WEBVTT - #105 You're Grounded!

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I've moved to quite a hilly area, very hilly.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like Everest, the Everest.

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<v Speaker 2>Of Sydney they call it. They call that now I do.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've noticed something about all the local dads. Good carves,

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<v Speaker 1>fucking unbelievable cars.

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<v Speaker 2>Really.

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<v Speaker 1>Yesterday, April and I are driving along and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>look at.

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<v Speaker 3>The cars on this guy.

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<v Speaker 4>Welcome back to two doting dads. I'm Maddie Jay and

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<v Speaker 4>I'm Ash and this is it one. Sorry, she's got

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<v Speaker 4>a little cardboard box.

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<v Speaker 2>Looks like it could be band aids. It's not. He's

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<v Speaker 2>just putting something over his nose and I'm ash.

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<v Speaker 4>You are a heavy mouth breathed that hang on? Oh,

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<v Speaker 4>this is a podcast or what parenting? It's good and

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<v Speaker 4>relatable and if you come for advice, not today your nose.

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<v Speaker 2>What is that?

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<v Speaker 1>It's a nasal strip. It's called breathe right, I'm addicted.

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<v Speaker 4>Whoever came up with that name? Very intelligent? No, right,

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<v Speaker 4>do you mind if I try one? Have you never

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<v Speaker 4>had a natal strip? I've never had one. And I'm

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<v Speaker 4>getting fed these ads and I'm so close to getting

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<v Speaker 4>sucked in where you have the magnets, the magnets, and

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<v Speaker 4>then you put the strip attaches to the magnets and it.

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<v Speaker 2>Just like flours. This is one step before that.

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<v Speaker 4>This is the gateway. He's getting a nose job. And

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<v Speaker 4>what do I do?

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<v Speaker 2>Just? Yeah, just make sure you grab some nostril? Bang?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I got good. What do you think?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't notice the difference? Have you got a deviated symptom?

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<v Speaker 2>She's deviated? Anyway, let's get back on track. Are we

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<v Speaker 2>talking about Oh bit, we're talking about beer. May I

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<v Speaker 2>crack it, big boy? What are you drinking there?

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<v Speaker 4>Mate, I'm drinking It's a stone of wood, No surprise

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<v Speaker 4>in there. We've gone through the hinterland. Hazy palou once

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<v Speaker 4>more beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>That's my first beer of the week. Actually, excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a fitness freak.

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<v Speaker 2>What is this?

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<v Speaker 4>Because post balia, you're getting your life back on track.

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<v Speaker 4>What's going on?

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<v Speaker 1>Just balance? I'm just looking for some balance. You're out

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<v Speaker 1>here looking for that.

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<v Speaker 2>There is one thing you do not do well. It's balance. No,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying.

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<v Speaker 4>You were lying one side at the extreme and now

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<v Speaker 4>you're the other.

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<v Speaker 2>How does this taste?

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<v Speaker 1>This is one of my favorite ones. I've got a

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<v Speaker 1>fridge full of them at home. It used to be

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<v Speaker 1>you used to not be able to get it everywhere

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<v Speaker 1>because it was limited. Now it is a full, full range.

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<v Speaker 1>And where can they get it?

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<v Speaker 2>Matt?

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<v Speaker 4>You tell us it is available from any good bottle

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<v Speaker 4>shop now pouring on tapping, any good bar, a restaurant,

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<v Speaker 4>and if you're struggling to find any good restaurant or bar.

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<v Speaker 2>You can of course buy it online. It's starting with

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<v Speaker 2>dot com dot are you all? One word? That's very good?

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<v Speaker 1>And also it's getting hot, so bevery hot heat beer.

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<v Speaker 2>Summer sandwiches. I'm calling it. Do you know what tasted

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<v Speaker 2>delicious on the weekend? Ash? It was a beer?

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<v Speaker 4>Do you know what I was doing pre beer? That

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<v Speaker 4>made it taste even better? Actually, I haven't had a

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<v Speaker 4>post beer sex in a long time. Beer. I'll take

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<v Speaker 4>either way, thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>I was chopping down trees we are you on the weekend?

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<v Speaker 2>I did see something there?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, just you know I've I've been making my transition

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<v Speaker 4>into like full blown toxic masculine laborer laborer for a

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<v Speaker 4>couple of weeks now since the runners have started, and

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<v Speaker 4>I got invited down to Aladala or Milton to my

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<v Speaker 4>brother in law's farm.

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<v Speaker 2>So your sister's farm.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, my sister's farm. Yes, sorry, their farm, their farm.

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<v Speaker 4>And I had a beer after we've been chopping down

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<v Speaker 4>trees for I want to say, six hours, six hours

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<v Speaker 4>of tree chopping y splinters, splinters. That's a little scratch

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<v Speaker 4>of my thumb. Oh, your poor sing and that is

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<v Speaker 4>see that challous No like that.

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<v Speaker 2>There oh in the middle, So fucking gentle with my hand.

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<v Speaker 2>It's been infected. Is it infected? It was different type

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<v Speaker 2>of wood that was from it? Right, So what were

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<v Speaker 2>you clearing trees for the third house we got.

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<v Speaker 4>There is a little creek that runs from the back

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<v Speaker 4>of the property at my sister and husband's farm. It

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<v Speaker 4>runs for like I want to say, seven kilometers, eventually

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<v Speaker 4>opens up and ends up at the beach. So it

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<v Speaker 4>starts off as a little trickle and then opens up

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<v Speaker 4>to a beautiful estra estuary street, estuary Australia.

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<v Speaker 2>And into ocean.

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<v Speaker 1>So is that where you would say freshwater meets salt

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<v Speaker 1>water and becomes salt water.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it is. It is alsot water, the evolution of water.

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<v Speaker 4>It is also water because because ash, because it's the

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<v Speaker 4>tiders goes in and out.

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<v Speaker 2>The creek goes up and down. Oh, it's also water.

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<v Speaker 4>I felt like I was going to get attacked by

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<v Speaker 4>a sha.

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<v Speaker 1>So when okay, I'm confused with what I just thought

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<v Speaker 1>that would be fresh water for seven k's from the beach.

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<v Speaker 2>No, because it's like an inlet. It's like a river.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a river if you will. So it's fed by

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<v Speaker 4>the ocean.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's not a creek. Sorry, creek has thrown you

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<v Speaker 2>and I. That's that's on me. Wow, I apologize.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, Shooting for another episode, is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it creak or is it a river? There's a

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<v Speaker 2>new segment.

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<v Speaker 4>So we had to we had to clear all the

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<v Speaker 4>logs that had fallen down and.

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<v Speaker 2>It was.

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<v Speaker 4>It was the manliest weekend I think I've ever had

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<v Speaker 4>in my high life.

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<v Speaker 2>You just surprise me every weekend. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, wait for the full transition to so it's go

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<v Speaker 1>one what full laborer?

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<v Speaker 2>That's what am I right now? Full time laborer.

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<v Speaker 4>I woke up.

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<v Speaker 2>Creak, creak, a queak and river.

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<v Speaker 4>First, you wouldn't last more than two seconds out there

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<v Speaker 4>talking like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, oh my god, a splinter. No, you'd

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<v Speaker 2>you'd fit right in. I turn it on, but it

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<v Speaker 2>was I haven't.

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<v Speaker 4>Experienced that level of pain. And hopefully none of the

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<v Speaker 4>boys are listening to this podcast. They were on that

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<v Speaker 4>weekend trip because they're all like builders or laborers or concreteors.

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<v Speaker 4>I was one of the few who write emails.

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<v Speaker 2>And film content. Salt of the earth, aren't they.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, none of them were that intrigued about my job.

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<v Speaker 4>One of them was like, what's a podcast? And I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, well, and he's like, too much information. Wrestle

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<v Speaker 4>it's like radio.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just my wrists was sore, like my body was.

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<v Speaker 1>I was all right, fellas, all right, fellas first time.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a miracle that I made out a lot. There

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<v Speaker 4>was a lot of wrestling, a lot of wrestlings, of beers,

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<v Speaker 4>lots of wrestling.

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<v Speaker 2>Sounds like broke Back Farm if you ask me, buddy.

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<v Speaker 4>It was.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just it's night.

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<v Speaker 4>It's very primal, very primal, seeing two grown men decide

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<v Speaker 4>to wrestle.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, you had a masculine weekend.

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<v Speaker 4>Very masculine weekend, very masculine weekend up there on the house.

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<v Speaker 4>That's okay, whilst we're here, go on. Very controversial. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know how you feel about this. Ash we've decided

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<v Speaker 4>to not put a bath in the house.

