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Speaker 1: It's a special Will and Woody podcast mini.

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Speaker 2: Right now, we're talking bank accounts with your partner.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, when should you share them? If ever? Thirteen one

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Speaker 3: oh sixty five is our number if you want to engage,

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Speaker 3: we're talking about it.

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Speaker 1: I'm pumped to hear your views on this, no doubt,

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Speaker 1: Will and I'll come to you in a second. But

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Speaker 1: we're talking about it because apparently one in eight Aussies

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Speaker 1: have been dumped because of their money woes. So to

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Speaker 1: explain that a bit more so, people have shared their

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Speaker 1: current banking situation or their current money situation with a

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Speaker 1: new partner and the new partner's been unhappy with where

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Speaker 1: they're at and then broken.

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Speaker 2: Up with them because they weren't bringing enough to the table.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: And I imagine that it'd be a concern for people

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Speaker 1: early in a relationship when you're trying to woo someone.

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Speaker 1: But I think, yeah, you hope not. But I think

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Speaker 1: it would be a factor finding out when where someone's financially,

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Speaker 1: Like if you found out that someone was in really

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Speaker 1: really heavy debt and you've just started to get to

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Speaker 1: know them, you can see how some people would go Nah,

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Speaker 1: I'm not getting involved there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, if you're the devil.

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Speaker 5: And there are some devils out there, like if you're

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Speaker 5: in love with someone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well the question would be though, so should you

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Speaker 1: wait until you're in love with someone before sharing your

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Speaker 1: financial situation?

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Speaker 5: There?

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Speaker 2: I think?

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Speaker 1: So oh right, yeah, okay, so you're wait, Well, so

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Speaker 1: how long did it take you and your You've been

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Speaker 1: with your partner now for five years? How long was

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Speaker 1: it before you guys were talking about banking stuff and

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Speaker 1: then I guess sharing, sharing the war chest.

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Speaker 2: It certainly wasn't the war chest.

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Speaker 5: Actually, yeah, we were in well, well we're I think

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Speaker 5: we're in a bit of a different situation because we

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Speaker 5: fell in love and then we I SEM had to

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Speaker 5: leave Australia because their visa was running out, so we

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Speaker 5: had to apply for a partner visa to keep her

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Speaker 5: in Australia after about six months, and that we had

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Speaker 5: to apply.

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Speaker 2: Twice in a row. To keep her here.

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Speaker 5: We have to play on shore and offshore, which cost

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Speaker 5: us twenty thousand dollars off the bat bloody, which neither

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Speaker 5: of us, neither of us had neither of.

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Speaker 2: Us even sniffed anything like that.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So we maxed two credit cards immediately to keep

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Speaker 5: her here.

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Speaker 1: Oh but so immediately though. That's communal money now, isn't it.

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Speaker 5: How Yeah, yeah, absolutely, we both we just we just

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Speaker 5: copped it and because we just knew we wanted to

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Speaker 5: beat again.

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Speaker 4: That's why I mean.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I know I'm sounding probably tediously romantic and

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Speaker 5: maybe even unrealistic.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but you are, though, well, I know romantic.

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Speaker 2: I definitely am a romantic.

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Speaker 5: But I just think that I think that if you're

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Speaker 5: into someone, and you're really into someone, it depends on

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Speaker 5: your circumstances, like if you've got a kid, sure, I mean,

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Speaker 5: if money is something's really hard to come.

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Speaker 2: By for you.

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Speaker 5: But at the end of the day, if you're really

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Speaker 5: into someone, like I would like to think that money

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Speaker 5: is the last thing that would keep you from being

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Speaker 5: with someone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like really if you're really into that.

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Speaker 1: If that's an argument though, that you know it shouldn't

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Speaker 1: matter with money, Is that an argument to just go

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Speaker 1: just always keep it separate though as well?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I really do think it's horses.

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Speaker 5: I don't want to tell anyone how to do this

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Speaker 5: because I don't think that it makes you exactly right.

