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Speaker 1: Christian O'Connell show podcast, Go Around the Team Now to

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Speaker 1: know us about the soul that sums up the weekend,

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Speaker 1: we had Patsy, what's it for you? Mate? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Look, I had the loveliest Mother's Day. I had the

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Speaker 2: most beautiful day. Mother's Day has a new meaning for

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Speaker 2: me obviously being a mum. But it was really a

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Speaker 2: really long road for me to become a mum. And

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Speaker 2: I am getting emotional, but I really hated Mother's Day

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Speaker 2: because it took five years basically to get Audrey, and

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Speaker 2: we had multiple miscarriages, and so Mother's Day for me

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Speaker 2: used to be a reminder of what I didn't have,

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Speaker 2: what I couldn't do, and the harder we tried, the

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Speaker 2: further away it got.

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Speaker 1: And so sorry, you have to say sorry, thank you

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Speaker 1: for telling us why yesterday mount so much to you.

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Speaker 2: So yesterday, with isolation and every thing, I really I

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Speaker 2: wanted to pair it back. And I said to Chris

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Speaker 2: and Audrey a week ago, I said, please, no presents.

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Speaker 2: I don't want a storeboard present. I don't want slippers,

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Speaker 2: I don't want a Hallmark card. All I want is

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Speaker 2: to spend the day with the two of you, and

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Speaker 2: for Audrey to make me something. So she was so excited,

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Speaker 2: bless her heart. So she woke up and I could

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Speaker 2: hear her in the kitchen rattling around, and Chris had

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Speaker 2: got up was helping her make breakfast. So I got

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Speaker 2: breakfast in bed and she presented me. Honestly, she'd been

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Speaker 2: of days on these and she never ever closes her

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Speaker 2: bedroom door. So I went in there last week and

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Speaker 2: there was a sign on the door saying Mother's Day

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Speaker 2: in progress. Do not enter, and I was under strict

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Speaker 2: advice not to enter and spoil the surprise. Basically, she'd

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Speaker 2: made a series of little love hearts, and in each

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Speaker 2: love heart was a message, and in one she'd written

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Speaker 2: to Mummy, you're my angel, love from Audie. And I thought,

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Speaker 2: you know what, sweetheart, I'm not your angel. You're my angel.

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Speaker 2: You're my oxygen. You're everything that I could have ever

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Speaker 2: hoped for and dreamed of. And so this is why

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Speaker 2: this is the song that sums up my weekend.

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Speaker 1: A little me and jack At turning up with this

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Speaker 1: so sweetes So it's lovely, it's really really sweet. What

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Speaker 1: a lovely what a lovely mum, you are. What a

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Speaker 1: beautiful young lady you're raising as well.

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Speaker 2: I'm the one that's lucky. I'm the one that's blessed.

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Speaker 2: And you know, Mother's Day can evoke a lot of

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Speaker 2: emotions for people. It's not always a happy day for

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Speaker 2: couples trying to get pregnant. It can be a horrible

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Speaker 2: day for couples who've had pregnancy loss or stillbirth loss.

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Speaker 2: It's a day you just want to get over. For

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Speaker 2: people like my husband Chris, he lost his mum over

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Speaker 2: twenty years ago, it's hard because you know she's not

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Speaker 2: around anymore. So but I just I thank my blessings

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Speaker 2: every day. And it was just the best Mother's Day

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Speaker 2: yesterday because it was from the heart and it wasn't plastic,

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Speaker 2: it wasn't retail focused. It was just the three of

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Speaker 2: us together and it was beautiful. It was a lovely day.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, so, Patsy, what a beautiful story you told

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Speaker 1: them as well. Thank you for doing that. Mate. Are

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Speaker 1: you okay?

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Speaker 2: I'm fine, No, I'm great, I'm great. But there's so

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Speaker 2: many couples, you know, it's something like one in three

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Speaker 2: pregnancies can end in a pregnancy loss, So it can

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Speaker 2: be hard for people, but I am. I'm so blessed,

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Speaker 2: so so blessed.

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Speaker 1: So it was a day of heartfelt gratitude for you yesterday.