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<v Speaker 2>Well at all. Nothing to showers, showers only. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's I think that's fine. I don't see a problem

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<v Speaker 2>with it. I thought you were a big bath kind

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<v Speaker 2>of guy.

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<v Speaker 1>No, April's a big bath kind of girl. She would be,

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<v Speaker 1>but not for I wouldn't catch me stewing in a bath.

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<v Speaker 2>Not at all.

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<v Speaker 4>What about the option of not having any bath with

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<v Speaker 4>the kids shower easier, That's what I think. Love to

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<v Speaker 4>I hose them down. Don't put a bathroom in there

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<v Speaker 4>at all.

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<v Speaker 2>I've got a hose and still good. Speaking of April,

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<v Speaker 2>it is April's birthday. Today's Happy birthday to April. Would

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<v Speaker 2>that be weird if I called her? No?

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<v Speaker 4>Would she want that?

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<v Speaker 2>Probably not? Okay, Well, I won't do it. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Give a call. I give it a call. Oh, here

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<v Speaker 2>we go.

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<v Speaker 4>We're on.

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<v Speaker 2>We're on, April. It's me, Matt.

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<v Speaker 4>We are recording right now, So don't say anything incriminating.

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<v Speaker 2>I just wanted to say.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know have your number saved in my phone,

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<v Speaker 4>but I just wanted to say, happy birthday.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, thank you, appreciate it. What are you now? Twenty six,

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<v Speaker 2>twenty seven. Yeah, just ripe old age of twenty four.

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<v Speaker 4>Actually, you're looking great. Thank you. Whatever you're doing, it's

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<v Speaker 4>the boxing.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you got?

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<v Speaker 4>What do you got planned for tonight? Told you no? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Will will you tell me? No? It's nothing huge. We're

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<v Speaker 2>just doing a little family.

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<v Speaker 1>Dinner Chinese restaurant, a succulent Chinese meal.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I have to say, I don't know how you

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<v Speaker 4>put up with Ashton, but you are. You do an

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<v Speaker 4>incredible job as both wife and mum. Is that your.

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<v Speaker 2>Birthday present to me? Just the words? Is that not

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<v Speaker 2>good enough? Yes? Sure? My physical gifts? What would you

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<v Speaker 2>What would you like?

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<v Speaker 1>Something big, babe, something expensive?

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe maybe one of your homes. Your holiday out must

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<v Speaker 2>be nice. That's what we got time for April. Have

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<v Speaker 2>a great birthday. Bye. You don't ask, you don't get

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<v Speaker 2>exactly right. You wear you're wearing the shirt.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wearing a shirt that says my wife on it

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<v Speaker 1>for those listening at home. And it's got a punch

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch of pictures of April on it, like she

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<v Speaker 1>gave it to me for Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a nice shirt. It is a nice shirt.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like you guys are just on fire right now.

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<v Speaker 4>The two of you.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, thank you very much.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah yeah, little cheeky present you picked up as well.

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<v Speaker 2>I did. She'll get that later. You've got a few

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<v Speaker 2>things as well, I did. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Tony May gave me a couple of rings. Thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>Laura and Matthew. Thank you to the Johnson's and the Burns.

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<v Speaker 1>Lovely my weekend. You had the masculine weekend. I had

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<v Speaker 1>a fairly standard weekend except for one event that happened,

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<v Speaker 1>which was a meltdown. I'm calling it the ultra tantrum

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<v Speaker 1>from Oscar and myself. It was a bit wet on

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<v Speaker 1>the weekend. And he's in the backyard playing with the

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<v Speaker 1>little nerf gun, no worry, playing solo. Macy was on

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<v Speaker 1>route come down to see what was going on in

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<v Speaker 1>the paddock. In the paddock with the farm, the eleanor

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<v Speaker 1>of farm, and there's a slight decline.

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<v Speaker 2>Well said to get down there.

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<v Speaker 1>And poor Macy she was she can't walk that well,

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<v Speaker 1>let's be honest, like she's not there were balanced.

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<v Speaker 4>She's a bit, she's a bit like topsy turvy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, And she had gum boots on recipe for

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<v Speaker 1>disas because they're not used to the extra weight. Yeah, exactly,

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<v Speaker 1>so she's fallen down the hill appears when you say

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<v Speaker 1>a bit. She just took a tumble, wasn't It was grass,

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<v Speaker 1>so she wasn't like it would have scared her more

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<v Speaker 1>than anything.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not hurt, but she was.

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<v Speaker 1>Whaling, and I thought, fuck, I go down with a towel,

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<v Speaker 1>dryer off because she still she was still want to

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<v Speaker 1>play one.

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<v Speaker 2>She's calmed down.

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<v Speaker 1>And Oscar was down there, and what I expect from

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<v Speaker 1>Oscar is to at least be like, are you okay?

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<v Speaker 2>It's just the.

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<v Speaker 1>Bare minimum bit of empathy. I got down there. He

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<v Speaker 1>was showing no empathy. He walked straight past her A

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<v Speaker 1>couple I observed as I was walking down he was

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<v Speaker 1>too busy concentrating on what he was playing with the

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<v Speaker 1>nerf gun. I stopped checked if Macy was okay. She

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<v Speaker 1>was okay, Gabor toweer, she was just like sitting with

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<v Speaker 1>a tower. I said, okay, yeah, blah blah blah. And

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<v Speaker 1>I said to Oscar, I was like, hey, bro, you're

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<v Speaker 1>the older brother, check if your sister's okay. And he

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<v Speaker 1>started to melt down about that because he knew that

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<v Speaker 1>he had sucked up, and then he'd gone to tell

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<v Speaker 1>me that he was gonna do it, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you weren't gonna do it. So I'm getting a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit fired up here. I'm like, you weren't going to

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<v Speaker 1>do it. Now you're just fucking lying to me. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>he puts the gun up and shoots me point blank

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<v Speaker 1>in the face. Right, it was a little prick, give

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<v Speaker 1>me that fucking gun, and I fucking snatched it.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me you shot him back?

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, there was only one bullet in it, one bullet,

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<v Speaker 1>and I snatched it, and he had the other bullet

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<v Speaker 1>in his hand.

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<v Speaker 2>He threw the bullet at me, so I threw the.

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<v Speaker 1>Gun, not at him, at the brick wall next to it,

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<v Speaker 1>trying to smash it. So at this point I'm acting

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<v Speaker 1>like a child.

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<v Speaker 2>Too, your words, not mine.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, yeah, yeah, we're both one up in each

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<v Speaker 1>other here. I've smashed it. Right, He's screamed at me,

0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:36.480
<v Speaker 1>picked up the bullet, thrown it at me again. So

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<v Speaker 1>I've picked the gun up, and as you know, with

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<v Speaker 1>his block of land, it's quite steep, quite high, quite long,

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<v Speaker 1>turned around with this nerve gun and launched it as

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<v Speaker 1>far as I could into the.

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<v Speaker 2>Back and you've got a very good arm. The back paddock.

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<v Speaker 2>It's gone this thing. Even Macy was like, holy shit. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>he screamed.

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<v Speaker 1>At me, and I have never yelled at someone so

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<v Speaker 1>loud in my life. I was like, go to your room,

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<v Speaker 1>like so loud, and it's a bit of a valley.

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<v Speaker 1>It echoed through the valley.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually heard it here it was.

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<v Speaker 1>And he screamed back again and ran upstairs to his

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<v Speaker 1>room and I could hear this ruckers. He was trashing

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<v Speaker 1>his room.

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<v Speaker 2>Where's April.

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<v Speaker 1>April was on the back and he's just watching everything

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<v Speaker 1>on fire, kind of like, don't get involved, don't get involved,

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<v Speaker 1>because it was just like back and forth. So Oscar's

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<v Speaker 1>carrying on. And I walked it, smashed the door open

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<v Speaker 1>to see what he was doing. The poor kid was

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<v Speaker 1>so worked up. He's just throwing all his toys and

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<v Speaker 1>up nothing crazy, like just throwing his legos and everything

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<v Speaker 1>on the ground.

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<v Speaker 2>But he was trying to flip his mattress and he's

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<v Speaker 2>like this, how many attempts did he have a couple?

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<v Speaker 2>He was like, you're like, I'll get your hand. I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, let me help you out and flipped it.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I just I was like, now shut up,

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<v Speaker 1>slammed the door and went out, and I just like,

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<v Speaker 1>so fucking worked out. Anyway, I came back in and

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<v Speaker 1>he was like still trying to flip the mattress. The

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<v Speaker 1>room was trashed, and like, I just st and Macy's like,

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<v Speaker 1>help may He's still halfway down the hill.

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<v Speaker 2>Anybody.

