WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - He's just not that into you 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.800 Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:06.520 were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:07.600 past and present. 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:11.399 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:24.240 recorded on Drug Wallamata Land. Hi guys, and welcome back 0:00:24.280 --> 0:00:26.440 to another episode of Life on Cat. I'm Laura, I'm 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:27.640 Brittany and Briny. 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:28.960 Guess what what? 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:32.400 I went down a rabbit hole, A rabbit hole that 0:00:32.560 --> 0:00:35.040 satisfied me in ways I never thought it would. And 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:36.960 now I know something I never thought I would know. 0:00:37.440 --> 0:00:39.440 But I really encourage everyone to go on Google. 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:41.159 It's the best part about rabbit holes, isn't it. You 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:42.199 don't know where you're gonna end up. 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:43.920 Yeah, And you like when you're on a doom scroll 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:45.520 and then you all of a sudden come across something 0:00:45.560 --> 0:00:47.279 and you're like, wow, my brain never knew that, Now 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:47.600 it does. 0:00:47.800 --> 0:00:52.120 What was said? Rabbit hole? Okay? Have you ever googled? 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:55.600 What ever that's it feel like? Wants to know? Okay? 0:00:55.680 --> 0:00:58.200 Have you ever googled what a pigeon's nest looks like 0:00:58.840 --> 0:00:59.360 a pigeon? 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:02.800 Actually, every second Saturday I google that, Laura, Why would 0:01:02.840 --> 0:01:04.640 I have googled what a pigeon's nest is. 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:04.880 No. 0:01:05.160 --> 0:01:08.080 Okay, everybody in a car wherever you are listening, and 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:09.759 maybe're on a bus, maybe're on a taxi, who knows, 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.319 maybe you're walking hot go walk, Just stop and just 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:17.119 google pigeon nest because pigeons are particularly poor at building nests, 0:01:17.400 --> 0:01:20.600 and the level of effort that they put into taking 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:23.640 care of their home and raising their little egg child 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:24.840 is truly hilarious. 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:27.640 I thought you were gonna tell me something other than that. 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:30.520 I thought pigeon nest was like a euphinism for something 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:32.520 naughty or sexy, or I thought you were gonna like 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:34.600 think you were goggling an innocent pigeoness. 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:37.120 But then pow, it's something else. But no, it's actually 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:37.640 just a nest. 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:39.360 It's a real nest. Can I just show you? I 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:40.880 need to show you some examples of what a pigeon 0:01:40.880 --> 0:01:44.440 nest looks like. They'll just lay an egg anywhere. They'll 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:47.280 go and get one single fucking stick and lay it 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:49.520 next to their egg, and they'll be like a job done. 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:51.760 No, I do know that, you know what, Look at 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:53.360 this shit. It's so funny. 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:55.280 If you are feeling like you're having if you've ever 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:58.200 felt bad at your job, if you've ever questioned or 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:00.640 had like imposter syndrome. I thought, maybe I'm not equipped 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:02.800 for this Google pigeon nest. 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:04.680 And it will make you. Look at that one. The 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:06.559 pigeon put a stick in an egg on a bed. 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:10.480 I actually know this, and you know why. Look at 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:14.440 this pigeon. It laid an egg under a car. It's 0:02:14.560 --> 0:02:17.680 so funny. I can't see it. Can you see the 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:24.440 egg under a wheel? I mean, that's dangerous. My grandma 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:25.440 rest in peace. 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:28.839 She's no longer with us. My grandma spent her whole 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:31.880 life racing pigeons. She's a pigeon racer. So I grew 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:34.120 up with pigeons in a pigeon cage. I would be 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:36.680 the pigeon lady. I'd walk into her pigeon and cage 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.120 and you'd have to close it, and they were like, 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:41.799 I'm not exaggerating. There were fifty pigeons in living together 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:44.560 in this huge, huge pigeon cage. 0:02:44.880 --> 0:02:45.519 I shouldn't say that. 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:47.640 It was an avery and you'd walk in and I'd 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:49.200 be that pigeon lady. I feel like I was, you 0:02:49.240 --> 0:02:52.239 knowing pet Detective Jim Carrey in that scene where he 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:52.919 walks into his. 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:56.000 They're called homing pigeons. I used to have a homing 0:02:56.040 --> 0:02:57.400 pigeon when I was a kid. This is all getting 0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:00.959 weird now wait, hang on, god, I'm sorry. 