WEBVTT - MAFS: Jacqui got the ICK from Ryan's Homestay?

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<v Speaker 1>So on maths.

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<v Speaker 2>At the moment, the show that keeps on giving, it's

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<v Speaker 2>The Home Stays Week, and it started some really interesting

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<v Speaker 2>and enlightening conversations up until now. Jackie and Ryan or

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<v Speaker 2>everyone right, they're living in the hotel, you're dating, you've

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<v Speaker 2>fallen in love, but you don't really know much about

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<v Speaker 2>the other person. But now they're taking each other home

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<v Speaker 2>to see how they live, They how they bought a house,

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<v Speaker 2>are they with their parents, whatever their situation is at home.

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<v Speaker 2>And Jackie has left me in absolute hysterics and made

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<v Speaker 2>me remember something that I have actually done.

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<v Speaker 1>Have I listened to this? So that Stein is from Germany.

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<v Speaker 1>It was eye opening to see his home as.

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<v Speaker 3>An Eiffel tower.

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<v Speaker 1>That's sword from the Tower of London.

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<v Speaker 4>I just think he's been alone here for seven years,

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<v Speaker 4>she cry. And maybe he isn't even aware of how

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<v Speaker 4>lonely he is.

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<v Speaker 1>It really reminds me of the elderly.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a seventeen year old kimonent.

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<v Speaker 4>It was so sweet of him to be so confident,

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm so happy to bring me in.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not quite hoarding, it's just like memories. Okay, so

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<v Speaker 3>if you miss this.

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<v Speaker 5>Jackie went into Ryan's house and it is full of knickknacks,

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<v Speaker 5>like it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Full of they're not even nicknacks, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>What you call them, Like samurai swords, skulls.

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<v Speaker 1>He's got skulls.

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<v Speaker 5>He's got bottles of alcohol, he's got ties, he's got

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<v Speaker 5>teddy bears, like anything you could imagine in like the

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<v Speaker 5>worst horror show of a gift shop. He's got it

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<v Speaker 5>displayed somewhere.

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<v Speaker 1>It definitely looks like we're looking at some of the

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<v Speaker 1>pictures here now.

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<v Speaker 2>It definitely looks like she's gone back into like a

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<v Speaker 2>teenager's room.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>In fact, he bought the house in his thirty six

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<v Speaker 1>years old.

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<v Speaker 5>This reminds me so deeply of my eighteen year old

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<v Speaker 5>boyfriend's bedroom when he was eighteen, not when he was

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<v Speaker 5>in his mid thirties. But I can relate to this.

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<v Speaker 5>I understand what it is like to be in a relationship,

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<v Speaker 5>to meet someone, to date them, to think that they

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<v Speaker 5>are fantastic, and then at some point go back to

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<v Speaker 5>the house and be like, oh, Okay, maybe your living

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<v Speaker 5>arrangements aren't exactly on par with.

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<v Speaker 3>The person that I thought you were.

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<v Speaker 5>So I was dating the guy for a long time

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<v Speaker 5>and then he moved away, and we'd been doing long

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<v Speaker 5>distance and I hadn't been to his new place. I'd

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<v Speaker 5>only ever been to his place that he had when

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<v Speaker 5>he was here. And I went up to go and

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<v Speaker 5>see him, and it was like ten hour drive away,

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<v Speaker 5>and I remember opening the door to his bedroom and

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<v Speaker 5>he just had a mattress on the floor with no

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<v Speaker 5>sheets and just.

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<v Speaker 3>A doner They had a doner cover on it.

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<v Speaker 5>But it turns out the raw dog to the mattress

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<v Speaker 5>for six months, he had been raw dogging. It turns

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<v Speaker 5>out that all the furniture that was in his old

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<v Speaker 5>place wasn't his, and the rental had come with the furniture.

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<v Speaker 1>So he just k now ew, that's even worse.

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<v Speaker 3>He just never bought any He just lived anywhere. I'm moving,

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<v Speaker 3>But what has happened?

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<v Speaker 2>You bought that furniture secondhand, You bought that mattress secondhand.

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<v Speaker 1>What has happened to it? You're not even gonna put

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<v Speaker 1>a sheet on it?

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 5>All the furniture in his old place, which was like

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<v Speaker 5>surprisingly well put together, that was all rental furniture. And

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<v Speaker 5>so then he moved into this new place, had been

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<v Speaker 5>living there for six months and never bought anything except yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>a secondhand mattress.

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<v Speaker 3>That he slept straight directly on row top sheet.

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<v Speaker 4>No.

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<v Speaker 3>Nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>I did have a mattress on the floor once, but

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<v Speaker 2>that was like a fengshwe thing I've read something about

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<v Speaker 2>it was really good for you to sleep low to

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<v Speaker 2>the ground.

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<v Speaker 5>The thing that's even more embarrassing is that I ended

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<v Speaker 5>up moving in with him and we were together for

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<v Speaker 5>six years, So yeah, that was good.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you ever put a sheet on?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 3>I bought the sheets and I bought furniture.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, I don't want to yuck anyone's yum here. For Ryan,

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<v Speaker 1>you do you. It's very particular taste. But if that's

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<v Speaker 1>right for you, that is fine.

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<v Speaker 2>If it's not right for Jackie, I completely understand, and

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<v Speaker 2>I understand why she's I don't understand why she's crying,

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<v Speaker 2>but I understand why it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Not for her. But I remember the same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember dating this guy and we were in another town.

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<v Speaker 2>He was originally from a city like five six hours away.

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<v Speaker 2>He was a doctor, So I was like, great, you're

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<v Speaker 2>well put together, you got an income, wonderful, and he's mid.

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<v Speaker 1>To late twenties.

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<v Speaker 3>You thought you'd hit the jackpot is what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Not jackpot, but when you were medically or university educated

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<v Speaker 2>and you're in your late twenties and you live away,

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<v Speaker 2>you think that someone is put together. Anyway, I went

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<v Speaker 2>back to where he actually lived, and it was still

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<v Speaker 2>at his parents' house.

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<v Speaker 1>Fine, in a tiny room.

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<v Speaker 2>With a single bed, and everything was still in there,

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<v Speaker 2>like his teddies from growing up. I say this as in,

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm remembering how uncomfortable I was, No Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>We was sleeping in a single bed. He was nearly

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<v Speaker 1>dirty and a doctor, but he.

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<v Speaker 5>Just still lived in his childhood bedroom. Had he ever

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<v Speaker 5>moved out and then moved back in?

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<v Speaker 2>Because that was Yeah, that's how I met him. But

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<v Speaker 2>he just it was like a homing pigeon, keep going

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<v Speaker 2>home for me. I can't help it, and I know

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<v Speaker 2>it was judgmental.

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<v Speaker 1>It gave me the ick. I was like, I need

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<v Speaker 1>to be with someone there has a double bed.

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<v Speaker 3>You you got the ick.

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<v Speaker 5>And I dated the guy who had a mattress on

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<v Speaker 5>the floor and moved in with him. It says a

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<v Speaker 5>lot about house standards are very different, is what that says.

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<v Speaker 5>But yeah, look I can understand why someone's home. I

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<v Speaker 5>think you have to see it early because I think

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<v Speaker 5>it's a real telling sign about more about that person,

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<v Speaker 5>about all the things that they like, or whether they're

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<v Speaker 5>a hoarder, or what their.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, their mental state.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, Pray for Ryan.