Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to Outspoken. It's your dose of the
Speaker 1: hottest influencer and pop culture news twice a week. I'm
Speaker 1: Sophie Torba and coming up on today's show, the TikTok
Speaker 1: couple forced to flee their new home, Why Sky Wheatley
Speaker 1: can't stop complimenting strangers, and Zoe Haig's surprise wedding budget.
Speaker 1: But first, Sarah's Day is livid with her husband Kurt
Speaker 1: for his night our antics. A pregnant Sarah, who is
Speaker 1: a self confessed early bird, says she's been led astray
Speaker 1: by his late night routine. I let it happen again
Speaker 1: my best friend aka night Our husband infiltrated my night
Speaker 1: and has effectively ruined my day.
Speaker 2: Yep, room him. He has ruined my day. I know
Speaker 2: I'm in charge of my own bedtime. Like I am
Speaker 2: thirty one years old, I'm twenty seven weeks pregnant.
Speaker 1: But like I just I have fomo if he's awake
Speaker 1: at midnight.
Speaker 2: I don't want to be awake at midnight, but like
Speaker 2: I want to chat.
Speaker 1: Sarah went on to say how terrible she was feeling
Speaker 1: with the lack of quality sleep, and it made her
Speaker 1: reflect on the fact that she is going to be
Speaker 1: feeling shit like this all the time when baby number
Speaker 1: three is here and she's doing overnight feeds. I'm always
Speaker 1: curious to find out what different couples do when it
Speaker 1: comes to their sleeping habits, because my partner, he tends
Speaker 1: to go to bed a lot earlier than me. I'm
Speaker 1: kurt in this situation. I am the night out, but it.
Speaker 3: Seems to work for us.
Speaker 1: When I first moved in with Brandon, I thought I'd
Speaker 1: be like you and be staying up late and he'd
Speaker 1: be going to bed early. But we have this routine
Speaker 1: where we go to bed at the same time. And
Speaker 1: I think that's because we watch the same shows. We'll
Speaker 1: give each other shows a go so you don't feel
Speaker 1: like you have to be staying up late to get
Speaker 1: finally a turn to watch your show.
Speaker 3: But it's more so.
Speaker 1: Sometimes he starts as early as four point thirty in
Speaker 1: the morning, or I mean most mornings he'll get to
Speaker 1: work at about six am, so he goes to bed
Speaker 1: super early, and I'm just I'm not about that.
Speaker 3: No, I couldn't do that.
Speaker 1: I think you can suddenly become a morning person. No,
Speaker 1: I don't think so. I think you were either born
Speaker 1: a night hour or a morning person, and it's very,
Speaker 1: very difficult to change me.
Speaker 4: After realizing that everything I own is being stolen.
Speaker 1: Popular TikTok couple Isabel Peltz and Mitch O'Leary have been
Speaker 1: forced to flee their new home after just three nights.
Speaker 1: The couple were targeted by thieves who broke into their
Speaker 1: home whilst they were at an influencer event in Sydney
Speaker 1: now Amy. For those who haven't heard of the couple,
Speaker 1: what are they best known for? Well, they went viral
Speaker 1: on TikTok last year after they shared a video each
Speaker 1: morning of them dancing to wake up via the vamps
Speaker 1: and this song is all about seizing the day and
Speaker 1: being grateful for what you have. They now boast over
Speaker 1: six hundred thousand followers on TikTok and are known for
Speaker 1: their fun, positive content.
Speaker 5: So.
Speaker 1: Isabelle is just nineteen and she works as an influencer,
Speaker 1: so she's done collaborations with brands like Beginning Boutique and
Speaker 1: pepper Mao Whilse. Mitch is twenty two and he owns
Speaker 1: Popular Street where brand outdated Now. They used to live
Speaker 1: in Queensland, but they recently moved to Adelaide. That's a
Speaker 1: weird decision as an Adelaide person, Why when you're building
Speaker 1: an influencer career would you move from Brisbane to Adelaide
Speaker 1: Because there are not that many pr opportunities here.
Speaker 2: We don't have.
