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Speaker 1: Got anything, gig Hey, This.

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Speaker 2: Is the Christian O'Connell Show podcast Gold one at four

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Speaker 2: point three Friday morning. Good morning, Rio, good morning. Welcome

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Speaker 2: to your weekend, Patrina, Joe and.

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Speaker 1: Yours to Christian. What are you up to, Patty?

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Speaker 3: It's Audrey's birthday. Oh, I've got a fourteen year old.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, my strength got you get into teens now?

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Speaker 1: Congratulations?

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Speaker 3: Very different party. Yes, So we have a party every

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Speaker 3: sort of second year, and so we said to it, well,

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Speaker 3: it's very expensive, you have it every year. So we

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Speaker 3: said to her, what do you want to do this year? Like,

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Speaker 3: what did you have in mind? And she said, you know, mom,

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Speaker 3: I just want to go shopping with the girls. So

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Speaker 3: she's going shopping.

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Speaker 1: Very strong and they have any of you one of

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Speaker 1: the girls.

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Speaker 3: No, So this is the thing. So we're having a lunch.

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Speaker 1: I saw a lord chair so.

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Speaker 2: Breaking slowly.

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Speaker 3: So there is a lunch before and Chris insisted last

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Speaker 3: night no, not lang, just at the local piece of shop.

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Speaker 1: Wow, So you can have the lang them every week.

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Speaker 2: Your daughter turning this significant birthday, just took the local

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Speaker 2: pizza mom and dad.

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Speaker 3: Chris thought, he said, if we booked the table. I said, yes, yes,

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Speaker 3: it's all done, and Audrey goes, Dad, you're not you

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Speaker 3: realize you and mum aren't on the table.

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Speaker 2: With all of this, I remember suddenly being at that

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Speaker 2: point where you would drop and go.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but he sort of like, get a clue, Chris, He's, well,

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Speaker 3: like it was genuinely.

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Speaker 1: Shocked us with us there. It's still you understand, but

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Speaker 1: it's hard. Yes, yeah it is.

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Speaker 2: I remember when we had one of those can you

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Speaker 2: just drop and go and then you have to sort

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Speaker 2: of you have to then come back and obviously pay.

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Speaker 1: He just then it picks up for stuff.

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Speaker 2: Then it's like, come on the car around the court,

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Speaker 2: don't park out the front either.

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Speaker 1: Well, you don't even have a seat at the restaurant.

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Speaker 2: You don't want us there are style.

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Speaker 3: So we might go to the movies and see Karate Kid.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, yes, I really want to see that. Oh

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Speaker 2: that's a good time for awesome. Everyone's happy with that.

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I hope it's good.

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Speaker 1: Is it good? I don't know, it's had great reviews.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, so we're fine, and tell me this, how

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Speaker 2: do you having a fourteen year old daughter?

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 3: You know? I, oh, gosh, You've got me on the

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Speaker 3: fly because I feel it's just this rush of you know,

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Speaker 3: I didn't know that things were going to be for

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Speaker 3: the last time. So we're feeling that very very strongly,

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Speaker 3: and I'm.

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Speaker 1: Going to get emotional.

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Speaker 3: And next year she might be looking at doing exchange

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Speaker 3: overseas and that that for me, like I'm actually feeling

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Speaker 3: myself flushing up. It's fly, birdie, fly. I want her

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Speaker 3: to have. Of course, all those experiences.

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Speaker 2: Still breaks, but it's the right kind of heartbreak, I know,

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Speaker 2: I know, heartbreaking.

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Speaker 3: How how has it gone so fast?

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Speaker 2: And I'm telling you now as well, just save everything

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Speaker 2: and there are suddenly that all these lasts so you

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Speaker 2: don't even know they are the last. But also you've

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Speaker 2: got all these you've got all these firsts as well.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good one.

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Speaker 1: And that's what people forget.

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Speaker 2: We're very good at knowing what we're going to miss,

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Speaker 2: but you don't really think about what you're going to get.

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Speaker 1: And there are loads of really great firsts all coming

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Speaker 3: But that's the thing that was such a mishmash because

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Speaker 3: especially as both you know, busy working parents, you are

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Speaker 3: just it's like a marathon, especially doing you know, breakfast.

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Speaker 1: Hours, it's just running a business together.

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Speaker 3: It really was. It was just getting to Friday and

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Speaker 3: then you've got the weekend to rest and recuperate, and

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Speaker 3: of first steps. And Chris said to me the other night,

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Speaker 3: actually he said, I don't remember Audrey starting to crawl.

