WEBVTT - It's Official: Pinky 💞Holding 🤝 Is In!

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<v Speaker 1>On Flex and Frooms Flex and Frooms. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Sweety Pies, We Love the Potty. Coming up though, discussing

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<v Speaker 2>a bit of an anthropological sociological statement that was made

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<v Speaker 2>on TikTok about handholding and what that says about your

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<v Speaker 2>relationship and how happy you are to beat in it. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>this could all be conjecture, but it's important to know

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<v Speaker 2>that people's opinions are valid. Are they factual? Not quite sure,

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<v Speaker 2>but some of the points that were made gobbled gobbled.

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<v Speaker 1>And ate you're with Flex and Fromes. Let's go. This

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<v Speaker 1>is Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>On kit What do you think happens when a prison

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<v Speaker 2>reaches capacity?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, they spill out sides.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what do you think happens? Like, let's say we

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<v Speaker 2>can only admit fifty thousand people, and now we've got

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<v Speaker 2>fifty five thousand, we just give them to other prisons.

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<v Speaker 1>I reckon they start installing bunk beds something I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to end there.

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<v Speaker 3>No, they like split the cells in half.

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<v Speaker 2>To clarify. I guess the issue was like, the prison

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<v Speaker 2>system is a system, it's a business. I mean, not

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<v Speaker 2>all prison systems are business, but a lot of them are,

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<v Speaker 2>And so what happens when there's an incentive to criminalize

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<v Speaker 2>people and then you run out of space? Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>was reading an article and by reading I read a headline,

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<v Speaker 2>clicked in skimmed and was freaking out and had to

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<v Speaker 2>close the browser. But what I did gather I wrote

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<v Speaker 2>some notes on So I was like, wait, what's the

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<v Speaker 2>difference between a prison and a jail?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really confused.

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<v Speaker 2>A jail is where you get held as they determine

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<v Speaker 2>what your crime is and how long you'll be in

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<v Speaker 2>prison for.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you sure they don't call it prison in Australia?

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<v Speaker 3>Well not, this is not Australian Oh okay, oh what

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<v Speaker 3>do we call it?

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<v Speaker 1>Gael? Not the old Melbourne Gael?

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<v Speaker 2>The convicts. Anyway, to clarify, a public prison is not

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<v Speaker 2>a profit generating entity and the end goal is to

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<v Speaker 2>house incarcerated individuals in an attempt to rehabilitate them or

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<v Speaker 2>remove them from the streets. A prime at prison, on

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<v Speaker 2>the other hand, is run by corporation or business, and

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<v Speaker 2>that corporations end goals to profit in anything that they

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<v Speaker 2>deal with.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of profiting incentives, explained.

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<v Speaker 2>So well, So, for example, let's say the public prison

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<v Speaker 2>system is full. They need incentives to take these prisoners

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<v Speaker 2>from you for a fee and will house them. Oh

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<v Speaker 2>I see, and also prison labor. It's very explosive anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>So UK prisons have an overcrowding problem, and so defendants

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<v Speaker 2>who have been found guilty of serious crimes like assault

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<v Speaker 2>and burglary will have to be weight he will just

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<v Speaker 2>have to wait or be spared in jail. So now

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<v Speaker 2>people who I mean, we're not arguing whether or not

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<v Speaker 2>people should be put in prison or not, but the

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<v Speaker 2>idea is because these crimes are now not considered a

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<v Speaker 2>big deal because there's not enough space, these people who

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<v Speaker 2>have done objectively bad things will just be like waiting

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<v Speaker 2>around to be considered worthy or bad enough to go

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<v Speaker 2>into prison. But it's like then why you punishing them anyway?

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<v Speaker 2>And then also what ends up happening down they're doing

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<v Speaker 2>like a rotation system, so they're going through the list

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<v Speaker 2>and being like, who was that kind of not bad

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<v Speaker 2>and shouldn't be here, But now we've got worse people

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<v Speaker 2>you can make more money off, so we'll like let

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<v Speaker 2>them go. I just everything feels like a story book.

