WEBVTT - Trust issues from cheating, spiritual signs, clarity on next steps & MORE! 🌙Advice with G#2 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:04.840 I think you need to take pressure off yourself because 0:00:05.519 --> 0:00:07.360 I feel a lot of pressure. It kind of feels 0:00:07.480 --> 0:00:10.960 very manic that you're like, I need to find something, 0:00:11.680 --> 0:00:17.080 and I think it's about realizing that you maybe need 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:32.800 to create space for that thing to come. Welcome back 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:36.720 to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm your host Georgie Stevenson, 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:42.960 former lawyer turned entrepreneur, social media personality and personal development junkie. 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:45.920 This podcast is for my girl gang who want to 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:50.000 feed their mind with positive and expansive thoughts to help 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:53.800 them step into their power and live their most authentic life. 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:59.280 We chat a variety of topics including mindset, business, relationships, health, 0:00:59.360 --> 0:01:03.040 and so much much more. Basically, wherever you are on 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:05.800 your journey, I want to help you feel inspired and 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:09.520 empowered to rise up and conquer your next bold move. 0:01:10.040 --> 0:01:12.360 I know that's going to look different for everyone, but 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:15.360 just no, I'm right here by your side and that 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:17.640 you have the rn C community behind you. 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:19.160 Let's do this. 0:01:27.120 --> 0:01:30.520 Hello and welcome back to the Rise and Conquered Podcast. 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:34.880 I'm your host Georgie Stevenson, and today I have another 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:40.040 advice with g segments. So we started last solo episode. 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:43.679 So yeah, last week, and I had so many questions 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:46.800 in my inbox, so we're doing another week of advice 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:50.440 with g I've got some good questions today. I feel 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:53.160 like a lot of people would be in the same boat. 0:01:53.200 --> 0:01:57.040 So we've got questions about, you know, if you're not 0:01:57.280 --> 0:02:00.920 super passionate about your current job and you don't know 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:04.520 what to do, and tips on how to go from there. 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:08.919 I also chat to another girl about struggles with trust 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:12.280 issues in a relationship because she has been cheated on before, 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:16.040 and I talk about my experience with trust issues and 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:21.760 previous cheating and how I feel about that. We also 0:02:22.200 --> 0:02:25.560 chat about signs from the universe and how to know 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:30.040 if they're like correct or not, and also getting into 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:34.560 a routine and my tips for that. So before we 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:37.639 get into our little advice segment, I do want to 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:41.960 obviously preface this and just say, you know, I am 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:45.640 a qualified life coach and health coach, but I'm not 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:51.120 a qualified you know, mental health practitioner, a medical doctor, 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:55.280 anything like that. So this is general advice. This is 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:59.919 not specific advice, and this is very much my own opinions, 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:02.320 So you guys know, this is what this podcast is. 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:05.079 So if you are looking for very you know, specific 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:08.799 advice or if any of these topics. 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:11.880 You know, super triggering and stuff is happening. 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:18.160 I always always advocate for seeking professional mental health help. 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:22.440 I personally see a psychologist. But yeah, I just thought 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:24.600 it was a bit of a fun segment if you 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:29.440 are wanting, I guess another perspective on your situation. So 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:33.320 let's get straight into it. So the first question, and 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:36.720 I am going to sum these up just because I 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:39.680 get some long emails. I love that though it gives 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:43.000 me more context. So the first person I'm chatting with 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:46.440 is Kate, the Lovely. Kate said that she loves the 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:49.600 podcast and she loves the solo PEP talks and has 0:03:49.640 --> 0:03:53.440 gotten so much more self confidence and positive energy since listening. 