Speaker 1: Big influencer events. It's a very small influencer community. Arguably
Speaker 1: a lot of the influencers in Adelaide don't have many
Speaker 1: genuine folds. I think Mitch is originally from Adelaide, so
Speaker 1: that was part of their decision. So just last week,
Speaker 1: isabel shared a series of tiktoks which she dubbed her
Speaker 1: Moving Diaries, and she took followers along the journey of
Speaker 1: moving into their new rental. And isabel not only showed
Speaker 1: shots of the interior of the house, but also the exterior,
Speaker 1: including vision of.
Speaker 3: Their house number.
Speaker 1: Now I won't say what suburb it is in Adelaide,
Speaker 1: just in case they choose to live around there again.
Speaker 3: But if you know the.
Speaker 1: Area, you would have been able to instantly identify where
Speaker 1: it was. Now thieves took their chance when Isabelle shared
Speaker 1: that she and Mitch were heading to Sydney for an
Speaker 1: influencer event, and when the couple returned home, they found
Speaker 1: their bedroom window had been smashed, and bizarrely, only Mitch's
Speaker 1: belongings had been stolen.
Speaker 3: Let's have a listen to what went down.
Speaker 6: If you did this, I don't know what Mitch did
Speaker 6: to you, but thanks to.
Speaker 7: Leaving my staff for someone obviously, but anyway, enjoy everything
Speaker 7: that you stole of mine in the house. So yeah,
Speaker 7: Mitch pretty much doesn't really have much to his name
Speaker 7: at the minute.
Speaker 4: One thing they didn't steal my humor, I didn't take
Speaker 4: that on now.
Speaker 1: Thieves also took Mitch's spare key to his you and
Speaker 1: whilst they didn't steal the car, they did access it
Speaker 1: and they took coins and the sunglasses he'd left in there.
Speaker 3: They did leave one pair.
Speaker 1: They were joking that maybe they weren't the robbers type.
Speaker 1: This is reminding me of when Shiny Grimman got robbed
Speaker 1: because the thieves had her car keys, so in this
Speaker 1: instance it meant they could come back and use her
Speaker 1: car whenever they wanted. But they also left random things
Speaker 1: that weren't to their liking. It makes me feel like
Speaker 1: these it's a gang of very young people.
Speaker 3: I wonder if it has.
Speaker 1: Something to do with Mitch's business success because I see
Speaker 1: those outdated hoodies everywhere, so people would be jealous of it.
Speaker 1: I don't think they're necessarily doing it and targeting him
Speaker 1: because they're jealous of him. I think they just saw
Speaker 1: an opportunity and thought, well, if he's running this successful brand,
Speaker 1: he probably has a lot of cash.
Speaker 3: And it was pretty easy for.
Speaker 1: Them because they've been brazen enough to put where they live.
Speaker 1: They you know, you just go to real estate dot
Speaker 1: com you can figure out where most rentals are. You
Speaker 1: would stem from jealousy, though, people would see that a
Speaker 1: lot of these influencers have a lot of flashy things,
Speaker 1: and then they're jealous, so people want to break in.
Speaker 3: And steal it.
Speaker 1: I think that it's either the jealousy or it's maybe
Speaker 1: the thieves got disturbed and they had just started taking
Speaker 1: Mitch's stuff, because you can see in the vision that
Speaker 1: there's a few socks and different items that are just
Speaker 1: strewn all over their driveways, so it's clear the thieves
Speaker 1: left in a hurry.
Speaker 3: My favorite part of this story.
Speaker 1: Though, is the fact that Mitch and Isabelle decided to
Speaker 1: set up their own sting, so they put up a
Speaker 1: series of fake posts saying that they were heading back
Speaker 1: into state following the robbery to see if the thieves
Speaker 1: would return. It's clever, but it's also dangerous because they
Speaker 1: were almost sitting ducks waiting for thieves thieves to return
Speaker 1: and potentially I mean, stats show that most home invasions
Speaker 1: do turn vile. Well, they shared a TikTok days later
Speaker 1: and it showed them giggling in bed as they armed
Speaker 1: themselves with household items to protect themselves.
Speaker 3: Let's have a listen.
Speaker 6: So Mitchell's weapon of choice is hammer, so we've gotten
Speaker 6: this podcast or everything else? Mine mine is two screen
Speaker 6: and enough that was used to cut up your state.
Speaker 1: And now they were clearly joking, but this gives me
Speaker 1: so much anxiety. Because the thieves had the keys to
Speaker 1: Mitch's car, it was likely they were going to return.