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Speaker 2: It was it really was.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: It's like, you know, eight years down the track and

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Speaker 2: we've got our beautiful, healthy little girl, and you know

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Speaker 2: that's all we can have. But that's all we could

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Speaker 2: ever wish for. Wouldn't be fair to wish for anything else.

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Speaker 1: Go well, said Patsy the Christian O'Connell show. Hey, Patsy,

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Speaker 1: you are you okay? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I'm well, Thank you boys, I'm fine.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what, We've had some lovely phone calls

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Speaker 1: from people who are really really touched by your honesty

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Speaker 1: and bravery there, and you'd have had a lot of

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Speaker 1: women as well who've been through that. There's a for

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Speaker 1: no reason, there's a shame about miscarriages where people think,

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Speaker 1: you know, women think they've done something wrong. It's their

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Speaker 1: far and he gives even more shame about their bodies

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Speaker 1: when society puts too much of that on on women anyway.

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Speaker 1: But you're talking out about that and coming through that

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Speaker 1: the sema hear from Cassie. I just want to say

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Speaker 1: thank you to Patsy. I'm crying with her. Thank pats

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Speaker 1: for her honesty and bravery. Your daughter's card sounds amazing.

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Speaker 1: I had a miscarriage, then my daughter, another miscarriage, then

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Speaker 1: my son. I know exactly what Patsy's talking about and

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Speaker 1: what Mother's Day means to me. That's lovely, Patsy. Good

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Speaker 1: on you. You would helped. You would have helped people

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Speaker 1: doing that with your bravery. So that now my Mother's

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Speaker 1: Day yesterday, it was not my mother's Day. Is my

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Speaker 1: wife's mother's Day? That is not the day that I'd

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Speaker 1: planned on. I'd spent a lot of time and effort

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Speaker 1: trying everything for her to have a night's day. I'd

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Speaker 1: made sure the kids had got their homemade cards already.

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Speaker 1: The paint was drying on the homemade cards. I'd sorry,

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Speaker 1: I'd got their gifts. Yea. They'd obviously got those gifts

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Speaker 1: and paid for them and saved that their pocket money

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Speaker 1: over weeks, you know, and planned it all out. They'd

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Speaker 1: got their gifts, and I've got my gift for her

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Speaker 1: as well. It's already, And I said, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: get up early. You have a line whenever you want

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Speaker 1: to get up breakfast or we wait for you. Just

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Speaker 1: text me when you're about, you know, ten minutes wort

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Speaker 1: getting up, have a shower. I'll make sure breakfast brunch

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Speaker 1: is all ready for you. That is not what happened yesterday.

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Speaker 1: My wife was rudely awoken by me at eight am.

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Speaker 1: Eight am sent I'd accidentally fed the kitten and the

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Speaker 1: puppy some cat litter. Now I don't want anyone thinking,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, I hope these pets are okay. They

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Speaker 1: are okay, they're smarter than me. They didn't eat it,

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Speaker 1: they did have a little bit, and obviously it had

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Speaker 1: to be on the safe side. So I went and

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Speaker 1: woke up my wife. You did not want to start

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Speaker 1: your special day with your idiotic husband wide eyed in

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Speaker 1: panic going I fed I've fed them cat litter. You

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Speaker 1: know it takes a while for the brains to assemble yourself,

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Speaker 1: doesn't it? Let alone? What do you mean cat litter?

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Speaker 1: The stuff that they crap in? How did you do that?

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Speaker 1: When we haven't got time to get into that. I

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Speaker 1: have what is the number of the emergency ve And

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Speaker 1: so for most of yesterday this this is the song

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Speaker 1: that sometimes my wife's day, am my sen seems to

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Speaker 1: be I was actually in the doghouse. Pets are all fine,

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Speaker 1: not sure about my wife's special day on Mother's Day.

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Speaker 1: It did manage to calm down a little bit. Then

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Speaker 1: who so many of you recommended when Jack said he's

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Speaker 1: having some troubles with his dog and need some kind

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Speaker 1: of dog whisper. Load of you all said the same guy,

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Speaker 1: John from oz Dog, and so I booked for him

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Speaker 1: to come out on a Sunday. He's so busy, works

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Speaker 1: seven days a week, he said. In fact, wasn't him.

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Speaker 1: It's his pa. That's how busy is I don't have

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Speaker 1: a pa. I'm busy. He's got a pa. He's that good.

