WEBVTT - Froomes’ Crazy Response To Guy Who Slid In Her DM’s 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:01.200 Flex and Friends. 0:00:01.480 --> 0:00:02.080 I'm Kida. 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:06.359 Welcome to the podcast. Everybody you're with Flexi and Fumina. 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:10.280 I've got this book here with me. Our producer Brook 0:00:10.440 --> 0:00:13.960 keeps hanging extreme shit on me for wearing this outfit. 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:19.520 No is no, I can't even interpreting it. It's a compliment. 0:00:19.880 --> 0:00:23.040 If someone says you look like a sexy librarian, that 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:25.079 means you are a vision of fantasy. 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:28.920 A lot of people are nodding in the space. My 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:30.880 grandma was a librarian. Huh. 0:00:31.600 --> 0:00:34.839 AnyWho apple doesn't fall far from the true. I'm going 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:36.880 to tell you a fact from this book, a fresh one. 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:38.720 Yep. Why did women. 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:41.760 Shave their heads in ancient Egypt? You told me it 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:42.960 was a sign of feminine beauty. 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:45.519 That's it, yep. 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:47.279 Because I feel like I need to get give me 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:49.760 some more, give me like a Do you think I 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:51.360 would look beautiful with a shaved head? 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:54.680 Are you hinting at something? Have you ever shaved your head? 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:55.000 No? 0:00:55.680 --> 0:00:56.240 I don't know. 0:00:56.680 --> 0:00:59.560 If I have the head shaped for it, I've got 0:00:59.560 --> 0:01:00.360 the face for it. 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:01.400 No out about it. 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:04.200 I'm not out about it? Have you You've had it really short? 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:06.280 You've shared my head multiple times? Made you do it? 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:09.119 Ah feeling. I want to be free. 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.319 I like the look of it esthetically on women. But 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:14.360 the longer that I get, the more I just would 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:16.080 never want to do it again. It's funny that it's 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:17.800 like Stockholm syndrome of short hair. 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:20.240 Reminds me of when I was on that reality show 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:22.640 that won't be named and I jumped off this seven 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:24.600 meter pole. On the first time, I did it fine. 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:26.720 The second time, I was like, never again. 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:30.160 You jumped off a seven meter pole? Yeah? Like was 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:31.240 the pole perpendicular? 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:33.800 It was like imagine a ladder with a very baby 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:37.800 platform that was like twenty centimeters seven meters into what 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:41.840 into the air? But like where did you know this harness? 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:44.319 But it was like a harness that like carries you 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:47.680 like a bungee. It just like it's like a one 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:51.160 and a half second drop. Never again fell. 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:56.600 We're gonna talk about a guy that DMed me a nag, yeah, 0:01:56.640 --> 0:01:57.840 and how we responded. 0:01:58.040 --> 0:02:01.000 I've never liked being negged. I've never responded to it. Really. 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:02.720 I think people losers who do that. 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:04.840 Okay, I put a high price on my head, and 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:07.960 if you can't afford it, I can tell. 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:11.440 What's the price, what's the bare minimum you expect from 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:13.960 someone trying to like push to you, move to you. 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:20.360 It varies, but mostly plans. Give me plans. 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:24.840 Okay, no open ended plans. You're saying we should catch up. 0:02:25.080 --> 0:02:25.720 Give me a date. 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:28.040 Yes, If you don't give me a date, then I'm 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:30.160 just going to assume that you don't want to and 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:31.760 I'm only going to ask you one more time. 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:32.960 I feel like. 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:35.720 My tolerance is really low, Like I need a plan, 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:40.240 I need consistency, I need reliability, I need humor, I 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:44.240 need all of it. Because everyone can be on the fringe. 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:48.280 But if you're really gonna like permeate, penetrate this outer layer, 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:51.640 then at least come through with something like of value. 0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:54.320 I don't want to be buddy buddies. If you're a 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.640 bum friend, I don't know if. 0:02:56.520 --> 0:03:00.000 We're talking about friends or dating or anything else. You 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:01.880 have to be a friend in order to date me. 