Speaker 1: I know it's supposed to be a joke, but generally
Speaker 1: with home invasions, the people in the home generally get
Speaker 1: the weapons turned back on them and things escalate from there. Well,
Speaker 1: the scariest thing is the robbers actually did return, So
Speaker 1: poor Mitch and Isabel were woken in the middle of
Speaker 1: the night by the sound of multiple people trying to
Speaker 1: break into the house. However, once the robbers realized the
Speaker 1: couple were inside, they fled and there hasn't been any
Speaker 1: update yet from Essay Police about whether any arrests have
Speaker 1: been made, did they set up any security cameras or
Speaker 1: anything like that. Don't understand why you would antagonize someone
Speaker 1: but then not have a proper plan of attack, because
Speaker 1: in this situation, they haven't caught anyone on camera robbing
Speaker 1: from them. They've just put themselves in a dangerous situation.
Speaker 1: There's no police action taking place, and subsequently it sounds
Speaker 1: like they've been forced to move out of this rental
Speaker 1: and go and find safety else.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, we've spoken in the past about influencers like Molly
Speaker 1: May and Chloe Zett being robbed, and I'm just so
Speaker 1: surprised that influencers continue to share so many identifiable features
Speaker 1: about their houses online.
Speaker 3: It's a double edged sword.
Speaker 1: Though, because I can see from the perspective of an influencer,
Speaker 1: it's great to take your followers on a journey with you,
Speaker 1: and it's relatable to be moving into a new rental
Speaker 1: into state.
Speaker 3: However, just think you need to be careful.
Speaker 1: Don't ever show the outside of your house don't ever
Speaker 1: show your house number, don't ever identify which suburb you
Speaker 1: live in. Those things are crucial because people will take
Speaker 1: advantage of you. Well, they clearly were foolish for doing that,
Speaker 1: but we've got to remember they're nineteen and twenty two.
Speaker 1: And I have to say I hadn't heard of them
Speaker 1: until I saw this story pop up, and I actually
Speaker 1: quite like them from watching their tiktoks. They seem really positive,
Speaker 1: like they weren't winging about it. You know, sometimes when
Speaker 1: something terrible happens and you see these big named influencers
Speaker 1: who crack the shits.
Speaker 3: They were actually very cool about the whole thing. They
Speaker 3: laughed at all.
Speaker 1: We often get people asking in our Facebook community who
Speaker 1: can I follow online? Who's someone new? And it sounds
Speaker 1: like they're quite a good couple. Yeah, one that's actually
Speaker 1: is sharing about their life. Maybe they need to set
Speaker 1: up a few more boundaries. But it's always fun following
Speaker 1: people when they're starting out their career or.
Speaker 3: They happen quiet. They've got six hundred thousand followers on TikTok.
Speaker 1: Six hundred thousand on TikTok isn't that big? Like some
Speaker 1: people have a million followers and they're still not making
Speaker 1: a full time living off it.
Speaker 5: Something non genuine about two hot girls, but already probably
Speaker 5: get a million compliments compliment each.
Speaker 1: Other, Sophie, I wantn't know where do you stand on
Speaker 1: complimenting strangers in public, because Sky Wheatley and her partner
Speaker 1: Lockey have sparked debate about the sincerity behind it. I'm
Speaker 1: a big one for giving strangers compliments.
Speaker 3: I am known.
Speaker 1: If I go order food or if I buy something
Speaker 1: at the shop, I will often generally girls, I don't
Speaker 1: give compliments.
Speaker 3: I will always give a girl a compliment. Yeah, you're always.
Speaker 1: Every time someone serves you, you will notice their nails.
Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, I love your nails. And
Speaker 1: it's genuine. They always have really nice names.
Speaker 2: Genuine.
Speaker 1: But I also think it's I do it because I
Speaker 1: think it's a way to almost make someone's day. Like
Speaker 1: I know that set might sound to be over the top,
Speaker 1: but if I notice something, I think.
Speaker 3: Oh, that's really cute, I think why not say it?
Speaker 1: Because sometimes those comments can really bolster you up if
Speaker 1: you're having a shit day. And again, it's also a
Speaker 1: good way to strike up a conversation with someone and
Speaker 1: be friendly. Yeah, well, Skywheatley is the same as you,
Speaker 1: because she was in Kmart when a woman approached her
Speaker 1: saying you're so pretty, and she replied you too, babe. Now,
Speaker 1: Sky told Locky she genuinely thought the woman was attractive
Speaker 1: when she walked past her, so that's why she was
Speaker 1: so quick to repay the compliment. However, this is what
Speaker 1: Lockie had to say.