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<v Speaker 1>Eventually, I was like, I just I closed the door

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<v Speaker 1>and left him in there and let him calm down,

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<v Speaker 1>because I was like, and I also went and calmed down,

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<v Speaker 1>and like I said, I acted like a child as well.

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<v Speaker 1>I was not a parent.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes it happened.

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<v Speaker 1>And anyway, I went back and I opened the door,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, you should have just helped your sister,

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<v Speaker 1>and he said to me again I was gonna.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, just don't lie to me. Also, clean

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<v Speaker 2>all this shit up, and he's letting you guys kick

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<v Speaker 2>off a game for a round two? No, no, I

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<v Speaker 2>was gonna. Did you give him a cuddle? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I let him calm down, he cleaned up some of

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<v Speaker 1>his room, I had to put the mattress back, and

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<v Speaker 1>then I gave him a cuddle and I was like, buddy,

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<v Speaker 1>you look out for your sister is one and two

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<v Speaker 1>don't lie to me, don't bullshit a bullshitter, and I said, look,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry for not acting like a parent.

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<v Speaker 2>And three, you're too small to for be mattress.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, leave it alone also, and then I tried to

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<v Speaker 1>turn into a teaching moment. I was like, if you

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<v Speaker 1>eat your dinner, you would have been able to flip

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<v Speaker 1>that mate straight back.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, you eat your dinner, you'll.

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<v Speaker 1>Be able to flip that mattress next. So anyway, that

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<v Speaker 1>was my weekend. And it ended with him being completely

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<v Speaker 1>banned from using his phone. Like he's it's just YouTube

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<v Speaker 1>on his phone that's completely banned.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, you're crowded.

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<v Speaker 4>Where's he going to go exactly?

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, I go everywhere with you. Yeah, well, what

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<v Speaker 1>are you going to leave me here? I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>he's got me on a technicality. He's good, he's good,

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<v Speaker 1>he's good. We've meant it, and I've actually taken a

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<v Speaker 1>leaf out of your book and I would like to

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<v Speaker 1>thank you. So we're not going with screen time anymore. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>the holiday didn't really help because when you're on holidays,

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<v Speaker 1>you're kind of like, I want to enjoy myself, can

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<v Speaker 1>you fuck off with this screen and just leave me alone?

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<v Speaker 1>But like after that, we're like, look, he's just so

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<v Speaker 1>aggressive in the mornings now because he's like waking.

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<v Speaker 2>Up like, oh you a screen? I need a screen?

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like, okay, so it's been like two or

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<v Speaker 1>three days. How's it going TV? Yes, but it's Disney,

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<v Speaker 1>like a Disney classic Disney movie. YouTube, No fucking way.

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<v Speaker 1>That is just like crack.

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<v Speaker 2>It is mentally. Macy's meltdown over.

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<v Speaker 1>No YouTube is borderline worse than her not being able

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<v Speaker 1>to look at us like a person, like a one

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<v Speaker 1>on one screen.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like YouTube, I was like, no, yousube, like fuck don't.

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<v Speaker 4>We got really stuck into screen time in that weird

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<v Speaker 4>period where the kids were old enough to enjoy screen

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<v Speaker 4>time but not old enough to enjoy coloring and doing

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<v Speaker 4>those types of tity.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what happens when you have too much screen time.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't can't talk, You can't talk.

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<v Speaker 4>And I guess girls and boys are different in that

0:17:27.480 --> 0:17:30.280
<v Speaker 4>little boys often don't want to sit down and color

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<v Speaker 4>in for an hour, whereas Marley and Lola that is

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<v Speaker 4>their absolute jam.

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<v Speaker 2>They love it. It's just got to run bro.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, there's boys. They gotta like they're gott to exert

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<v Speaker 4>the energy.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, it's unbelievable.

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<v Speaker 1>Like he'll come back from like a day at KINDI

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<v Speaker 1>where it's like they've been on an excursion and he's

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<v Speaker 1>been fucking running around like he's Then he goes to Popper's.

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<v Speaker 1>It goes for a swim for an hour with Popper

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<v Speaker 1>and like not just like he's like a leisurely swim.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking fucking.

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<v Speaker 1>In thought, playing out in out up, back up, back up.

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<v Speaker 2>But he's like a fucking kelpie. What the fuck? Like

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<v Speaker 2>it's NonStop.

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<v Speaker 1>And then he gets home and he's like I want

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<v Speaker 1>to go and jump on his rampoline.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, the fucking wrong with you?

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<v Speaker 1>One day, I'm just half expecting him to be like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get jump on the trampoline to look out

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<v Speaker 1>and it's gonna be like.

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<v Speaker 2>But no, he's not, and he wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I'm like go to bed and he's like no,

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<v Speaker 1>like you're tired. He's like, no, to have that amount

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<v Speaker 1>of energy, I must divided that amount of you kind

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<v Speaker 1>of do No, I'm tired.

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<v Speaker 4>No, you only when you like sid still when you're

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<v Speaker 4>when you're inadactivity, you're you're like, you're fucking.

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<v Speaker 2>Like a kelpie, You're like a healthy Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>You were like your son, damn it, I know. So

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<v Speaker 4>what's your plan on screen time? Are going to completely

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<v Speaker 4>remove it? You're gonna go weekends, weekends only?

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<v Speaker 1>No, I think only only on a no, like individual

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<v Speaker 1>screen because that's like they're locked in, and Macy gets

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<v Speaker 1>so locked in.

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<v Speaker 2>You're like, but they're like TV.

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<v Speaker 1>I put the TV on and then Oscar's got his

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<v Speaker 1>legos well, and he's you know, he ended up just

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<v Speaker 1>be concentrating on the lego, which is what you want.

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<v Speaker 1>And he's so good at it, like he's like, fucking

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<v Speaker 1>I got got in this lego yesterday and then what

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<v Speaker 1>did I do yesterday afternoon? I literally went and pick

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<v Speaker 1>up dinner, came back.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, look and it's Star Wars Death start and

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<v Speaker 2>he's done it. Yeah, Lego master loves it. He just

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<v Speaker 2>locks in. Should be tested tested, you should?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean again, your word's not mine. Man's a good

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<v Speaker 4>idea where we got we were screen timing, Like I

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<v Speaker 4>remember the kids used to get into the routine where

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<v Speaker 4>they would wake up and they would they would start

0:19:45.000 --> 0:19:47.520
<v Speaker 4>waking up earlier because they you know, they'd rustled a

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<v Speaker 4>bet at like five o'clock screen and then they'd just

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<v Speaker 4>be like screen time, And because we were so tired,

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<v Speaker 4>we were just like, here's my phone. And then I'd

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<v Speaker 4>fall back asleep and I'd wake up an hour later

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<v Speaker 4>and noticed next to me like just balls Deep and

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<v Speaker 4>new YouTube. Yeah, and then that was like and then

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<v Speaker 4>every dinner time, they wouldn't eat their dinner unless the

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<v Speaker 4>TV was on. It was just screen time, like every

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<v Speaker 4>second of every day when they went to daycare. It

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<v Speaker 4>was fucking bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that's exactly where we were at.

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<v Speaker 4>And not to be I'm not I'm not judging it

0:20:15.920 --> 0:20:19.639
<v Speaker 4>never works for you, but we were like Laura was

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<v Speaker 4>the one who was like, this is getting ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 1>M yeah, like they will wait, they wake up early

0:20:25.480 --> 0:20:28.280
<v Speaker 1>because they know what's thoughts there, and then I would

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<v Speaker 1>I would use it as well.

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<v Speaker 2>To go back to sleep. Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I think like, if you have something really important to

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<v Speaker 1>do and you need them to be distracted, fine, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>okay with that, but like for an extra half hour sleep,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not really worth it.

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<v Speaker 4>This week, when we were on the cruise recently, we

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<v Speaker 4>stopped doing screen time at dinner, and I will say

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<v Speaker 4>that is the fucking worst.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that sucks.

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<v Speaker 4>Like you get like a little sense of we did

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<v Speaker 4>it no screen time, but dinner is just chaos entirely.

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<v Speaker 2>Enjoy fucking sauce everywhere.

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<v Speaker 4>They're like drawing on the tablecloth, like going over to

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<v Speaker 4>other table.

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<v Speaker 1>I will say, though, the p Andos staff, the waiters,

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<v Speaker 1>because they're all from different countries, very good, very good.

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<v Speaker 2>They were like they.

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<v Speaker 1>Would remember the name and then like I think, like

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<v Speaker 1>for breakfast, we had this guy Michael. I remember his

0:21:17.680 --> 0:21:20.920
<v Speaker 1>name was shout its Michael, probably not listening, definitely not sure.

