Speaker 1: I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners on which this
Speaker 1: episode is being recorded, the combo marry people. We pay
Speaker 1: our respects to elders past, present and emerging, and extend
Speaker 1: that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples.
Speaker 1: Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the
Speaker 1: Rise and Conquer podcast. This is the podcast where we
Speaker 1: ch have mindset, self development and becoming your higher self
Speaker 1: mix soon with a lot of laughs, plus behind the
Speaker 1: scenes of my life running two businesses and being among
Speaker 1: Think of us as the perfect combo of brunch with
Speaker 1: your besties mixed with self development. No matter where you
Speaker 1: are in your journey, we're here to help you be curious,
Speaker 1: pull yourself out, and embrace radical self awareness.
Speaker 2: If you're ready to get into the.
Speaker 1: Driver's seat of your own life and stop letting life
Speaker 1: pass you by, then you're in the right place. Hello everybody,
Speaker 1: and welcome back to the potty. Today we are chatting
Speaker 1: about de romanticizing habits that are no longer serving us,
Speaker 1: And basically we chat about how important it is to
Speaker 1: you know, romanticize our lives and find the magic in
Speaker 1: the mundane. But I know that's a huge thing that
Speaker 1: we talk about on the podcast. Like with all things,
Speaker 1: there is a point where you know it might be
Speaker 1: too far.
Speaker 2: So that's what we get in today.
Speaker 1: And I know it's very easy to romanticize some habits
Speaker 1: that may not actually be serving you, like impulse buying
Speaker 1: or buying a whole new wardrobe for your euro summer
Speaker 1: because of what we're seeing on the tiki tokie. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and the social media is and I totally get it.
Speaker 1: So that's what we're going to unpack today. But before
Speaker 1: we get into it, our weekly recommendations ATIA I'm.
Speaker 3: Not allowed to do any Netflix recommendations today, but I'm
Speaker 3: gonna do one on behalf of Georgina. Are you going
Speaker 3: to call a friend? Yeah, I'm calling a friend. Call
Speaker 3: a friend and share a wreck. Georgina, do you want
Speaker 3: to come and share your recommendation with everyone?
Speaker 4: Hey, guys, I'm Georgina. I am the community manager here
Speaker 4: at R and C, and my recommendation for this week
Speaker 4: is to think about tapping into your intuition and your
Speaker 4: psychic abilities. Jamie's mum is a bit of a psychicmedian,
Speaker 4: and she did a reading for us on the weekend
Speaker 4: and she was saying, how everybody is born with this
Speaker 4: like innate ability to be really intuitive and psychic, and
Speaker 4: it's something that you have to kind of harness and
Speaker 4: tap into, as opposed to I thought people were just
Speaker 4: born with it and that's their special thing. But learning
Speaker 4: that now this is something I'm looking into. So I'm
Speaker 4: reading this book called Empower Your Inner Psychic, and it's
Speaker 4: all about kind of shutting out the outside noise and
Speaker 4: bringing out your inside voice. So something I'm loving.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: Thanks Georgina, Thank you for so.
Speaker 1: I'm also going to call a friend and Jamie, would
Speaker 1: you like to give us a weekly recommendation.
Speaker 5: Pressure Hi guys, Hi Jamie, Hi dear, how are you good?
Speaker 3: Aut you?
Speaker 5: I'm Jamie. I'm the brand and marketing manager here at
Speaker 5: rn C. My recommendation is, if there's an error in
Speaker 5: your life where you feel like you want to expand
Speaker 5: or grow or you're in it and you feel like
Speaker 5: maybe there's someone in your life who has done the
Speaker 5: thing already, just ask them for help. I've been doing
Speaker 5: that a lot lately, and I feel like I have
Speaker 5: grown so much and taken the pressure off myself of
Speaker 5: always having to have the answer and just asking people
Speaker 5: around you for help. That's my recommendation.
Speaker 3: I love it. I love it. Guys, Thanks so much
Speaker 3: for joining in on the weekly recommendations. We one hundred
Speaker 3: percent we'll call you when we don't know when we're
Speaker 3: all out.
Speaker 1: We're all so dry of recommendation. Alrighty, should we get
Speaker 1: into the episode.
Speaker 3: Let's do it all right, guys, Let's chat about how
Speaker 3: we can de romanticize habits that aren't serving us.
