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Speaker 2: There's a couple Laura online at the moment going viral
Speaker 2: for the funniest story. So this couple's friend, like his
Speaker 2: college friend. They were catching up and he'd just gotten
Speaker 2: engaged and he was talking about his wedding to them.
Speaker 2: He said, I'm getting married next year. It's going to
Speaker 2: be like so small and intimate and special. And that
Speaker 2: was the conversation, just like a really private conversation. The
Speaker 2: couple then received a save the date for the following year,
Speaker 2: and it was international. It was like over in Argentina.
Speaker 2: So they do what most people would do for an
Speaker 2: international wedding, and they lock in the flights and the
Speaker 2: accommodation and you know, it was fifteen hundred dollars flights,
Speaker 2: three thousand dollars of accommodation.
Speaker 1: Also, yeah, when it's an international wedding, though, save the
Speaker 1: dates are way more important because you've got to actually
Speaker 1: block out time for work, and you've got to book
Speaker 1: the flights on a decent amount of money and blah
Speaker 1: blah blah. Oh he actually be so organized.
Speaker 2: So they organized the whole thing because they've been friends
Speaker 2: forever and they've got to save the date, and he
Speaker 2: told them to their face. You know, small intimate wedding.
Speaker 2: So they book the same hotel as the groom and
Speaker 2: bride and the bridal party because they thought that would
Speaker 2: be easier. So all the family and everyonere at this
Speaker 2: one hotel. So they booked. That time goes past and
Speaker 2: they haven't received any updates, and it's like a couple
Speaker 2: of days before they're flying out and they're still looking
Speaker 2: for updates. Then that's when it clicks to them. They're like,
Speaker 2: hang on, we actually never got an invite. They turned
Speaker 2: up to the wedding uninvited, so they well, okay, this
Speaker 2: is where it gets it.
Speaker 1: They actually go to the wedding. They just on holidays.
Speaker 2: They stand up to the hotel, they can't change it.
Speaker 2: They're locked in. They don't want to waste their money
Speaker 2: and not go, but they're too embarrassed to tell them
Speaker 2: what happened. So they go to the wedding and then
Speaker 2: just find out their schedule and just do everything around
Speaker 2: their schedule. So they're like spies hiding at the wedding.
Speaker 2: Like so when they see them go to the pool,
Speaker 2: they would go and book a spa. When they see
Speaker 2: them going to get massages, they would go out for
Speaker 2: the day and get whatever it is, and they avoided
Speaker 2: the whole bridal.
Speaker 1: Party, so they never knew that they were there. Imagine
Speaker 1: finding out that two of your best friends were at
Speaker 1: the same hotel where your wedding was being held. Surely
Speaker 1: because you sent them a save the date and then uninvited.
Speaker 2: But I do you know what I can see how
Speaker 2: that happens. I think if you've sent us save the date,
Speaker 2: that is as good as an invitation. If you're uninviting someone,
Speaker 2: you need to uninvite them. You can't just not follow
Speaker 2: through with an invitation and think that that's good enough. Right, right, Laura?
Speaker 1: Did you do not to this note because we didn't
Speaker 1: have a destination wedding? Also, but did you something? Yes, technically,
Speaker 1: but on a technicality slightly different. So my husband and
Speaker 1: I we were originally going to get married towards the
Speaker 1: start of COVID, and then COVID hit and everything kind
Speaker 1: of went a bit screw loose. So we sent out
Speaker 1: Save the dates to our family and friends, and then
Speaker 1: the date changed because you know, COVID hit, and we
Speaker 1: decided to postpone it. So we actually didn't get married
Speaker 1: for two and a half years after our original wedding
Speaker 1: date that was set, or two years or something like that.
Speaker 1: That's a long time, A long time, a long time.
Speaker 1: So we'd sent out save the dates. Then our second
Speaker 1: wedding day, we also then sent out saying, oh, that
Speaker 1: date's been changed, like hold tight, we'll have more details
Speaker 1: for you. Two years later, there were some people who
Speaker 1: we sent saved the dates to on that original mailing list,
Speaker 1: and let me tell you, we had not heard from them.
Speaker 1: I had not heard from them, neither had Matt. We'd
Speaker 1: barely spoken to them in that time, and so I
Speaker 1: kind of just assumed if we haven't spoken in two years,
Speaker 1: surely they don't expect to get another save the date.
Speaker 2: So you didn't uninvite them or just didn't send another
Speaker 2: save the date. I just didn't tell them when the
Speaker 2: new wedding was. But did they contact you in any capacity?
Speaker 1: One person did?
Speaker 2: One?
Speaker 1: One of them said, hey, honey, I haven't received the
Speaker 1: invitation yet, and.
Speaker 2: What did you say? Do you fake it or say
Speaker 2: because you're not invited? I then invited them under duress.
Speaker 2: What else are you going to do sorr about that
Speaker 2: actually didn't come. Oh, they didn't come because they've probably
Speaker 2: heard you say I'm panicking. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: I think it was because by then, like the wedding
Speaker 1: was actually just a couple of weeks await, like it
Speaker 1: was very evident. It was just so awkward looking back now,
Speaker 1: it was so awkward. I didn't know what to do.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to write to them and say, hey,
Speaker 1: I have not heard from you for two years and
Speaker 1: I've had a baby and you just kind of vanished
Speaker 1: from my life. So I didn't think you'd want to
Speaker 1: come to my wedding. I didn't want to send that
Speaker 1: there was a bit of passive aggressiveness loaded into that.
Speaker 1: So instead I just sent them an invite and said,
Speaker 1: so sorry, honey, if you haven't received it.
Speaker 2: You can read between the lines. If you're getting an
Speaker 2: invitation three weeks out of a wedding, you're like the
Speaker 2: last person on the list. Something's gone wrong.
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, though, I don't think it's a
Speaker 1: smart move. If you've sent out save the dates, don't
Speaker 1: be a coward like I am. At least tell people
Speaker 1: if they're not invited to the real wedding, especially if
Speaker 1: they're trying to go to an overseas wedding.