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<v Speaker 1>He would be like does that have a race, and

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<v Speaker 1>he would just go and take them if it was

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<v Speaker 1>quiet enough to like just people. I was sitting there

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<v Speaker 1>eating breakfast. I'm like with the kids, and then you

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<v Speaker 1>just see him pass with Michael. I did tip him.

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<v Speaker 4>For the rs L.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no Michael. There's no Michael. There's Michael. We need

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<v Speaker 2>Michael more Michaels.

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<v Speaker 4>Michael's rs L. We've got dinner tonight. The RSL just

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<v Speaker 4>to go on. My sister icebergs no not RSL, RSLF,

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<v Speaker 4>very nice rs L. And I'm like it's going to

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<v Speaker 4>be Laura's not coming and I'm like, fuck, it's going

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<v Speaker 4>to be hell me and the kids.

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<v Speaker 2>And she doesn't do screen to and yeah, but you

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<v Speaker 2>know she's like she needs a screen She's yeah, she

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<v Speaker 2>needs she'd loves screen time.

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<v Speaker 1>We'd give all day, every day for Ellie Geeva occupied anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>So that was the meltdown.

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<v Speaker 2>We've recovered somewhat. Macy hasn't.

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<v Speaker 1>She's still down there, Matt. Last week you mentioned you

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<v Speaker 1>had a info in it for big school. Not for you,

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<v Speaker 1>You're way past big school. It's for her name is Marley, right,

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<v Speaker 1>her name.

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<v Speaker 4>Is Marley, and she is transitioning to kindy Okay, so

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<v Speaker 4>at big school kindy.

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<v Speaker 2>Big smook indy bigs.

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<v Speaker 4>One thing that's weird about school in New South Wales

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<v Speaker 4>is that primary school finishes in year six.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, yep, that's fucking weird. Even numbers. What do you mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Even number six is an even number? Yeah, made up

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<v Speaker 2>of two odd numbers.

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<v Speaker 4>Very good school, Queen's Land. We finished school in year

0:22:56.640 --> 0:22:59.520
<v Speaker 4>seven primary school. High school starts in year eight.

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<v Speaker 2>That's silly.

0:23:00.840 --> 0:23:02.960
<v Speaker 4>Even number two fours make there you go?

0:23:03.200 --> 0:23:05.399
<v Speaker 2>Well said truth? Truth?

0:23:05.840 --> 0:23:08.119
<v Speaker 4>So yeah, so we enrolled. We enrolled, obviously we had

0:23:08.160 --> 0:23:12.040
<v Speaker 4>the panic, the panic of the late enrollment got in. There,

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<v Speaker 4>had the info nite felt good, great, great info nite

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<v Speaker 4>by the way, and then we had our first orientation,

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<v Speaker 4>which was this morning, Oh, I'm coming straight from the orientation.

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<v Speaker 2>How'd you go, Marley go?

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<v Speaker 4>Actually she did, okay, okay, good, she did Okay, your

0:23:27.560 --> 0:23:29.280
<v Speaker 4>orientation you were with the kids.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like one of that was like the initial one.

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<v Speaker 4>Have you done an orientation where you just dropped?

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<v Speaker 2>April has done the drop because I've been busy.

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<v Speaker 4>Because I thought initially, I thought it was going to

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<v Speaker 4>be I'm with Marley the whole time, and I thought

0:23:45.080 --> 0:23:48.359
<v Speaker 4>we would go to school in the morning, all the

0:23:48.400 --> 0:23:50.600
<v Speaker 4>parents would be holding hands with their kids from start

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<v Speaker 4>to finish.

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<v Speaker 2>We wouldn't do that when they actually go to school.

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<v Speaker 2>So they got it. You got to prepare them. Would

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<v Speaker 2>be weird if you went to school every day with

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<v Speaker 2>there you're out the fan Madison.

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<v Speaker 4>So I looked at this sheet and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>it's just it's a drop and go orientation. So I

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<v Speaker 4>actually it worked out great because Marley was really pumped,

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<v Speaker 4>really excited for the days leading up to it because

0:24:16.520 --> 0:24:18.399
<v Speaker 4>a lot of her daycare friends are also they got

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<v Speaker 4>the orientation, so everyone's kind of like in this process

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<v Speaker 4>of preparing for big school. Marley loves it, and I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, you don't eat your dinner, you're not going

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<v Speaker 4>to school. If you didn't go to bed right now,

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<v Speaker 4>you are not going to school. So I've been using

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<v Speaker 4>that as my main correct.

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<v Speaker 2>We were like, thank god, I don't want to dinner

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't want to go to school. Fuck imagine

0:24:40.119 --> 0:24:40.960
<v Speaker 2>if that was the case.

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<v Speaker 4>And then I was driving Maley in. We went in

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<v Speaker 4>there through the front gates, and I at a moment

0:24:46.600 --> 0:24:50.240
<v Speaker 4>where I was thinking, oh, my gosh, I remember taking

0:24:50.280 --> 0:24:53.439
<v Speaker 4>Marley to her first day of daycare and you know how.

0:24:53.400 --> 0:24:56.680
<v Speaker 1>Little she was back then, And I was now, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>back now.

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<v Speaker 2>And now I'm you know, at this.

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<v Speaker 4>For the last few years, it's been pretty consistent, the

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<v Speaker 4>routine of your kids in daycare, and it's you're now

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<v Speaker 4>entering a different phase. And it's a real obviously sounds

0:25:11.280 --> 0:25:13.359
<v Speaker 4>really obvious, but a real moment of oh, she's not

0:25:13.359 --> 0:25:17.120
<v Speaker 4>a little kid anymore. She's turning into a little girl. Yeah,

0:25:17.160 --> 0:25:19.399
<v Speaker 4>and I hate it.

0:25:19.400 --> 0:25:20.359
<v Speaker 2>It's a double edged sword.

0:25:20.560 --> 0:25:23.879
<v Speaker 4>I love that she's turning into a little girl, and

0:25:23.920 --> 0:25:25.680
<v Speaker 4>I love how she's becoming. But at the same time,

0:25:25.680 --> 0:25:28.040
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, oh, she's not my she's not.

0:25:27.960 --> 0:25:29.439
<v Speaker 2>Your baby anymoy anymore.

0:25:29.760 --> 0:25:33.479
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And like Oscar is the same, he's I remember

0:25:33.560 --> 0:25:35.560
<v Speaker 1>walking him to kindy. We used to live in d

0:25:35.720 --> 0:25:39.160
<v Speaker 1>wives of suburban Sydney and we would walk.

0:25:38.920 --> 0:25:40.479
<v Speaker 2>To the end of the road where the KINDI was.

0:25:40.960 --> 0:25:42.359
<v Speaker 2>I remember his little backpack.

0:25:42.600 --> 0:25:45.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah I had to carry because he was just but

0:25:45.800 --> 0:25:49.199
<v Speaker 1>like yeah, And then now he's like, we've got a

0:25:49.440 --> 0:25:52.159
<v Speaker 1>drop off orientation tomorrow, which is I haven't been to

0:25:52.200 --> 0:25:55.040
<v Speaker 1>the last couple because I've been I've been an absent father.

0:25:55.600 --> 0:25:57.320
<v Speaker 1>But this one I'm going to go, so it'll be interesting.

0:25:57.359 --> 0:25:59.040
<v Speaker 1>I'll be able to let you know how that goes

0:25:59.080 --> 0:25:59.639
<v Speaker 1>next week.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I thought it was going to be a little

0:26:03.040 --> 0:26:05.520
<v Speaker 4>bit emotional, you know, when I drop off a daycare.

0:26:05.640 --> 0:26:08.879
<v Speaker 4>Sometimes that moment of when I I'm walking out the

0:26:08.880 --> 0:26:12.119
<v Speaker 4>door and I'm waving goodbye. Very often she's like, Daddy,

0:26:12.240 --> 0:26:14.800
<v Speaker 4>don't go stay there. Maybe like once or twice a week.

0:26:15.400 --> 0:26:16.800
<v Speaker 2>You wouldn't get it if you just pushed out a

0:26:16.800 --> 0:26:19.240
<v Speaker 2>car when you drove past, You're right right right.

0:26:20.760 --> 0:26:21.560
<v Speaker 4>The bat out of the window.

0:26:22.240 --> 0:26:24.719
<v Speaker 2>And we went in. I met her teacher.

0:26:25.119 --> 0:26:27.399
<v Speaker 4>They have a buddy, so one of the older kids

0:26:27.560 --> 0:26:29.679
<v Speaker 4>they come down. You get to sign a buddy and

0:26:29.720 --> 0:26:31.840
<v Speaker 4>that's who you're going to have for when you actually

0:26:31.880 --> 0:26:36.320
<v Speaker 4>start school. And the buddy was lovely, great, great young lady.

