speaker 2: would cost similar to our current mortgage. I would be
Speaker 2: happier at home by my friend's family and the beach. Anyway,
Speaker 2: I'll cut to the chase. I don't mean for this
Speaker 2: to turn into a financial question, but moreover, is this
Speaker 2: the universe telling us to sell up and go live
Speaker 2: our dreams? Kind of question? My angel of a boyfriend
Speaker 2: has been hesitant over the past six months when I
Speaker 2: initially expressed being unhappy in this area. However, since we
Speaker 2: found out about our mortgage rate doubling last week, he's
Speaker 2: jumping at the chance to sell up and move somewhere
Speaker 2: by the beach and thinks we can live a better
Speaker 2: life out there. My hesitation is the fact I feel
Speaker 2: we have taken two steps forward by becoming homeowners and
Speaker 2: then three steps back by risking it all and to
Speaker 2: go and live a more fulfilling life literally selling everything
Speaker 2: we own through huge risk. Any stories, insights, or words
Speaker 2: of wisdom welcome, more than happy for you to unpack
Speaker 2: this on the pod.
Speaker 4: I love this question.
Speaker 2: I love this question too. It was actually posted in
Speaker 2: our Facebook community as well, so this lady has already
Speaker 2: got some advice. And if you're wanting to add your
Speaker 2: two sense in, hop in our podcast Facebook community, which
Speaker 2: will link in the show notes and just search up
Speaker 2: this question.
Speaker 3: I also love our community and the advice that they give.
Speaker 2: I know so good.
Speaker 3: There's just it's just like I feel like there's so
Speaker 3: much conversation happening there at the moment, and so much advice,
Speaker 3: and it's just so sweet to see everyone supporting each other.
Speaker 2: I know, I love it.
Speaker 3: I would initially say to this, if you feel like
Speaker 3: the universe is trying to give you a sign, or
Speaker 3: if you have a gut feeling, follow it, like trust
Speaker 3: yourself and don't just wait for a sign or anything
Speaker 3: like that. I think signs are ultimately just you kind
Speaker 3: of finding something that feels good, and if you have
Speaker 3: a pool to do something, go and do it. I
Speaker 3: just think, and I will always choose the option that
Speaker 3: kind of scares me the most and saying that you're
Speaker 3: going to risk it all. Think of every good thing
Speaker 3: that's ever come for like people, and like their dream lives,
Speaker 3: it usually started from a huge risk and doing something
Speaker 3: that scared them so much. But if it has the
Speaker 3: potential to give you a more fulfilling life, I would
Speaker 3: always say, go and do it. Like I initially was
Speaker 3: so scared to move to the Gold Coast because it
Speaker 3: was moving away from everything that I knew, but it
Speaker 3: also I knew that it was going to give me
Speaker 3: the best life ever and it has. So I think
Speaker 3: if you have the option to go and live a
Speaker 3: more fulfilling life and it feels like a risk or
Speaker 3: it feels like a hard choice, usually it'll lead you
Speaker 3: to the best thing. And also I wouldn't worry about
Speaker 3: two steps forward and then three steps back. I just
Speaker 3: don't really believe in taking steps back, like you're still
Speaker 3: taking a step towards a happier life, which is actually
Speaker 3: a step forward.
Speaker 2: I would agree with that, Like where I would ask yourself.
Speaker 2: Where have you decided that this is two steps forward
Speaker 2: and three steps back? Like, whose metric is that? Is
Speaker 2: that society is telling you that you need to be
Speaker 2: a homeowner? Is that an internal compass telling you that
Speaker 2: you need to be a homeowner? And if that is
Speaker 2: coming from an internal place, why is that actually value
Speaker 2: of yours? And getting really clear on that, because if
Speaker 2: being a homeowner is a value of yours, absolutely fine.
Speaker 2: But if you actually dig deep and you go, oh,
Speaker 2: I only wanted it because that's the thing people do,
Speaker 2: or that means you're settling down or that sort of thing,
Speaker 2: then that's not actually yours and being aware of that
Speaker 2: and the other thing I would just like to point
Speaker 2: out that you wrote was should I risk it all
Speaker 2: to go and live a more fulfilling life? Yes, I
Speaker 2: feel like you've kind of answered your question.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I just think like, if you were to
Speaker 3: have two options in your hands, one of them is
Speaker 3: being a homeowner and being unhappy, and the other one
Speaker 3: is to live a better life, Like, you're probably going
Speaker 3: to choose to live a better life. So if you
Speaker 3: break it, strip it back and just have those two options, like,
Speaker 3: you should always choose the option that's going to make
Speaker 3: you happier, and like, is there another option also or
Speaker 3: are you just putting two options into a box Because
Speaker 3: I know, for me, I have house in Melbourne and
Speaker 3: I had a plan to go and live in it,
Speaker 3: and it wasn't just I either sell it and move
Speaker 3: to the Gold Coast. I also could get renters in
Speaker 3: and rent it out and then go and live and
Speaker 3: rent in the Gold Coast and live a more fulfilling life.