Speaker 5: I just think that when girls say that to other girls,
Speaker 5: it's just like, I feel it's a bit fake.
Speaker 4: I don't think it's quite genuine. I think it's more
Speaker 4: like a jealousy.
Speaker 2: Oh oh my gosh. Do you know how many times
Speaker 2: I compliment strangers. I've always been like that. I always
Speaker 2: compliment strangers.
Speaker 8: I always say you have nice eyes, you have a
Speaker 8: beautiful smile, like it's a nice thing to do.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, this man, I just can't. I can't
Speaker 2: quite put my finger on it.
Speaker 5: I really can't. But I just feel like it'd be
Speaker 5: like it'd be like one male going up to another male.
Speaker 2: Saying, Oh, you're really hot, bro.
Speaker 5: You're no. It's not completely different.
Speaker 1: Why, because females and men are completely different. I don't
Speaker 1: understand his point about it being a jealousy. Thing, because
Speaker 1: quite often I find if people are jealous, it's human
Speaker 1: nature to then not bring forth the great qualities about
Speaker 1: that person. If anything, you're trying and drag them down.
Speaker 1: I think I think he's getting confused, and I think
Speaker 1: he thinks it's a bit like on Mean Girls, the movie,
Speaker 1: you know, when they're like, I love your embrace and
Speaker 1: they're like, that's the fucking ugliest bracelet I've ever seen.
Speaker 1: I think he thinks that they're fake compliments. I don't
Speaker 1: know people doing that in the shops though, or just
Speaker 1: in public. Maybe it's fake compliments if it's to someone
Speaker 1: you don't like in your life friends. I have another
Speaker 1: take on Lockey's point about male compliments. While I agree,
Speaker 1: I've never heard two men compliment each other at the
Speaker 1: shop by telling each other they're hot. I do think
Speaker 1: men compliment each other in other ways. So they might
Speaker 1: compliment them about their cut or they're bid is a
Speaker 1: big one. That's the male equivalent of clothes. They'd be like, oh,
Speaker 1: look at it, how lush that guy's beard is, or
Speaker 1: that's very nicely I was gonna say, manicureed I don't
Speaker 1: know what the corect is, or they'll be like, oh,
Speaker 1: you're looking jack like you've been in the gym. That's
Speaker 1: what men will say to each other. So it's another
Speaker 1: form of basically saying, oh, you look pretty. But it's
Speaker 1: it's an interesting one with men too, because men will
Speaker 1: absolutely rip into each other and say the most awful things,
Speaker 1: and it's all under the guise of it being a
Speaker 1: bit of a joke, whereas women would never make those comments.
Speaker 1: They'd only do it behind other women's backs. Yeah, which,
Speaker 1: I don't know what's worse. So if there's one more
Speaker 1: part of the TikTok I have to play you that
Speaker 1: cracked me up.
Speaker 3: Let's have a listen.
Speaker 5: If both girls are pretty, why do they need to
Speaker 5: tell each other they're pretty?
Speaker 4: Because they don't.
Speaker 1: Though not all pretty girls know that they're pretty, lots
Speaker 1: the pretty girls are very insecure, like.
Speaker 5: Me, I don't think I think you were pretty.
Speaker 2: You wouldn't be posting yourself twenty four seven hours. I
Speaker 2: don't don't.
Speaker 8: I don't think I'm ugly, but I don't look in
Speaker 8: the mirror and go, oh, you're so dropped at gorgeous.
Speaker 8: I look in the mirror and I pick at myself.
Speaker 2: And that's what most women do. So it's uplifting, it's kind,
Speaker 2: it's nice.
Speaker 1: I get what Sky is saying, because often you can
Speaker 1: assume that someone is up themselves, or that they're overly
Speaker 1: confident because they're putting themselves out there, or maybe they
Speaker 1: wear a lot of makeup, whatever it may be. But
Speaker 1: quite often the person is having to go to that
Speaker 1: extent to do themselves up or put themselves out there
Speaker 1: because they are in secure and they want the validation.
Speaker 3: Well, I think the.