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:05.320 Wow, I don't agree with that, So we're gonna leave 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:08.920 it at that. Enjoy the podcast, and yeah, leave you 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:10.560 on a cliffhanger here, FLEXI. 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:13.799 This is flex and frooms on Cada. 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:18.000 We find two things important, giving people unsolicited love, advice, 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:21.000 making fun of each other, and what comes in at 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:27.240 close second, but is ultimately a third is generating ways 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:29.960 to become rich. I'm probably gonna stop you there, maybe not. 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:38.160 I don't make fun of you, not a nuss, And 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:40.800 that's a opportunity because I give you, I give you 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:41.920 the material to work. 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:43.000 With I do. 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:47.000 I'm just nice. Don't let anything go, call it all out. 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:50.920 Everything is content continued ol a couple of weeks ago, 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:53.200 maybe it was last week. Time is a myth we 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:59.160 discussed Belle Delphine, the twitch streamer adult content creator who 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:04.360 sold her bathworder for millions of dollars, inspired us. 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:05.920 We might do the same, we might not. 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:09.760 Time will only tell, And since then I've been on 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:13.760 a quest to find other potentially absurd ways to make 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:17.200 a quick buck. What I found out recently is there 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:20.279 is a thing called domain squatting. I've known about it 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:23.159 for a little while, I hadn't known where it originated from. 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:29.200 So basically, domain squatters are people who register potential domain 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:32.120 URLs and buy it for really low So for example, 0:04:32.400 --> 0:04:35.960 somebody might buy the domain for TikTok dot com when 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:39.040 it's getting really popular, assuming it hasn't been bought yet, 0:04:39.160 --> 0:04:42.560 or maybe there's an underground rapper who's come to SoundCloud, 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:46.600 same buy their domain. Imagine buying Kanye West dot com 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:49.359 before Kanye did, Because what ends up happening is that 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:53.039 the person who rightfully so should own that domain is 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.760 going to want to buy it off you. What happened 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:59.640 in two thousand and eight, Well, in nineteen ninety four, sorry, 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:03.320 the I was born. This guy called Chris Clark bought 0:05:03.360 --> 0:05:05.359 the domain pizza dot com. 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:08.359 Very simple, new to the Internet. See what it feels 0:05:08.400 --> 0:05:09.800 like by domain? Right? 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:13.920 Then in two thousand and eight, so what's that? Fourteen 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:19.120 years later he sold that domain name for two point 0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:20.839 six million dollars. 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:23.000 Could you imagine? 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:26.000 Well, could you imagine I, for one, do the same thing. 0:05:26.040 --> 0:05:29.120 I'm a domain squatter myself. It's one thing you don't 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:29.599 know about me. 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:32.400 What do you do? 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:35.239 When I started making conversation card games with my business 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:37.880 flex Factory and evere Press, I was like, wait a second, 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:41.240 nobody has the domain name for conversation cards dot com, 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:44.240 Conversation cards dot com dot are you how to have 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:45.440 a conversation dot com? 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:45.920 I bought it. 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:50.760 All and I redirected it to my business. I also 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:54.160 made an Instagram page for sun Kiss. It used to 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:57.880 be my favorite orange soda in hopes that when they 0:05:57.920 --> 0:06:01.159 wanted an Instagram presence, they would buy from me. So 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:05.359 you got sun Kissed Yeah, all sun kissed AU Okay, 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:06.679 a localized version. 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:08.479 Does anyone really shout for that? Not yet? 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.040 But I also don't know the password to that account. 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:12.760 I don't know the email I made with it. So 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:14.880 I just have it and it is mine. And I 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:18.560 think it's also calmer because contrary to what you might think, 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:21.840 I don't own at Flexmamy on Instagram. Some mother bro 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:23.760 does and it's rightfully his. 