Speaker 3: So is there like also another way where you get
Speaker 3: to have it all and you can still be a homeowner,
Speaker 3: you can rent somewhere that's going to make you happier,
Speaker 3: like so many people do that, So don't put the
Speaker 3: two options into a box, because there could also be
Speaker 3: another way where you get to have the.
Speaker 2: Pure house out and go live in Dubai for two years, yeah,
Speaker 2: tax free, Like you.
Speaker 4: Have so many options, it's not just one or the other.
Speaker 3: So I think also make sure that you're not putting
Speaker 3: anything into a box, because that was the option for me,
Speaker 3: and I've never been happier.
Speaker 4: So make sure that you're looking at all options too.
Speaker 2: M I love that idea, and I also just on
Speaker 2: your actual question of is the universe telling us to
Speaker 2: sell up and go live our dreams kind of question,
Speaker 2: maybe ask for another So like, if you don't have
Speaker 2: that full, strong gut feeling, or you're starting to have
Speaker 2: that doubt creep in, just ask for another sign. Or
Speaker 2: One thing I love to do that I used to
Speaker 2: do when I was a kid is like write both
Speaker 2: options or like whatever options on a piece of paper.
Speaker 2: If you have more than two, pop them in a
Speaker 2: hat and pull out the options one by one, and
Speaker 2: you're you will have a gut feeling of yes or no,
Speaker 2: or I'm happy with this option, I'm disappointed with this option,
Speaker 2: and that's going to tell you how you feel and
Speaker 2: you'll know when you get to the one that you
Speaker 2: want that that's the one you want. So I would
Speaker 2: even if you really need to, like, just start writing
Speaker 2: the more on a piece of paper, pull them out
Speaker 2: and see how you feel initially gut like your initial
Speaker 2: gut reaction when you pull it out of the hat.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 3: And I also think like so many people get trapped
Speaker 3: in lives that don't fill them up because they do,
Speaker 3: you know, what they think they should be doing.
Speaker 2: But you should never do what you should do. You
Speaker 2: need to do what you want to do, what you
Speaker 2: desire to do, And if you feel like you're using
Speaker 2: the language of should or have to, then it's not
Speaker 2: coming from an aligned place.
Speaker 3: And I think also if you're doubting where you are,
Speaker 3: or you're even like considering whether you're happy where you are,
Speaker 3: that's usually a good sign that you have outgrown your
Speaker 3: current level and you're ready for your next level. And
Speaker 3: I think you could be blocking yourself just to have this,
Speaker 3: Like maybe you had a desire to be a homeowner,
Speaker 3: but that might not actually be aligned to your next
Speaker 3: level or your desire moving forward. So it's okay if
Speaker 3: like you change your mind or you pivot or whatever
Speaker 3: it is, because if you're questioning where you are or
Speaker 3: saying that you're not happy where you are, it's usually
Speaker 3: a pretty good sign that you're ready for your next
Speaker 3: level and nothing changes. If nothing changes, so picking up
Speaker 3: and moving could be the best thing that ever happens
Speaker 3: to you.
Speaker 2: Also, and this is like wayside tangent, but Dubai is amazing.
Speaker 3: I know I really want to go.
Speaker 2: Also, the best place ever.
Speaker 4: I love this whole tax free thing.
Speaker 2: I know you don't get tax sair.
Speaker 4: Can we bring that into Australia Government. If you're listening
Speaker 4: tax free.
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Speaker 2: Our last question. I moved to a different city with
Speaker 2: my now husband about two years ago, purely for the
Speaker 2: experience and to be closer to family.
Speaker 4: Gosh, is this like a great.
Speaker 2: Follow up question? Wasn't even playing? It was a really
Speaker 2: scary and I was in survival mode for months. I
Speaker 2: had a couple of shitty workplace experiences before fighting my
Speaker 2: dream workplace that actually appreciates me and gives me a
Speaker 2: work life balance. I knew I deserved it. I'm a
Speaker 2: hard worker, that is my belief to my core. Anyway,
Speaker 2: I walked past this workplace before I started and said,
Speaker 2: I'm going to work here one day. It's a ten
Speaker 2: minute walk from where we live. Fast forward to almost
Speaker 2: a year and I'm saying those exact words in a
Speaker 2: speech in front of my work colleagues. Because I've worn
Speaker 2: a high performer award, I'm now in the running for
Speaker 2: Employee of the Year, which is a blessing in itself.