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:56.720 So appreciate that, Kate, and sending so much love back. 0:03:57.200 --> 0:04:01.560 So Kate is asking advice about her job. She explains that, 0:04:01.640 --> 0:04:03.920 you know, in high school, she did legal studies. 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:06.760 She thought it would be cool to do law. 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:09.880 She then did her degree and she almost just like 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:12.320 fell into her job, and she's like, you know, I 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:13.920 thought I'd just do it for a little bit and 0:04:13.960 --> 0:04:16.960 see how I felt. But now I'm six years down 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:20.719 the track as a lawyer and she's starting to really 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:25.000 think of, you know, this job isn't necessarily my passion. 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.440 I feel like I could do more and be more, 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:31.520 but she just doesn't know where to start. So she 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:35.400 says that she's from the discussions about the six week 0:04:35.480 --> 0:04:39.039 project that she sees people already know their passion, but 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:41.680 they're just scared of taking a leap of faith. And 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:43.920 she's kind of the opposite where she's ready to take 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:46.440 the leap of faith, like she's gearing, she's ready to go, 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:49.599 but she just doesn't know what is next. She knows 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:52.359 that she wants to be flexible with her schedule and 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:55.919 do some creative but that is about it. She's like, 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:59.600 I love travel, food, learning new things, reading, listening to podcasts, 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:03.880 except but she doesn't really see those as career options. 0:05:04.839 --> 0:05:07.240 So she goes, do you have any next steps to me? 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:10.599 What would you do in regards to looking for a 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:14.719 clear path moving forward, particular in relation to job slash career. 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:15.600 Yes. 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:20.680 Okay, so first of all, Kate with the project, that's 0:05:20.720 --> 0:05:24.560 not actually true. So so many people in the project 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:28.560 actually do it because they're not clear. And I was 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:30.960 looking at this question going, oh my god, Kate would 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:33.880 thrive in the project because in the first couple of 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:37.480 weeks that's literally like Module one is called get Clear. 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:39.920 So that's actually what I do in my six week 0:05:39.960 --> 0:05:43.840 self development course, is I really help you get clear. 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:48.479 So honestly, I think like our next enrollment won't be 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:51.200 till mid year, so it's probably not the greatest, but 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:54.080 oh my god, you would love the project because obviously 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:56.480 I'm going to get into it so much deeper over there. 0:05:56.560 --> 0:06:01.320 But just kind of brisk on things with the whole saying, 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:05.600 you know, I'm interested in adventures, travel, food, learning new things, 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:09.040 but you don't think that can be your career, Like 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:12.760 that is a limiting belief because you know, just look 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:16.720 at me. I literally started doing health and fitness, doing recipes, 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:20.640 all these various things, and now I have a podcast 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:23.400 and a natural supplement company. And it's not like at 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:26.760 the start, I was like that's what I wanted to do. 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:30.360 It was these you know, hobbies and side hustles and 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:35.120 passions that led to that. So honestly, Kate, the first 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:37.719 thing that comes up for me, and all these advice 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:40.320 of G segments are very like intuitive, I'm not really 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:42.800 thinking about it. I'm just kind of saying whatever comes 0:06:42.839 --> 0:06:43.039 to me. 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:47.480 I don't know if that's good or not, but are 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:48.200 we gonna do it? 