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:27.120 Yeah, I'd love to know who he is. Maybe we'll 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:30.160 interview one day and we'll get my frooms tuos. Yeah, 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:31.960 got him in battle head to head. 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:35.920 Yeah, let's fight them, hurt them, hex them. We can 0:06:35.960 --> 0:06:39.960 do it well, no violence, We don't control violence theoretically, 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:47.080 figuratively annihilate them. Flex and it's Flex on Kit And 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:50.560 this week we are making dreams come true. I swear 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:54.600 to you we surprise Rooms my special co hosts one 0:06:54.600 --> 0:06:57.960 of her favorite people in the whole white world, Gavin Rubin. 0:06:58.000 --> 0:07:01.000 Scene from Lux Listing Sydney. We had in the studio 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:03.320 and when I tell you she squealed was. 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:06.960 In hysterics, huffing, puffing. It was really quite beautiful. 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:09.080 I think there was chemistry all round, and I think 0:07:09.080 --> 0:07:11.960 you want to pay attention and stay tuned so you 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:13.440 can hear exactly how it went down. 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:24.000 Oh god, this is phenomenal. 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:27.680 Last week threw me over here, probably gave us a 0:07:27.720 --> 0:07:33.040 fifty minute monologue about how obsessed she is. Not just 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:36.080 lux listening. So it's not even about that, it's about you. 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:37.760 I appreciate that, Thank you very much. 0:07:37.800 --> 0:07:40.400 She is freaking I actually am. 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:42.920 Yeah. I don't even get nerves. I forgot what it's 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:44.440 like to be nervous. 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:48.280 I know that I said that we both love Simon 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:51.080 and Gavin flex big fans appreciate that. 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:53.840 I said, I'm probably more of a Gavin. 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:56.760 You better not have said you prefer Simon. 0:07:56.800 --> 0:08:00.840 I would never say that she's good. 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:04.080 Yeah, I wish we had the tape, Peter play it back? 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:05.040 Do we no? 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:09.160 When I finished the first season, I was lining up 0:08:09.200 --> 0:08:11.520 to go to the rooftop, my first ever time. I 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:14.320 was a fish out of water and I was lining up, 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:16.760 and who did I see walking out of the venue. 0:08:17.040 --> 0:08:22.920 Gavin Gavin Rubinstein flunked by a bevy of women, and 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:25.800 other hanger honers of course, and he's getting out and 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:28.720 getting into a Bentley and I screamed. 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:31.360 Oh my god, Gavin, I love you. 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:32.120 Did you really? 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:32.480 Yes? 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:35.640 Something came over me. I've never done it before. 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:38.640 It has to be one of the most composed people 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:40.160 I've ever met in my life. 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:42.239 If there was anyone who would choose. 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:47.000 Professionalism tacked grace over being a bansheet, it is this 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:50.080 woman on this show Flex and Rooms. I would describe 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:53.520 us both as like professional friends you Simon and Dealen. 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:55.880 What is the relationship there? 0:08:55.960 --> 0:08:57.040 It's a weird dynamic. 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.280 So like Deleene and I have no real friendship all 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:04.520 and that's true percent on a professional level. If we crossover, 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:05.920 we cross over, But we don't have much of a 0:09:05.960 --> 0:09:09.480 professional relationship either. Simon and I have a good working relationship. 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:11.240 We've got a good friendship. We don't always see eye 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:13.400 to eye. You've got to remember he's kind of representing 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:15.920 the buyer. I'm representing the seller. He's trying to buy low. 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:16.800 I'm trying to sell high. 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:21.280 In Enemies Love Story, I know about love story, Yang. 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:27.719 These are direct quotes I'm getting from Gavin's math Mortal Enemies. 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:30.840 Love this last week, I opened my letterbox. I live 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:34.160 in Bondo Beach and what I got was a little 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:38.840 letter from TRG. You guys canvassed the area and put 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:41.880 a letter into my letterbox saying we have a buyer 0:09:42.120 --> 0:09:44.800 that urgently needs to buy a two bedroom apartment in 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:47.840 Bondi in this exact location. I actually message you on 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:49.600 Instagram and you liked it. 