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:05.000 I'm racing pigeons and she would literally I guess they're 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:07.320 homing pigeons on royds though, like you would send them 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:09.760 out and they'd have to go and do a job, 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:11.239 and then they'd have to come back, and it was 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:11.840 a race and. 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:13.440 It was hectic. I thought it was the coolest thing. 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:15.160 But they all laid eggs. 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:16.280 Like that, so I didn't know if that was an 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:18.520 actual nest or if that was just an a racing 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:19.600 pigeon avery nest. 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:21.320 It's because the pigeons are so fast to get the 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:26.360 job done away, just go and do it. It's so good. 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:29.760 It's so enjoyable to sometimes get down like a hole 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:32.079 in the Internet and you're like, oh, here we are here, 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:34.040 we are looking at pictures of pigeon eggs, and it 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:34.880 was really satisfying. 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:36.960 I'm just wondering how many listeners we just lost that 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:38.000 A New Too Life hung k home. 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:41.600 I think if anything, if anything, people are going to 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:42.920 be like wow, I didn't know that, and I'm glad 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:43.080 I do. 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.040 There you go, that'll be the thing that you'll bring 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.120 to the party on Saturday night. Now I don't think No, 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:50.280 I don't think it will be. But I may or 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:50.880 may not. 0:03:51.720 --> 0:03:54.240 Google it tonight when I'm on the lounge and I'm relaxed, 0:03:54.280 --> 0:03:56.000 I might go down the rabbit hole. 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:58.120 Yeah, we're gonna put photos on our social media. So 0:03:58.120 --> 0:03:59.400 if you can't be bothered, just go and have. 0:03:59.320 --> 0:03:59.800 A look there. 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:02.040 What actually brought you to the point where you wanted 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:02.880 to know what pigeons nests? 0:04:02.880 --> 0:04:03.120 Looked? 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:03.240 Like? 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:09.520 Things have been tough in laugh lately. But no, honestly, 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.440 I don't know what happened. I read somewe that pigeons 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:14.000 were particularly bad at making nests. I read that and 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:15.480 I was like, well, I wonder how bad? And then 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:18.280 I found myself googling it and fuck it. It was 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:21.360 a really enjoyable little ride there. Okay, can I say 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:24.440 one more thing? Woke up with a saw back this morning? Okay, 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:27.720 guess what, nothing happened. Just went to sleep last night, 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:30.800 just went to bed, fell asleep, woke up with a. 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:33.800 Saw Back's age. It's fucked, is what it is. It's 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:34.560 proper age. 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:38.760 You know, this is actually why I think I love 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:41.880 long distance so much, because I don't have to share 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:43.560 my bed with anyone, and I don't have to do 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:46.520 the extracurricular activity all the time. If I have been 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:50.359 hectically on a sex binge, it really ruined. 0:04:50.360 --> 0:04:52.119 I feel like it's a workout. It ruins my body. 0:04:52.160 --> 0:04:54.240 My neck's out, my back's out, Like my body is 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:56.120 absolutely ruined, and I think it's an age there. 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:58.680 I would like to confirm that that's not the problem 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:00.440 with me. I've not been on one of those binges, 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:03.240 you know. I just went to bed at eleven pm 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:05.360 last night, slept for like a solid six and a 0:05:05.360 --> 0:05:07.680 half hours, and then woke up this morning and my 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:09.040 back is so sore that I. 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:11.680 Can't rotate it to drive the car properly. When is 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:12.400 it that you hit. 0:05:12.279 --> 0:05:15.360 The age where nothing actually happens. You just went to sleep, 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:17.000 that's it. That's all that happened. 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:19.080 Yeah, I reckon thirty five. I think that's when it 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:20.920 starts happening. Thirty five is young. 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:23.120 Well that's when I noticed. I only noticed in the 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:24.440 last year because I'm thirty six. 