0:26:36.840 --> 0:26:39.760
<v Speaker 4>And you know, I'm standing there with the buddy with

0:26:39.920 --> 0:26:44.320
<v Speaker 4>Marley the teacher, and I was like, Okay, Marley, you

0:26:44.320 --> 0:26:46.480
<v Speaker 4>have a really great day. And to a buddy, I

0:26:46.520 --> 0:26:49.040
<v Speaker 4>was like, you have really fun fum looking after Marley.

0:26:49.960 --> 0:26:52.040
<v Speaker 4>And then I hung around for like a split second longer,

0:26:52.240 --> 0:26:54.320
<v Speaker 4>and I was just taking it in and I was

0:26:54.359 --> 0:26:56.560
<v Speaker 4>expecting Maley to maybe be a bit upset, you know,

0:26:56.640 --> 0:26:59.080
<v Speaker 4>hold my hand and say, daddy, can you stay?

0:26:59.840 --> 0:27:02.399
<v Speaker 2>And she looked at me and she's like, do you

0:27:02.440 --> 0:27:04.680
<v Speaker 2>want to get out of you now? You didn't get

0:27:04.680 --> 0:27:06.639
<v Speaker 2>the moment. You were like thinking it was going to

0:27:06.680 --> 0:27:09.640
<v Speaker 2>be you can leave. Oh can you fuck off? Did

0:27:09.680 --> 0:27:14.040
<v Speaker 2>that break your heart? Oh my gosh? Look yeah, I

0:27:14.119 --> 0:27:15.360
<v Speaker 2>was like, she doesn't want me anymore?

0:27:15.560 --> 0:27:20.159
<v Speaker 1>No, well, yeah, I think she's the excitement of the

0:27:20.280 --> 0:27:23.399
<v Speaker 1>first you remember, Okay, here we go. You remember the

0:27:23.440 --> 0:27:25.239
<v Speaker 1>first time you did drop her off to kinder. It

0:27:25.240 --> 0:27:27.680
<v Speaker 1>was like a whole New World. So they're all so

0:27:27.720 --> 0:27:30.000
<v Speaker 1>excited too. But then the second time they knew what

0:27:30.040 --> 0:27:34.040
<v Speaker 1>they're in for, and they're like, so next time you

0:27:34.119 --> 0:27:37.320
<v Speaker 1>might get that moment where it's like, fucking over, I'm going.

0:27:37.320 --> 0:27:39.240
<v Speaker 1>But if she's super excited, that's great.

0:27:39.359 --> 0:27:44.800
<v Speaker 2>I was outside the fence, okay, turn tables. She was like,

0:27:45.000 --> 0:27:49.639
<v Speaker 2>fuck after leave me alone. I can still see you

0:27:49.680 --> 0:27:53.240
<v Speaker 2>in the bushes, the rustling in the bushes.

0:27:53.240 --> 0:27:55.000
<v Speaker 4>But she was great. Picture up a few hours later.

0:27:55.359 --> 0:27:56.600
<v Speaker 4>She had a great time.

0:27:56.720 --> 0:27:57.360
<v Speaker 2>They do though.

0:27:57.800 --> 0:28:00.800
<v Speaker 4>I met some of the dads. Yeah, lovely dads.

0:28:01.080 --> 0:28:04.399
<v Speaker 2>Well, they like really nice, really nice. I made a

0:28:04.440 --> 0:28:07.760
<v Speaker 2>really shit joke, tells me. He goes.

0:28:07.800 --> 0:28:09.639
<v Speaker 4>The dad comes over and he goes, oh have you

0:28:10.240 --> 0:28:11.960
<v Speaker 4>this is we all come about ten minutes Daly to

0:28:11.960 --> 0:28:14.360
<v Speaker 4>pick up the kids. And he goes, ohre you here

0:28:14.359 --> 0:28:17.439
<v Speaker 4>to pick up your kids? Starting kindy and I said no, no,

0:28:17.520 --> 0:28:18.840
<v Speaker 4>the gig was opened, so I just walked in.

0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:24.720
<v Speaker 2>I like it. That's not ship.

0:28:24.880 --> 0:28:28.680
<v Speaker 1>That is great, a bit predatory, very I like it.

0:28:28.920 --> 0:28:30.639
<v Speaker 4>But then I was like the guy was like, oh,

0:28:30.920 --> 0:28:33.000
<v Speaker 4>I should make conversation mate, yeah, And I was like

0:28:33.040 --> 0:28:33.280
<v Speaker 4>I mean.

0:28:33.359 --> 0:28:37.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, And now he's with the other day's attitude

0:28:37.520 --> 0:28:39.920
<v Speaker 2>on him. That's great.

0:28:40.080 --> 0:28:42.120
<v Speaker 4>I do have a little message from Mali just to

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<v Speaker 4>let you know how she went. What was your favorite part.

0:28:45.440 --> 0:28:47.440
<v Speaker 2>Of schoolving many bike?

0:28:48.320 --> 0:28:50.160
<v Speaker 4>Are you excited to go to school now?

0:28:51.720 --> 0:28:52.880
<v Speaker 2>Oh? That's lovely?

0:28:53.840 --> 0:28:57.600
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, should we go into hack or funck that?

0:28:57.720 --> 0:28:57.920
<v Speaker 4>Mate?

0:28:57.920 --> 0:28:58.280
<v Speaker 2>Please?

0:28:58.440 --> 0:29:01.280
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I've got one for you. This is a parenting hack.

0:29:01.960 --> 0:29:05.640
<v Speaker 1>I've come up this on the run. I think it's genius.

0:29:05.760 --> 0:29:09.000
<v Speaker 1>Oscar picked his fingernail too short, and you know when

0:29:09.000 --> 0:29:15.000
<v Speaker 1>you do that, everything stings. Salt, lemon, any citrus?

0:29:15.880 --> 0:29:17.720
<v Speaker 4>How much citrus are you eating in your household?

0:29:17.720 --> 0:29:19.800
<v Speaker 2>My house is just full of citrus. Everywhere you go,

0:29:19.880 --> 0:29:22.560
<v Speaker 2>everybody you turn, you open the door, bam, citrus sleeps

0:29:22.600 --> 0:29:23.480
<v Speaker 2>on a bit of lemons.

0:29:24.440 --> 0:29:30.680
<v Speaker 1>It's better limes, so better than that orange. But anything,

0:29:30.720 --> 0:29:34.880
<v Speaker 1>he'll just complain anyway. So April went into the city

0:29:35.000 --> 0:29:36.560
<v Speaker 1>for a full day's work.

0:29:36.800 --> 0:29:40.400
<v Speaker 2>She only goes in every now and then. A very good.

0:29:43.560 --> 0:29:47.640
<v Speaker 1>I decided to go with showers instead of bath. What

0:29:47.760 --> 0:29:49.960
<v Speaker 1>a shower for the kids instead of a bath?

0:29:50.120 --> 0:29:54.200
<v Speaker 4>Great tie back to my original story of the bath household.

0:29:54.280 --> 0:29:54.640
<v Speaker 2>Thank you?

0:29:54.680 --> 0:29:57.600
<v Speaker 1>So I'm pro no bath, yes, just because showers quick.

0:29:58.600 --> 0:30:03.120
<v Speaker 1>Also like it's just easier bath. They just anyway we

0:30:03.160 --> 0:30:04.480
<v Speaker 1>can go on about are you in the bath in

0:30:04.520 --> 0:30:05.280
<v Speaker 1>the shower with them?

0:30:05.360 --> 0:30:05.600
<v Speaker 3>Nah?

0:30:05.720 --> 0:30:09.280
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes you're shut the door. No, no, I mean I'm

0:30:09.280 --> 0:30:12.560
<v Speaker 1>in the bathroom. We don't have a door in our shower.

0:30:12.640 --> 0:30:13.200
<v Speaker 2>What's that like?

0:30:15.840 --> 0:30:18.200
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, he was complaining about he didn't want to get

0:30:18.200 --> 0:30:19.040
<v Speaker 1>his hand wet.

0:30:19.640 --> 0:30:21.280
<v Speaker 2>He didn't want to sting fair enough.

0:30:21.360 --> 0:30:24.160
<v Speaker 1>But I was like, okay, bro, I've got a solution

0:30:24.320 --> 0:30:25.840
<v Speaker 1>for you, and I'm going to show you.

0:30:25.920 --> 0:30:26.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah what that is.