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:52.159 What comes to me is I think you need to 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:57.520 take pressure off yourself because I feel a lot of pressure. 0:06:57.600 --> 0:07:00.360 It kind of feels very manic that you're like, I 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:06.120 need to find something, and I think it's about realizing 0:07:06.400 --> 0:07:10.400 that you maybe need to create space for that thing 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:14.760 to come. So, for example, going back to my experience, 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:18.480 I didn't have what I needed to do. I quit 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:22.560 my corporate job first to give me the space to 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:25.200 then explore what I wanted to do. So I know 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:29.320 that's not you know, necessarily everyone has. 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:30.560 That sort of privilege. 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:35.480 Because my side hustles of my social media's were earning 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.920 me enough money that I could, you know, quit and 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:41.480 still pay my mortgage and live my life. So a 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:43.440 couple of things come up for me. It's like, you know, 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:45.920 do you quit your job and just kind of get 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:48.840 like an in between jobs so you have more space 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:52.880 to figure this out, or do you keep doing your 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:56.800 job plus start getting some passions on the side, So 0:07:57.280 --> 0:07:59.960 you guys know, I, you know, throughout my whole law 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:03.760 degree and when I worked at a law firm, I 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:07.320 was doing my side hustle, social media, fitness and health 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:10.400 on the side. Yes, it was crazy and I didn't 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:13.119 have a lot of time for myself, but I feel 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:15.400 like when you have a passion, like you make it work. 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:17.200 So it was literally like I would wake up at 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:20.520 four thirty, I'd do gym, you know, to get that 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:21.080 in there. 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:23.320 In my lunch breaks, I would be. 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:26.240 You know, editing YouTube videos and stuff like that, and 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:28.920 then I would get home and do a lot after 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:31.600 work too. So it wasn't the best life for a 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:35.080 couple of years, but at one hundred percent what catapulted 0:08:35.120 --> 0:08:39.320 me to being able to leave my job comfortably. So 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:43.559 I do recommend like exploring these hobbies and passions on 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:46.920 the side while you have your secure job, Like I 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:49.880 think that's so fine to do that and don't. And 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:52.520 that's also another thing I wanted to chat on is 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:56.319 I want you to really think about if it's important 0:08:56.400 --> 0:08:59.920 that your job is your passion because I think, you know, 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:02.280 maybe you're hearing a lot of podcasts, you're seeing a 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:05.560 lot of stuff on social media where these people you 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:07.520 know are doing their job and that's their passion, which 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:10.680 includes me. But I always say the example of my 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:15.480 husband Tim, who he you know, absolutely loves golf, and 0:09:15.720 --> 0:09:22.000 golf's all weekend and sometimes during the week and for him, 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:24.680 it's like he is so happy to work his job. 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:27.920 He obviously works in Naked Harvest, but he's so happy 0:09:27.960 --> 0:09:31.000 to you know, do his job and then do his 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.920 hobby on you know, the weekends. And I remember even 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:35.679 saying to him at one point, like, would you want 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:38.559 to quit Naked Harvest and you know, be a golf 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:41.960 teacher or something like that, and he was like, no way, 0:09:42.120 --> 0:09:44.840 Like golf is my passion and I think it wouldn't 0:09:44.840 --> 0:09:46.760 be as fun if it was my job. So he 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:50.719 actually likes keeping them separate. And so I think sometimes 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:53.400 we just get a bit overwhelmed with everyone on social 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:56.920 media like doing their passions, but it's like do you 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:59.720 actually want that? And that's something to get clear on. 