Speaker 1: So I think we wanted to bring you this episode
Speaker 1: because we all like we all know the trend of
Speaker 1: romanticizing your life, and I think you know that is
Speaker 1: such an incredible thing to really get lost and embrace
Speaker 1: mundane habits and activities, and that's amazing. Bits we're gonna
Speaker 1: be a bit spicy and chat about like the habits
Speaker 1: that are often romanticized that aren't maybe the best for
Speaker 1: you and can kind of, you know, put a spanner
Speaker 1: in the works of your progress. And I think the
Speaker 1: key thing here is really understanding that sometimes we can
Speaker 1: get caught up in like gen Pop's analysis of like
Speaker 1: what is a good habit and what isn't.
Speaker 2: I think the biggest thing is for me.
Speaker 1: It's really about I don't know if there's one thing
Speaker 1: you take away from this episode, I want you to realize.
Speaker 2: How unique we are.
Speaker 1: And for example, a habit that makes sense to me
Speaker 1: isn't necessarily going to make sense to a tear in
Speaker 1: her life and her season.
Speaker 2: So I think it's just.
Speaker 1: So interesting how we can get so caught up in
Speaker 1: what other people are doing. And obviously it's so normal,
Speaker 1: Like if we're getting back to you know, our primal
Speaker 1: sense of wanting to sit in that is such it's
Speaker 1: literally a primal instinct because we want to fit in
Speaker 1: with the tribe and then we don't get killed.
Speaker 2: Just like, what are we doing well? Going all the
Speaker 2: way back?
Speaker 1: Yeah, back in the day, you know, a couple of
Speaker 1: weeks ago. So that like, and that's so ingrained in us,
Speaker 1: and I totally get that.
Speaker 2: And again this chat is coming.
Speaker 1: From I got lost in a TikTok hole on Saturday night.
Speaker 1: I've rarely gone TikTok because fuck it sucks me in. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I'm on there for hours, literal hours, right, I
Speaker 1: went to bed at like a lemone, and because Tim
Speaker 1: wasn't in the bed with me, like he wasn't there
Speaker 1: to be like, get off your phone, yeah, because we
Speaker 1: usually do no phones, and I just got lost.
Speaker 2: And it's so interesting.
Speaker 1: Because I just realized, especially if you're a younger human
Speaker 1: or just a more impressionable human, so much content getting
Speaker 1: pushed out that would subconsciously go, I need to be different,
Speaker 1: I need to do life different.
Speaker 2: I need to do.
Speaker 3: This in order to be this. I need to do
Speaker 3: this in order to feel this. And I think what
Speaker 3: is happening is we're getting so lost in content in
Speaker 3: social media, in our friends' lives that we are not
Speaker 3: like listening to our intuition and listening to what is
Speaker 3: actually serving us. So true, you know, we're just we're
Speaker 3: thinking about what other people are doing and what's serving them,
Speaker 3: and we're not being just like we're not having discernment
Speaker 3: with like, oh that actually feels really good or works
Speaker 3: really well in my life. It's all these like I
Speaker 3: should do this, and if I want to be the
Speaker 3: fucking Pilates girly, I gotta do this and I've got
Speaker 3: to buy, you know.
Speaker 1: And what we don't realize is how much content that
Speaker 1: we consume, whether it's social media, whether it's you know, TV,
Speaker 1: anything like that, is how impressionable it is on us
Speaker 1: thinking we need to be a certain way or have
Speaker 1: certain habits or buy certain things, and how much is
Speaker 1: actually controlling our lives.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a bit scary, and that.
Speaker 1: It's so interesting because I went on TikTok for hours,
Speaker 1: got really lost on there.
Speaker 2: I ended up on this fucking page a tea of
Speaker 2: this couple.
Speaker 1: You can tell they kind of do like fake fights,
Speaker 1: oh or just like not fake fights. But it's like
Speaker 1: she'd always like comedic skip kind of yeah, like she'd
Speaker 1: always prank him and he'd always like react in weird ways.
Speaker 1: And I literally could not stop scrolling on that page,
Speaker 1: and I just thought, what am I doing right now?
Speaker 2: But it's funny, Okay.
Speaker 1: So before I got there, I noticed myself coming up
Speaker 1: with things like I need to produce more content, I
Speaker 1: need to produce more types of content. And I noticed
Speaker 1: this huge thing of and I obviously was able to
Speaker 1: clock myself and have awareness of like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I watched fucking TikTok for a couple.