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Speaker 1: She said. The only time we can see you in

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Speaker 1: the next three months is a Sunday. I went, fine,

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Speaker 1: I really need some help. I forgot that Sunday was

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Speaker 1: Mother's Day. So we've all just calmed down from are

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Speaker 1: they alive? Check their breathing, make sure that and I go, oh,

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Speaker 1: it's today. It is today. It seems to be hot.

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Speaker 1: What's today? It's Mother's Day? Yes, it's also today that

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Speaker 1: the dog trainers coming around to train us all for

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Speaker 1: a couple of intense hours about how to be smarter

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Speaker 1: with the puppy. So John came yesterday the dog was

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Speaker 1: but who's a gun, isn't he? And then why did

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Speaker 1: location in the cupboard? Why weren't you part of the

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Speaker 1: dog training? I did an hour And this guy has

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Speaker 1: trained thirty eight thousand dogs, right, and yeah, yeah, he's

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Speaker 1: he's really good perats. He goes all over the world.

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Speaker 1: And he broke my teenage daughter's heart and my wives

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Speaker 1: at first of all, when he said best advice I

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Speaker 1: give you was the puppy sleeps outside. They were just

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Speaker 1: like I said, listen, John, don't even say no word.

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Speaker 1: That is not happening. I mean I might be sleeping outside.

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Speaker 1: So it tears for the sad time on Mother's Day

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Speaker 1: from the wife, seems. Then he said, who's going to

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Speaker 1: be spending most of the time with the puppy? And

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Speaker 1: I said, well, it's it's not my dog. That's my dog,

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Speaker 1: the shepherd. And he said, lois my thirteen year or

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Speaker 1: so is my puppy. So he said, okay, I will

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Speaker 1: train you and then you will train mum and dad,

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Speaker 1: and she loved it. So they went over the park

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Speaker 1: to get over the oval and he was showing her

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Speaker 1: what to do and stuff like that, and the puppy

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Speaker 1: is already behaving a little bit better as well. He

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Speaker 1: was an amazing guy. For you ever need to go

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Speaker 1: and get a dog, Tray, go and get John from

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Speaker 1: oz Dog. He is a going He is one of

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Speaker 1: these people. Jack, you'll back me up here like something

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Speaker 1: from a Tarantino movie. Ye, seriously, the moment he turned up,

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Speaker 1: I couldn't. I was just taking him in the way

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Speaker 1: he conducts himself, the way he speaks like a cowboy,

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Speaker 1: would you must say like a cowboy? Yeah, I know,

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Speaker 1: mystical amazing man. Yeah, honestly, Pats, who's this is something

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Speaker 1: I could make it. I don't know why TV haven't

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Speaker 1: made a documentary about him. He would make a great

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Speaker 1: really what I was chatter about, so what have you

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Speaker 1: been up to this week? Where have you been? And

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Speaker 1: stuff like that, and just talking about. Obviously, with lockdown,

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Speaker 1: so many people got puppies and then they realize it

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Speaker 1: is hard work. It is really really hard work, and

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Speaker 1: sadly a lot of them, more numbers than ever been

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Speaker 1: dumped into dog shelters and stuff like that, and so

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Speaker 1: he's been called in at the moment and he said

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Speaker 1: there's going to be a second wave of a problem

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Speaker 1: as well as when everyone comes out this and goes

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Speaker 1: back to work, where that's two months through a time,

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Speaker 1: pets are gonna have actually have separational anxiety. Get this.

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Speaker 1: I didn't even know this, and I went, really, I said,

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Speaker 1: I made that as a joke on the show. Is

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Speaker 1: that I think we're really gonna have that, goes Christian

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Speaker 1: right now. Pets in Melbourne are on antidepressed. I didn't

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Speaker 1: know dogs are on prozac. Do they have to go

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Speaker 1: and see like a psychiatrist, hop up on the couch.

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Speaker 1: That's the problem. I don't want to be a dog.

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Speaker 1: Some days, I'm not the same guy used to me.

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Speaker 1: I see a tree, I don't even pee up, you

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Speaker 1: know I don't. I don't chase buses anymore. I'm not

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Speaker 1: me three times a day. You'll be back to normal again.

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