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:03.760 So another huge thing here, and this is obviously what 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:08.360 I teach in my Rise and Conker project, is when 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:12.280 we are tapped into our intuition, into you know, when 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:16.959 we're feeling aligned and we really know ourselves. And this, 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:19.720 you know, for me, I know I'm tapped into my 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:26.040 intuition and in alignment when I feel in flow when 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:29.200 I'm working when you know, I'm doing my practices of 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:33.040 meditation and journaling and I really, like, I feel so 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:34.560 confident in who. 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:36.080 I am and what I'm doing. 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:40.640 That does take time, But honestly, when I was reading 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:42.840 this question, I was like, this is what Kate needs 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:45.520 to do. Like Kate, you need to tap into your intuition. 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:50.480 You need to start exploring yourself, which you know, guys, 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:54.200 I'm a huge self development junkie because I think what 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:57.880 might happen if you're stuck on the next step. Like 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:00.839 me personally, I'm never stuck on this next step. And 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:04.120 that's because I'm so tapped into my intuition in alignment 0:11:04.200 --> 0:11:06.679 that I can, you know, sit there and meditate and 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:10.320 might take a little bit, but the next step will 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:13.400 always come to me because that is my core belief. 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:16.360 I know that when I'm in alignment, when I'm you know, 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:20.120 tapped into the most authentic Georgie, the next step is 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:24.199 always there because the universe has my back, and that 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:26.560 is you know, like, that is my belief and that 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:29.480 is how my life goes. And I'm so certain on that, 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:33.200 and so I would love to know if you ask 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:37.359 someone who is you know, already tapped into your intuition 0:11:37.640 --> 0:11:40.360 and really kind of exploring yourself because I think a 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:44.520 lot of clarity comes with that one last thing before 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:46.959 I move on to the next question. Another little thing 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:48.480 to add. And it is kind of hard for me 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:52.160 because I don't have the whole story, Kate. But when I, 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:56.480 you know, quit my corporate job, I didn't know what 0:11:56.559 --> 0:11:59.280 I wanted to do. So I talk about this kind 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:01.760 of concept of it's kind of like there was fog. 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:05.839 There was fog everywhere, and it's like I can't see 0:12:05.880 --> 0:12:10.040 the goal, but I could see two steps in front 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:12.600 of me, and one of those steps was to quit 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:15.160 my corporate job. And even though I couldn't see the 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:20.040 end goal, I had to surrender and trust it just 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:23.560 felt right for me. And so that's a huge, you know, intuitive, 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:29.360 you know, sort of state, which I know not everyone 0:12:29.559 --> 0:12:32.560 is in, but for me, it's like when I'm in 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:35.920 alignment and flow, I don't even have to see the 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:39.800 end goal because I can just trust that everything is 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:43.320 happening for me. Everything will fall into place and I've 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:45.080 just got to take these next steps. 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:46.160 I hope that. 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:48.240 Makes sense, Kate. It's just what came out to me. 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:52.160 All Right, guys, let's get on to the next question. 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:56.880 So t Shak had a very similar question as Kate, 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.600 kind of in regards to how do I find out 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:02.160 what I'm passionate about and what goals I need to 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:05.600 set and go from there, And then she also asked 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:09.319 me if I have any So she's saying, I want 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:13.840 to get into manifestation and into my limiting beliefs and blocks. 