1 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:10,159 Speaker 1: Well Fridays at the day where we always breathe a 2 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:12,040 Speaker 1: sigh of relief because the week is nearly over. We 3 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 1: get to relax a little bit, hopefully when it comes 4 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:18,200 Speaker 1: to routine. As the weekend arrives. We get to things 5 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: cross spend time with our family, our kids, the ones 6 00:00:20,440 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 1: that we love more than anyone else in the world. Today, 7 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: this is doctor Justin Colson. I'm here with my wife 8 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 1: and mother of our six daughters, Kylie, who co hosts 9 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:32,240 Speaker 1: this podcast with me on a day to day basis, 10 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:35,199 Speaker 1: and we love the conversations that we get to have today. 11 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:37,159 Speaker 1: I'll Do Better Tomorrow for those of you who are 12 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: new to the podcast, and we're so grateful for so 13 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: many new people coming along. Our numbers in terms of 14 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:45,640 Speaker 1: podcast listeners have been really increasing substantially in recent times, 15 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 1: and we really appreciate you giving your. 16 00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 2: Time to us. 17 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: In the mornings every Friday, for our new listeners, we 18 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 1: do this segment called I'll Do Better Tomorrow, where we 19 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: reflect on the week that was, share some personal stories 20 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:00,640 Speaker 1: from our own lives, and talk about how we plan 21 00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:04,520 Speaker 1: on being more intentional and more mindful as our lives 22 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:06,920 Speaker 1: continue and as we continue to raise our kids day 23 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: to day. Today, Kylie's going to go first, and it's 24 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 1: been a really big week for our family and for 25 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 1: some friends of ours who have experienced quite a traumatic 26 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:21,480 Speaker 1: and challenging week. So Kylie's I'll do Better Tomorrow as 27 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 1: a reflection on that. I don't know exactly what Kylie's 28 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 1: going to say, but I know that it's that, and 29 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:28,759 Speaker 1: I guess before we get started with what you want 30 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:31,960 Speaker 1: to share, Kylie, it's probably important that we just highlight 31 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 1: that some of the things that we'll be talking about 32 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 1: in this episode will be of a really sensitive nature 33 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: and will make some people feel kind of sad. In fact, 34 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: some people will be really very sad by what we 35 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: talk about. Nevertheless, we want to be able to have 36 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 1: real and honest conversations about real and honest life. And 37 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: so Kylie, why don't you share with us I'll do 38 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 1: Better tomorrow. 39 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 2: So yesterday I had the opportunity to attend a close 40 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 2: family friend's baby's funeral, and they have known for some 41 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 2: time that their baby would probably not survive very long 42 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 2: after birth if she even made the full term pregnancy. 43 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 2: But in spite of all of that knowledge, it has 44 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 2: obviously rocked to their world and for all intents and purposes, 45 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 2: the community that surrounds them. And as I sat there 46 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 2: yesterday and I listened to the beautiful things that were 47 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 2: shared and basically mourned alongside them, it made me think 48 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 2: about our episode yesterday and this acknowledgment that it's all 49 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 2: been worth it. And I thought about the different experiences 50 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:55,360 Speaker 2: that I've had as a mum over the years, and 51 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 2: the times where I've you know, kind of wanted to 52 00:02:58,000 --> 00:02:59,959 Speaker 2: throw on the towel because it's all been too high. 53 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:04,239 Speaker 2: And then I thought about my friend and I thought 54 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 2: about the fact that they would actually never have the 55 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 2: opportunity to have any of those experiences, the good, all 56 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:12,919 Speaker 2: the bad, and it really just made me think about 57 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:17,120 Speaker 2: the way I see my children and the things that 58 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 2: are important to me, and I thought about all of 59 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 2: those little moments I thought about, you know, dancing in 60 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 2: the kitchen, the kids singing of Key did Disney songs 61 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:32,800 Speaker 2: on repeat, you know, the kids playing at the beach 62 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:37,000 Speaker 2: for the five minutes where everybody's happy and life just 63 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 