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<v Speaker 2>It is so anyway, people's literal sentences are being postponed,

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<v Speaker 2>or they're just deciding that the issue isn't big enough

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<v Speaker 2>to be criminalized anymore and just letting people go.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be pretty happy if that was you.

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<v Speaker 3>Literally, there's so much to get out of jail free card.

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<v Speaker 3>We are living in Monopoly.

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<v Speaker 2>Cliches are real anyway. The decision comes after it was

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<v Speaker 2>found that sixty percent of English jails are officially to

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<v Speaker 2>full sixty percent, And you've got to wonder what comes first?

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<v Speaker 2>Is everybody just a criminal or dot dot dot? You

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<v Speaker 2>have flexing freoms on Cater.

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<v Speaker 3>It's giving convicts babes, it's flexing freoms on cater. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes I'm so surprised that we are actual human beings,

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<v Speaker 3>therefore part of the animal kingdom.

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<v Speaker 1>I get confused, what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm an animal with basic needs and internal drives that

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes are'm not privy to. It's incredible. I found this TikTok,

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<v Speaker 3>which is about ancient things that we still do. So

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<v Speaker 3>things that we do that feel very natural, that we

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<v Speaker 3>know our ancestors would have done in the ancient times.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want to know some of them? Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 3>Please, Mickey. I prefer if you put some meaningful music under.

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<v Speaker 1>This is that strings?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that percussion?

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<v Speaker 3>Like any wistful emotional ringing bells. I want it to

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<v Speaker 3>be more like so luvois lu kumbaya, stirring of the

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<v Speaker 3>emotions in the gut. Okay, cleaning or wiping your bare

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<v Speaker 3>feet allegedly feels quite prehistoric.

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<v Speaker 1>Breaking off a piece of bread to handle someone.

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<v Speaker 3>It's giving the long table with twelf people sitting on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Cupping your hands into running water to wash your face.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a big one.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a big one.

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<v Speaker 3>When an elderly woman laughs and grips your fore m tightly,

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<v Speaker 3>forearm tightly, that's pretty prehistoric, am the time? When an

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<v Speaker 3>elderly woman laughs and grips your four forearm tightly?

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<v Speaker 1>Huh? You know the feeling epigenetically you understand, but not ancient.

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<v Speaker 2>That feels very modern to me. Okay, laughing with the girlies.

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<v Speaker 3>Touching someone's face with the back of your hand to

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<v Speaker 3>see they have a fever. Yeah, you know. I'm weathered,

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<v Speaker 3>so people don't don't get any ideas. If you see

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<v Speaker 3>me on a train telling stories around a.

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<v Speaker 1>Fire, yeah, I love that.

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<v Speaker 3>Nothing's better than that. Marveling at sunlight through leaves. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel that and finally wonderment at the brightness of

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<v Speaker 3>a full moon.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, these feel very Looking up always feels priest oric

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<v Speaker 2>to me.

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<v Speaker 1>It does.

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<v Speaker 2>Just trying to assess what the weather is doing when

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<v Speaker 2>the clouds are rolling in.

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<v Speaker 1>What does that mean?

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<v Speaker 2>That all feels real? Ancient?

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<v Speaker 1>It with flex and frimes on Kada. Britney Spears is

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<v Speaker 1>my Roman Empire? What does that mean?

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<v Speaker 3>I think about Britney Spears probably once a day. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>she's listed on my feed, Yes she is my screensaver.

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<v Speaker 3>But I just always wanted to be Britney Spears and

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<v Speaker 3>I was growing up, so I think that still impacts me.

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<v Speaker 3>Her highly anticipated memoir is out. It's called The Woman

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<v Speaker 3>in Me and it reveals intimate details about her life,

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<v Speaker 3>including her infidelity while dating Justin tim Blake and her

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<v Speaker 3>relationship with drugs and alcohol.