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:26.120 Anyway, I'm glad that I've caught you guys all up 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:27.880 on the big things that have been happening in my life. 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:28.640 Thanks so much. 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:30.960 Okay, Well, something I did want to talk about was 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:36.239 a new dating quote unquote scam that is apparently sweeping 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:39.440 the nation, the world. Apparently it's a dating scam phenomenon, 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:40.880 as a girl would recall it. 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:41.040 Now. 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:43.560 I don't know if this is accurate, but there's a 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:45.680 girl on TikTok that has said she has discovered a 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:46.400 whole new world of. 0:05:46.320 --> 0:05:49.560 Scamming that we didn't even know existed. Have a listen. 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:51.960 So woman is ass on a date and she gets 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:55.040 stood up, but that's pretty common, but the plant twist 0:05:55.600 --> 0:05:56.600 is insane. 0:05:56.880 --> 0:05:59.200 Met this guy on a dating app and he immediately 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:02.000 asked me out on a date to a specific restaurant 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:05.839 he confirmed day of. I get to the restaurant and 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:08.760 see that he's nowhere to be found, so. 0:06:08.720 --> 0:06:09.400 I reach out. 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:10.440 No response. 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:13.640 I checked the app and noticed that he unmatched me. 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:16.320 At that point, I was a little confused, and I 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:18.200 was kind of pissed because I was already dressed and 0:06:18.240 --> 0:06:20.680 I got all the way there, and because I had 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:22.440 put in so much effort, I thought I might as 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:25.400 well just have a meal while I am in the building, 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:27.600 and it wasn't until I got home when I was 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:31.599 scrolling Facebook and I saw a very similar story from 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:34.440 a girl at that same restaurant who also got stood up. 0:06:34.680 --> 0:06:38.760 She found out that there are restaurants now posing as 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:42.120 people on dating apps just so you go to their 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:45.279 business and once you get stood up, they know that 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:47.200 probably nine times out of day, and that you're going 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:48.559 to buy something from them. 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:52.840 And that just blew my mind. 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:57.039 It's the background music for me, the violin, No, it's 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.599 the violin, and then also an ambulance going past at 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:02.440 the same time. It couldn't have sounded more dramatic. I 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:06.039 do not think that this is happening. I do not 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:08.400 like for me, this kind of screams of someone who 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:10.080 was set up in a restaurant, like as in, they 0:07:10.640 --> 0:07:13.720 got there, the guy didn't show up, they got stood up, 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:16.200 and then they're trying to reach for reasons as to 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:18.320 why they were stood up because they don't want to 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:19.880 deal with the actual could hard factor that they were 0:07:19.920 --> 0:07:20.440 just stood up? 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:23.280 Yes, that could be an option. It's like making sense 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:26.520 of your trauma. But this could be a thing if 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:30.200 it's tough times. It is pretty clever I'm not saying 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:33.040 it's right, but I don't know. I think you need 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.520 to have more than two people say that this has 0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:38.040 happened to say that it's a phenomenon that all restaurants 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:39.560 are doing on dating apps, because I tried to do 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:44.160 some googling and there's nothing that really seems legitimate. But 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:45.800 there's a lot of people that are like, yeah, it's 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:48.120 a new thing. It's a thing. There's bots. 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:50.120 The restaurants are partnering with bots, and they're making people 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:51.840 come to the restaurant and then they're canceling. 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:53.920 Then you eat there. I don't think that this is 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:57.400 sweeping the world right now, but it could make sense. 0:07:57.480 --> 0:07:58.960 People have done weirder things. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:02.160 I mean, when we talked about gorilla marketing on Tuesday's episode, 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:03.840 this would be taking it to a whole new level, 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:07.960 wouldn't it. I mean, partly, I feel like there could 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:10.440 be a restaurant who could do this and maybe it 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:12.760 would result in them getting meals and people, you know, 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:15.920 are spending their money in their venue. But overarchingly, I 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:17.600 feel like this is a lot of effort that a 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:18.440 restaurant would have. 