Speaker 2: Just recently, my husband and I got married. We had
Speaker 2: our dream wedding, and to top it all off, one
Speaker 2: week after we got back, we bought a little villa.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, has all happened within two years. I
Speaker 2: just cannot believe all of these things have happened since
Speaker 2: moving away from home. It's truly what you make of it,
Speaker 2: and it's about opening yourself up to experiences and people.
Speaker 2: You really have to create a confidence and energy to
Speaker 2: attract things you want in life. Don't get me wrong,
Speaker 2: it hasn't been all sunshine and roses. I have had
Speaker 2: really low times and letting the wrong people in it,
Speaker 2: but boy, they are the biggest lessons. I've been out
Speaker 2: of my comfort zone NonStop, taking on challenges and not
Speaker 2: being hard on myself if I make mistakes. Not sure
Speaker 2: if this is a good topic for your hotline, but
Speaker 2: what's your advice to overcome the guilt of manifesting these
Speaker 2: big things into your life, especially winning awards when you
Speaker 2: have passed trauma of not feeling good enough at previous workplaces.
Speaker 2: With this big awards night, I'm feeling anxious. It would
Speaker 2: be so amazing to win. But I know so many
Speaker 2: other people work just as hard as I do. That
Speaker 2: is the libra and people, please are in me.
Speaker 3: Moral of the story of this whole hotline is move Cities.
Speaker 3: No Oh, I love this question. I have a few
Speaker 3: things to say on this is. I feel like sometimes
Speaker 3: in life we miss out on opportunities or not given
Speaker 3: things so that we can work on ourselves and become
Speaker 3: the person we need to be to hold that level
Speaker 3: or to hold that thing. So I sometimes feel like,
Speaker 3: you know, previously I might have missed out on an
Speaker 3: opportunity or not being given something that I wanted but
Speaker 3: it actually was just a really good reflection on me
Speaker 3: to kind of work on either my worthiness or work
Speaker 3: on something that I had not seen before. Like, it's
Speaker 3: a really good opportunity to be seen blind spots. And
Speaker 3: now you've been given the opportunity to win an award, Like,
Speaker 3: I don't think you would have been offered an award
Speaker 3: if you weren't worthy of it. So I think just
Speaker 3: going into it and being like I have worked really hard,
Speaker 3: I've gone through things in the past so that I
Speaker 3: could be able to hold this level and to be
Speaker 3: able to feel, you know, amazing winning it, And I
Speaker 3: think would why would you not be worthy of it?
Speaker 3: And someone else would be Like I think we have
Speaker 3: such harsh reflections on ourselves, but we won't see that
Speaker 3: in other people. So I think, just remember that you
Speaker 3: were nominated for it for a reason.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love I love that perspective. And I think
Speaker 2: that's something that sort of stood out to me as
Speaker 2: well in this question, is that there does seem to
Speaker 2: be a bit of a worthiness thing when it comes
Speaker 2: to work, and I think even with the award, I
Speaker 2: have a bit of a unique Oh, I don't know
Speaker 2: if it's a unique point of view. But my point
Speaker 2: of view when it comes to awards is you cannot
Speaker 2: place your worth on whether you win them or not,
Speaker 2: because you could be the best person to win that award,
Speaker 2: you could tick all the boxes and extra boxes, and
Speaker 2: someone who you may not even have done as much
Speaker 2: as you might win it for a different reason or like,
Speaker 2: you have no control over that, And you can't place
Speaker 2: your worthiness on something someone else decides. So obviously, knowing
Speaker 2: yourself and your heart, that you are worthy of this award,
Speaker 2: but do not put that pressure on winning to hold
Speaker 2: that level, like you can hold the level of being
Speaker 2: the employee of the Year whether you win that award
Speaker 2: or not. Like there's always I'm not sure. I love
Speaker 2: award shows, so I do watch this a lot, like
Speaker 2: I watch a lot of award shows. But sometimes someone
Speaker 2: will win, for example, Actress of the Year the Oscar
Speaker 2: and you will see everyone in that room go, oh shit,
Speaker 2: it should have actually been this other person, and they'll
Speaker 2: write articles about it and all that sort of stuff.
