1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: The Wiggles acknowledge the traditional custodians of country throughout Australia 2 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:07,800 Speaker 1: and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay 3 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:10,639 Speaker 1: our respects to elders, past, present and emerging. 4 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:23,040 Speaker 2: Welcome to wiggle Talk, a podcast for parents. I'm Simon Price, 5 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 2: I'm from the Wiggles and I'm a red one. 6 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 3: Hello, I am lucky. I am from the Wiggles. Can 7 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:33,199 Speaker 3: I'm a purple one? And it's lovely to be here, Simon. 8 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:34,560 Speaker 2: Here it always is, isn't it lucky? 9 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 3: Question? Yes, have you tried bulletproof coffee? 10 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 4: No? 11 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 2: I never have. Now I know that you have been 12 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 2: a bulletproof fan for a while, but on and off 13 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:46,200 Speaker 2: I believe. I don't think you haven't been consistent. 14 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:47,519 Speaker 3: On and off only because I'm drinking one at the 15 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 3: moment and I just made me think. I don't think 16 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:52,279 Speaker 3: you ever have. But this one's a sashet sache and 17 00:00:52,320 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 3: on the back it says something about long lasting energy 18 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 3: and it says shred Really. Yes, I feel like I'm shredding. 19 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 3: But yeah, I tend not to have breaky, but I 20 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 3: have a coffee. 21 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 2: Now, this is what Can you just talk through the bulletproof. 22 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 3: Yes, it's black coffee with a bit of MCT oil, right, 23 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:13,399 Speaker 3: which is I think a highly highly something. 24 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 2: No idea what you're putting into your body? 25 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 3: This is oils and well normally a bit of butter. 26 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:22,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's what I thought. If you put butter 27 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 2: and keep it? Do you put butter in it? Like 28 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 2: this is a sahetet all that stuff in it? 29 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,400 Speaker 3: Well, it definitely has a powdered coconut oil. 30 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 4: Okay, it's quite good anyway. 31 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 2: It keeps you in the past. You've got your livy 32 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 2: little bit of coffee, you've got your little automout of things, 33 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 2: and you've got you a bit of butter and you 34 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 2: oil and you use it up and down. 35 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 3: And yeah, yeah it's quite yummy. 36 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 2: And do you feel like it sustains you? 37 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 3: I think so? Yeah, mentally very shy. 38 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 2: Has it kicked in yet? 39 00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 4: I've tried the class? I hope it has. For our 40 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 4: next question, let's see make double weigle. 41 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 3: Talk Talk Talk weigle Talk. 42 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:17,399 Speaker 2: It's Dear Wiggles, authorized by Simon Locke. 43 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 3: Okay, ready, Simon, what's this. It's time for Dear Wiggles, 44 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 3: where we take your questions and parenting dilemmas, and together 45 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 3: we try to help. Now, today's question is one of 46 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 3: those classic questions that toddlers love to throw at you, 47 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 3: super easy for them to ask, but not actually so 48 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 3: easy for parents to answer. And Christine has written in 49 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:36,840 Speaker 3: and she. 50 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 2: Says, you keep going Lock, You're doing very well. 51 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:41,960 Speaker 3: Thank you, Simon, Hello, Simon and Lockey. My daughter who 52 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 3: is for has started asking for a baby brother or 53 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 3: sister every single day. The thing is, we've been trying 54 00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 3: for a while and it just hasn't happened yet. Sometimes 55 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 3: I brush it off, but other times it really stings, 56 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 3: and I don't know what to say. How do you 57 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 3: talk to your children about siblings when you don't have 58 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 3: all the answers yourselves. Thank you for your help, Christine. 59 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 3: That is a tricky, very tricky question, isn't it? 60 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 2: Is it on the Sashet packet? No, it's not. Unfortunately, 61 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:13,399 Speaker 2: that is a really tricky one. We've had this recently 62 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:17,919 Speaker 2: with Asher because a lot of his friends either have 63 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 2: little siblings. Now. Ash's turning five in January, so a 64 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 2: lot of his friends have sort of two year old 65 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 2: sort of brothers or sisters. So he's actually asking the 66 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 2: same thing about if he will have a brother or sister, 67 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 2: and we would love We're telling him we would love 68 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 2: for him to have a brother or sister, and we 69 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 2: hope that we can. But we love our family who 70 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 2: we are now with him as our child, and if 71 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 2: that's the family that we have for the rest of 72 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 2: our lives, and we are incredibly grateful and happy. So 73 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 2: we kind of frame it that way and let him 74 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 2: know that we understand what he's asking and that we 75 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,839 Speaker 2: would like to have one ourselves, and it's something we're 76 00:03:57,840 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 2: thinking and talking about. 77 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 3: I really love that. I think that's that's a really 78 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 3: nice point to make to him, is that how nice 79 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 3: the family is now and he gets all the time 80 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 3: with mummy, and of course they can't understand that difficulty 81 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 3: of what it would be like with a baby in 82 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 3: the house. He gets kind of they can't understand that. 83 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 3: Of course, they want someone to play with and you 84 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 3: can't play with a baby for quite a long time, 85 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 3: and there's all those things you probably don't need to explain. 