0:30:31.680 --> 0:30:35.640
<v Speaker 1>That is a zip lock bag over the hand of

0:30:35.760 --> 0:30:41.240
<v Speaker 1>Oscar and then I've used a handtye of Macy's to make.

0:30:41.120 --> 0:30:43.960
<v Speaker 2>That water time You've maguarded it, I've guarded it.

0:30:44.080 --> 0:30:47.720
<v Speaker 4>And he gives like a little night of this will do?

0:30:47.720 --> 0:30:48.080
<v Speaker 2>Do you know what?

0:30:48.120 --> 0:30:50.800
<v Speaker 1>The funny thing is? It didn't work. The water still

0:30:50.800 --> 0:30:53.080
<v Speaker 1>got in there and he didn't notice. And I was like,

0:30:53.400 --> 0:30:55.160
<v Speaker 1>there's water in there, Bro, did it sting? He's like,

0:30:55.320 --> 0:30:56.640
<v Speaker 1>it mustn't hurt anymore.

0:30:57.440 --> 0:30:58.239
<v Speaker 2>You know what you need to do?

0:30:58.600 --> 0:30:59.680
<v Speaker 4>Git a glad wrap as well.

0:31:00.080 --> 0:31:02.240
<v Speaker 1>I was like, maybe I'll tape it up and I thought, nah,

0:31:02.400 --> 0:31:04.080
<v Speaker 1>just use a hair tie anyway, what do you reckon?

0:31:04.200 --> 0:31:06.800
<v Speaker 2>Good hack? Very good? Thank you very good, well done.

0:31:06.840 --> 0:31:10.640
<v Speaker 2>Thank you. The ingenuity on that is on the fly too.

0:31:10.760 --> 0:31:12.800
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I sat down after with the kids

0:31:12.840 --> 0:31:16.440
<v Speaker 1>in the bed and I was like, stonewood, I am good.

0:31:16.600 --> 0:31:16.840
<v Speaker 2>Fuck.

0:31:16.840 --> 0:31:20.320
<v Speaker 4>It's annoying though any little scratch. Lola is the worse

0:31:20.360 --> 0:31:21.160
<v Speaker 4>for it, where she was like.

0:31:21.160 --> 0:31:23.280
<v Speaker 2>I cannot get it wet, and so.

0:31:23.200 --> 0:31:24.640
<v Speaker 4>She'll be in the bath with like a foot on

0:31:24.760 --> 0:31:26.520
<v Speaker 4>knee hanging out because she want to get it wet,

0:31:26.680 --> 0:31:28.360
<v Speaker 4>and then and then until she forgets, and then she's

0:31:28.400 --> 0:31:29.960
<v Speaker 4>like next second, I'm like, see you're in the water,

0:31:30.000 --> 0:31:30.400
<v Speaker 4>and she's.

0:31:30.280 --> 0:31:35.880
<v Speaker 2>Like it out. My god. They're just over dramatized. That

0:31:36.000 --> 0:31:39.680
<v Speaker 2>is apparenting hack. By the way, thank you. You're welcome. Yes,

0:31:39.760 --> 0:31:42.800
<v Speaker 2>there he is first in a while.

0:31:43.760 --> 0:31:46.719
<v Speaker 1>It feels good. Should we go into questions? Matthew finishes

0:31:46.760 --> 0:31:48.080
<v Speaker 1>off strong with a couple of questions.

0:31:48.160 --> 0:31:52.800
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, please Ash. We have had this question submitted by Caitlin.

0:31:53.960 --> 0:31:55.480
<v Speaker 4>She's written in and she wants to know this is

0:31:55.480 --> 0:31:57.240
<v Speaker 4>a very interesting question. I would love to know your

0:31:57.280 --> 0:32:01.600
<v Speaker 4>take on this. What is your approach to alcohol with

0:32:01.760 --> 0:32:02.720
<v Speaker 4>your own kids.

0:32:03.920 --> 0:32:08.440
<v Speaker 2>They're a bit young at the moment, are they You're

0:32:08.480 --> 0:32:09.160
<v Speaker 2>never so young?

0:32:09.240 --> 0:32:12.200
<v Speaker 4>At what point do you think you will introduce your

0:32:12.320 --> 0:32:16.040
<v Speaker 4>kids to alcohol, or will you introduce them at all?

0:32:16.120 --> 0:32:19.520
<v Speaker 1>They already know that beer's daddy's. They'll see your case

0:32:19.520 --> 0:32:22.520
<v Speaker 1>in beer and they'll be like, daddy, look I was.

0:32:24.760 --> 0:32:28.760
<v Speaker 1>I think they're going to get to an age of teenagehood.

0:32:28.800 --> 0:32:31.600
<v Speaker 2>Of course, as we all do did whatever.

0:32:32.120 --> 0:32:35.840
<v Speaker 1>Some people didn't, but where you like, because they're dead,

0:32:36.040 --> 0:32:37.520
<v Speaker 1>they're dead, they're dead by then.

0:32:39.760 --> 0:32:42.080
<v Speaker 2>Shout out to those who didn't make it, well.

0:32:47.200 --> 0:32:49.760
<v Speaker 1>That's horrible, but I like it going it to an

0:32:49.800 --> 0:32:51.640
<v Speaker 1>age like where you're like, I remember getting to an

0:32:51.680 --> 0:32:52.280
<v Speaker 1>age around I'm.

0:32:52.200 --> 0:32:53.960
<v Speaker 2>Like, I have some beers.

0:32:55.280 --> 0:32:57.760
<v Speaker 1>And you hit it and you were like fifteen fourteen,

0:32:57.880 --> 0:33:01.080
<v Speaker 1>fourteen fifteen. Sure, I was like yeah, and I think

0:33:01.160 --> 0:33:04.240
<v Speaker 1>like I hit it. I had some friends that their

0:33:04.360 --> 0:33:07.360
<v Speaker 1>parents wouldn't enable it, but they were like, you can.

0:33:07.440 --> 0:33:10.160
<v Speaker 1>If you're going to do it, do it here because

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<v Speaker 1>you're in a controlled environment somewhat.

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<v Speaker 4>And if you're going to get a bit too tipsy,

0:33:14.600 --> 0:33:17.880
<v Speaker 4>it's better that it happens in someone's house, yea, rather

0:33:17.960 --> 0:33:18.960
<v Speaker 4>than down the park.

0:33:18.760 --> 0:33:21.440
<v Speaker 2>And vulnerable and anything could happen.

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<v Speaker 4>So did your parents ever allow you to have alcohol

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<v Speaker 4>at home before you eighteen?

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<v Speaker 2>Allow is a strong word.

0:33:28.520 --> 0:33:31.080
<v Speaker 1>I think they knew I was like giving in to

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<v Speaker 1>take a mile sort of guy.

0:33:32.400 --> 0:33:34.280
<v Speaker 2>I can imagine you can have one. You're going to

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<v Speaker 2>have one, maybe maybe one.

0:33:37.240 --> 0:33:41.000
<v Speaker 4>But rolling in with the keg, Yeah, it was said one.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say it was a semi strict environment where

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<v Speaker 1>I still hid majority of my drinking as a teenager

0:33:46.280 --> 0:33:49.360
<v Speaker 1>with my friend, I would do it in those windows

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<v Speaker 1>of opportunity, but I get shit faced.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know what it's going to be, like,

0:33:53.320 --> 0:33:54.320
<v Speaker 2>what they're going to be like.

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<v Speaker 4>See I reckon, I'll do it the same way that

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<v Speaker 4>it was done for me when I was a kid,

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<v Speaker 4>and it's that definitely didn't encourage us to get shit fash.

0:34:03.720 --> 0:34:05.120
<v Speaker 2>She's like, what do you want? Long oland iced tea

0:34:05.160 --> 0:34:08.520
<v Speaker 2>short coming right up? Yes, five of them? Who wants

0:34:08.520 --> 0:34:11.680
<v Speaker 2>a wet pussy?

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<v Speaker 4>But for me, it was a case of the taboo

0:34:16.239 --> 0:34:19.919
<v Speaker 4>was removed from alcohol, so it wasn't like it wasn't

0:34:19.920 --> 0:34:22.759
<v Speaker 4>a case of me wanting to indulge because I thought

0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:24.160
<v Speaker 4>it was like the naughty thing to do.

0:34:24.280 --> 0:34:25.640
<v Speaker 2>And I think a lot of kids.