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<v Speaker 2>And this is where I'm confused, because for the last

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<v Speaker 2>year people have been like, isn't she dead? Is she

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<v Speaker 2>really alive? Well, she's just drumming up pr for the

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<v Speaker 2>book release because I'm not understanding what Because from my understanding,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not a huge Britney fan, so I don't follow her.

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<v Speaker 2>She's not on my timeline. I don't really know what

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<v Speaker 2>has happened. And if not for the conservativeship, I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>have been across anything Britney. But when the conspiracy started

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<v Speaker 2>coming out, it was because she was very active on

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<v Speaker 2>social media and then she kind of disappeared and more

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<v Speaker 2>information started coming out, and it was just painting her

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<v Speaker 2>reality in such a disruptive light. The people just like

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<v Speaker 2>she can't be okay, like she can't be, she can't

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<v Speaker 2>be supported right now, who's looking out for her? But

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<v Speaker 2>then now she's doing a book that's a tell all,

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<v Speaker 2>and in order to really write a tell all, there's

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<v Speaker 2>so much red tape, like you would have to you're

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<v Speaker 2>putting yourself in so much legal strife in order to

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<v Speaker 2>tell these things, which makes me seem that everything else

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<v Speaker 2>to this date was just pr because like how when

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<v Speaker 2>the whole world was like where is Brittany, what's up?

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<v Speaker 2>Like why isn't she posting? Why hasn't she said anything

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<v Speaker 2>like please quell our suspicions that you are well and

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<v Speaker 2>not dead, she didn't say anything. And now she's writing

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<v Speaker 2>a whole book talking about infidelity, drugs and alcohol.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's because she was like gearing up for Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>That's why I went a bit silent when I'm writing

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<v Speaker 3>my book.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't silent. Help me out of it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So she shares some stuff about the Justin Timblake relationship. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>their first kiss was on the Mickey Mouse Club party set.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh how old were they?

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<v Speaker 3>Do?

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<v Speaker 2>We know?

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<v Speaker 1>Like teenagers?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>She claims to both her and Tim Blake run faithful.

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<v Speaker 3>During some point in their three year relationship, she had

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<v Speaker 3>an affair with the choreographer.

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<v Speaker 2>This is just a lot to release to the world unprovoked,

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<v Speaker 2>unless she didn't even write and she was set up.

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<v Speaker 3>He broke her, broke up with her over text message.

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<v Speaker 3>Justin Yeah, I was described as a harlot who'd broken

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<v Speaker 3>the heart of America's golden boy. The truth is I

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<v Speaker 3>was Combatos and Louisiana and he was happily running around Hollywood.

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<v Speaker 3>All right.

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<v Speaker 1>Her relationship with drugs and alcohol. I was thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>this the other day.

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<v Speaker 3>Remember how there was those photos of her hanging out

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<v Speaker 3>with Paris Hilton and Lindsay Lowell and they went on

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<v Speaker 3>that night out. It got me thinking, Like when I

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<v Speaker 3>was a kid, I was like, oh my god, she's

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<v Speaker 3>off through hour, she's partying, so much like that was

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<v Speaker 3>one night.

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<v Speaker 1>Guys, she went out for one night and.

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<v Speaker 3>Probably had like one one, maybe one two minus during

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<v Speaker 3>school might say she was just partying with the girls

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<v Speaker 3>one night.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of us has it haunted her?

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<v Speaker 3>Bro we're doing that every weekend, twice a weekend place.

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<v Speaker 3>Who were we to judge? Also her in Paris are

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<v Speaker 3>good mates currently? Yeah, allegedly go Britney. You're a massive

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<v Speaker 3>fan of Britney spears. Yes, Brittany, you can do it.

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to Flex and Rooms on kit.

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<v Speaker 2>The topic of the day is hand holding.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you do it?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you believe in it? Or do you just not

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<v Speaker 2>like the feeling of two bodies meeting and creating a

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<v Speaker 2>sense of shared sweat and secretion. Look, I'm not sure,

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<v Speaker 2>but a woman called Ellie Rallo has a theory about

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<v Speaker 2>the way that you hold hands and what it says

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<v Speaker 2>about the status of your relationship. It isn't your litmus test.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't take it too seriously, or take it very seriously

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<v Speaker 2>and put it in your group chats. I recommend, but

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<v Speaker 2>listen to this. I just want to make one thing

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<v Speaker 2>abundantly clear.