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Speaker 5: I think if money is not making your relationship any better,

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Speaker 5: which it doesn't, then I think that it shouldn't matter

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Speaker 5: either way that you go about this, because it's whatever

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Speaker 5: works for you. Like, yeah, it's very much a private

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Speaker 5: thing as well, Like it's often how people are raised, Yeah,

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Speaker 5: how they treat money. Yeah. I know when Sam first

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Speaker 5: came over here and you know, we we were looking

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Speaker 5: at buying a house, you know, we're on the bend

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Speaker 5: together for a couple of years, and I was people

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Speaker 5: that were telling me, that's a that's not a clever

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Speaker 2: She's not even a citizen here.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, that's a really risky thing to be

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Speaker 5: doing with someone. And that's not illogical advice because there

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Speaker 5: are all sorts of stories of you know, people swindling

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Speaker 5: other people as soon as you put your same name

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Speaker 5: on the house and that that's the thing that happens.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, We've got plenty of calls coming in. We're going

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Speaker 1: to take them right up next thirteen one o.

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Speaker 3: Six y five.

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Speaker 1: Though, should do you share bank account details with your partner?

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Speaker 3: And how early should you do it?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: The other part about that is though, as well, if

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Speaker 5: if you're not surrendering your finances to someone, that's offensive

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Speaker 5: to some people, as well as you would say spicy meatball.

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Speaker 3: It's a spicy man.

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Speaker 4: But we'll talk about it.

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Speaker 3: Let's cook up those spicy mead polls.

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Speaker 4: But it's finance with woods.

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Speaker 1: Bundy open is could be a segment, could be a segment,

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Speaker 1: could be a segment.

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Speaker 4: What do we thinking? What do you want to call it?

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Speaker 3: Talking cash with Woody.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a preliminary ideas blood no name on the tin.

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Speaker 1: I'm like the Smith family, they just they just call

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Speaker 1: it as it is. These days they've got a water

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Speaker 1: company called water Anyway, I digress. We're talking now on

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Speaker 1: whether you should share bank details with your partner or

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Speaker 1: share a bank account with your partner, because it can

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Speaker 1: be a bloody spicy meatball. And then the reason we're

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Speaker 1: talking about it bloody, the reason we're talking about it

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Speaker 1: is because apparently one in eight Ossie a dumped because

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Speaker 1: of money was so the person there with finds out

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Speaker 1: their financial situation. If it's not good, they go, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm out, which would be a reason for you not

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Speaker 1: to share your bank details, you know, your banking information.

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Speaker 2: Because you're scared that someone's going to break up with you.

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Speaker 5: I think that's the case of you, you know you're

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Speaker 5: still sporting your dollar might account from you two.

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Speaker 4: I mean sure, and.

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Speaker 3: Some of us are.

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Speaker 1: I put my gold coins on my little checkbook there

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Speaker 1: from Conwealth Bank.

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Speaker 5: But I think if you've got any sort of assemblance,

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Speaker 5: I don't know. My stance in this is I don't

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Speaker 5: think money should be the reason that you should break

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Speaker 5: up with someone unless it's actually stopping you from feasibly living.

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Speaker 1: Sure, we've got jasmine here, Jazz. What's your thoughts.

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Speaker 6: I reckon if you're not like ridiculously in debt, there's

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Speaker 6: no issue with it.

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Speaker 1: So if you were with someone, though, So you've fallen

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Speaker 1: in love with someone and then you found out that

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Speaker 1: they are in a bit of debt, the love wouldn't

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Speaker 1: conquer all and you wouldn't go like, let's, you know,

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Speaker 1: let's get through this together.