Speaker 2: Of hours and I wanted to change how I did.
Speaker 3: That's nuts.
Speaker 1: So that's what we're talking about today because I think
Speaker 1: a lot of you may not be realizing how many
Speaker 1: habits that you are doing that you'll think you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is progression, but it's like have you just picked
Speaker 1: this up? But it's like something that's not actually progressing
Speaker 1: you or something that's not actually adding to your life.
Speaker 3: And I think just being starting to be more aware,
Speaker 3: like you obviously picked it up straight away because you're
Speaker 3: very self aware, but starting to be more aware of
Speaker 3: when things are getting programmed into and how it's making
Speaker 3: you feel. Because something I realize that TikTok made me
Speaker 3: feel not very grounded in who I am. It just
Speaker 3: it confuses me a lot when I get on TikTok
Speaker 3: and I get stuff on TikTok. So just like thinking
Speaker 3: about that too, and how things make you feel instantly,
Speaker 3: not after the fact.
Speaker 1: If you don't know who you are, or if you're
Speaker 1: like I don't even know what I want to do
Speaker 1: what I like, I challenge you to take a week
Speaker 1: off social media. It's not that's not a long amount
Speaker 1: of time, and see how you feel when you don't
Speaker 1: have a hundred different types of content coming into your brain.
Speaker 1: Like we are not meant to have that much stimulation
Speaker 1: and content in these It's confusing. If I watch TikTok
Speaker 1: every single night. I would not be the stable, self led, confident,
Speaker 1: grounded human that you hear on this podcast.
Speaker 2: I would not be.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's like.
Speaker 1: How many of you are literally watching TikTok every single night?
Speaker 3: That'd be an interesting pole. We'll pop that up on Stories.
Speaker 1: Amazing, all right, So here, let's get strayed into it.
Speaker 1: What are some habits we can de romanticize.
Speaker 3: I think something that I have seen is and I
Speaker 3: did Georgie was drinking a coffee when I did say this, fun,
Speaker 3: you know, I was like, your morning coffee. I feel
Speaker 3: like that is so something that is very romanticized, especially
Speaker 3: like getting a nice coffee, going for a walk on
Speaker 3: the beach, all that sort of stuff. But coffee first
Speaker 3: thing in the morning isn't actually good for you like salty.
Speaker 3: It's actually really bad. And even just like I think
Speaker 3: coffee and caffeine in general is very romanticized. And I
Speaker 3: love this so much, and I think one hundred percent
Speaker 3: I'm so guilty of this because I love a.
Speaker 1: Warm coffee, especially in winter. But we all know, so
Speaker 1: do you know we're not supposed to.
Speaker 3: Have caffeine for an hour and a half after we
Speaker 3: wake up because it's like that's the time that your
Speaker 3: body needs to regulate itself, so it does its own
Speaker 3: circadian rhythm.
Speaker 2: Wow, so it wakes itself up.
Speaker 1: Where if you have coffee before that hour and a half,
Speaker 1: you are training your body that it needs something to
Speaker 1: wake up. Whoa, yes, so and that's the thing is
Speaker 1: like you're supposed to just literally wake up, have water,
Speaker 1: let your body do it. Sing and then there are
Speaker 1: see I'm gonna challenge you here a tier because there
Speaker 1: are actually studies that say caffeine at the right time
Speaker 1: can actually be really great for your health.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just.
Speaker 1: Like not doing it that hour and a half and
Speaker 1: it's good to have food in your stomach, not just
Speaker 1: letting the caffeine like hit your stomach because that's when
Speaker 1: you can get like.
Speaker 2: Leaky guard and it can fuck it all up.
Speaker 3: Wow. Interesting Yeah, okay, but one hundred percent. It is
Speaker 3: so romanticized that it's like you have your coffee and
Speaker 3: I do do that, go for your morning walk and
Speaker 3: that sort of thing like first ye yeah.
Speaker 1: Another one I think is so romanticized is being busy
Speaker 1: or just or just like ticking things off and being productive.