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:17.480 What are the resources I can look into? T shirt, 0:13:17.559 --> 0:13:20.080 you literally have to do my six week project. This 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:22.439 is what we this is what we do, guys. 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:23.320 Oh my god. 0:13:24.000 --> 0:13:27.559 It's so the project is currently running right now and 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:31.240 we're in I think it's week four, and week four 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:34.840 is such a special week because the hard yards are 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:38.760 kind of done and everyone is having these amazing aha 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:42.160 moments and like so much clarity, and oh my god. 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:46.400 Our Facebook group everyone is like so supportive. They're like 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:49.960 they're manifestations are starting to happen, and they're like, you know, 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:53.240 really trusting their intuition and they feel in alignment and 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:57.040 the energy and everything is just it is insane. And 0:13:57.080 --> 0:14:00.479 that's why I absolutely love when we do rounds THET 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:03.880 because it is just the most insane container of people 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:09.280 where we do that. But other than that. So kind 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:11.520 of like with Kate, I'd be using your spare time 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:14.680 to tap into your intuition, really getting to know yourself, 0:14:15.960 --> 0:14:22.320 you know, meditating, journaling, doing those things, other kind of 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:25.160 books and whatnot. I feel like I do have a 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:28.000 blog about this, but let me just think. 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She's got a new relationship that 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:26.359 she's been in for a couple of months, and she's 0:17:26.400 --> 0:17:30.960 just explaining she's having a lot of a lot of 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:35.080 issues with trusting him. And she kind of goes she 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:38.160 kind of chats about like, you know, he's really amazing. 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:40.679 He's so kind to the kids, he's so genuine and 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:43.879 such a good man to me and the kids. But 0:17:44.000 --> 0:17:47.400 she's like, am I seeing him with rose colored glasses? 0:17:47.480 --> 0:17:51.879 Like could this actually be true? And so she's like, 0:17:52.359 --> 0:17:54.600 do I just you know, dive in and see what happens? 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:55.320 Like what do I do? 0:17:55.440 --> 0:17:58.160 And first of all, like Michelle, I just want to say, 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:00.120 I'm so sorry that happened to you. 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:02.200 That is like one of the most shittiest. 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:06.119 Things I had, you know, a high school relationship where 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:08.200 my partner cheated on me quite. 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:08.639 A few times. 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:12.200 And you know, that was a high school relationship, Like 0:18:12.240 --> 0:18:15.960 I remember, not really not caring too much, but you know, 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:20.080 a high school relationship, nothing too crazy, and I remember 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:23.760 just how distraught and hurt and how much that mess 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:26.479 with me. So yeah, I couldn't imagine what you're going through. 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:27.720 And I just wanted to say, I'm saying you so 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:30.959 much love. The first thing that comes to mind is 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:36.240 you really need to work on yourself and your worthiness, 0:18:36.600 --> 0:18:39.000 because I can even see from this question you said 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:42.119 it yourself, like you know your partner, your previous partner, 0:18:42.200 --> 0:18:45.640 really degraded your self esteem. And what I get from 0:18:45.640 --> 0:18:48.560 this question is you saying, you know, this man is 0:18:48.560 --> 0:18:50.840 so amazing and genuine and he's so nice to me. 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:55.520 Can that actually be true? And it's like, yes, Michelle, 0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:59.800 you deserve a man who treats you right, who's nice 0:18:59.840 --> 0:19:01.720 to your children, who's like you know. 0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:04.080 That is like that's your minimum. 