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Speaker 6: I mean I probably would. It would depend on how

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Speaker 6: much step though, Like if it's like, you know, like

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Speaker 6: eighty thousand dollars, that'd probably be a bit yeah, But

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Speaker 6: if it's you know, like a car Loan or something

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Speaker 5: That's what I was saying in terms of like, particularly

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Speaker 5: if you know that they are in debt, because they

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Speaker 5: struggle with debt, you know, like if they've got a

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Speaker 5: gambling addiction or an alcohol addiction, or like they're obviously

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Speaker 5: pouring their money into something that means that you're going

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Speaker 5: to then live a shocking life because of that. But

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Speaker 5: if they'd like I don't know how to miss or

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Speaker 5: got a car loan or something like that, like I.

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Speaker 4: Don't know I dance with I don't know.

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Speaker 2: What do you think about that?

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Speaker 4: Like you haven't been how longly been with men?

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Speaker 1: For I've been with them for nine months? Thanks for asking.

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Speaker 1: Actually it was our nine month anniversary. Yes, congratulations, a

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Speaker 1: little bit of music.

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Speaker 3: There no doubt my month with you guys. Yeah, we

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Speaker 3: celebrate every month too exciting.

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Speaker 1: And we so we share a we have a shared card,

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Speaker 1: so we tip money into a shared account every single month.

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Speaker 1: And that happened pretty fast, but mainly at a convenience

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Speaker 1: just because every time we went out for dinner or breakfast.

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Speaker 1: It get annoying when it's like, oh, pay, I know

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Speaker 1: you paid for this one. I paid for dinner last night.

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Speaker 5: That's different to having her having access to your savings account.

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Speaker 5: That's separate account that you both ship money into.

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Speaker 4: That shit.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think that's clever.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, really because, as you said, you're sharing finances without

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Speaker 5: sharing finances necessarily.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: True, But then naturally we start having conversations now. So

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Speaker 1: I'll get to you in a second, Shanner, but like

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Speaker 1: you do have to start having conversations about your personal

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Speaker 1: financial positions, because if she's wanting to know potentially buy

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Speaker 3: It's like, well, what point do we go?

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Speaker 1: Oh, hang on, before you make that should be making

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's very early in the relationship.

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Speaker 1: To you're talking like, yeah, you know, absolutely got Shanna here, Shanne,

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Speaker 1: what are your thoughts? Mate?

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Speaker 6: Your finance is completely separate?

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Speaker 3: Bloody hell? All right? Is that working for you? Shanna?

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Speaker 6: It's working now, it isn't in the past.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah, See, you've got all these battled, hardened people

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Speaker 5: that have been burnted. I reckon one mony for me once.

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Speaker 5: Shame on you for me twice shame on me. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: very true. But the other thing is, you know, I

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Speaker 5: don't want to be in a.

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Speaker 1: Situation and I don't know if you're in this situation

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Speaker 1: right now where if you want to make a purchase, like,

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Speaker 1: for example, if you want to buy a ridiculous keyboard

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Speaker 1: that makes synth noises, for example, hypothetically.

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Speaker 4: A deep mine twelve.

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Speaker 2: And that's something if you want to buy a deep

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Speaker 2: mind and that's something you own.

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Speaker 1: But was that like, given you've got to share account,

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Speaker 1: is it a bit stressful to know that you need

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Speaker 1: to run a purchase by someone? I shouldn't you be

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Speaker 1: able to buy that if you know, if out of

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Speaker 1: your money?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't feel I just think, well, I also

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Speaker 5: think that when you have the other part about this

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Speaker 5: is because sim and I both have a mortgage, we've

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Speaker 5: got communal debt, right, yeah, so you're working as a

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Speaker 5: team now as well.

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Speaker 4: So when you're.

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Speaker 5: Respectful of that, and that's the other part of it

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Speaker 5: as well, when you've got communal debt, you're both working

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Speaker 5: towards a goal, then try to wipe your dead away.

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Speaker 5: So then you don't go out there and think to yourself,

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Speaker 5: I'm going to go and buy a fifteen hundred dollar keyboard.

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Speaker 3: So hell did you get the synth?

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Speaker 6: Model?

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Speaker 4: Doesn't know about it? To the trapdoor.

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Speaker 3: Hear more of the boys on the Full Show podcast.

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Speaker 4: You know you want to