Speaker 1: And this is coming from a very productive human who
Speaker 1: absolutely loves being productive and busy. But wait, sorry, productive
Speaker 1: not busy. But I think something that I often, you know,
Speaker 1: see especially on TikTok or reels on Instagram, is you know,
Speaker 1: the whole kicking goals and really being you know, productive
Speaker 1: and time stamps and I do this, this and this,
Speaker 1: and I think there one hundred percent is so much
Speaker 1: gain from being productive and busy, and we absolutely need
Speaker 1: to in some periods of our life, like let's just
Speaker 1: be honest, you need to go through seasons. But again,
Speaker 1: this is where you need to have this discernment of
Speaker 1: is this a season of my life where I am
Speaker 1: productive and busy because for example, for me, it isn't.
Speaker 1: And I have a small child, and it's a season
Speaker 1: for me is surrender and being present. Yeah, so I
Speaker 1: can one hundred percent if I'm on TikTok and all
Speaker 1: I see these people being you know, really productive or
Speaker 1: like kicking huge, huge work goals, which.
Speaker 3: I definitely am doing too. Yeah, but it's like that
Speaker 3: whole intention of you getting swayed because someone else is
Speaker 3: doing it. And I think something interesting that I look
Speaker 3: at is like you can be productive without being busy
Speaker 3: because For me, something I think that's really romanticized when
Speaker 3: it comes to being busy is having like twenty plans
Speaker 3: to do on the weekend, Like You've got coffee with
Speaker 3: this person, breakfast with this person, lunch with this person,
Speaker 3: dinner here, someone's birthday. Like it's something very normal that
Speaker 3: I see, especially with people with my age, to have
Speaker 3: like completely packed weekends. And I just sometimes hear that
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I'm just doing listening to that, Like.
Speaker 1: I actually like that sounds horrible to me, right, and
Speaker 1: I would never.
Speaker 3: Do that, but go off if you want to. But
Speaker 3: for me, like, that's I don't even think I'm that busy.
Speaker 3: In December when everything's on.
Speaker 1: I was I was actually chatting to one of the
Speaker 1: NH girls about this because she was saying she has
Speaker 1: a problem with just saying yes to everything on the
Speaker 1: weekend because it's almost like, well, it's the weekend, I
Speaker 1: should be making the most of it.
Speaker 2: So she'll say yes to everything.
Speaker 1: And then it gets to the end of the weekend
Speaker 1: and she's so exhausted, Yeah, and then she's like feeling
Speaker 1: resentful towards a week but then it gets close to
Speaker 1: the weekend and then she like does it again.
Speaker 2: Exactly and one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: It's almost like, especially if you are younger, almost like
Speaker 1: that fomo of missing out.
Speaker 2: So you're like, oh well, and then.
Speaker 1: You know, if you do stay home, you see your
Speaker 1: friends like at the bar or yeah, you know, at
Speaker 1: a festival or whatnot, and it can feel like, oh well,
Speaker 1: I'm only young once.
Speaker 3: That's the thing that I hear everyone say, which is
Speaker 3: so interesting. They're like, I'm only young ones, when am
Speaker 3: I going to get to do this in my life again?
Speaker 3: Like I need to make the absolute most of my
Speaker 3: weekends because my whole life can't just be work in
Speaker 3: a way that the attitude is like it already has
Speaker 3: five days of my week, why I shouldn't have the
Speaker 3: other two because you need to rest so you can
Speaker 3: go to work. And I'm like, it's interesting you say that,
Speaker 3: but you don't necessarily need to be busy the whole time,
Speaker 3: or maybe just don't be in a job where you,
Speaker 3: you know, feel five days.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, if you feel resentful to those five days, yeah,
Speaker 1: if it feels like it's not adding to your career.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and again all your life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's almost bringing in this quality of
Speaker 1: life aspect of I one hundred percent agree. But you're
Speaker 1: only young once, and look, I did all the things
Speaker 1: when I was younger.
Speaker 2: But that will come a point where.
Speaker 3: You need to kind of decide of your quality of life,
Speaker 3: and especially you're going to feel the effects if you
Speaker 3: are constantly.
Speaker 2: Saying yes to things.
Speaker 1: And this can even be like at work, like if
Speaker 1: you're constantly saying yes to things and then you're feeling
Speaker 1: like spread thin and all in the name of like
Speaker 1: being busy, and that adding to your self worth of
Speaker 1: I am productive af.
Speaker 3: Hmm, that's interesting. Another habit that I see romanticized that
Speaker 3: I might be guilty sometimes is impulsive spending and spending
Speaker 3: a lot of money. Yeah, no, I'm not too bad.