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:21.000 To go to in order to get more sales. 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:23.480 I think that there are probably be more wholesome tactics 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:26.000 that they could go about rather than trying to engage bots, 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:28.960 rather than having your restaurant associated with something that's so negative. 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:31.040 Once again, don't think that it's a very good tactic 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:31.840 from a brand alignment. 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:34.360 Well, it depends, right, depends how quickly you're getting because 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:36.160 I think of like my dating years, depends how quickly 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:37.840 you're getting to the point of wanting to meet up. 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:40.840 But there are people that I ended up getting to 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:42.520 that point where you don't want to talk any more 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:44.080 on the dating app because you're so sick of it, 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:45.719 So you don't want to waste a week of your 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:47.560 time talking to someone that when you might meet up 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:49.240 with them, you realize there's nothing there. So there are 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:53.040 for sure people that would talk for like fifteen minutes 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:55.240 literally a few texts, vibe and be like, you know what, 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:56.839 let's like cut the small talk, let's meet up you 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.680 freeze to night. Like there are people, So I think 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:01.920 if this fresh dreing is having to dedicate like two 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:03.920 weeks at a time for one person to get them 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:06.800 in for one schnitty, like we need to talk about 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:11.200 background work'sim the amount you paid your staff to get 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:13.160 on the app and do it. But if you were 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:16.040 just hiring, I don't know what it costs fifty bucks 0:09:16.040 --> 0:09:17.000 to hire a bunch of bots. 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:18.679 What does a bot cost? I don't even think. 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:20.640 You don't hire a bots, you don't pay them per hour. 0:09:20.800 --> 0:09:22.760 A bots is like an app or something if you 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:25.200 are going to use bots. For example, people use bots 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:28.040 to get more followers. That's a very common one where 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:30.080 that a lot of people used to use. So basically 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.440 you would subscribe to a website, you type in your 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:35.520 details and everything, and you could buy X amount of followers, right, 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:38.160 It's what loads of old influencers would do. But those 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:43.520 followers are fake accounts. They're created by individuals usually and 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:46.360 this is quite shitty. It's usually people who are in 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:49.520 poorer countries where there's not as many work opportunities, and 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:52.360 they have one person, two people, hundreds of people whatever 0:09:52.400 --> 0:09:54.880 it is, who have multiple accounts, and that's their job 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:56.440 to just go on there, set them up and to 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:59.200 have these conversations. Whereas like and now, I would say, 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:02.120 with like the advancements of AI and everything, that it 0:10:02.160 --> 0:10:05.520 would be easier. Also, I would say that the communication 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:07.520 would be more streamlined because of the way in which 0:10:07.520 --> 0:10:08.160 you can use AI. 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:10.160 It's actually probably not that far fetched. 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:12.280 You know, remember not long ago, we're talking about Ashley 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:15.120 Madison and they use bots on their dating site exactly. 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:17.920 So it's actually, you know, that just popped into my mind. 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:19.600 Then it's probably not that far fetched that there are 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:20.920 places that are doing that. 0:10:21.000 --> 0:10:22.800 So if you don't know what Ashley Madison was, Ashley 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:26.040 Madison was the affairs website, and so they had some 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:29.240 of the most insane subscribers. All of these people like 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:32.800 men and women who had subscribed to Ashley Madison, which 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:35.280 is you know, quote unquote people who wanting to have affairs. 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:38.080 But it turned out there's a great I think it's Netflix. 