0:34:25.440 --> 0:34:30.040
<v Speaker 4>Really binge drink when they're underage because it's just a

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<v Speaker 4>naughty thing to do and they want to do something

0:34:32.480 --> 0:34:35.759
<v Speaker 4>that's against the rules, And so for me it wasn't

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<v Speaker 4>It wasn't a big deal to have my hands on

0:34:38.360 --> 0:34:41.040
<v Speaker 4>a bottle of alcohol in the way that I was

0:34:41.040 --> 0:34:43.520
<v Speaker 4>brought up at home. So I never felt like I've

0:34:43.520 --> 0:34:46.200
<v Speaker 4>got this small little window where I can break the

0:34:46.280 --> 0:34:50.279
<v Speaker 4>rules and I want to overindulge, whereas other kids who

0:34:50.280 --> 0:34:53.560
<v Speaker 4>were my age, when they were in households where the

0:34:53.640 --> 0:34:57.080
<v Speaker 4>parents had absolutely no idea that their son or daughter

0:34:57.120 --> 0:35:00.000
<v Speaker 4>were drinking, they were quite often the ones who were

0:35:00.120 --> 0:35:04.480
<v Speaker 4>then on the weekend get shif faced, binge drink.

0:35:05.160 --> 0:35:07.520
<v Speaker 2>To the extra to be drinking now either now like

0:35:07.680 --> 0:35:08.319
<v Speaker 2>which I think.

0:35:09.200 --> 0:35:12.600
<v Speaker 4>I think it was a case of like the best

0:35:12.600 --> 0:35:16.000
<v Speaker 4>example I can give, And if this makes sense, I

0:35:16.080 --> 0:35:19.640
<v Speaker 4>once worked in a lolly store and the rule was,

0:35:20.040 --> 0:35:22.239
<v Speaker 4>if you want to eat a lolly, you can eat

0:35:22.280 --> 0:35:26.239
<v Speaker 4>the lolly. And because you're allowed to do it, you

0:35:26.280 --> 0:35:26.840
<v Speaker 4>didn't really.

0:35:26.680 --> 0:35:27.000
<v Speaker 2>Want to eat.

0:35:28.440 --> 0:35:31.560
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but you always think, like the rule if it

0:35:31.600 --> 0:35:33.880
<v Speaker 4>was like you cannot eat a single thing, you'd probably

0:35:33.920 --> 0:35:35.480
<v Speaker 4>want to like sneak a few lollies in.

0:35:35.440 --> 0:35:38.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And that might, I mean, that might work for you.

0:35:38.239 --> 0:35:41.160
<v Speaker 1>Some people at different Some people cannot help themselves. But

0:35:41.360 --> 0:35:42.920
<v Speaker 1>everyone's going to be different, right.

0:35:42.880 --> 0:35:45.400
<v Speaker 4>But I think if you introduce them in a controlled setting,

0:35:46.640 --> 0:35:48.239
<v Speaker 4>for me anyway, you probably.

0:35:47.920 --> 0:35:50.560
<v Speaker 2>Reduced the risk factor of anything happening. If Oscar's sitting

0:35:50.560 --> 0:35:51.080
<v Speaker 2>there having a.

0:35:51.120 --> 0:35:53.000
<v Speaker 1>Drink with me while watching the football at home and

0:35:53.000 --> 0:35:54.960
<v Speaker 1>his mates are out there getting shit faced and potentially

0:35:55.000 --> 0:35:57.839
<v Speaker 1>doing something risky, I know where I prefer him to be.

0:35:57.960 --> 0:36:00.279
<v Speaker 4>But then also you can be more aware of what

0:36:00.320 --> 0:36:02.880
<v Speaker 4>he's like when he's drinking. Yeah, so if you think

0:36:02.920 --> 0:36:05.839
<v Speaker 4>that he is going down a path where he's hitting

0:36:05.840 --> 0:36:08.759
<v Speaker 4>a bottle too hard, you can speak to them about

0:36:08.760 --> 0:36:10.839
<v Speaker 4>it and there's open conversation as opposed to it being

0:36:10.880 --> 0:36:12.839
<v Speaker 4>this thing that no one ever talks about. But I

0:36:12.880 --> 0:36:17.040
<v Speaker 4>definitely think that Laura and I will introduce our kids

0:36:17.400 --> 0:36:21.800
<v Speaker 4>as teenagers, and I'm talking like fifteen sixteen, I'll introduce

0:36:21.840 --> 0:36:24.920
<v Speaker 4>them to alcohol rather than do that with their friends

0:36:24.920 --> 0:36:27.800
<v Speaker 4>in a park with absolutely zero adult supervision.

0:36:27.880 --> 0:36:30.839
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think I would prefer to have OS's first

0:36:30.880 --> 0:36:32.719
<v Speaker 1>beer with Oscar. I'm going to have to work it

0:36:32.719 --> 0:36:34.520
<v Speaker 1>out when I get there, because I don't know what

0:36:34.560 --> 0:36:36.919
<v Speaker 1>sort of kid's going to be in ten years time,

0:36:37.239 --> 0:36:41.000
<v Speaker 1>what brain chemistry is made up of I don't know really,

0:36:41.200 --> 0:36:42.520
<v Speaker 1>if I was to have a drink with him now,

0:36:42.600 --> 0:36:45.120
<v Speaker 1>it would just be a fucking scrap, you know what

0:36:45.160 --> 0:36:51.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean? Much discussion, much to think about. Here's one

0:36:51.200 --> 0:36:54.520
<v Speaker 1>for you from Christo. We both have two kids. How

0:36:54.560 --> 0:36:58.239
<v Speaker 1>did you introduce your first kid to your second kid?

0:36:59.080 --> 0:37:02.800
<v Speaker 2>We approach it the same way, going Marley. This is

0:37:02.840 --> 0:37:03.879
<v Speaker 2>lower loss, Marley.

0:37:05.040 --> 0:37:07.239
<v Speaker 4>We did it more along the lines of how you

0:37:07.280 --> 0:37:10.279
<v Speaker 4>would introduce a child to a pet. Where we had

0:37:11.239 --> 0:37:14.200
<v Speaker 4>a rag a blanket if you will rag, and we

0:37:14.200 --> 0:37:16.840
<v Speaker 4>would it had it had long less scent on it,

0:37:16.920 --> 0:37:19.479
<v Speaker 4>and we then introduced that to Marlo.

0:37:19.560 --> 0:37:21.400
<v Speaker 2>We would blanket from their at the airport.

0:37:21.840 --> 0:37:28.400
<v Speaker 1>Fuck airport hospital. Same thing, the blanket from the hospital.

0:37:28.680 --> 0:37:29.799
<v Speaker 1>Did you steal yours too?

0:37:30.080 --> 0:37:32.080
<v Speaker 2>Of course? I love how everyone.

0:37:32.160 --> 0:37:34.120
<v Speaker 1>We need to do something with that. There's something there.

0:37:34.160 --> 0:37:37.040
<v Speaker 1>This is a side note, there's something there stealing everyone

0:37:37.120 --> 0:37:38.239
<v Speaker 1>steals that blanket.

0:37:38.000 --> 0:37:39.959
<v Speaker 4>I don't know where it is. But no, I didn't

0:37:39.960 --> 0:37:41.080
<v Speaker 4>actually do that, so I was joke.

0:37:42.040 --> 0:37:42.520
<v Speaker 2>I didn't.

0:37:43.320 --> 0:37:45.920
<v Speaker 4>I didn't introduce the center of my child.

0:37:46.160 --> 0:37:47.919
<v Speaker 2>Oh, from a rag.

0:37:48.800 --> 0:37:51.760
<v Speaker 1>So it took Marley's shoe toy?

0:37:53.800 --> 0:37:55.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, how did you do it? Come on? Give us

0:37:55.560 --> 0:37:57.560
<v Speaker 2>a I think they were just there.

0:37:57.680 --> 0:37:59.839
<v Speaker 4>I think that was just there was no like, there

0:37:59.880 --> 0:38:00.600
<v Speaker 4>was no propit.

0:38:01.360 --> 0:38:06.280
<v Speaker 1>What was that helicopter we're invading, it's happening, your mum's

0:38:06.280 --> 0:38:07.920
<v Speaker 1>in the front room election.

0:38:10.320 --> 0:38:12.880
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think it just like there was no there

0:38:12.960 --> 0:38:14.080
<v Speaker 4>was no real moment it was.

0:38:14.520 --> 0:38:16.319
<v Speaker 2>Can I interject really quickly?

0:38:16.400 --> 0:38:17.799
<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of the lead up work is

0:38:17.800 --> 0:38:21.080
<v Speaker 1>done during the pregnancy, where they you're sort of like,

0:38:21.160 --> 0:38:22.759
<v Speaker 1>this is what to expect. You're going to have a

0:38:22.760 --> 0:38:25.960
<v Speaker 1>little brother or a little sister, or they're in mummy's

0:38:25.960 --> 0:38:30.520
<v Speaker 1>tummy and they've already bonded with it kind of already.