Speaker 3: But something I've seen a lot of is like my
Speaker 3: euro wardrobe, buying pieces for my euro wardrobe. We were
Speaker 3: talking about this and it's like that's it's been especially
Speaker 3: on TikTok, Like I'm pretty sure it's trending right now,
Speaker 3: is euro summer outfits, clothes, things, and people are buying
Speaker 3: entire wardrobes for a holiday, and that is being romanticized.
Speaker 3: And I don't actually think that's good because it's not
Speaker 3: sustainable and it's not normal either to just buy something
Speaker 3: to wear on holiday and then you wouldn't wear it
Speaker 3: every day anyway. Oh my god, I actually or using
Speaker 3: the clothes you already have. I won't say where I
Speaker 3: heard this or who it was, but yes, a person
Speaker 3: I know is going to Europe and she was like,
Speaker 3: oh yeah, and so I just bought like a whole
Speaker 3: bunch of things, like a whole new wardrobe off Sheen
Speaker 3: because I know I'm just gonna like wear it and
Speaker 3: trash it and then never wear it again.
Speaker 2: And I literally was like, no, stop.
Speaker 1: You literally know I own a sustainable comedy and I'm like, yeah, look,
Speaker 1: you do whatever you want. Yeah, but even that mentality
Speaker 1: is so interesting because it is so impulsive, and I
Speaker 1: feel like that's just such a young brain mentality.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think obviously not everyone will have the
Speaker 3: means to buy clothes from places that maybe Sheen is affordable.
Speaker 3: But if you're buying machine only because you want to
Speaker 3: wear it once and trash it, well that's yeah.
Speaker 2: I have nothing against Sheen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well maybe I do, but yeah, that even mentality,
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, that's so interesting, and I think, like,
Speaker 1: like you said it to you it's not actually I in
Speaker 1: saying that, Like, for example, I'm going to Queenstown and
Speaker 1: I had to buy ski gear because I literally don't
Speaker 1: own ski gear and we're gonna be going skiing, so
Speaker 1: like stuff like that. I get, you know, I get
Speaker 1: that because it's like, well, I actually don't own this,
Speaker 1: but like you live in Queensland, you have summer clothes.
Speaker 2: I'm sure you have some clothes.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm not saying don't buy like one or
Speaker 3: two or three nice outfits or something, have something new,
Speaker 3: but you don't need a whole new wardrobe. And I
Speaker 3: think that's what I've been seeing.
Speaker 2: Here's well, here's the cracker. I don't know if I
Speaker 2: used that right. One hundred percent.
Speaker 1: If you can affallen and it aligns with your values
Speaker 1: to buy a whole new wardrobe, go and do whatever
Speaker 1: you want.
Speaker 2: We are not judging here.
Speaker 1: You do you, but in this context, I know also
Speaker 1: the people who are buying a whole new wardrobe are
Speaker 1: you know, putting it on a credit card. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: they cannot afford it, and.
Speaker 3: It's not good.
Speaker 2: Well, it's just like a h undred percent.
Speaker 1: I want you to feel amazing on your holiday, but
Speaker 1: just be able to take a step back and be like, well,
Speaker 1: are you just buying it because you're seeing all this content.
Speaker 3: On TikTok and you want to make some content too.
Speaker 1: I didn't even think of that, but a great point
Speaker 1: a tear and it's like, you're seeing this content on TikTok,
Speaker 1: or you know you're getting we can get so like lost, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we can get so lost and encompassed. And that's exactly
Speaker 1: how I felt on Saturday night when I went on
Speaker 1: TikTok and I questioned myself and I was like, maybe
Speaker 1: I need to do this, Maybe I need to this,
Speaker 1: this and this. Yeah, and it's so and you know
Speaker 1: what's interesting, we're kind of talking about this.
Speaker 2: But I love Sophia Richie.
Speaker 3: We love her.
Speaker 2: She's amazing. But it's like I even felt myself.
Speaker 1: I was like, well, maybe I need to buy some
Speaker 1: motion now.