Speaker 1: Moral of this story is continue to pay people compliments.
Speaker 4: So you won't let me pay for anything for the
Speaker 4: weddings I've gotten to.
Speaker 2: That was another question, who's paid for the wedding?
Speaker 4: I've got the DJ?
Speaker 7: All right, look, you lot can go on Google at
Speaker 7: Google my wage.
Speaker 8: Yeah no, but if if I'm still on army wage,
Speaker 8: we'd have just scheduled everything down.
Speaker 4: No, no, yeah, we would have done it.
Speaker 7: It just means that like all the money I've saved
Speaker 7: up would well would be gone on a wedding, which
Speaker 7: is what everyone does. Yeah, whereas we're in a nice
Speaker 7: fortunate team position where I'm still able to keep them
Speaker 7: most of my savings.
Speaker 2: We've kind of done it off, like percentages of earnings.
Speaker 4: That's I think that's probably what most people do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like we're not going to go fifty to fifty
Speaker 2: on something.
Speaker 7: No, I've got no problem or qualms with the fact
Speaker 7: that you know, you earn more money than I do
Speaker 7: and we've got to combine.
Speaker 2: And is such a taboo, But it doesn't need to be.
Speaker 4: Ye, Like, it doesn't to hide what I am because
Speaker 4: you could google it.
Speaker 2: Listen to an episode of the Yeah very true.
Speaker 8: I was listening to an episode of the Girl's Barroom
Speaker 8: and they were talking loads about money, and one of
Speaker 8: the questions was like when you go on dates, how
Speaker 8: like how do you split a date? And like the
Speaker 8: main thing that people came back with was you sort
Speaker 8: of do it on percentage of earnings. Yeah, so like
Speaker 8: if someone earns more, that'll get maybe two to like
Speaker 8: one dinner dates.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I've just seen a good question about divorced parents
Speaker 7: and stuff and feel intention.
Speaker 1: UK influencer Zoe Haig has broken her YouTube silence after
Speaker 1: her much anticipated wedding to partner Danny ray So. Zoe
Speaker 1: is the sister of Molly May Haig, and she explained
Speaker 1: that her three week radio silence from YouTube was due
Speaker 1: to a family member ruining her SD card. So this
Speaker 1: SD card contained vision of the lead up to her wedding, which.
Speaker 3: She was going to share.
Speaker 1: What an absolute nightmare, like, not only if you're a YouTuber,
Speaker 1: but just in general, if you'd captured these important memories
Speaker 1: and the lead up to your wedding and they'd been
Speaker 1: destroyed by someone. And this SD card was destroyed in
Speaker 1: the most bizarre circumstances because Zoe and her family were
Speaker 1: out on a boat and one of the family members
Speaker 1: had a drone and they were like, oh, I'd love
Speaker 1: to fly the drone, but I don't have an SD card.
Speaker 1: And Zoe had a camera with her, so she's like, oh, here,
Speaker 1: you can borrow my SD card, and she made a
Speaker 1: joke about but do not lose this.
Speaker 3: Because it's really really important.
Speaker 1: So as they're going along in the boat, they start
Speaker 1: up the drone. The drone falls into the water and
Speaker 1: it destroys the SD card.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, what an absolute nightmare.
Speaker 1: I always get nervous when people fly drones, and it
Speaker 1: is for this reason because you can never trust them,
Speaker 1: like they get out of your eyesight, they can fall
Speaker 1: into water.
Speaker 3: Like it's just there's.
Speaker 1: A lot going on when you fly drone. I've flown
Speaker 1: them before and it is quite scary. Now a few
Speaker 1: people have messaged us saying please talk about Zoe's wedding,
Speaker 1: and we are talking about it now because Zoe and
Speaker 1: Danny have finally released a few more details about this wedding.
Speaker 1: This wedding was getting a lot of press in the
Speaker 1: UK when it happened a few weeks ago. It was
Speaker 1: all over my TikTok feed and I was dying to
Speaker 1: find out more details about the wedding. I found it
Speaker 1: quite surprising all of the media coverage because Zoe is
Speaker 1: known as being the more down to earth sister, so
Speaker 1: she used to work in the army, and it's only
Speaker 1: been over the last year or so that she's focused
Speaker 1: on her social media career.
Speaker 3: So it was a bit of a.