2: feels like a bliss. The warm hug. One of our 64 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 2: youngest children would come in each morning and she would 65 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 2: give me a hug and she'd say, oh hot, Mama, 66 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 2: and just the warmth and joy that that filled me with. 67 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 2: Or when I would pick the kids up and they 68 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 2: would notice that I was just a little bit flat, 69 00:03:56,600 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 2: and for no reason at all, they'd just, you know, 70 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 2: kind of reach out and give me ah that question, 71 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 2: how can I help you, mum? When they notice that 72 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 2: you know, I'm feeling overwhelmed, or when big sisters take 73 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:11,760 Speaker 2: little sisters on dates, or Emily sharing her last lollie. 74 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,839 Speaker 2: All of those moments make up this beautiful space where 75 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:18,960 Speaker 2: I can feel absolute gratitude for the opportunity I have 76 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:21,279 Speaker 2: to be a mum. But then there's the not so 77 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:26,159 Speaker 2: pretty times. There's a time where whole bowls of food 78 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 2: end up on heads, or you find your toddler has 79 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 2: flushed something down the blue that they shouldn't have, or 80 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:35,040 Speaker 2: they're eating the dog food, or they've kicked the dog 81 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:37,960 Speaker 2: out of his kennel and they're now sleeping in it. 82 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:42,360 Speaker 2: The times where you know they've used your favorite lipstick 83 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 2: and it's smeared all over the mirror or the carpet 84 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 2: or anywhere where it shouldn't be. I know, there's the 85 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:51,240 Speaker 2: big stuff, the flooding of the house, or the crashed car. 86 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 2: But as I thought about all of those experiences for 87 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:00,680 Speaker 2: a moment, I was able to be grateful for all 88 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 2: of that as well, because it's only because of those 89 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:09,039 Speaker 2: challenging moments that I actually get to truly appreciate the 90 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:12,720 Speaker 2: joyful moments when they occur. It's so hard for us 91 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 2: to recognize just how precious those beautiful moments are if 92 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 2: we haven't had the opposition, if we haven't had a 93 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 2: chance to fill the angs and the anger and the frustration. 94 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 2: It's those times that help us to appreciate the growth 95 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 2: and our children and ourselves as parents. And so as 96 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 2: I sat there yesterday, I was just so grateful for 97 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 2: the opportunity I have to be a mum to these 98 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 2: six amazingly beautiful children who drive me crazy on any 99 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 2: given day and yet provide me with so much opportunity 100 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,000 Speaker 2: to learn and grow and to love and to become 101 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:55,720 Speaker 2: a better person. And so I guess my message today 102 00:05:55,880 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 2: is just hog your kids, and even if it's a 103 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 2: bad day, recognize that tomorrow is a new day. Tomorrow 104 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 2: is a different day, and there will be so many 105 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:15,839 Speaker 2: opportunities to see joy in the coming days, minutes, months, years, 106 00:06:16,279 --> 00:06:19,839 Speaker 2: as each of you grow and explore and learn who 107 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:23,040 Speaker 2: you are and what you want to be. I think 108 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:26,680 Speaker 2: that's my message today, Kylie. 109 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:29,039 Speaker 1: How long did they get to hold their baby before 110 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: it passed away? 111 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 2: About forty five minutes. 112 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: So normally on this podcast I would share an older 113 00:06:39,160 --> 00:06:41,280 Speaker 1: better tomorrow moment as well to help us to reflect 114 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: and me better. But today I'm not going to do that. 115 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:45,920 Speaker 1: I don't think that there's I don't think that I 116 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 1: could get through it anyway, But I don't think that 117 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: there's anything that I could say that would help us 118 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: to be better parents tomorrow than what you've shared. So 119 00:06:55,960 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: we might wrap it up there. Hug those kids, love 120 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:04,880 Speaker 1: them for all their worth. I reckon that those friends 121 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:08,040 Speaker 1: of ours would say that the forty five minutes was 122 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: worth it. The Happy Famili's podcast is produced by Justin 123 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: Ruland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer. 124 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:19,680 Speaker 1: We'll be back on Monday with more episodes of The 125 00:07:19,720 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 1: Happy Families podcast. Have a great weekend.