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:51.640 I just want to play something for you. We're getting 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:53.880 too far into home buying territory. 0:09:54.160 --> 0:09:58.120 This is simply a short message for young Gavin. Big 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:01.200 fan of your work and would love to have you over. 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:03.120 I mean, the apartment is not mine to sell. 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:06.280 It's roughly one million dollars more expensive than I can 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:08.920 afford right now, but I'm happy to show you around. 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:13.240 The thing about miss Lucinda Firm's price her real name, 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:18.959 is that she will always take a bit too far. Now, 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:21.800 while we're here, I want to say thank you for 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:22.920 extending your time to us. 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:24.760 It's a pleasure, and even. 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:27.760 Do it if I have a full day. I'm not 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:31.160 stopping for anyone. However, while you're here, a few rapid 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:32.800 fire questions. I want to get to know you. 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:35.960 Have you ever used a property you were selling for 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:37.599 anything other than work purposes. 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:39.760 Don't incriminate yourself. 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:45.319 But if it's a yeah, okay, that's all we need. 0:10:45.480 --> 0:10:48.160 Cool Who do you think is dirtier people that sell 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:49.880 houses or people that sell cars? 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:52.280 Depends? 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.840 They're both pretty much on the same level, right, you know? Really, 0:10:56.000 --> 0:10:57.880 I think the perception of used car salesmen and real 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:01.360 estate agents from a society perspective is they're pretty even. 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:03.280 I do what I can to change that perspective. One 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:04.440 guy is not going to change. I know there are 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:06.280 a couple of other good agents who do it. 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:08.920 Three Yeah, there's three or four out there. 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:11.240 And I've got one last question? Do you have one? 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:13.480 You go and I'll see probably the most important question 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:14.959 I've asked as I guess. 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:15.080 What it is. 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:18.920 Of course, Burple far not at all, Banks, not at all. 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:21.079 I'm using this time properly. I'm planning for the future. 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:23.680 But yeah, just what were the kitchen? 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:24.000 Was there? 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:25.040 I thought i'd just answer it. 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:27.760 Wow, would you rather be the first or last person 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:29.439 to know about a zombie apocalypse? 0:11:29.480 --> 0:11:30.839 And what? I want to be the first because I 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:31.520 want to plan. 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:32.439 What are you planning for? 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:33.400 Escape? 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:36.120 We're going I'll find a way, I'll find a place, 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:38.720 got resources, use them. 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:41.840 There's always a way. There's always a way. Man is overrun, 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:44.000 there is always a way. 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:46.920 Well, thank you so much for coming on. I feel 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:48.880 like this is probably the best I've ever done, and 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:49.560 I can't even. 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:50.800 Take full credit for it. 0:11:50.960 --> 0:11:51.520 I appreciate you. 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:55.120 Shout out to Brooks this one, Thanks brook Shout out 0:11:55.160 --> 0:11:57.240 to you Gavin for coming through and humoring us. 0:11:57.400 --> 0:11:59.000 I appreciate it. Thanks for having me, and thank. 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:01.040 You for making rooms. I'd say at least for the 0:12:01.120 --> 0:12:02.800 next three months you can really write. 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:04.800 It's a big deal. Who's going to believe you? You 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:05.880 met the Gavin. 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:09.040 This is flex and frooms on Kita. 0:12:09.280 --> 0:12:13.720 It is my duty to get at least a million 0:12:13.800 --> 0:12:17.959 people interested in reading books more frequently than they already do. 