WEBVTT - MINI: This couple accidentally turned up to a destination wedding uninvited

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<v Speaker 2>There's a couple Laura online at the moment going viral

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<v Speaker 2>for the funniest story. So this couple's friend, like his

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<v Speaker 2>college friend. They were catching up and he'd just gotten

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<v Speaker 2>engaged and he was talking about his wedding to them.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, I'm getting married next year. It's going to

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<v Speaker 2>be like so small and intimate and special. And that

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<v Speaker 2>was the conversation, just like a really private conversation. The

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<v Speaker 2>couple then received a save the date for the following year,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was international. It was like over in Argentina.

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<v Speaker 2>So they do what most people would do for an

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<v Speaker 2>international wedding, and they lock in the flights and the

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<v Speaker 2>accommodation and you know, it was fifteen hundred dollars flights,

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<v Speaker 2>three thousand dollars of accommodation.

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<v Speaker 1>Also, yeah, when it's an international wedding, though, save the

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<v Speaker 1>dates are way more important because you've got to actually

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<v Speaker 1>block out time for work, and you've got to book

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<v Speaker 1>the flights on a decent amount of money and blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah. Oh he actually be so organized.

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<v Speaker 2>So they organized the whole thing because they've been friends

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<v Speaker 2>forever and they've got to save the date, and he

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<v Speaker 2>told them to their face. You know, small intimate wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>So they book the same hotel as the groom and

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<v Speaker 2>bride and the bridal party because they thought that would

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<v Speaker 2>be easier. So all the family and everyonere at this

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<v Speaker 2>one hotel. So they booked. That time goes past and

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<v Speaker 2>they haven't received any updates, and it's like a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of days before they're flying out and they're still looking

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<v Speaker 2>for updates. Then that's when it clicks to them. They're like,

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<v Speaker 2>hang on, we actually never got an invite. They turned

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<v Speaker 2>up to the wedding uninvited, so they well, okay, this

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<v Speaker 2>is where it gets it.

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<v Speaker 1>They actually go to the wedding. They just on holidays.

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<v Speaker 2>They stand up to the hotel, they can't change it.

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<v Speaker 2>They're locked in. They don't want to waste their money

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<v Speaker 2>and not go, but they're too embarrassed to tell them

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<v Speaker 2>what happened. So they go to the wedding and then

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<v Speaker 2>just find out their schedule and just do everything around

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<v Speaker 2>their schedule. So they're like spies hiding at the wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>Like so when they see them go to the pool,

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<v Speaker 2>they would go and book a spa. When they see

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<v Speaker 2>them going to get massages, they would go out for

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<v Speaker 2>the day and get whatever it is, and they avoided

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<v Speaker 2>the whole bridal.

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<v Speaker 1>Party, so they never knew that they were there. Imagine

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<v Speaker 1>finding out that two of your best friends were at

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<v Speaker 1>the same hotel where your wedding was being held. Surely

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<v Speaker 1>because you sent them a save the date and then uninvited.

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<v Speaker 2>But I do you know what I can see how

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<v Speaker 2>that happens. I think if you've sent us save the date,

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<v Speaker 2>that is as good as an invitation. If you're uninviting someone,

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<v Speaker 2>you need to uninvite them. You can't just not follow

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<v Speaker 2>through with an invitation and think that that's good enough. Right, right, Laura?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you do not to this note because we didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have a destination wedding? Also, but did you something? Yes, technically,

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<v Speaker 1>but on a technicality slightly different. So my husband and

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<v Speaker 1>I we were originally going to get married towards the

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<v Speaker 1>start of COVID, and then COVID hit and everything kind

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<v Speaker 1>of went a bit screw loose. So we sent out

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<v Speaker 1>Save the dates to our family and friends, and then

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<v Speaker 1>the date changed because you know, COVID hit, and we

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<v Speaker 1>decided to postpone it. So we actually didn't get married

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<v Speaker 1>for two and a half years after our original wedding

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<v Speaker 1>date that was set, or two years or something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a long time, A long time, a long time.

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<v Speaker 1>So we'd sent out save the dates. Then our second

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<v Speaker 1>wedding day, we also then sent out saying, oh, that

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<v Speaker 1>date's been changed, like hold tight, we'll have more details

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<v Speaker 1>for you. Two years later, there were some people who

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<v Speaker 1>we sent saved the dates to on that original mailing list,

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<v Speaker 1>and let me tell you, we had not heard from them.

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<v Speaker 1>I had not heard from them, neither had Matt. We'd

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<v Speaker 1>barely spoken to them in that time, and so I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of just assumed if we haven't spoken in two years,

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<v Speaker 1>surely they don't expect to get another save the date.

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<v Speaker 2>So you didn't uninvite them or just didn't send another

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<v Speaker 2>save the date. I just didn't tell them when the

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<v Speaker 2>new wedding was. But did they contact you in any capacity?

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<v Speaker 1>One person did?

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<v Speaker 2>One?

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<v Speaker 1>One of them said, hey, honey, I haven't received the

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<v Speaker 1>invitation yet, and.

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<v Speaker 2>What did you say? Do you fake it or say

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<v Speaker 2>because you're not invited? I then invited them under duress.

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<v Speaker 2>What else are you going to do sorr about that

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<v Speaker 2>actually didn't come. Oh, they didn't come because they've probably

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<v Speaker 2>heard you say I'm panicking. No, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was because by then, like the wedding

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<v Speaker 1>was actually just a couple of weeks await, like it

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<v Speaker 1>was very evident. It was just so awkward looking back now,

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<v Speaker 1>it was so awkward. I didn't know what to do.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to write to them and say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I have not heard from you for two years and

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<v Speaker 1>I've had a baby and you just kind of vanished

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<v Speaker 1>from my life. So I didn't think you'd want to

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<v Speaker 1>come to my wedding. I didn't want to send that

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<v Speaker 1>there was a bit of passive aggressiveness loaded into that.

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<v Speaker 1>So instead I just sent them an invite and said,

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry, honey, if you haven't received it.

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<v Speaker 2>You can read between the lines. If you're getting an

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<v Speaker 2>invitation three weeks out of a wedding, you're like the

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<v Speaker 2>last person on the list. Something's gone wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't get me wrong, though, I don't think it's a

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<v Speaker 1>smart move. If you've sent out save the dates, don't

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<v Speaker 1>be a coward like I am. At least tell people

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<v Speaker 1>if they're not invited to the real wedding, especially if

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<v Speaker 1>they're trying to go to an overseas wedding.