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<v Speaker 3>This is something there a very different than this. This

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<v Speaker 3>is giving like last night we said I love you

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<v Speaker 3>for the first time.

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<v Speaker 1>Now we can stop saying it. We can't keep our

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<v Speaker 1>hands off each other.

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<v Speaker 3>We've mutually agreed that this is the best lay of

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<v Speaker 3>our lives.

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<v Speaker 1>This is we hate each other, but we're still together

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<v Speaker 1>because it's convenient.

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<v Speaker 2>And so obviously that requires a visual that you don't have.

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<v Speaker 2>But what she's going on to say is that when

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<v Speaker 2>you hold hands with all the fingers intertwined like an

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<v Speaker 2>unbreakable lock, that projects the world that you are flirty

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<v Speaker 2>and intimate and sensual and fun and you're really enjoying

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<v Speaker 2>the partner you have put yourself in an unbreakable lock

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<v Speaker 2>because you want to be there now. The alternative is

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<v Speaker 2>the scooping handhold, where you kind of put your hand

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<v Speaker 2>in a lego man motion and you attach it to

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<v Speaker 2>someone else's hand in a lego man motion, and you

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<v Speaker 2>hold hands that way.

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<v Speaker 1>Love.

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<v Speaker 2>Something about that feels begrudging, a little bit like a

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<v Speaker 2>parent holding a child's hand dragging it across the roads

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<v Speaker 2>so it doesn't get run over by it oncoming vehicle.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not really sexy, it's not really sad, and it

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<v Speaker 2>feels a little bit like an obligation. If I must

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<v Speaker 2>hold your hand. I'll do it in the least enticing

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<v Speaker 2>way possible. But can I present to you a third

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<v Speaker 2>secret option people don't do enough. I'm a big fan

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<v Speaker 2>of it. I might have I might have pioneered it

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<v Speaker 2>in my day.

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<v Speaker 1>Major.

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<v Speaker 2>I love a handhold, I really do. But I don't

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<v Speaker 2>like feeling like I have to now adjust my gate,

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<v Speaker 2>my walk, my tempo all for somebody else. So we

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<v Speaker 2>can pretend that we're comfortable sandwiched next to each other.

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<v Speaker 2>So I recommend holding pinkies. Get their pinky, connect it

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<v Speaker 2>with your pinky. You have so much extra leeway. It's cute,

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<v Speaker 2>it's light, there's no hand sweat, doesn't matter about your

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<v Speaker 2>hand sizes, there's no bad way, like you know when

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<v Speaker 2>you're holding someone's hand. There's a side you want to

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<v Speaker 2>be on, like you want to be behind, you don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to be in front either way. I recommend holding pinkies.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you're not concerned about any one of these things,

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<v Speaker 2>just pay attention to the world around you. What does

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<v Speaker 2>people's body language say about the experience that they're having,

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<v Speaker 2>especially when they're with other people.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know good reveal.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna do that pinky thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Pinkies are really good. You gotta call them pinkies though

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<v Speaker 2>it's like handholding, like you don't really address when it's happened.

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<v Speaker 2>You just kind of do it. But pinky is you

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<v Speaker 2>need to ask for a consent, so you hold your pinky

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<v Speaker 2>up in the asa pinkies and then someone said yes,

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<v Speaker 2>then you know you grasp pinky sinkies.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh it's sweet, ladies and gentlemen. It's time for Flexi's

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<v Speaker 1>Big Question of the.

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<v Speaker 2>Week that is correct. It's been going well every week.

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<v Speaker 2>I pose a big question that gets you to think

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<v Speaker 2>about what you believe in, why you believe in it,

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<v Speaker 2>and who's influencing the way that you think. A couple

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<v Speaker 2>of weeks ago, I pose the question what's an incorrect

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<v Speaker 2>assumption people make about you that you use to your advantage?

