Speaker 1: So on maths.
Speaker 2: At the moment, the show that keeps on giving, it's
Speaker 2: The Home Stays Week, and it started some really interesting
Speaker 2: and enlightening conversations up until now. Jackie and Ryan or
Speaker 2: everyone right, they're living in the hotel, you're dating, you've
Speaker 2: fallen in love, but you don't really know much about
Speaker 2: the other person. But now they're taking each other home
Speaker 2: to see how they live, They how they bought a house,
Speaker 2: are they with their parents, whatever their situation is at home.
Speaker 2: And Jackie has left me in absolute hysterics and made
Speaker 2: me remember something that I have actually done.
Speaker 1: Have I listened to this? So that Stein is from Germany.
Speaker 1: It was eye opening to see his home as.
Speaker 3: An Eiffel tower.
Speaker 1: That's sword from the Tower of London.
Speaker 4: I just think he's been alone here for seven years,
Speaker 4: she cry. And maybe he isn't even aware of how
Speaker 4: lonely he is.
Speaker 1: It really reminds me of the elderly.
Speaker 3: This is a seventeen year old kimonent.
Speaker 4: It was so sweet of him to be so confident,
Speaker 4: and I'm so happy to bring me in.
Speaker 3: It's not quite hoarding, it's just like memories. Okay, so
Speaker 3: if you miss this.
Speaker 5: Jackie went into Ryan's house and it is full of knickknacks,
Speaker 5: like it's.
Speaker 1: Full of they're not even nicknacks, I don't know.
Speaker 5: What you call them, Like samurai swords, skulls.
Speaker 1: He's got skulls.
Speaker 5: He's got bottles of alcohol, he's got ties, he's got
Speaker 5: teddy bears, like anything you could imagine in like the
Speaker 5: worst horror show of a gift shop. He's got it
Speaker 5: displayed somewhere.
Speaker 1: It definitely looks like we're looking at some of the
Speaker 1: pictures here now.
Speaker 2: It definitely looks like she's gone back into like a
Speaker 2: teenager's room.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: In fact, he bought the house in his thirty six
Speaker 1: years old.
Speaker 5: This reminds me so deeply of my eighteen year old
Speaker 5: boyfriend's bedroom when he was eighteen, not when he was
Speaker 5: in his mid thirties. But I can relate to this.
Speaker 5: I understand what it is like to be in a relationship,
Speaker 5: to meet someone, to date them, to think that they
Speaker 5: are fantastic, and then at some point go back to
Speaker 5: the house and be like, oh, Okay, maybe your living
Speaker 5: arrangements aren't exactly on par with.
Speaker 3: The person that I thought you were.
Speaker 5: So I was dating the guy for a long time
Speaker 5: and then he moved away, and we'd been doing long
Speaker 5: distance and I hadn't been to his new place. I'd
Speaker 5: only ever been to his place that he had when
Speaker 5: he was here. And I went up to go and
Speaker 5: see him, and it was like ten hour drive away,
Speaker 5: and I remember opening the door to his bedroom and
Speaker 5: he just had a mattress on the floor with no
Speaker 5: sheets and just.
Speaker 3: A doner They had a doner cover on it.
Speaker 5: But it turns out the raw dog to the mattress
Speaker 5: for six months, he had been raw dogging. It turns
Speaker 5: out that all the furniture that was in his old
Speaker 5: place wasn't his, and the rental had come with the furniture.
Speaker 1: So he just k now ew, that's even worse.
Speaker 3: He just never bought any He just lived anywhere. I'm moving,
Speaker 3: But what has happened?
Speaker 2: You bought that furniture secondhand, You bought that mattress secondhand.
Speaker 1: What has happened to it? You're not even gonna put
Speaker 1: a sheet on it?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no.
Speaker 5: All the furniture in his old place, which was like
Speaker 5: surprisingly well put together, that was all rental furniture. And
Speaker 5: so then he moved into this new place, had been
Speaker 5: living there for six months and never bought anything except yeah,
Speaker 5: a secondhand mattress.
Speaker 3: That he slept straight directly on row top sheet.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 3: Nothing.
Speaker 2: I did have a mattress on the floor once, but
Speaker 2: that was like a fengshwe thing I've read something about
Speaker 2: it was really good for you to sleep low to
Speaker 2: the ground.
Speaker 5: The thing that's even more embarrassing is that I ended
Speaker 5: up moving in with him and we were together for
Speaker 5: six years, So yeah, that was good.
Speaker 1: Did you ever put a sheet on?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: I bought the sheets and I bought furniture.
Speaker 1: Look, I don't want to yuck anyone's yum here. For Ryan,
Speaker 1: you do you. It's very particular taste. But if that's
Speaker 1: right for you, that is fine.
Speaker 2: If it's not right for Jackie, I completely understand, and
Speaker 2: I understand why she's I don't understand why she's crying,
Speaker 2: but I understand why it's.
Speaker 1: Not for her. But I remember the same thing.
Speaker 2: I remember dating this guy and we were in another town.
Speaker 2: He was originally from a city like five six hours away.
Speaker 2: He was a doctor, So I was like, great, you're
Speaker 2: well put together, you got an income, wonderful, and he's mid.
Speaker 1: To late twenties.
Speaker 3: You thought you'd hit the jackpot is what you're saying.
Speaker 2: Not jackpot, but when you were medically or university educated
Speaker 2: and you're in your late twenties and you live away,
Speaker 2: you think that someone is put together. Anyway, I went
Speaker 2: back to where he actually lived, and it was still
Speaker 2: at his parents' house.
Speaker 1: Fine, in a tiny room.
Speaker 2: With a single bed, and everything was still in there,
Speaker 2: like his teddies from growing up. I say this as in,
Speaker 2: like I'm remembering how uncomfortable I was, No Laura.
Speaker 1: We was sleeping in a single bed. He was nearly
Speaker 1: dirty and a doctor, but he.
Speaker 5: Just still lived in his childhood bedroom. Had he ever
Speaker 5: moved out and then moved back in?
Speaker 2: Because that was Yeah, that's how I met him. But
Speaker 2: he just it was like a homing pigeon, keep going
Speaker 2: home for me. I can't help it, and I know
Speaker 2: it was judgmental.
Speaker 1: It gave me the ick. I was like, I need
Speaker 1: to be with someone there has a double bed.
Speaker 3: You you got the ick.
Speaker 5: And I dated the guy who had a mattress on
Speaker 5: the floor and moved in with him. It says a
Speaker 5: lot about house standards are very different, is what that says.
Speaker 5: But yeah, look I can understand why someone's home. I
Speaker 5: think you have to see it early because I think
Speaker 5: it's a real telling sign about more about that person,
Speaker 5: about all the things that they like, or whether they're
Speaker 5: a hoarder, or what their.
Speaker 3: You know, their mental state.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Pray for Ryan.