Speaker 1: Shock to a lot of her followers when everyone saw
Speaker 1: the paparazzi rock up. I wasn't surprised because my understanding
Speaker 1: is they weren't really there for Zoe. They were there
Speaker 1: for Molly because Molly will sneeze and the media will
Speaker 1: report on it like they are obsessed with her.
Speaker 3: She is the UK's biggest influence.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're definitely right, but I think it has also
Speaker 1: grown Zoe and Danny's profile. And there are reports that
Speaker 1: searchers for Lakes District's weddings, which they had, has skyrocketed
Speaker 1: after their big day, with searches up by one thousand, three.
Speaker 3: Hundred and fourteen percent.
Speaker 1: As Australians, we're so lucky having our weddings outside because
Speaker 1: most of the time people will have an outdoor ceremony
Speaker 1: and will be beautiful weather. However, I was talking to
Speaker 1: an English couple who flew over for my sister in
Speaker 1: law's wedding and it was held in the botanical gardens,
Speaker 1: and they were just saying, like, we cannot get over
Speaker 1: this wedding, Like no one has their weddings outside.
Speaker 3: We're all stuck in these you know.
Speaker 1: Awful little chapels or buildings or whatever weather and everything,
Speaker 1: because the weather's always so shit. But but for Zoe,
Speaker 1: they had their wedding outside in this beautiful guarding setting,
Speaker 1: as you say, at the Lake Districts. Luckily they missed
Speaker 1: a sprinkle of rain, like it was perfect weather for them,
Speaker 1: and her partner looked like Prince Charming because he was
Speaker 1: dressed in some sort of soldier outfit. They would look
Speaker 1: like he was part of the royal family. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: he's still serving in the army. But apparently they've got
Speaker 1: a lot of people saying, why is he dressed up
Speaker 1: like Prince Charles?
Speaker 3: Is he pretending to be royal? I liked it. I
Speaker 3: was like, God, I wish Brandon could have worn something
Speaker 3: like that. There's something about.
Speaker 1: That uniform, there definitely is. And there has been a
Speaker 1: lot of interest into how much they spent on their wedding,
Speaker 1: because The Sun in the UK reported that they dropped
Speaker 1: two hundred thousand pounds on the day, but Zoe and
Speaker 1: Danny were quick to host down these reports, so they
Speaker 1: told their YouTube followers that their wedding actually costs between
Speaker 1: forty to fifty thousand pounds. Zoe also revealed, and this
Speaker 1: really surprised me, that her dress cost two thousand pounds,
Speaker 1: so that was her ceremony dress, and she also had
Speaker 1: an eight hundred dollars reception dress. Let's throw to what
Speaker 1: she said about it.
Speaker 8: But I got it from a shop near us called
Speaker 8: the Nutsford Wedding Gallery. It was a designer called Mullinova,
Speaker 8: and it was sorry eight hundred pounds, which is quite
Speaker 8: expensive for a second dress. But I thought, because my
Speaker 8: first dress was only two thousand pounds, two dresses together
Speaker 8: being less than three thousand pounds, that's more than that's
Speaker 8: less than what people spent for like wonderful dress smashed.
Speaker 4: It didn't you.
Speaker 1: We've got to remember that is pounds. But I was
Speaker 1: astoundard that that's all she's spent, particularly when we see
Speaker 1: Molly made her sister.
Speaker 3: Living quite large.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think Molly could barely lift her
Speaker 1: bloody hand. Her ring is that enormous. And I'm sure
Speaker 1: that her wedding dress is going to be some custom
Speaker 1: made coature gown that's tens of thousands of pounds. Zoe
Speaker 1: said that she got Molly to actually pick out the
Speaker 1: bridesmaid's dresses and she opted for some courture gowns. I
Speaker 1: think that's almost a bit unfair that the bride'smaids potentially
Speaker 1: had more expensive dresses. Well, she didn't say whether they
Speaker 1: were more expensive, but she did be tho. Well, she
Speaker 1: just basically said, oh, I couldn't be bothered, so I
Speaker 1: just left it up to Molly, and I really liked
Speaker 1: the dresses that she chose. In the end, do we
Speaker 1: think that Molly foot the bill for those then I'm
Speaker 1: not sure they didn't touch on that, but they have
Speaker 1: been really open, as I said, about talking about their budget,
Speaker 1: which I have found really fascinating because before they got married,
Speaker 1: Zoe and Danny did a Q and A and they
Speaker 1: were asked about how they divided up the costs.