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<v Speaker 2>And you got heaps and heaps and heaps of really

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<v Speaker 2>good responses, like people think I'm nicer than I really am,

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<v Speaker 2>or people think I'm quite wealthy and I'm not. It

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<v Speaker 2>was amazing, but I got a really great dm from

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<v Speaker 2>this person. I'm going to live mononymous because I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>ask for their consent to share their name. Nice but

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<v Speaker 2>I did ask for their consent to share this message.

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<v Speaker 2>They said, hey, flex, I know this is nothing new,

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<v Speaker 2>but your episode about bad characteristics that serve you had

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<v Speaker 2>me thinking, what are some good characteristics that work against you?

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<v Speaker 2>Like for me, I'm considered reliable and smart and as

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<v Speaker 2>a child, I was left to figure out things on

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<v Speaker 2>my own, and it happens to me in academic environment

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<v Speaker 2>even when I ask for help, which is something that

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<v Speaker 2>I struggle to do. I also had a friend say

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<v Speaker 2>they need reassurance, and when I told them that everyone

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<v Speaker 2>I encounter thinks the world of him and that he's kind,

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<v Speaker 2>he sighed and said that made him feel like he

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<v Speaker 2>needs to do more. I don't think it's anything new,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's still interesting and I think you could hear

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<v Speaker 2>some interesting answer from different people. Hopefully no one talks

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<v Speaker 2>about how hard it is to be pretty, which it

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<v Speaker 2>is to take care And then I said, obviously you're

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<v Speaker 2>a genius. Thanks for sharing note to self, this is

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<v Speaker 2>the new question of the week. But then they also

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<v Speaker 2>went on to say, it also makes me think of

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<v Speaker 2>how you as inflex me speaking struggles as a lively person,

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<v Speaker 2>and people see you as a form of entertainment. Without

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<v Speaker 2>considering that you're also a person as well. Please knock

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<v Speaker 2>yourself out again. Thank you for the content and the pod.

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<v Speaker 2>Please say hi to Frooms and producer Mikhaela for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, MICKI gets a lot of shout ousley. Yeah

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<v Speaker 1>good reason.

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<v Speaker 2>Number one fans thank you and so for that reason

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<v Speaker 2>and for that reason, Flexi's big question of this week

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<v Speaker 2>is what are some good qualities or personality traits that

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<v Speaker 2>you have that are working against you?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Can I share mine?

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<v Speaker 3>Of course, people are thinking that I make them so comfortable,

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<v Speaker 3>and they think they can just think that I'm easy.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked about this before.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it was when we were having conversations, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>earlier this year or last year, when I said I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want people to be their most comfortable self around me.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't understand what I meant by that. No, I didn't,

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<v Speaker 2>And like, I don't want people feeling as though they

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<v Speaker 2>can drop their guard because what often happens that we

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<v Speaker 2>associate comfort with bad behavior. Yes, and so it's like

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<v Speaker 2>you become inarticulate or grubby or not consider it. And

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<v Speaker 2>then while you, the person being all these things, finds

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<v Speaker 2>a level of safety in doing so, because oh gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>it feels good to just let it all hang loose.

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<v Speaker 2>You're now burdening with someone with the real version of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, please touch it to wake chuck it in.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you. So what will happen is that on our

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram Flex and Rooms, on our story, we'll put up

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<v Speaker 2>a question box and that's where you can put your answers,

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<v Speaker 2>and then this time on Thursday will read out some

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<v Speaker 2>of the responses we've gotten. And they're always so good.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm honestly very grateful that everybody gets involved and remains

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<v Speaker 2>enthusiastic with it. So have a think about it, put

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<v Speaker 2>in your group chats and let us know what you think.

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<v Speaker 2>Miss you already fine, I've been listening to the Flex

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<v Speaker 2>and Frooms Daily podcast. For more, Tune Indicator on DAB

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