Speaker 3: And I know what you mean. This is coming from
Speaker 3: a human, like I can afford it, yeah, and it's
Speaker 3: not like I'm putting on a credit card. But also
Speaker 3: I was like, but do I or is this just
Speaker 3: me wanting to be Sophie and Ritchie and actually having
Speaker 3: to be like I get to actually lock in and
Speaker 3: know what I want, and one hundred cent I might
Speaker 3: go and do it an amazing yeah bit, just having
Speaker 3: that self awareness of do I just want to have
Speaker 3: this habit or do this thing because that's what I
Speaker 3: think the whole world is doing.
Speaker 2: Actually does your algorithm.
Speaker 3: It's nuts because I think just on the TikTok that ye.
Speaker 1: Tell us, like what your algorithm gives you on TikTok?
Speaker 1: What are you in the world of TikTok?
Speaker 3: Lots of that girl really well, not lots, fair amount.
Speaker 3: I get a fair amount of formula one ed.
Speaker 2: It's just do I think I watched the videos for
Speaker 2: like a second deal of myself read or no, why
Speaker 2: a tear?
Speaker 3: And then I get a lot of I'll get like
Speaker 3: motivational speakers splice through which I do enjoy, and then
Speaker 3: a lot of like talking to camera of people talking
Speaker 3: about manifesting or human design or all of that. That
Speaker 3: sort of stuff I do get quite a bit of,
Speaker 3: but I do try to just like stay off TikTok.
Speaker 3: So usually when I end up on there, it's mainly
Speaker 3: fan edits of like Harry Potter or things that I
Speaker 3: like because I've someone sent me a video that they
Speaker 3: know I'll like and then that's just sort of formed
Speaker 3: my algorithm because I do really make a concerted effort
Speaker 3: not to spend too much time on there. But something
Speaker 3: I do notice on TikTok is like you'll hear someone
Speaker 3: talk about like multiple income streams and how they've built them,
Speaker 3: and you'll just go, I want to do that. I
Speaker 3: want to do that. I want to do affiliate marketing,
Speaker 3: I want to do investing, I want to do this,
Speaker 3: I want to do this, And you're getting so influenced
Speaker 3: and pulled in all these different directions you just get
Speaker 3: so overwhelmed. Maybe specific example, but I love it. No,
Speaker 3: that's exactly what happened to me. And like I said,
Speaker 3: I'm like a fucking very stable human, and I was like,
Speaker 3: maybe I should create content in this certain way. And
Speaker 3: I had to get off and like slap myself and
Speaker 3: be like no, Georgia, you just do you and that's perfect.
Speaker 3: But I can really understand why we're falling into these
Speaker 3: traps of like not honoring ourselves, or thinking we have
Speaker 3: to be a certain way me and a tear, or
Speaker 3: even saying like we know the trend on TikTok of
Speaker 3: like soft girl error, yeah, which I do love because
Speaker 3: I'm almost in my self girl era of like slowing
Speaker 3: down and surrendering and that's amazing. But for example, what
Speaker 3: about if you're someone and you're a startup and it's
Speaker 3: your first been in hustle right now? Yeah, yeah, and
Speaker 3: you can be like, oh, well, you know, I really
Speaker 3: should be my self girl era. No, you shouldn't exactly,
Speaker 3: But it's like having the discernment of knowing where you're
Speaker 3: at and what you need and not getting like swayed easily. Yes,
Speaker 3: so important. Maybe we can go through some tips we
Speaker 3: have for people to like de romanticize these habits or
Speaker 3: things that they're feeling pulled to because of things like
Speaker 3: totok or Instagram or wherever they're consuming it. So I
Speaker 3: think it's just taking an honest look at your habits
Speaker 3: or what ideal ideals you are playing into and ask
Speaker 3: yourself if they are serving you.
Speaker 2: And your goal and your.
Speaker 1: What I'm wanting, the feeling I'm wanting right now in
Speaker 1: your life or are you just wrapped up and what
Speaker 1: other people are doing.
Speaker 3: I love that one. I think the second one I
Speaker 3: would say, I know we have touched on it a
Speaker 3: lot previously, but have a look at what's actually causing
Speaker 3: you to feel this way about this habit? Is it?
Speaker 3: Is it TikTok? Is it a movie you watched? Is
Speaker 3: it something in the news going around? Is it someone
Speaker 3: you follow on Instagram that's doing the same thing and
Speaker 3: you look up to them. Where are these narratives coming from?