Speaker 3: Let's have a listen to what they said.
Speaker 4: So, yeah, you won't let me pay for anything for
Speaker 4: the weddings I've gotten to.
Speaker 2: That was another question, who's paid for the wedding?
Speaker 7: I've got the DJ All right, look, you lot can
Speaker 7: go on Google at Google my wage.
Speaker 8: Yeah no, but if if I was still on on
Speaker 8: army wage, we would have just scheduled everything down.
Speaker 4: No, no, yeah, we would have done it.
Speaker 7: It just means that like all the money I've saved
Speaker 7: up would well would be going on a wedding, which
Speaker 7: is what everyone does. Yeah, whereas we're in a nice
Speaker 7: fortunate team position where I'm still able to keep them
Speaker 7: most of my savings part.
Speaker 2: We've kind of done it off like percentages of earnings.
Speaker 4: That's I think that's probably what most people do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like we're not going to go fifty to fifty
Speaker 2: on something.
Speaker 7: No, I've got no problem or qualms with the fact
Speaker 7: that you know you earn more money than I do.
Speaker 4: And we've got a combined.
Speaker 2: Such a taboo, I don't know, but it doesn't need
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like I need to hide what I am because
Speaker 4: you could google it.
Speaker 1: This is why everyone is falling in love with this
Speaker 1: couple because they're not shying away from awkward questions about money.
Speaker 3: They're happy to address it.
Speaker 1: And clearly Danny feels secure enough and comfortable enough to say, yeah,
Speaker 1: Zoe did pay for the majority of it, but I
Speaker 1: really wanted to help as much as I could. And yes,
Speaker 1: I don't earn as much money as her, because in
Speaker 1: the past a lot of men would hold shame about
Speaker 1: the fact.
Speaker 3: That their partner earns more than them. But he seems
Speaker 3: to be.
Speaker 1: Very proud about that, and they just seem so cute together. Well,
Speaker 1: I think the reason that Zoe is becoming so popular
Speaker 1: too is she's always going to be the more relatable
Speaker 1: one than Molly Matt. Yeah, Like, she's probably the person
Speaker 1: that you go to to think, oh, okay, what's her
Speaker 1: affordable outfit?
Speaker 3: She looks good, Yeah, it's.
Speaker 1: Going to be within my budget, whereas with Molly May Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's great for outfit inspo, but you know you're not
Speaker 1: going to be able to afford anything that she's wearing.
Speaker 1: I mean, I enjoy following them both. They don't need
Speaker 1: to be pitted against each other. They're great, but it'd
Speaker 1: be really interesting to look at their demographics, y what
Speaker 1: their cell rate is. Well. In a recent vlog, Molly
Speaker 1: was saying that Zoe had actually sold more of something
Speaker 1: than her that's how strong her audience is. Let's kick
Speaker 1: off our new segment called Agony Sisters.
Speaker 3: It's a play on Agony Aunts.
Speaker 1: Maybe we should have been the Agony Aunties because when
Speaker 1: new Aunties, but we thought Sisters was more fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: We thought a lot of our followers might not have
Speaker 1: sisters that they want to ask for advice from. So
Speaker 1: I always get honest advice from sisters, even sometimes you
Speaker 1: don't want it to be so honest.
Speaker 3: We do have a mailbox you put up her Q
Speaker 3: and A.
Speaker 1: But if this is something we're hopefully going to be
Speaker 1: doing every Friday, so send us in a DM what
Speaker 1: your issue is. It can be about anything, but the
Speaker 1: dms are a good space because they're a bit longer,
Speaker 1: so you can give us more detail and we will
Speaker 1: keep you one hundred percent anonymous.
Speaker 3: So one of our listeners.
Speaker 1: Has asked what to do when your best friend doesn't
Speaker 1: make time for you slash only when she wants something.
Speaker 3: The difference with.
Speaker 1: Best friends and sisters is you often have to be
Speaker 1: more thoughtful when approaching an issue with a best friend
Speaker 1: because they're not a family member. You have to really
Speaker 1: think about what you're going to say. You don't want
Speaker 1: to offend anyone. I know there are some best friends
Speaker 1: who can say anything to one another.
Speaker 3: So it's a really difficult one because you've got to.