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:22.840 As an avid reader of mostly vampires, smut, and self 0:12:22.920 --> 0:12:27.439 development books your own room, including my own, yes, best 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:33.360 selling author that is me, I find it most favorable 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:35.720 to share the books I read, because even if you 0:12:35.720 --> 0:12:37.600 don't end up reading it, you have some of the 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:41.200 knowledge and that might push you further down. Books are fantastic, 0:12:41.600 --> 0:12:44.719 very underrated, so many, so much good stuff in them, Like. 0:12:44.640 --> 0:12:46.199 Where do you think the internet came from? Babe. 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:50.000 A book, it's like breaking a hymen. Until you do it, 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:53.760 you are never going to see what's inside. That's what 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:55.640 a book is to me. It hurts when you first 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:57.760 start reading me, like how could does ever be good? 0:12:58.160 --> 0:13:00.680 And then you break it and there's a whole other inside. 0:13:03.080 --> 0:13:04.120 I'm not gonna take it back. 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:13.280 You are so much I think you need a time out. 0:13:13.320 --> 0:13:19.600 Mostly corner corner, Yeah, just enough. The book I've been 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:25.320 reading is called Attached by Emir Levine and Rachel sf Hell. 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:30.200 The self development girlies are reading it, definitely, The Don't 0:13:30.200 --> 0:13:32.840 Want to Be gas Lit by My Next Partner people 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:36.600 are reading it. The I've Broken one too many hearts 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:38.679 people are dabbling into it. 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:40.520 It essentially talks. 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:44.880 About attachment theory, which is the relationships between humans, how 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:47.520 humans speak to each other, deal with each other, perceive 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:51.080 each other. It's actually quite great, but the most important 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:55.360 core tenet in the book talks about how young kids 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:59.199 need to develop a relationship with at least one primary 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:03.400 caretaker for them to be well rounded people. So the 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:06.360 book talks about how the way we were raised and 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:09.760 our relationship to our primary caregiver, how that affects how 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:12.480 we attach to people in our adulthood. So there are 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:19.960 three ish attachment styles, secure avoidant, anxious, anxious avoidant, and 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:22.760 all of these types have kind of a clear approach 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:26.640 to how they deal with other people. For example, securely 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:29.320 attached people is what we all want to be, the 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:32.080 kind of people who can give and receive love freely, 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:35.760 who don't hold grudges, who can express what they want 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:39.880 when they want, who can set boundaries, who can be forgiving. 0:14:40.440 --> 0:14:42.920 This is all really great and dandy. We're all orbiting 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:47.720 between anxious avoidant and somewhere in between. So as I 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:50.160 was reading this book, I said, you know what's coming 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:54.920 to mind. We're doing telepathy ah our relationship. No, I 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:57.440 just want to see what you say. Do you know 0:14:57.480 --> 0:15:00.160 what your attachment style is, let's say, in dating. 0:15:01.120 --> 0:15:03.880 I do, Actually, I think because I've seen a psychologist 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:09.120 for this her come on therapy girls seeing a therapist, 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:11.240 And she said, she sent me all the different types 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:14.800 and she told me you're anxious avoidant and she goes, 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:16.560 this is the hardest one to change. 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:22.000 And I went, cool, I'm gonna stop you there. I've 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:22.480 done your bit. 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:25.640 But yeah, essentially anxious avoidant. And she said to me 0:15:25.680 --> 0:15:29.120 pretty much point blank, you need to get a partner. 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:32.440 You need said you need to have a boyfriend. And 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:34.840 at the time I left and called Mum and I was. 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:37.320 Like, what, why would she say that? She agreed? 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:41.360 But then a month later I got a boyfriend and 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:44.040 it actually unlocked something in me because it was a 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:48.040 very secure relationship until oh and this is where the 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:49.040 anxial avoidant comes in. 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:58.880 Is this turning into a thriller with a relationships that 0:15:58.960 --> 0:15:59.240 I'm in? 0:15:59.800 --> 0:15:59.840 It? 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.600 It's to the year mark. Yeah, and suddenly I'm y 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:03.400 eating out of the bill. 