Speaker 3: And actually be objective as to whether it's good for
Speaker 3: you or not. Like you say, you limit the Yeah,
Speaker 3: and if you need to limit that consumption from those
Speaker 3: creators or those people or that TV show so that
Speaker 3: you don't get swayed. Yeah, I think the next tip
Speaker 3: I would say is know the season that you're in.
Speaker 3: So again, I have been really challenged this year with
Speaker 3: at the start of the year, I you know, have
Speaker 3: told everyone and being very honest about I'm a season
Speaker 3: of surrender and being present because of coming.
Speaker 1: Off a year where I said yes to way too
Speaker 1: many things and I got caught up and I didn't
Speaker 1: like how it made me feel. So I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: this year is present surrender and that's what I'm sticking to.
Speaker 1: And I have had many challenges of shiny things coming
Speaker 1: along my way, you know, opportunities, exciting projects, and me
Speaker 1: having to use a lot of discernment of what season
Speaker 1: am I in and am I honoring that? So you
Speaker 1: think a big thing is if you don't know, it's like,
Speaker 1: get clear what season are you in and how long
Speaker 1: is it so you can make decisions of what you
Speaker 1: kind of take on and if these habits are serving
Speaker 1: you or not in this season.
Speaker 3: I love that. The next thing I would say is
Speaker 3: look at the people you're surrounding yourself with and communicating
Speaker 3: with and their habits, because that is a You're the
Speaker 3: whole thing of your the average of the five people
Speaker 3: around you. So what are they doing that that may
Speaker 3: or may not be influencing you subconsciously? Like if you
Speaker 3: talk to a friend who goes for a walk every
Speaker 3: morning first thing in the morning, you're a lot more
Speaker 3: likely to be able to go for walks in the
Speaker 3: morning than you are if your friends sleep in till
Speaker 3: I don't know, eight am or whatever it is. So
Speaker 3: have a look at those people around you and are
Speaker 3: they doing things you want to emulate. If they are,
Speaker 3: talk to them more about it and maybe even try
Speaker 3: and buddy up on habits, and if they're not, maybe
Speaker 3: put that energetic boundary in in your mind. When it
Speaker 3: comes to when you're talking to them and just being
Speaker 3: super aware of what they're saying and how it's influencing you,
Speaker 3: and even maybe find people that are doing the habits
Speaker 3: you want to do. If you're in a season where
Speaker 3: you need to be in a bit more of a hustle,
Speaker 3: maybe find some people that are also in a bit
Speaker 3: of a hustle season so that when you're talking to
Speaker 3: each other, you're feeling that energy. And it makes such
Speaker 3: a big difference because it's so much harder for you
Speaker 3: to be in a hustle season when you're best friends
Speaker 3: in her soft girl era than it is to have
Speaker 3: someone that's also in their hustle season. So I think
Speaker 3: that's something super important to keep in mind.
Speaker 1: I love that, And just kind of adding on that too,
Speaker 1: is in saying that, for example, if you are in
Speaker 1: a hustle season, is you need to keep checking in
Speaker 1: with yourself of when you shift out because if you're
Speaker 1: constantly hustle season, you're going to get burnt out and
Speaker 1: that's not the vibe. Yeah, So it's also check in,
Speaker 1: Like that's why I love doing a monthly order. It's like, oh,
Speaker 1: am I still feeling into this end goal? Am I
Speaker 1: still feeling into this season. Does something need to shift?
Speaker 1: Does something need to change? And again this is such
Speaker 1: great locking into your self power and yourself like your discernment,
Speaker 1: which is such a huge asset to have, of you
Speaker 1: knowing when to shift, not fucking when your algorithm shifts
Speaker 1: and the new shift, Like don't just do selt.
Speaker 2: Girl error because it's on your TikTok.
Speaker 3: That's so true.
Speaker 1: So my next tip would be to challenge yourself to
Speaker 1: break the cycle by you know, experimenting with alternative behaviors.
Speaker 1: I have a great example of this of I, like
Speaker 1: Jim in the morning for me is just second nature.
Speaker 1: I have no issues getting up at you know, four
Speaker 1: o'clock and doing a five AMPT That is just very
Speaker 1: easy to me and I don't even have to think
Speaker 1: twice about it. But there was a moment there where
Speaker 1: I was like, hang on, is this serving me? Or
Speaker 1: am I just doing it because I've always done it?