Speaker 1: Think about does my best friend have something big going
Speaker 1: on in her life? So is she busy because she's
Speaker 1: got a new partner, Is she busy because she's got
Speaker 1: a lot of pressures at work, or is it because
Speaker 1: she is trying to freeze me out. I think you've
Speaker 1: got to talk to her about it and approach it
Speaker 1: in a non confrontational, non aggressive way, because she might
Speaker 1: get her back up about it. If she's your best friend,
Speaker 1: you should be in a position where you can tell
Speaker 1: her that you feel like she's not making time for you.
Speaker 1: It's difficult because when people get older and maybe they
Speaker 1: get a long term partner or work gets really busy.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's hard fitting everyone see. I think it would
Speaker 1: be difficult to say to your best friend, oh, you're
Speaker 1: not making time for me, because I feel like that
Speaker 1: could spark an argument. I would almost do some little
Speaker 1: tests to see if they were genuinely busy, Like there
Speaker 1: might be genuine reasons why your best friend can't see
Speaker 1: maybe you need to start making a big effort, Like
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're already making an effort, but maybe
Speaker 1: you just need to go, hey, let's go out for dinner,
Speaker 1: like we really need to catch up. I feel like
Speaker 1: I haven't seen you. I really miss you. I think
Speaker 1: it's really important to set regular catch ups with people
Speaker 1: in your life that are important to see, like a
Speaker 1: best friend, for instance, we see our best friend at
Speaker 1: least once a week, so we will make time.
Speaker 3: We know that there's going to.
Speaker 1: Be some sort of lunch, dinner or house catch up.
Speaker 1: Same with our cousins who I classify as my best friends,
Speaker 1: we see them every week. It's just with a best friend,
Speaker 1: it's just should be implied that there's going to be
Speaker 1: regular catch ups. And that's really why you're feeling a
Speaker 1: bit up because maybe these catch ups are starting to
Speaker 1: dwindle and you're not seeing each other as much and
Speaker 1: you're becoming disconnected in one another's lives, and she might
Speaker 1: want to see you. It might be that she's so
Speaker 1: genuinely busy, or maybe she's bogged down in this new
Speaker 1: relationship and she feels like she doesn't have the time
Speaker 1: to see you, which is shit.
Speaker 3: As a friend.
Speaker 1: Receiving end of that, I've always got to make time
Speaker 1: for your friends. It's one thing that's really important, even
Speaker 1: if you're in a new relationship, because those relationships can
Speaker 1: end and then you're left potentially with no friends. My
Speaker 1: suggestion would be to reach out to her again, try
Speaker 1: and see if you can catch up for dinner or
Speaker 1: something that's face to face, and get a feel for
Speaker 1: what's going on in her life, if there are some
Speaker 1: big events or moments going on that are keeping her
Speaker 1: really busy, and just say something like I really miss you.
Speaker 1: Can we catch up more. I feel a bit sad
Speaker 1: that we haven't been catching up regularly. Because if you're
Speaker 1: saying you're sad and you miss someone, they can't really
Speaker 1: get mad. I have heard of this happening quite a
Speaker 1: bit when people get into their thirties. Sometimes their best
Speaker 1: friend goes hay Wi like, they just act a different way,
Speaker 1: and sometimes they almost need to be called out. All
Speaker 1: the friendship needs to end because they're not healthy. There's
Speaker 1: some people who outgrow certain friends.
Speaker 3: Yeah, or you just becomes toxic.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it does become toxic, and you need to decide
Speaker 1: if you're willing to put up with that behavior. Because
Speaker 1: a good friend will reach out, a good friend will
Speaker 1: make time to see you. It's not that difficult to
Speaker 1: pick up your phone in this day and age and
Speaker 1: have a conversation. So yeah, you've got a weigh up.
Speaker 1: Obviously it's very difficult because we're only reading a small
Speaker 1: message here, but you have to weigh up whether the
Speaker 1: way they're treating you, whether you're happy for that to continue,
Speaker 1: or if you just need to broach the topic maybe
Speaker 1: firstly in a sensitive way and see how it goes
Speaker 1: from there.
Speaker 3: Well, good luck with it all. We hope it does
Speaker 3: work out.
Speaker 1: If you have a question for the Agony Sisters to
Speaker 1: send it in, well, thank you so much for listening
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