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:40.560 There's a great doco on it where and we unpacked 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:43.240 it on episode ages ago, but where so many of 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:46.040 the profiles that were actually on this website weren't real people, 0:10:46.120 --> 0:10:49.120 but the account, like the actual dating account, say, like 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:51.000 it was kind of like a Tinder or a Bumble. 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:53.480 They had to appear like they had so many users, 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:56.160 so so many of those users were fake accounts. Yeah, look, 0:10:56.200 --> 0:10:59.400 I mean, is it possible, yes, is it probable? 0:10:59.600 --> 0:10:59.760 No? 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:02.480 I think that that's probably two things. But also, did 0:11:02.520 --> 0:11:03.800 this girl just get stood up? 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:05.600 Highly likely, very very likely. 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:07.800 Have you ever been completely stood up on a day 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:09.319 like had a total no show? 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:13.840 I have not ever had a total no show, but 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:14.760 I've had. 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:17.480 No I actually haven't. 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:21.199 I've never people with mixed up times where I've sat there. 0:11:21.040 --> 0:11:23.360 For a long time. Did you give them another chance? 0:11:23.640 --> 0:11:24.440 I just waited for them. 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:29.800 Yeah, I don't think I would be doing I wouldn't now, 0:11:30.000 --> 0:11:31.080 you know, it's in the early days. 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:33.319 It's when you, I feel like, when you have no 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:36.360 boundaries or self respect. It was in those days you 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:38.320 let people walk all over and you're like, that's okay, 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:40.319 that's okay. Nowhries, I'll wait by the hours. Yeah, you're like, 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:41.920 I can reschedule, it's fine, even though I've been. 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:43.880 Here in my hair's done. I've never had a no show. 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:45.480 I mean, obviously it's going back so long. I've never 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:48.040 had a complete no show. But I've had people canceled 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:49.720 so last minute that they might as well have been 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:52.160 a no show. Like I've had people I'm dressed up, 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:54.480 I'm fucking like in the car about to go, and 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:56.720 then received a message off, sorry I can't make it tonight. 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:58.880 I've received that version, which I think is almost as 0:11:58.920 --> 0:12:00.520 bad as a no show, that. 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:05.160 It's almost worse, because certainly not worse. Well, people don't. 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:06.719 Know how much time it takes to get ready for 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:09.080 a date, the maker, the hair, the picking, the outfit. 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:11.120 Girls put a fake ten or they do their brows 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:12.800 like it's a whole event. 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:14.199 So then to be walking out the door. 0:12:14.240 --> 0:12:16.200 I remember putting my lipstick on once, grabbing my bag 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:17.439 out the door, and then I got the message and 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:17.839 I was like. 0:12:17.800 --> 0:12:18.640 You're fucked. 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:22.840 You can't cancel like five minutes before you're supposed to meet. 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:25.440 Okay, I definitely don't think it's worse because if you've 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:27.480 had a no show at a restaurant, then you've already 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:29.440 done all those steps, plus you got to the restaurant, 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:30.200 plus you sat down. 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:33.920 So if at least you utilized your face like someone saw. 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:36.320 It, somewhat saw it, someone saw your fit. 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:39.560 But what would you do in that instance? Would you 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:42.280 then write to them and say, like that's really uncool? 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:44.680 Would you try and plan another one? Is that like 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:45.880 one and done? Like? 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:47.520 How would you respond in that instance? 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:50.319 I would always give them a benefit of the doubt 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:53.520 in terms of let them explain, because there could be 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:55.080 a very good reason, right, I'm not going to write 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:55.840 an abusive message. 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:57.800 I'm gonna be like, hey, like I'm here and you're not. 0:12:57.880 --> 0:12:59.960 What's happening. See what their response? 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:01.920 And if I don't think it's valid, No, there's no 0:13:01.960 --> 0:13:03.440 fucking way I'm giving them another chance. 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:04.080 Absolutely not. 