0:38:30.560 --> 0:38:33.799
<v Speaker 1>You think, it's not like it's like surprise. You know,

0:38:33.960 --> 0:38:35.520
<v Speaker 1>Laura was like bringing home a dog.

0:38:35.400 --> 0:38:38.239
<v Speaker 4>Because she was hiding the bump from Maley for the

0:38:38.239 --> 0:38:40.560
<v Speaker 4>whole pregnancy. There's a book called I Think You're a

0:38:40.560 --> 0:38:44.920
<v Speaker 4>Big Sister as well, which explains like, yeah, you're about

0:38:44.960 --> 0:38:47.239
<v Speaker 4>to have another person in the family and you're going

0:38:47.280 --> 0:38:49.279
<v Speaker 4>to be a big sister, which means that you're going

0:38:49.320 --> 0:38:50.680
<v Speaker 4>to have to do X, Y and Z and they're

0:38:50.719 --> 0:38:52.680
<v Speaker 4>going to be a bit loud and blah blah blahlah blah.

0:38:52.760 --> 0:38:54.000
<v Speaker 2>So that book great book.

0:38:54.200 --> 0:38:56.719
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, by the time you come home from the hospital.

0:38:57.680 --> 0:39:01.600
<v Speaker 1>There might be the initial like from but Oscar being like, oh,

0:39:02.320 --> 0:39:03.880
<v Speaker 1>your little baby, and then.

0:39:04.160 --> 0:39:06.160
<v Speaker 4>Was it at home or in the hospital. At home,

0:39:06.719 --> 0:39:09.400
<v Speaker 4>I don't even think we brought I can't remember.

0:39:09.080 --> 0:39:11.000
<v Speaker 2>We didn't take Oscar at the hospital. I think we

0:39:11.040 --> 0:39:11.719
<v Speaker 2>did either.

0:39:11.760 --> 0:39:14.120
<v Speaker 1>Imagine another kid, imagine taking back to it all began

0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:18.080
<v Speaker 1>to be like yep, no anyway, So, I mean it

0:39:18.120 --> 0:39:20.600
<v Speaker 1>was awful in terms of I think Marley was like,

0:39:20.680 --> 0:39:22.719
<v Speaker 1>let me hold her, and we're like, okay, here she is,

0:39:22.760 --> 0:39:24.719
<v Speaker 1>and then the split second later Marley was trying to

0:39:24.800 --> 0:39:27.359
<v Speaker 1>rip an eye out with and we're like that's enough

0:39:27.400 --> 0:39:30.759
<v Speaker 1>for you guys, or like little girls like they undressed dolls, that.

0:39:34.080 --> 0:39:34.880
<v Speaker 2>L was naked.

0:39:36.120 --> 0:39:39.920
<v Speaker 1>Actually what Yeah, I think Yeah, from what I remember,

0:39:40.000 --> 0:39:42.239
<v Speaker 1>it was pretty smooth. But I know and I have

0:39:42.920 --> 0:39:47.279
<v Speaker 1>we were in the hospital with Macey and they had

0:39:47.360 --> 0:39:51.240
<v Speaker 1>like a class, like an introductory to your older sibling

0:39:51.320 --> 0:39:55.440
<v Speaker 1>class where it wasn't like they would just talk about that,

0:39:56.239 --> 0:40:00.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, like what the eldest couldn't get up to

0:40:00.360 --> 0:40:03.080
<v Speaker 1>because they might feel they're not getting the attention. They

0:40:03.120 --> 0:40:06.759
<v Speaker 1>might feel so I think it's not really the introduction

0:40:06.920 --> 0:40:11.200
<v Speaker 1>of the the younger sibling it's the dynamic, the new

0:40:11.280 --> 0:40:13.880
<v Speaker 1>dynamic that that you've got to share your love.

0:40:13.719 --> 0:40:16.680
<v Speaker 2>That would probably throw them off them.

0:40:16.840 --> 0:40:20.440
<v Speaker 4>But I think early doors, early doors that when that

0:40:20.600 --> 0:40:25.279
<v Speaker 4>bump is like showing the tiniest bin, but baby's coming.

0:40:25.400 --> 0:40:28.400
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just very vocal about it all the time. And

0:40:28.440 --> 0:40:31.240
<v Speaker 1>then also like make sure that you don't just neglect

0:40:31.239 --> 0:40:34.520
<v Speaker 1>the one easier to stake, to make easy, Yeah, they

0:40:34.560 --> 0:40:36.960
<v Speaker 1>say in that class, I do recall.

0:40:37.280 --> 0:40:39.319
<v Speaker 4>They make sure you still feed your other child.

0:40:39.480 --> 0:40:41.959
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they were like, make sure that you just fill

0:40:42.040 --> 0:40:45.160
<v Speaker 1>the cup with your other child as well, Like you,

0:40:45.160 --> 0:40:47.000
<v Speaker 1>I know you're going to be taken up so much

0:40:47.040 --> 0:40:49.160
<v Speaker 1>to include them in what you're doing, because they would

0:40:49.160 --> 0:40:51.440
<v Speaker 1>feel included and it might fill the cup up as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I a genius?

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<v Speaker 4>Beautifully sad, lovely good way to wrap up the episode.

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<v Speaker 1>Two dads, you've wrapped us up so nicely, Matthew, You've

0:41:14.360 --> 0:41:15.200
<v Speaker 1>forgotten one thing.

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<v Speaker 2>What's that we did?

0:41:17.280 --> 0:41:21.520
<v Speaker 1>Run a competition of course, of course, or a trip away.

0:41:21.400 --> 0:41:24.719
<v Speaker 4>The biggest competition we've ever run on this Podcastally we just.

0:41:24.640 --> 0:41:26.439
<v Speaker 1>Give away beer, but this time we give it away

0:41:26.480 --> 0:41:29.360
<v Speaker 1>a holiday. I think there'sre on the holiday.

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<v Speaker 2>I think there is.

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<v Speaker 1>They do sell be there, So Matthew a big shout

0:41:32.719 --> 0:41:34.680
<v Speaker 1>out to who Hannah Daily.

0:41:38.239 --> 0:41:40.600
<v Speaker 4>A huge thanks to everyone who submitted a video for

0:41:40.640 --> 0:41:44.799
<v Speaker 4>the competition. But Hannah, your blue paint video was amazing

0:41:45.280 --> 0:41:47.479
<v Speaker 4>and we think you were very deserving of a trip away.

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<v Speaker 4>So make sure you message us after your trip and

0:41:49.320 --> 0:41:50.399
<v Speaker 4>let us know how it went.

0:41:50.760 --> 0:41:54.000
<v Speaker 2>Enjoy well deserved, you deserve a break. I know you're

0:41:54.000 --> 0:41:54.840
<v Speaker 2>going to take your kids.

0:41:55.000 --> 0:41:57.040
<v Speaker 4>A few people are like, can we not take the kids?

0:41:57.200 --> 0:41:58.480
<v Speaker 4>Say here's leaving behind?

0:41:58.560 --> 0:42:00.400
<v Speaker 2>Leaving behind? Don't if you've guys as long as they

0:42:00.440 --> 0:42:02.359
<v Speaker 2>have supervision, yes, don't leave them here.

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<v Speaker 4>Enjoy the sundays. Great hotel, how much an island, What

0:42:07.200 --> 0:42:08.879
<v Speaker 4>a place to be at this time of year.

0:42:08.920 --> 0:42:11.680
<v Speaker 2>I do love it. The buffet beautiful. I just have

0:42:11.840 --> 0:42:12.640
<v Speaker 2>dreams of the buffet.

0:42:13.480 --> 0:42:17.160
<v Speaker 4>We'll have to give away another holiday to ourselves. We're

0:42:17.239 --> 0:42:19.960
<v Speaker 4>due a holiday a couple of weeks chomping.

0:42:20.200 --> 0:42:22.239
<v Speaker 2>Should we let them go? Now, let's get let's goad.

0:42:22.880 --> 0:42:24.600
<v Speaker 1>But I'm going to rip this nasal strip off right

0:42:25.080 --> 0:42:33.640
<v Speaker 1>nough two.

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<v Speaker 4>Doting Dads podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout

0:42:37.520 --> 0:42:40.760
<v Speaker 4>Australia and the connections to land, sea and community.

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<v Speaker 1>We pay our respects to their elders past and present

0:42:43.640 --> 0:42:46.720
<v Speaker 1>and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torrestraight Islander

0:42:46.760 --> 0:42:47.480
<v Speaker 1>people's today.

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<v Speaker 2>This episode was recorded on Gadagle Land