Speaker 1: Or you know that's all that I see on TikTok
Speaker 1: and Instagram. And so I had to really check in
Speaker 1: with myself. And that's why, for example, Tia, I really
Speaker 1: experimented with the afternoon petise. Yeah, because again I don't
Speaker 1: like you don't know what you don't know. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I made sure. I was like, cool, I'm actually gonna
Speaker 1: check this out.
Speaker 3: And what I found was it was such a great
Speaker 3: period to break up my day so I could switch
Speaker 3: off when I came home. But then it did come
Speaker 3: with challenges of sometimes feeling like rushed in the afternoon,
Speaker 3: like approving stuff for the team, yeah, or those sorts
Speaker 3: of certain things, and like feeling a bit rush in
Speaker 3: saying that it was kind of good because it always
Speaker 3: got me out of the door on time. Yeah, So
Speaker 3: again it's just like experiment, try something different. If you're
Speaker 3: feeling like I don't know if this is serving me
Speaker 3: or not, switch it up a bit in saying that
Speaker 3: when you switch it up, you do have to try
Speaker 3: it for a good couple weeks, because you know, my
Speaker 3: first afternoon PT I hated it because I was like, ugh,
Speaker 3: I've got no energy and I fucking didn't get to
Speaker 3: approve something.
Speaker 2: Else I don't know, blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but then I did it for a bit longer
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh, this is actually really.
Speaker 2: Good, and give yourself that time.
Speaker 3: I love that. The next one I think is just
Speaker 3: be a bit kind to yourself and recognize the breaking
Speaker 3: habits that you've had for a long time, or that
Speaker 3: you've consumed a lot of content around to make you
Speaker 3: think that it's a good thing is hard, Like it
Speaker 3: is hard to maybe step out of soft girl era
Speaker 3: and into hustle culture if you realize that's the season
Speaker 3: you need to be in, when everything around you for
Speaker 3: so long has been channeled towards soft girl or slower energy,
Speaker 3: and give yourself that time to first transition into it
Speaker 3: and then actually feel into it after to decide if
Speaker 3: it's right for you or not, and don't be scared
Speaker 3: to sort of just keep trying until you find something
Speaker 3: that fits, Like just because you've decided you now want
Speaker 3: to shift into a househole season. If you try and
Speaker 3: it just does not feel right at all, there's no
Speaker 3: shame in taking things a little bit slower or shifting
Speaker 3: into something different. Yeah, yeah, I think I think that
Speaker 3: is the key, Like, the whole key message of this
Speaker 3: episode is don't be scared of trying something different, don't
Speaker 3: be scared of leaning into what you're feeling. But the
Speaker 3: thing is you need to trust yourself, Like if it's
Speaker 3: not serving you or if it's not working, stop trying
Speaker 3: to you know, go hard on it and make it work.
Speaker 3: It's like you need to work with your body, you
Speaker 3: need to work with the universe.
Speaker 2: You need I truly believe.
Speaker 3: It's like when there's always that initial period where you
Speaker 3: change and it feels uncomfortable, but it's like, when something
Speaker 3: is right, it.
Speaker 2: Should feel good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it should feel easy and flowy, especially when you're
Speaker 3: locking into your intuition and what you want to do
Speaker 3: and what's serving you.
Speaker 2: Like you will know when you're like, oh, yeah, this
Speaker 2: is the thing.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So if it's not feeling like that obviously, apart
Speaker 3: from the initial being uncomfortable, it's like you get to
Speaker 3: shift and change. You don't have to just stay in
Speaker 3: that season because everyone on fucking TikTok is. Yeah. And
Speaker 3: I think when it's so easy to forget and it's
Speaker 3: something I forget sometimes too. Is I feel like nowadays,
Speaker 3: if you say you're doing something, it's almost like you
Speaker 3: have to no matter.
Speaker 2: What, and people aren't see it out.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you have to see it out, and people aren't
Speaker 3: allowed to be fluid and change their mind or realize
Speaker 3: halfway that they don't like something. It's like almost that
Speaker 3: you can't realize you don't like it until you've finished.
Speaker 3: But I think it's okay to realize you don't like
Speaker 3: something before you finished it, and it's okay to change.
Speaker 3: And that will be uncomfortable because it's not something that's
Speaker 3: necessarily normalized yet, but allowing yourself to do that with
Speaker 3: your habits, I.
Speaker 2: Love that so much.
Speaker 3: That is such a great point to finish on.
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