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:06.320 But if they were like I am so absolutely sorry, 0:13:06.440 --> 0:13:08.720 I was running and my phone fell down a drain 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:10.640 and then I tripped over a kitten and had to 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:14.079 take to the vet or whatever, then yeah, sure I'm 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.559 gonna give that person a second chance. But like people 0:13:16.600 --> 0:13:19.080 that are canceling five minutes before or just not showing up, 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:21.120 there's not a lot of excuses that cover that. 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:21.559 I don't think. 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:23.240 Because love that you just said you're going to give 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:24.840 the guy who says you tripped over a kitten and 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:26.160 had to take to a vet another chance? 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:28.680 That is about It says a lot about a character. 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:30.800 If he's looking after those animals, that's what I want. 0:13:30.920 --> 0:13:33.199 How's that one treats an animals says a lot about them? 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:36.080 Okay, I feel like maybe you're giving people a chance. 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:38.240 This actually, to me is a real revelation on your 0:13:38.320 --> 0:13:38.880 dating history. 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:41.440 Well, let's not even touch on yours. Let's get into 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:43.679 some vibes, alright. 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:46.040 I have a vibe this week which I promise after 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:49.200 this week I will stop bringing colts. 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:52.040 I will stop. I will stop with the colts. All 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:54.440 both of us do is hectic, true crime colt stuff. 0:13:54.600 --> 0:13:56.280 Well, okay, now that like work is kind of We're 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:57.720 getting to the end of the year and work is 0:13:57.840 --> 0:14:00.520 like scaling down a little bit. I am catching up 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:03.160 on all the Netflix and like PayTV shit that I've 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:04.880 not been able to watch all year. And my favorite 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:07.920 thing to watch is crazy cult documentaries. 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:10.120 I don't know why. I just find it so interesting. 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:14.240 I find it so fascinating that someone can be sucked 0:14:14.280 --> 0:14:17.760 into a world from coercive control or through manipulation, and 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:22.280 they can subscribe so deeply and fundamentally to a cult. 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:25.320 Like I just find it fascinating from a psychological perspective. 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:27.360 But this is It's on Netflix. It came out a 0:14:27.360 --> 0:14:28.920 couple of months ago, but I think it's only just 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:31.800 getting traction now. It's called Keep Sweet, Pray and Obey. 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:34.880 It's a couple of episodes. I think there's four episodes 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:37.160 in total. I watch them over two nights. Sounds like 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:41.240 the antidote to eat, pray, love, keep sweet, pray, and obey. Okay, 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:44.040 So this is all about like the rise of Warren Jeffs. 0:14:44.040 --> 0:14:48.400 So Warren Jeff's was the profit of a fundamentalist Church 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:50.480 of Jesus Christ and Later day Saints, which is like 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.840 a Mormon fundamentalist group in the States. The reason why 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:57.120 that they broke away from the main religion of being 0:14:57.160 --> 0:15:00.480 Mormons is because they believe in polygamy, and lygamy was 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:03.000 outlawed within the Mormon community. It's also against the law 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:05.720 in the United States. But this is a sect of 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:10.280 being Mormon who still very much believe in polygamy. They also, 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:14.320 because of their polygamous views, which are illegal, they live 0:15:14.360 --> 0:15:17.360 in a very closed community to hide that from the 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:19.720 rest of the world. And they I can't remember the 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:22.040 word that they used, but they have a word to 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:25.240 describe anyone who is not from their community. And the 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:27.640 way in which they raise their children so like people 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:30.360 like us, they raise them to almost think that they 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:33.120 are alien, that they are going to hell. They are 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:35.640 so sinful. You know, if you come across one, don't 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:38.320 speak to them, don't interact with them. So they keep 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:42.400 their community incredibly closed now this guy who is now 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:45.240 serving a whole lot of time in jail, like life 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:49.280 sentences in jail. It goes into the treatment of the 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:52.680 children and of the women within this Mormon cult. And 0:15:52.720 --> 0:15:54.640 I call it a cult even though it still exists now, 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:57.560 I call it a cult because of well you just 0:15:57.560 --> 0:15:58.960 watch it. I don't want to give it all away, 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:01.600 but it's really, really fucking fascinating. 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:05.040