86 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:25,359 Speaker 3: I really like that that you this is what we've got. 87 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 3: And of course it's so many tricky questions from children 88 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 3: you just can't go too deep into them, but you 89 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:31,280 Speaker 3: can also just be honest with them. 90 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think sometimes we try to sugarcoat those answers 91 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 2: sometimes about where the babies come from or and sometimes 92 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,120 Speaker 2: it's okay just to be quite matter of fact about it, 93 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 2: I think and actually give. Like Asher the other day 94 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:49,600 Speaker 2: picked up a tampon of losses, what's this for? I 95 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:52,240 Speaker 2: was like, okay, well, this is what it's for, and 96 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:54,760 Speaker 2: I just went through this is what it's for, this 97 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 2: is this is why mummy has it, this is what 98 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:58,719 Speaker 2: it's used for. He was like, oh okay, and he 99 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 2: was happy. Yeah, of trying to kind of work around it, 100 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 2: to work through it, And I know it's not always 101 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 2: that easy sometimes, especially when the question can be hurtful 102 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 2: for you too. If you're so desperately wanting a child 103 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 2: and it's not happening how you'd like it too, it 104 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 2: can sting, you know, and so it is quite tricky 105 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 2: to work through those emotions yourself. 106 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 3: There's something in that though, too. Isn't there that exact 107 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:26,840 Speaker 3: example for us parents going through fertility or timing or 108 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:30,599 Speaker 3: relationship circumstances or financial realities of having a second child. 109 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:34,119 Speaker 3: That child asking isn't thinking about any of those things. 110 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 3: You explained for him what a tampon's for. And it's 111 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 3: that simple. I know, you think in his head okay, 112 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 3: which is the same as saying it's not happening at 113 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:46,359 Speaker 3: the moment, he doesn't have that sting in him. No, 114 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 3: for him, it's just a simple oh, okay, well that's 115 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 3: good for him. Yeah, you don't have to go into 116 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,440 Speaker 3: the trickiness of certain situations. 117 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:56,479 Speaker 2: But I know, and I think it's important for parents 118 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 2: to as much as you're wanting to have it happen 119 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 2: your self, is not to feel guilty that you're not 120 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:06,800 Speaker 2: able to do it for your other child you've got 121 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 2: nothing going on, to not layer all that on top 122 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:11,840 Speaker 2: of it as well, because they're just like you're saying, look, 123 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 2: he's asking you a very simple question without understanding all 124 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:17,720 Speaker 2: the repercussions of what that can be emotional for you, 125 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:20,040 Speaker 2: and you know the knock on effect of all that. 126 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 2: How was it when Jasper, for you found out that 127 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:26,279 Speaker 2: you and Danna were going to have well twins? 128 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 3: That was a wild, wild one because that was during 129 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 3: COVID and so just Be didn't meet his siblings for 130 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 3: six weeks after because he was with his dad. So 131 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:38,240 Speaker 3: that was a whole other you know, trying to FaceTime 132 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 3: with mummy with oh wow, someone else. It's like, here 133 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 3: we go have a look at that. So that was 134 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 3: that was wild. But he's all kids are different, but 135 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:47,679 Speaker 3: he's very much now that the girls are a bit older, 136 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 3: loves it. Absolutely not when they were babies and that 137 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 3: was a big moment for him, but now that they're 138 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 3: older and can play, he can really he gets a 139 00:06:55,279 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 3: lot out of it. But yeah, that's a whole thing 140 00:06:57,360 --> 00:07:00,679 Speaker 3: when you bring someone else home and we got a puppy, 141 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 3: and I was quite surprised with the children's reaction with 142 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 3: a dolt and how much that kind of three things out. Yeah, okay, 143 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 3: there's always always fun little moments to work through. 144 00:07:12,200 --> 00:07:15,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, And look, I think overall, too, if you think 145 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 2: about the bigger picture, it's a chance for you to 146 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 2: open up and have a conversation with your child about 147 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 2: that families are different, families can look different. You can 148 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 2: have two mums, you're gonna have two dads. They could 149 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:26,760 Speaker 2: be five children, there can be one child. It's actually 150 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 2: a really nice way to kind of open up that 151 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 2: conversation about the differences within families. But I think ultimately 152 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 2: keep bringing you back to how grateful we are for 153 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:39,760 Speaker 2: the family that we have, and I think that's kind 154 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 2: of you know, it might not stop them asking every day, 155 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 2: and it might not stop the sting, but I think 156 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:48,720 Speaker 2: it can be. If it's an open dialogue and open 157 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 2: conversation about all facets of what family life is and 158 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 2: how different it can be, maybe that helps. Well, Lucky, 159 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 2: I've got to say the old bulletproof coffee, you have 160 00:07:58,520 --> 00:08:00,400 Speaker 2: got fire? How you at it? 161 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:04,280 Speaker 3: Thank you Christine for that question and we hope that 162 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 3: did help. But that is all for today's dear Wiggles. 163 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 2: Yes, that's right. If you've got a question, Parrington dilemma 164 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 2: or even just something funny you want to want us 165 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,080 Speaker 2: to mull over, send us a voice note at the 166 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 2: Wiggles dot com slash podcast or drop us an email 167 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 2: at podcasts at the Wiggles dot com dot au. 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