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:08.680 Yeah, I'm eighteen month or two eighteen year. It gets 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:11.040 to a point and then I have to leave immediately. 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:14.960 It is what it is? What's yours? What do you feel? 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:17.720 Well, you were giving me a lot of agreeance there, okay, 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:19.320 but what if I was just trying to mirror you 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:20.760 for your own safety and comfort. 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:22.600 Well, that's quite a vulnerable conversation. 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:24.960 That's giving anxious I think. Okay, So what do you 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:26.920 think I am? From what you've gathered? 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:30.840 From what I've gathered, I could say, hand on heart, 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:32.760 knowingly I put money on this. 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:37.680 Avoidance avoidance stand up, know your community, you know your people. 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:42.160 I think avoidance are the most sensible people of the 0:16:42.160 --> 0:16:45.600 whole bunch despite secure why because. 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:46.760 Avoidance it for what it is. 0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:48.800 You come into this world on your own. 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:54.240 You're listening to flex and frooms ONITA. 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:58.120 So last week I received a DM. Somebody slid in, 0:16:58.560 --> 0:17:02.640 cheeky one, a cheeky DM from a man. Yes, very presumptuous, 0:17:03.600 --> 0:17:05.920 but he slid in saying, oh, just give you a 0:17:05.960 --> 0:17:06.600 bit of context. 0:17:06.680 --> 0:17:07.040 Yeah. 0:17:07.080 --> 0:17:08.960 So I didn't know who he was, but I clicked 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:12.399 on his profile because his little avatar was like quite attractive. 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:16.240 And it turns out that he is an ex survivor stuff. 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:20.119 Oh I've never watched the show, okay, but like we 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:21.960 get it. We get to watch the viver to know. 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:28.280 So he slides into my DMS saying, you're funny at times. 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:32.720 Oh, that's worse than I thought. What do you think 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:33.200 I thought? 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:36.080 You said you're kind of funny sometimes you're funny at times? 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:41.639 I yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Pissed off. I'm feeling anger 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:42.720 in my loins at this. 0:17:42.960 --> 0:17:44.919 Because now I want the I don't want the feedback, 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:46.280 but like, what's not clicking? 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:49.720 You know, like what didn't hit, what didn't land? Which 0:17:49.800 --> 0:17:51.399 bit fell fell dry? 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:54.639 Is it the Shrek content. Is it a bit too weird? 0:17:55.440 --> 0:17:57.120 Are we going more for the skits like I. 0:17:57.080 --> 0:18:00.520 Need and also funny compared to what? What's your humor, 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:03.800 mister stranger, aside from what he's. 0:18:03.560 --> 0:18:04.200 Come in with? 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:07.760 How do you feel about a cheeky DM slide? I 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:11.040 feel like I don't respond well to compliments coming from 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:14.840 straight men because I worry about their taste sometimes. Oh, 0:18:15.040 --> 0:18:17.119 do you know, like there's that meme that says that 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:19.600 if you ever give your opinion on the Internet and 0:18:19.640 --> 0:18:21.720 a bunch of straight guys agree with. 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:24.480 You, you've given the wrong one. You've given the wrong one. 0:18:24.680 --> 0:18:27.679 It's not the correct one. You gotta read them, you know. 0:18:27.920 --> 0:18:30.480 That's what it feels like sometimes, And of course there 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:31.240 are exceptions. 0:18:32.119 --> 0:18:35.800 Well, my approach to getting dms can't say it's ever worked. 0:18:36.400 --> 0:18:38.919 Yeah, but we'll say the ego boost, don't. 0:18:38.800 --> 0:18:42.320 Stop appreciated, keep sliding in because it could be your 0:18:42.359 --> 0:18:43.000 turn next. 0:18:43.280 --> 0:18:46.440 In this instance, let's call him James. We've decided that 0:18:46.480 --> 0:18:49.080 there's only one way to reply to this slid in. 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:51.760 He said, you're funny at times. Yeah, it's jog behavior. 0:18:52.960 --> 0:18:56.440 So you have suggested that we send him Barks. 0:18:56.040 --> 0:18:58.399 A voice memory of us barking at him. Okay, that 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:00.320 is as sensical as. 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:04.880 What he said. All right, should I go first? Okay, 0:19:04.880 --> 0:19:06.760 we're gona give him two tracks? Two tracks? 0:19:06.760 --> 0:19:08.960 Okay, any tips? 0:19:09.000 --> 0:19:09.680 Just go with your heart. 0:19:13.080 --> 0:19:24.520 Wait, go with your god baby? Yeah, yeah, right, not 0:19:24.680 --> 0:19:25.200 too much. 0:19:27.640 --> 0:19:28.240 I need to do it. 0:19:28.240 --> 0:19:28.400 Well. 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:30.280 You got to back yourself, babe. Okay, hold on. 0:19:38.240 --> 0:19:44.280 All right, earth O, Nah again it sounds let me do. 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:56.240 It all right, center, thank you. 0:19:56.240 --> 0:19:56.880 It's gonna give. 0:19:56.800 --> 0:20:03.879