0:19:04.440 --> 0:19:09.080 It's not outrageous to think, you know this, This is 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:12.680 like such a huge thing. And I get it because 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:15.679 of the past thing, because even I remember with Tim 0:19:16.280 --> 0:19:20.040 when because I dated Tim shortly after my high school boyfriend, Like, 0:19:20.160 --> 0:19:24.159 Tim has never given me any reasons, you know, to 0:19:24.240 --> 0:19:27.600 think anything that he would have cheated or anything like that. 0:19:28.000 --> 0:19:30.639 But I remember just having these feelings because it's like 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:34.119 I just cannot let someone treat me like that again. 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:38.960 So I totally understand in regards to having your wall 0:19:39.280 --> 0:19:42.000 up and just being like, you know, that can't happen again. 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:47.160 So again, you know, I'm not a professional, Like, definitely, 0:19:47.200 --> 0:19:50.639 if you're really suffering with this, I really recommend seeing 0:19:50.640 --> 0:19:54.480 a psychologist talking to someone about this. You know, I 0:19:54.520 --> 0:19:57.879 see a psychologist weekly and it's amazing and just to 0:19:57.960 --> 0:20:01.000 have someone else's opinion is huge, and I think they 0:20:01.000 --> 0:20:04.040 could really help you with this. My personal opinion on 0:20:04.080 --> 0:20:07.359 this is like, yeah, you need to really well work 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:13.000 on your self esteem and your self worth because if 0:20:13.040 --> 0:20:17.399 you don't, I feel like you might like consistently see 0:20:17.520 --> 0:20:20.480 problems in the relationship. Because also if you think about 0:20:20.480 --> 0:20:24.440 it from his perspective, if you're there constantly not trusting him, 0:20:24.480 --> 0:20:28.280 constantly feeling insecure, it's going to be a lot for 0:20:28.359 --> 0:20:29.320 him where he's. 0:20:29.200 --> 0:20:32.760 Like, you know, like I've never done anything, you. 0:20:32.720 --> 0:20:35.879 Know, to say otherwise and whatnot. So I think you 0:20:35.960 --> 0:20:38.280 really need to work on yourself and self worth. And 0:20:38.320 --> 0:20:41.240 what comes up for me too is in my previous 0:20:41.680 --> 0:20:46.359 episode that got released this week with Connor Kathleen, she 0:20:46.520 --> 0:20:49.480 really spoke about this concept. So she's quite young, she's 0:20:49.520 --> 0:20:52.080 only twenty one, but I thought it was so beautiful. 0:20:52.119 --> 0:20:54.679 So she kind of explained that she's not interested in 0:20:54.800 --> 0:20:58.000 dating right now because she really wants to be her 0:20:58.160 --> 0:21:01.000 own best friend and she really wants to be okay 0:21:01.080 --> 0:21:05.640 with being by herself, loving herself first. And I loved 0:21:05.640 --> 0:21:08.919 it because she spoke about this concept of she's like, 0:21:09.400 --> 0:21:12.520 I don't even fuck around with dating because you know, 0:21:12.600 --> 0:21:14.680 like kind of she was saying, guys her age are 0:21:14.720 --> 0:21:17.280 just like, you know, a bit young and immature. And 0:21:17.440 --> 0:21:20.280 she's like, if I, like go on a date with 0:21:20.320 --> 0:21:23.560 someone and I just you know, straightaway, don't get those 0:21:23.720 --> 0:21:27.480 amazing vibes and whatnot, She's like, I'm not wasting my time. 0:21:27.960 --> 0:21:29.879 And she was very much like you could tell like 0:21:30.000 --> 0:21:32.760 she knew her worth, she knew what she brought to 0:21:32.800 --> 0:21:34.480 the table, and she was like, you know, I'm a 0:21:34.520 --> 0:21:37.960 fucking I'm a goddess. I am who I am. And 0:21:38.040 --> 0:21:41.000 if someone doesn't you know, kind of match that and 0:21:41.040 --> 0:21:43.320 come up to the table with a lot to offer. 0:21:43.760 --> 0:21:46.119 Then she's just not going to bother. And I just 0:21:46.160 --> 0:21:50.720 thought the self worth and yeah, the self worth on her. 0:21:50.880 --> 0:21:53.439 I was just like, yes, I think every you know, 0:21:53.560 --> 0:21:56.639 young woman sometimes feels like we have to be in 0:21:56.680 --> 0:21:59.720 a relationship to feel complete. And I just really loved 0:21:59.760 --> 0:22:02.679 how she spoke about it. So Michelle definitely recommend listening 0:22:02.760 --> 0:22:05.360 to that. And she spoke about she's like, yeah, I'm 0:22:05.400 --> 0:22:08.679 my own best friend. So that's another thing too, is 0:22:08.920 --> 0:22:10.639 I think it would be really good for you to 0:22:10.680 --> 0:22:14.359 work on being your own best friend, working on yourself. 0:22:14.480 --> 0:22:18.560 So if something was to happen to this relationship, it's 0:22:18.680 --> 0:22:22.240 like you've got yourself, you've got your kids, you've got yourself. 0:22:22.800 --> 0:22:25.920 So my overall advice, because I've been bloody ranting as 0:22:25.960 --> 0:22:29.240 per usual, is like, I think you need to come 0:22:29.280 --> 0:22:33.480 to this relationship with a clean slate and not bring 0:22:33.520 --> 0:22:36.240 the past with you. If you're having trouble with that, 0:22:36.400 --> 0:22:39.640 I suggest you know, getting professional help, seeing a psychologist, 0:22:39.800 --> 0:22:43.640 talking to a counselor, because you owe it to you know, 0:22:43.760 --> 0:22:46.359 this relationship, to show up in your best self. And 0:22:46.359 --> 0:22:50.639 when we're carrying baggage from previous staff. We almost can't, 0:22:51.119 --> 0:22:53.560 and especially you kind of explain that you know, he 0:22:53.640 --> 0:22:57.119 hasn't given you too much to think that there's any issues. 0:22:57.200 --> 0:22:59.440 So I think you really need to, you know, show 0:22:59.560 --> 0:23:02.800 up as you your best self, deal with the past trauma, 0:23:03.840 --> 0:23:06.119 and like I said, like really work on yourself. And 0:23:06.160 --> 0:23:10.440 it's like put yourself first, put your kids first, go 0:23:10.640 --> 0:23:13.560 fully in. But no, if it doesn't work out, that 0:23:13.680 --> 0:23:16.520