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Speaker 3: How did she crawl? I know she didn't like it

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Speaker 3: And I said, don't feel bad because I don't remember

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Speaker 1: No, no, I don't know. I know.

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Speaker 2: It's really frightening. And you suddenly think, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: I'm now like my parents. You get any going. How

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Speaker 2: could you not remember that?

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Speaker 3: I should remember that? And I feel like a bad

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Speaker 3: parent for it. It's like if only if you could

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Speaker 3: just have that that time there. Yeah, I think everyone

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Speaker 3: feels the same do.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's incredible, But what I will say is like

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Speaker 2: they put too much emphasis on like you know, Gole's

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Speaker 2: camping trips with your kids. But I caught it like

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Speaker 2: quality junk time. And actually some of the some of

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Speaker 2: the best times with the girls, they just want you

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Speaker 2: to hang out with them. It isn't really about what

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Speaker 2: you're doing. And so some of my favorite memories really

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Speaker 2: my time being a dad, it's actually just been on

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Speaker 2: that if I had to choose how I ended this world,

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Speaker 2: it'd be on a couch with the kids, snacks and

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Speaker 2: a glass of wine as well, it will be doing

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Speaker 2: that that, So just save all Yeah, and also you've

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Speaker 3: It just you know, it feels like it's slipping through.

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Speaker 2: My favor And also I stood also know we're dealing

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Speaker 2: with Ruby's turning twenty one in a couple of weeks time.

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Speaker 2: So actually I'm having to sort of what I'm saying

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Speaker 2: to you as one to say, just remind yourself that

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Speaker 2: you're lucky that you've got kids that have made it

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Speaker 2: this far. Yes, you know, because there are so many

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Speaker 2: parents that actually get so far into it and that

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Speaker 2: have access. And so I'm also counter my blessings. I've

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Speaker 2: got an eighteen year old and an almost twenty one

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Speaker 2: year old. Wow, what a ride. Yeah, I just have

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Speaker 2: so much gratitude.

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Speaker 1: Yes, of course, but wow, we so she might be

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Speaker 1: leaving for a while.

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Speaker 3: Next year, yeah, next year, sometime next year. I think

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Speaker 3: it's around Easter time.

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Speaker 2: So let's make sure we all take that time off

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Speaker 2: the show to you listener as well, maybe we do

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Speaker 2: a separate radio show, but tel pounds alway, because we're

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Speaker 2: all going to be going through that, they're all going

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Speaker 2: to be going through that fly bony fly.

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Speaker 3: I've got along serviocely up my sleep.

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Speaker 2: Yes, oh, you must probably be in touched like two

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Speaker 2: hundred years.

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Speaker 3: Maybe a'll go.

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Speaker 1: That was meant as a joke.

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Speaker 2: Lady following us around this Italian market looks awfully like

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Speaker 2: your mum in a Berets. Well, i'll tell you what.

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Speaker 2: Enjoy the weekend and enjoy it, will I will? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know, you're a great mum. She's lucky to have you.

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Speaker 1: And Chris's parents we're very lucky to have her.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: They just surprise you sometimes by some of the things

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Speaker 3: they say, and you think, wow, you're so mature, And

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Speaker 3: I don't know why. We think we kind of not

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Speaker 3: talk down to them, but we probably don't give them.

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Speaker 3: I don't know the not the gratitude, but the benefit

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Speaker 3: of what they what they're taking in and how they're

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Speaker 3: seeing the world. And you know, really it's our it's

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Speaker 3: our benefit because we've learned so much through her and

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Speaker 3: see the.

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Speaker 2: World's honestly, that's such a true thing. The biggest teachers

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Speaker 2: in my life for my kids.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Still I've learned more about myself through being a parent.

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Speaker 2: And also when you drop off tomorrow and she doesn't

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Speaker 2: want you there, that's a sign that you've done a

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Speaker 2: good joint, honestly, because you do see other kids that

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Speaker 2: actually that's not doing it right. If you've done it healthy,

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Speaker 2: they should feel really loved and safe when you're not there.

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Speaker 1: It shouldn't be that they have to have you around

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Speaker 1: to feel safe. Exactly.

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Speaker 2: So, even though you will be a bit like bloody ell,

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Speaker 2: go and join the us out karate kit. Yeah yeah,

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Speaker 2: don'gla bub that's her karate kit. They're going day drinking

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Speaker 2: again in that ninety all right, we'll get into double

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Speaker 2: thumbs up coming up next to Patsy enjoying tomorrow and

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Speaker 2: hebe already has a great birthday all right. Coming up

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