Speaker 2: And sometimes you'll see someone win Actress of the Year
Speaker 2: and everyone's over the moon for them, and there's all
Speaker 2: the articles going they were the most deserving person. This
Speaker 2: is an incredible performance, and that I think definitely comes
Speaker 2: from the energy with which you hold yourself, not necessarily
Speaker 2: whether you did the best job or not.
Speaker 3: And also like it's so subjective, like there's only so
Speaker 3: suspecting amount of people choosing the award. But obviously, like
Speaker 3: even looking at the start of this question, when she
Speaker 3: was saying that she saw a dream workplace and said,
Speaker 3: I deserve to work there. I'm a hard worker and
Speaker 3: that's the belief to my call, Like, you obviously do
Speaker 3: have that belief inside of you, So try and use that,
Speaker 3: because how is you getting that job and truly believing
Speaker 3: that you deserve that any different to you winning an award,
Speaker 3: Like it's the same thing. And if you have that
Speaker 3: core belief and you know that down to your core,
Speaker 3: use that energy and like hold yourself in a way
Speaker 3: like we always talk about, it's the energy in which
Speaker 3: you're in that kind of attracts you know, things and
Speaker 3: people and all that sort of stuff into your life.
Speaker 3: So use that initial energy that you had in this
Speaker 3: question to then hold yourself in this same situation and
Speaker 3: kind of remind yourself that you've gotten something before for
Speaker 3: being a hard worker.
Speaker 4: You've gotten your dream job, you knew you deserved it.
Speaker 3: So try and place that same belief into this situation.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And then to answer the second part of her
Speaker 2: question where she asked, what's our advice to overcome the
Speaker 2: guilt of manifesting these big things in your life? I
Speaker 2: think that just comes down to the fact of knowing
Speaker 2: and maybe making it a core belief of yours that
Speaker 2: you can and deserve to have everything you want. Like
Speaker 2: it's almost that thing of I can see sort of
Speaker 2: maybe with your thought process of oh, well, I got
Speaker 2: the job, and I got the house, and I got
Speaker 2: the husband, so I couldn't possibly ask for anything else.
Speaker 2: You absolutely can, and you wouldn't want anything else if
Speaker 2: if it wasn't like you wouldn't have it on your heart,
Speaker 2: if you didn't deserve it, and if it wasn't coming
Speaker 2: your way in one way or the other. So I think,
Speaker 2: don't feel guilty about it, but something that does help me.
Speaker 2: I guess with guilt when it comes to manifesting big things,
Speaker 2: because sometimes you can feel a bit guilty because you
Speaker 2: can go, well, I have all this, and there's people
Speaker 2: struggling and that sort of stuff. Of the more you have,
Speaker 2: the more you have the ability to give and help
Speaker 2: others energetically, financially, whatever way you want to put it,
Speaker 2: but also knowing that your path is so unique and
Speaker 2: different to anyone else that if you just follow your path,
Speaker 2: you're actually not taking anything away from anyone else.
Speaker 4: And yeah, that's the biggest thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, yes, you got your dream job, but you
Speaker 2: didn't take, for example, my dream job away from me. No,
Speaker 2: because my dream job's different to your dream job. And
Speaker 2: just looking at it that way of you deserve everything
Speaker 2: you want for yourself because that's what's coming your way anyway,
Speaker 2: and the next person will get everything they deserve and more.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think something that really helped me with
Speaker 3: this is like whilst manifesting big things into your life.
Speaker 3: And obviously this is coming from a place of like
Speaker 3: if you said that you're a people pleaser, if I
Speaker 3: have all these things, like other people can't have it,
Speaker 3: like you were just saying, but remembering there's like an
Speaker 3: abundance for that to go around for everyone. And I
Speaker 3: think just because don't focus on anyone else or what
Speaker 3: anyone else is doing, focus on yourself and your journey
Speaker 3: and you getting good things should never be an issue
Speaker 3: for the people around you. If anything, it should be
Speaker 3: like motivating and inspiring and hopefully the people around you
Speaker 3: can lift you up and make you feel good for
Speaker 3: having those big things and don't feel guilty for it because.
Speaker 2: You'd be sad time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you not having the things that you want
Speaker 3: isn't going to change anything for anyone else, So just
Speaker 3: try and focus on you and your journey and know
Speaker 3: that you manifesting these big things into your life isn't
Speaker 3: taking away from anyone else.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 4: Amazing, amazing.
Speaker 2: Well, we'll leave that there. We hope you guys liked
Speaker 2: this episode and will pop up a thread in the
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Speaker 2: you have anything to say about the second one, you
Speaker 2: can find that in the Facebook group already.
Speaker 4: It's already in there. Bye Hie.
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